Tonight I got to play *Is Dad Avoiding Me, or Has He Died?*
Posted by ResumeFluffer@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 31 comments
Only to learn that his emergency contact has a new number. Or I've offended my uncle, too. So much for family.
JuliusSeizuresalad@reddit
You know the old adage…Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
I was today years old..
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
I like that i got down voted for not knowing a colloquialism.
MrsSamT82@reddit
Don’t feel too bad. I haven’t heard from my dad in about a decade, except when he texted me a week after my grandmother died, and a month after my grandfather died. Maybe he died, I don’t know and am really not concerned that he did.
Ishvale@reddit
My mom went psycho after my dad died. Heavy debt, eventually bankruptcy. I spent a lot of money. Then she hooked up with a juggalo and asked to move into my garage. Yes, a fucking juggalo. Bro was my age. That was when I cut her out, no clue what she's up to these days
Biddy_Impeccadillo@reddit
Oh noooooooo I’m sorry about it all but especially the juggalo.
Ishvale@reddit
lol right, it's always the juggalo. It was a while ago though, I'm over it
Spartan04@reddit
I have a similar mentality about my dad, though in my case I haven’t heard from him in about 30 years. He decided long ago he didn’t want to be part of his children’s lives so whether he’s still out there or not doesn’t really matter to me.
macklin_sob@reddit
My goal has always been to be better than my dad. So far so good. My 20 and 23 year old kids are great and we talk all the time. I love them and they love me. I did it!
jocundry@reddit
I do this too. My mom is 81 and lives alone. If I text her, she usually gets back to me within an hour.
If it takes her longer than two hours to reply, I start worrying. She's in good health, but 81 is old enough that things can just happen out of the blue.
Ok-Maintenance-9538@reddit
My dad is in early stages of congestive heart failure, every day I send him a message or two just to get a response. If I dont I'll have to go to his house and check on him. Someday I will have to find him, and a dread the thought.
giraffemoo@reddit
My dad ghosted me for like 5 years. I recently got back in touch with him last year. I'm just lucky that he has a unique middle name, and I remember his birthday, so I have been googling him when he goes "radio silent" to check for obits.
llamadrama2021@reddit
OMG I am so glad I'm not the only one who does this. EVERY day. If my dad doesn't respond to my text I do the same thing. Normally he just fell asleep. But I know my mom would never tell me if something happened.
Libelia@reddit
That happened to me 11 years ago and unfortunately my Dad was dead. It's a heavy thing to know you sent a loved one in who then had to find the body of another loved one. Call the welfare check if you're not sure.
macklin_sob@reddit
Your dad replied to you? How nice!
ConnectKale@reddit
I get to play that game with my mother because she never calls me. After my last conversation with her, I am probably never calling her again.
Flashy-Share8186@reddit
The Onion truly has a headline for every occasion:
https://theonion.com/missed-call-from-dad-at-9-a-m-strikes-terror-into-area-1819576617/
Verbull710@reddit
He could be avoiding you in the afterlife, as well, so it's possible that it was a both/and and not an either/or
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
Thanks for the laugh. I needed that.
TrinityKilla82@reddit
When people get offended it’s their problem.
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
Not always. I do try to reflect on my words and actions, but in this instance I'm trying to figure out if it's another silent treatment or if I should start pestering cousins.
Clear_Tangerine5110@reddit
And if it is a silent treatment, are you the only one? And if not, then maybe they just don't know how to tell anyone anything. Remember: Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity.
BoredAccountant@reddit
If your dad being dead is a real concern,.call his local PD and have them do an elderly welfare check.
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
He might just be giving me the silent treatment. I'm trying to find other family members I can ask to check on him first. But thank you for the suggestion.
seche314@reddit
You should just have the welfare check done. Why wait? He might need help right now.
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
I haven't been able to reach him for two months. Somebody should have noticed by then where he lives.
BoredAccountant@reddit
No, seriously, if your dad being dead is an actual concern, don't pussyfoot it.
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
I caught him. He's okay. Ish... apparently had a stroke awhile back, and we've just missed each other on the phone. (He still has a land line)
Accomplished-Run221@reddit
Did you intend to post this to this sub?
ResumeFluffer@reddit (OP)
I want store where I should post it, honestly. I figured others here might have the same issue, but I guess that's more likely to be the elders of gen x right now?
Pleasant_Sea180@reddit
Oh yes, there are definitely more of us out here having similar issues.