How do I get my thing back from my ex-girlfriend after 2 years?

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2KCoinsLTD@reddit

You've been this long without it, you don't need this stuff my guy

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thedjplutonicorig@reddit (OP)

Have you not read my post fully. I've just started to get to be myself again, and now plucking up the courage to sort this out. She totally destroyed me and I had no brainpower to sort this out.

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2KCoinsLTD@reddit

Ive read it and I've been there, now hear me... Let it all go mate! "You don't need this stuff!"

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thedjplutonicorig@reddit (OP)

I need my mums stuff, she died when I was 6, and only have a few things to remember her by

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Your horrible, controlling, manipulative, abusive ex has 100% tossed all of your mum's stuff in the bin, probably not long after you spit up. Along with any other of your stuff that was left behind. I imagine she is still enjoying the telly.

If you have receipts and proof of ownership of any of these things, you can take her to small claims court. Look up online how to proceed with this.

Yes, she should have kept it. Yes she should have contacted you to collect it long before now. She hasn't for a reason.

You will not see any of those things again. This will be your next mental hurdle to navigate and I genuinely wish you all the luck in the world in it. If you pursue this ex outside of official legal routes, you will get nowhere.

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2KCoinsLTD@reddit

Is that even worth the brain capacity it will consume! Move on!

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Difficult_Bad1064@reddit

Start the process for small claims court, including sending a letter before action detailing all the items you want returned.

With any luck the threat of legal action will encourage some movement without having to take it further.

I'm in an almost identical situation.

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Silver_Assignment673@reddit

Have you got a friend or family member who could collect it for you? I would make sure she definitely still has it though 😪 my husband was in a similar position to yourself and unfortunately the horrible cow had binned it all 😭

Just as a side note, a stranger on the internet is really proud of you for rebuilding your life ❤️

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thedjplutonicorig@reddit (OP)

Ty. Plus recently went to the doctors and have Aitism and ADHD in top of depression. So annoying major step for me. Ty

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Silver_Assignment673@reddit

So does my husband! The medications really helped him, he was also switched to Sertraline to help treat his PTSD and talking therapy has heped him too. Take it one day at a time but things can and will get better 🫶🏻

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BG3restart@reddit

Realistically, you're not getting anything back, even if she still has it, which I doubt. Forget about her, forget about the stuff and get on with living your life.

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thedjplutonicorig@reddit (OP)

I would dp, but my mums stiff id there 👍

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BG3restart@reddit

Is it though? Do you really think that because I think it's long gone. Your mum is in your head and in your heart. She's in the memories you have. You don't need her 'stuff'.

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EvaM87@reddit

I'm so sorry this happened to you and I fully understand not asking again after she said no.

I'm afraid you may need to prepare yourself to accept that you will never get those things back. There is a good chance she has disposed of them.

But you should still try or you will always wonder what happened to them. Do you have a friend or acquaintance that can help and support you?

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SuperDinkle406@reddit

Ask about the specific items - not just "can I have those things back", making it very specific may help to keep it cvil. You are asking for specific items, not an agreement, which is more emotional for people.

Plus offer to collect them when convient to her. Have a friend help carry and for emotional support if need it.

But, yes, at least attempt get the sentimental and important things. It will probably help you move on.

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VideoNo82@reddit

You wait for 2 years to ask her? It's obviously not been that important for you.

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thedjplutonicorig@reddit (OP)

It has been important to me, but she destroyed me so much that I didn't know what to do or where to go, don't blame me for not contacting her sooner as you don't know what she's like.

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Obvious-Water569@reddit

I'm 99.9% certain she's binned or sold it.

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catmadwoman@reddit

Cut your losses. She's probably got rid anyway. Sometimes you have to find another way. Getting in touch with your ex sounds like you'll get more grief.

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thedjplutonicorig@reddit (OP)

It would be much more grief.

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