I'll be 57 in June and I'm right there with you. The fact that my significant other is already retired isn't helping. I have things to do and work is getting increasingly the way.

If I could just afford to drop a day at work.

Maybe next year. Always next year.

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AussieGirl27@reddit

I am beyond tired. I am sick of fucking working every day at a job that means nothing and only having 2 days to enjoy my life, which I can't because I have to wash clothes and clean the house and all the other things that need doing to maintain your life.

On top of that my husband has cancer and that is such a big thing in my life that it just pervades every bit of it. I don't sleep, I don't relax, its like I have took a big breath in in April last year when he was diagnosed and I haven't let it out. I fake being ok when I am with my friends just so I can get a bit of relief from my day to day stress. I am constantly scared that every little bit of pain he is in means that he won't beat it. I still have one more child to get through his last year of high school and I hope he hasn't been too damaged by his fathers diagnosis. I try to keep his life as normal as possible but who knows?

I will never have the life I thought I would. Our starter house is still our house and I hate it. I don't have money to enjoy my life, we live paycheck to paycheck. My husband has had to work through chemo and operations because we can't afford not to have his income. Our small investment property that was meant to provide us with some retirement funds has to be sold to tide us over when my husband has a big surgery hopefully soon because we will be without his income. I will need to work until I am physically unable to

I fear I will never see Pompeii or Rome or Scotland like I have wanted to my entire life, I will just live and die in this small town and my life would have meant nothing.

Rant over.

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HereIAmAgain73@reddit

Sending you hugs! I can’t imagine all you are dealing with and feeling. Rant when you need, cry, scream in the car if you must. Trying to be strong for everyone else will eat you slowly if you don’t take care of yourself. My experience was with a toxic spouse with mental illness… 30 years married with a beautiful grown daughter. I was the strong one and took care of everything, it sucked the life out of me. It’s easy to say this now but not easy when you’re in the deep end.

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AussieGirl27@reddit

I regularly cry in the car and feel hopeless and angry and tired and then I wipe my face, put on a smile and walk in the door ready to do whatever it is that I need to do to get to the next day.

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Grouchy_Vet@reddit

When my little boy died, I did the same thing. Cried, screamed, begged, cried some more. Then, when I got to my destination, smile and continue on with my day.

You never know what people around you are going through

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HereIAmAgain73@reddit

Keep doing what you’re doing!

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Grouchy_Vet@reddit

Sending you so much love ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

It must be overwhelming.

I don’t go on Facebook. I should avoid Instagram.

I got rid of cable.

I’m torn between wanting to know what’s going on and being absolutely overwhelmed by what’s going on

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Inflammo@reddit

I've done this, and it's great. Been watching more movies on Criterion, reading a lot more, concentrating on hobbies that don't involve the depression rectangle.

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Grouchy_Vet@reddit

Same. I’m reading two novels a week now.

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Substantial_Way296@reddit

Hmmm... Let's see... Caring for Boomer parents.. STILL managing/assisting\caring for Gen z young adults and their children... Wife emotionally\physically crazy from early menopause (not her fault).. working WAY to hard to afford to live semi comfortably..have very little free time, cannot even contemplate retirement.. and sleep way to little at this age. Why should I be mentally and physically fried right now?

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Big-Sheepherder-6134@reddit

Damn that sucks. But you have kids and grandkids which has to be amazing. I would have wanted kids but she didn’t. It is much different for us without kids. Mom is still alive but is still doing well on her own. Wife had cancer but is in remission and post-menopausal. She is working again. We travel every winter for 2-3 months. We both work remote although I have been living a semi-retired lifestyle. For the last ten years I sleep as much or as little as I want. In my free time I play and record music with friends and indulge in my hobbies.

Today is Thursday but it might as well be the weekend. I am taking one of our cars to the shop for service around 10. Going to a friend’s around noon to record and rehearse music, then out to lunch. Attending a cousin’s lacrosse game at 4:30 and the NFL Draft is on at 7:00.

A-fucking-men!

Seriously, I choose to be oblivious to the politics of anyone else. I’m too old for this shit. I’ve got a smile on my face, and I’m going to enjoy the hell out of what time I have left!

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ONROSREPUS@reddit

You are my kind of people! My wife seriously dislikes me about this situation.

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captainCutler50@reddit

Most excellent

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Annmarie4life@reddit

Yup just pretty much going through the motions. Quiet quit at work years ago! My mantra is “just gotta bide my time”! Few more years until retirement..

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ONROSREPUS@reddit

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The crux of it... we shouldn't have to live like this, is the thing.

Not only shouldn't we... but there's no reason for it. We, the country, the world, do not live in a situation for which there is a shortage of resources.

There is enough of everything, energy, food, housing... for the whole planet, but the people at the top are just screwing it all up.

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Sarabean77@reddit

I wonder if I'll ever know what it feels like not to have my shoulders up to my ears again. I feel like I haven't been able to truly relax in about 10 years.

Having genuine fun and real laughs? Super rare these days.

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legosgrrl@reddit

How is this not politcal?

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Iron_Chic@reddit

We've been adults our whole lives. I'm sick of being responsible.!

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mlokc@reddit

Yes. Every day.

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Fudloe@reddit

Well, I'm 58 and the country was way more fucked in the 60's and 70's and rectified itself, fucked itself again and is continuing the cycle.

As I still have the same Gen-X attitude we were so reviled by the grown-ups for having, I never gave a fuck. It never directly effected my life because I didn't and don't care.

I was tured for a bit in my early 50's are realized it was because all I did was work and watch TV. So, I got back on my mountain bike, learned some yoga and rebuilt my stereo and my record collection (the way I look I'll quality for next year's old age pension). Sorry, I had to.

Booking it outta there in your RV sounds rad as fuck! Do it if you want to!

What keeps me going is the every day adventure of being a dad to a 16 year old kid (yeah, yeah. I started late. He never forgets to remind me) and the fact that I only get one go at living. I'm not fucking it up by worrying, no matter how dire thing may appear.

I won't let the era define me. I define the era.

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PrimalSixFive@reddit

I'm 60 with a nine year old. Retired at 52. I'm with you, fuck it. Turn off your TV, stop scrolling for "news". I disconnected during the Obama years. Life is good. Only worry about what you can change.

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Fudloe@reddit

I can't wrap my head around how we went from the "fuck it" generation to the "poor me generation". Was it too heavy a diet of complaint rock? Or is it some sort of inter-generational shift in outlook?

Seems like older Gen-Xers are all pretty happy and the younger end are miserable. I truly feel for them, but they seem equally averse to the very advice they ask for.

laura1225@reddit

I feel like I could have written this myself if I could strung the words together. I’m exhausted all the time. Everything is too much right now.

My job is way more than I can handle most days. I’m in middle management in a retail chain and the pressure from upper management is intense. I dread going to work most days.

Since October my husband has been hospitalized twice. Both times for approximately a month each time. He had bypass surgery in October and was in a bad car accident in February where he shattered his lower right leg and his left upper arm. He is currently confined to a wheelchair. He told me the other day that he liked me better when I was not as stressed out as I currently am. Sir, you are a good portion of the reason why I am so stressed out.

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WilfordsTrain@reddit

IDK. I’m very happy and feel like I’m in my early 30’s (almost 50). Some days are hard or frustrating, but that’s adulthood. When the state of the world gets to be too depressing, I tune it out and focus on my family and my interests. My suggestion is to find hobbies and interests that you really enjoy and pursue them. Also don’t get wrapped up in social media. My unhappier friends are always on Facebook or whatever chasing likes and getting bummed out comparing themselves to others. Just find yourself, your tribe and your interests and life your life. Best of luck :)

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hb1219@reddit

Hobbies really are the best advice. It's just hard for some to believe that something so simple could give solace. A great place to start: crochet. Easy, cheap, near-instant gratification, creative.

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GenXJen770@reddit

If I shared your post with anyone who knows me, they would just know I’d written it…

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Manwombat@reddit

Still work full time at some stupid middle level job that’s Groundhog Day. I Live alone post divorce and dating sucks, so yeah it’s not pretty so I just plan my trips away overseas..alone of course and that keeps me going until the body gives in.

Then? Who the fck knows.

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Hot-Incident1900@reddit

Yes, I’m with you.

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Ok_Industry3016@reddit

Feel great but my divorce kicked my ass. Like big time.

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Manwombat@reddit

Oh yeah. I know that ass kick.

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curiousme123456@reddit

I’m 57 unemployed corporate guy. I have done way too many 60,70,80,90 hour work weeks.

I’m right there with you I’m being tired worn out.

I am going to be selling my house in about a year. I am now what I said I would never be helpful poor thank God it was a psycho 401(k) so I’ve been nice retirement fund. I will be retiring at 62 or 63.

I’ve had to accept in the last year two years at least one night a week I have to lay down around six or seven just to unwind a bit not even sleep

Another Gen X issue is sleeping. It’s almost 4 o’clock Eastern standard time and I cannot sleep.

Well, we’re close to retirement buddy. Just hang in there with me.

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shinra1111@reddit

Not tired but feel like all the joy has been sucked out of my life. I was trying to relax to.lower my blood pressure earlier and was thinking of a happy place, but nothing came to mind!

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Altruistic-Part6071@reddit

I'm going to the doctor this morning, I'm 54 and I am exhausted every day. I have no spark, no energy, no positivity.

I had depression for 20 years, but I was past that ten years ago, this is something different.

Here ya go. A friend’s band made a song for you.

https://youtu.be/IxPhJzPiDlQ?si=M1onzcaBJgjZ0u21

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Everything_is_1@reddit

Entering my 40's was the death knell. Melanoma (removed); increasing back pain issue that has never been resolved; syringomyelia (rare condition) - lots of nerve pain. In addition to just feeling tired as fuck. I miss the days when I could play tennis and basketball, when I could just do some jumping jacks! I do not recommend getting old.

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DeadZooDude@reddit

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Hortn8r@reddit

Yes for sure 54 here and i’m so over working with stupid people. I can’t wait to retire and unwind and finally relax.

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RetiredNFlorida@reddit

It's great. I can rest when I need to. I know it seems like a long time but just stay the course if you can.

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Five_String_Serenade@reddit

Literally bone tired. But I have the same condition as Mick Mars, so… you understand.

With regards to all the rest, yep, over it. All of it. You are not alone.

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- I live in the Finest City in the Known Universe, Milwaukee; there is so much to see and do here, and it costs less to live than many other cities.

- I've learned to relish my simpler pleasures.

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AccomplishedCash3603@reddit

I plan on selling my house and taking a yearish to rest, reset, and whatever else needs to happen to be healthy again. I have several autoimmune issues and if I weren't so damn tired from the rat race, I'm sure I could follow the special diets and give my body what it needs.

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crystalcastles13@reddit

All of the time :( :( :(

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Senior-Cantaloupe-69@reddit

Nope. Life is great. Have you checked into sleep apnea or other health issues? Cpap was a game changer for me.

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SwillFish@reddit

Me too. I'm at the gym every day. I rotate cardio one day, and stretching and weight training the next. I eat well and only have an occasional drink. I feel twenty years younger than I did a few years ago when I was 20 lbs heavier and sat on my ass. My mental health is better too. The cardio lifts my mood and gives better mental clarity.

we allowed the billionaires to disenfranchise everyone..

Tropisueno@reddit

Doomer posting isn't therapy

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TheModrnSiren@reddit

My kid is graduating high school...have to keep working to pay their way through college -because I am not going to saddle them with crippling debt. This is the only reason I am continuing to work at the moment.

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SecondTalon@reddit

Every time I switch jobs, I get like a 25% raise, if not more.

Every time I switch jobs, the economy goes in the shitter and my raise effectively keeps me level.

At this point, my niblings and spouse keep me going. That's about it.

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DawnInDesMoines@reddit

Hah I know it’s a typo but I read niblings as snacks!! Hang in there

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SecondTalon@reddit

... I do enjoy snacks....

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BonCourageAmis@reddit

Yes, I was tired to the point of collapse. Bone tired

Took Vit B12, got diagnosed w/sleep apnea & got CPAP, had sinus surgery, took antidepressants, lost a hundred pounds and was still bone tired.

Yes. I got a layoff notice 3 months ago that starts in May. I barely care at the moment. That will change in a few months, but I’m going to try to enjoy the summer until then.

I have worked since I was 17 and haven’t had more than 10 days off since.

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Coho444@reddit

I’m right there with ya.

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toooldforthisshittt@reddit

I have been semi-retired and debt-free since 39, but according to social media I'm undatable (don't have iPhone) and not a real man (because of my car). Also, the stock market is at an all time high so I feel secure about my retirement.

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UnicornSheets@reddit

Every damn day. Feel like a wrung out towel 50% of the time

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ConstantConfusion123@reddit

I cashed in my retirement account from a previous job to pay cash for our house. Insane, I know. But if I can stick with my current job for another year or two, I'll have a nice amount saved and I can start working part time. So I can have more time to live.

Yes. The last couple of months I’ve been binging ice cream , chocolate, and potato chips. Gained 15 pounds. Now feeling fat and ungainly.

Nit wanting to heave the bed.

Hoping I can quit this and lose the weight soon.

Yes, I am depressed but this is worse than usual with the tiredness and feeling worn out.

Cps12345@reddit

I was just thinking about this myself. Conclusion: I feel like our generation skipped the whole meditation thing. I’m willing to give anything a try at this point.

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Beats_Satchel@reddit

Meditation, swimming and sauna - and meds, are getting me through it these days…

Yep. It won't end til I do.

Until then, take the happies you can find as long as they don't everything else up.

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foldingpages@reddit

Yes. This past week I’ve been wondering if I’m depressed. But I’m just tired. Tired of work stress, my divorce, and the world in general. By the time I get to the weekend (assuming I don’t have to work) I have little energy to do the things I loved to do before, like paint. I often wish I had a dog but it’s not allowed here and I wouldn’t have the energy for all those walks anyway.

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Mission_Sir_4494@reddit

Knitting is the only activity I really enjoy

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DogsAreOurFriends@reddit

Hit the gym. I know it seems counterintuitive, but it helps a lot.

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Apprehensive-Ant2141@reddit (OP)

It’s not counterintuitive at all. I have weights and a treadmill and my partner is going to put them back where they’re useable after having my mother in law here and then moving her to assisted living.

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Roanaward-2022@reddit

Yep. I dream about taking a one-month sabbatical and doing something like touring Ireland. Or even just going to a lake/ocean for a long weekend with NOBODY.

I'm so exhausted from not having a single day to myself in years. Just a weekend where I don't have to wake up to the dog needing food/to go outside, not having to figure out dinner plans for me, husband, and teen son; not having to talk to ANYBODY, not make sure teen is waking up and getting to school on-time, not having to answer texts from my sisters or Mom.

I want to go somewhere that I can wake up when I want, there's a variety of food available within walking distance, there's a selection of activities that I can choose to participate in or not, and there's no chores or delayed house/car maintenance starting me in the face.

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Chance-Night3198@reddit

I took my dream trip to England a couple years ago. All by myself. No one could understand why I would want to travel alone and several people offered to come with me. Absolutely not. I wanted to see what I wanted to see and do what I wanted to do and not have anyone getting in the way. If I wanted to sleep in and not leave the hotel one day, that's what I did. If I wanted to sit in a pub for 5 hours, that's what I did. If I wanted to walk all over a city with no destination in mind, that's what I did. It was honestly the best trip I've ever taken.

Even if it's just for a weekend, I highly recommend it. A couple years ago I was on the verge of competely burning out so I spur-of-the-moment bought a concert ticket for a show three states away. Flew to Denver, checked in to a nice hotel across from the venue, had dinner, walked to the concert, had a great time, went back to my peaceful hotel room, and flew out the next day. Just that one night away made a world of difference to my mental state.

Oh perimenopause is such a fun time. You’re tired for no reason. You’re irritable. You itch all over and have no idea why. You get intense hot flashes and you now sweat in places you never thought possible. But your skin is dry. Your eyes are dry. Your hoo-ha is dry.

Alla this when the world is normal would be enough. But having to endure this while everything is going on. Yeesh.

If I had to work full time I do not know that I could do it. I mean, I would because that’s always how I’ve gotten through tough shit in life, but I can’t imagine. I feel less alone reading this thread - I know women older than myself and they just seem to power through life and I always feel so pathetic in my own head when I consider myself next to that.

Having said that, those women tend to be total and complete bitches and that’s probably why. They’re chronically exhausted. I want to be a person people don’t cringe when they see coming. I’m taking care of me the best way I can - and that means learning a new way to care for my body and my heart and mind.

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Apprehensive-Ant2141@reddit (OP)

Inspiring!

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I've been on CPAP since 05. Sucked at first, but it's like a seat belt to me now. I strap on the gear and know I'm good to sleep in like 9 minutes lol

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DarwinGhoti@reddit

Dude, I feel ya. It got to the point where I was crawling under my desk between appointments to lay down and close my eyes just for a few minutes. I would set an alarm on my phone.

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DiamondEyesFlamingo@reddit

Yes. So much yes. All the time.

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ParticularLower7558@reddit

Born tired and had a relapse the next day

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Pleasant_Dog_302@reddit

I too feel very tired. I'm not sure if it's the state of the world of just age. (58f) I'm seriously looking for the small things that keep things beautiful in my mind. Just small everyday things. I have no pension. I have a bit of money squirreled away but not enough. Decided to do phD at 53. Just finished. I'm hoping to retire into academia but that's looking kind of grim right now too. So, I just keep keeping on. Right now the sun is shining so I am good.

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stillthrowinitallawa@reddit

Fatigued.

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Fr4nzJosef@reddit

I used to be till I pretty much unplugged from the news and social media (aside from reddit which reminds me of the old online BBSs). There's not a damned thing I can do about the bad news and it is always bad news because that is what sells so I pay no attention to it.

Instead I make myself go out and be social, I do what I enjoy outside of work (within reason, picking up and traveling is out due to time and budget constraints). I've gotten to where I actually like cooking at home (and that is a major shift for me), it has helped me drop 80 lbs and I feel better because I eat cleaner.

Maybe this is polyanna-ish, "bury my head in the sand", or "eat, drink, be merry for tomorrow we die". Don't care. Used to care, but at this point I've survived 30 supposed TEOTWAWKI events and...I'm still here. I just enjoy my life, try to be kind to everyone around me, and I don't worry about the state of things beyond what little I can do because I really have no power to impact them large scale.

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AttorneyCertain4830@reddit

For real…I took duloxetine for one year. I had a plan, it did its job. Not life changing but it cut the noise.

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Tokenchick77@reddit

I am feeling exactly the same way. Same age, also menopausal, also feeling like everything is too much. We're working for retirement, but with the world going the way it is, I'm not sure that it will be a place we want to stick around.

I'm kinda beat. In the last 3 years I've had open heart surgery, cancer, lost my pinky toe and my business took a complete dive.

I've got a high school sophmore at home, so that's kept me getting up every day. I have about $3M saved so I feel blessed, but at the same time I dont feel great about it surprisingly...

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ThePsycHOTicNurse@reddit

46 and I’m exhausted mentally, physically, and at times emotionally. When I was 13 my mom went and got me a work permit cause I just had to have a job 🤦‍♀️ Having my own money was intoxicating at first. Now it’s been 33 years of working and 2 kids and mama is tired! I have enough “credits” to retire but that’s still 20 or so years away. Sorry, just wallowing in my own misery lol

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GospelofJawn316@reddit

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PompousAssistant@reddit

Constantly tired, even though I’m physically active & work out almost every day. I get enough sleep (most nights) & eat right, making most of our own meals from scratch.

Its amazing what getting fully treated for your actual illness can do.

Apprehensive-Ant2141@reddit (OP)

I’m loving the women posting in here. I think there’s a certain type of tired we get after raising our children and still having to work every day. I do have a supportive partner so I’m thankful for that but I’m Still just over taking care of people before myself.

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BroadAnimator9785@reddit

Are you me?

Also, 49yo woman, same feelings. In peri. I'm doing all the things to combat symptoms. But it's hard.

Biggest issue for me is total non-motivation in my business. I work for myself and the bottom has fallen out of my industry. I have felt stuck for a long time.

But today, I made a decision to go in a different direction with my work. With the help of ChatGBT, I created a whole new trade name and positioning for myself, and I feel optimistic. More so than I have in a while.

Yes. I was just fantasizing hard about living in a tiny house in the woods without any technology and talking to as few people as possible. (I’m also 49f, but am fully into menopause now)

Then I opened my phone and saw your post.

But yeah, I’m tired of the news, I’m utterly exhausted by other people, and the seemingly endless mental health problems the state of the world is causing. I wish I could sleep. 😂

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Dramatic_Channel52@reddit

Yes