Audience etiquette in 2026… is it declining?
Posted by cmitch987@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 183 comments
Went to a local theatre show last night (talent show type thing, my partner was performing) and I came away a bit surprised by the audience more than anything else.
Before it started, they made it clear there’d be an intermission, but throughout the first half there were loads of people getting up for the toilet, going to the bar, constantly fidgeting, in and out of rows etc. One person even started singing along during someone’s performance which felt… off.
It wasn’t just younger people either, it was a real mix of ages.
I get that it’s not the Royal Opera House and it’s meant to be a relaxed environment, but it did feel quite distracting and a bit disrespectful to the people on stage.
Made me wonder if this is just how things are now, where people struggle to sit still for an hour or so, or if I just got unlucky with the crowd.
Has anyone else noticed this at theatres, cinemas, or similar? Or am I overthinking it?
blue_cherry@reddit
I went to the opera recently, and the number of phones going off, people talking, sweet wrappers rustling was unbelievable. A couple next to me kept talking and I eventually asked them to be quiet, which mercifully they did (after some grumbling). I don’t get it - if you want to chat through the whole thing, just watch a version on YouTube in the comfort of your own house.
WhaleMeatFantasy@reddit
Where was that?! Opera audiences are normally the best behaved.
blue_cherry@reddit
Liverpool - I was up in the cheap seats, so maybe people care a lot less when they've only paid £25 a ticket, instead of £80? It may have been a very different experience down in the stalls.
I went two nights on the trot (two different operas), and the first night was sat next to a couple who kept humming along to the arias...and then one of their phones went off.
The second night I was sat even higher up, and that's when I was next to the couple who kept chatting and I had to ask them to shut up.
Honey-Badger@reddit
Hate to be a southern snob but I dont think i've ever seen any of the behaviour you've just described at the Royal Oprah house, granted i've only been maybe 6 or 7 times.
Sleepyllama23@reddit
There’s literally pubs for talking to each other!
simmeh-chan@reddit
I swear people used to try and open rustly sweets etc with at least a bit of discretion but now will rustle away freely. I was in the cinema the other day and someone was rustling their way through a bag of crisps which was bad enough but when they were finished instead of putting them down and not touching them they proceeded to do the thing where you tuck the packet up really small and made so much noise in the process. I felt murderous.
RoutineAbroad3486@reddit
Not a theatre kind of bloke but do frequently go to the cinema and I totally agree. Took my daughter last week and was fuming at the constant talking, people sitting on their phones at full brightness, the choosing to sit wherever they like despite it being packed which then leads to groups of people standing around for ages.
It’s just another example of how piss poor of an attitude people in this country have nowadays. It’s like a horrible blend of “the rules don’t apply to me” and “as long as I have fun that’s all that matters” kind of attitudes.
ClimateNarrow8292@reddit
I generally go to everyman cinemas these days. Bit more expensive but at least you can focus on what you've paid to see, as you're not surrounded by chavs who don't give a moment's thought about anybody but themselves.
Christopherfromtheuk@reddit
It keeps people in track suits out. We saw all 3 extended edition LOTR films, project Hail Mary and 28 years later Bone Temple - all super long or long films - and total silence throughout!
RoutineAbroad3486@reddit
I mean it’s not cheap anyway is it, came to like £35/40 with some drinks and snacks 😂 so maybe paying a tad more for a better experience will be worth it next time! I’ll give it try 👍
AdventurousTeach994@reddit
You shoulda heard them in Shakespeare's time!
Sacrificial_Spider@reddit
Time traveller detected, someone call Timecop.
missy8985@reddit
Surely you mean the Time Police?
CongealedBeanKingdom@reddit
Tony Robinson's Time Team?
missy8985@reddit
Jodi Taylor’s Time Police, it’s a spin off from her Chronicles of St Mary’s series. Where they investigate history in contemporary time (apparently this is not time travel).
Highly recommend both series and for anyone who does audio, the narrator Zara Ramm is also amazing.
Miss_Type@reddit
I love the Time Police books, but I can't help picturing Tony, Phil and Carenza turning up to check out a time anomaly :D
MadJen1979@reddit
Wasn't the same without Mick.
Sacrificial_Spider@reddit
No, I want the actual Timecop on this case, the one that they made that 90s documentary about.
k20vtec01@reddit
Oh no you shouldn't
bez_lightyear@reddit
Behind thee!
bb_coco@reddit
Oh yes you should!
DisMyLik18thAccount@reddit
Oh yes you should!
makarastar@reddit
😂
Okhlahoma_Beat-Down@reddit
The most egregious thing is the singing. I've seen it happen a few times at the cinema where it wasn't even a singalong - it was just a fairly well-known song in a needle drop - and some dick decided that they'd been chosen to start singing along.
Honestly, nothing does my head in more than impromptu, unrequested singing from people. It's bad enough in a voice chat where someone just starts singing down the microphone with zero music, but when you go to a place where etiquette says "shut up and be quiet" and you decide to start warbling, you're a sod.
Thomasinarina@reddit
I went to see My Neighbour Totoro a few weeks ago, at the matinee showing. It was AMAZING.
What was not amazing was the child who screamed (and I do mean literally screamed) for five entire minutes throughout the show, with her parents just sitting there. It was unbelievably disruptive, and yet the parents did nothing. Well done to the usher who eventually asked them to step outside.
I get they’ve paid good money to be there, but so has everyone else. what I havent paid for is to listen to your kid screaming their way over the reveal of the totoro puppet on stage for the first time. it totally spoiled the experience. why are people like this?
porksandrecreation@reddit
When I saw the same show, there was a family behind us talking to each other at full volume throughout the entire first act with absolutely no attempt to try and be quiet. To make it worse, we were on the front row so there’s absolutely no way the cast couldn’t hear them. It’s still an absolutely incredible show though!
EchoesofIllyria@reddit
Did you ask them to be quiet?
Thomasinarina@reddit
I think there’s something about shows that attract families and kids because stranger things was the exact same.
TheRealZeppy@reddit
It’s funny this thread is here because I was talking about wanting desperately to see My Neighbour Totoro with my little family (my daughter is 20 months old and loves her Totoro plush and the art book - she watched the movie when she’s not well!) but because she’s so young, we don’t want to ruin the experience for others. A sad part of parental responsibility is knowing when and where your child is going to detract from other people’s enjoyment of something. To me, this is just basic respect and putting other people first. People who take their kids and know they aren’t ready for a theatre (or don’t care) just lack basic respect, they can only think from their own perspective, EG “my child is happy so who cares?” It boils my blood.
onionsofwar@reddit
Paid good money for a show not for the right to do what they want / scream with impunity.
YchYFi@reddit
Tbh the same people who think it's ok also think it is ok to leave children unattended at pubs and let them scream the house down.
Competitive_Pen7192@reddit
Problem is the poor etiquette people who are noisy and anti social will claim they've paid for it so can do what they like...
YchYFi@reddit
I saw that on my birthday let year. It was an amazing show.
fiveofspades94@reddit
When I saw spirited away, a woman in front of me kept checking her phone every 5 mins, then just sitting and refreshing insta, reading back her messages despite no one sending her new messages?? Which I knew because yeah, her phone was right in front of me!! I grassed on her during the interval and the usher said they'd tell her off. No idea if they did as I went to the loo but she stopped in the second part. Just felt sorry for her in the end that was she was so addicted to her phone, she paid 80-100 quid for a seat for a limited show, came to see it on her own (no kids or friends as far as i could tell), and just couldn't help refreshing and scrolling on it 🥲 and ruining it for everyone behind.
Reactance15@reddit
Was there an empty seat? Maybe it was a date and she was expecting someone to join her so she was checking if they messaged her?
fiveofspades94@reddit
Nope, jam packed theatre. It could have been anything tbh, her kids could've been sat in a different part of theatre, a family member could have been in hospital. Who knows. I don't know, all I could see was rude mindlessness.
Prudent-Pressure2146@reddit
Via Instagram?
Jill4ChrisRed@reddit
I legitimately would have said something, I spent £180 on my ticket for that show plus not even mentioning the merch I got (a program, keychain and a plush) so to spend that much money and have someone in front constantly being on their phone? I'd have had to say something. People are so inconsiderate!
fiveofspades94@reddit
Looking back, I wish i did. Classic case of being fuming yet too cowardly lol. I rarely go to the theatre but made such an effort to go see spirited away that I tried so hard to ignore her and enjoy the show. I can only assume the ushers did something about it when i was in the loo queue.
pointsofellie@reddit
Oh my goodness, this is why I NEVER go to matinees anymore. People bring babies and toddlers who obviously can't sit through a show. It really ruins the experience and they must pay a fortune to not enjoy it themselves.
AEHBlandalorian@reddit
My wife and I saw that show recently, absolutely loved it. The only downside was when a member of the loud family in our row who talked throughout the entire show answered a phone call during the performance! We were genuinely flabbergasted.
SpeccyBeard@reddit
Ohh 100% it's worse now! I noticed since covid audience etiquette has declined. I've noticed it at gigs, comedy nights, the cinema, everywhere.
People are idiots and completely unaware of other people and what they are there to see.
WastedYouth39@reddit
People are use to short form content these days, 15-30 Minute youtube videos, tiktoks, instagram reels, its a big commitment now to watch something thats over an hour.
Mc_and_SP@reddit
15 minutes is generous.
I'm a teacher and getting kids to watch a topic-relevant video longer than 3-4 minutes is a challenge.
Even A-level students (who might need to watch a video of a more dangerous or elaborate science practical that we can't do in the labs) struggle with it.
jflb96@reddit
That and the big gap where you couldn’t watch things not at home. You can pause the iPlayer or what-have-you, or have a chat, or just have it on in the background while you’re on your phone, and so you build up a habit of not actually watching the thing that you’re ‘watching’.
sideone@reddit
Don't go to a show then, if you can't sit through it
WastedYouth39@reddit
Parents are trying to give their kids some culture
YchYFi@reddit
Manners to make them realise they aren't the only ones in the theatre.
pointlesstips@reddit
They should start with giving them manners.
Professional_Goal311@reddit
Even in a church service that’s barely one hour long 🤦🏻♀️ people do know it’s completely optional to attend these things right? Most of us just come to find peace but instead we have people chatting away or using their phones. Go to a pub instead then and leave us in peace.
notthatbluestuff@reddit
Screens. Screens. And more screens. Impossible not to notice in a dark theatre. People lack attention spans these days.
Prudent-Pressure2146@reddit
I hate this when I’m watching a film at home tbh
Wishmaster891@reddit
put your phone in another room when watching
Prudent-Pressure2146@reddit
I do, I’m referring to the other people in my company
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
I hate when you go to watch a film with someone and then they just spend it looking at their phone. I might as well just watch the film on my own.
Prudent-Pressure2146@reddit
Yeah I had an ex who’d do this a lot, scroll the whole way through a film then declare it was shite
littletorreira@reddit
I was at a concert at the Royal Festival Hall proper old fogey thing and in my direct line of vision was a woman in a box recording on a huge iPad with the torch on. I had to get the steward to radio her colleague to get it to stop.
strawberrypops@reddit
I sat near the end of a row for a show last year and had to get up no less than 5 times before the interval for fully grown adults to go pee / get drinks. Every time I got absorbed back into the show, I was interrupted. Absolutely infuriating, especially when you’re more than aware of how much you paid to be there.
It never used to be like that. Personally, I don’t think people should be let back in after going out, you should have to wait until the interval rather than be allowed to disrupt your row and all of the people behind you.
h0mosuperior@reddit
I went to a music gig last night and was surprised to see people openly vaping indoors, the entire time? Why are we going backwards with this?
stubbledchin@reddit
I'd say one exception I've seen to this is you rarely see heckling at comedy shows these days, partly because venues just decided to crack down on that, but also if someone gets bored by the comedy they just go on their phone instead.
autobulb@reddit
I mentioned to a friend that a movie I watched recently was really good. It's a 2 hour film, which pretty much the new average these days. He applauded me for being to sit through such "long form content."
I think his take is pretty representative of the general public these days. There was even that wild discovery that modern streaming series are written in a way so that the characters are always describing and announcing what's happening because it's assumed that the audience is always looking at a second screen (their phones) so it makes it easier for them to follow along without acutally looking at the screen.
Crazy times we're living in. I honestly just prefer to avoid going to entertainment where a crowd can really make or break the experience, like cinema. I just wait for stuff to come out on video or streaming and I watch it at home on my projector with my Atmos sound system. It's not quite the same audio/visually but it's 10 times more enjoyable. The only times we pause a movie are for toilet and getting more snacks.
stubbledchin@reddit
I was in a BOX at the Royal Albert hall to see a special anniversary ROCK concert and had to lean over to the box next to me to ask the two guys at the front to save their conversation for the break as they were shouting over the ROCK music about their golf.
I don't know if they'd got that box through some corporate thing so weren't as invested, but who goes to a ROCK concert, to sit in a box and have a chat about their golf?
JayR_97@reddit
Seeing the audience behaviour during the Minecraft movie release makes me want to build a proper home theater setup and never go to the cinema ever again
Boring-Equivalent315@reddit
Yes! I go to the theatre regularly and it’s becoming quite annoying to spend so much money on tickets only to be disturbed by people’s phones, conversations, bringing small children to shows that aren’t really appropriate.
mannyrerobate@reddit
COVID and the internet, specifically reels and algorithm based shit that just serves you endless slop have genuinely ruined everyone's brain.
Singing along with a song you know at a show is no issues even if it's just a small talent show.
I'm a musician and even if I was in in a show with a bad crowd one person singing along shows they're locked in and enjoying themselves. If everyone was singing you've just created magic and bonded a room this is what live performance is about.
Nevernonethewiser@reddit
I truly believe the lockdowns actually broke a lot of people.
They lost the ability to be in a society. Or they never were socialised at a formative age.
I'd say it's not their fault, but it absolutely is. Stay home and watch Netflix or something. Other people shouldnt have to put up with your bullshit.
Ok_Reporter_7291@reddit
Caused by the complete breakdown of discipline in the home and at school, and the total lack of accountability in society in general
redpanda6969@reddit
I went to see west side story and the man next to me kept going on his phone every 5 mins to check the football - screen full brightness. When I told him to turn it off as it was distracting I got shushed by the woman in front of us, who turned out to be part of his group. I still haven’t fully bounced back from the injustice of that. Nonetheless the man’s face when I told him to put it away was like I was the crazy one.
Also at the ballet the other week, so many phones going off at full blast ringtones with people not even embarrassed enough to stop them ringing in their bag, just letting them ring out.
And yet when I go to gigs and people stand up in the sitting section to dance, I see people asking them to sit down, which never used to be a thing tbh. For me gigs are for dancing. Maybe not every song stood up but I’ve never seen people telling others to sit down like that. Saw it at deftones of all places the other month.
45MonkeysInASuit@reddit
You demonstrate the core of the problem.
Everyone else is bad for their behaviours, but my behaviours are fine.
redpanda6969@reddit
I just never used to see ppl telling others to sit down at gigs before. Is just an observation. Nobody’s told me to sit down cuz I generally don’t stand. But if somebody does stand up in front of me it doesn’t bother me. Music is for dancing, theatres aren’t for phones.
joannaradok@reddit
Ooh where is west side story on, was it a recent performance, it’s my favourite!! (How could anyone be checking their phone during the greatest musical of all time!)
redpanda6969@reddit
This was last year at an amateur production! Worst part was the time I told him off it was during Maria which is like the best song you know lol
alltheparentssuck@reddit
I get being told to sit down, if you want to dance don't get a seated ticket. Many people who are in the seated area are there because they can't stand for a concert. Why should their view be blocked by people dancing.
redpanda6969@reddit
On the ticket it says “people around you may stand”. It’s just always been normal to me that people do dance at a concert.
alltheparentssuck@reddit
I used to work in a theatre, the balcony seating area was cheaper than the standing area. You also couldn't dance up there and it was clearly on the tickets.
Of course people are going to want to dance, just don't be cheap and by a seated ticket and then moan when you get in the way of people who can't get up and dance.
redpanda6969@reddit
Yeah balcony at a theatre is diff to seating areas at a concert venue though. The tickets I’ve had defo say ppl may stand around you. Also in my experience seated tickets aren’t cheaper. I just don’t think you can expect for everybody to sit for 100% the time at a concert.
MelodicAd2213@reddit
Maybe some people are sitting due to physical issues and the dancers are blocking their view
redpanda6969@reddit
Yeah perhaps. I have arthritis and if somebody was standing for a couple songs I wouldn’t mind too much. Just seems normal for a concert to me.
auntie_climax@reddit
Crowd had to be told to shhhhh at a performance I was at yesterday, mostly adults
Lovecraftian666@reddit
Gets very boring when people go “oh it was just as bad or worse in Shakespeare or Greek times!”
I don’t care. It was better than those times for a long while and now it’s going downhill. Society respect just failing
jflb96@reddit
So what if it was? These days, the expectation is that you’re there to watch the heinously expensive show, not to have it on in the background while you hang out with your mates. We have places for that sort of thing, it’s called a pub with a telly.
MultiMidden@reddit
Those people are part of the problem.
They refuse to acknowledge that this isn't pensioners saying it was better in the 1960s, it's people from gen-z, millennials, gen-x, boomers... saying it was better just 10 years ago or should I say pre-covid.
Separate_Flight3693@reddit
I find people's behaviour so bad at cinemas I just don't bother going anymore and it's been like this for at least a decade.
People loudly talking, soles of their shoes up on the head rest in front. Using a phone or tablet so the cinema may as well just not turn the lights off and smelling foot that smells like and probably is boiled rectums because apparently people need a full meal to sit through a film.
Then I get told I need to try and find someone in the ghost town cinemas are to bring them back in with me to address the issue. Never mind that I paid for my ticket and am missing the film or that it would be obvious I just told on the people.
lewisw1992@reddit
TikTik is destroying people's attention spans.
d3gu@reddit
I'm 38 and a regular gig-goer (I'm in a band, and I also go to at least a few gigs a month, more when I was younger). I've definitely noticed a decline in audience etiquette since lockdown, and in performer etiquette too. People used to play then stick around to watch the other bands, now they just leave. And more audiences are watching the gigs through their phones, it's so annoying.
CosmicJam13@reddit
You mentioned the toilet and I have to say going to the toilet is acceptable.
RtHonJamesHacker@reddit
Yeah, I was going to say the rest are fair complaints, but I'm not going to bemoan someone going to the loo unless it's something like the first 5 mins and it's very clear they should have gone before. Even then, you never know if they have a condition. I'd rather they went to the loo than soiled the seat.
CthulhusEvilTwin@reddit
Surprised they could go to the bar. Our local theatre closes it during the performance itself. To be honest, its a nightmare as they do the same during music gigs there. Last time , we arrived just after the support band had started and got inside - realised the support band were shit and thought we'd get a beer - nope, not until the interval - when EVERYBODY ELSE is also trying to get a drink. They also insist in people forming a line to get a drink rather than standard bar queuing.
Fair enough for a theatre performance, it disturbs people watching a play but for a bog-standard music gig, its ridiculous.
mr_iwi@reddit
Please tell us what venue this is so we can avoid it in future
CthulhusEvilTwin@reddit
Palace Theatre, Westcliff, Essex. Its a great venue for theatre and comedy, but it sucks for music gigs.
mr_iwi@reddit
It makes sense that a theatre runs that way by default, but they must be costing themselves thousands by closing bars during live gigs
ChickenButt2325@reddit
Cinemas, concerts and comedy shows. It's infuriating! Come on people, you've paid money to come to this and you'll talk through it?
simmeh-chan@reddit
I went to see Biffy Clyro at the Barrowlands where they were doing special full album shows. The tickets were an absolute nightmare to get and you would think it would be a night for the hardcore fans there to see the music. Even there the crowd wouldn't shut the fuck up. Why on earth are you going to any gig to talk near the front but especially at a special gig where the band are playing songs live they never have before and people want to listen??
ChickenButt2325@reddit
Mon the Biff!!
tmr89@reddit
The last couple of gigs I’ve been to there have been numerous people having loud conversations during songs. I don’t get it
Say-whaaaaat@reddit
The last gig I went to, there were 2 women who sat on the floor, on their phone, doom scrolling Instagram during the support act. Several people tripped over them as it was dark and they sat right in the walkway in front of the bar. It was so rude.
Glittering_Swan2205@reddit
One of my close friends does this and it is excruciating. We try to give him the hint but he’s oblivious. At a gig last year a guy from a group next to us told him to shut the fuck up, which was great.
I_Rarely_Downvote@reddit
Maybe next time you should tell him to shut the fuck up?
Glittering_Swan2205@reddit
It wouldn’t be the first time - try reading above again!
I_Rarely_Downvote@reddit
You said you "tried to give him the hint" which implies a level of subtlety that "shut the fuck up" lacks.
Based on your smarmy reply though I can see that you and your friend are a good fit for eachother.
Glittering_Swan2205@reddit
Wow this is an insane interaction for a Sunday morning, good luck out there.
gameofgroans_@reddit
Went to a comedy gig last week where someone got so drunk they didn’t know where they were and was muttering constantly head in hands. They clearly weren’t watching but was ruining it for everyone so was so pleased when they decided they’d had enough a bit early.
honkballs@reddit
Just all the part and parcel of the declining civic responsibilities in the UK, same way as it's turning into a high trust to a low trust society.
In large part caused by growing diversity. The more diverse your community, the greater the lack of a sense of belonging to said community, and therefore any reason to feel like you should act as a responsible person within that community.
This has been shown time and time again in countless studies, yet for some reason our governments choose not to consider these points when they push for a diverse fragmented society.
The NY Times did a good article on this back in 2007, it's still online, called "The downside of diversity", worth a read.
No_Consideration7466@reddit
I've noticed it so much recently, and mostly noticed it's older people who you'd expect better from. I went to see Elton John about 3 years ago, we had cheap seats so quite far back/high up and the amount of people who were just strolling in and out, even just 2 or 3 songs in. You've paid good money for these tickets, why are you unable to sit and watch the show?! I find it completely bizarre
mumwifealcoholic@reddit
I’m older with a weak bladder.
But I choose my seats carefully to ensure minimal disruptions.
AlpacamyLlama@reddit
I noticed that. i went to see Richard Ashcroft last year, tickets were £100 plus. He was on after the Lighting Seeds so a double bill of sorts. People were just casually strolling in after a few of Ashcroft's songs trying to find their seats. I thought "You've missed so much already!" I couldn't understand it.
It does make me second think the whole COLC at times because people are saying no one has any money, and yet they spending huge sums on cinema tickets, concert tickets, theatre tickets etc, and they just don't seem to give a fuck.
iakiak@reddit
Maybe I've just been lucky or its the shows that I watch but the last few actual theatre shows have been perfectly fine for us in London.....
(Avenue Q, OxVenture Dnd, Play that goes wrong, Six, Hades Town, Mousetrap)
Granted out of those only Avenue Q and OxVenture were in the evening, the others were home ed matinees.
The shows are also skewed lighter / funny maybe that makes a difference, but there signs of no phones and no signing along seem to get pretty well respected.....
Cinema's though thats a different beast altogether. I only go to midweek noon showings now where its pretty much just a private showing with not a laser pointer or phone to be sniffed.
simmeh-chan@reddit
People think paying for a ticket entitles them to do what they want and will use it to justify any poor behaviour. It's infuriating.
At concerts especially people are desperate for their main character moment. It's worse with bands who are big on TikTok etc. The only place to be is barrier because it gets bragging rights. This means people will camp overnight, not take care of themselves, and faint when they get in the crowd. I've seen a huge increase in the number of medical emergencies at gigs the past few years.
Of course they also need to film the entire concert so they can remember it. Even worse is when they film themselves and the people around them with flash on for the content. This usually goes along with the screeching. It's not just singing along loudly, that's fine. It's absolutely screeching at the top of their lungs in a way that's totally disruptive to everyone around them. But they paid for a ticket so it's fine!
Holiday_Cat_7284@reddit
I've been put off going to matinées because the last two were a nightmare for the same reason. Groups of women (I'm a woman btw) getting riotously drunk on bottomless prosecco lunches close to the theatre then being rowdy through the show. One woman threw up during The Woman in Black.
gencbirbaykus@reddit
A friend from abroad visited recently and when we went to the theatre, we had the couple behind us explaining the plot to each other at normal talking volume, people coming in to our row 15 mins into the show, and the guy next to us answering a phone call.
Then we went to ABBA voyage and the people in front of us were just talking loudly through the songs, full on deep into conversation, which is fine up to a point but then when it gets to song after song with no pause… are you even enjoying the music?
She left wondering what was up with UK audiences !
Brettstastyburger@reddit
I think explaining the plot seems to be a common theme - we had it at Project Hail Mary with a couple behind us. It's astounding how low IQ some people are, I suppose it goes hand in hand with the unsocial behaviour.
Apollo-Dynamite@reddit
Definitely - Since COVID the general manners of audiences have gone to pot. People singing along to musicals at full volume, people talking through plays and getting arsey if you ask them to be quiet, or have screens out in the cinema.
The absolute worst though is the people with main character syndrome at stand-up shows though who try to outsmart or one-up the comedian. Though that's maybe more due to the popularity of crowd work on social media.
TheScarletPimpernel@reddit
If you can't go viral yourself you might go viral getting cut to pieces by a comic
Arbaces@reddit
It was happening pre-lockdown (people having conversations during films and on their phone during musicals) but COVID definitely worsened it.
yearsofpractice@reddit
Hey OP. 50 year old married father of two here. I have seen cultural shifts over the years, some I like, some I don’t - but doesn’t make them good or bad, it’s just my opinions, man
7952@reddit
I think paying for things sets a different standard of behaviour. People feel more entitlement. It reduces any sense of reciprocity. Particularly when it is an expensive ticket with bragging rights. They have paid to feel that "main character energy".
Also, we have lost most situations where people get together in a non-commercial way. Someone can go weeks of their life and have paid for every situation they encounter. They are just not used to being in situations where there is more balanced expectations.
yearsofpractice@reddit
Good take. Subtle addition to my experience. Thank you for sharing. Interesting stuff.
Shadow_wolf82@reddit
This one is bad. It's really, really, bad. Like the devolution of society bad.
IkeTurn@reddit
Peoples attention spans have declined rapidly of the years. Thats the reason for so many idiots there.
minusninine@reddit
It’s funny you say ‘it’s not the royal opera house’, because I saw Tori Amos at the Royal Albert Hall last week and everything you describe was going on there too. One pair of guys a few rows ahead of us were up and down every 20 minutes, I presume going to do a new line of something, another couple next to us got through 2 bottles of wine just during the gig, others presumably ‘hadn’t gone before they left’ but decided they desperately needed the loo the minute the second song started - and this in an audience of mostly middle-aged couples (so I might excuse some of the bladder-driven issues) who’d paid £100+ each for their tickets.
Lessarocks@reddit
My worst was a few years back in Glasgow for the Bodyguard. We were up in the Gods. There were a lot of obviously drunk people on the audience. About 15 minutes in there was this godawful puking sound followed by a shout of ‘aw that’s fuxking disgusting’. We looked over and one of the drunks had vomited copious amounts of red wine flavoured stomach contents over the head of the blonde in front of her. They left the auditorium and we settled down to enjoy the performance. Not for long. As the minutes passed, the number of people leaving increased. By the intermission , there was a huge circle of empty seats around the site of the crime. We were gagging and had our scarves over our noses. At intermission, we left to get some fresh air (theatre staff had arrived to clean up) and use the loo. That didn’t happen because the loos were closed for cleaning - the same group had created an unholy mess in there too.
Prudent-Pressure2146@reddit
Was that the performance they ended up calling off?
Lessarocks@reddit
No. This went ahead in full smellovision
360Saturn@reddit
Yes, I think people are generally rude.
Looking back to covid I think what genuinely broke a lot of people's brains was the general lack of guidance we had which led to people (some for the first time in their lives) just having to make up their own rules and choose their own direction, and then when society reopened again, with it came the expectation that everyone would stop doing that.
But by that point it had become entrenched and people found it hard or impossible to revert. I also feel like post-covid not interrupting or telling a stranger what to do or what not to do in public has also become an unspoken norm which doesn't help matters.
BaBaFiCo@reddit
Went to see Johnny & June last week. Audience was skewing older. People were just sat talking through the performance and checking their phones. It's ridiculous. Grown adults can't behave for two hours.
BigSkyFace@reddit
I don't think it's just a social media induce attention span problem like a number of commenters are eluding to. I think in general society has been getting increasing individualistic, especially so during the covid lockdowns. Sadly this is then evident in how people behave within communal experiences like attending concerts, going to the cinema, even just using public transport it's not uncommon to encounter people watching things on their phone without headphones.
I think it's especially bad for concerts and I suspect theatre performances too (I don't attend them to know for sure). Ticket prices for these things are so high now that many people seem to have adopted an attitude of 'I paid for my ticket, so I can do whatever I want during the event' with no consideration for how their behaviour might impact the experience for others.
BigDumbGreenMong@reddit
I do standup (at a pretty low level) and a lot of acts I know say the same thing - people just don't seem to know how to behave at shows any more. Something changed after lockdown.
theflowersyoufind@reddit
It’s shortened attention spans.
Jjkbnymop@reddit
And apparently smaller bladders.
sideone@reddit
People carry takeaway coffee and water bottles everywhere now, whereas in the 90s you had a drink when you were at home. I think we're all better hydrated now, but more toilet stops are required.
-Lumiro-@reddit
I think even that can be attributed to an ability to wait. People have no patience anymore. You used to just have to hold it until it was convenient.
WealthMain2987@reddit
Theatre is still good. Most shows I went to, people were OK. There has been times children misbehave and their parents will tell them off.
Cinema has been OK albeit I haven't been recently (6 months) and I tend to go 4 times a year or so. I haven't bumped into distracting behaviour. There were people browsing on their phones but they didn't bother anyone.
Ill-Matt-Tick@reddit
Matilda in Manchester last week was exactly as you described. We were sat quite near the toilets too and the door just kept opening
Brettstastyburger@reddit
Yes definitely. This year I've had numerous incidents at the cinema. One particularly grating incident with those 20th anniversary lord of the rings showings which sold out super quick, the first two films were silent.
Unfortunately for the third film I had a couple next to me who brought slippers and blankets and treat the cinema like their living room - whispering endlessly throughout.
At the west end, talkers and whisperers throughout two different shows with totally different demographics in each.
Our society is very sick at the moment and needs some medicine.
PsychicMediumRhonda@reddit
I do readings for audiences, as I connect to spirit. I usually follow this up with Q&A after I say that I have completed the readings. This is now time for you to as a general spiritual related question. Some audiences are great. Some are shocking, with people talking to others, or on their phone. I also have people ask for a reading during Q&A, when I've completed the readings. I think some people don't listen, don't care or just want something for themselves.
Sloth_Broth@reddit
I must say I feel like whenever I attend a show there is at least someone that behaves incredibly I considerately whether it's being on their phone or talking. I think it's just always been that way though there is always at least a few that behave selfishly.
Wrong_Duty7043@reddit
I went to see Jersey Boys in Manchester a few years ago (post covid) and 4 separate fights broke out in the audience. During one big one quite close to me, they had an early impromtu interval where they just stopped the show and put a “safety curtain” down to protect the cast. The poor minimum wage teenage looking theatre attendants struggled to throw out a bunch of middle aged (mostly) women, they really needed bouncers. I am in my early 30s and I went with my parents in their 60s, I was one of few people there that wasn’t 50s-70s, and it really soured me to the older generation tbh. No respect, no manners. I will now only go to a show on a matinee, no way am I going on a Saturday evening when most of the crowd has already been on the piss for a few hours EVER AGAIN.
moanybastard@reddit
Behaviour amongst those who should know better is declining too - it's not just young yobs.
For example, a nice afternoon tea in a garden centre..... Not cheap... Two different tables at different points had pensioners watching videos on the their phone at full volume, showing their companion what they were watching.
Pokemangottago@reddit
Welcome to doing anything out in public. Same anywhere you go nowadays.
ScottishLand@reddit
People drink too much before these types of things..
Scare-Thy-Moose@reddit
I guess it depends on where you sit and what you’re seeing. Generally not had an issue with am-dram or community theatre shows.
Probably the two worst experiences were pre Covid - one was Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime with a tall drunk guy sitting in front of me and the other was Ian McKellen’s King Lear - people talking, getting up and moving around and then someone was told off by FoH and stormed off letting the door slam shut behind them. Both times I was sat upstairs - one was a box and one was near the back of the Circle/ Upper Circle.
By contrast, I saw Inter Alia at the Wyndhams last weekend and it was one of the best audience experiences I’ve ever had. Could really enjoy the show and be fully immersed in it. However I was sat near front of stalls so not sure how much that impacted it?
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nogeologyhere@reddit
I despise this being used every time a recent pattern is noticed. Things can actually deteriorate, and you can't just say 'well, twas ever thus' to every complaint. It's smug and fucking stupid.
reeblebeeble@reddit
Maybe OP is specifically comparing our society to the Roman Empire.
ChelseaMourning@reddit
I think the prevalence of on demand media and phones has just rendered a lot people’s attention spans obsolete. Particularly in younger people, but I’ve noticed it a lot in all generations. We’re also far too comfortable nowadays, in a way that many people forget they’re not the centre of the universe and that they do indeed need to consider their surroundings and other people. It’s like we’ve collectively regressed to being toddlers.
Capable_Tip7815@reddit
Etiquette in general is declining.
Niksia87@reddit
Absolutely. I was at the theatre last week to see The Dubliners story. There was a group of middle aged women sitting behind me that didn't stop talking throughout the first half. During one of the slow songs one of the women was making snoring sounds. So incredibly rude. They thankfully didn't come back after intermission. Also, the last few times I've been to the cinema it's been the same experience.
ThrowawayParsnip5@reddit
I was at a comedy show last night. Obviously a relaxed atmosphere, and the compere was doing audience interaction, but there was a trio of obnoxious women who kept yelling out during each comedian. They thought they were being funny, but they were really interrupting the flow of the sets. I felt really bad for the first comedian because he was was telling a really funny story and he had the audience eating out his hand, lots of laughter, but because he had to respond to these women, it felt like the rest of the story lost momentum and the ending didn't land as hard as it would have if it hadn't been for the interruptions. There was a member of staff going over to the women to speak to them repeatedly, and they were eventually moved seats, but that didn't stop them.
Really infuriating - I'd paid to see the comedians, not them.
BabbleFinch@reddit
This all started with the rise of tv shite like Britain's got talent and the like. All of a sudden you have people going to see Les Miserables because they had seen Susan Boyle sing I dreamed a dream. Absolutely no interest in anything else except that song so would stat talking and fidgeting etc. First time I had ever heard Javert booed at the curtain call as well like it was a fuckin panto.
I am the person that turns around and tells you to shut the fuck up, I am the person that tells you to put your fucking phone away. I am the person that is still surprised that no one ever backs me up. If you back each other up then it would become socially unacceptable to be a dickhead at the theatre again.
Theatre is really expensive so why waste all that money not watching it
bez_lightyear@reddit
I went to see versatile singer - songwriter and organist John Shuttleworth in a small theatre last year. If you don't know John, his show comprises original songs interspersed with humorous monologues, all performed in a deliberately ramshackle style.
One annoying couple thought that this evening was a conversation delivered loudly between him and them, rather than a performance for us all:
John: "I took our little dog Kirsty for a walk yesterday"
Them: "Oooh, did you?"
John: "Have you noticed they took the cardboard support tray from the Bounty bar?"
Them: "That's terrible, John."
John: "I miss Marathon bars. They're Snickers now int they?"
Them: "Actually, John, Morrisons are currently selling Marathons as a promotion"
John soldiered on like the shambolic pro he is and the audience were way too polite and British to tell them to shut their stupid faces up. Fair spoiled the evening, I can tell you.
bluemoon191@reddit
I had the opposite experience recently at a cinema but it might have been the film choice. We went to see Akira 2026 rerelease in IMAX and there must have been over 100 people in the room. Nobody was chatting or looking at phones, there was a part where the film went silent for about 10 seconds and you could have heard a pin drop, it was incredible.
glasgowgeg@reddit
A re-release of a comparatively "niche" film is not going to be representative of your average cinemagoing audience.
bluemoon191@reddit
Yeah I did think it might skew the behavior a bit. But TBH the cinema I go to isn't that bad with most films. I went to watch the Minecraft movie when it was released last year and it was nothing like the shit storm I had seen online.
limboxd@reddit
Watching the final scene of this movie in IMAX was class. Obviously some giggles (me included) from the AKIRA DING scenes but otherwise it was a perfect viewing experience
Lazy-Bee-9889@reddit
Yep, I refuse to go to the cinema now. The last straw was when the man next to me was reading the movie's IMDB page on his phone, while watching the film, so all I could see next to me was the glow of his phone.
Another thing Ive notcied is when on a short flight, so many people are having to go to the toilet. It was only a 2 hour flight! People really cant sit still anymore.
YorkshireRiffer@reddit
It's a costly ticket, but if I really want to see a film at the cinema, I goto an Everyman - the ticket price seems to work as an arsehole excluder.
IAmPurpleMikey@reddit
Yes, an increasing problem. A theatre professional told me middle-aged women can be the worst: attending musicals and tribute acts drunk, smuggling in alcohol, singing along when the audience wants to listen to the show, and refusing to sit when other audience members complain. Some people are oblivious to others.
my-marbles@reddit
I recently went to a show in Manchester and an actual fist fight broke out in the audience! People were drunk, getting up and chatting constantly, it was awful, disrespectful to the performers and actually a bit scary .
ThisIsMyRedditAcct20@reddit
If you’ve seen the now-classic Idiocracy (Film)… it’s beginning
mumwifealcoholic@reddit
Sadly, yes.
We just stopped going.
ThisIsMyRedditAcct20@reddit
This is the way, sadly
WastedYouth39@reddit
I want to like the theatre, have been to many performances at the RSC, but my biggest gripe is the seating, its slightly more comfortable than a church pew but with the same leg room as a Ryan air flight.
tmr89@reddit
The RSC in Stratford? I thought it’s comfortable there
WastedYouth39@reddit
Yep Stratford, and its ok, but not what you call comfy.
Laescha@reddit
Where I am this doesn't really seem to be an issue, there's the odd arsehole obviously but not significantly more than there used to be.
Substantial-Bug-4998@reddit
Oh god yes. People are animals these days.
Sacrificial_Spider@reddit
I used to use this phrase however nowadays I think it does a disservice to animals. Whilst animals are just doing what they do, people should, know better.
Scarygirlieuk1@reddit
Yes and that is why I don't go to the theatre or cinema anymore.
NecessaryIssue2367@reddit
Even at the ROH audience behaviour is getting awful. Many people just have no idea when to applaud these days, the peasants.
Vanblue1@reddit
Some people do seem to be restless these days, it’s like they can’t sit still for periods of time.
SeenEnoughAlready@reddit
It's because they can't stand even 2 hours away from their devices! It's crazy.
porksandrecreation@reddit
I work at a theatre and it’s definitely got worse. Some people can’t understand why you can’t stand up, dance and singalong to a show like Mamma Mia and will actively argue with FOH if they tell them to stop. The phones are the absolute worse as well. Why have you paid so much money to sit and scroll on your phone?
HeartyBeast@reddit
I went to a standup show a couple of weeks ago in East London with Sue Perkins and the audience was perfectly well behaved. No phones, chat or people moving about.
Same experience at a packed cinema watching Project Hail Mary. I think my popcorn was the loudest sound in the house.
So all good here.
Beggatron14@reddit
Just etiquette is in decline I think…
ActionBirbie@reddit
It's just the consequence of the lowered attention spans that the internet is breeding.
Chidoribraindev@reddit
These weekly threads should be numbered like a series.
PopperDilly@reddit
I do amateur theatre as a hobby, and granted its not the high end theatres, but ive still noticed this. Especially on evening performances, guests normally turn up drunk, fidget and shout out. Kids are another level but thats to be expected, its the adults which we find disrespectful.
Disastrous-Place-846@reddit
Im at the snooker this morning, wonder how many phones are gonna go off during play
tanoshimi@reddit
Yes. I think it started in lockdown, but has continued since. Without wanting to always blame social media and mobile phones, in this situation it's their fault.... it seems everyone has become more entitled, more selfish, and less able to behave in social situations when the focus isn't always about them.
ThatLNGuy@reddit
Mobile phones and especially the last few years of shorts, doom scrolling, updates etc has resulted in reduced attention spans.
Ive noticed now if a phone is near me and im watching a movie ill keep on checking it or half watch things.
People generally bored and going to satisfy another. Had this with Ghostbusters movie, girl on a date, clearly didnt know what a Ghostbuster was and talked through the entirity.
Theres also a lot of people with main character syndrome who thinks the world revolves around them.
Chemical-Cake4208@reddit
I was at a small acoustic gig at my local Arts theatre on Friday. People were all doing exactly as you describe (although singing along more encouraged at a gig!). It was a sit down auditorium but half the people were still at the bar when the main act started. It was embarrassing
throwawayra202407@reddit
No I've noticed this too - even at quite 'upmarket' (for want of a better term) events. I was at the Proms last year in a box, and had to lean over into another box to tell the woman to stop taking flash photos during the performance. She looked really outraged that I'd called her out, I thought it was unbelievably selfish given how much people pay for tickets.
Similarly had to tell a young woman off for scrolling through her phone at the cinema - she was literally just sitting there mindlessly going through Instagram during the film.
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