Is it normal to address your father by his name in US?
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First time reading an American novel — I just started To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee.
In the first few pages I got a bit confused: who exactly is Atticus, and why does the narrator switch between calling him “Atticus” and “my father”?
Also, the book mentions they are “Southerners.” I’ve heard that people from the American South tend to be more traditional and respectful in terms of hierarchy — is that accurate, or is it more nuanced across the U.S.?
TankDestroyerSarg@reddit
No, it's quite uncommon to address your parents or grandparents solely by their first name. The only real example in recent media is Bart and Homer in The Simpsons. I, and most Americans probably, would regard it as disrespectful of the parent. A "you're no better than me, so I'm not going to refer to you by your proper title" action. I do have at least one family member who does do this, and they don't have a high opinion of their parents. A stepparent being addressed by their first name is quite different and usually accepted by all.
elsongs@reddit
Bart does call his father both "dad" and "Homer" though.
HoidsApprentice1121@reddit
I do the same thing as Bart
HoidsApprentice1121@reddit
It’s definitely not normal in most families (I call my parents/family by their names most of the time so her calling him Atticus didn’t stand out to me)
ArticleGerundNoun@reddit
To add a little bit to the “no” answers, the fact that it isn’t normal is doing some character building. Scout is a precocious kid, and referring to her dad by his first name is a way of advancing that character trait. It’s not normal for adults to call our parents by their first names, but it would be especially unusual from a 6-year-old.
By the same token, a typical dad in 1930s Alabama wouldn’t let his little daughter call him by his first name. Atticus is far from typical, then, and especially in terms of his patience, dignity (irrespective of how he’s treated), and view of others as equals.
Lavender_r_dragon@reddit
This!!! It’s an early signal that Atticus doesn’t (always) subscribe to society’s rules and society’s concepts of social status.
ca77ywumpus@reddit
And that his relationship with his children is more similar to an adult-adult relationship. He speaks to them with respect and honesty. No sugar-coating or talking down to them.
Quirky-Invite7664@reddit
Yes. There was a time when a parent would slap their child for calling them by their first name. It was considered very disrespectful.
Funny, i was recently rewatching War of the Worlds (the Tom Cruise version). For the first 10-15 minutes I was confused, because the son kept calling his Dad (Tom Cruise), “Ray.” It made me think the son was a stepson or maybe they’re completely unrelated. Because he didn’t call him “Dad,” it totally threw me off. Finally realized the son was doing it as a way to show their relationship is strained.
MyUsername2459@reddit
35 years ago or so, when The Simpsons was new, it was deeply scandalous that Bart called his dad by his first name. I remember people banning their kids from watching that show for that reason (and other things Bart said).
Quirky-Invite7664@reddit
Wow! How funny.
MyUsername2459@reddit
People forget how DEEPLY scandalous that show was when it debuted in 1989.
At the time it was a big deal that President Bush (the elder) went to the media and denounced the show, famously saying we needed an America that was "more like The Waltons, and less like The Simpsons."
Bart was a kid in 4th grade who called his dad by his first name, was openly disrespectful and disobedient to his parents and teachers, and used words like "damn" and "hell". . .all of which were very unacceptable, especially for a character on a TV show.
Preachers would speak out from the pulpit against the show. There were petitions to ban the show.
ErnestScaredBorgnine@reddit
I was banned from watching Dinosaurs because my dad didn't like how Baby called him "Not the mama!". Simpsons was totally not an option. Thank god for divorced parents! At my mom's house that was all available.
FrankDrebinOnReddit@reddit
"Hey, we're just like the Waltons. We're praying for an end to the Depression too." -Bart Simpson in a 1992 episode where they had George Bush as a character.
ibuycheeseonsale@reddit
Following which, The Simpsons featured George and Barbara Bush as new neighbors post-White House. Bart called him George. He said “in my day, children didn’t call adults by their first name.” Bart said “yeah. Well. Welcome to the 20th century, George.”
KevrobLurker@reddit
One in-joke was that Dennis the Menace's neighbor was Good Old Mr Wilson - George Wilson!
Broad_Tie9383@reddit
My parents wouldn't let me watch it, because Bart was so disrespectful.
Quirky-Invite7664@reddit
I was out clubbing in ‘89, had no clue what was going on in politics, lol. This is interesting!
byebybuy@reddit
Maybe in Kentucky. It wasn't "deeply scandalous" in California, he was just kind of a funny, weird kid.
Donald_J_Duck65@reddit
No. Switching between father and Atticus works with the narrative.
MountainTomato9292@reddit
Not common but it happens. My husband and his sister both call their parents by first name and they are from Mississippi.
Wak3upHicks@reddit
Since I'm a junior, that would've been weird. But the people I know who have called their father by their name did so because their relationship was awful
brookylnbedlum@reddit
Depends if ya like him or not
CheeseMongoNJ@reddit
Not at all. In the book it's a way to show the relationship between Atticus, Scout, and Jem. Atticus Finch isn't a conventional parent by any means.
IJustWorkHere000c@reddit
Lol I wonder how bad the ass whipping would have been if I ever called my dad by his first name. Bad enough I never tried it.
TillikumWasFramed@reddit
Lol, I was thinking that. I call my mother by her first name sometimes, to be funny, but my dad, would not go there.
TillikumWasFramed@reddit
Hell no.
Ok-Ad8998@reddit
It isn't exactly normal, but it can be normal within families. For example, in my family, we don't do that, but we do use the first names for aunts and uncles without the titles, which is less formal than many families do.
EulerIdentity@reddit
It is not at all normal to address your father by his first name anywhere in the USA.
Cool_Log_4514@reddit
I’m from the south, and I’ve always called both my parents by their names, and it just confuses people. So no, not typical.
Searcach@reddit
Not if you want to survive babyhood!🥴
VeronaMoreau@reddit
No. It establishes the relationship that Scout and her father have, which also sets the scene for Atticus' attitude toward Boo Radley—a very clear deviation from that of their environment.
CaptainAwesome06@reddit
This is why Atticus's kids calling him by his first name is such a stark change from social norms. The fact that they are Southern makes it even more unconventional.
Atticus's name is likely from Titus Pomponius Atticus, who was a Roman known for being natural, wise, and highly educated. In the book, Atticus treated his kids with intellectual respect. Them calling him Atticus reinforces that relationship. Despite being younger, they were almost treated as equals.
DrMindbendersMonocle@reddit
It isn't normal. Maybe if you aren't close to him or he wasn't around much growing up, you would use his first name. Most people use "Dad" or something similar
andgonow@reddit
It’s not normal, I’ve used this as an insult: “You look like your kids call you by your first name.”
Mueryk@reddit
I know exactly one teenager who does this to her father(friend of mine for decades). First time I heard it, it was a record scratch WTF moment. I asked her and her mom what the hell he did to deserve that.
Her - Basically he didn’t respond to dad from across the house.
Me - Then you get your butt up and walk across the house
Her - Yeah, that didn’t work either. His name did and it kind of became a running joke.
So there you go. Still odd. In fact I am far more comfortable and used to seeing the community at large calling someone Big Mama, Papps, etc than by their name.
Responsible_Side8131@reddit
Not at all
asiangunner@reddit
I'm a guy in his late 40s. Im friends with siblings who do this. I met them when I was teenager. They would call their parents by their first names. It was odd back in the mids 90s. They still do it. But they do have a very close relationship with them.
Reaganson@reddit
No…but I did notice, after reading the Robert Galbraith series, that the Brit writer uses first names. So instead of writing ‘my mother’, or ‘her mother’, the writer inserts the Christian name.
sneezhousing@reddit
Nope not common
PghSubie@reddit
No, definitely not common at all
IthurielSpear@reddit
In a nutshell, no. We call our parents mom or dad (or variations). This particular book showed a more independent thinking child who was unusually smart for her age and showing her calling her dad by his first name was a step toward showing some of her quirks.
Great book by the way.
argella1300@reddit
With me and my dad, only as a joke
notsoniceville@reddit
I have called my dad by his first name since I was a kid, but it’s an in-joke between us. It’s not common at all.
dobbydisneyfan@reddit
Nope. If I heard a kid calling their dad by their first name, I’m 100% assuming the dad is a stepdad, estranged, or the kid is defiant and disrespectful. I’m never wrong in the assumption.0
GrimSpirit42@reddit
No. And also No in the South.
I'm about a 90 mile drive from Monroeville, Harper Lee's hometown.
I've sat in the courthouse described in the novel (which they created an exact replica for the movie).
No. We don't.
strawberrygotta@reddit
My siblings and I are definitely the odd ones out here. The three of us call our parents by their first names, both when speaking to them, and when speaking about them with others. Its not a sign of disrespect or a strained relationship (for us) but just an easier way to tell my others, "yeah, carolyn and Frank were driving down to visit last week...". To be fair my dad also called his mom by her first name and we always called her that too, not just "grandma", she never seemed to mind 🤷.
RhinoPillMan@reddit
No. I do because I never knew him, and he was a piece of shit when I did meet him recently. But I’d never address any of my other elders by their first name, except my mom’s ex wife.
lunammoon@reddit
It's not uncommon but it's frowned upon.
In a lot of older movies a kid calling their parents by their first name is either the kid being disrespectful or a way of showing that their parents are free spirited.
"I know you call your parents by their first names" is shorthand for "Your parents let you get away with A Lot don't they"
Courwes@reddit
The only real life example I have ever heard of this happening was with the Jackson family children (Michael, Janet, Latoya, Jackson 5). They all called their father Joseph (and their mother “Mother”). I have never seen it firsthand unless it was a child who was not close to their father so they didn’t grow up calling them dad or pop or whatever.
Seidhr96@reddit
I am 30 and still call my parents mom and dad lol. I even work with my dad and refer to him as dad unless it’s over the radio, then I call him by his legal name
zoppaTheDim@reddit
It is showing how quirky the family is.
You’ve confused transgressing social norms for a social norm.
rawbface@reddit
No it's not. Even my step dad has always been "Dad".
pawsplay36@reddit
It's pretty rare. It was more common in the 1960s to 1980s where some people embraced a less hierarchical parenting style but I don't think it's ever been normal or fashionable. Some teenagers, especially educated ones, will go through a phase of addressing their parents by name, but again, not common. Out of the hundreds of adolescents I've known in my life, I think I can remember maybe three doing this, although one was my step-brother.
very_frog@reddit
I have a much younger sister (early 20's) who calls our mother "mom" but calls our father by his first name, and it has always rubbed me a weird way. I feel like she does it deliberately as a way of resisting patriarchy (which i dont oppose) but I think thats kinda what youre talking about. Its highly abnormal (and borderline disrespectful) to call your parents by their first name in our culture, so when someone does it, it stands out and its usually for a reason.
TrixieLurker@reddit
TIL calling your dad "dad" is patriarchy, jfc Reddit.
Subvet98@reddit
Reddit is like meth. We all know it’s rotting our brain but we keep coming bag.
shadowpavement@reddit
It’s not. Even as a 46 year old man, I still call my dad “dad”.
However. There have been a few rare instances where I have called him by his first name - usually in rare instances where I needed to speak with him as a peer to get across a very important point.
Derwin0@reddit
No
Far_Silver@reddit
No. It's to show how Atticus' father-child relationship is so different from normal. Most kids would call their fathers dad, or possibly papa, but not his first name.
Individual_Check_442@reddit
Absolutely not!!!!!
iaminabox@reddit
I would have gotten an ass whooping if I called my Da by his first name.
river-running@reddit
Not common, but it is a phase that some kids go through. The daughter of one of my cousins went through a phase when she was four or five of calling her parents by their first names. In my experience kids find their parents' reactions to it funny and that reinforces the behavior.
Cheap_Coffee@reddit
No. That would feel weird.
Turd_Fergusons_@reddit
No
Traditional_Trust418@reddit
It's not common. It's just normal for that character specifically
drnewcomb@reddit
My aunt and uncle were the only people I ever let their children call them biy their given names
dangleicious13@reddit
I call him "dad".
syndicatecomplex@reddit
If it's your stepdad, many times people will use his first name because they usually don't have a close enough relationship yet.
But I've never heard anyone call their biological father by their first name before. I think you misunderstood something in TKAMB.
Mental_Freedom_1648@reddit
As everyone said, it's not common, but I was raised to call my parents by their first name, and my mom was raised the same way. Decades later, my dad confessed that he'd always wanted to be called "Pop," but it was way too late to change up now.
It's funny because people assume this means they're very easy-going parents, but my grandparents were the most authoritarian parents on the planet. They just had this one quirk.
HermioneMarch@reddit
No most kids don’t but the narrator of that book bucks conventions. It’s part of what makes her so beloved.
IHaveBoxerDogs@reddit
No, and it’s something TKAM is known for.
Fluffy-kitten28@reddit
No, it’s not common. I still call my parents mom/dad as a grown woman.
This is also why Bart Simpson calls Homer by his name to show his disrespect for his father.
SHAsyhl@reddit
Definitely not.
GoddessOfOddness@reddit
No, it was just a device Harper Lee used to give us background and give Atticus more character. Scout would ever have called him by his name.
Generally, when a person calls one or both of their parents by their name in casual conversation either with their parent or someone else, it’s normally an indication of a lack of respect. The sole exceptions to this are when introducing someone to your parents, “this is my Dad, John Smith” or when you are in a crowd and you want to call them and they don’t respond to Mom or Dad.
The South is a little stricter on etiquette. You almost always are called sir or ma’am in the South. Men are more likely to stand when a woman arrives. The pace of life is slower. The language is slightly more flowery with metaphors and similes. (There’s a southern US Senator named John Kennedy, no relation to the former President of the 1960s. His speeches are always full of silly phrases: Kennedy Silly Phrases
Top-Web3806@reddit
Definitely not common or normal. Only people I know who refer to their father by a name are those that have zero relationship with him and don’t feel the “dad” title is appropriate.
Both_Painter_9186@reddit
Even as an adult, I only referred to my father as his first name when I wanted to bust his chops. It was always “dad”.
Yeahboyeah@reddit
Richard Pryor talked about clubs he started out in. He said they were probably affiliated with the Mafia. "Mafia? Shit, my Dad was the scariest man I ever met."
JimTheJerseyGuy@reddit
Growing up in the 70s and 80s, if I'd called my father by his first name I'd have earned some bit of punishment that even now I don't care to contemplate.
elsongs@reddit
Biological Father? No.
Stepdad? Yes.
greenleo33@reddit
I’ve only ever called my mom by her name in rare situations. Mostly just to be funny or to get her attention. A hundred moms will turn around if I yell mom, but if I say her name she’ll turn. Also she reads deeply and I have to go through mom, mama, mother, mommy, NAME! to get through to her lol
maggy_boi_x@reddit
No. I might refer to my father's first name if im talking to someone else, but even in that scenario, I often say "my father" instead of their first name.
OptatusCleary@reddit
This isn’t normal, and its strangeness is meant to be a part of the characterization in the novel.
A few points about the characters:
-Scout (and Jem) have a close and affectionate relationship with their father.
-Atticus is pretty unconventional in how he approaches things. He probably “looks the part” of an old-style aristocratic southern politician (he’s a state assemblyman as well as an attorney). But in his day-to-day personal life, he’s not all that strict about maintaining tradition.
-he became a father somewhat older, and his wife is deceased. So the children probably hear other people call him “Atticus” or “Mr. Finch,” and their mom isn’t around to refer to him as “dad” to the kids.
-the dynamics of social class are almost as important as those of race in this novel. The relative security of a character tends to correlate to better behavior. (I’m not justifying this, but it does seem to be the case in the book: the violent racist lynch mob-forming Cunninghams and the child molesting racist Bob Ewell are all lower class. The upper class characters are depicted much less negatively.) Atticus is secure in his position, and tolerating his children calling him by his first name is probably part of his generally calm, aristocratic attitude. Forcing his children to call him “dad” (or whatever) and punishing them for using his first name would probably seem like trashy behavior to him (compare the fact that his concern with his children’s use of the n-word is that it’s “common,” or vulgar, not that it’s hurtful.)
This is all kind of “reading between the lines,” because Scout’s use of “Atticus” isn’t fully explained in the text. But I do think it’s deeper than just using his first name to the reader. She does seem to call him this to his face.
kinder_brz@reddit (OP)
I love your literary analysis. Thanks.
Huge_Monk8722@reddit
No
Bluemonogi@reddit
It is not common to call your parents by their first name.
I have never lived in the south.
choglin@reddit
I think when she switches between Atticus and my father Harper Lee is trying to show how unconventional Scout is. I’ve also wondered if it’s to show how mature Scout thinks she is. But this is me trying to remember the book which I read literally 30 years ago.
People in the American Southeast or “The South” as it’s known seem to be more traditional and respectful in reference to hierarchy than the rest of the country. I would say this isn’t necessarily true in the major urban areas Atlanta, Miami, Nashville, etc. By saying this I’m making an outrageously gross generalization of the South. However, I think for your proposes it is true enough. I would say that “Maycomb” Alabama would fall into the “more traditional” category.
The film adaptation from 1963 is very good too if you want to check it out. It stars Gregory Peck and Robert Duvall.
CheesE4Every1@reddit
So I'm definitely the weirdo. I referred to both my parents by their names.
Rock-Wall-999@reddit
When I was a kid, I vaguely remember some kids calling their father, Poppa, I knew no one called by name!
lavasca@reddit
That is strange to me.
OrcaFins@reddit
Atticus is the narrator's father. No, it is very uncommon to address one's parents by their names.
Capital-Yogurt6148@reddit
No, it’s not common, but there are some situations where it’s not inappropriate.
I know this is a specific example, but I worked for my step-father in my early 20s, so I referred to him by his first name to coworkers and clients.
As for my mother, I will use her name if I’m trying to get her attention in a crowd, especially at family gatherings where several generations of women all answer to “Mom.”
Also, some people who have been abused/traumatized by the parents refer to their parents by their first names as a way to distance themselves and remove the parent/child power dynamic.
But as a general rule, no, it’s not a normal way to address your parents here.
davideogameman@reddit
Yes, Atticus is the narrator's father. As for why she switches between the two, I don't recall - been probably two decades since I read the book. But I think she's narrating after the fact, like many years later? So switches a bit from her view at the time, to her view as she's telling the story with more perspective & detachment. Anyhow it's a stylistic choice and not at all normal to refer to your parents by their first names - unless explicitly asked for their names.
FarFarAway7337@reddit
No, I would never get away with calling my dad or mom by their first names. Never.
It was the norm in my family to refer to my aunts and uncles as "Aunt [First name]" and "Uncle [First name]". When I became an adult, I slowly started to just use their first names. Only them.
eurydice_aboveground@reddit
As others have said, no. In the book it speaks more to Scout's personality and the relationship she has with her father.
707Riverlife@reddit
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eurydice_aboveground@reddit
Thank you!
The_Max-Power_Way@reddit
Not normal, but... My brother works with our father, and he calls him by his gis first name. I think, because it would be weird for him to call him "dad" in the workplace. It carries over, so he calls him by his first name even at family only events. None of my other siblings call him by his first name.
peppermintmeow@reddit
No, it's not. She calls him to "other" herself from the towns people in the book. Atticus, Radley and Scout are all very different types of people from the inhabitants of their town. They speak, think and by all other interpretations are different. Scout uses her father's first name to refer to him because of growing up and the changes that come with it. Her use of "my father" shows an acceptance and maturity as she moves from childhood to a more adult mindset as the story and the seriousness of the trial progress.
All three of the characters, along with just about everything else about the book are one big giant allegory. They're being used to metaphorical representations to safety talk about events, ideas and opinions that may not otherwise be able to be open for debate in the world of literary fiction. One represents the other. Kind of like a stand in. Like when you can't say a swear word because kids are around so you say "GREAT ODINS RAVEN!" Same, but different but same.
Keep in mind, I read this once, in high school. But I'm pretty sure from my memories of the 90's (when I graduated), memes, movie references and the occasional short on YouTube of Gregory Peck (so handsome 😍) I am pretty sure that I have like at least 60% of this correct. Also, I've just watched like 20 minutes of Marty Supreme and I'm full of cheese so my false confidence is at a all time high
SubstanceNo1544@reddit
The only time I invoke either of my parents names is when I am talking about them to someone else conversationaly and even thats rare.
Its always dad or mom
Vachic09@reddit
It's highlighted in the novel because it is unusual, especially for that time period.
FinancialSuccess3814@reddit
It's abnormal. It's meant to reflect that Atticus had a much less common parenting style, focusing on fostering Scout's critical thinking skills and empathy, treating her more like a young adult rather than a small child.
colesprout@reddit
It's extremely uncommon and weird. My older brother, for whatever reason, called our parents (and grandparents) by their first names at least once he was an adult. But it was super strange. That said, we're white/asian from the PNW, so I don't think it's necessarily a southern thing when it does happen.
MelodiousMelly@reddit
It's not common at all, which is why the author wrote that detail into the story.
In a "normal" family of that time, the father would be considered the ultimate authority figure, and children would be "seen and not heard"...literally an old saying from that time and earlier. But Atticus and his children treat each other as respected equals within the family because Atticus believes more in justice and equality than hierarchy and tradition.
MawGraw@reddit
A lot of children from that region and that era would've used the term "daddy" when addressing their father. My dad (grew up in Alabama a few decades later in the 60s/70s) called his dad "daddy" even as an adult. Maybe that isn't as common, but it's not unheard of.
There's no specified reason why Scout and Jem call their dad by his first name, but it always seemed natural to me, at least the way they portray it in the movie. Scout tells a neighborhood friend that she calls her dad Atticus "because Jem does" and I always assumed it had something to do with their mother's death and maybe that was a tangible way for Jem to feel more adult in a situation that required big, mature feelings. And Atticus doesn't mind because he's pragmatic and wants his kids to do what makes them feel better, so long as no one is getting hurt, because he loves them. It comes off as just another intimate way to address him, at least to me. Their own special bond.
Anyway, pure speculation! It's been a hot minute since I read the book but I didn't see any reasoning after a google search. Fun question!
Grouchy-Bluejay-4092@reddit
Not common, but not unknown. I called my father by his first name when I was a child, because that's what everyone else called him. When I got older I called him "Father." Don't remember why I switched.
LAWriter2020@reddit
I don’t think Scout the character ever addresses her father as Atticus, does she? Maybe that is only when the narrator (Scout) is describing her father and his actions to the reader.
catpurrrrfect@reddit
It depends.. I refer to my father by his first name (ha).
Not sure when it started but I think he did something to piss me off at the time and then it just stuck in my head.
Plus my half brother (who is much younger than me) always says “his” father. So I just started calling “his” father by his name.
Pitiful_Bunch_2290@reddit
Only when he DOESN'T LISTEN. 😁
_Smedette_@reddit
No.
In To Kill a Mockingbird, you can infer it is to show Atticus is unconventional, it’s his thoughts and actions about race relations, as well as his relationship with Scout.
Ghoulish_kitten@reddit
Is the answer to your question within the context of the book? Ive never read the book.
Pirate_Lantern@reddit
No
SunshineBLim@reddit
Not really. But I have 2 stories....
My cousin would refer to her parents by their first names when she was young, but her mom was a teacher and it would have been weird for her to say "mom" in that setting (we attended/ she a taught at a small private elementary school where some teachers were called by their first name). She also was an only child, so she picked up on calling them by their first names by adults she was around. Now they are mom and dad.
When i was learning to talk, my grandfather was at our house every day. His name was Bob. And Bob was easier than Grampy Bob. So he was always Bob to me and my siblings. Hearing my cousins call him Gramps or Grampy Bob sounds/sounded strange to me.
AtheneSchmidt@reddit
No. I'm 40 and can only think of one person I know who calls her parents by their first names. She is my second cousin, and if I were asked to describe her whole demeanor in one word, it would be "disrespectful." Ask for 2 and I'd add "rude."
stillwatersrunfast@reddit
Nope it’s disrespectful!
MostlyChaoticNeutral@reddit
I only call my dad by his first name in situations where "dad" would fail to get his attention, or if we're joking around.
Accomplished-Park480@reddit
The whole point of "Scout" calling Atticus by his first name is to show how unconventional the Finch family is with regards to child rearing.
No-Road-9176@reddit
Only is you are trying his nerves. You don't call your mother by her first name either. They are eternally mom or dad ..
Hungry-Wrongdoer-156@reddit
Generally it will be some variation on "Father" -- "Dad/Daddy," "Papa/Pop," and so on (fundamentally the same thing, essentially a title/honorific).
In the specific case of To Kill a Mockingbird, I think the author has Scout refer to her father as "Atticus" because she's addressing an audience. She's telling the reader that this is a man named Atticus, not addressing him as such. (It's been a while since I read it, but I also vaguely remember it being presented as the narrator's memories; an adult telling a story from her childhood.)
Longjumping_Ant7025@reddit
It's not normal, especially in the south. I had to go back and read the first few pages again to remember how it was used. It looks like the narrator is referring to her father by name for the benefit of the reader ( keep things simple to understand) , which would be an acceptable time to do so. By the way, great book and I how you enjoy it.
Prestigious-Talk1112@reddit
No. I think the main character is referring to their father due to how this person to show how unconventional they are. In reality most parents whether unconventional or not still use Mom and Dad although I have met a few people who never grew up calling their parents mom or dad but this is rare.
Regarding Southern culture it's more nuanced but in a wide general sense with many many varying situations I suppose it can be said that Southern culture is more traditional in a broad sense. More religious, holding to old fashioned traditions more etc but you cannot just assume this. It's way too big an area to just say that regarding the entire American South. Also that book is old and describing a time 90 years ago.
Derektheredcat@reddit
Definitely not…I read this back in 4th grade and was confused by the narrator using the father’s name so directly. I nerve once called my dad by his first name when he was alive.
PvtDipwad@reddit
It is unusual to call your father by his first name for the majority of the population. A variation of father like "dad" is common. If they are raised with formalities in mind you will sometimes see someone call their father "sir". Just depends on the family in particular.
SituationSad4304@reddit
No. I call him dad. To my children I call him grandpa
ButterballBubbles@reddit
It's not very common at all for children to call their fathers by their first names. And yes southerners are more likely to value politeness, honorifics, etc.
insertcaffeine@reddit
In my family, my dad was always “Dad,” except for when my twin brother was referring to him. He got “Eldon” privileges, and once he was a teenager, he could talk to Dad like an equal when they were working together. Dad treated him like a firstborn son.
I never quite figured out how that worked, especially since Twin Bro didn’t transition to male 🏳️⚧️ until Dad had already passed away…maybe Dad knew something that the rest of the family didn’t.
Many-Rub-6151@reddit
Lol my dad is 65 and still calls my grandpa dad
Specialist_Stop8572@reddit
It's not common
But I think in that book, it was more about Atticus being a known community figure
Slight_Literature_67@reddit
No.
monsoonsiren@reddit
It’s normal for all children
PlutoniumBoss@reddit
If I were writing a narrative about him I'd likely use his name in many places, but I wouldn't address him with his name.
tvan184@reddit
It is not even close to being normal.
In a personal relationship people can obviously do as they wish. Having known hundreds of people in my life, I have never heard anyone call a parent by the first name even if the person has passed away. It’s Mom, Dad, my mother, my father, etc.
stevzon@reddit
Papá?
Appropriate-Food1757@reddit
Nope
cleverburrito@reddit
Nope
HippityHopMath@reddit
No. Not at all.
Physical-Incident553@reddit
It’s not.
DharmaCub@reddit
No