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Do_U_Scratch@reddit

I moved 600 miles away from my siblings. I only see them when I visit my dad, once every couple years or so. I text with my sister a couple times a month but it’s usually about dad’s latest health and dr appt updates.

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geordiedog@reddit

I am the youngest of 7. 10 yrs difference between the oldest and youngest. Both parents passed away. I live 3000kms away and haven’t been back in 2 years. All the sibs live within 2 hrs of each other and see each other regularly. We have group texts going everyday. One out of 7 had chosen to disengage 30 years ago. We haven’t seen her since but have reg contact with her husband.

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spittingparasite@reddit

I haven't seen my sister for more than a decade. I'm not really bothered.

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AdventurousPound3688@reddit

One older brother and we never really got along. He's a bully and I was a quiet child. Fast forward to him starting to call my kids names and perimenopause hitting at the same time and all my suppressed emotions (yes, that's therapy talking) came out and we had a big falling it out. Now we don't speak at all. Occasionally my parents bring it up and of course it's my fault, but I remind them he speaks to them the same way and they allow it. They don't say usually anything after that.

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TwylahHeals@reddit

2 sisters, 1 has passed. My other sister and I text during the week and FaceTime on sundays...we live 8 hours apart and we visit each other 1 time here, 1 time there each year. We are tight

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Famous-Crazy3395@reddit

There are 3 of us and we are BFFs - two sisters and a brother. I know this is unusual.

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No_Button_1750@reddit

I (46F) have a younger brother (41M) and our relationship has deteriorated a lot in the last 7-8 years. We’ve never been the kind of siblings who are friends. I wis we had been. We fought like cats and dogs as children until I moved out of home at 21.

I live in a neighbouring country usually but am currently living on the other side of the world. The distance is the only way to keep me from unleashing full fury on how much he drives me nuts and is a selfish man child. He still lives at home with my mother (Dad died 24 years ago) and he has only moved out once for six months in his late 20’s when he bought a house with his then girlfriend. Does not have a partner and hasn’t had one for a number of years. Apparently telling women your mum is your flatmate may not be working out.

I also have three older half sisters from my Dad’s first marriage when he was super young. I have on and off contact with the youngest who is 15 years older than me. I am NC with the middle one who is a selfish bitch and the oldest is highly religious and I have NC with her but if she visited my mum I’d be fine to catch up. Haven’t see her in probably 15-20 years.

Agree with others, siblings are overrated and I don’t believe the whole because they’re blood you should tolerate them ad nauseam. My brother can’t stand that I call him on his bullshit and as my mother says ‘hold a mirror up to him and his behaviour’. I wish I’d had a sister but there’s nothing to say that would’ve made for a better relationship than what I have with my brother.

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Deep-Election8889@reddit

I am close to my younger sister, 4 years younger than me. I coukd count and document on two hands the number of times she has contacted me in the last 30 years. AND each of those times has been to report a family drama. Yes, I deliberately keep her in the loop with my life, even though she tells everyone I 'never contacted her'...mmm, kettle black!!

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RobertElectricity@reddit

I have a brother and stepsister, both younger than me. All of us got along until we hit our 30s. Then my stepsister disappeared after a falling out with her father and my mother. She never reaches out to anyone, and on the occasion that I reach out to her, she is civil but not overly inviting.

But my brother and I stayed close for a long time, until about a year ago when he went a bit nuts and drove everyone away with his mean, disrespectful behavior.

So the short answer is, I used to be close to my siblings, but not anymore.

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Weirdstranger34@reddit

I had two older sisters- the oldest I was close to but unfortunately passed away. The other pretty much has hated me my whole life. We can be civil but no we’re definitely not close…and it sucks.

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ryamanalinda@reddit

I see my family mostly only at weddings, funerals, birthdays, Christmas, baptisms, etc. that being said, I have six siblings, 25 nieces and nephews and 10 great nieces and nephews, so we see each other A LOT.

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Whole_Craft_1106@reddit

I have 2, not close with either. Haven’t seen either in a year and they live a few miles from me. We have minimal in common and very different values.

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Designing1166@reddit

This makes me sad for those that don't have a good relationship with their siblings.

I am blessed to be close to my siblings. We lost our eldest sister in 2022 and our has devastated us.

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Melekai_17@reddit

I’m so sorry for your loss.

It makes me sad too that many people don’t have positive family dynamics. Of course sometimes it’s necessary to cut ties.

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Designing1166@reddit

Thank you.

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DisastrousEngineer63@reddit

I'm close to one sister and the youngest sister is one of my best friends. I talk to both of them very often and see the youngest every few weeks. The other sister is 12 hours away so we don't see each other much. They're probably both annoyed that big brother is always wanting to chat with em but they indulge me. 😁 And I love them dearly!

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Melekai_17@reddit

Aw this is so sweet!

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420EdibleQueen@reddit

My sister and I are getting there. When we were younger toxic family played us so we were always competing against each other. When we were older that got worse to the point where they made sure we were angry with each other all the time. Now that my sister, disabled, has finally moved out of my parent’s house she started realizing what has been happening and we’ve talked. We have had more conversations in the past 2 months than we’ve had in the past 30 years.

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Melekai_17@reddit

Hope it continues to go well.

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RadioSupply@reddit

I was really close to my little brother, who was 1-1 high needs. I was going to be his guardian and administrator (he lived in a house with his bestie jointly owned and staffed by our families.)

He died of epilepsy at 23, and I would give one kidney to see him just for a day, and the other to see him just one more.

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Melekai_17@reddit

I’m so so sorry for your loss. You were lucky to have each other.

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stardust_361@reddit

I (53f) am the oldest of three, I have a brother that's 4 years younger than me and a sister that's 12 years younger than me. My sister and I aren't close and never have been, maybe because of the age difference? Not sure but I'll always have her back. My brother and I were very close. His wife and I are very close too. My husband and my brother were drinking/fishing buddies. Pretty much best friends. My brother passed away unexpectedly on September 1, 2023. I miss him every single day.

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Melekai_17@reddit

I’m so sorry for your loss. That sucks.

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Melekai_17@reddit

I have a younger brother and yes we are close. I was very protective of him growing up (although we sometimes had our fights, too). We live in the same state (not where we were born), several hours apart, and see each other several times a year. I’m seeing him tomorrow!

We text frequently (with our mom as well), recently lost my dad and were all together when he passed, so we’ve all been communicating even more regularly.

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kevintheredneck@reddit

56 male middle child also adopted. I haven’t seen my sister in fifteen years or so, I saw my brother last September. I talk to my parents every six months or so. Guess what? I’m the black sheep.

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Cinday6@reddit

I have one sister and we are quite close. We are 18 months apart, so have always been close. I talk to her a few times a week, we text all the time, and I see her as much as I can. She is 45 minutes away and life often gets in the way with our families, but I’d say I see her every 2 months, sometimes more often.

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otchris@reddit

So, I only met my half sister when I was 29 and she was 36. (A long and pretty cool story involving my then recent HS graduate dad being threatened by a Japanese gang in CA and enlisting in the army to escape).

We aren’t close but we try to text at least every few months.

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Intelligent_Till_433@reddit

I have 2 younger brothers and a younger sister. We generally see each other at holidays or events related to one of our children: birthday parties, graduations, recitals, sporting events, etc. The kids old enough to have phones (mine are adults) all text each other regularly. My son's often help their younger cousins get to extracurriculars, friends homes, the movies. The frequency of contact varies for all of us depending upon many life factors. We are all in regular (at least weekly) contact with both of our parents. They keep everyone updated too.

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Large_Commission5631@reddit

I've not seen my sister since she & her husband moved to FL (about 5 yrs ago), but we talk everyday.

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CuriousTopic7439@reddit

I loved the response that siblings are overrated. I have two half and two full siblings. 3 are older than I am. Never met the oldest one-she put up clear boundaries early on-I respect her right to choose. Not close to the other two older ones-my choice for my reasons. Youngest one and I communicate more but still only once a month or so. We were never close even though we grew up in the same place and we all keep to ourselves at this point.

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Medical-Quail7855@reddit

I (51 F) have an older brother who live on the other coast. We don’t speak since he refuses to help at all with our mother (she lives with me). I know once mom passes I will tell him off and never see him again. His loss.

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CuriousTopic7439@reddit

No doubt he will have his hand out for his “share” of the Estate. Be ready to deal with that. Amazing how fast those type show up after the hard stuff is over.

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Candid-Village-3911@reddit

Not close to any of my 4 siblings. In my opinion siblings are massively overrated

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BearDadda@reddit

55M, my siblings are Boomers. 65 to 70. I was an oopsie baby. They were stuck with me their entire childhood and forced to either look after me or include me in whatever they were doing. They hated every minute of it. Our mom had difficulty being a mom sometimes so it fell to them. All my life there was resentment and abuse from them. I've gone to therapy for this. Even as adults they carried this bullshit. When our mom died, they completely cut off all communication. I've always reached out to patch things up but have been ignored. So... fuck'em. If they want to be like that for the last few years of their bitter lives... then so be it. I have cake to eat and books to write.

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Ordinary_Nothing_348@reddit

I'm 53, female. I have an older brother who is 55. We aren't particularly close, but we get along. We live a bit far from each other.

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themama78@reddit

I'm( (f) 47 and have a younger sibling age 45 (m), he is my best friend and we talk almost every day. Even as kids we very rarely fought (unlike my friends and their siblings).

I do have step siblings who are much older than me. 2 of which I'm happy to never hear from again. The other is great but we don't talk to or see each other often.

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Training-Finish-2754@reddit

50F with a full sister 46, and two half brothers from my mom’s first marriage, 56 and 57. My sister lives in Europe while I live in Massachusetts (our home state- she married the foreign exchange student). I see her once a year when she comes home to visit, I will see her next week. My brothers live in the same town as me , and I see them a few times a year. I text with the brother I’m closer to a few times a week. My brothers are estranged from one another and haven’t spoke in a few years after a falling out (HUGE understatement). One has a restraining order against the other, which makes any family gatherings so much fun!! The kicker: they used to be with each other every single day and inseparable- and oh yeah, they are next door neighbors too.

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shadypines33@reddit

I have two half siblings (one from mom, one from dad), both more than a decade younger than me. I only speak with one of them when we're discussing our father. The other is an abusive drug addict, and I haven't spoken with them in five or six years. So no, I'm not close with my siblings.

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UnitedSouth9508@reddit

I (55F) have one sister five years younger than me. We live about ten minutes apart. I genuinely think she is one of the greater people ever put on this Earth. I am very, very fortunate.

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icedyoga@reddit

Same. 57 f - sis 55, best person I know. Blessed.

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icedyoga@reddit

One sib, 2 years younger. Best friend. 3 hours away see each other several times a year talk daily.

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MaudeLebowski69@reddit

They are all deceased actually. I’m the last one living of five…

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grenston@reddit

One younger brother. Had a falling out over money in our early 20s, he said to never call him again. I've held him to it. A few years ago we saw each other for the first time in decades. He's a single dad, and wanted me to meet his kids since they spend a lot of time with his ex's family. I had to explain to his narcissistic brain that you don't get to magically decide you need something from me when it's convenient for you. Despite the history, I don't consider him family.

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Weekly-Aide-7719@reddit

Closer than close. Always have been.

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Constant-Spread-9504@reddit

My only sibling passed away at a young age. We were very close as young adults, spoke every day, so I would like to think that would have continued.

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Opening-Squirrel-433@reddit

Have a sibling five years younger. They only call when the essentially need something. When my mother passes I doubt I’ll see them again. It’s fine

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drumbo10@reddit

I was the runt of the litter, with two older brothers 7 years older than me and a year apart. I was tormented by them growing up. We all worked for my dad whom owned a successful HVAC business in the 80’s, 90’s, and until 2006 when my father passed. By that time I was was very good at figuring things out and getting projects done. We had gathered at a local pizza joint and discussed the company future with my father passing. We all made a pact that we would move forward with the company . 3 weeks later my brother quit to start his own business. I stay with my eldest brother to try to make things work but he would not listen to me and folded the business in 6 months. I took a sledgehammer to my middle brothers mini S (it’s a little car). He never responded. I moved on to increase my salary two fold and then some before I accepted an oppetunity to work once more with my eldest brother and his son for another company. Did that for 3 years before I was told I wasn’t teaching helpers how to do what I was getting done and my eldest brother fired me. When I asked why he refused to speak to me. I moved on. Joined the union and have created something to leave behind for my wife and son. Sibling suck, I still love them both and refuse to speak to the eldest to this day. But there is always tomorrow.

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4x4Welder@reddit

I have a younger sister, haven't talked to her in over 25 years and plan on that number increasing.

I have, or at least had, three Gen Z half brothers from my father's do-over family. I didn't even meet two of them until a couple years ago, the middle one died from a brain tumor last year though. Only the other two and their parents were listed in the "survived by" section of the obituary, and I wasn't able to get away for the funeral, so I'm just letting that relationship whither away now.

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Beginning-Ad3018@reddit

I have 2, I’m the oldest and we see each other all the time and are very close.

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tinypill@reddit

I haven’t spoken to my sister in like a decade. She’s a douche.

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Personal_Secret_234@reddit

I did know you and I were related and shared a douchey sister. Haven't spoken to mine in 20

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Lonely_Owl_3@reddit

I wish I didn't have to speak to mine. When my parents are gone I will cut her off completely but for now I just see her at Christmas (purely for my Mom and Dad who are elderly).

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tinypill@reddit

I think the worst part about it is my mom and her guilt trips. She keeps telling me to “be the bigger person” and all that shit, or to just brush everything under the rug and pretend like the shit my sister has said and done never happened, just so Ma can have the illusion of the Happy Family She Always Pictured. It’s exhausting. But no, I am not going to pretend. That’s dishonest af and not my thing.

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Lonely_Owl_3@reddit

Yes! My sister has never apologized for anything in her life. And the things she said to me, I wouldn't call my worst enemy. But i am just supposed to get over it and get along. Well I have done that my whole life and I am not doing it any more! Good for you standing up for yourself.

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tinypill@reddit

Right back at ya, fren :)

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Personal_Secret_234@reddit

I'm sorry

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Lonely_Owl_3@reddit

Thanks. It sucks.

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Lonely_Owl_3@reddit

Samesies!

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Elegant_Amount8526@reddit

I have 5 siblings. I talk to one of them every week even though he lives in a different state. He and I are the only ones who moved away. I talk to one of my sisters every few weeks, and my other brother and two sisters I only talk to at family events.

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Resident_Zebra933@reddit

I have a sister 1000 miles away, I only talk to her regarding our mother, who lived next door to me. ;/

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Normal_Snow3293@reddit

Emotionally very close but have been separated by thousands of miles for decades.

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StonedGhoster@reddit

I barely see any of my siblings. I was only ever close to one and I don't see them anymore either. My brother is a shady scumbag and I wrote him out of my life completely. My other siblings it's just a matter of growing apart and never hanging around them. I don't really care either way. I have buddies who are more family to me than they ever were.

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These-Educator-1959@reddit

For me (younger sisters and an older sister) we don’t talk much and text on occasion. But it’s not related to feelings about them, it’s just that I live and have lived more than 1,000 miles away from them for almost three decades. Getting home is a major undertaking and even when younger we simply never talked on the phone. I made it home 5-6 times a year when my parents were around but after they passed it can easily be two years between visits.

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pdxtee@reddit

My younger sister & I no longer speak. She’s a spoiled brat, damn near 50, has treated one of my kids horribly, & has no remorse or accountability. I can’t forgive that. She’s a demon.

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RavenRead@reddit

Love my siblings very much.

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aunt_cranky@reddit

My brother and I only see each other on holidays and our conversations are extremely stilted.

For some reason he's carrying around some sort of grudge against me related to our mother (who has been dead since 2019). She was a nasty piece of work and I think he thinks I threw him under the bus in a specific situation that made him the target of one of her rages.

My sister and I interact a bit more often but we're still a lot more distant than we were in years past.

I've tried to maintain more of a relationship with her but she seems disinterested. Now that her kids are in college I barely hear from her unless something is going on with them.

She's become even more guarded in recent years and this makes me sad. It's not about politics or beliefs or anything like that. I think she's just shut me out for some reason.

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Gloomy_Shallot7521@reddit

I don't talk to them at all. Haven't for about 5 yrs.

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Aldisra@reddit

Same

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Shamrocker99@reddit

Older brother and younger sister. I really don't talk to either of them. No big falling out or drama, I am just not interested in having a relationship with them at this point in my life.

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Head_Trick_9932@reddit

I have 5 siblings and 5 of us are all close now but weren’t for years. We had a lot of messed up childhood trauma to work through & had to realize we weren’t the cause. After we all started our own families, we grew a lot. We talk multiple times and week and have alternating weekend dinners. I’m grateful for our relationships now and know we did a lot ( & continue to) of work to get where we are.

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PinBig1102@reddit (OP)

That’s a great outcome

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Curious_Dot3635@reddit

I envy people who have loving families ❤️

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PinBig1102@reddit (OP)

So do I. I wish I had a big loving family.

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beaushaw@reddit

My sister is 2 years older than I am. My backyard is separated from her backyard by a small woods and creek. We built a bridge connecting them.

My kids know her back yard is theirs and her kids know my backyard is theirs. We see them all the time.

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PinBig1102@reddit (OP)

That’s very nice of you two

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shaniam2@reddit

I have one brother. I interact with him as little as possible. After the parent’s funerals, I plan to drop that to none.

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PinBig1102@reddit (OP)

Sorry to hear that! Sounds like my brother.

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DidAnyoneFeedTheDog@reddit

My brother is my ride or die. We are 2 years apart. Now 49 and 51 years old. He's a 4 hour drive away and we try to visit every 2 months, talk about every other day.

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salazka@reddit

I see my brother all the time since he lives next door. But when working abroad we usually do not talk.

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HasturCrowley@reddit

I (48M) have a half brother (30M) we were never close no matter how hard his father tried to push it. I last saw him in 2004 and haven't communicated since 2019.

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NotPennysBoat721@reddit

I (55f) was always very close with my brother (53) until about 10 years ago. The rift started over politics and his blind worship of a certain "leader". He's an alcoholic, and I'd get wild rants texted at 2am all the time, no matter how often I asked him to stop, especially since I need to be up early for work. After my dad passed, a couple of years ago, I forgave him for my mom's sake, against my better judgement. Then the election, and it started back, in full force, with him calling me terrible things, then saying horrible things about me to my daughter, then saying the same things to her. I had to block him everywhere a year ago, and due to another attack a few weeks ago, so did my daughter. He's furious with us, lol. My mom is 84, so I still have to see him on holidays, , but once she's not with us, I doubt I'll speak to him again. The worst part is, all it would have taken from him is an apology, but he does not do those. He got sucked into the manosphere and will not apologize to women.

That said, I've become much closer my sister (49) in the last several years. Her husband and son voted the same way as my brother, though she didn't, but that makes her OK by association, he genuinely thinks she will vote however the males in her family vote.

I fucking hate what the Dear Leader has done to my, and other, families.

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lthill2001@reddit

My sister and I have been writing letters (snail mail) since 1991. We also talk on the phone, Snapchat and see each other as often possible. My brothers I still keep in touch but not as much as my sister. We all live in different states.

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IrregularThinker@reddit

3 siblings. Haven’t spoken to them or my surviving parent in about 30 years. I was the youngest & took all the blame and consequences for my older siblings’ failures & stupidity.

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VarietySuspicious106@reddit

Youngest in a family where birth order was three girls + five boys (all in rapid succession), then a 6 year pause, and then me, the Oops Baby Girl.

By the time I was five, my sisters were marrying and moving away and having babies of their own. Consequently I grew up as the only girl in the home with five older brothers who were NOT kind and protective types.

I have very little relationship with any of them, which is sad, but i prefer it to the enmeshed lives that the rest of them seem to perpetuate. Sigh.

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No-Gain-1087@reddit

i see my brothers as often as i can already lost 2 out of 5 so we all try harder to stay in touch

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Next_Chapter_Now@reddit

My sister and brother have very little to do with me. I’m the oldest. My sister (middle child) moved to be near our brother. Politics really caused brother to not have much to do with me and further cemented the distance between sister and I.

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QueenBBs@reddit

5 siblings. I’m the second oldest. My three youngest brothers and my dad are local. We hang out all the time. My sister and I talk frequently and visit each other when we can, she shows up for all big life happenings going on where the rest of us live. My oldest brother is a wild card. Pretty sure he’s mentally unstable. Refuses help, shows up every once in a while and stays in touch via family group chat. We had a rough childhood and I’m pretty sure we’re all trauma bonded.

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Educational_Bar2807@reddit

I see my brother and his family every weekend.

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Banana_Prudent@reddit

I have six siblings.

Three are permanently banned from my life.

One, if I don’t call him, I don’t hear from him. I think he’s completely traumatized and drinks every day.

One is stoned all day long, every day, but he calls me to say he loves me. He’s mostly incoherent and I had to hang up on him a few weeks ago. I doubt he remembers.

I one is a semi-recovering narcissist. After 30 years of me being the one to reach out for a beer or lunches, I said I’m done being the one to reach out. Now he’ll reach out every 1-3 months for a beer, and the subtle message is that he’s being benevolent and doing me a favor. Whatever.

I’m the youngest. It will be interesting when each of them dies. Not sure I’ll go, especially for the ones out of state.

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AbjectHyena1465@reddit

Youngest of 6, lost my brother who was like me, with 4 beyond nut job NPD sisters. Have LOVED being feee from them for 18 years-even though one still stalks me. Aint’t NOBODY got time for dat!

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Azerafael@reddit

Sister, brother, and me. Sister never contacts me unless she needs something. My last words spoken to my brother was "morning", and this was maybe 15yrs ago. He grunted in reply.

Let's just say if a zombie apocalypse were to happen tomorrow, the only one I'm relying on is the one looking back in the mirror.

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Greedy_Blueberry420@reddit

Two older brothers (my 56f to their 60 and 61). All in the same small city. Haven't seen either since our mom passed 3 years ago. 60th birthday party tomorrow for middle brother, not going to the party. He was a bullying asshole to me growing up and I've never gotten over it and it greatly impacted how my life turned out and who I became. And I hate how happy and perfect his life is. He doesn't deserve it. I'll have to deal with him one day when my dad (82) finally passes and we have to deal with whatever piddily estate is left to divvy up. In the meantime I've finally found some peace, happiness and stability in my life and I protect it at all costs by staying away.

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Banana_Prudent@reddit

Great choice getting him out of your life. You deserve peace.

His life might seem perfect, but, trust me - it’s not.

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BookkeeperLeading887@reddit

Youngest of 3 ( 57 F ) ( from original family - parents divorced , so have step sibs I wasn’t raised with ) Family became very fractured after parents awful divorce. Brother and Sister became estranged from me after our Moms death . Not my choice, jealousy fueled , misconceptions abt favoritism. Now have a relationship with my sister but we live an airplane ride apart . We text / talk fairly regularly. Brother wants nothing to do with me - he lives in the same city as I do . It’s been painful for me , especially initially. But less so now that it’s been nearly a decade .

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drbethaney@reddit

My sister and I are now very close that our parents are gone.

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thebestestofthebest@reddit

My dad passed away in the early 90's and it absolutely crushed my mom, it took years for her to come to peace with his passing and to this day she misses him dearly. A few years ago my sister stole my dads wedding band which is the last thing my mom kept ahold of of his. That's some low down dirty shit for someone to do and i'm done with her, I’ve disowned her for all I’m concerned.

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AlarmingLeopard5650@reddit

1 brother I usually see about once a month when I visit my mom. We text a bit. I was close to my other brother but his wife hates me so even on the rare occasion that we are together, we barely talk.

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mayaREguru@reddit

Rarely speak, rarely text. Awkward conversations around death of our Father. No real visits or contact. We did hang a bit in high school because we were a tear apart in grades (18 mos apart in age). Same guy who tried to trade me for a six-pack at a College Party once. No idea what happened. I know he went to therapy (our Father was a narcissistic psychopath, apparently), then Crickets. My eldest child was really hurt when her favorite human stopped visiting her regularly. I swear this kids are so fragile she has PTSD from it. But, it was rude of him to do to her.

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MusicalCougar@reddit

I (50f) have an older brother (57m). We text each other on our birthdays. I could probably reach out and chat with him at any time.

Growing up we were super close. But freshman year of college he met his wife, and he changed. Embraced a lot of ideals that we didn’t really grow up with. None of us like his wife, and the feeling is mutual.

So avoidance is just easier.

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noctaluz@reddit

One sibling, haven't spoken in years.

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jlw523@reddit

Me (53F) pretty much talk to my sister(50F) daily and probably see her at least once a week. My parents everyday, they live beside my husband and I.

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pborg312@reddit

Youngest of 3 and the only girl (58). I am closer to my eldest brother (61) and we talk/text all the time.

My other brother (59) is a bit of a PITA to me and I to him, but I can talk to him or text on an as needed basis. He's just a bit stand offish, private and a bit of a pill until you get to know him.

We do not see each other too often due to proximity but we can always call or text and it is like not a single day has passed between the last time we talked.

Both parents are deceased so I think all three of us are a bit closer then most due to these circumstances plus the "one for all and all for one" mentality while growing up.

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Royal-Nobody-1362@reddit

Two older step-siblings, haven’t really talked to them in years (they live on the opposite side of the country)

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Seabluele@reddit

Oldest of three, younger sister and brother. I talk with my sister, but not that often. My brother doesn’t seem to want to have anything to do with us. We have just been going through finalizing my dad’s estate after he passed in a while back. That’s the only time I’ve talk to him is in regards to that, otherwise, I never hear from him and he doesn’t seem to want to hear from me.

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Taz9093@reddit

My sis and I are great even with being almost 12 years apart. My 2 brothers not so much. I’ll probably never talk to them again after out parents pass.

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Ok-Shift-908@reddit

I have 2 brothers. I’m the oldest. I’m really close to the oldest one. The younger one married and just stop talking to me. He is mad at me because I dislike his wife. The oldest one is my best friend. We don’t see each other because of financial issues, but we do talk a lot. I love both my brothers very much and I get life happens. I tell my kids all the time. That their only family is each other. No matter what, always be there for your sibling.

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mscrybaby-mo@reddit

I'm the baby of three, one sister is 11 years older, the other sister was 10 years older. Unfortunately, the one I was close to was the one that was 10 years older than me and she passed 16 years ago. The other sister and I were not really close, we talk once in awhile. I am rotten, I will fully admit it's 99% my fault, I am rotten at keeping in touch with people. I think I've talked to her maybe three or four times since I came home from her house around the 1st of February. We live 2000 miles away from each other but I went out for a month when she had a heart attack and double bypass surgery to be with her.

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JanieLily@reddit

Sister is 11 years older than me. She’s a boomer, I’m Gen X. No kids in between, I must have been a surprise. Tried to be close to her over the years but honestly she was in college when I was in elementary school. As adults she was always overly critical and wrote it off as giving advice. After my parents passed, I was done with the BS. The do love her, and wish her well. I hope she has a happy life but I don’t miss walking on eggshells.

My husband on the other hand is also a late in life baby like me. His brother is 12 years older and sister 9 years older. They and their spouses are amazing and all are close. Welcomed me in with open arms and I couldn’t be more grateful. ☺️

Sometimes family can be fantastic and sometimes the other f word.

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MienaLovesCats@reddit

No one is a "mistake". Maybe your parents struggled with infertility and misscarages; like my mom, sister and I did. I'm Gen X; my sister is almost 9 years younger then me. Our half brother is another 10.5 years younger. He is closer in age to his niece then his closest in age sister. We are very close; despite living so far apart and being at very different stages of life.

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MienaLovesCats@reddit

Iam very close to my 2 siblings. Despite them being almost 9 years and 19 years younger then I and living a 6 hr drive away from me. My mom and grandparents put a huge emphasis on staying close. Having similar religious and political (🇨🇦) views helps. Most importantly is how much they accept and support my husband and our two children; who are all on the Autism Spectrum.

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DigRealistic889@reddit

2 siblings and don’t talk to my sister anymore she’s a full blown narcissist. My brother and I only talk about my dad and his well being so when he passes we probably will have minimal interaction as well. Kind of sucks but it’s life cant pick your family

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SassholeSupreme1@reddit

Mine don’t speak to me. I’ve tried to reach out on several occasions only to be met with silence. Religious fanatics are really something.

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jk_pens@reddit

There’s no hate like religious love

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SassholeSupreme1@reddit

That’s the truth! As I typed that I realized the irony because they refer to their religion as “the truth”.

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Adorableviolet@reddit

Youngest of 4. Very tight. Dealing with 90 yo dying mother has made us even tighter.

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No_File1836@reddit

I talk to 3 of my 4 siblings regularly. We help each other out all the time.

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mandymaz72@reddit

I see my brother regularly. 2-4 times a month. And talk on messenger in between. We had terrible fights when growing up but once we stopped living I the same house our relationship got soooo much better.

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Glittering_Coconut9@reddit

My brother (2y older) removed himself from the family several years ago, angry that our mother had insisted he move out. He stayed in touch with me for a while, but hasn't responded to messages for a couple of years. My sister (6y younger) and I have a great relationship. We shared an apartment before she moved to DC, She now works PT for an organization I co-lead (and is truly the best thing that's happened to us in years). We talk several times a week and text constantly. I can laugh harder with her than anyone. I feel incredibly lucky to have her in my life.

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Fearless-Sandwich823@reddit

My older brother (4 years older) bullied the shit out of me as kids and has been condescending as an adult. I don't speak to him anymore.

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New-Street-9218@reddit

I have 1 brother. We are 5 years apart (I am older), but we were fairly close growing up. Fell apart as adults. Over the past 20 years we would only see each other once or twice a year (only holidays). I have not seen him in over 6 years and have only had 1 brief (30 seconds +/-) phone conversation in that time.

There wasn't a big fight or anything like that. He had some substance issues, but nothing crazy. We are just in very different places in life.

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sickiesusan@reddit

I’m the youngest of 4 children. The eldest sister has alienated most of us (limited contact as our 92yo mother is still going).

The other 3 have a WhatsApp group, along with our kids and we monthly video calls to catch up. We started this during COVID and have kept it going since. My other sister actually lives with me in my house, she helped me massively with childcare when I had to get rid of the husband and has stayed ever since.

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Awesomesince1973@reddit

I was very close to my sister until about 15 (?has it been that long?) years ago. We only speak when absolutely necessary. I did not realize the toxicity she brought into my life. We went from speaking 2 or 3 times a day to not at all in a matter of days. Not my choice, but I had to deal with it and so I did. As GenX was taught to do. Suck it up cupcake.

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Gold-Pilot-8676@reddit

Haven't seen/spoken to my sister in almost 20 years. We were never close.

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WeirdWritings1989@reddit

Haven’t seen or heard from my brother in 7 years…his choice not mine and it is fine by me.

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buttfirstcoffee@reddit

I have 4 siblings. 3 are 9, 11, and 13 years older than me. The fourth is my twin. We’re both male.

Closeness: We see each other (all five of us) and connect when we can but I wouldn’t say we’re super close. We support each other the best we can.

Affection: I hug my sister or will say ‘I love you’ to her as well as my twin, but not the two older brothers. We’re hand shakers. Hugs are rare.

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AlwaysTheNewb@reddit

Close to all. Talk and FaceTime twin brother everyday from across the nation, talk to my sister and other brother several times a month, and see them 1-2’times a year. I will visit them on a moments notice if they ever need anything.

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SweaterPaws28@reddit

48F. Very close to my younger brother. We are 13 months apart. He is one of my best friends. I love his wife and son as well. Also close to my cousins on my dad’s side, they are like siblings. I’m very grateful my family is close. We all talk all the time.

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iaMBictrochee@reddit

I have 5 siblings. I only have limited contact with them because I am Mom's caregiver. They are narcissistic, entitled brats. If I outlive Mom I will definitely go no-contact with them.

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Cautious-Buffalo-182@reddit

My brother is 22 months older. I was a tomboy as a kid and I idolized him. I think I was an embarrassment. He’s never really liked me and we’re not close now either but I adore his kids.

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freshrootveg@reddit

My 4 siblings and I have a texting group and we at least share updates. We don't see each other, they all have spouses with anger issues, I tried.

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EzAeMy@reddit

I texted my twin that I was at work and having a panic attack, and she left me on Read. That was hours ago. So….

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jk_pens@reddit

How are you doing now?

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EzAeMy@reddit

Thanks for asking. I’m doing a lot better. Home and in bed with my husband. F her is correct. She never checked on me.

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jk_pens@reddit

💙

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Calabriafundings@reddit

I was very close with my brother (I am over 10 years older). He lied about money and it cost him, our parents, and myself quite a lot. I could probably get over it, but he has chosen to play the blame game and take zero responsibility.

So I was close to a sibling. Now I am not.

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itgoesineasy@reddit

A brother 5 years younger than me. He was quite spoiled by both my parents. It was guilt over him being an “accident”. We aren’t very close.

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Due_Bumblebee6061@reddit

My younger sisters my best friend. We talk everyday. I’m 7 years older than her.

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Awkward-Outcome-4938@reddit

I'm very close with my sister. She has got me through a lot of trauma so far and I would be lost without her. She's 3.5 yrs older My brother, 7 years older, we hardly ever speak. Not real bad blood, but not close.

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ellenkeyne@reddit

I'm closer to my father's youngest sister (seven years older than me) than I am to my own half-sibling, full sibling, adopted stepsiblings, or the stepsiblings I never met -- all of whom are within two to six years of my age in either direction.

It was a fractured family while I was growing up. In adulthood my full sibling has been lost to psychosis for many years, my half-sibling is religious and has little in common with me, and my known stepsiblings disliked my father and everyone associated with him, including me. Ties there are weak or nonexistent, which is sad -- but my own kids will have extended family via my many cousins and my spouse's.

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harmonimaniac@reddit

My brother and I do not speak.

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More-Muffins-127@reddit

My brother is five years older than me and we at least text every day or so. We used to see each other every other week, but I moved closer to him and we now see each other twice a week. We get along well.

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montbkr@reddit

I grew up believing I only had one sibling, my brother who died in 2009. We were very close, and I was devastated for many years.

But then, about five years ago, I was matched on Ancestry with a half-sister that I didn’t know I had. I am crazy about her! She looks like me, is 10 years younger, lives about an hour away, and I talk to her about once a week.

Thanks, Pop!

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jk_pens@reddit

That’s crazy, but I’m glad it worked out well. The dad of one of my kids, friends discovered through ancestry or whatever that he was adopted he didn’t even know it. He was able to track down his biological father. I don’t know how it went after that.

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Aggravating-Alarm-16@reddit

I have one younger sister I was raised with, she is 9 years younger.

I was the typical free range GenX , she is a millennial.

We don't not get along, but we aren't super close either.

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jk_pens@reddit

Sounds familiar, although I guess technically my sister is a Xennial

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MNPS1603@reddit

I’m 49, brother is 46. We are close. We are busy and live in diff cities but text a few times a week.

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ReneeHudsonReddit@reddit

My sibling and I are both in our 40s. They live with our parents. We talk when we have to while I visit our parents. We send a short text on each other's birthday. Our parents are the only thing we have in common.

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jk_pens@reddit

I have a baby sister 10 years younger than me and we live on opposite sides of the country. We’re not particularly close but we get along fine. Most of what we talk about nowadays is how to handle things with our 86 yo mom….

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Diligent-Touch-5456@reddit

I'm not really close to my biological siblings, they are takers and no matter how many things I've done for them, they still bring up that 1 thing they did for me years before, even something they did when we were children to try to guilt me into doing whatever thing they currently want me to do for them.

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Persis-@reddit

My three siblings are early Gen X. I’m late Gen X.

Even though we haven’t all lived under one roof since I was 6, in 1984, we were fairly close.

Until our parents and one brother died in the span of 7 years. The remaining 3 just drifted.

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Stefgrep66@reddit

My sister suffered with terrible MH issues for years, and after a massive fall out one Christmas, we didn't talk for 4 years.

We got together again when my mum had a stroke in 2010, and my sister looked after her for 10 years until vascular dementia took her.

I wondered how she would cope, but she's as settled as I've seen her for years and we visit weekly.

I love her dearly and she and my wife are good friends too

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Mother_of_Raccoons44@reddit

My sis is one of my best friends, she lives almost 2hrs away, so we don't see eachother that much, but we talk every week, and Snapchat daily😊

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HeeWee@reddit

I have one sister. 4 years younger than me. I would burn the world for her. We are so tight.

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jackssweetheart@reddit

I have two older sisters. We are all best friends. We spend time together every week. We travel together too.

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ResearcherHeavy9098@reddit

Haven't spoken or seen my siblings in 30 years. We weren't close as kids both were older than me by several years.

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mtngalaloha@reddit

Youngest of 6, 10 years between myself and next brother. The others are 11, 12, 14, 16 years older. Only speak with closest brother, the rest of them had made themselves scarce over the years and showed no interest when Mom developed dementia. She lived with me, good brother called often, FaceTimed, and was a great sounding board. When she passed, the rest got an attorney to contest her will. Went nowhere and the result was a nasty letter including the sentiment, “Shame on you both,” to good brother and I. Because they made me salty, I went ahead and had SHAME tattooed on myself. If taking care of her when she needed us is shameful, I’m proud to wear it. Wish them well, but do not miss them at all.

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Mathchick99@reddit

Close to my sister (4 years younger); zero relationship with my brother (almost 12 years younger)

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OryxTempel@reddit

My sis Got Religion and now she’s sorta hard to talk to.

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Additional-Leg4696@reddit

Same here.

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glencoe606@reddit

Two brothers. We talk via text and memes on insta weekly. See each other every other month. Go on a trip together once a year. We love each other but we’ve had our differences too. One lives out of state, my other brother lives 30 mins away from me.

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jollytoes@reddit

I have 4 siblings and we talk an average of once every 5yrs. I have no idea how often they talk to each other.

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mikedorty@reddit

Cut off my brother several times over the years. He is an alcholic that struggles to keep a job.

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AllieGirl2007@reddit

My brother and I rarely talk or see each other. We live in 2 different worlds and it’s obvious he feels uncomfortable in mine. I’m ok with that.

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mortyella@reddit

I've been estranged from my addict brother since our mom passed in 2020.

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allaboutaphie@reddit

So sorry to hear, hope he figures out life.

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allaboutaphie@reddit

Very close if we see each other/talk or not. That would include my steps that were added later on in life. I know all would be there for me if I asked as I would for them. I see a few a few times a year or more, vacation with some, talk on the phone with others. Some I have not talked to in years but still here for them. Eight in total, so you get the info through grapevine sometimes. Love all of them

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newwriter365@reddit

I’m #2 of four. I was always the outcast…until dad died in 2018, and sib #1 and sib #3 finally saw how horrible and manipulative our mother is.

I had a late night at work tonight and called sib #1 to talk as I drove home.

I haven’t seen sib #4 in almost a year. I was in his town last weekend. I didn’t even text them to say, “hey, I’m in your time zone.”

My peace matters.

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MaudieLebowski@reddit

They’re all deceased.

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Next-Drummer-9280@reddit

I see/talk to my sister all the time.

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TheTrollys@reddit

When we are around each other we are close.

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Arglebarglor@reddit

One sister, 3.5 years younger. We have always been close. She is my ride or die.

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GoinMinoan@reddit

we're trauma-bonded.

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Azure_Dragon625@reddit

Same

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toddpackersux@reddit

We text for holidays and birthdays but that’s about it. They’re older than me and they are full siblings to each other but half siblings to me. After our mom dies we’ll probably never see each other again.

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Left_Connection_8476@reddit

Aside from the half part, that's exactly how it is for me with my three older full siblings, right down to my prediction after our elderly mother's inevitable death. Our dad already died and that didn't change a thing for us.

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Chesirecattywhompas@reddit

One sister. She is older that me by 16 years. She is my best friend and I see her nearly everyday.

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gandalfhurstfrodo-42@reddit

I have two siblings both older than me. I talk to my brother every single day and see him a few times a week. He's the oldest. I live 1500 feet away from my sister, I see her daily, but we only actually talk a few times a month.

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Arvid38@reddit

I have one older sister and I sadly had to block her. She lives in another state. She’s always been manipulative and playing emotional mind games but she was so horrible after our dad died, that I just had enough. I honestly don’t even miss her, she put me through so much in my life.

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myystic78@reddit

I love my sisters but we're not super close. Part of it is due to two of them being significantly older than me - we didn't grow up together, they weren't around much in my formative years. We lost contact for quite some time, but I now have phone conversations semi-regularly. The one I did grow up with and I don't really get along. She texts on birthdays and holidays but frankly she's a shit stirrer and I don't like talking to her. I don't even think she's tries to be that way, it's just her.

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leeayn@reddit

So I have 6 brothers and 5 sisters. I talk to one sister. The youngest. Our parents both passed years ago and we live in a different state than the rest of them so have no contact with any of them.

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Fabulous-Educator447@reddit

I’m very close with one and not so much with the other. I’m youngest of 3 girls. We don’t fight, I’m not 100% sure why I’m not that close with my eldest sis.

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sorenelf@reddit

Not at all. I don’t wish them ill, but I don’t want them in my life. My mental health comes first.

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eejm@reddit

My brother and I were not close at all growing up. In a lot of ways we’re very different people. I will say that as we get older I realize we’re more alike than I thought.

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Far-Sun-4128@reddit

My sister and we're best friends for most of my life. We were roommates a few times as adults. When my ex husband and I was going through a divorce, I was devastated and couldn't really function. She had just graduated from college but planned to stay in that town for another year when her BF would be graduating. But she didn't, she dropped everything and moved in to take care of me. I would never have made it without her! I was a home health nurse and she rode with me everyday so I wouldn't have to be alone. She saved my life! Fast forward, my ex and I get back together! Dumb, I know. She married the boyfriend and we lived next door to each other for a couple of years. We spoke and/or saw each other every day. The 4 of us hung out all of the time and had so much fun! Then they decided to go to the Peace Core and my ex decided to go into the army. So, we were separated for several years. When my ex came home he had PTSD and things were rocky. We eventually broke up again. My sister had her first baby. I had been struggling with infertility for years so this put a strain on our relationship. Fast forward a few more years, I get married and pregnant! I have a son and also have a step son. We remained close but lived about 2 hours away. In 2010 we had to move 5 hours a way for my husband's job. We still see her and her family several times a year and spend holidays, go on family trips. But things are different. She doesn't ever reach out to me. If I didn't make the effort, I would probably never hear from her. She has a group of 5-6 friends that she calls her "best friends" and takes trips several times a year yet she rarely comes here. When I want to see her, I drive the 5 hours. Also, if I do drive all that way, she doesn't change her plans for my visit. She will go on to games and events and have people over. We usually celebrate Christmas and Easter at her house with my mom and grandmother. Now the families she invites of her friends way out number us! One time we got there a little late and there was no food left except for what we had brought and we had paid a portion of it. She doesn't reach out if she has problems. We never really have deep conservations anymore. I'd love to have her back as my best friend but don't know how to accomplish it.

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Medicine-Illustrious@reddit

I’m sorry. Sounds similar to what I’ve gone through with my sister. She was my best friend but I guess I was too much. I literally protected her from abuse when we were kids. I’ve never heard anyone else articulate similar story. It hurts.

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BraveLittleFrog@reddit

Close with my bro. I cut off the abusive half brother. I want nothing to do with him.

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soleiles1@reddit

I am very close with my sibling, but we are only 19 months apart.

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GlobalLifeguard8928@reddit

I am friendly with my siblings but not really friends. We all live in different parts of the country and rarely see each other, even on holidays. Over the years, as we have all been busy raising our own families, the physical distance has created emotional distance.

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Medicine-Illustrious@reddit

Was close to my sister but around the time she had her second child she told me our parents were stressing her out, she stopped inviting us over as much and stopped answering my calls. Now she is like a stepford wife around me and our parents - only positive conversations allowed, we are in need to know basis. This is a huge departure for a former over sharer TMI type. It hurts me but I do not push it.

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lcplscary@reddit

I have a sister 2 years older and a half sister 2 years younger.

After the Marines I went MIA for about 3 years - alcoholism, etc and didn't want to subject my family to it. Older sis was in the Air Force on the other end of the country, little sis and mom were in the next town over.

Once I got sober I tried to make amends to little sis for not being around - missed birth of 2 kids, etc. I called twice a month, sent birthday gifts, etc. But she'd been born again and I was living with my girlfriend (now wife of 25 years) which was a sin. She accepted my apology, but said she wouldn't forgive me. Never called me, if she missed my call, never called back.

So I wrote her off. Told her I had done my best, but wasn't going to beg for forgiveness or allow her judgement of my girlfriend and I.

When I got married and stopped being a sinner, she suddenly wanted to get to know my wife and I. My wife and I would do Christmas Eve with her folks then go to moms for Christmas. I'd always ask which day little sis was going to be there and pick the opposite. Mom started lying to get us there on same days. When there is would try to preach - not talk, catch up or address why we didn't speak - just preach. Despite my warnings mom kept doing it and it got to where I had to tell mom I couldn't trust her so I wouldn't be visiting.

5 years later we lost my Aunt and Mom and I reconnected at her service.

Older sis stopped taking my calls for not being nice to little sis.

So no contact with either anymore. I now have Brothers from the Marines I speak to and see like I would if we were blood. One is getting ready to move like an hour from me and I'm so excited. Already planning monthly get togethers and fishing trips.

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Southern-Ad-9607@reddit

Real close. We talk at least twice a week, text almost daily. I’m the eldest by 4 years and we’re both GenX.

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holdmypurse@reddit

You mean my brother husband?

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Irishdoe13@reddit

Nope. Cut ties over 17 years ago. They only called if they needed something and always judged me. Life has been great!

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Dankmomkbeau@reddit

Same here,3 mean older sisters.

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filledoux@reddit

Used to be very close and now its always about borrowing money so I had to draw a line

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DieHardAmerican95@reddit

I’m close to both of my siblings, we check on each other regularly and text at least a couple times a week.

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manhands007@reddit

Youngest of 4 sibs (54M). After understanding the pattern of non-stop judgement and condescension (couched in their attitudes of "caring" or whatever) from the oldest two siblings (F, M) over my entire life, I learned about 10 years ago how to simply turn away and be happier, more joyful, and present with my own family by almost entirely ignoring those two. I love my next oldest sibling immensely, and wish I could be around her more often.

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Solid-Wish-1724@reddit

Nope. See her on a video chat once in a blue moon and text for important things. We were not close growing up. We both went through some shit and got closer as adults with kids, then she decided to move 3k miles across the country. Sad, really. I wish I'd been nicer and less fucked up to her as a kid, but I also blame my parents.

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ljculver64@reddit

2 sisters im extremely close to both of them. Talk daily. Even if its just a short text or something.

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malinagurek@reddit

I talked to my brother today! We don’t talk often, but it’s welcome. We’ve had our ups and downs, but we’re in a really good place now where I like him and miss him rather than calling out of obligation.

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nestorb30@reddit

I see my brother, 3 years younger, a few times a year at best.

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BlueCupcake4Me@reddit

My brother (5 years younger than me) lives about 4 miles from me. I saw him 2 or 3 years ago.

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Kennesaw79@reddit

6 kids in my family, I'm the 4th.

I haven't spoken to my oldest brother in almost 30 years. My older sister is on of my closest friends, and we live in the same state. My other brother also lives here (so does my dad). We get together for birthdays, holidays, or just game nights.

My two younger sisters live in two different states. One I only talk to occasionally, because she keeps the whole family at arm's length. The other, the youngest, shares a birthday with me; I would say we're close, but I only see her maybe three times a year. We do talk on the phone in between.

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Curious_Dot3635@reddit

Not at all

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Masqueesha@reddit

One sister is my bestie and my other sister is a psycho hose beast.

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lcplscary@reddit

I have not heard "hose beast" since the early 90s!

I'm a guy, so my first instinct was to ask for her #. Fortunately I've learned over the years "First thought = Wrong".

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1quirky1@reddit

Dysfunctional family. I moved away decades ago and have been back five or six times. The next one will probably be a funeral.

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Inessence4@reddit

My mom lives with me so I hear from my little brother through his connection with her.

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AzU2lover@reddit

I truly feel my younger brother is my friend. We get each other. I adore his kids. Our folks are still here. But that prob won’t be much longer. Sadly. But yes, we are close.

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CrabbyCatLady41@reddit

My brother passed away a few years ago when he was 39 and it wrecked me. I was the protective older sister of a gay teenage brother, and he grew up into the best possible human. When he didn’t “need” me anymore, we were just best friends. We at least texted several days a week and got together every Friday to watch our favorite shows and eat takeout. I still have an ongoing dialogue with him in my head.

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Mediocre-Team1715@reddit

I have mild panic attacks when I realize one of us has to go first. I can’t imagine. I’m sorry for your loss.

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CrabbyCatLady41@reddit

Thank you… it was really a rough time. You expect your sibling to get old with you and mine had the audacity to not bother turning 40. Very rude after how bad he roasted me on my 40th birthday! I’d like to think I’ve come out on top, but I do get very annoyed with him for not being around when my mom is having a hard time.

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LoveMySpoiledChi@reddit

I had 5 siblings. I lost a sister and brother before my mom passed. I took care of my second dad while he was going through cancer. Up until he passed 5 years later. First dad passed when I was 10. After my dad passed my oldest female sibling was set on a mission to bad mouth me to any and everyone. I was no longer invited to family events. All because of the will. She thought she was owed something. I would have rather had my parents. Most didn’t show up for my daughter’s wedding. Less than half of them showed up for my son’s. 2 nieces showed up for my son’s baby shower. And then a bunch more showed up for my daughter’s. People I was once close to are no longer in my life. For this I no longer feel the need to communicate with them.

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Ok_Schedule5017@reddit

I haven’t talked to my sister in 4 years. My choice. I couldn’t tolerate any more disrespect.

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Nutella_Zamboni@reddit

Im the oldest of 3. Brother is 18 months younger than me. Sister is 3 years younger than me. We all live in the same town. We see each other a couple times a month or more. Fortunately their spouses and mine get along really well. They love our parents as well.

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Agoodhope@reddit

We are very close. Both our parents have passed. We might not speak every week but we are always right there for each other we needed. Two brothers and a sister.

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Agoodhope@reddit

And me. Four siblings

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VioletSmiles88@reddit

My older brother and my younger sister can be problematic so I limit my time with them to family gatherings, usually just Christmas. My younger brother I get along with, but neither of us make much of an effort so we don’t see each other often. He refuses to be anywhere near our older brother so I don’t see him on Christmas, we just catch up randomly.

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Roachmeister@reddit

I have a brother who is 2 years younger than me, and a sister who is 16 years younger. When I came out as transgender, my brother ghosted me. My sister and I still talk all the time.

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chayton6@reddit

I don't talk to my sister because she's drama. I talk to my brother when I see him but we don't like call or text each other.

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Fight_Tyrnny@reddit

My 2 1/2 year old brother tortured me my entire childhood... literally. I had to run from him all the time and jam my body between the wall and door to keep him from busting in and pounding me. There were times I had to grab a knife to keep him off me.

My mom always took my side, she saw it. The guy was jealous of me the day I was born, I have a nasty scar on my chin even today from when I was 1 years old and he pushed me down a full flight of stairs.

He would steel all my good toys, swindle stuff from me and he even used to send me into the groshery store in elementary school when I was like 8 to steel his candy... I might get one piece of it.

As an adult he wasn't much better... because he of course became a politician and the mayor for 8 years of our city of \~200,000 people... he just had that pure typical narsasim.

I never was close and finally realized oh 15 years ago that I didnt need to spend my life trying to deal with him and as such, I have not seen nor spoken to him in 15 years and I absolutely dont regret at at all.

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GrumpyWords3444@reddit

I have a younger brother by 8 years. I was the parent growing up while narc mom was his buddy and enabler. Total golden child. I was always the one trying to connect and make effort. After a point, I stopped. He did and does what he has always done which is nothing. We don't talk or see one another. Haven't for years.

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Novel-Damage9370@reddit

One older brother. We haven’t been close since we were kids. He keeps getting with controlling wives and the last one is so much like our Narc dad’s family was growing up that I refuse to be exposed to her for long. I still tried showing up for special events, but after her family was extremely rude to me and our parents, I noped on out of those too. I miss my nephew though.

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CarnivalColors@reddit

Same situation with my sister. Was super close to her and my nephew but my brother in law is an asshole. After years of trying to get past it, I finally reached my “fuck-it 40s” and said byeeeee

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Mediocre-Team1715@reddit

I moved across the country to live close to my brother. We’re super close. I have a couple half siblings and a former step sibling or two and I’m not close with them.

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mom2artists@reddit

55F, my brother and SIL live with my parents 4 doors down. We don’t talk everyday but we could, and don’t avoid each other. Lol it’s just us two

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overeducatedhick@reddit

My brother and sister are closer to each other than I am to either of them, although my brother and I live closer together while my sis lives over 400 miles away.

My spouse and I moved back closer to my hometown so that our children could grow up with my brother's children.

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Tauphiyang@reddit

I'm the oldest and the youngest is 7 years younger. There were not a lot of other kids in our neighborhood so we were really close. I don't get to see them all that much since I live farther away, but we text pretty often.

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anaisaknits@reddit

My older siblings are all boomers and then I have younger siblings that are Gen X

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jennbouk@reddit

We are 150 miles apart, but we haven't seen each other in 3 years. We text every few weeks. I do know, however, that if I needed him, he would be here in less than 3 hours.

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Designer-Travel4785@reddit

My brother and I see each other several times a week. We try to have dinner together every Friday with our mom.

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OneBiscuitHound@reddit

Besties with my brother. My son and I currently live with my brother and his family while I’m transitioning to a new career. This is the third time we have lived together since we’ve been adults.

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Bunnylips2@reddit

I had 3 brothers, but one died several years ago. No that we are all getting older, we contact each other and visit fairly regularly.

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GoodDoctorZ@reddit

I get together at least monthly with my youngest brother and oldest brother. The brother between me and oldest don’t speak often and the brother between me and youngest passed away 5 years ago.

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DarkSad4202@reddit

I have three younger brothers. One, the closest in age to me, I was very close with until he got addicted to drugs and alcohol and stole from me and my entire family. He is in recovery, has been for about twenty years, but he moved to Florida and stayed. With the relationship already having been fractured before he left there was no opportunity to rebuild it. The next youngest lives in the next town over. We were never close. I actually ran into him at the grocery store last night. I saw him first and went up to him and said, “look it’s my brother!” He ignored me until I poked him in the arm with a potato. He then said, “I didn’t know that you shopped here.” I replied, “I shop here all the time.” He said, “good seeing you and turned and walked away.”

My youngest brother I get along with well enough, but he’s 11 years younger that me and recently moved 3 hours away and doesn’t even come back for holidays now.

So no, I’m not close with any of my siblings. I kind of wish we were closer.

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GrimFae13@reddit

I'm the middle child, 51. Older brother, 56, and younger sister, 44. We are very close. We're all super busy with our lives so we may not be able to see each other as much as we want, but we have a very active group chat going.

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Estilady@reddit

Im the middle child only girl with two brothers. Im close with my older brother. We live in the same town. Im not close at all with my younger brother. No animosity he just lives his life quietly and nothing wrong with that.

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Upstairs_Sign_7618@reddit

I’m also the only girl between two brothers. I don’t live near either of them but we text almost every day. Our parents are both gone.

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slr0031@reddit

I have a half sister 17 years younger than me. She is close to the other step sister who is also her half sister but not to me at all. They are closer in age. My dad had an affair with her their mother when I was 16 and it didn’t allow for us to have a relationship

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LordOfEltingville@reddit

My sister and husband live in the next town to me. I talk with her at least once a week and usually spend either Thanksgiving or Xmas with her and her family.

We occasionally catch a matinee movie together, happily taking advantage of our senior discounts.

Of course, we still still argue from time to time, or try to annoy each other like we were kids, but we get along just fine.

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jlhinthecountry@reddit

I have two sisters and we are thick as thieves. At one time we were not.My 2 sisters have always been very close. They are very similar in a lot of ways. I was always the odd man out. Are you feeling So, what brought us together? My adult daughter’s mental illness. (She is doing well now.) They stepped up in more ways that I can ever list. When I was at my darkest point, they were for not only me but also for my daughter.

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PrairieGrrl5263@reddit

My oldest brother's funeral is next week and I'm not going.

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Mscottlogan1979@reddit

1 younger brother who is an elder millennial, we talk almost everyday.

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MedicalWeb1587@reddit

After Mom and Dad passed…don’t really talk at all. Mom kept us together at the holidays…

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butterflieskittycats@reddit

4 siblings and we message every day. Get together every Christmas and anytime else. My parents made us promise to always be close and never get distant. It would be a disservice to our parents if we let stupid things get in the way of our blood.

I am very lucky. Not many have a family like I have. Grateful for them every day.

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Roadkiller611@reddit

I have one older brother, close in age. We haven’t spoken in years and don’t plan to. Meh. He’s a douchebag.

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Elliott2030@reddit

I have one brother and I think in 2024 we spoke (including in person) three times. Most years it's two. Occasionally 1.

I love my brother and my nephew, but we just have entirely separate and different lives in different states. I hope I can figure out how to be auntie to my nephew after our parents pass and we dont' have Christmas as an excuse to see each other, but it's going to take the most effort either he or I have ever put into our relationship LOL!

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Rude_Veterinarian639@reddit

My sister's and I are close. All in the same city, 5 minutes or less apart.

Frequently get together, talk daily, see at least weekly. Our kids are all close, too.

Parents gone.

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notabadkid92@reddit

I speak to & see all of my 5 siblings at different frequencies depending on how close we are. It is not always easy but we have worked out some big issues. We attend Thanksgiving & milestone birthdays for our parents & parties for the nieces & nephews.The oldest is the most challenging to have a relationship with but 1 out of 5 isn't bad. It could all be so much worse

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Auferstehen78@reddit

I have two older brothers who I only met in 2022. I moved so I could be closer to them and see them once a month at least.

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TimeTraveler1848@reddit

Wow, that must have been a surprise!

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Auferstehen78@reddit

It was for all of us! A DNA test that I took on a whim changed my life.

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montbkr@reddit

Same!

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Greenedeyedgem17@reddit

I talk to my Sister multiple times every day.

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Think_Welder3430@reddit

You are very lucky.

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MrChristopher23@reddit

I have two younger brothers. We were all adopted at birth. They are both absolute scumbags. I went NC with my mother a decade ago because she was defending them. I don’t miss them in my life, and no I’m not the problem.

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Bastilleinstructor@reddit

Im close to my older sibling. I am not longer close to younger one. Older one is older GenX. Younger one is youngest GenX, and a narcissist.

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ChickChocoIceCreCro@reddit

My brother and I talk every damn day.

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Former-Crazy-9224@reddit

Youngest of 7, see all my siblings on holidays and family parties multiple times in the year. Text daily with them in a group chat. 4 sisters and we talk even more. Talk multiple times a day with the 2 sisters closest to my age. Relationships have been a bit strained more recently among some as we navigate care needs of our mother. Only time will tell if we all can work through it.

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Retiree66@reddit

We have a group chat that sees a lot of vacation pics and grandkid videos. We see each other at Christmas, and at weddings and funerals, or constantly when the European brother comes to visit every few years.

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everettsuperstar@reddit

I dont talk to any of my sisters, all older and one gen x and two boomers. We have never been close and they are all life long karens.

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KaleidoscopeDry3608@reddit

We chat more via messenger but daily

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Tired_o_Mods_BS@reddit

Only child.

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Artistic_Energy_3617@reddit

I am close with my sibling. We don’t hang out often but no love loss and we have a ball when together

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GotchUrarse@reddit

I was 'removed' from my family when I was about 17. I spent 20 years by myself. I have spent the last 2-3 years rebuilding my family. It's just me, my brother, and my cousin. I created a family chat channel, engage with them every day. I even reached out to my hi-school girl friend (this one has mixed reviews). But my cousin, my brother and their kids ... that's a hill I'm dying on.

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Jude_the_obscurest@reddit

I rarely saw or spoke to my brothers. One i just didnt see eye to eye on anything, and the other one was just a recluse so hard to connect with. They both died, so can't change anything now.

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blarneybabe@reddit

I'm the oldest of 3 siblings (53, 52, 50). I've always been close with my sibling just younger than me but not with the youngest. For years we didn't speak much. Three years ago mom got sick and moved in with me for the 4 months she was in hospice. It was a tough time but it brought all of us together and we are in contact quite often now.

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Metal_Muse@reddit

Don't talk except for happy birthdays and "so and so is dead" texts.

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Salt_Anywhere_6604@reddit

It’s the way we were raised and very common amongst gen x. Exceptions are parents who loved unconditionally and did not compare their children against each other. We are doing things opposite Aa parents and making sure our kids know that we love them all the same and don’t favor anyone, and that we won’t tolerate them mistreating each other.

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CriticalOverThinker@reddit

Don't see them, not close at all, and dont care

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djl0076@reddit

I'm not close at all to my sibling's s and am very happy about it.

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Recent-Elfie991@reddit

I’m 53, sister is 7 years younger. We text every day, live about 10 minutes from each other, see each other about once a week xx

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Grand_Taste_8737@reddit

We are pretty close considering we live in different states.

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robertwadehall@reddit

I have an older sister and had an older brother, both boomers. My sister is 13 years older, my brother was 21 years older. I'm 55 now. Both parents gone.
My brother and I were fairly close when I was a kid up until I went off to college, then we drifted apart...as he got older he went to a downward spiral of dementia and schizophrenia and passed away a few years ago.

My sister and I weren't particularly close when I was a kid until I was in college. Then we became good friends, even living together for a while after her 3rd divorce, going to concerts together, etc. We are looking at buying a vacation home together, she is retired and spends 3-4 months a year down south to get out of the cold. Here in Ohio we live about a mile apart and see each other often, she looks after my dogs when I go on vacation.

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quantumsparq@reddit

My Brother (5 years older) lives pretty far from me. We text every couple of weeks.

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OhForFuckSake55@reddit

My(49F) older brother(52M) beat the shit out of me as a kid but water under the bridge. We text almost daily now.

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herewer4now@reddit

Rarely see my one sister that is 11 years younger and 3 hours away. I tried to text and invite out but she wasn't interested. So no relationship or closeness.

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IAmPerpetuallyGrumpy@reddit

I have two sisters and I haven’t spoken to them in about twenty years. Their choice. I have adult children who are extremely close, and I’m happy for them and a bit sad for me. I’ve accepted it, though.

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lorelie53@reddit

2 sisters, close to both. One passed last year from early onset Alzheimer’s. The other one lives a few hours away, but we talk almost every day.

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TreaclePerfect4328@reddit

Im 51m sister 3 years younger. Haven't seen or spoke in at least 15 years.

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StarsOfMine@reddit

Oldest of eight. I wasn’t close with them growing up and not now as an adult. I am pleasant if they are around. As they were growing into their teen years, I was not really around. there wasn’t much of a bond, so it’s been allowed to wither away and die.

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SaltMarshGoblin@reddit

I've been intermittently texting the group text with my mom and my sibling at work all afternoon. :) (Late 50s, mid 50s, and 90 years old, respectively)

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NihilsitcTruth@reddit

Only taked to my brother 3 times in 20 years. Hes a millennial, cut off my family his wife didn't like my mother. I just dont really care. Tried for 2 years to hang out and bond like 18 years ago but he made it clear it wasn't important. I just stopped calling.

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TitsMaGraw@reddit

I have a sister that is two years older. We always had a good/bad/good/ kinda relationship. I have always been glad I had a sister or a sibling. I don’t think I ever knew or hung out with a friend that didn’t have at least one. So now that I have had just one child and don’t see having another I almost feel like I let her down. But she married a man with a large family and I am happy that is the case. My husband grew up overseas and went to school in the U.S. young and left his siblings, they did the same so they are not close. We see them only at weddings…maybe.

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truth-in-the-now@reddit

My sister (3.5 years younger than me) lives a 5 minute drive from my place and we see each other frequently. We have always been close and I’m so glad I get to share this crazy beautiful life with her.

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hugatree2023@reddit

I have a lot of siblings because we are a blended family. We all grew up together from early on. I’m close to some and not as close with others. Blood doesn’t seem to have a bearing. We all really like each other but lifestyles and schedules mesh or they don’t. I’m in touch with a couple of them at least weekly, others monthly, others a few times per year.

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wormee@reddit

My brother never reaches out, I have to do all the work, it’s tedious. My sister and I talk but she’s kinda unstable so I never know when she’s going to freak out.

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Worried_Bullfrog_937@reddit

My sister and I are 2 years apart. We text almost daily. We get together for Christmas, Mother's Day, Father's Day, my birthday, her birthday, and then my son and both of my parents have birthdays a few days apart, so we celebrate all 3 of those at the same time.

I can't remember when or why we stopped getting together for Thanksgiving, but it's been several years since we did that...

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naja_haje_67@reddit

My sister and I are fairly close. We would be closer but there is a 10 year age difference. As a child she was more like a second mom.

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teddysetgo@reddit

I have 1 sister. I see her and her kids most days.

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Tondropper186@reddit

My youngest sister lives close by. We see one another fairly often and text frequently. My oldest sister I talked to once on the phone 38 years ago. I don’t even remember my two older brothers names. My sperm donor wasn’t close with any of his kids. Their loss because I’m fucking awesome.

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Educational_Fox2212@reddit

My oldest sister and I are close. The other siblings stole our dad’s life savings and used him as income when he had Alzheimer’s thru his pension. During this time they stole all the valuables in the house, his Mercedes AMG (which they gave to one of their kids who couldn’t even afford to pay the car insurance for it), raided the house of vintage stereo equipment and changed the will so that I was removed as the executor which was my mom’s wish because she knew I would be fair. Then they tried to steal the house after my dad passed. So no, I don’t speak with those evil people.

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TimeTraveler1848@reddit

I’m sorry, that’s horrible!!!

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Educational_Fox2212@reddit

Thank you. And terribly sad 😞

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Big-Chemistry5433@reddit

My sibs are narcissistic, materialistic, judgmental, ass hat boomers, so no contact at all.

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SpiritualMuffin2623@reddit

My only living sibling is a male boomer and I am a female Gen X and this is a major part of why it is difficult to have a relationship with him. Our parents were silent generation but only one of them left now.

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Patient_Character730@reddit

My brother and I are nine and a half years part in age, I am the eldest. What started as sort of a motherly role evolved into a deep friendship. He's been a huge part of my life, been an incredibly present and wonderful uncle to my two kids, when we moved to a new state nine years ago, he chose to leave our hometown and move to where we were and moved again when we moved across the state for a new job. He lives 45 minutes away and we talk weekly and get together once a month or so in person. I cannot imagine my life without my brother.

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wieldymouse@reddit

I don't talk to one at all. The other install to mostly when she needs money.

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favoritefinch@reddit

Not close growing up. Became close when our father got sick. Now we visit often and he is very dear to me.

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Pretty-Biscotti-5256@reddit

We have gotten closer now that we are older and both parents are dead.

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minimumraage@reddit

This post feels like it was written by an alien trying its best to masquerade as a human.

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bamagurl06@reddit

Why do you say this?

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New_Somewhere601@reddit

I have 3 sisters. The relationships ebb and flow. Sometimes I’m close to 1 and that slows down to me bonding with another.

I say God gave me 3 so when 1 is crazy I have 2 more to fall back on.

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MontgomeryQ@reddit

If I was alive, yes, I'd still talk to the other 5 siblings. Unfortunately, I was the first to go.

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Wide_Breadfruit_2217@reddit

Haunt them👻

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Bob_12_Pack@reddit

I have always been close with my younger brother and older sister. My brother passed 11 years ago at the age of 40. Me and my sister remain close, she lives a couple of hours away but we see each other frequently and talk on the phone as well.

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Tiny_Noise8611@reddit

Nope we're all split over Tramp...

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_genepool_@reddit

I speak to 2 out of 3 every week. My youngest sister is 18 years younger and we don't get along at all and no longer speak.

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TheSpitalian@reddit

I’m very close to mine. But I live 800 miles away, unfortunately. Hoping to move back soon though.

But growing up, not so close. There’s a big age gap. I’m the oldest & there’s almost 8 years between me & my first sib & 11 years between me & my youngest sib. So we weren’t close until they were adults. But we are super close now.

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Wide_Breadfruit_2217@reddit

Have a sis 2.5 yrs younger. Nothing bad ever happened but she's always been non family oriented. I've tried and still see her at holidays but nothing otherwise. I don't really care anymore. Almost wish she'd just be honest and stop. We have no other family or kids so not sure what'll happen in a decade or so.

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OkCalbrat@reddit

Nope. My sister is and always has been only concerned with herself. I haven't spoken to her in two years and before that we only spoke every year. I've actually only seen her 3 times in 15 years.

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NCLAXMOM26@reddit

Did I write this and not remember it ?My sister has her head so far up her own ass, surgery couldn't correct it at this point lol

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OkCalbrat@reddit

🤣🤣🤣🤣

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AdultinginCali@reddit

I have an older half brother and step-sister, and 2 younger half siblings. I only claim my step-sister as family. The others I'm related to them.

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Crafty_Original_7349@reddit

I’m estranged from them. They are all boomers and there’s a 15 year gap.

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Magerimoje@reddit

I'm a genX with all millennial siblings (10-20 years younger). I totally get it.

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Magerimoje@reddit

Not close.

There's 8 of them (4 from mom and stepdad, 5 from dad and stepmom). I'm 10-20 years older than all of them, and have absolutely nothing in common. Not only do we have different parents because they're all technically "half" siblings (I hate that term) but we all had different parents because by the time they came around, all 4 parents were finally starting to address their mental health to stop being monsters.

My parents were abusive and neglected. All my siblings had mostly kind, loving, gentle parents. And I've been accused of being a liar when I talk about the parents that existed for me before they were all born.

So, no, not very close.

Cordial with the 2 youngest though 🤷🏻‍♀️

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bonkersyeti@reddit

I have a younger brother and a younger half sister. I'm not close with either of them. I haven't seen or spoken to my half sister in years. I only see/ speak to my brother maybe once a year at family reunions.

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Impulsespeed37@reddit

I was a twin. He past from a heart condition - how many of you recall phen-phen or was it fen-fen. It was a very short lived weight loss drug back in the 90’s. It created holes in your heart. We were close (could talk to him about anything) but he was west coast and I was east coast. It just sort of happened that way, no intent. I miss him more as I’ve gotten older. We went through life together for 18 years and then it was phone calls. But like I said we could talk about anything together. It’d be nice to have a conversation like that with someone again. Fucking rat bastard. (Some of you will understand).

I have a half sister but I was 17 when she showed up and 17 yo males don’t usually have a lot to do with infants etc…. Plus, university was far from home. So we are not close. Also, she’s total far right and I am educated with a corporate background so I stay away from that kind of stuff.

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pokeysyd@reddit

We are a family of 5 - I’m the oldest (M), and two sisters. We are scattered all over the country and world.

I’m reasonably close to my youngest sister. We speak every 2-4 weeks. She even travels with me and my wife sometimes. The two of us and my parents is the most common family get together.

My other sister, the middle child, lives overseas. I cannot remember the last time I spoke with her. Last time I saw her was 11-12 years ago, which was the last time all 5 of us were in the same place. Don’t expect to see or hear from her again until one of my parents die. Don’t feel like I’m missing anything.

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dentalgirl74@reddit

I have one sister, she is three years older. She’s basically my best friend.

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CardinaLiz4@reddit

You're so lucky. My older sister is awful to me and always was. I have always envied sister friends.

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dentalgirl74@reddit

We had rocky years as kids/teens, but there was never hatred. We didn’t become close like we are now until she had her first child when we were 24 and 27.

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Professional-Bar9947@reddit

No contact for 11 glorious years with a short hiatus when our dad was passing and we needed to discuss his estate. She is a horrible person and I have zero regrets about cutting her off. I value my sanity.

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Square_Ad_4929@reddit

I’m very close to 2 of my brothers but still have a good relationship with the youngest. We do live a good hour and half away so we don’t spend as much time together as I wish we could. I’m sure each of us would give our life for the other. It breaks my heart to see splintered families; especially over the nonsense of money or politics.

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DameKitty@reddit

My sibling is a few years younger, and lives thousands of miles away. I talk to him frequently, and I always cheer him on with his latest thing on Facebook/IG. (He said the poetry puppet show was a lot of work but a lot of fun for everyone) I wish he lived closer, but he's thriving, so I'm happy for him.

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Witty-Ad9507@reddit

I have a half brother that is older. When our dad died I was 8. Due to some legal shit I had to find him 20 years later. He would not speak to me until the legal stuff was over. We talked maybe a hand full of times after then he went no contact again. A few years ago one of our cousins saw him and he asked her to give me his number. We talked a few times and once again he went no contact. Who knows he could be dead. I have not seen him since our dad's funeral. I am now 55. So, not even sure if I should count him as a sibling or not. All I know is after all the years of wanting a relationship with him I now have no feelings for him at all.

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corptool1972@reddit

Not close. I am youngest of 5 by far (I’m the only non-Boomer kid). I talk to one of my siblings, one is gone and the other 2 I don’t really share anything in common with since I didn’t grow up with them (they were gone to college by the time I hit preschool).

When we do get together, it’s just awkward and there is not really common ground for small talk for a group text. Only thing that kept us in touch was our parents and they’ve been gone for years.

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drinkslinger1974@reddit

I mean, we love each other, but we all have our own lives now. I’d love to go back to being kids or in our 20’s, always going to concerts, mingling with each other’s friends, but hey; that’s kind of life. At least that’s the life we grew accustomed to. We never spent more than three years in the same house, so we got used to making really great friends and then had to leave them when mom wanted a new house. That got us in the awful habit of severing our relationships for no other reason than not knowing how to handle knowing someone for more than a couple of years.

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Beautiful_Diver4180@reddit

There is ususally one sibling pushing for togetherness and that person is me and also my sister who recently passed away. We are all on a group chat so we are in touch daily - try to vacation together for long weekends with one sibling and spouse. It’s an effort for sure

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GrammyGH@reddit

My sister and I used to be very close. After the death of most of our family, we don't see each other much. Hoping to change that.

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Primary_Bid_8980@reddit

My God this post is depressing me 😮‍💨😔 it is my dying wish for my son's to be best friends, stay close & a constant part of each other's lives. I tell them all the time that the greatest gift I've ever given them is each other. One day their dad & I will be gone, but they will have each other & I pray that they will stay close & be a regular part of each other's lives, I want their kids to grow up together, I want them to spend holidays together, go on vacations together, I pray their spouses will all get along. If they do this, I can die happy & in peace 🥹

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Careless_Ocelot_4485@reddit

Walk the talk. It helps if parents model this behavior as their kids grow up. Lived examples are more powerful than any words or wish. My parents always said this but my dad spent my childhood fighting with his brothers (he cut one off for 20 years) and my mother’s family ganged up on one of my aunts, causing a decade long rift that never healed. I’ve had some revelations about my own siblings that make closeness more difficult if not impossible. We’ll see after my dad passes. He’s the glue holding things together for now.

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amnichols@reddit

I do this with my kids too. My son can be a pain but my daughter tolerates his attention neediness better than I do. Lol.

As they get older they like each other more. After my daughter broke up with her boyfriend I gave her a ticket to spend Christmas with her brother. They had a great time and my daughter likes his girlfriend a lot.

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Ok_Beautiful_773@reddit

It’s funny how much peace I have when all my kids are together. I agree with you and hope they stay close forever.

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MouthyOne74@reddit

100% yes. We live in different states so don’t see each other more than a few times a year, but we keep in touch over texts and social media (sending each other funny reels), and when we do get together it’s like no time has passed.

I’m very grateful to have this!

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restingkarenface@reddit

I don't talk to my family after my mother died.

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DiamondLight25@reddit

Same.

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yellowshoegirl@reddit

I had a sibling six years older and we were never close as kids so that relationship is zilch. I have a brother who I email here and there . I will say the death of my father and money fights led to the end of it

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MrsTruffulaTree@reddit

I have 1 sister who is also gen x. We live in the same city and are very close. We dont see each other often, but we text daily.

My husband and his siblings (all gen x) are pretty close, and we're in the same friend group. We all lived in the same city until his sister moved an hour away a couple of years ago. We have always been closer to his brother and see him a lot. We are not as close to his sister, even when she lived nearby. She's just different.

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Artistic-Degree-4593@reddit

I (f47) have 3 sisters and they are all my bbfs. We text regularly and have a standing "sisters' lunch" about once a month.

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Coffeeyespleeez@reddit

Nope. Not at all.

(the memory of chasing me down the hall with the frick frackin' clackers has left permanent damage -- and THEY KNOW IT).

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MikeyRidesABikey@reddit

My sister (56F) and I (59M) text almost every day and see each other every month or two.

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RikkiLostMyNumber@reddit

I have a sister I text with 2-3 times per week and see maybe twice a month and holidays. We are like the only two veterans of a war no one else knows happened.

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DarthTexasRN@reddit

This sub makes me so thankful on so many levels every damn time I open a post here.

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SWNMAZporvida@reddit

I have 3 older siblings, we have a group text and we talk pretty much every day about my mom since my dad died. We also have separate and individual texts talking to each other about different shit daily

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avidinha@reddit

I have 3 siblings, 1 older and 2 younger. I talk to the older 1 by phone weekly. The youngest I talk to maybe monthly (he has 3 elementary school age kids, so he's quite busy). The other one has mental health issues and has spent the last few years burning bridges like it's her job. I only talk to her about family stuff and I try to make sure I'm there for her kids.

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Party_Eye9396@reddit

I have one brother. He was physically abusive when we were kids, and an asshole to me as an adult. So nope.

However, I do have an ex-step-sister that I am very close to and we still call each other sisters. Having known her for 47 years, and after her dad and my mom divorced, she will always be my "sister from another mister".

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N46L3@reddit

Nope fuck him. He's famous and that created a narcissist.

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mnem0syne@reddit

Xennial with two Gen X sisters, one I’m close to and see weekly, we barely talk to the other though (middle child syndrome).

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Cold-Inside-6828@reddit

No and I think it’s weird. My kids are extremely close.

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marugirl@reddit

Oldest of 3, my brother who is 18 months younger hasn't spoken to me in 13 years, don't even know where he is. My sister, 9 years younger, lives in another country but we speak at least once a week. It's funny but growing up brother an I were close and I had little to do with my sister, but once she was an adult we became great friends.

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Known-Bar6711@reddit

Youngest of Three I speak to my siblings more now since my heart attack last year.

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pookieHOS@reddit

Haven't spoke to my brother in 3 years and haven't spoken to my sister in almost 10. best thing I ever did

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Feeling-Lavishness85@reddit

I don't talk to my brother. He's a narcissist and an alcoholic in denial and I got sick and tired of dealing with his bullshit so I stopped talking to him. The only thing that sucks about it is missing out on seeing his kids as often as I'd like. I still call and text them and go to their games/events, but we don't get together for family gatherings anymore and I miss seeing them. My kids are grown and my brother was never a good uncle to them in the first place, so they don't miss him at all. But I know my nephews and my niece miss me.

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ymm267@reddit

Sound like we have the same brother. 😏

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9inez@reddit

I am close with my sisters. I talk with them fairly often and see them more frequently than holidays, even though we live in 3 different cities.

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CanadianExiled@reddit

My sister informed me I was a heretic because I didn't support the same crackhead politician she did. I received a lovely email informing me I was dead to her. That was nearly 20 years ago, she sent me a text when my father passed away (we don't have the same dad) but otherwise I am still very much dead.

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CanadianExiled@reddit

I just remembered Reddit is very US centric, the politician she supported was Pauline Marois who was Premier of Quebec in 2012-2014.

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laurellestlaurent@reddit

Wow. Didn't expect this to be the politician.

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wildgift379x@reddit

I'm very close to my older sister, but don't have any relationship to speak of with my two younger siblings.

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battery19791@reddit

I was never particularly close with my siblings. I was seven when my brother was born and nine when my sister came along.

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SameDimension1204@reddit

One sibling. We communicate, needed, to discuss our parents health. No small talk though

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Proud_GenX_72@reddit

Very little. We all live relatively far apart, and I’m around 10 years older. I left my parent’s house when they were still young, so I don’t have a big relationship with them. I will text with my brother once in a while, but my sister is crazy, so I stay away.

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Cheap_Affect5729@reddit

my only sib died when I was 15. My spouse's - they talk maybe 2x a year on the phone (1 bro, 1 sis). We are west coast, they are east. They don't visit us and we have extremely limited ability or desire to visit them.

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heidiparthena@reddit

Only have one sibling and we are very close. Our nuclear fam (parents still alive but have been divorced for 35 years, though they are still very close friends) has a group chat that gets used pretty much every day. That said, my parents were the weirdos when raising us. All our friends had the typical uninvolved parents whereas my parents were very involved with us. More like today’s parents.

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Main_Protection6236@reddit

I am. Mostly because we had to deal with shitty step parents when our parents died. We talk weekly.

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Sensitive-Issue84@reddit

I was super close with my brothers. Until I was over their BS. Now I haven't talked to them in 8 years and am very happy. Now I talk to my sister weekly and don't worry too much, she's the easy one.

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Psychological-Lack98@reddit

I'm the youngest of six and some of my siblings are getting up there in age. We have a group text that is used pretty often. One brother lives about 60 miles away from me and we see each other pretty often. I know I need to do a better job of keeping in touch.

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RonSwanson714@reddit

Text brother regularly. Speak every other week. See him once or twice a year. He’s in Florida so visiting him between June to September is out for me. Lol

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pupper71@reddit

Similar for me-- we text almost daily, speak on the phone maybe once or twice per month, and see each other in person 2 or 3 times per year. It's only a 3.5hr drive but we're both busy, and that's kinda long for a day trip.

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DeeEnn72@reddit

I have one sister. We are 5 years apart in age. We were not close until our parents started having issues with dementia and we had to make decisions together. My parent named us co-POA, so all decisions had to be made with both of us. I am so lucky that my sister and I are of the same mind. Now we live in the same area and actually work in the same office, both taking care of dad in our “spare” time.

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tc_cad@reddit

I’m the in between person for my two sisters. They don’t talk directly to each other.

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jthmniljt@reddit

My sister is another state and she’s 2 years younger. We rarely talk no try but only get one or two word answers. It’s exhausting. I don’t speak to my half brother or half sister.

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giraffe-zackeffron@reddit

One of my siblings is a crazy, religious extremist. Like…this person has some absolutely nutty ideas about life. The other is a narcissistic, egotistical asshole who treats everyone like trash unless they’re rich and/or powerful. Needless to say, I realized a long time ago, they’re both super toxic and I don’t need them in my life. With both parents being dead, that leaves me with no family. But thats fine. My life is going just fine.

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KaitB2020@reddit

I haven’t seen or spoken to my siblings or my father since 1996.

Not really interested in going down that road either.

My life is just fine without them.

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redfyv@reddit

I talk to my brother about once a month and see him a couple times a year. We’d probably be closer but he lives half way across the country. We’re also in different places in our lives. Our kids are grown and gone and he has a middle school kid. But we both know that if a call came that we needed them, we’d be there.

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ThrowRAboredinAZ77@reddit

My brother, who was my very favorite sibling, died a year ago. My oldest sister and I have a complicated relationship, but we do talk regularly. The other 5 siblings I either like but almost never talk to, or I strongly dislike.

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Detroitdays@reddit

3 sibs close to 2.

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sunfish99@reddit

We're very different people, so not that close. We saw each other much more often in my parents' last years, but since COVID much less frequently - maybe every 2-3 months. My BIL barely speaks to me at all (political differences) so going over to hang out for a weekend has this underlying tension, anyway.

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Sorry-Government920@reddit

We have a running family group chat where we keep up with each other. We all within a hour of each other so we still do holidays we've always supported each other children by coming to games of school activities. We do a 4 day camping trip each summer. 3 of my sister spend a lot of time together

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Willing-Shape-7643@reddit

I've spoken to 1 of my siblings one time in the last 20 years. After mom and dad passed away my siblings decided it was finally time to let their homophobic flags fly. Prior to my mom passing away the only time I would see them would be at family gatherings. I have one 1st cousin that I'm still fairly close too but they live on the other side of the country from me and neither of us has the finances to travel very often so we mostly talk on the phone or keep up with each other through social media.

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AboveGroundPoolQueen@reddit

My brother and I are pretty close. We’re not gonna talk all the time but when we do, we talk about very real and deep things. We’re both taking care of my parents together, and helping to run their business together. So yeah, we’re close.

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Chemical-Donut3555@reddit

Don’t really talk to my siblings. We just turned out so different.

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Strict_Music_6870@reddit

After a 20 year absence when I only saw my sisters a couple of times a year, we all now live within a few miles of each other and work together to care for our parents. They are my best friends. The 2 older sisters are solidly Gen X, big age gap, then the 2 younger ones are elder millennial. All the same parents. Is it weird that we like each other?

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No_Entertainment670@reddit

My brother and I only text when we have questions or need to tell one another something He’s 5.5 yrs older than me so we don’t have a lot in common. Our sense of humor is completely different from one another

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Comprehensive_You42@reddit

4 of us, 18 years spread between the oldest and youngest, I’m slap dab in the middle.

We chat via WhatsApp from time to time, but only really Christmas & Birthdays

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Live_Today1943@reddit

I see my sister at funerals, we do not speak.

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GrookeyFan_16@reddit

My siblings are significantly older than me. They are all much closer because they grew up together. Most of my childhood memories are after they all moved on to college. We are at very different stages of life.

We text multiple days a week and visit when we can. We live pretty spread out so tend to only get together as a full group every 2-3 years.

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CommunicationHappy20@reddit

My younger sis and I haven’t spoken but 3 words since before COVID. She thought it appropriate to bully my young son in our mother’s house and couldn’t handle me putting my foot down. Bye, Felicia!

If this relationship mattered she would have tried to fix it by now. I don’t have the energy for managing her ineptitude at adulthood.

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orionblueyarm@reddit

Haven’t spoken to her in 7-8 years. She’s such a narcissist she didn’t even realize the first 5 lol

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LadybugCalico@reddit

I'm really close to my sister, we text almost daily, my younger brother I talk to every few weeks, my older brother I haven't spoken to in more than three glorious years

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Severe_Feedback_2590@reddit

Rarely speak to them. We never had a close relationship, just complete opposites. We’re 13 months apart. Even when I visit my parents, I rarely see her (both live in the same area 8 hours away from me.

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madtownjeff@reddit

Only weddings and funerals. My siblings are the grand parents of their own clans now. I'm just the eccentric great-uncle.

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EveryExplanation8084@reddit

Can’t speak to any of them. They are bullies.

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deleted_by_reddit@reddit

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GenX-ModTeam@reddit

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Weird-one0926@reddit

Less of them now, less concern for the ones remaining, low contact

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coachbrew32@reddit

I'm in FL, bro in KY and sis in PA . See my sis roughly 2 to 3 times a year. Haven't seen my bro in about 2 or 3 years, fortunately get to see him in about 2 weeks time now. Looking forward to everyone being together with our parents

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IamTheMan85@reddit

3 sibs. One an hour away, 2 out of state. Good relationship with one out of state. Little. To no contact with the other two.

Parents live between myself and the sib in state. They were much more active with the family until parents started having health issues and needed help. Then concocted accusations against the family (none with merit) to pull away. Really sad.

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Caspers_Shadow@reddit

Mixed bag. We all get along fine. Some I talk to regularly, some hardly at all. I initiate way more calls than anyone else.

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Kodiak01@reddit

Do you mean the one accused of diddling their own daughters for over a decade, and got away with it only because the prosecutors gave up after several mistrials (mostly hung juries)?

Or are you referring to the sociopath with past pyromania tendencies (used to light bath towels on fire on the kitchen floor) and a social skill set duller than the round end of a ball peen hammer?

If it's not already apparent, I have nothing to do with them anymore. I dont even know (or care) if those grifters are still alive.

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Consistent-Ad9010@reddit

Same , brother, what brother?! I am an only child.

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Kodiak01@reddit

My "Brother" is a close friend of nearly 30 years who has teamed up with me for many jobs worked together and even more adventures involving boats, motorcycles, strippers, convertibles, and more alcohol that could even begin to be tallied. He was also Best Man at my wedding, of course.

How did we meet? Standing in a bar at 21 years old, a mutual friend went "xxx? Meet yyy. He likes guns. You like guns. BYE!"

The rest is history.

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old-cigar-smoker@reddit

3 siblings still kicking. See 2 at Thanksgiving, the other I've only seen twice in about 20 years. 1 time was funeral. Talk to my brother once in a while, sisters occasionally. This is my family.

Wife talks to 1 sister at least once per day and other every other day.

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AdhesiveSeaMonkey@reddit

My sister and I live thousands of miles apart. But we text weekly, and talk about monthly. We see each other every few years.

Out of her, my brother, my mom, and dad, she is the only one that I ever really enjoyed the company of. Everyone else was fine, just not 'my people'. Like if I met them in a bar, we wouldn't be striking up a conversation.

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IRingTwyce@reddit

I'm a second only child. My sister is 16 years older. She has made a lot of poor decisions in her lifetime, cost my parents endless pain and money. She did some real shady shit to Mom at the end. Now that both my parents have passed I can finally cut her out of my life. Unless it has something to do with the estate (I am the trustee), I have zero contact with her.

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Glad-Pen5593@reddit

I'm a fourth only child; siblings were 18, 14 and 9 when I was born, and I lived overseas for most of my childhood and early adolescence. I've always been "the different one", and lately - as I approach my 60th year - it has become abundantly clear that my siblings will never consider me an adult. It's hurtful and frustrating but at least there's a 3,000 mile gap between where I live vs. where they live, and I rarely see them.

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ChiefinLasVegas@reddit

less is more. did I say that?🫢

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bbcahs@reddit

My sister and I are close. We live far apart so we don't get to spend much time in person. We talk and text regularly.

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Roger-Pedactor@reddit

If he was alive, yes. Most definitely

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whatsitallabout999@reddit

I'm the youngest of three. Talk and text often. See each other regularly though states apart. I can't imagine not being close to siblings. They're the only ones who get it.

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flowergirl818@reddit

I'm the middle. I text my older sister every day. I text my younger brother on holidays or if someone dies.

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Abject_Director7626@reddit

We text often. We both call our mom everyday, and she keeps us posted on each other. When my mom is traveling, healing, etc we call each other more.

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certaindarkthings@reddit

My brother and I are close, which I never expected growing up. My wife and I see him and my SIL and niece/nephew regularly, and we babysit often. On the flip side, my sister and I used to be super close and have drifted quite a bit over the last couple of years. I always thought it would be the other way around.

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ibis_4040@reddit

Talk about every other week (younger brother and sister) and do an annual family trip in the summer.

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Delicious-Tea-1564@reddit

Talk to my sister and 2 brothers every day and take a yearly trip together with our parents and all kids. I can't imagine not.

I also talk to my mom and her sisters a lot.

On the other hand my brother barely speaks to his sister and had said once his parents are gone they probably won't talk which I think is sad.

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szdragon@reddit

My sister and I started making extra effort for our kids, so they can grow up with their cousins. Our relationship developed from those efforts.

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Puzzleheaded_Rock700@reddit

Oldest of 3, dead dad, estranged mom, fucked up childhood. All we have is each other. I'm grateful everyday we talk, text, or get together.

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Patient_Decision_164@reddit

I'm number 4 of 8 (7 boys, 1 girl and she's the oldest). 10 years apart from oldest to youngest, so no huge age gaps except oldest and youngest.

Sister moved out of State basically immediately after high school and only vibes around for a few holidays. Besides, that everyone else is within 2hrs of each other from where we grew up. Most of us are pretty close and I'd consider most of them very close.

We still get together quite often and even if we don't, when we do eventually get together is like we're continue from where we left off. We have a lot of fun together (not perfect), but for the most part I'd say we're all very close. I couldn't imagine not having my brothers around.

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holdaydogs@reddit

I am low contact with both of them.

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MotherOf4Jedi1Sith@reddit

Haven't talked to my sib since my mother passed. We are both better off this way.

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steferz@reddit

Both sisters live out of state but are flying into town to hang with me next week!

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Winter_Ratio_4831@reddit

I read somewhere that if you're raised by narcissists, siblings tend to not be very close.

We had an alcoholic, abusive, narcissistic father and a kind and patient mother who wanted to avoid conflict of any sort at any time. Therefore, someone had to deal with a lot of it, and guess who that was?

They divorced when we were really young and my brother went to live with my father and my sister and I stayed with our mother.

My brother is not an alcoholic but his personality turned out very much like our father. He's On his fourth marriage with huge narcissistic personality traits. My sister, who died last month, was an alcoholic/addict and a train wreck her whole life.

Geographically when we lived near one another, we would get together sometimes for holidays. Just because that's what you're supposed to do. And we were as close as you would expect. But not really.

Fun fact, we were all three adopted from different people. We were adopted as infants through attorneys. So I'm always interested in that nature vs. nurture discussion.

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livingadailyhell@reddit

My much older sister and only sibling is a bully and lazy. I have been kind and generous and she is ungrateful and cruel. I don’t have anything to do with her anymore. She told everyone for decades that she has an illness and it turns out she lied. Just so she could be lazy. My parents have given her thousands of dollars. I have only helped my parents. Guess who they love more?

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ancientastronaut2@reddit

Sadly mine have all passed.

I was really close to my oldest sister when I was younger. She was twelve years older and like a second cool mom. But she moved away at 18 and I only saw her once or twice a year.

My middle sister and I had our ups and downs. Our mother liked to pit us against each other. By the time we realized that and started getting closer again, she passed away a couple years later.

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Fatenoir@reddit

Only child #winning

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Quix66@reddit

Youngest of four. The oldest is 11 months older than me. We all have different mothers except my late twin. Grew up in different cities. Not close but have begun to become sisters in our 50s.

My sisters have other siblings through their mothers. I list my twin and don’t have others so I’m functionally an only child.

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BatAnnual142@reddit

Five sisters , four brothers. Talked to them all the time!

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Acceptable_Mirror235@reddit

My brother has fairly severe autism , though his IQ is normal. I know it’s a huge spectrum and many people with it have close relationships, but in his case that’s difficult .

We do text regularly and I see him about once a month when I go back to my hometown to visit my parents . We get along fine . We’re just not really friends.

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Aggressive_Power_471@reddit

My little sister and I were not close. She is now passed.

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Sloth_grl@reddit

I am the youngest of 8. Three siblings have died. I gave 2 brothers that I don’t really talk to and a brother and a sister i am close too

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GlasgowGirl69@reddit

Middle child here. I’m very close to my older brother. We have no contact with our younger brother, it’s been about 14 years.

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Poultrygeist74@reddit

I have an older half brother and half sister whom I haven’t seen or spoken with in many years, not even when our father died. I guess I’m not worth their time.

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mishthegreat@reddit

I've got a half brother I grew up with that lives in the same town that I talk to and see regularly.

Half sister that brothers full sister that I see a few times a year but my wife talks to her regularly.

Half brother that I met later in life that I talk to though messenger most days and see occasionally but he lives quite a way away

Other half siblings that I see or talk to very rarely of never.

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Playful_Dust9381@reddit

Youngest and only girl. All three of my brothers chose careers (military) that required a lot of moving so I got to visit them in cool places for the past 30+ years, starting when I was in middle school.

Two of my brothers: We text regularly. Share pics. We travel together. We have calls where we all chat, spouses included, for over an hour - sometimes once a month, sometimes more, sometimes less. No one lives in the same time zone but we make it work.

Third brother? His wife doesn’t like us. Not sure why. I hardly talk with him though I try. Invite him on trips. We have family trips but his crew never joins. I wish I knew his children better and it makes me sad. They drop pics in the family chat from time to time, but I feel like I hardly know him. I know he’s a good man, a good husband, and a good father. But that’s all I know.

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23MagicBeans23@reddit

I oversee a business that my sister is one of the owners of. We didn't get along great as kids but ever since she moved out of the house (she's 5 years older) we've been friends and have always either been co-workers or I've worked for her. it's great.

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cudathepitbull@reddit

Not close at all. My sisters are six and eight years older than me. I was literally the oops baby. They had no interest in me. I wasn't close to them growing up and I'm not very close to either of them now. It's like we lived in the same house but lived separate lives

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theserialdeleter@reddit

Do not talk to them at all. They’ve never even met my kids.

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Soop_Chef@reddit

Older sister and brother. I am very close to my sister and pretty close with my brother. We have always been close. In the last few years, we have further bonded over care of our parents...selling family home, moving them to a retirement home and then dealing with the estate after they died.

I see stories about families fighting over estates and I just say, I'm so lucky. My brother was the executor (all 3 of us were named in the will, but my sister and I noped out with my brother's permission...he's retired). No fighting, everything got done with very little drama.

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recoveredcrush@reddit

Haven't talked to my family in a couple of decades. They wanted me to be an atm, not a family member

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Own_Fudge8296@reddit

I’m the oldest I have a younger sister and brother I grew up with same mom but they have different dad who my mom has been married to since I was ten . He’s my DAD. We three are super close. Then I have two younger sisters and younger brother by my biological dad. I am really close to the sister who is about ten years younger than me neither of our moms stayed married to our dad. We got close when she turned 18 and has a very close relationship with my children and I. The younger two were raised with biological dad their mother is still married to him. They are both young enough to be my children. The girl keeps in contact with my children the boy never really seemed to want to get to know me or my other sister.

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Weak-Frame-9976@reddit

Two borthers, both Gen-X and slightly younger than me. We live thousands of miles apart, across oceans. We get along okay but only ever text infrequently. It's been more than twenty years and we just no longer have much in common

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onebadassMoMo@reddit

One of each, one older & one younger. They both moved up north about 30ish years ago. He and I do not speak, she and I speak when she calls. I love them, I don’t see them though.

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mumtoant@reddit

I'm not super close to my sister. We were five years apart in school, so I was out of high school before she started. We talk or text every few months to catch up, and we both know we'd be there for each other if ever needed, but that's about it.

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b_o_m@reddit

I have one younger sister, 7.5 years between us. We were never close and in fact she was a primary reason for me distancing myself from my family at about 14 and leaving home for good at 19. I suspect (now) that she had (has) severe mental issues that have never been diagnosed or treated, but as kids I just thought she was a monster. Prone to rage and violence at the drop of a hat...and that's just the tip of the iceberg. Our dad worked 10-12 hours a day, 6 days a week and didn't see what was going on and our mom was totally out of her depth and didn't know what to do with her, so it just festered for years. It was a bad scene to say the least.

We live about 850 miles apart and that suits me just fine. We exchange text messages at birthdays and that's pretty much it. She came down for my daughter's wedding last year and that was the first time I'd seen here in maybe 7-8 years. We were cordial and all, but I haven't spoken to her since, and it's been a year now.

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No_Parking_4195@reddit

Not so close. I have four. One lives about 50 miles away, one is maybe 200 miles away, and two nearly 500 miles from me. I hardly ever see the nearest one, and I see the other three about the same as each other. Meaning when someone is very ill, dying, in need, or at funerals. Those of us that stay in touch are still FB friends. The other one chose to separate himself, so I stay in touch with his family, but not him.

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Holkie75@reddit

I have an older sister... we rarely interact. She lives about 30 minutes away. I love her but we have little in common and I'd rather spend my time/energy on my marriage & friendships.

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TheOriginalSnoticus@reddit

Same. We live in different states but really only wish each other happy birthday by text. It’s not that I don’t like her or vice-versa, we just have our own lives.

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user710827@reddit

1 sister she’s an older GenX and I’m a younger GenX. We are very close. I talk to her at least once a week to catch up, we text each other often and try to get our families together at least once a month.

We’ve always been close but coordinating things with our father gives us even more reason to talk.

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mmmmmarty@reddit

No siblings, no first cousins. I'm an only of two onlies.

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Carinyosa99@reddit

That's hard. I do have a brother, but I have no first cousins as well. My dad is an only (he was adopted and my grandparents were lucky to even get him). My mom had two brothers, but neither had kids. I have very few 2nd cousins as well.

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Oh-THAT-dude@reddit

I’m the oldest. I have a sister and brother. We all live in different places, so staying in touch is not high priority, but we get along fine and message each other from time to time.

I live in a different country than they do so it will be a while before I feel comfortable crossing borders.

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NoCartographer3974@reddit

Younger sister, older adopted brother. We used to all be friends when we were younger, got older, I moved out. Mom turned me into a villain. Then right around covid my sister and I reconnected A LOT more. And talked almost all the time. Now we talk near daily and are good friends again.

My brother pops up when he has food questions or wants to check in. Or if I am visiting town I check in with him.

I have step siblings that I don't really talk to but we were never close and theres drama there.

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Carinyosa99@reddit

I only have one brother and I see him frequently. We live less than 5 miles apart. My mom lives in his house and I go over there frequently because I take her to her appointments.

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tanukis_parachute@reddit

Only child. Sometimes a blessing…sometimes a curse.

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maxsam5150@reddit

I think it’s more of a curse the older we get. We have no one to share decisions with about our aging parents. And as our parents pass so do our childhood memories that as only child, only you experienced them, no siblings to continue to talk about the memories with.

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CarlatheDestructor@reddit

I'm pretty close with my older sister. My oldest sister has a personality disorder and I don't have anything to do with her or her family anymore (although my youngest nephew is always welcome). One brother died when I was in high school but we loved each other. The oldest brother: we have a shallow polite relationship but he knows what he did even though he seems to have everybody else fooled or cognitively dissonant. So, no.

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FlowerGi1015@reddit

2 younger brothers. I only talk to my youngest brother. We talk and text all the time. We see each other during all holidays. We both cut off our toxic middle brother.

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Agent-TC@reddit

I have 13 half sister and brothers, I haven't had any conversations in over a decade.

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BuccoFever412@reddit

5 siblings, and I talk to none of them. When my dad died, then his mom passed (my Nana), 4 of them showed their true colors. The color being green, greed, what can they pillage and take. My youngest sister thinks she’s better than us, and resents me for being close to our mom, even though she chose to move away at 18.

My life is much better without them.

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KingPabloo@reddit

Two brothers, one I talk to multiple times a week, the other multiple times per year.

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Pretty_Couple_832@reddit

I avoid my sibling. She is a narcissist. Very toxic.

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Depression_Betty@reddit

Several siblings. Contact ranges from occasional to rare. Maybe they talk more to each other? I don't even know. I guess I hope they do.

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Auslander808@reddit

Haven't spoken to my brother since a funeral 30 years ago. My life is better for it.

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Despises_the_dishes@reddit

I would do anything for my siblings. Like I wouldn’t snitch on them close and wound help bury the evidence close.

I don’t talk to my brother but a few times are year, we don’t see each enough but we try to catch up when we can.

I talk to my sister a few times a month, text, calls, instagram etc. We have a good close relationship.

Plus our mom gives me updates on everyone a few times a week.

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Puzzleheaded-Focus12@reddit

I’m considering myself very very lucky. My brother and I weren’t close growing up at all. But we were all we had really. Now, his family is 30 minutes away, we talk at least once a week, our kids are close to each other, we share holidays together, vacation together. Yeah, we were determined to give our kids what we didn’t have. And it’s pretty great.

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rahah2023@reddit

My kind brother died & I stay in contact with his widow & kids. My other brother is busy owning the “libs” and because I want food & health care for all who need he has labeled me a “lib” so family gatherings are inane small talk… I connect with his wife and kids too

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Working-Arm-6896@reddit

I am very close to one and we see each other about 6 times a year (we live six hours apart). I am estranged from the other and havent seen him in ten years.

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notbossyboss@reddit

I’m the youngest and the scapegoat. Needless to say it’s not great.

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Anonymo123@reddit

52m, brother is 55 living a few states away. See him every few holidays, maybe. His new wife is a total c#!t and I refuse to be around her anymore. When we were young he was never super interested in me so i grew up by myself and am fine with it.

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Open_Appointment1091@reddit

We were despite our 4 year gap. But then he went to prison.

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bostyluv@reddit

Unfortunately my one younger brother is deceased and while we were close as kids he went down the path of addiction and we lost touch until it was time for me to bury him and I hadn't seen him in the 20 years prior. I don't have a meaningful relationship with my other ( 1/2) brother because we weren't raised knowing each other.

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jessper17@reddit

I have two brothers. I talk to one of them almost every day and I haven’t talked to the other one since last August. The last time I saw either of them was in December of 2024. I live 2.5 hours away and it’s kind of a hassle to visit in person.

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Individual_Check_442@reddit

My brother and I used to be quite close, we were even roommates in our first apartment away from home but unfortunately some things happened and we don’t get along that well anymore. I don’t want to be completly estranged, I text or call or see him sometimes but mostly keep my distance

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Samegenxgirl@reddit

I had one brother. We hadn’t spoken in about 10 years. Found out he passed away in June. He was 45. I found out he had tried to reach out to me but I didn’t get the message on time. I blame my mother. She was drunk her entire pregnancy. She rode a roller coaster that sent her into early labor. I’m only 15 months older than him. She treated us like shit our entire lives. I’m glad I got out but I wish I could hav helped my lil bro. Rip Pete. And as for Peggy get fucked!

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Chance-Definition567@reddit

I don’t speak with my siblings and haven’t for a few years now. We share the same mother but different father. I cut them off when they continuously started referring to me as their half sister and their siblings with their dad as their real siblings. This would come up around their own respective spouses and adult kids whenever they referenced a get together they’d had. I didn’t fuss or argue about it because they chose this and it’s how they prefer it. I stopped making the effort and nobody spoke to me or texted me for 3 years. I got a random text message from my sister (a gif) of a flower pot that said sorry so late happy Mother’s Day. It was July. I didn’t reply I didn’t argue and nobody has bothered to reach out so I know I made the right choice for me. I don’t miss them, I don’t feel that loss of connection or anything.

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LDawnBurges@reddit

My brother and I are not very close. I was recently surprised to learn that he had a ‘perfect’ childhood, while I confessed to doing things that HE did, so that I’d get beat instead of him. I left home at 15…. And he was only 10-11 when I left. Just weird to me that he didn’t remember the abuse or wasn’t subjected to it once I left home. 🤷‍♀️

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samizdat5@reddit

Not do surprising really to me. I take it that you're female? Gender double standard is the oldest parental bias - my brother got away with everything while my sisters and I were published for much more minor infractions.

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Ineffable7980x@reddit

I have 2 brothers and a sister. I'm very close to my sister. We talk or text every day. My one brother who lives locally I talk to at least once a week. My other brother lives halfway across the country and has for 25 years. We get along fine, but we only talk once every few months.

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TraditionFearless165@reddit

Very close but we don’t live close to each other so it’s all phone calls and texts apart from a few visits a year.

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Sheik5342@reddit

Lost my brother but we were close until he died. My sister and I text most days.

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cheweduptoothpick@reddit

I’m close with my brother only. We talk every few days but share memes several times a day.

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Confirmationbias10@reddit

I guess there is an A list and a B list. My situation is VERY strange though. I have an older half brother that has a different mother so we never grew up together and I had almost 0 contact with until our dad died. My mom remarried and my stepdad has 4 kids. I am close to one of those kids and I am very close to my half brother (see him pretty often). We all live in different places so it makes it pretty tough to get together other than holidays and I don't like them enough to schedule a vacation to go visit them lol.

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ChavoDemierda@reddit

I haven't spoken to any of my siblings in decades. I talk to my mom, but she's it. Once she goes, we're in the wind. I don't hate my brothers, I just don't find it necessary to speak to them.

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TheresaB112@reddit

I have one sister (full sibling, we have two half sisters from Dad’s first and third marriage- Mom was marriage 2; unfortunately both those sisters have passed) and we are close. We see each other 6 - 8 times a year and speak on the phone a couple times a month.

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Finding_Way_@reddit

Our relationships as adults have been very much defined by elder care.

I'm closest to my one that lives out of town! I've done the bulk of elder care and though states away, that sibling constantly checks in (to encourage not to judge), comes to town and encourages us to go on vacation and do fun things for ourselves, and manages all they can remotely. We've grown very close through this crazy journey. And thougg years apart, we have similar temperaments and personalities.

My sibling who lives physically closest to me I get along fine with on a surface level, but we have very very little in common and totally different lifestyles.

My other sibling is one I can talk with about deep issues and we have some shared interest. But we have very different lifestyles. That, coupled with the fact that they have been basically impotent in helping with our parents has made that relationship less productive than I think it could be. The lack of involvement has completely destroyed their relationship with the other two siblings. They've labeled that sibling as simply selfish.

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Noodnix@reddit

I have two boomer siblings. I send them birthday cards and a fruit basket at Christmas.

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No-Reward8036@reddit

I haven't spoken to my half-sibling in 20 years. I am just waiting to hear that he has died. He didn't tell me he was dying, but he allowed his wife to contact me and tell me. As you may be able to tell, I'm not that bothered.

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Metalpausequeen@reddit

My younger bro is one of my favorite people. We bond by going to rock and metal shows together several times a year. We are very different people, but we get along great. We text each other every Sunday while we watch football. I’m also very blessed that since he and his wife have no children they are amazing to my sons. My youngest even looks like my brother. I am equally grateful that he checks on our widowed mother once a week. She’s a challenge, so I know it’s not easy.

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Swiftiefromhell@reddit

Nope unfortunately we don’t talk due to my mother narcissism.

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Anxious-Dare-8116@reddit

best friends close friend see yearly deceased but used to talk monthly

4 siblings. 4 relationships.

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pacifistpotatoes@reddit

I am the youngest of 5. I am closest to my oldest sibling who is 15 years older than me. Probably a lot of that is proximity, as we live about 30 min apart, but we have grown a lot closer as I have become older. I dont ever talk to the other siblings, maybe happy bday/christmas for one of them. They also dont speak w my parents much or visit ever. My sibling & I joke how the first & last are the best lol.

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Stephvick1@reddit

My sister and I are fairly close, we talk just about every weekend. I see her every couple of years, we live far apart.

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Majestic-Active2020@reddit

Not terribly close. But they (2 brothers) have some views of the world that are far from mine.

In the end, blood of the covenant is thicker than the water in the womb. Just because you grew up with someone doesn’t mean you have any real connection out of serendipity.

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blackcurrents78@reddit

I can count the times we talk per year on one hand. The same can be said for the rest of my family outside of my cousin, who’s my best friend.

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xxxbrimstonexxx@reddit

Older brother, we live about 20 min apart. Havent him seen in years. Funerals only, if he decides to show up. He showed up for my wedding reception, but not the wedding because his church had a softball game that conflicetd. He is in one of those culty-all your life are belong to us-baptist churches, so hardly associates. Which is fine... i didnt really like him growing up, so its nice to not have to pretend as an adult.

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Disastrous-Food-9223@reddit

I spoke to my brother for 20 minutes in 2010.

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kindcrow@reddit

Close to two, one's dead, two I don't bother with.

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TallStarsMuse@reddit

We are all over the country. We maintain a family chat and see each other when we can, maybe once a year.

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FelisCattusThree@reddit

I’m 54F. My older siblings are 70F, 67M, 66F, 63M and 59M. I was extremely close with 67M for many years but life events pushed us apart. We still get along very well but we lost the closeness we once had.

I’m closest to 66F. She is amazing and I utterly adore her. I called her yesterday just because I needed to hear her voice. We ended up talking for two hours. We see each other as often as we can and we’re never bored in each other’s company.

70F was my primary caregiver from my birth until I was nearly 3 years old. She still refers to me as her baby. My relationships with my other two brothers ebb and wane, depending on how our lives are going.

I love my siblings very much. I don’t know how I’ll cope emotionally if I’m the last one left. They took care of me more than our toxic and abusive mother did. There’s drama between my brothers so two don’t speak to one. But I think if it came to a matter of life or death they might still help each other. We have a bond forged through surviving our abusive parents and it’s a bond no one else truly understands.

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Reader47b@reddit

We live 20 minutes apart. We hang out about 5-7 times a year: Thanksgiving, each other’s birthdays, 2-4 random occasions. We text on occasion. Never talk on the phone. I know he’s got my back if needed.

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Maximum-Still-2484@reddit

2 brothers and 1 sister. I’m the baby by about 8 years. We text each other every so often mostly on holidays. No animosity with each other but not super close either. It is what it is.

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bellePunk@reddit

My brother and I are pretty close. We relied on each other a lot growing up and got our first apartment together. We live about 300 miles apart, but visit frequently. He always sends me hilarious videos.

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Firm_Accountant2219@reddit

I’m semi close to my sister. She lives 2.5 hours away. We don’t see each other monthly, but we talk every two weeks or so. Just checking in more than anything else. We’re on opposite sides of the political divide these days so that makes it harder, but we’ve even found ways to talk about that.

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Helpful-Show-1536@reddit

Mine lives out of the country for the past few years. Still see him 2-3 times a year when he comes back. Throw in some messaging every other month. Not super close, but no animosity. Just different lives.

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j2142b00@reddit

I've always been close with my siblings. Brother lives a State away so we'll get on the phone and yap for about an hour every other week. Sister lives close so we go grab dinner or I watch the niece when she needs some time off.

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Caloso89@reddit

One sister, four years younger. We talk or text nearly every day.

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DagnyLeia@reddit

This all makes me feel less alone. I literally thought I was the only one who wasn't close to their siblings.

I mean we are fine...but it's like...eh.

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Crowley123456789@reddit

I’m the product of divorce. One step brother I have not seen or heard from in 30 years, and the ones on the other side I have not seen in almost 20 years. None of us live anywhere near each other.

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Adventurous_Focus760@reddit

I’m the baby. Oldest is my brother, he lives a half hour away & we still text on a regular basis. My middle sister & I text constantly…lol…

I do see them, but would like to see them more often especially as we all get older.

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This-Assumption4123@reddit

My brother died at 5 leukemia but I see him sometimes in my dreams, my sister died four days after her 34 birthday (brain aneurysm I had to turn off life support) and sometimes I see her in my dreams as well. It’s getting harder to remember their voices what they sounded like but when a hear someone cackle laugh the way she used to it makes me smile.

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QuietCakehorn@reddit

So sorry for your losses.

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This-Assumption4123@reddit

Thank you. Gone but never forgotten.

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Vermonter-in-Exile@reddit

I haven’t lived with my brother since the late 80s. I’m 52 now. We love each other but aren’t close.

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SpaceGrass_500@reddit

I live 8 miles from my younger sister, if we talk or see each other once a year it's a surprise. We find out what is going on with each other through our mom. No issues or animosity, just two very different people with very different lives.

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WTF_People__Grow_Up@reddit

I have 5 brothers and 1 sister(she's the baby of the family). We're all old now and still live close to each other. My self and one of my older brothers see each other once or twice a month. The others I see at Christmas. Kind of a sad thing but it's been that way for years.

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mikeisfree11@reddit

one sibling O pretty close to, 1 i see about once a year and the other i havent seen or talked to in about 5 yrs.

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MichHiker@reddit

Older sister and brother who have both moved out of state years ago when I was under 18 living at home. We text Merry Christmas and Happy Thanksgiving every year. They're nice people I suppose.

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RaisinFresh7318@reddit

2 brothers- I talk to one almost every day, the other one, maybe 2-3 times per year. Also a bunch of step-siblings and only talk to them at holiday gatherings.

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Hungry_Spring_9079@reddit

I have one sibling. He is a criminal. We are not close. Not even a little. I was in law enforcement.

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Vylnce@reddit

I see my brother (and his kids) maybe once a year if we travel there. I call him every two weeks or so. He answers and/or calls me back every six months or so.

There is no animosity, we get along well when we talk or hang out, we just....don't much.

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Myfanwy66@reddit

I’m an only child.

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Ummbnb@reddit

I’m not not close with my brother. we don’t talk regularly but we do see each other a few times a year, even though we live in different parts of the country. he’s not a talker, never has been. we’re both outdoorsy and athletic so we’ll go on hikes, bike rides, etc. and barely talk….but enjoy each others company.

my husband is the youngest of six and they are all very close. one of my happiest newlywed moments was getting added to the sibling chat thread ❤️. they’re all awesome and since we live in the same city, we see each other a lot.

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Shibboleeth@reddit

My two eldest half sisters are deceased.

My youngest half sister (opposite ends of GenX with me on the younger end) is not a fan of me. I do alright relating to her wife, but even that's usually pretty tense (I was chastised by her for trying to get help with mental health issues).

So, I will send them birthday and holiday texts and that's about as close as we get.

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mecanmewill@reddit

Mine passed just shy of 40. 🥺

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New-Geezer@reddit

My older sister (boomer) never wanted anything to do with me and moved across the country as soon as she could. I see her a couple times a year.

My younger brother and I are a little closer and he lives a half hour drive from me, and I see him a couple times a year.

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RevToy@reddit

Talk to my baby sis pretty regularly. Other sisters now and then. Wrote off my brother. Got tired of him telling me his opinion on how I live my life.

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Black_Pill_Oh@reddit

Just weddings and funerals. A lot of half siblings and none of the adults really made a big deal about us bonding. We've all built solid and robust support systems so it's good enough just to keep the connections loose but positive.

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CrazyCatLadyNL@reddit

One sister and not close at all. It used to be quite good, but then we became adults.

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SlackPriestess@reddit

My younger brother was killed in a car accident when we were teenagers. My sister is much younger and we were never close. We text about 1-2 times a year now.

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Junior_Statement_262@reddit

that is awful, I'm so sorry.

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Junior_Statement_262@reddit

I wasn't super close with my sister, but since a bunch of parental health emergencies, we've grown much closer.

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biggcb@reddit

Reasonably close. My oldest lives like 5 minutes away, so see him quite often.

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Glum-Book-459@reddit

One dead, one that we have had no communication in years, and one I see and talk to all the time.

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bigfancydelta@reddit

'81 model here. I was an only child until I was 10, sibling was born in '91. We are very close, speak/text every few days, try to hang out/spend time together a couple times a month.

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Antique-Ant5557@reddit

Nah, mine betrayed me too many fun times.

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Crafty-Recognition40@reddit

My twin brother (fraternal) is my boss, I live around the corner from him, and he is my best bud. My younger sister lives downtown but I see her regularly as well with my older brother! We have a family group text/chat so we are all always chit chatting about something. fwiw I'm 50.

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PhotographAfter7171@reddit

The sibling that I was least closest to passed away in 2021. I'm very close to my brother although he's lived in another country for the last 30 years but we are still very close and see each other as often as possible. My other sister lives in another state and she and I are very close as well. The three of us will be getting together in May. I'm very thankful for them.

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Shhted@reddit

See them as often as schedules allow. We try to do one sibling weekend trip each year together.

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Objective_Joke_5023@reddit

Close to one, who lives far away, and have gone no contact with the one who’s local.

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ptindaho@reddit

Close but we live pretty far away, so sometimes it could be months between texts and calls or sometimes we will plan a trip together, etc. there are 5 kids in my family. I think my 2 older sisters (kids 3 and 4) are the closest to each other. I am the youngest, and my oldest brother is technically a later Boomer (but much more GenX by how we were raised, etc.) I was born in 79, so late GenX.

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N47881@reddit

Siblings are dead

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lefty1117@reddit

My sister and I battled all the time as kids and are best buds now

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phunkmunkie@reddit

Very close. Don’t see each other too often, but we talk and would do anything for one another

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Sheshley@reddit

Oldest brother - no one talks to him. Two sisters and I check in with each other regularly.

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Repulsive-Media1571@reddit

I am the sister of two millennial brothers who are 6 and 8 years younger than me. We all get along and interact regularly in the family chat. I see my youngest brother and his family at least once a month since he lives in the next town over. Our middle brother lives out of state, so we don't see him as often. When we do all get together, we joke and play video games.

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sixfootredheadgemini@reddit

Estranged

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LAKingSteve@reddit

2 brothers that are 6 and 8 years older. One is in Idaho (I’m in so cal) and I speak to him frequently enough. The second lives 20 minutes away and I haven’t seen or spoken to him (only text) in over 2 years. Our different political beliefs, things he posts on social media, and the way he treated family has clearly driven a wedge between us.

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simply_mea@reddit

I'm 3rd of 6 children, all close in age. The oldest to youngest is separated by 9 years. 4 of the 6 live within a few miles of each other and gather at my parents home at least monthly. 5 of the 6 see eachother 6 times a year on average.

Then there is me. I went no contact with my parents and 4 siblings over a decade ago. I have 2-3x yearly text exchanges with one sibling. I haven't seen any of them face to have since 2009.

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I-used2B-a-Valkyrie@reddit

The brother I was closest to, he died 13 years ago next month. Nothing has been the same since.

I have a stepbrother and two stepsisters, they do not speak to me, my mother, my half sister, or their father (technically my stepdad but he’s been my Dad for over 30 years.)

My half sister and I text on birthdays and our kids’ birthdays, and see each other every few years at a funeral or a wedding, but we aren’t close. I am much older and left home before she turned 3. 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Jas62021@reddit

I’m the eldest of two daughters by 4 yrs We had two completely different experiences growing up. And have nothing in common. She was my second bully. Mom was my first.

I went no contact with her several years ago. And low contact with my mother

At this point my sister and I only see each other at funerals. I see my mom a few times a year and speak with her once a week

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Sheweb@reddit

I have two older sisters, one lives about an hour away and the other lives in the US. I am closer to the one in the US, but don’t see her often. I have had a tenuous relationship with the one that lives closer, so we don’t really see each other.

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Joyjmb@reddit

Youngest of six here. I overheard my mom say to friends once "They not only love each other, they LIKE each other. And that might be our greatest achievement. Not sure how we did it tho." She's right. There's no discernible reason. We just do, and we ARE. SO. LUCKY. See them all at least quarterly, all holidays, post pictures to the sibling chat (*we established during Covid and kept going) when we travel, and I could call any of them if I were in trouble.

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jasper_bittergrab@reddit

OOC, how many cousins in your kids’ generation?

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whippy_grep@reddit

I’m just jumping in to say 26 first cousins from both sides in mine, with 7 gone too soon.

My son has 9 on both sides.

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Dost_is_a_word@reddit

I’m one of 6 kids. I do not speak to my older sister because she has some sort of mental illness maybe narcissistic? She definitely has the look at me going on.

The rest, okay using a number to delineate who’s who.

See above
Me!
Used to visit her once a year, no more, inertia?
Rarely talk or text, she has a small kid mine are adults so she’s busy.
She has a brain injury at 19 and never worked again.
My brother talk fairly often and he is the king of short story long.

Last time we were all together, 2014, when mom died.

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Mamatiger85@reddit

I love my little brother (9yr my junior), but we live very separate lives 2000mi from each other. We send holiday texts and birthday greetings, but I've only seen him once in the past 25 years.

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MissManda237@reddit

I was the 3rd out of 4 children. My older brother passed before I was born, leaving the oldest, my sister to be an only child for 3 years. Then when I was 7 my little sister joined us. She too has passed. My older sister once told our father that she should have been an only child. Meaning I should have not been born. My dad wonders why I dont talk to her, amongst other not nice things she did to me in my childhood.

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Individual-Fail4709@reddit

My mom and her sister were 11 years apart. My mom was basically her mother. She didn't get to have a normal teenage experience. Haven't seen my aunt since 1995. Thank goodness I didn't have the same.

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OkSet1048@reddit

I see him every day. I'm 45 and he's 44 (1.5 yrs apart). He's really the only living family I have left and he's a bit of a loner. So I make sure to get eyes on him daily.

you really never stop being a big sister.

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MountainTomato9292@reddit

My sisters and I are very close. We have a group chat that includes my mom and then one that’s just us. We live in different states but see each other at least a few times a year.

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FluidFisherman6843@reddit

I've got 2 brothers. One, I keep in touch with and txt with multiple times a day. He had a cancer surgery and I spent a month across the country to help his wife deal with his recovery.

If I never spoke to my other brother again, it wouldnt really impact my life. There is no hard feelings. He is just someone I don't care to be around and have absolutely nothing in common with.

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TexasBurgandy@reddit

I haven’t spoken to mine in over 15 years, don’t even know if I will if she makes the mistake of coming to a funeral

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Individual-Fail4709@reddit

We get along fine. See him several times a year. Different values, but we make it work. His wife is another story.

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chocolateandpretzles@reddit

My sister and I were extremely close growing up and she’s 6 years older. I went to college and got an apartment 3000 miles away and thought since she is living at home with our parents she could move out and live with me. Shit went downhill from there and we had a major falling out because of a lot of lies. She told me and eventually we worked it out said what we needed to say and got back to being sisters that being said our relationship is nothing like it used to be and it is literally all her fault and she knows it. Our phone calls are few and far between, but we do text and she is the primary caretaker of our parents so I am definitely a sounding board for her when she needs it because I am still 3000 miles away and she lives next-door to them. I am married. I have a family she is single no family. It just seems to work out this way I miss the relationship that we used to have. Unfortunately, she screwed it up big time she made her apologies and I accepted them because she’s my sister and I love her, but it really screwed up my view of how she is. Things have gotten so much better. It’s been almost 30 years, but it still sits in the back of my head for some reason.

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agonypants@reddit

My brother (3.5 years younger) and I were absolutely vicious to each other growing up. We are very different personalities. But...we've both mellowed a little as we've gotten older and even though we live in different parts of the country now, we talk pretty regularly via FaceTime - about every 2 or 3 weeks. We'll often talk for hours at a time. We both see eye to eye on nearly every important issue, so that helps. We don't see each other very often in person given the distance, but we love each other as brothers should. I'm glad he's in my life.

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Best_Talk_6853@reddit

Can't stand my older brother and haven't interacted with him in years. Deeply lazy, selfish, and manipulative. Games the system hard bc actually working for a living is obviously beneath him. Fortunately he doesn't have kids so he's mostly only ruining his own life.

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GboyFlex@reddit

I'm the youngest of 4 and they're all 10 to 14 years older than me. Once my silent gen mom passes (I'm her caregiver) I'm going no contact. They drained the life and finances out of our parents and I was left to pick up the pieces. They can rot.

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gangofone978@reddit

Sorry you had to deal with that, but hell yeah on your plans to go no contact.

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GboyFlex@reddit

Thanks, yea it's the only way to keep what's left of my sanity.

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kiki_4495@reddit

My brother (3 years younger) and I were always close, but we’re not so much in touch lately. He responds to texts occasionally but not as consistently as he used to. I miss him so much.

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ascaffo@reddit

We're close. We live within 20 minutes of each other. With that said, it's not like we are together ALL of the time. But, we love spending time together. We laugh a lot. We group text too. I'm thankful.

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twoferrets@reddit

There’s two of us and I’m older. We message back & forth all the time, but don’t see each other much and phone calls are so rare I know we’d both assume someone was dead. I do wish we were more involved in each other’s families. I feel like I’ve missed a lot, but that’s just kind of how our parents were too with theirs.

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No-Jump-9601@reddit

There’s no animosity between my sister and I but we usually only speak when there’s an issue, usually with one or both of our parents. We didn’t fall out, we just got on with our own lives.

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Briollo@reddit

My family is pretty close. I have two older brothers. I see them at least twice a month, not always together. We text all the time.

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gangofone978@reddit

I only have 1 brother. We’ve never been very close. We don’t talk except at family functions. It’s not an animosity thing, we just don’t have much in common outside of put shared upbringing.

On the other hand, I feel like I grew up with best friend’s siblings more than I did my brother. Socialized with them, went to parties, concerts, vacations etc. She and her siblings are very close and they have a very wide circle of friends because of how close they are and everyone becoming friends with their other siblings’ friends.

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whovianmomof2@reddit

I am the oldest of 4 girls. They are 3, 5, and 17 (half sister) years younger than me. They are all in Virginia and NC, I live in NJ. The one that is 3 years younger is the one I am closest to. We talk on the phone at least once a week, and text almost daily. She went with me to Boston for my daughter's college orientation last August, but I haven't seen her in person since. 5 years younger isn't in the family chat, she got mad at us for something. We text every now and then. I saw her last summer when I went down to visit. 17 years younger is in the family chat, and we text occasionally. I haven't seen her in a few years, but only because we haven't been able to coordinate our schedules. I will see her in October for her wedding and I can't wait.

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60sStratLover@reddit

Not super close.

My brother and sister are nothing like me lifestyle wise. We have different moral codes, political views and religious beliefs.

Generally, they are not someone I would enjoy hanging out with if they were not related to me.

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Nightgasm@reddit

I have an eleven years younger step sister who came into the family after I was already away in college. We live 600 miles apart and don't talk except at family get together which don't happen often due to the distance. I also have a 22 yrs younger half brother via my father, who I've been no contact with for 30 yrs, that I've only met a few times in my life. We are Facebook friends but I doubt we will ever actually interact again in real life as our only connection is the father neither of us has contact with (he's been no contact with our dad for 25 yrs).

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Tryingnottomessup@reddit

My bro lives 2500 miles from me andwe both have kids running around. We will normally catch up during holidays or special events.

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No-Profession422@reddit

As close as we (younger sister) can be, being 1200 miles apart. We talk or text a couple times a week.

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voteblue18@reddit

I am female if that makes any difference. I have one brother, 4 years older than me and we live about 2 hours away but we make an effort to get together about once a month. We also stay in touch regularly through texting and occasional calls. We are way closer now than we were when we were kids.

Our parents are gone and we never had a big extended family. It’s just us. He has kids (I don’t) and I love seeing them. Im also good friends with his wife. It takes effort but life is short you gotta make it happen while you still can.

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whippy_grep@reddit

My younger sister and I fought a bitter sibling war as children for 15 years. Since 1987 we’ve been the best of friends. We text/talk nearly every day.

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vulke12@reddit

No. My younger sister and older brother were both the golden children. They were allowed to bully me and order me around. So, now if I tell my sister something like I prefer vanilla, she will go crazy and tells me I'm wrong & that I like chocolate. This happens with everything, so I quit talking to her years ago. My brother says everything I do is stupid, and then he copies me. For example I earned a "stupid" accounting degree, then 2 years later he went back to school for an accounting degree. My mom almost dropped a pizza in his lap & he got pissed off at me for it. Like I had any control over my mother or her damn pizza. He can't get mad at mom, so he takes it out on me while my mom sits there & giggles because she thinks his attitude is cute.

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mtcwby@reddit

My younger brother and I are closer now than we ever were living at home. We're both busy but talk every couple of weeks and do stuff together including a camping trip every July.

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basement_egg@reddit

i'm very close with my siblings, we talk multiple times every day

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DeadManAle@reddit

My only sibling is my younger brother by 13 years. He’s a drug addict so we have little to no contact.

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Supacalafragalistic@reddit

My mom had me at 18. She had some kids when I was 23. Im super close with one of them. He keeps me young

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Raynet11@reddit

Had a half brother from my father's first marriage 10 years older than me, he lived in another state and only managed to see him once a year. Never saw him again after he graduated high school. I tried to track him down as an adult, he showed up to visit my parents one day out of the blue when I was in my 20's. He had some rough years running with the wrong crowd and had some problems with drugs. He passed away before I could get to know him, I reached out to his mother on Facebook and had some good conversations as well as a girlfriend he was dating before he died. Totally bummed out I never caught up with him. Otherwise grew up an only child to boomer parents who probably shouldn't have had kids don't get me wrong I'm glad they did.. lol. .

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WillBrink@reddit

GenX was more like fish, everyone swims off in their own directions. I come from a classic NE WASP family, not terribly close compared to other families as that goes.

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MeganGMcD75@reddit

Despite being 4 years apart, my brother and I are the Wonder Twins. We are super close and text every day.

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SBInCB@reddit

Not too close with my sister but no animosity. We just have a lot of different interests. I had lived with her in the early nineties and saw her more often until my kid was born. Things went well enough when my parents were going through the ends of their lives recently. It could be more but it’s not bad.

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Moni6674@reddit

It’s only my sister and myself we’re 18 months apart and we are each other’s best friend.

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Elbomac87@reddit

Four siblings. Close with two. Meh with one. Actively avoid the 4th.

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Chemical_Author7880@reddit

I haven’t seen my sister since she came when our mom, who lived with me, was dying. Eight years ago.

We don’t talk often, but we do talk several times a year.

No bad blood (now), but I left home when I was 17 and she was 14. And our lives are different with little common ground.

But we love each other and woe to the fool who fucks either of us over.

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wellbalancedlibra@reddit

I have three brothers and 1 sister. I only see them at weddings or funerals and we rarely talk. We were raised to be in constant competition, and I gave up playing, which they don't understand.

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Illustrious_Fix5906@reddit

Close with all my siblings now that we are all adults. Mine were quite a bit older than me so it was next to impossible to be close when younger.

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Opposite-Mushroom940@reddit

Older brother from a different father. We didn’t grow up together. Off and on thought life, but he went insane with political shit so it’s in the off phase currently.

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Selenth-101@reddit

My brother is around so infrequently, that when he came to our uncle’s funeral, our father introduced himself to his own son because he didn’t recognize him. It was not a bit. He legitimately did not recognize his eldest child. So, yeah, we’re not close and it is always a mystery whether he will appear at a family gathering.

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YogurtclosetParty755@reddit

I have a sister & a brother. I’m incredibly close with my sister. We have a twin-like bond, even though we are 3 years apart. I see & talk to her often. I only see my brother on major holidays, and don’t really speak to him outside of that. He bullied my sister & me growing up, and then he married san absolute nightmare of a human. His kids will need major therapy, and if not for them, I’d cut ties completely.

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MsKittieVonTrapphaus@reddit

My sister just passed away January 21 at only 58 years old. She was my only sibling and my best friend. I'll miss her every single day for the rest of my life. RIP Amy Dawn 💜

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ronniebell@reddit

I’m so sorry for your loss. We lost my brother 10 years ago. He was also my only sibling leaving giant hole in my heart. I still pick up my phone thinking “oooh gotta tell Danny about this”. I’ll be thinking of you especially during this year of firsts.

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YogurtclosetParty755@reddit

I’m so sorry. 🩷 I am very close with my sister & I can’t imagine life without her. It hurts now, but you will see her again.

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Least-Bet8439@reddit

i'm so deeply sorry. my sister is my bff too. some of the best advice i received after i lost a loved one was that our relationship wasn't over it's just different now.

i hope you find comfort in your memories together 🤲🤲

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grateful_john@reddit

I have very little contact with either of my sisters. My older sister was always been weird and she and I weren't anything approaching close growing up despite being two years apart in age. She lives about an hour and a half from me, married a complete loser (her second marriage, her second loser husband), we see them once or twice a year, at most. We don't communicate at all.

My younger sister (by five years) and I stopped really talking a few years ago. We were both working with our father (who passed away) and clashed on how things should be done and how the money should be divided. She treated the business decisions we made as personal and would run and cry to our father that I was being unfair, didn't deserve my share of the business, etc. Completely manipulated him to take her side (she's always been the baby and the golden child). She eventually quit the business but still tries to poach projects from me (it's a consulting business managing a manufacturer's association).

We did pull together when my father passed away to first deal with his hospice care and then help our mother put the funeral arrangements together. But we don't speak anymore unless absolutely necessary. She lives four hours away by plane, so we can go a year or more without seeing each other.

After my mother passes away I will have zero contact with my siblings. I'm good with that.

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FROG123076@reddit

Two sister one is 7 years younger I have seen her once is 36 years and other sister is 13 years younger and she was 2 months last I saw her she is 26 now. We have different moms and my dad had no visitation of me, so only went to his house twice growing up and not for very long. Father and Step Divorced when I was 18, and she was so awful I refused to have anything to do with my sister until they were 18 and only if they wanted to. So i speak to one sister a couple times a year and only through text messages.

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zoomgirl44@reddit

My sister is 6 years older than I am and we are pretty close. We talk and text each other, though we both prefer talking on the phone. I see her fairly often (along with my brother in law and niece (26) and nephew (30)

I live in Queens and she is in Jersey City so she isn’t far.

I don’t see my son (36) and daughter in law (30) as often because they both work weekends.

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Agreeable_Rhubarb332@reddit

1 brother, on good terms who I see when I am in the area. (He lives west coast, I live on east coast) but we don't call or text. 2 sisters, one of whom I text and call frequently(she lives many states away) and one who I haven't spoken to in 10 years, a raging narcissist. We were closer after our parents died, but in my case my tolerance for the narcissist sisters games put a stop to my contact with her.

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meablo@reddit

I have one younger brother. Haven't seen him in 9 months and haven't spoken in 3. I stopped reaching out to him when he wasn't paying attention or engaging with the conversation during our last phone call.

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Least-Bet8439@reddit

two older sisters. i'm bff with the middle sister since our 20's. so much so she has lived with me and my husband several times, and moved to the same city a month after i moved there. our oldest sister tries to connect with us but it's just different. but we will always be a close family the older we get, the luckier we feel. our 84 year old mother is still alive, and we all live within 10 minutes of each other. it is very true that having a community keeps you ali e and healthy. good luck everyone 💚💛

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RedditSkippy@reddit

My sister is two years younger than me, and we’ve never been close.

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dbrmn73@reddit

My siblings are 15 and 17 years younger than me. I left home joining the military when they were 1 ans 2. So, no we arenot very close at all as I have never been around them for more than a day or so here and there.

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PurposeConsistent131@reddit

I’m 8 years older than my brother…totally different lifestyles and beliefs so not really

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Ancient-Cow-1038@reddit

One older sister (by six years) who passed 11 years ago.

My oldest friend.

Fuck cancer.

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mimtma@reddit

I’m so sorry. I’m not close with my remaining sisters, but the one who, by far and away was the best of us, the one who eloped 1,500 miles away when she was 17 and I was 4, my best friend who I spoke with on the phone regularly, passed in January from early-onset Alzheimer’s. I miss her everyday.

Fuck Alzheimer’s, too.

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unicornbelly@reddit

I (53 m) have three younger brothers.. There's only five years between me and the youngest. We were pretty close in our teens, twenties and thirties. After 40 we started to drift. Just busy with work and or individual families.Then the same year I turned 50 our father died. And evidently he was the glue. I only talk to my youngest brother now. He's in Virginia and I'm in Oklahoma so we never see each other. The middle two who both live twenty minutes from me basically said to hell with family after the funeral. And I'm not one to chase after people who don't want me around so that's that. And none of us are close or interested in being close with our mother. So as it stands my family days are over.

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ennuiandapathy@reddit

I’m the oldest with my siblings being 2, 6, and 7 years younger. I’m close with the sister who’s 6 years younger. I haven’t talked to or seen the sibling 2 years younger since 1994 - and that’s fine because he’s a piece of shit. The youngest sibling has cut off contact with the entire family. She’s an alcoholic who’s been on and off the wagon for decades and she burned all of her bridges when she started drinking again during Covid.

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LeftRanger1924@reddit

Younger brother (4 years) that lives 6 hours away and we only talk when mom organizes a family gathering.

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Insightseekertoo@reddit

We have hot and cold periods as life happens. Also, we live in the PNW so weather is a factor.

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Willing_Freedom_1067@reddit

My brother is 7 years older than I am. We weren’t close to begin with because of the age difference, but being raised by a neglectful narcissist really put the final bullet into our relationship. He was the golden child, the only son, the one that could do no wrong. Everything he wanted, he got.

I was the scapegoat. The “accident” (and was told as much). The one guaranteed to be “a screwup”.

We have not spoken at length in over 15 years. I’m okay with that.

Oddly, my daughter and his daughter are the best of friends.

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mimtma@reddit

Not too close, but close enough. We have an ongoing messenger thread, I’m a limited contributor.

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Careless_Ocelot_4485@reddit

Same. We exchange memes and jokes and more “light” family news. Nothing too deep or personal. Very surface-level life stuff.

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mimtma@reddit

Exactly. It’s best that way.

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New-Wrap3311@reddit

Super close to my sister, we text all day everyday, she lives in PA and I’m in FL. We have a siblings chat with our 3 brothers, all in PA, that’s very active on weekends since 3 of us 5 still work. It’s a great way to stay up to date, share memories, praise the accomplishments of each other, spouses & kids, and plan fun stuff for our Mom. When I see everyone in person there are no information gaps. I only talk on the phone to my Mom, sis & 1 of the brothers. I pray for them and extended family everyday and look forward to the texts / chats.

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CrankyDoo@reddit

I had three siblings. Two brothers and one sister. For many years I rarely interacted with them. I wasn’t mad or anything, just busy with my life and with little reason to talk. Then I lost a brother in 2016 and a sister in 2018. I now talk to my remaining brother on a regular basis, texting almost daily and phone calls every week or two. He’s the only remaining member of my original nuclear family.

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GradStudent_Helper@reddit

I'm a guy who grew up with three sisters (two older, one my twin). My family has always had more of a "professional" relationship. Once we grew out of being small kids, we were always polite and considerate of each other... but we never said "love you" or gave out hugs at all. We went our separate ways for college and beyond, which is normal, of course. I see them (or talk on the phone to them) on holidays and sometimes I'll visit my mom back home and one or two will also visit since I'm there. I'm glad two of my sisters lives close to my mom, so they can check on her (she's 88).

We do end phone convos with "love you" these days, and we will hug each other goodbye since we won't see them for a year. And we text occasionally. But I really don't know much about the minutiae of their lives (nor they mine). I have only been in 2 of their houses and none of my family has visited me (I am "the one who moved a long ways away... about 1,000 miles from the rest of them).

So, not really close. We get along and are always glad to see each other, but basically don't know much about each other.

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limi2018@reddit

I (52F) have a younger sibling (48M). He lives about 3 hours away from me. Our parents moved near my home maybe 20 years ago.

I see him 3-4 times a year. We text and send each other memes/reels somewhat frequently.

I’d like to retire closer to him so I can annoy him more in person. We’ve gone thru phases of not talking much in the last 20 years or so, but it just passes with time and sometimes apologies.

I try to keep him up to date with our silent-gen and boomer parents’ health issues and other insanity. Sometimes I just shield him from it until it becomes clear he needs to know. (Like not freaking him out at 2am that Mom might have had a seizure - I reached out to him 9am when we knew it wasn’t a seizure and she was awake). He sends me kindle books when I text him for less scary stuff during normal hours - gives me something to read in a waiting room while he feels he’s helping…. His job sucks compared to mine for flexibility.

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Solarfri-@reddit

Interesting question. There are six of us and it’s almost like there are two different families. The older three (including me) are very close and talk multiple times a week. The younger siblings are selfish and entitled… It’s hard to believe we have the same parents.

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elxxup@reddit

I’ve just started interacting with my sister again on a very limited basis, about 15 years after I wrote her off because she married a white supremacist dipshit.

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WileyCoyote7@reddit

I am between 6 and 16 years older than my siblings; the oldest of five. I left home when the next-oldest was not even a teenager and the youngest was barely walking. I didn’t really “circle back” until the next-oldest was married and the youngest was in high school. So, no, we are not close as their formative years were largely without me present. Besides that, the “situation” at home, which pushed me to leave ASAP had changed which affected them in different ways, and the experiences and choices I made while gone set me apart from them irrevocably. We don’t communicate except the birthday texts each year.

We see each other every other year or so when it has something to do with our parents (birthday, anniversary, health issue), but once they pass I will drift permanently away.

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amnichols@reddit

I have a younger sister and we’re close. She’s a terrific aunt to my kids and gives them great career advice. We often send each other texts, pictures of our dogs, and funny Instagram vids. I haven’t seen her since mom was in hospice. But I’m going to visit her and my favorite dog nephew this summer.

My husband has no relationship with his brother. His wife wasn’t that nice to us and their mom. Plus my BIL accused my husband of being abusive when they were kids after BIL started getting “counseling” at his church and discovered (false) repressed memories.

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Impressive-Shame-525@reddit

My brothers are 13 and 14 years older than me, we weren't ever that close. We'd always have each other's back, but didn't regularly hang out.

Middle brother has passed away because of alcohol and I'm still mad at him about thaytso I refuse to talk to him until he apologizes.

I have two half sisters, twins, and we rarely speak. They're younger than my kids.

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Dusty_Sequins@reddit

My sister, 22 months older, and I have alway been pretty close. We meet up every week or every other and just go running around thrifting or to antique malls together. She says her husband will most likely die before her and then I can move in for my retirement years. I’m down with that honestly. The two of us sharing expenses will lessen the burden for both. She is better at things in no good at and vice versa.

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CatherineC1979@reddit

I see them regularly and we love each other but we aren’t as close as there is a big age gap between me and younger brother and sister, 8 years and 11 years older, I was very involved in them as youngsters as I was the older sister I could babysit on demand etc which probably built a bit of resentment in me as my life became about doing everything for them as my parents both worked full time.

As we get older we get closer though and that positive

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Justasadgrandma@reddit

I have one brother that left our family at 18 and never looked back. I have another brother I used to be really close with until he got married and out whole dynamic changed. I see him for my granddaughters birthday and when I visit my daughter, sil and granddaughter. We're fine when we see each other but we don't talk or text.

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CawlinAlcarz@reddit

My sister (21 months younger than me) lives in NJ and I live in GA. We see each other a couple times a year, but talk several times a week. We're very close.

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zapatocaviar@reddit

I talk to mine almost daily. We’re friends, with a lot in common.

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HoneyBadger302@reddit

My sister (over 10 years younger than me) and I get along really well, and while we are both crazy busy and currently live across the country from each other, we do a "catch up" zoom every month or two for a couple hours, and see each other once or twice a year.

I'm working on a move that will land me in the same metro where she lives (I used to live on that side of the country, but she was on this side then, and we basically ended up switching places due to jobs and life with only a couple years of overlap). We're both pretty excited by the prospect of being able to see each other more often and maybe have regular get togethers/someone to go do thing with.

We have a middle brother, but he embraced the worst toxic traits of both of our parents, and continues to do so, and burned his life to the ground and keeps the fire going to this day, so we both cut him off and blocked him years ago. The only (unwanted) updates we get are from our father who's the only person in the family who still is in contact with him since brother has gone out of his way to burn all the bridges he could (and still does - his young adult son had court ordered phone contact that the moment he turned 18 he blocked his father's number and never picked up again - because, ya.....reasons).

Since he has zero desire to change his life, we have zero desire to bring that toxicity into our lives - we've both done a ton of work (individually, and some together) to undo the damage from our parents and manage those relationships in a manner that is healthy for us, so we're both pretty sensitive about not allowing toxic people into our lives anymore than we are able and willing to manage.

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Angry_GorillaBS@reddit

Never been particularly close. I'd usually see him once a year. But since my dad moved by him, I doubt it'll be even that much. Been over a year now. We'll text occasionally but not regularly

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bigredroyaloak@reddit

I have 2 older siblings and two much younger half siblings. I’m only close to the oldest. She was like a mom to me and practically raised me. We see each other about once a month and chat a few times a month. My other older full sibling has cut off contact and my younger half siblings are Facebook friends that live out of state and I talk to once a year.

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AmeliaXaria@reddit

I have 2 younger half sisters, 1 younger half brother and 5 step siblings (3 older 2 younger)

I'm not close at all to my step siblings.

I'm close to both of my sisters. We ralk almost every day and see eachother often. I'm not as close to my brother but I wish I was. He lives very far away though. We still talk at least every few months.

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mystery_biscotti@reddit

Mine died back in the early 2000s. Hard to be close to a ghost.

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Quin35@reddit

We are very close, though they are significantly older.

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MehX73@reddit

Not close at all. My pants pitted us against each other our whole childhood and now act surprised were not close.

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2_Bagel_Dog@reddit

Rarely see each other since we are all busy with our own lives, and our parents are gone (so no third reason to get together). But we all get along.

When I was younger I mostly saw them as randomly assigned roommates I had to live with. Now I'm quite sure they're awesome.

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mothraegg@reddit

My son calls his brother and sister his old roommates. It always makes me laugh.

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AccidentalSwede@reddit

15 year age gap between me and my Boomer sister. She moved out when I was like 3, so we've never been close.

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mmpjd@reddit

I have two younger sisters. I’ve gone NC with one. She’s put everyone she knows through the wringer at one time or another. We’re convinced she’s bipolar but refuses to get help. My other sister relocated a few hours away from our hometown. I only see her maybe once or twice a year.

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WalnutTree80@reddit

I'm close to mine, relationship wise. Not close to them in age. I'm the youngest and there are large age gaps between all the siblings, so we weren't "friends" until we were all adults.

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SuitableHope7813@reddit

One sib: we catch up on the phone a couple times per month.

Other sib: got married and decided just not to mention it or invite me. I learned about it from my neighbor…who saw it announced on tv. So that sib got unsibbed. Lol.

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Meetzorp@reddit

My sister is THE ABSOLUTE BEST. It bums me out that we live 900 miles apart but we talk on the phone frequently.

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platypusandpibble@reddit

I just have one sister. We live on opposite sides of the planet. We text occasionally, but are otherwise not close.

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Careless_Ocelot_4485@reddit

I have 3 sisters and live in other cities/states. I’m closer to one, occasionally talk to another one, and rarely talk to the youngest. I don’t know if we’re “close-close”. We have a sibling bond, but I seriously doubt we’d be friends if we weren’t related. I’m thankful my spouse has no siblings. I dislike drama.

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coci222@reddit

I have one sibling and have been no contact with that asshole for probably a decade now

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Melissaschwart@reddit

I only see my sisters at funerals.the one I was closest with died at 45. And the rest are 20 years older than me so not a lot in common

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raginghappy@reddit

I’m a little sister to 3 big brothers. We live dispersed around the globe. We keep in touch pretty regularly,, directly, not through spouses, I see the two eldest mostly at family events once or twice a year, and if we happen to be in the same area we make a point of getting together. I video and text with my nieces and nephews and their spouses, some sporadically, some regularly. My brother closest to my age, we text almost every day, talk once or twice a week, vacation together, and are moving to homes a short train ride away. I love my brothers ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Old_Goat_Ninja@reddit

My siblings have all passed away already. My youngest brother I talked to on a regular basis. He lived on the opposite side of the country but we were similar in a lot of ways so we talked quite a bit just didn’t see each other in person often.

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formercotsachick@reddit

I'm an only child, and based on my husband's relationships with his two sisters, I thank God for it every single day.

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No_Caterpillar_8573@reddit

My brothers are six and nine years older than me. We all get along but they are closer to each other and I only see them at Christmas.

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Princess_Parabellum@reddit

We lived far apart but texted and talked constantly and saw each other when we could. She died about 10 years ago and I miss her like crazy.

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LaceyBloomers@reddit

Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship. I’m sorry you lost her. 😟

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HistoryPristine1029@reddit

We’re all quite close, even the one that moved across the country

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izb215@reddit

Love my sisters and spending time with them often. We laugh. A lot. I’m grateful and fortunate.

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LaceyBloomers@reddit

I have one sibling, an older sister. She is one of my best friends. We live 3000 miles apart but talk or text every day. We see each other once or twice a year.

I am very lucky to have her.

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sane-asylum@reddit

I love my little brother and he loves me but we only see each other a few times a year. My family is not big on communication

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Natural_King2704@reddit

I tell everyone that I am an orphan.

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minder125@reddit

My sisters are both two years older and younger then me. Yeah middle child. Still in touch with my older sister. We both live in the same state. And my wife and her go to plays/musicals together. My younger sister moved and became a Canadian years ago. She never answers messages or emails. And last time we were together was our fathers funeral where she had a meltdown at my mom's house. And I quote you know I lost my father. She said that to my sister and I. Right there I was like yeah I'm done.

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bizzy816@reddit

My sister and I are close-ish. We live in the same neighborhood, one street over from each other, talk on the phone a couple of times a week, usually spend time together every couple of weeks or more. I know she'd have my back, and knows I'd have hers. But at the same time we are a different as night and day in a lot of ways, and never really hung out as friends. I do love her more than life and would do anything for her.

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Lightningstruckagain@reddit

Older sister here in town, we get together for lunch or other activities often. Younger brother lives about 3 hours away, mostly just see him on holidays, but we text and talk fairly often.

I know it’s not the case in many families, but I’m so thankful we all get along. Our mom says it often that it is her greatest joy that her kids are all still close. Not to say we always get along 100% ( politics are off limits when we’re all together), but we all like each other.

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DaveKelso@reddit

I'm the oldest of 8 kids, 5 boys 3 girls. Pretty close with the 2 that came right after me, a sister and brother. The younger 5 are a mess and I don't keep up with them really much at all.

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skeeterbmark@reddit

Physically see? Not much. Couple of times per year at best. But we talk and text fairly regularly.

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Pink_pineapple_pizza@reddit

I have three siblings. I’m 46, and I have an older brother (50) that I share both parents with, a younger sister (39) on my dad’s side, and a younger brother (35) on my mom’s side.

With my sister, our dad died a long time ago, and I don’t have any contact with her mom. My sister and I text occasionally, send birthday messages, and see each other rarely. No bad feelings or anything. We were both young when our dad died, and we didn’t build a good foundation of keeping in touch. Now, she’s busy (two young children and a full-time career), and we don’t live close by, and time gets away from us.

I see my brothers every couple of months when I visit my mom. We go out to meals when I’m there. My younger brother and I usually get in a few games of Yahtzee or Scrabble. Sometimes, they’ll hang out in the evening and watch Jeopardy with me and mom. In between visits, we text from time to time if we see something interesting or have a show to recommend. I also get a daily Wordle/connections/betweenle text from my younger brother.

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Trolldad_IRL@reddit

It’s complicated.

The one I get along best with is my late brother’s 3rd (and last) wife.

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Sad-Macaroon9067@reddit

I tell people I'm an only child. 🤷‍♀️

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jenmoocat@reddit

My sister lives 3 hours away from me.
We text frequently and I talk to her every two weeks or so.
And I drive up and visit for a day a couple of times a year -- usually going on a hike and grabbing dinner.
We are very different people and we've learned that we don't do well with *extended* time together.

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peashootermcgavin@reddit

My brother left home when I was 7 and didn't come back until he was an adult and I was a senior in high school; I left for bootcamp shortly I graduated. We've never had a relationship and still don't. I barely know him and don't know his kids at all. I'm pretty close with my sisters though, speak/text with them regularly, and see them 2-3 times a year even though we all live hundreds of miles apart.

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CommitteeThink7683@reddit

We're spread out, but keep in touch over a group chat. I have seen all 6 in the past year.

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Smart_Butterfly_7845@reddit

Older brother in NYC, Twin brother in CLE, me in KC. We talk a few times a week.

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MidwestraisedCOlady@reddit

nope. much older and a narcissist.

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Itis-caught-BearsWin@reddit

My sister lives across the country but I talk with her several times a week. Shared trauma and all that.

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Express_Towel47@reddit

I love my niece and BIL; sister not so much. .

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earinsound@reddit

i rarely saw my brother the last 15 years. he sadly died so i never will again

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dotofoz01@reddit

Mine are local, but narcissistic, haven't had any unnecessary contact in almost 16 years. Good riddance.

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KurtStation68@reddit

I would say we're close when it counts - but we all have our own lives. I am outside of the two mail family circles in Hawaii and Las Vegas, for the most part I'm okay since I love the area I live. Hawaii would be it, but practicalities.

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Mental-Artist-6157@reddit

Very close with my two younger siblings despite living in 3 separate states.

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Robviously-duh@reddit

I am number 4 of 5... 3 boys 2 girls... number 2 the oldest girl passed young... and I think I am the only one that talks to the other 3... and all their kids.

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NaturalHospital1961@reddit

zero contact....blocked my older brother for good the day of our mom's funeral. do NOT miss him.

went no contact other than issues with our mom 15 years ago. removing him from my life for good after she died was so peaceful. we did nothing but argue

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OrangeMustangGal@reddit

My biological sister and I are pretty close. I am not close to either of my adopted siblings.

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Exciting_Pass_6344@reddit

After living half the US away from my brother for all of my adult life, I finally moved to the same metro area. We live 20 minutes away from each other. I’ve seen him 3 times in the 2 1/2 years since I moved here.

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ShoppingNo7369@reddit

I don’t interact with mine at all. We have nothing in common. Shared DNA is not a good enough reason to allow toxic people into my life.

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lagrandefille@reddit

Hear, hear. I stopped associating with mine in 2009. Life is much easier.

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BuffsTeach@reddit

Weddings and funerals. Toxic to our family my whole life. Parents seem to be able to forgive and forget but i have no interest or need for that in my life.

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markaguynamedmark@reddit

My brother lives half a mile from my work. Text or talk about once a week. See each other maybe once a month or two.

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AZPeakBagger@reddit

Have three siblings. Haven't seen or talked to one in about 10 years. See my brother a few times a year and we go out to lunch. Then still chat with my sister monthly but she lives 2000 miles away so only see her about every 4-5 years or so when she comes back home.

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Populus-tremuloides@reddit

I have 3 siblings and I’m close to all of them. They live long distance, but we talk almost every day and visit regularly. We’ve had our differences over the years, but I feel very fortunate to have them in my life.

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Ray_The_Engineer@reddit

My little sister and I were close growing up, and then into our 20's. In the last several years it's gotten to where we just aren't compatible; it's a chore to be around her for extended periods because of her behavior. So consequently we do see her, but it's only on occasions or once in a great while when we'll invite her up to stay with us. She doesn't initiate anything with me, for whatever reason.

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