Meeting Locals
Posted by keynes2020@reddit | budapest | View on Reddit | 32 comments
M26 here from the US. Do any locals (ideally in their 20s) want to get a drink sometime? Trying to meet new people since I moved here last week.
Environmental_Bass42@reddit
Don't believe those who say that Hungarians are not open to meeting new people etc. In my 20s I had a big group of people from all over the world that I regularly went out for drinks with. It just so happens that people on Hungarian reddit tend to be very introverted and they think they are the norm.
Try to talk to people around you, go to bars, clubs, concerts etc., you'll meet people in no time. Once I went to have my hair cut and while I was waiting for my turn, an Irish guy started to talk to me about the weather or whatever, an hour later we were having our 5th shot at a bar, I got home at 5 am or something lol.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Thanks for the first decent reply.
It's hilarious to me that people act so willing to meet in bars but suddenly if someone on Reddit wants to meet, everyone is concerned they are a criminal or something.
JKCsaba@reddit
Yeah, hungarian reddit is very sour tbh, and they are strangely shelled lmao.
I always love discussing or drinking/messing with foreigners when im out, and this is not unheard of among young locals.
If you still didnt find someone id be down to chug a beer or something lol
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Hey I'll send you a pm
picurebeka@reddit
Yeah, Hungarian culture is not like that. Look up the "peach and coconut" theory - we are definitely coconuts.
Furthermore, this is an anonymous platform. Please don't expect anyone doxxing themselves for a complete stranger.
Try casting a narrower net: look up hobby related clubs and events that might interest you, you'll find your crowd quicker.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Understand your perspective but if I can be honest, I think it's so ridiculous that people can't be more open minded.
I would happily share my basic social media with any commenter here. If they turn out to be a creep, I block them. It's not rocket science and there is no "danger" from it unless you think this country is crawling with predators that the police do nothing about.
aespa-in-kwangya@reddit
I really don't mean anything bad when I say you should have educated yourself better before moving here. It's not exactly a well-kept secret. It's really not part of our culture and criticizing it won't make you very popular among locals, either, for obvious reasons. It is what it is, being cordial and chatty with strangers is far removed from our culture.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Ridiculous. I am familar with the culture. I just think it's a bad trait. I'm also allowed to criticize whatever I want. And don't generalize, I'm sure there are Hungarians who would smartly socialize with a foreigner.
Celairben@reddit
Heyo - 29M American (half Hungarian thanks to édesanyam) here. I spent summers in Budapest growing up and throughout my 20s. I found little trouble making friends with immigrants or locals when I was there. Find a hobby you enjoy and you’ll likely meet people also participating in that hobby.
Calling the ways things are in a new place ridiculous makes you come off like an unpleasant person throwing a tantrum. You’re coming into a new place that’s likely very different than where you’re from. Take some time, learn the new environment, and adapt to it. Being as combative as you are is just another perfect addition to the age old tales of Americans in Europe.
picurebeka@reddit
It is not about being open-minded or not. It is simply about managing your expectations regarding locals. You just moved here, so you might perceive some stuff as rude around people, but that is actually coming from how we are from a different side of the spectrum in general opennes (mind you, not open-mindedness) than the people coming from the US.
My other comment is also not about safety. It is about the reason why people register to this platform - reddit's own guidelines say that you should not share personal information (including more than vague location) through the platform. It is not you, it is not personal, I say this to anyone looking for some non-digital space company through here. And creeps are everywhere, regardless of country or culture :)
polishprocessors@reddit
This. Try a meetup group, though know they tend to be more expats/travelers. And/or find a bar with a proper bar you can sit at and chat with people
igenigen@reddit
I’d recommend exploring expat clubs or visiting language exchanges, comedy nights, quiz nights, etc. You can get to know people this way.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Trying to meet "normal" locals in their 20s... I doubt many of them are going to expat clubs or these other event.
igenigen@reddit
What does "normal" mean exactly in your context? Socializing outside is a bit more complex after COVID since people have less disposable income. Hungary has been really hit hard with inflation.
I gave you plenty of suggestions, if none of those are good for you, maybe move back to the US?
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
wow someone is rude.
igenigen@reddit
Bohóc
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
was I rude to you? no. So learn to be polite.
igenigen@reddit
I didn’t say anything rude.
You just sound like a PassportBro since apparently people who attend expat events, language exchanges, quiz nights, etc are not “normal” whatever that means in your world.
gustavfrohlich@reddit
You literally told him to move back to the US just because he said that in the groups you suggested it’s almost impossible to find locals in their 20s, which is true. I’m half Hungarian, and there are barely any locals in those groups.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Thank you! Not sure why I'm getting down voted here. I'm stating just things I've observed.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
"go back to your own country".
And no I did not say that. I said that Hungarians and locals who do that might not be the typical person. Learn to read and understand logic.
gustavfrohlich@reddit
You literally told him to move back to the US just because he said that in the groups you suggested it’s almost impossible to find locals in their 20s, which is true. I’m half Hungarian, and there are barely any locals in those groups.
Electrical_Willow134@reddit
Hi, you should try Timeleft app, or there are dance nights in Füge.
powwderpink@reddit
Try the nomadtable app
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
sounds like something that locals in their 20s don't actually use :(
powwderpink@reddit
Lots of locals in their 20s use the app. I see them hosting events regularly
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
okay maybe I'm wrong then Ill check it out thanks
VszVszVsz@reddit
don't expect to get much response. you are just one of many americans being a tourist here.
keynes2020@reddit (OP)
Honestly that's kinda ridiculous.
I've met many great people on apps and online. Just because someone wants to meet up on reddit does not mean they are going to rob you or something
krankenwagen488@reddit
No, you
Working-Level-2041@reddit
If you are learning Hungarian or intend to, try Hungarian or English learning groups in Budapest. Lots of Hungarians wanting to just hang out and speak English
atechnokolos@reddit
I don’t know the reason for why you moved here but I guess you are either here to study or work, I’d start there.
Hungarians are not as open to people they don’t know as americans tend to be. However that doesn’t mean that you won’t find your people here, it’s just that we are not like americans when it comes to making friends.