My friend is curious about her bottle service career affecting a future career. What are your guys’s thoughts?
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Hello! My friend potentially interested in working as a bottle server. She wanted me to ask Reddit if they thought it would affect her future job opportunity. You see my friend wants to work as a lawyer in a more conservative state in the future. Would working as a lawyer in a conservative state be an issue having a past as a server in a bottle service Club atmosphere. Obviously there is no stripping, but with bottle service comes the risk of being posted on social media and dressing for provocatively.
OpeningChipmunk1700@reddit
Lawyer here. The risk-averse option is not to work as a bottle server. It is very unlikely that doing so would materially harm her long-term career, especially if she sorted out privacy concerns with her employer (and they agreed). But it is in theory a risk if some super conservative client finds out and raises a stink.
On the other hand, I have colleagues who bill out at $2000 per hour or more who have easily discoverable risque photos from Pride parades and similar.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
Thank you for your honest opinion! Her law career is so much more important to her than quick money so as a lawyer yourself, you would highly advise against not doing it just because of the potential of something coming up and a client or a boss not liking what they see. I totally understand where you’re coming from because different bosses and clients might have different opinions on bottle service so it might be best to just not start that chapter just to avoid the future risk.
ATaxiNumber1729@reddit
The fact you ask this makes the answer clear: if she is not desperate for money she should spend her time studying for the Bar
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
Agree
Blutrumpeter@reddit
Can't you just not put it on your resume?
OpeningChipmunk1700@reddit
That is not how background checks work.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
Exactly I think a lot of people are underestimating. The fact that people do look through people’s social media sometimes to make hiring decisions and background checks would show any job not just the ones on your résumé.
CaptainPunisher@reddit
On the other other hand, selling people for sex seems to be just fine with the current administration, so why should someone dressing scantily at a nightclub to sell alcohol ruffle any feathers? Hell, you don't even need to attend a bar-accredited school to practice law in TX anymore.
hewhoreddits6@reddit
As a law student myself who just applied to the bar, I would put this in the category of things only lawyers think about. Theoretically, it's possible a super conservative client/employer could find it and be upset. But it's such a slim chance that in all reality it won't matter at all. The absolute risk averse thing though is to not do bottle service.
Bargle-Nawdle-Zouss@reddit
Bottle service is a waiter/server job. Plenty of people do that while they're gaining their formal education.
Nothing to worry about here.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
What if her future job is wanting to be a prosecutor do you think the government has something against bottle service?
Bargle-Nawdle-Zouss@reddit
No. Supreme Court Justice Thurgood Marshall waited tables.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
I totally understand and respect that!!!! what if her bottle service uniform is sort of promiscuous looking per se would that affect her job badly?
hewhoreddits6@reddit
How would employers even know what the uniform looks like?
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
Social media
Bargle-Nawdle-Zouss@reddit
If one is not actually showing her naked body or literally performing acts of prostitution, then it will not effect her future professional career outlook.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
OK, perfect thank you
ReactionAble7945@reddit
If she is into politics, it will come out.
Will it matter? Well, that will depend a lot on the outfit and how the public at that time thinks about it.
I have seen people get upset over nothing.
My thoughts are on the line of, was the outfit appropriate AND would I see more at the beach.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
I agree that’s how I’m feeling like I told her it wouldn’t bother me if I was hiring her, but the thing is some people who are hiring would get upset about her being in a skimpy uniform, and potentially showing up on social media
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No-Mouse4800@reddit
I had to google "bottle service".
If she finds that concerning, then she has much bigger problems and should probably move.
ClickAndClackTheTap@reddit
Bottle service usually means hooking
Equivalent-Willow179@reddit
I think you've been watching too many movies. It's like working at Hooters. You show your body off, act really friendly, and let drunk guys fantasize. It's just for a richer clientele. I'm sure some rich men probably do actually make sleazy offers but it's not part of the job. The restaurant owner isn't a pimp. Not in 2026 America, anyway.
ClickAndClackTheTap@reddit
Nope, I’ve lived in LA
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
I am slightly confused. I apologize. Bottle service is basically where people serve and swimsuits and lingerie at bars. My friend has no problem at all with the service industry and thinks it’s awesome. She’s just afraid of what future bosses might think of her previous job.
hewhoreddits6@reddit
She will have to do a Character and Fitness check where her State Bar will do a thorough review of her past employment history, criminal record, etc. So they will know that she worked in bottle service, but they probably won't care. Depending on how long it's been, some state bars have even allowed convicted murderers in to practice law. The only things they really care about is dishonesty and financial troubles.
Dishonesty is because if you're caught lying on your bar application or cheat on an exam it's a sign you may lie to your clients/courts and cheat them. Financial stuff is mainly a concern you will mishandle your client's money, so stuff like bankruptcy is tough to come back from.
As for whether her future clients or employers will care about her past working as a bottle server, why would they know about that unless it's something she explicitly tells them? They can do a background check and see she worked at this club, but that's about it. Unless she has pictures of herself working the job on social media there's a slim chance employers care.
If she's worried about an employer who is super conservative and upset that she did bottle service randomly finding a photo of her posted by the club that probably doesn't have her name on it...congrats she's properly neurotic enough to be a successful attorney.
Trinx_@reddit
Millennials are moving up in our careers with less that stellar social media histories. We're dismantling the old boys club rules as we go. The hard work should be done by the time it's her turn to worry about this. Also the people who would care the most are the least tech savvy.
La_noche_azul@reddit
My buddy is a DDA in California and the process to get hired was tough, they turn over every rock. His mother was also a federal judge. So he actually had a ton of connections prior. I would say don’t do it. Unless she’s drastically better than the other applicants it won’t be seen as a positive.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
Good idea!!!!
mangomarongo@reddit
I was a bottle service girl at a strip club a long time ago. I’ve since gone on to work in professional jobs, albeit in the tech industry which is more laid back as far as white collar jobs go.
That said, there were two dancers (ie, strippers) at the club where I worked who were in law school at the time. No joke, they’d go from giving lap dances to studying in the dressing room. They’re both successful attorneys now.
304libco@reddit
Honestly, unless she’s serving in a G string or she’s topless. No one is really gonna care unless maybe say she moves to Utah and is trying to get a job at a Mormon law firm. In which case they might not hire her simply because she’s a woman.
limbodog@reddit
In a conservative state it might affect their chances. Yeah.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
Thanks for the imputtttt! Future career is way more important to her than quick money so I will definitely give her all the responses
limbodog@reddit
If she intends to work at a prestigious law firm, any hint of impropriety will potentially hurt her chances. In any state.
That risk drops considerably if she's not aiming for the top
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
She is aiming for the top! Thank you for your honest advice. I really appreciate it. I didn’t want any sugarcoating and this is perfect advice!!!
304libco@reddit
I thought she said she was intending to work as a prosecutor. That’s not a roots tooty law firm with conservative clients.
Return_Of_The_Whack@reddit
Eh. Not really. You'd be surprised how much so called conservatives let slide when it's convenient or doesn't affect them. She's not running for office and it's a bottle girl job. She's a waitress with extra steps. In fact someone trying to expose her would probably be seen as a huge faux paux because everyone has little baby skeletons in the closet and it's not polite to expose them. I live in work in Trump country. Everyone's got a sister or an ex girlfriend who worked at Hooters. Many people have kids out of wedlock drink heavily and sleep around. No one talks about it till you piss people off. Most conservatives are only conservative because everyone else around them is. They actually give very little shits about "conservative values" and just drift naturally into group think and collective beliefs because that's how humans are hard wired.
sanedragon@reddit
It really depends on what she wants to do in her future career. In many industries it wouldn't matter. In many it would.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
She wants to eventually work in law specifically as a prosecutor
sanedragon@reddit
It could. However, she is not required to put that on a resume. Typically, only jobs that are pertinent to the application are shown, other things can be omitted. There's no rule stating that you have to put everything you've ever done on a resume. In fact, you probably shouldn't most of the time.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
That definitely makes sense but what if the Club post pictures on social media and she happens to be shown in her work attire, which is slightly inappropriate? She is tagged per se, but her social media handle is different than her actual name. Would that affect her chances of a future job?
sanedragon@reddit
They could find it so yes.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
That’s kind of what I’m thinking too. It’s unlikely they could find it, but if they did somehow find it, it could look not great on the firm or to the person hiring her. Plus, I feel like some weirdo could use it against her trying to say that it’s inappropriate even though it’s really not in my opinion, but I truly believe that it could come back to haunt her
sanedragon@reddit
It's definitely a risk. I don't think it's a particularly high risk, but there's a firm non-zero chance that in doing a background check, it could come up. Ultimately, it's up to her to choose her comfortability with the risk level. And if she proceeds, she needs to have a good justification prepared.
Confident-Success44@reddit (OP)
I feel like it could be best to just potentially not try it because even though the money is great, it could affect her future career and the risk is not worth the reward