What is a small thing someone might do that makes you realise, ‘Hmm, we're not going to get along’?

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CurvePuzzleheaded361@reddit

Moaning about cats and dogs. Not my people and I know it instantly.

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Oh gods, my carer does this. I'm trying very hard to train her to do her own thinking again.

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Dannypan@reddit

Aside from the usual stuff like listening to music out loud on public transport or highly contrasting political alignment:

Anyone wearing a puffer jacket or body warmer
Anyone wearing a hood up when it's warm and sunny
People who look at their phone while walking
Gum chewers
Dog walkers
People who prefer BBC Radio 1 over BBC Radio 2
Contractors

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garok89@reddit

I'm autistic so I tend to say exactly what I mean, not hide some meaning in the words.

I can't stand chart music,it's manufactured crap . Stopped listening to it in the late 80s but I wouldnt criticise people who do like it. To each person thier own way.

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garok89@reddit

Can’t stand people who seem to think there’s a hidden meaning in something I say or do, if I say something, it’s direct, there’s no hidden meaning, open book type shit.

ChelseaMourning@reddit

People who vape indoors in public spaces because it’s “not smoking”.

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TheTjalian@reddit

As a vaper this also pisses me off. Like, just be courteous of other people??? It's not hard

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ChelseaMourning@reddit

I’ve seen people vape on teams calls at work. You absolutely wouldn’t smoke a cigarette in that instance, so why is it ok to vape?

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Wooden_Adeptness_136@reddit

I vape in my own home, never indoors elsewhere, once did it on a teams call because it was habit. Have never stopped thinking about it, and never stopped wondering what on earth was going through my head at the time (very little, I imagine). Also have never done it again because I think it's rude and unprofessional 😅

I do this when out hiking. It really boils my piss that people drop litter in places of natural beauty. My kids have picked up the habit as well.

I was once up in the hills above Ashness Bridge in the Lakes and I found a white binbag full of someone's picnic detritus just dumped by the river, so I carried it down and asked the ranger at the tourist information there if I could put it in their bins - at first he was annoyed that I wasn't taking "my" rubbish home, but obviously when I explained the mood changed. He said it's pretty common occurrence that tourists just dump rubbish by the footpath.

As a nation, we should be better than this.

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Lau_kaa@reddit

The Peak District is terrible for this, especially those crappy one-use barbecues (that then set fire to the moorland), beer cans, and used nappies.

I bought a little flip top bin that fits in your cup holder. I'm convinced that it's the magic element that will make me a tidy car owner. At least it will when it's finally in situ, at present, my cup holder is currently lacquered in a sticky layer from an undetermined source, best guess Tropicana.

So for the last couple of months (you can add 10) my flip top bin has been rolling around my boot along with an eclectic mix of other items that were going to solve all my life's problems, from the ubiquitous notebook graveyard, clothes that I'm reasonably sure I don't own, through a collection of pinecones to tent pegs - no tent, just pegs and no idea why.

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fike88@reddit

I think we’ve got the same mrs. Mines is terrible for stuffing rubbish in the doors

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DrMashly@reddit

Between my wife and the kids we call it the mobile skip. At least the door sills mark the fill level.

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walkunafraid7@reddit

Similarly, spitting in the street!

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ICantSpayk@reddit

Interested to know what you think about runners doing it?

I too find spitting in general disgusting but when I go for a run I tend to have fluid building up in my mouth and have to spit. I always do it when there isn't anyone around though.

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Apprehensive-Gap9352@reddit

Adults produce and swallow about 1.5 litres of saliva a day. You know what to do

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walkunafraid7@reddit

I mean it's not ideal, but I do get that in some situations you just have to do it. I go jogging (maybe brisk walk would be more accurate) in the woods near me and I've runners do it on occasion - but they always try and aim it right off the path well away from anyone. It's those that hawk their guts up just because they can that infuriate me

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2in3day1889@reddit

Urrgh, I was almost sick the other day. I was unavoidably following someone along a road who felt the need to noisily dredge up the contents of his lungs every thirty yards for an entire half mile walk.

Then sparked a fag up.

None of us are earning £750 a day.

https://youtu.be/NoYu58tp3wc?si=a7Ec7K2T26GGpfZk

I think it's fine as long as you don't scratch your balls too.

Also, women are taught to sit with knees together as it's "ladylike", ie safer.

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Pedantichrist@reddit

The answer is surely not to also repress men, but rather for everyone to be as comfortable as there is room to be?

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Straight-Jacket-3280@reddit

Not sure why I'm downvoted here. The link I posted explains why sitting with legs together is uncomfortable, not just for squidgy anatomy but for the spine too.

Are they taking photos for proof first?

Is he making money out of these photos of feet as thats a bit kink?

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Buh_Snarf@reddit

Quite common on some systems to get a fine for feet on the seats.

Firstly it's disgusting, whether it's shoes or feets in socks. Secondly you're talking up and extra space which someone may feel uneasy to ask you to move for. Thirdly especially if it's shoes, you're adding dirt and germs to somewhere where someone will be sitting.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

I havent said anything about shoes have I?

I havent said anything about if its busy have I?

I have a disability and my pain is much less if my leg is elevated.

I was trying to stay light hearted about my questions.

What is the burden of proof in such situations?

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I dont live in Merseyside!

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Buh_Snarf@reddit

Well, I'm not sure where you live so maybe check your local provider to see if they also have a page?

Anyone on the train who has no headphones and feels the need to watch something on their phone at full volume

When they laugh at every little thing, even if it isn't funny.

I work with a new American guy who does this all the time. It's infuriating.

"I'll see if I can do that! Huh-huh! Huh-huh! Huh-huh! Huh-huh!"

"I think it's at half two! Huh-huh! Huh-huh! Huh-huh! Huh-huh!"

Oh! Those people actually exist in real life?
That must be really annoying. I’ve seen lots of folk online finish every damned sentence with “lol”, as if it makes any sense.

Not only that, but when I used to mix cartoons they’d often end episodes with a random group laughter for no real reason, like it was a trope that you must finish on everyone laughing.

God, yeah. You're right!

Huh-huh! Huh-huh! Huh-huh! Huh-huh!

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AnxiousTerminator@reddit

I used to work with a woman like this that did this bizarre fake laugh after everything even if not a joke and it drove me round the bend "can you make sure you print the expenses sheet heeheehee". It was like an anger management test, so grating.

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fuggerdug@reddit

Does he have no need for a cookbook despite selling kitchens, and live in Acton? https://youtu.be/teiKAJfsxBQ?si=-0RqODFPjgLYQGLD

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apeliott@reddit

Yes! Like that! But louder!

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TwelveButtonsJim@reddit

It's the wacky sense of humour.

Joined a call late the other day with American colleagues and they loudly shouted "oh look he's made it" and started howling with laughter. For some reason me being a couple minutes late was the funniest thing ever.

LadyBeanBag@reddit

Someone told me that autoimmune diseases would be cured by going dairy free all because her allergies cleared up by doing so. Bitch, that’s not how rheumatoid arthritis works. She was also a hospital worker (I am too) who threw a massive strop when I reminded her at the pandemics height that her mask was useless if she insisted wearing it on her chin.

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Sad-Nectarine-7855@reddit

Not a vegan but my arthritis is noticeably better after a period of reduced or zero red meat

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Ok_Introduction_1882@reddit

I find its the other way round where I work. People who have no idea whats happening in the world. " Oh I never watch the news its too depressing ". Im too busy watching the Kartrashians or Tik Tok.

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-aLonelyImpulse@reddit

I'm a literal journalist and I don't watch the news. Twenty-four hour rolling news was a massive mistake and it's caused more problems than it's solved, in my opinion. Watching the news stations is not the only way to stay informed, and not watching the news doesn't necessarily correlate to watching trash.

Of course, people who spend an inordinate amount of time on TikTok are probably getting their news from there, and that is a problem. But it's a separate issue from not staying glued to Sky or the BBC.

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CaptainMcClutch@reddit

I find watching the news too repetitive, they love to dine out on one or two stories for months and months. I prefer to read the articles, there is only so much I can be bothered hearing minor updates or filler each day.

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seta_roja@reddit

To extend a bit on that... Watching the news can be depressing, but that doesn't correlate directly to being uninformed or doom scrolling on tiktok.

Most social media and casual games are dopamine traps, and what we watch or read are poor choices that we make voluntarily (or not).

But I digress... Being hooked on reality shows or using tiktok as your main information outlet is sad. But is even worse when the person thinks that is a personality trait

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sugarydoring@reddit

But the news is depressing 😔 So i get why some people don't want to watch it. And if watching Tik Tok doesn't make them sad then so be it. This world is tough to be in so I'm all for folk living in their own wee bubble.

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longtermbrit@reddit

These people are known to impose it on you.

I don't have an award, but if I did have an award, I would give this comment that award

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lemonherring@reddit

I would give this comment that award

I would give it two, and they'd be shinier.

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Jojo6167@reddit

🤣🤣🤣

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Mopperty@reddit

This was a flaw I had for a few years in my early 20s. I genuinely thought I was adding to the conversation with my cool story about the subject. I know I was not the only one like this because when it happened to me it pissed me off. Eventually two neurons finally made the connection and I stopped lol 😆

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Amazing_Goal_8003@reddit

I’m neurodivergent and have spend roughly 3 decades adding “interesting facts” to conversations or using my personal experiences to make someone feel comfortable (I thought I was being compassionate, saying hey I get it it’s okay)

Yes I really struggle with this! Depending on the conversation I can comment on or ask a bit more about what someone has told me but my brain will always take me to a related experience of my own. That’s how it tries to connect with people! But the frustrating thing is I can, at times, feel when it is being taken as hijacking. Then I want to say something different but my brain flatlines and the option is silence which also feels wrong in a lot of situations.

kevkevverson@reddit

I think it’s more that the first person would like some indication that the second cares about what they’re saying and the specific circumstances around their version of the experience, not just waiting for their turn to take the lead

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ddmf@reddit

People who try to one up you suck, however some neurodivergent people may use things they've experienced to try to empathise with you and don't mean to do it in a bad way.

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TongaDeMironga@reddit

Why is this a neurodivergent thing and not just a people thing?

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ddmf@reddit

Because when we neurodivergent / autistics do it people misconstrue it as one-upping or butting in and making it about us, whereas typically we do it to show empathy.

Then, as Autistic neuroscience and trauma researcher Janae Smith puts it, an Autistic social skill is the sharing of ‘SAME Stories’ – in which we share a time when we’ve felt or experienced something similar to what you’re describing in our own life now. So, for me, you might say ‘I went on holidays to the Gold Coast and it rained the entire time’, to which I might reply ‘I went on holiday to Tasmania and it rained every day but one’. Now, this is NOT a competition or an Autistic bid for attention, but it’s our way of acknowledging how deeply we’re listening and empathising with you, because we’ve had a very similar, lived experience that we can share with you – we can share in your frustration, or your pain, or your celebration by revisiting how that felt for us in a similar moment.

They're specifically on about people who constantly one-up though.

A similar experience? Sure.

A similar experience, but mine was better/worse, every time? Stfu.

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MD564@reddit

Agreed. Is it a conversation if I cannot add and relate to what you're saying? Or are you just monologueing at me?

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Ok_Bumblebee_9873@reddit

Or just autistic

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PrincessPK475@reddit

I was in my 20's before anyone even told me that I did this and that it wasn't social convention and a likely reason people were distancing themselves from me.

Literally no clue. I knew people distanced from me I had no idea why - I still don't understand what the expected responses are - so now I just nod and smile and say shallow generic tropes to mask that I don't know what to say if I can't counter with a story of my own.

Between two ND friends a story leads to a story leads to a different story leads to a deep philosophical discussion on how squirrels shaped international culture often without pause and 15 side quest conversations.

Makes me sad that people think of it as self-absorbed. I'm often showing understanding through relatability/ I also get very overexcited that I can demonstrate your story held my interest to such an extent I didn't lose focus/I didn't get distracted by a car alarm 4 blocks away and followed the whole thing - serious accomplishment for my stupid brain and testament to how interesting your story was/how much I care about you and what you're saying

(Not saying that self absorbed story/energy stealers don't exist - they do, just makes me sad that the distinction isn't easy to pick apart)

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hazbaz1984@reddit

Jimmy Two Shits.

A needlessly combative approach to conversation. I meet quite a few of these people and it is an instant turnoff. Stuff like:

Interrogating other people's anecdotes to try and find 'holes' in the story "well if your gran was so sick, how did she go to the shops last week then?"

Needless pedantry "actually your gran didn't die of a 'heart attack', it's technically called 'cardiac arrest', which you should know! (Often the pedant is wrong).

Playing devil's advocate on trivial issues for no reason other than to disagree with people.

Unsolicited and condescending 'advice' on topics the person is unqualified to advise on. I was working as a lawyer before and a non-lawyer acquaintance with no career history in my area of specialism was giving me loads of 'advice' on the law based on shit they read on the internet

Happy to dish out jokes at other people's expense but becomes aggressive and defensive if people do it back.

One-upping. If you are tired, they haven't slept in 10 years. You have a health problem, their organs all fell out last night and they are still here at work. Stressed, they work much harder than you and have way more to do.

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SomethingUn0riginaI@reddit

Ugh, I know a guy who did the whole devil's advocate thing. It's exhausting, especially when a) the topic doesn't matter, b) they won't let you walk away from the conversation, and c) they've been proven factually wrong but still don't shut up. What a way to let people around you know that you don't respect them.

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Yeah, I was hoping the boss would tell her it is not her place to be deleting other people's stuff so she can copy paste it onto her own work and claim credit. Honestly if it was just this isolated incident I would go home, rant about it, and get over it, but it is something similar every other day. I used to genuinely really like my job, but now we've been shuffled around and I'm in a new team, new office new manager and it just sucks. Every day is micromanagey and some new frustration. I feel like despite having done my job fine with minimal supervision for years, new manager thinks I'm incompetent and won't just leave me to do stuff or trust my judgement.

She's always altering my stuff, we have to send stuff to her for QA before disseminating, but when I send mine she just changes random parts and sends it out without checking. Several times the things she's changed have been objectively incorrect but have been disseminated to senior staff with my name on who then come back to me to berate me for not knowing how to do my job and getting basic facts wrong. I am then in the unwinnable position of having to either just apologise and have them think I am thick as shit, or try and chuck my boss under the bus and have them think I am thick AND incapable of taking accountability. I've asked her so many times not to change stuff and then send it out with my name on without confirming I'm still happy the information is fine, and she just apologises then does it again next week. I'm so done with the whole thing and the new girl always chimes in to rub salt in the wound. I've never been micromanaged before and I hate it.

Sorry this ended up an off topic work rant!

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SaysUselessThings@reddit

"Needless pedantry"

I don't know if you've noticed, but reddit is fucking AWFUL for this.

Someone will make a comment that's either clearly metaphorical, or accurate enough that you get the point regardless, and there is ALWAYS someone that tries to derail that comment with a discussion about the finer, more accurate points of that metaphor.

Like you could say something about "pulling yourself up by your bootstraps" and some utter fucking Norman will wade into the comment with "well actually it's physically impossible to pull yourself up by your bootstraps" and then explain the finer points of the physics behind it. Then a bunch of people join that comment, argue about the physics until there's this whole pointless fucking chain of comments about bullshit that no one asked for.

When someone trauma dumps within 5 mins of me knowing them. Girl I don’t care that you’ve been messaging your ex, stop begging for attention

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Sad-Nectarine-7855@reddit

Lacking simple basic manners, saying "I'll have" instead of "please may I have" as well as being a scruff with the attitude "it's someone's job to clean/fix/sort it"

Also. Listening to chris brown, red hot chilli papers for the obvious reasons

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fingertipnipples@reddit

RHCP used to be my favourite band when I was a teenager. As a full grown adult I can't listen to them anymore. It makes me feel sick knowing that Keidis would prefer the teenager I was to the woman I am.

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Sad-Nectarine-7855@reddit

Yeah, same. It's just the fact it was virtually unknown and he just wrote it at free will in his autobiography, and then again at free will wrote that once he learned she was 14 did it again 😬

On the plus side flea's solo work is really good if you're into jazzy stuff

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fingertipnipples@reddit

Ooh I shall have a listen!

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Sad-Nectarine-7855@reddit

He's literally just released a new album too, with Thom Yorke and Nick Cave.

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runrunrudolf@reddit

Chris Brown I understand. What happened with RHCP?

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While I agree it’s annoying for everyone and gross to listen to, I physically cannot blow my nose. I’ll blow my eyes out before anything comes out my nose. No idea what malformation in the sinuses causes that, but my rather ample nose is fairly decorative when it comes to clearing it out.

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StuNurseNick@reddit

I might be slightly guilty of this... Hayfever is a PITA and I can blow my nose every 30 seconds, nothing comes out. It still feels like my nose is running/blocked :/

It's just as annoying for us as it is for you, but I'd like to apologise on behalf of all hayfever sufferers

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DrNuclearSlav@reddit

Woke up this morning feeling like I was drowning.

It begins. Three months of this shit ahead of me.

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AutomaticInitiative@reddit

4 antihistamines yesterday to stop the tide. Hate spring.

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cragglerock93@reddit

Being too happy to take the piss out of someone they've just met. I take the piss all the time and people do it to me, but I think when you meet someone there's a period of being polite where you try to work out what the level of jokey behaviour is that you're both comfortable with.

I was working nightshift with a colleague and a couple of new contractors a while back and one of the contractors was a loudmouth and within an hour of being in the building said my coworker was 'fur coat and no knickers' which I thought was pretty bold. Just strikes me as arrogant when you don't even know the person.

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mokosmam@reddit

People who say I hate cats

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AntFew7791@reddit

"I'm a vegan" without me asking...

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Alert_Mine7067@reddit

If phrases like tiktok, Instagram or other social media are a big part of their vocabulary, for me they're suggesting that they've got brain rot and won't be able to have a normal conversation, compare themselves to others etc. all of which aren't healthy behaviours to be around.

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WaspsForDinner@reddit

I'm in my mid-40s, and occupy my own little world of similarly-aged (or older) humans. Yesterday, in a shop, I heard uttered the words, "There's this amazing viral Tiktok (about something-or-other), and I'm literally obsessed with it."

I didn't know that people actually said these kinds of thing out loud, unironically, away from the hyperbole of the internet.

I felt despair, quite old, and also a bit of sick in my mouth.

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Alert_Mine7067@reddit

I'm 33 and my generation is scattered, you've the people like this, those that can practice moderation, and those that abstain altogether, I'm firmly in the last bracket. Anytime I hear this sorcery the trip switch in my head goes off and takes a few minutes to reset.

I feel the same way as you whenever I hear people making reference to it, for me it's even worse realising that my generation should have more sense, and the generation up even more so.

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ChoreomaniacCat@reddit

People who refuse to answer innocent little questions and take offence to them/become confrontational.

"Oh, I always see you using that mug, is it your favourite?"

"Well what do you expect me to drink out of, my hands?"

Constant-Map7687@reddit

The use of the word funner. It's funnier .

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slotbadger@reddit

Do you actually consider this an indicator that you're not going to get along with someone?

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Dangerous_Bed2566@reddit

Yes i do. See also 'pacific' when they mean 'specific'.

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It's "damp squib" and "just deserts" FYI, just seeing if you picked up on the proper English (You didn't).

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Dangerous_Bed2566@reddit

I love it when people nitpick incorrectly.

I was quoting you.
It is very much 'desserts'. 'Desert' is something else entirely
I did not write 'damp squib', that was you

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Electrical-Start-683@reddit

Perfectly executed lol.

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shortandfelly@reddit

Incorrect use of "myself".

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HotPinkLollyWimple@reddit

Irregardless, atleast there not doing it on accident.

eye twitches furiously

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nameunknown345@reddit

But they do it such alot (ouch, that hurt)

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"on accident"

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rhyithan@reddit

“On accident” irks me and seems to have become quite ubiquitous. Its “by” accident. The only thing you can do on an accident is step on a misplaced shit

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Dangerous_Bed2566@reddit

🤣 Great phrasing!

This also irks me!

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MarinaAquamarina@reddit

"Somethink"

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Winkered@reddit

Well that’s kind of how I pronounce it. Unfortunately it took me way too long to figure out how to write it. Not ever received a decent education.

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Skanedog@reddit

No jjury would convict.

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caspararemi@reddit

Couldn't care less about which way toilet paper faces. I never assumed that was a serious thing people actually got wound up about, I always thought it was just a joke about minor disagreements.

But for me, how people talk to the staff at coffee shops or restaurants, or just anyone else really. If they can't be patient and have a bit of empathy with someone just trying to do a job, they're not going to treat you well as a friend or partner.

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manecupcake@reddit

Someone that doesn’t stop talking. They realise there is quiet time within our company and they use that time to STILL talk. Nah I can’t. Please..stop talking 😅

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Adventurous_Ad3451@reddit

People who try to avoid doing the mandatory training. They are usually the arrogant ones who need it most and are 100% going to fuck up in an embarrassing or expensive way in the future.

Is it boring? Yes. Do you think you already know it? Also yes. Are you allowed to complain about it? Absolutely. But you still have to do it!

In DnD parlance: high INT low WIS

Sadly that's me, but I know my limits.

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Blunder_Woman@reddit

I used to know someone who was a solicitor and therefore intelligent enough to get a law degree, and her husband used to describe her as the thickest clever person in existence as she had ZERO common sense or general knowledge.

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Worldly_Wafer_6635@reddit

When you are in a sitting environment, I.e a waiting room, and someone new comes in. All the people who don't start to make themselves as small as possible in case the new person decides on the seat next to them, so the new person has enough room and doesn't feel awkward.

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lovesorangesoda636@reddit

Being rude about strangers in public.

Few years ago, we met up with a group of people when we moved to a town to make new friends.

One of them spent all the time complaining about The Last Jedi and wasteful government spending.

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Whistling.

Use of ‘them’ and not ‘those’.

Being French. (/s)

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SunAndStratocasters@reddit

Using them instead of those is very Brummy, at least where I'm from. I'd imagine northerners do it too. I can speak the queen's English if I like, but this feels a bit more like slang rather than being uneducated.

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Isgortio@reddit

I'm trying to think of a sentence where "those" and "them" get switched. Can you give me an example?

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SunAndStratocasters@reddit

Sure. All the time.

Can you pass me one of them?

See them people over there?

Them things you give me aren't working properly.

Sounds totally natural in my accent but I am aware it's wrong.

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Isgortio@reddit

Oh, those were uncomfortable to read, thanks for supplying examples! That reminds me of when people say "was" instead of "were".

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thistlewold@reddit

Touching me without my consent when introduced. Expecting a handshake in a business setting, fine. Trapping me in your flailing arm bones or trying to slobber on my face, not fine. Gerroff.

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Specialist-Guest60@reddit

Brings any mention of horoscopes into the conversation.

‘If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best’.

Translation—

‘I frequently act like a dick and if you don’t like it that’s your fault’.

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Kijamon@reddit

I was working at an outdoor event and a man came up to talk to me about my place of work.

A big moth flew between us, bumped off his jacket and fell to the ground and started walking off.

No pause at all from this guy, boot over it and crushed.

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Easy_Feedback5361@reddit

Littering and blasting phone audio in public spaces are both just a total lack of consideration for others, which is basically my number one dealbreaker. If you can’t be bothered to find a bin or keep your noise to yourself, it says a lot about how you view the people around you. It’s not about being perfect, but a baseline of respect for shared space is non-negotiable.

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Being too anal about queuing.

In the UK people are so obsessed with it it leads to genuine inefficiency.

Like a queuing thing is happening at buses now, I have seen a bus driver get pissed off because it turns into "no you, you were waiting at the bus stop first." Just get on the bus! It literally does not matter who got there first, we all need to go!

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robbeech@reddit

People who are constantly looking for and encouraging a fight/argument. Agenda trolls essentially.

They’ll go well out of their way to manipulate or deliberately misinterpret what someone says so they can kick off about something. It’s genuinely tiring.

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AirconGuyUK@reddit

People who also just pretend to play dumb like they don't understand really basic concepts like per capita statistics.

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Responsible-Hat-679@reddit

Writing “your” when they mean “you’re” - that’s it, I’m out.

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Commercial-Emu6363@reddit

People who smoke/vape around their children such as in the same car as them, in the house etc. There’s no excuse, everyone knows the dangers of smoking now and second hand smoke is still damaging, especially to their little lungs

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Isgortio@reddit

People that are walking with a young child or a push chair, and they're smoking. Eugh. Horribly selfish.

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Isgortio@reddit

doesn't mean you should be allowed to smoke there.

They did plan to expand the smoking ban to doorways 16 years ago but when I've just checked online it didn't actually happen, sadly I thought it had and I've spent years thinking people were terrible and breaking the law lol.

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shortandfelly@reddit

People who use "myself" because it think it makes them sound smart, when in actual fact they're too dumb to work out that they're using it entirely incorrectly.

spectator_mail_boy@reddit

I 100% believe that happened.

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hime-633@reddit

Being rude or dismissive to waiters etc.

Littering.

Talking at full volume / using a phone while at the cinema.

Not making any attempt to clean up the mess that babies / toddlers can make at cafés.

For me it’s turning your nose up at someone because of something that they like or enjoy. It just screams bad vibes.

People who are really judgemental over something so minor are probably like that with you as well behind your back.

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Emotional_Way_5093@reddit

Eating with their mouth open /talking with their mouth full of food .Add in noisy eating and I’m feeling borderline murderous !

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DaVirus@reddit

Any comment about how something is for a certain age. Like "why are those men building sand castles" or "why are those elderly ladies dressed like teenager"

Not tidying up after themselves. I . Am. Not. Your. Fucking. Housemaid.

Boils my piss that adults still think there's elves that run around cleaning everything up.

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cleb9200@reddit

Littering

Not washing hands after using the bathroom

Middle lane hogging

Playing their music uninvited in public spaces

People who can't let any comment or observation go without making sure that they tell everyone that they done it before you, or done it better than you ever could, and if it's something bad or difficult that they had it worse than you did.

If you say you're going to Tenerife they have to say they've been to Elevenerife.

Immediately opening conversations with political comments and presuming I'll agree with them.

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terahurts@reddit

People who park in disabled bays without a Blue Badge. Bonus negative points if it's the bay right next to the door.

People who set off the anti-theft brake on shopping trolleys then just stuff them back in the trolley park for someone else to find.

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strawberryblondey@reddit

Unsolicited parenting advice. "Well I did things this way and you should to". You're not the only one thats had kids love!

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DogFoodManUK@reddit (OP)

100%. That's an unwritten rule, no politics, religion or parenting advice.

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CoconutBandita@reddit

Vaping near others without asking first.

Dropping litter.

Holidaying in Dubai.

Having lip filler.

Wearing a football shirt unless playing or going to the game.

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elmo61@reddit

after going to antenatal classes when having our first kid, the group of parents went in a whatsapp to help each other out etc. but about 1 month after having our kids, one parent asked where could they go to get their ears pierced. and all the other parents made suggestions etc. I realised I didnt wanna be in a group with parents though wanted to hurt their child just to make them look "prettier" and just left the group that day.

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DogFoodManUK@reddit (OP)

Totally reasonable. Trying to force kids to grow up too fast is wrong. Let them be young and innocent as long as possible. Holding hands with me as we walk along the street. My two pre teen and just teen boys are still completely childlike and naive, it won't last long now they're at secondary school, but I'm cherishing it for now.

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wildcharmander1992@reddit

I'm 2/3rds deaf, anyone who gets visually annoyed when I ask them to repeat themselves as I either missed half due to spacial background sounds or that were looking away so I couldn't lip read to help fill in the gaps

An over the top, tight grip, squeeze handshake always pisses me off.

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DogFoodManUK@reddit (OP)

Some sort of macho dominance thing. Maybe they're insecure themselves?

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bluepushkin@reddit

Littering. Makes my piss boil. Put it in your damned pocket till you find a bin ffs!

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fishter_uk@reddit

People who point out that they're not following a sport.

"Is there a sports ball game today?"

Noone cares that you don't care. Just leave it.

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Hancri84@reddit

Smoking. Honestly the people I know who smoke, I just put up with them. Especially family.

There was a couple behind me on a flight the other day with a baby of probably around a year. Baby spent most today the flight with granny a few rows ahead (which is amazing, and nice for that couple to be able to relax a bit, however)..When granny gave the child to them for half an hour, all they did was put some shite on a phone on full volume for her to watch.

I know sometimes it's the easiest way to keep them entertained, but it was literally a case of 'here's your child' 'ok thanks, here's a phone to keep you quiet.'

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Do people really still say "I'm not racist but..." ?

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