52 Male, moving back in with Mom.

I totally agree with you about the stigma of moving back in with our elderly family members. Parents, sometimes aunts/uncles, in situations like this OP has shared. I already commented above directly to op, but you bring up a great subtopic which really needs a RE-EVALUATION in the way of our generation and/or the general culture known as American. Funny I ended up immersed in this particular post because just last night my partner and I (I’m 50/female/caucasian American and partner is 61/male/Japanese male immigrated to Los Angeles at 6 yrs old with both parents and a younger brother) binged all three episodes of The Pillowcase Murders on Paramount+. I felt the guilt and pain of these (mostly younger boomers) adult children of the victims who were murdered and blatantly overlooked by every entity that is involved with a sudden death. The staff at the fancy senior living residential complex’s, the paramedics, the police officers, the medical examiner/coroner, even with multiple reports of robbery upon discovery once family arrived AND the bizarre similarities such as position of body, time of day, and seemingly great health and stamina up to the deaths. If not for the murders having been part of a hugely obvious serial killer, their deaths were not worth questioning by every single entity whereby at least one of them should have caught on. But the elderly, they die, and people who deal with it just go through the process like a product returns counter at a TJ Maxx. It was disturbing to watch and traumatizing for the families of the victims who had wished their mothers never ended up in the places, rather devastated by not have moving them in with them and their still bustling families. Being an interracial couple at our ages, it occurred to us that although lucky enough that our moms are still alive and well (mine 70/still working 35 hours a week in hospital administration and lives with her slightly younger boyfriend of 25 years AND his mom 83/ moved back to Japan about 20 years ago when his father died of colon cancer to live in a condominium complex next to her sisters and long time friends, never had a job but doesn’t need anything from us yet) they have always expressed their expectations for the day where we become involved. Totally, completely different requests due to cultural differences. Mine, doesn’t want to be a bother, has been scouting senior living residency and has her entire funeral set up and paid (despite my pleas to have her move in with us or telling me about the funeral expenses having done it already when I was told, his mom absolutely knows that he will handle the situation when/if she needs help. He will likely have to go to Japan and work remotely due to her not wanting to move back here, or he will take care of her affairs and move her depending on the circumstances, but he’s the oldest and his brother has no problem with us sending her money whereas he never has. We both have only one younger brother, both of whom have bled our mothers dry financially and offer nothing more than a tree stump (read the Giving Tree haha), but there is a huge space for introspection on this topic. It’s not just okay, it’s normal and dignified to live with or move them in when it comes to the people who sacrificed for us. Godspeed