Shedding tears
Posted by JackWylder@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 610 comments
I keep seeing fellow Gen Xers talking about crying when so and so celebrity died. Maybe it’s just me, but I don’t get it. I am sad when we lose people but I just don’t understand crying for people you’ve never even met. We don’t get to be this age without losing dozens (minimum) of actual friends/family. My death list is in the triple digits at this point and I’m pretty sure I can’t be alone in this. Serious question- do you still cry when you lose people? What about celebrities- which celebrity death made you cry? Maybe I’ve just gone numb. The real question for Gen X is- is it just me?
After_Narwhal8582@reddit
I had Tears when Lemmy and Ozzy died. Thats my whole upbringing though. People you never consider dying and living forever.
TemporaryOdd8052@reddit
I actually never had anyone really close to me pass away until last year. Only then I realized that it's just the beginning because everyone is getting older...
I don't recall crying for a celebrity dying but I've been sad.
parisindy_writer@reddit
Steve Irwin was also a tough one.
Old-Arachnid77@reddit
Carrie Fisher’s death got me.
She was one of the only female characters in my most favorite franchise. I was googly eyed over her forever. I was so sad she passed. She and Gary were a delight.
parisindy_writer@reddit
She was a tough one, I got to meet her just a couple of weeks before she passed so it felt extra surreal
Professional_Use8237@reddit
She died just a few weeks after my mom. I was really feeling my mortality.
MamaJody@reddit
She was mine too. Such a fantastic female role model for me, and it was just so sudden and far too soon.
Professional_Use8237@reddit
I cried when Jim Henson died. It felt like the loss of a big piece of my childhood and a favorite uncle.
parisindy_writer@reddit
Me too
Rain-Plastic@reddit
Me too
Intrepid_Practice956@reddit
Yep. Started watching Sesame Street in the second season (we didn't have a TV for the first).
Also (but no crying) Caroll Spinney.
2ndChanceAtLife@reddit
The death of Kidd Kraddick hit me hard. I listened to him on the radio at nights since I was a teenager. And when I grew up, he was the DJ for my morning radio station 106.1.
When my son was little, so was his daughter. He had this ongoing bit called Bathtime with Caroline. It was audio of his young daughter talking to him while she took her bath.
He shared his life with us, especially the funny bits. Like the time he managed to lock himself out of the house while naked.
Every Christmas, they would search for families in need. There was a mascara alert for these segments. Grateful Mom’s crying in gratitude because their kids were going to get a Christmas that year.
I think they were in New Orleans playing golf when he didn’t feel well. He died of a heart attack that day. Crazy because he appeared healthy.
I was stunned. This complete stranger had been a part of my life. Now gone.
“Keep looking up, ‘cause that’s where it all is!”
Salt-Routine-9388@reddit
When celebrities die it usually takes me back to a time that I saw them in a movie or in concert and then get really sad for a bit remembering the type of life I was enduring and they were my happy escape
Powerful-Advance3014@reddit
My mom cried when Elvis died.
I swore I would never do that.
So when Sonny Bono died, I just chuckled and said he should have invested in more ski lessons.
Prestigious_Ad_1037@reddit
No, he should’ve invested in a good helmet. It wasn’t as common then but everyone wears one now. He was an experienced skier on a fairly easy run.
WasteOfTime-GetALife@reddit
Princess Di - as well as JFK Jr. and his wife. Don’t know why, but l cried for days. Just shocking and seemed so preventable.
Ihaveaboot@reddit
That's just weird to me. Sorry.
KddKc@reddit
A couple got me in the feels a bit, left me speechless. Sad losing your childhood (like say Bowie, Prince, MJ and Lennon) but tears, no. I think the closest I came to being that sad over a celebrity was Freddie Mercury, but still no actual tears.
old_motters@reddit
Nope. I don't ever remember shedding a tear for a celebrity.
Unless you count E.T. when he's poorly.
Practical_Wind_1917@reddit
I remember crying at a movie in the early 90’s in the theater. For the life of me I cannot figure it out. But the full group of us. Fists and girls were crying at the end of it.
I also cried after my father died. 23 years ago now. Only real times I remember crying. I have lost over 30 friends and family, even have a close buddy who has spent 20 days in the icu not. Not sure if he will live or die.
But I have different views on life and on death, then most people
Independent-Dark-955@reddit
Crying in such a situation is involuntary and not necessarily rational. I cried when Prince died. It hit me very hard, to the point I couldn’t even listen to his music for a while. It wasn’t a choice I made. It’s just how I felt. I don’t cry over most celebrity deaths, even if I appreciated their work.
WasteOfTime-GetALife@reddit
👆 same here. I think it’s because we sometimes tie certain music and movies with important things that have happened to us, or have made an impact in our lives, and so in those instances it hits harder.
walker42@reddit
I cried when Leonard Nimoy died and I don't apologize for it or need to justify it
chrispd01@reddit
He would’ve found that reaction illogical….
OkIncrease6030@reddit
Nimoy wasn’t Spock.
chrispd01@reddit
No way! I had no idea. Thank you for that information.
A_wanderer_forlife@reddit
Yes.
OryxTempel@reddit
Me too. Star Trek was (and still is) a touchstone for me. Spock was everything.
Ceorl_Lounge@reddit
He's the reason I'm a scientist.
Intrepid_Practice956@reddit
I cried too. His art teacher lived nearby so we'd see him from time to time.
It felt like Nimoy in Star Trek was a symbol of our childhoods.
ElleGeeAitch@reddit
I burst into tears when I found out he died. I can understand why others might find it dumb, but his work as Spock, who he was as a person, influenced me since childhood.
matthewsmugmanager@reddit
I have never cried when a celebrity died, and I have never been into what they call "parasocial relationships."
But David Bowie's death did hit me kind of hard. I couldn't listen to Black Star for months after he passed. I just wasn't in the right headspace yet.
Impossible-Race8239@reddit
Bowie was the one that hit me and I did cry when I first heard Five Years afterwards. Like you I couldn’t listen to Blackstar for a long time.
Other than that, I’m a cold hearted son of a gun.
IndgoViolet@reddit
Gen-X circa 1968, The three that got me were Jim Henson (I outright bawled, felt like part of my childhood died too), Fred Rodgers (made me shed a tear, but fondly), and surprisingly, Steve Irwin.
pmllny@reddit
I feel badly when certain celebrities die but I have never cried over it. Now, ASPCA commercials...that's a different story.
Live-Cat9553@reddit
In the arms of the angels…
pmllny@reddit
gets me every time.
Live-Cat9553@reddit
My little six year old self BAWLED when Elvis died. Then my older self cried in the terrible period of hours when we lost Johnny Cash and John Ritter. There have been others that have made me sad and feel a loss but I didn’t cry. Nope…wait…I cried when Robbin Crosby died too.
OneCallSystem@reddit
Yeah, crying over a celebrity to me is stupid. They wouldn't cry for me so why give them a tear? Also they would probably tell me to fuck off if i met them, so yeah. No.. No tears will be shed.
Live-Cat9553@reddit
I bet you’re the life of the party.
Alternative-Unit-738@reddit
John Ritter was the first one to hit me. I really loved him on Three's Company. He was my 'TV Dad' it was comforting for me to watch him in goofball comedies growing up. "Stay Tuned" was one of my favorite movies. I wish he could have been around longer for us to enjoy. I live vicariously through his son Jason. it warms my heart to still see him on TV.
Live-Cat9553@reddit
Him and Johnny Cash died so close together. It was a sad 48 hours for me. And Jason is SO GOOD on the new Matlock. You can really see John in some of his facial expressions.
Just_Trish_92@reddit
I think many people our age picked up the message in our formative years that crying was for babies, and that a mark of maturity was to stop expressing emotion through tears. I don't think this was a particularly healthy message, but it was out there, and some have been more affected by it than others.
jayhawkwds@reddit
I was watching MTv when Kurt Loder announced Kurt Cobain's death. I went to work and told a fellow coworker about it. I could see the shock and sadness in his whole body, and I'm pretty sure he went off and cried. To this day I just don't understand why.
Bamalouie@reddit
I was in college when this happened and my roommate was inconsolable for days. I didnt get it - girl, you dont even know the guy!
mstrong73@reddit
I cried a little while doing my mom’s eulogy. Otherwise I haven’t cried in decades. Is that healthy? Probably not but that’s the way it is. Crying over a celebrity makes no sense to me.
Tampadarlyn@reddit
I cried when Robin Williams died because of how he died. Same with Chester Bennington.
ArtistL@reddit
Yes. Chester. I still have a hard time listening to LP and also Audioslave. RIP Chris and Chester. My son and I had seen them both together in DC bf they died. Esp poignant.
ArtistL@reddit
Not crying so much, but I definitely feel the press of time, and the urgency of living the life I want to. I was a big Anthony Bourdain fan - and his death really stuck with me. He really seemed to get a lot out of life. You never know the pain people have.
SolomonGrumpy@reddit
"Leave Britney alone"
Tokogogoloshe@reddit
I don't even know who the fuck they are because I care as much as they care. Not my monkey's, not my circus.
Greedy_Blueberry420@reddit
I bawled like a baby over Princess Di, I was literally crying hysterically into my pillow watching the procession at 3am so I wouldn't wake up my parents. Robin Williams and Prince I cried. Gord Downie I was immensely sad, but he had prepared us for a year before his death so I was all cried out by then.
OkIncrease6030@reddit
I don’t usually feel anything when celebrities die and I never cry unless it’s a close friend or family member. I did feel sad about Robin Williams, Prince, and a few others though.
nurse1227@reddit
Same. Sad but can’t see crying.
Adorable-Puppers@reddit
I cry like it’s paying me so I might cry at any death. And birth. Or marriage. Probably divorce. Definitely people being wonderful, especially to each other.
sometimesnowing@reddit
Oh this is a perfect description! I'm the same way, a sad thing on the telly, just about every book, people's stories, a good poem. My bladder is close to my eye as my husband says lol.
Oddly though, I don't really cry at celebrity deaths. My sister's dog died recently though and I bloody bawled
BigDougSp@reddit
For me, most celebrity deaths are just... news events without the personal connection. Sad enough but I don't know them.
Robin Williams, Tom Petty, and Ozzy Osbbourne though...
... those three just hit me differently. Probably because they were huge parts of my culture growing up... more so Williams and Petty.
captainfishhooks@reddit
I met dimebag 2x. Drank with him and Vinny once. Cried my eyes out the day he was killed.
Locked_in_a_room@reddit
I grew up in the same area Pantera was from. Partied with them a few times, etc.
Dimebag DEF had me crying.
TickingTheMoments@reddit
I saw him say that and I read it in his voice. OH YEAH!!
PizzaWhole9323@reddit
Whispers.. Jim Henson.😭
DroidRGH@reddit
Mister Fred Rogers was practically a parent for me growing up. I heard it on the radio, and pulled my car over on the parkway to cry it out.
Careful_Equipment401@reddit
I shed tears for Mr Rogers, Prince and Anthony Bourdain ♥️♥️♥️
jprennquist@reddit
Prince was ten years ago to the day. I am from MN and a DJ so that might make him generally a little more special to me. But honestly I think millions and millions of people felt that loss and it hit quite hard. It was a senseless death and far too young. And it was also a bit of a wake up call that a very wealthy, extremely beloved, and well connected person could die from an opiate overdose. In the middle of America, in his own mansion.
Obviously thousands of people had already been dying from the ongoing opioid epidemic in America and even more have died after that.
I still think of an mourn Prince probably every day. And I carry narcan everywhere I go.
Steve Irwin and Robin Williams also hit very hard. George Michael was tough. A lot of people might be saying Michael Jackson, and that loss does really bother me and it was shocking, but it's not in the same class for me personally as some of those other ones.
We all get to grieve in our own way, and if that means grieving over famous people, so be it. But when I was doing my best to get lost in the backwoods and country roads up along and adjacent to the North Shore (of Lake Superior) I was cranking Prince on the tape deck of my mom's station wagon. And when that just perfect guitar and the perfect reverb drenched lyrics blasted out of my tape deck, that wasn't some celebrity talking to some teenager, that was Prince, talking to me personally. Pipeline to my soul. Over 40 years later and I'm still figuring out what some of those lyrics mean and why they speak so deep in my soul. That's more than a celebrity, that's like a *prophet."
SunshineAlways@reddit
Yes, people whose work I really connected with deeply, and had great meaning for me, of course I will mourn the loss.
Also, there was a lot of bad crap that happened in my childhood, and some of those people on tv gave me more comfort and reassurance and laughter than the in real life people who were supposed to be fulfilling that role, even though they loved me. Add in to that the actual happy memories and bonding of watching those shows with all of my siblings, not all of whom are still with us.
HumpaDaBear@reddit
Robin was like a funny uncle to me. Cried. Prince? Cried. Alan Rickman? Sobbed.
Coppergirl1@reddit
When Chandler Bing died it hit me, but I didn't cry. RIP Mathew Perry
analogpursuits@reddit
Maybe they watched more Mister Rogers than you did.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Oh fuck right off with that. It’s not that I don’t feel- I feel grief and loss deeply. I just don’t cry. (I also don’t judge those who do.) Perhaps I’ve just lost more than you.
analogpursuits@reddit
The post sounded like you were judging those who do. It really isn't up for debate, the way people mourn loss. It's strange you have any preoccupation with it at all.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Where did you get the idea I’m ‘preoccupied’ with how people mourn loss? I asked a simple question, because it occurred to me. You try to claim the moral high ground by citing Mister Rogers without for a moment considering where I might be coming from. In the last five years I’ve lost my parents, my in-laws, and six of my closest friends. I kind of feel numb at this point so I wondered if it’s just a Gen X thing. So you can fuck right off with your condescending condemnation.
analogpursuits@reddit
I cant argue with the cursing. Definitely adds flair. I give it a solid 7.5.
stannc00@reddit
Only celebrities that meant something to me personally. Being a fan of Springsteen when Clarence Clemons passed I felt badly for all the music that will never be the same.
What’s really odd is the visceral reaction that I had when Gilbert Gottfried passed. It wasn’t sudden but it wasn’t publicly known how sick he was. Over the course of six years he and his podcast partner developed a close knit bond with their listeners over the shared love of pop culture. I got to meet him after a show once and he wasn’t that screaming lunatic who had kept me laughing for the previous two hours. He was a nice man who appreciated fans coming to his shows. And maybe buying lunch. :).
A real mensch.
giraffe-zackeffron@reddit
I never cried for a celebrity death but two times in my life, I can honestly say I was devastated by celebrity deaths. Neil Peart and MCA. Those were hard. The best friend I ever had in my life died in 2013. That was rough. It still is actually. If I spend too much time thinking about him, I have and will still cry. I grew up in a really super dysfunctional family. I was an accident. Parents loved telling me how they didn’t plan for me and how much harder life became with an extra kid. My friend was always there to counter everything they put me through. He was like the one person in my life who actually said I mattered. Amazing friend and I miss him daily. I’ve lost other friends, both parents are gone as well. I’ve been sad at most deaths and if I’m being honest, I was apathetic about a few. Never happy of course. But some just didn’t really register with me.
proofreadre@reddit
The only celebs I got close to crying for were Pee Wee Herman and Christopher Hitchens. I still mourn their loss.
Migamix@reddit
We grew up with some of these celebs, we didn't binge their life.
_Losing_Generation_@reddit
Yeah, I don't get it either.
jseger9000@reddit
I haven't cried for any celebrity (yet). But the two that hit me were weirdly unexpected: Arthur C. Clarke and John Ritter
GenXTexanBelle@reddit
Yes! I cried when my dad told me that Arthur C. Clarke had passed away. Such a lovely brain he had, and I loved the scientific accuracy of his novels.
battlesong1972@reddit
Everyone handles death differently, feels and shows emotion differently and feels different connections. I have cried when a few celebrities left us, especially if it seems too early. The one I most remember is Fred Rogers, I didn’t expect that one to hit as hard as it did
kevdog71@reddit
I don’t get it either. I feel empathy for their families, but that’s about it.
wildgoose2000@reddit
I still remember the morning I walked into the kitchen and my dad turned to me and said John Candy died. I had no idea the affection he had for John Candy, but that was about the saddest I ever saw my optimist father look.
Independent-Dog5311@reddit
The same goes for Robin Williams. I loved watching Mork & Mindy when I was kid. I didn't always understand, but it made me laugh.
Nanu nanu!
Cold_Martini1956@reddit
I didn’t cry, but Gene Hackman and Rob Reiner’s deaths were really disturbing to me. Poor Gene… wandering around that house and his wife was already dead. 😢
pinkcheese12@reddit
I agree about both of those. Fairly long lives and much success, but gross, terrible endings. It’s sooo disturbing!
TrianglePope@reddit
Not crying, but feeling sad, missing the joy and light they brought to the world, things like that.
What makes no sense to me is the perpetual “Celebrating so-and-so’s 159th birthday!!” shlock for dead people.
Alewort@reddit
I cry when imaginary people die. People have different levels of empathy and also do burn out at times. You don't get it because your makeup is not the same as every other person.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Oh fuck you- don’t try telling me I lack empathy. You don’t know me. Just because I don’t cry doesn’t mean I don’t feel every loss.
Alewort@reddit
What I was telling you is that your particular level of empathy isn't in the same place as people who do and your lack of "getting it" stems from that, and also affirming that if you feel you're burned out you're probably right. I didn't say you didn't have any nor even that you're deficient.
Makeup_life72@reddit
Me too. Poor Boromir. ….” The took the little ones…”🥹
Tryingnottomessup@reddit
RIP Neil Peart - The Professor
wolfysworld@reddit
I have cried over the deaths of a couple of celebrities but I have cried over regular people who I didn’t know if I am touched by the story. I cry about lots of things, it’s just my release. I have not lost nearly the number of people you have, that’s a lot and I am so sorry 💔
ThunderHawk17@reddit
I dont cry but i did feel sad when Micheal jackson and Jose Jose died
the3litemonkey@reddit
I've never cried about a celebrity death. Friends and family is totally different.
denvergardener@reddit
Triple digits?
Were you born into a family of sea turtles?
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
By the time I got out of high school I was already at a dozen or so. I had no idea this was unusual. I thought it was just a Gen X thing. Suicides, overdoses, a couple of murders, and a whoooole bunch of just stupid shit.
FakeNameSoIcnBhonest@reddit
I think OP is the problem.
ImAlsoNotOlivia@reddit
Yeah, I'm late 50s, and I know maybe a few dozen or so who have died, between friends and family.
Doc-Milsap@reddit
Maybe they feel something deeper about it than you do. I’m with you though, I didn’t cry when we lost Robin Williams, Chris Cornell, and Scott Weiland, but it sucked tremendously when they died.
Doc-Milsap@reddit
Maybe they feel something deeper about it than you do. I’m with you though, I didn’t cry when we lost Robin Williams, Chris Cornell, and Scott Weiland, but it sucked tremendously when they died.
Decent_Recover720@reddit
2016-17 was a very difficult period for me. I had been diagnosed with an ascending aortic aneurysm that wasn't quite large enough to warrant an operation to repair, even though it could have ruptured at any moment. I felt like I was living on borrowed time. Every little flutter or pain in my chest, and I would wonder if my number was up. There were a lot of celebrity and personal deaths during the 2016-17 period that hit hard. Three of my all-time favorite musicians died. ELP's Keith Emerson by suicide in March 2016, Greg Lake, also of ELP, died of pancreatic cancer in December 2016, and John Wetton of Asia died of colorectal cancer at the end of January 2016. I was very saddened by the loss of these musicians, but didn't cry. The saddest thing was that they would never again produce music.
During this period, my first wife died of cancer. I didn't even know she had been ill, and her family didn't inform me that she had died, even though they had my phone number. I stumbled across her obituary in the paper one morning. I didn't cry, but it still saddened me that I didn't get a chance to say goodbye. Also during this 2016-17 period, a classmate from high school had died.
In December 2016, Richard Adams the author of my all-time favorite novel Watership Down died at the age of 96. In February 2017, Richard Hatch, star of the original Battlestar Galactica died of pancreatic cancer. The most jarring celebrity death in this period for me was Bill Paxton, who died in February 2017. He died from a stroke days after undergoing surgery to repair a heart valve and the same kind of aortic aneurysm I had been diagnosed with. Didn't exactly fill me with confidence about my future. I enjoyed a lot of Bill Paxton's work, but again, I didn't cry.
And even beyond that period of time, there were some YouTubers who died whose content I had been enjoying, and their deaths saddened me. Steve Cash from Talking Kitty Cat took his own life in 2020, Mark "Hobo Shoestring" apparently drowned in 2024, and Paul Harrell died of pancreatic cancer in 2024 as well.
I just don't understand the people who turn into sobbing, blubbering messes when a celebrity dies. You can feel sad, sure, that someone you were a fan of is no longer around and sad that they won't be making any more films, music, literature, YouTube videos, etc. But come on. It's not like you actually knew the person.
For anyone who might want to know about my aortic aneurysm, I moved to Florida in 2020, and when I had CT scans run down here at multiple locations, the results were showing that the aneurysm was a full centimeter less than it had been back in Illinois. At least down here, I got to see the actual CT scan images, so I think the machines back in Illinois were wrong. Anyone diagnosed with an aortic aneurysm should go to a completely different medical network and get a new CT scan for confirmation if insurance permits.
Technical_Role743@reddit
It’s not about knowing them on a personal level, it’s about the ephemeral way they made you feel. It’s about how my parents didn’t have money but somehow we saw Star Wars 6 times that summer or how the other summer you watched Tombstone at the drive in with a friend that you didn’t realize after they were gone was actually more than a friend. It was a moment that was so much more and you didn’t know you lost that much-ness.
FortuneOpen5715@reddit
I’m usually pretty numb to death. I lost my mom when I was 15. That’s what made me numb. I lost two of my cousins that I grew up with in the last two years and I didn’t cry. Celebrities hit me differently because entertainment is my solace. Terry Pratchett hit me hard but I don’t think I cried. Catherine O’Hara made me cry. She brought so much joy and laughter to my life. Plus, she was Sally from The Nightmare Before Christmas and I love that movie.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Sir Terry gutted me for sure. I spent over a year with his final book on my shelf- I just didn’t want there to never be a new Pratchett book again.
FortuneOpen5715@reddit
That was so hard to read! I powered through it as soon as it came out because I adore the Tiffany Aching books but I felt him saying goodbye to his fans. 😭
RayBuc9882@reddit
I have felt sad when the following died:
Walter Payton (okay I shed tears, and I’m not even a Bears fan!)
Robin Williams
Blue-cheese-dressing@reddit
I think Robin Williams is a good example of one that gutted may jaded Gen X’ers.
GenXTexanBelle@reddit
And Jim Henson of the Muppets. I ugly cried when I heard.
GenXTexanBelle@reddit
TBH, I cried when Leonard Nimoy passed away. I'd always been a fan of his (Spock & Paris on Mission: Impossible). But I was so touched in the earlier days of Twitter, when he offered himself as a universal grandpa to us on Twitter, that he wanted to celebrate our wins with us and to get us to quit smoking. Lovely person, and emotionally generous in early social media.
peptide2@reddit
Princess Dianna got me and i was confused as to why at the time . But it was like the bastards had won.
r2killawat@reddit
Ok try this- go watch the John Candy documentary that's out now. If you don't get at least a little bit emotional over it then yes, something inside you is dead.
Conscious_Crow_5465@reddit
Sure I cried for close relatives. For celebrities, hell no. Don’t get the infatuation with celebrities. Just because you see them on TV or the sports arena does not means you have a relationship with them, it does not give you the right to pry into their personal lives (you know of them from their job). So don’t understand how you can be so moved by their death.
MrsDottieParker@reddit
After David Bowie and Prince died within a few months of each other, somebody told me the reason that we grieve so hard when a celebrity we love dies is not because we knew them, but because they helped us know ourselves.
I do not cry for all celebrities when they die. I cry for the ones who made a significant impact on me by helping me see the world differently, inspiring me to take action, and creating art that moved and shaped me.
Cats-And-Brews@reddit
Stevie Ray Vaughan. Eddie Van Halen. Both hit me hard.
remybanjo@reddit
Robin Williams. That is all.
maroongrad@reddit
Robin Williams. He was just an amazing man with such a sad death. I'll probably cry again when we lose Dolly, because she's just been a gift to humanity with all she's done (the books!!! her support of students and their educations!!!). Most of the others, no...but losing someone that I genuinely respect and admire, that is just an amazing person and who made the world a better place, that's gonna make me cry. There are very few. Probably just Dolly, Brendan Frasier, and Keanu Reeves on that list and most likely just Dolly. Losing her will be very sad. The vast majority of celebrities, no. Oh, and Carter. He was also a big loss for humanity.
meatwads_sweetie@reddit
I cried when River Phoenix died. But that was back in the 90s.
DiamondLight25@reddit
River and, especially, Chester Bennington for me.
circusvetsara@reddit
i cried when Shannon Doherty died. i’m not a big fan but she had breast cancer like me then it came back and killed her. it’s so sad and scary
Endless_Patience3395@reddit
I lost it when Betty White and MCA died.
magneticca@reddit
David Bowie
Ok-Temporary@reddit
My mother and David Bowie died within a month of each other. I was more upset by Bowie's death, and I can't explain that. Both were unexpected. I didn't shed tears for either -- but I think I'm just cried out from my dad's death years earlier.
darthjazzhands@reddit
If you cry, you cry. Entertainers touch everyone's lives differently and some folks are more sensitive than others. Nothing wrong with it.
Keep in mind, people may not cry over the celebrity themselves, but perhaps the memories that come up. For example, a friend reconciled with their dying father and bonded over John Wayne movies. That's the last thing they did together after a lifetime of fighting like cats and dogs. The father died before John Wayne did.
So when John Wayne died, the friend was brought to tears over those memories with their father.
newwriter365@reddit
Nope.
None of us get out alive. Death is the tax we pay for life.
Exciting_Direction_9@reddit
I cried when Elvis died. Can still remember the moment I learned of his death.
decadentbear@reddit
I have cried when certain celebrities have died bc I had strong emotional attachment to them and memories. I don’t see why it is considered bad or good either way.
scare_away@reddit
I absolutely do not cry when celebrities die. I usually say “oh, that’s too bad,” and that’s the end of it. I don’t know these people personally, my life goes on the same.
GooseySill@reddit
I didn't cry...but ones that really hit me hard were Cliff Burton, Ronnie James Dio, and Ozzy. Paul Di'Anno and Chuck Schuldiner, too.
OpeningFuture6799@reddit
When some celebrities died, I don’t cry but I feel sad because another part of my youth had died. I feel those who cry at celebrity death’s are mourning the joy and happiness certain people brought into their lives and are now gone to never provide that happiness again in the future. At least that is my take.
SummerBirdsong@reddit
I've been brokenhearted over a couple ... Robin Williams comes to mind.
Don't know as Ive actually cried over any.
shooflypie@reddit
Robert Duvall got me crying.
StrikingFlamingo69@reddit
I cried when John Prine died. I think it was a combination of who he was as a person + his art + first celebrity covid death. I was gutted.
shooflypie@reddit
I cried when I heard the news then ugly cried when I saw the video Brandi Carlisle posted of her covering Summer's End. Miss that man. What a talent, what a soul.
Car_Equivalent@reddit
Lennon, Bowie
Cultural_Manner_3826@reddit
I cried for George Harrison, Tom Petty, Chris Cornell, and Rob Reiner. Maybe more. When Dolly or Willie dies, I'll also cry. Tbf, I cried watching a video for a K9 dog on his/her/there last day of service today. I may be a "cry baby."
Cultural_Manner_3826@reddit
their
Mobile-Quote-4039@reddit
Celebrities?no. Friends and family still no. I think I’m fucked up though. Seeing someone do something kind or save an animal in pain gets me to fill up,rarely cry. Not people.
CTurtleLvr@reddit
Same.
MikeOrTara@reddit
I thought I was the only one like this. I cry over uplifting movies, sad movies, animals, etc. People, hardly ever. This sounds crazy, but both my parents are still alive and I'm curious how I'll react when one of them passes.
Pigeonofthesea8@reddit
I don’t usually cry for celebs either, although I bawled like an idiot when Bowie did. Took me by surprise
Hoz999@reddit
Guess the empathy level needs to be checked out. You seem you’re a quart low.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Fuck off.
Hoz999@reddit
And you wonder if it is just you.
TifCreatesAgain@reddit
When Paul Reubens died I broke down! I always hoped I would get to meet him someday. I have met his sister. I cried for hours!
BadMotorFlinger@reddit
I think it is less about the individual and more to do with the tearing down of our youth/past. Its more akin to saying goodbye to a piece of you that you took for granted and will never see again. Its that realization that nothing lasts forever, even figures who might have seemed untouchable to you in your youth.
ChapterOk4000@reddit
I think it's more about us than a celebrity we don't actually know. Especially when it's someone who has been a part of our entertainment world for our entire lives, it makes us feel that much closer to our own death. Any death of someone I know (or know of) hits hard because of that, and because I haven't lost lots of people in my life. Perhaps after a few dozen we do become number to it, I don't know. For me, now that both my parents are gone, the only people "ahead" of me are my two older brothers, so yea, I feel that.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
I felt much the same way with John Candy.
ChapterOk4000@reddit
Oh yes, another really sad loss!!
Upnatom617@reddit
Rip beautiful man! ❤️ John Candy!
No_Cranberry_616@reddit
Anthony Bourdain and Bob Saget were rough for me. And Prince. But no crying.
Jolly-Sandwich-3345@reddit
What if you saw the celebrity in concert?
I cried twice the day that Prince died (10 years ago today actually.) The first time was more from shock. The second time when I realized I would never have a chance to hear his voice at a concert again.
TheAmazingMaryJane@reddit
prince seemed like a sage. i thought he would live to be 100.
WingZombie@reddit
I never understood the cult of the celebrity. A few deaths were a gut punch because I loved their art so much. Anthony Bordain, Kurt Cobain, Peter Steele and Chester Bennington. I didn’t cry but I did feel very sad that they left the world.
TheRealScutFarkus@reddit
Closest I came was Anthony Bourdain. But even then, it wasn't very close.
Damien__@reddit
I don't cry about real people. But no matter how many times I watch my favorite shows/movies I still cry over people who were always fictional.
mamabear00420@reddit
I cried when the shot Wil Wheaton in Toy Soldiers 💯
Used_Ambassador_8817@reddit
omg I have not heard that movie mentioned in YEARS
SignificantTear7529@reddit
Because grief is never fully processed for most of us. So a celebrity passing triggers unresolved personal grief.
freerangeXkid@reddit
Celeb's passing doesn't upset me more than a passing "oh bummer, so young". And that threshold for what constitutes young rises every year.
What gets me is seeing those close to the deceased dealing with their grief. I didn't cry when Taylor Hawkins passed, but I watched both of the tribute concerts and seeing how much his family and friends loved him moved me
NamelessIowaNative@reddit
My first reaction to a celebrity death is usually “Oh, thought he/she died years ago.” And that’s about the extent of it.
pwwhisperer@reddit
They were still alive?
Curious_Instance_971@reddit
I got a little dust in my eye when I heard Glen Frye died, the music of the Eagles was something I grew up on. Most don’t really bother me.
Alarmed-Idea2322@reddit
I shed tears for Ed Van Halen
emeraldandrain@reddit
I was sad when Malcolm Jamal Warner died. When cool people die, it just doesn't feel right. I'm not going to celebrate when....but I would be relieved, and will definitely NOT cry.
CardinaLiz4@reddit
When.... ? 🤔😁🤫
tandem_kayak@reddit
Think 🍊
CardinaLiz4@reddit
Lol I know
emeraldandrain@reddit
If you live in the US... hint: orange
Several-Guarantee655@reddit
Only time that I've gotten a little misty over a celebrity was the first time I listened to It's Not My Time after Brad Arnold passed. Listening to 3DD has helped me through some tough times over the past couple years. I'm only a year younger than Brad, so it really hit home when he passed.
Ok, maybe there's been twice. I listened to the YungBlud version of Changes from the Black Sabbath tribute concert shortly after hearing that Ozzy had died. That one got me too.
patroklus68@reddit
Cried for an hour when Spock died
Upnatom617@reddit
💙 🖖
kboleen@reddit
I shed a tear when Leonard Nimoy. Some of my earliest memories were watching Star Trek with my older brother after school.
Upnatom617@reddit
Live long and prosper!
FredsCrankyMom@reddit
I've only shed real tears for one celebrity death. Fred Rogers comforted me more as a child than my own parents. His loss touched me deeply.
Upnatom617@reddit
This!
WhisperedSoul@reddit
I cry, but I’m an empath who seeks beauty and joy deliberately. I cry for the talent lost and the joy of witnessing it first hand. I cry over immense talent squandered. I cry for those hounded or treated poorly (Princess Diana) and those left behind (her young boys).
I can’t help but feel.
RaccoonHaunting9638@reddit
Yes!! This destroyed me ! They wouldn't leave her alone, ....the way she died, just aweful
Individual-Army811@reddit
Sometimes is the personal memories attached to their work. But sometimes, its ridiculous for people to give a crap more about a celebrity than an ill friend, family member, or coworker.
lcoursey@reddit
I said the same thing, but then ol' Jimmy Buffett died, and I shed some tears: not because of me mourning him like a loved one, but because I won't get the joy of hearing his next song, of seeing the show, and being part of something that was so very special. I cried because it's the end of something very special to me.
WattDeFrak@reddit
Same. That one broke me like no other because I hated the idea of living in a world without Jimmy’s magic in it.
AnneChovie264@reddit
I agree. Jimmy's fans always knew that he was traveling the world and visiting places most of us could only dream of. We knew he'd share the experiences in the music he wrote, and now that is gone.
_TooncesLookOut@reddit
Triple digits? How many wars were you in?
Upnatom617@reddit
Anton and Brittany. Man. I did not cry but both were so messed up for someone so young.
RaccoonHaunting9638@reddit
Princess Diana
LazyOldCat@reddit
The only one that’s ever gotten to me was Bourdain. Didn’t break down or weep openly, but man, that just wasn’t right.
Also bummed I never saw Tom Petty, but not really emotional.
Mistervimes65@reddit
Depends on how much the celebrity impacted my life. Curt Cobain? I was sad for him and his family. Sir Terry Pratchett? I wept. His writing literally changed my life.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
In a lifetime of meeting big names, meeting Sir Terry was the only time I literally lost the ability to talk. His death hit me HARD.
Mistervimes65@reddit
GNU Terry
“Do you not know that a man never truly dies until the last time his name is spoken?”
JoyfulRaver@reddit
Some are a part of our history and made a difference in our lives. I don’t generally cry for celebrity deaths, but Robin Williams and Prince shattered me 💔 they brought so much happiness to my life
CardiologistNo9916@reddit
My neighbor was teary eyed when Ozzie died. I kind of chuckled because I thought he was kidding. It didn’t end well.
To answer your question I have not come close to crying when any celebrity has died.
nrith@reddit
Posting this in the tenth anniversary of Prince’s death is poor form.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
I had no idea. Didn’t expect this kind of response. Truly apologize.
Inner-Measurement441@reddit
No, no, no.
moscowramada@reddit
You personally know over 100 people who have died? No offense but that's pretty rough... for most people, death is more rare.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Yeah it’s actually kind of surprising to me to find out that it’s actually not that common. I’ve lost a LOT of people. I used to cry. Somewhere along the line I just kind of got to the point where I just give a big sigh and soldier on.
MysticMaven@reddit
It’s just you.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
I appreciate you trying to minimize a genuine question and look down on me for daring to ask, but there’s answers in this very thread that disprove your answer. It’s not just me- and that’s actually a comfort to me. Also, GFY
Apart-Cream-4940@reddit
I don't cry over much these days. I just get very sad. I did cry when Renee Goode was shot though. Seeing that broke something in me
RL203@reddit
Part of it is that you're getting older and you are now at the age where people your age that you know are dying and you become very aware of your own mortality. When you're 20 something, if people your age die, its usually by "misadventure" of one kind or another. But when you hit 50-ish, people that age are dying from heart attacks, stroke, cancer and you think, "I could be next."
In my own case, my mother died at 68 and my father at 73, both from cancer. So now that im staring down the barrel at 60, yeah, my own mortality is looking back at me in the mirror. Hell, I cried when my cat died a while back. Mind you, she meant a lot to me.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
The loss of a pet sometimes hits the hardest. Their constant love and companionship are unmatched.
depeupleur@reddit
I'll cry quicker seeing their character die than if they die themselves.
OryxTempel@reddit
I cried when Freddie Mercury died. His was one of the biggest deaths from AIDS when it was still relatively new.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
The world definitely lost an unearthly talent.
MorningGlory439@reddit
I'll shed a tear when an animal dies in a book or movie, but not when a celebrity dies.
Otherwise_Quit_3822@reddit
I remember my mother and grandmother both crying when Elvis died. I was 8 years old at the time and it was surreal because they wouldn't cry at funerals for family and friends.
I was bummed when Michael Jackson and Prince died. But no tears. 🤷
Environmental-Egg893@reddit
Never not once
wwJones@reddit
100+ people in your life that you know have died? Or do you mean 100+ people you were aware of existing have died?
I'm not a super sentimental kind of guy, but when I heard Adam Yauch of the Beastie Boys died, I was really fucking sad. I didn't sob, but there were definitely tears.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
100+ people I personally knew. Hell I was in double digits in high school- weren’t we all?
wwJones@reddit
Like "I met them once" or "we worked at the same company for 6 months 12 years ago" type "know personally?"
It's pretty unlikely for the average person to even have 100+ people that they know well much less 100+ people they know well that also died.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
It’s a spectrum- people I knew from class or worked with all the way through most of my family. All people who’s faces and voices I can still remember. Maybe it IS just me
wwJones@reddit
Assuming you're the normal GenX age, that's like 2+ people a year.
NinjaEnder@reddit
That's crazy. Hope you are doing well. Personally, during high school I knew maybe five people who had died up to that point in my life
xannieh666@reddit
I teared up when Robin passed ...I normally dont but that one got to me. He was a staple in our generation, we grew up with him from Mork and Mindy, his movies to his comedy specials....even the times he would make a guest appearance on things like Carol Burnett...it was like losing a piece of your childhood.
Rest of the celebrities I do feel a little sad if I knew them...sometimes I am in shock because like Robin they were special when I was a child....but no one effected me like he did.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
Robin wasn’t just a death- it was a tragedy. He brought SO many people SO much joy, but had so very little left for himself.
Somethingclever1313@reddit
I have cried when a celebrity died, but it was more about the time it reminded me of rather than the actual person. Like where I was in life when I discovered their band, that kind of thing.
Quirky_Commission_56@reddit
I have met Alex Kingston and David Tennant in person, and they were lovely people, but I certainly wouldn’t cry if they died unless it was the result of some mass tragedy.
DwinDolvak@reddit
I dont cry -- Ijust get very bummed. And it makes me consider my own shelf life.
When Billy Joel or Harrison Ford dies, I may shed tears.
RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit
Freddie Mercury's death gutted me because we'd heard officially LITERALLY the day before that he had AIDS so there was zero processing time for that news.
coryphella123@reddit
David Bowie made me cry for DAYS. I looked up to him as an artist, he was a huge source of inspiration for me. I've never mourned any other celebrity, but that one was personal.
Starkville@reddit
Same.
LadySlayinem@reddit
I cried when Ray Stevenson died mostly because I was so shocked and mad. Had to watch Ahsoka to find out for one thing. What do you mean "for our friend Ray?" Then they wouldn't release his cause of death. Heart attack caused by severe anaphylactic shock. Movie sets required the jab and they didn't want anyone putting 2 and 2 together. I'm pissed all over thinking about it. I cried a bit over Ozzy too but that's about it.
moscowramada@reddit
A 58 year old who doesn't like to work out (based on an anecdote from the Punisher set) dying of heart disease is not unusual at all. No conspiracy needed: this is a common way to die.
LadySlayinem@reddit
Didn't know anaphylactic shock was caused by heart disease.
moscowramada@reddit
That was the trigger; the real killer was the heart disease.
It's not that mysterious or even hard to imagine. Here's a plausible scenario.
- patient gets an insect bite (bee, fire ant) or accidentally eats something they're allergic to (peanuts, shellfish) or has a known mild allergy exacerbated by exercise
- they have a reaction which, in the case of insects, could happen minutes later; in the case of food, typically a half hour
- the reaction triggers vasodilation, which makes it harder for the heart to pump blood, which if you have heart disease, leads to a heart attack
There you have it. You're bitten, you react, your body can't handle it: heart attack -> death.
iggyazalea12@reddit
Nooooo it was the shot it was the shot. Sorry the ‘jab’. 😂😂😂🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
iggyazalea12@reddit
Did ozzy die from the ‘jab’ too or was he just old 😂😂😂
LadySlayinem@reddit
To soon, man. Too soon
MNPS1603@reddit
I don’t cry over celebrities. I’ll well up at most funerals, because they are emotional events. But actual trembling face crying is reserved for immediate family.
chaosrulz0310@reddit
Cannot remember crying unless I watched televised funerals but some have made me sad.
Beautiful_Secret_834@reddit
I usually cry a bit if they took their own life. Maybe because my only child did. Robin Williams really got me for some reason. But, celebrities dying because of an accident or sickness. I usually am sad, but I don’t cry.
Intrepid_Practice956@reddit
I'm so sorry
Beautiful_Secret_834@reddit
Thank you! I appreciate your kindness. I just always feel so sad if people are struggling that bad. Nobody should feel that kind of hurt and die alone and sad.
Old-Somewhere-6084@reddit
It makes me melancholic, but I won’t shed a tear because of a famous musician or actor.
Grafakos@reddit
Not outright crying or anything, but my eyes did get a little sore about David Bowie and Ozzy Osbourne.
Intrepid_Practice956@reddit
I think when I cry for a celebrity, it's less about the celebrity themselves, but of what their death means in my life. For example, there was an extra pang when Farrah Fawcett died because it symbolized my childhood was over. And of course because she died of cancer, painfully, and her death was overshadowed because it was the same day as Michael Jackson. I did not cry, but it was pretty emotional.
Similar Mr Rogers, though I did cry. I didn't know him, but everything I know about him puts him in a good light. Also I watched the Neighborhood from almost the beginning of national distribution. And how much the people around him, loved him.
PurplePenguinCat@reddit
I cried when Princess Diana died. I got up early East Coast time to watch her funeral. I cried seeing her boys walking so stoically behind her coffin, knowing that they'd been told that they couldn't show any emotion. I guess I cried for her young boys more than anything.
Subject-Olive-5279@reddit
I don’t cry over movie stars or musicians or famous people. At least I haven’t so far. I always found that strange. I feel sad when someone passed that is a person that I admired. And I feel sad for their family. But I don’t know them and they don’t know me. I have plenty of friends and family that have passed and they get my deeper emotions. My siblings are more likely to cry over actors and musicians. But I’ve never been that type of person to do that.
travelinmatt76@reddit
I was upset when Mr. Rogers died. I wasn't expecting it to affect me the way it did.
PahzTakesPhotos@reddit
Robin Williams and Steve Irwin made me cry.
With Steve Irwin, it was because my kids loved him so much. And the news was released on what was our Labor Day, so my kids weren't in school. Bindi was in the same age range as my kids when their dad became disabled and that just broke my heart. I made the mistake of watching the memorial service where she gave a speech.
Robin Williams made me cry because he gave my dad his laughter back. My dad was a career soldier and Vietnam veteran (he was even wounded). Despite making the Army his career, my dad never talked about his war. When "Good Morning, Vietnam!" came out, my dad got to go to a special screening with other veterans. My dad wasn't strict or angry, he was just very stoic. He had been in Vietnam the last few months of Adrian Cronauer's time in Vietnam. My mom said that she had never seen my dad laugh out loud like he did at Robin Williams. That cracked Dad's stoicism. By the time I had kids, he was full of joy and was an amazing grandpa to my kids.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
It’s not that I don’t grieve the loss of talented people who made the world a better place! I felt it when we lost Robin Williams, Mister Rogers, Bob Ross, Steve Irwin, Terry Pratchett, etc etc. It definitely makes me sad. I just don’t cry. I’m NOT judging those who do! I think it’s great. I mostly feel like if I ever DID start crying I might never stop. I posted this to just see if anyone else has the same numbness. I figured if anyone would understand, it’d be other Gen X
speed_of_chill@reddit
Cried, no. Probably the closest I came to shedding tears was when Cliff Burton died, but I was a freshman in high school. I was pretty sad to when hear Lemmy Kilmister and then David Bowie passed within a month of each other. Also, last year when Ozzy died, I felt that. Of the last three, Bowie was the most shocking to me since I had no idea he was dealing with cancer. Lemmy and Ozzy were no surprise, but sad nonetheless.
Hubert_J_Cumberdale@reddit
I cried when Mr. Roger’s died. Not ashamed to admit it, either.
JackWylder@reddit (OP)
I’m sure he would have told you it’s okay to grieve.
OliveBadger1037@reddit
I was pretty sad when MCA died. He died on my birthday, too, which made it suck even more.
Round-Public435@reddit
It really does come down to how much of an influence they had on your life.
Robin Williams was heartbreaking, because we all loved him, grew up watching him on tv and in movies, and his circumstances were completely unknown to us until after his death. No one ever, ever expected he would take his own life.
Also, it sometimes reminds us of our own mortality, which can be a bitter pill to swallow. When our favorite stars start to die, one by one (or in the case of the year 2016, many in the space of a year), it's a harsh reminder that life is short. It doesn't matter how old they are when they die, it all seems way too short.
BradleyVeryShining@reddit
I never got it either until Prince (10 years ago today) and Bowie. They were both huge parts of my life (I’ve been a musician my whole life). I was sad to lose Robert Redford, but he didn’t look so large in my life.
Idk, when we lose Elton, I’m pretty sure I’ll shed a tear.
MikeOrTara@reddit
It's not just you. There's never been a celebrity death that made me emotional. I don't really know them so its not any different to me then when someone dies who you sort of used to know of 40 years ago.
Squibit314@reddit
Depends on the celebrity and how they influenced me. David Bowie…yep. Cried. When I was in a horrible time of being bullied I would get lost in his music.
Jimmy Buffet…cried too. Relived countless memories of my brother who got me into his music.
With celebrities it’s more about the memories they evoke than it is “knowing them.”
arthousepsycho@reddit
Damn, I mean I kill a lot, but even I’m not into triple digits.
Joking aside, I’m with you, I don’t really get it either. And I’m not a “I never cry” type of person, I just don’t get that heavily invested in people I don’t really know. Lots of celeb deaths have hit me hard, but it’s a more distant kind of sadness. Rik Mayall for example seriously gutted me, but it never even came close to making me cry.
None of this is dismissing people who do btw, just my personal angle.
PsycMrse@reddit
GenX was the main generation recognized for being latchkey kids. We were left alone to care for ourselves, feed ourselves, entertain ourselves, forced outside to find friends and create things to do. At some point in there, movies and TV shows became a part of our lives. Those characters became our friends, mentors, parental figures, even our enemies. We identify with them and see some of their traits as our own, and family and friends. When an actor dies, we mourn not only the actor, but all of what they represent, including ourselves, our childhood, family, and friends. I feel that way about particular people like Robin Williams, Rob Reiner, Christopher Reeves, River Phoenix, and so many others. I've never met them in real life so I'm not idealizing the person. I'm mourning the loss of what they brought to life to the lonely child I was back in the day and what it means to me now as an adult; how I saw/see myself in my own identity; what I value, laugh at, enjoy, and dream of. It's more than nostalgia, more than celebrity worship. Help your GenX (and other) friends to celebrate those character traits, and honor the representative loss associated with the celebrities. Those traits live on in that living person and in their interactions and relationships with people like yourself. Cheers to all!
amanda2399923@reddit
me either. I don't get it.
evility@reddit
I cry over lots of things, so I am not ashamed to say I've cried over celebrities. For me, it's that they were omnipresent and important to my life. Sometimes my whole life. When Betty White died, I was so sad. John Prine wrecked me. Jimmy Buffett brought on some tears. But nothing came close to losing Todd Snider. Sometimes I still get teary. It's a little different, though. We weren't close, but we ran in the same neighborhood circles.
YellowBreakfast@reddit
"Crying" not usually no.
But many things can make me "tear up" just a little bit.
Giant_Devil@reddit
Celebrity deaths? No. If they died young or something I may comment about how that sucks but that's it.
I cried when my mother died, and she was old, but still my mom. Also when my best friend died of cancer. That was rough.
rogueconstant77@reddit
I don't physically cry easy but I guess the feeling inside is the same as for people who has easy tears.
Cobain, Prince, Michael Jackson, Chris Cornell, Leonard Cohen, Bowie, Freddy Mercury, Whitney and others deeply moved me when they died. They were musicians I deeply loved and sadly I never saw them live.
Missed Cohen - had tickets - due to personal injury. Few years later he was gone.
FranqiT@reddit
Chris Cornell, Anthony Bourdain, Chadwick Boseman.
Chemical_Author7880@reddit
Could be the Prozac. Makes tears difficult to come by.
royv98@reddit
I was on Lexapro for a while. Didn't like the side effects so got off of it. Now I shed a tear at the drop of a hat.
TheFirst10000@reddit
I can think of a couple that hit hard. Anthony Bourdain, David Bowie, and Lyle Mays especially. It's not so much a parasocial thing for me as what those people and their work meant to me, how it helped me see the world (or myself) in a different light, and I think there's also a degree to which you mourn the possibilities that are lost when someone passes. I didn't take any of them as hard as the deaths of my parents or several other people in my life, but their work -- and by extension, they -- mattered to me.
cgund@reddit
Lyle Mays died?????
TheFirst10000@reddit
Yeah, early in 2020. That one hit hard. His music -- solo and with the PMG -- was and is a huge part of my life, and was also part of some of my best memories with my late mother and some of my other favorite people.
cgund@reddit
Wow I'm reading about it now. I must've heard when it was first announced but I'd forgotten. We are big PMG fans over here.
tommyalanson@reddit
Was bummed when Bowie died… Petty too, but I’ve never bawled or shed a tear.
Famous-Ad-2880@reddit
I cried on and off for days after Prince died.
Willing_Freedom_1067@reddit
I don’t cry, but I do feel a small piece of myself going numb every time it happens, as I can feel my childhood slipping away more and more. My mortality is catching up to me.
FabricArsonist@reddit
Rowdy Roddy Piper had me bawling. When I was a kid, he made a hospital stay for my Dad bearable. Was a wonderful human being. I can't even begin to tell you how gracious and kind he was. He sent me a ticket to They Live a bit later with money to have all I wanted at the snack counter. And that was they only movie I went to im a 5 year period because we couldn't afford it.
Robin Williams and Charles Bronson has tears, but I had met both. Robin was a troubled man, but had the kindest eyes I've ever seen and Mr Bronson was met at one of the lowest points in his life and was a gentle man who was far more than just an action figure.
I expect Mel Gibson will make me cry, not that I met him, but because my dad and I watched Mad Max every Xmas eve and I miss my dad.
secret-of-enoch@reddit
gotta admit, as a long-time fan from all the way back in 1978,
i was shredding tears when Eddie Van Halen died
DominisDruid@reddit
It is about the impact on your life and more importantly context.
Loss of a celebrity yes if they deeply influenced my life or character especially around emotional ties like music carrying you through an event. I will cry when we lose Robert Smith and Billy Corgan.
To the GenX “Stop crying or I will give you a reason to cry” I still have issues.
Did not cry when my 15 year old son died from suicide until I knew everyone around me was good then cried with them.
Did not cry when we lost a crew to an IED in Afghanistan because mission dictated moving on. I still have that feeling they are still over there on mission here 20 years later.
shackspirit@reddit
Muhammad Ali got me. The Greatest.
ennuiismymiddlename@reddit
I might shed a tear when Robert Smith dies, but he’ll probably outlive me at this point, since I have terminal cancer.
catespice@reddit
I cry watching movie trailers and when I see incredibly cute animals doing adorable stuff. I cry when I see animals that have been hit by cars that have died on the side of the road. I cry when certain songs play. You bet I cry when celebs I like pass away. I still get teary thinking about Moya Brennan of Clannad passing away this month.
DominisDruid@reddit
Oh no! I missed that one. Clannad and Last of the Mohicans song still chokes me up
AlexisJTaylor@reddit
It seriously depends. Some celebrities I'm just sad we don't have anymore, because I have fond memories of their work, and things like that. But nearly every time someone I liked passed away before the age of 40 it affected me. Just thinking about the song "Broken Out In Love" by Mark Crozer can turn the waterworks on (for the wrestler Windham Rotunda, who wrestled as Bray Wyatt. His theme is also called "Live in Fear" IIRC but for those who don't know, it's very melancholy for any song, let alone a wrestling theme).
External_Confident@reddit
I cried a lot when Jimmy Buffett died. It still makes me sad. I saw him 20 times, and being a Parrothead is absolutely a lifestyle for me.🦜🦈
Not gonna lie, I shed a tear over Taylor Hawkins too.
Th1nk18@reddit
I’ve cried over deaths in my family. I got a bit teared up about John Candy, Robin Williams and Kobe Bryant.
Heavy_Spite2105@reddit
I just watched a documentary on John Candy's life. What a beautiful soul. It is so tragic to lose him in this world.
catgirl320@reddit
I've cried over two celebrity deaths - Mr. Rogers and Terry Pratchett. I was very saddened by Jane Goddall. They each had profound impact on my way of looking at the world and their loss was a loss to the world.
For celebrities like Luke Perry or River Phoenix or George Micharl,they were bummers but easy to move past.
chopper5150@reddit
Couldn't care less about a celebrity death.
DivaJanelle@reddit
I didn’t cry for my dad because he didn’t deserve it.
I bawled for Prince because I love his music.
For me it isn’t the celebrity. It’s how that person’s work affected me, moved me, inspired me.
smoothallday@reddit
There are two celebrity deaths which elicited emotion in me: Jim Henson and Fred Rogers.
ShelterElectrical840@reddit
Some people may have a life changing moment connected to that artist. Like that person sang their wedding song. Or a certain movie an actor was in was a first date. Or a song helped them out of a depression.
IndividualYam5889@reddit
I'm with you. I'm not crying over a celebrity death. I don't even get sad. But whatever. To each their own.
pegolasgreenleaf@reddit
Anthony Bourdain. Kick in the gut that was.
disharmony-hellride@reddit
Chris Cornell. I have been to many of his shows. That hurt.
ShelterElectrical840@reddit
I can’t watch his shows anymore.
skyking11702@reddit
I don’t cry over celebrity deaths. I pretty much cry over familial and very close friends’ deaths. I was really sad when Bowie died because I loved his work and thought he was a force for good in the world. But the sadness lasted about an hour before it was replaced with gratitude and a sense of a life well lived. What a legacy he left behind. I’ve been to way too many funerals of friends who never saw the Internet or a cell phone. Crying for someone I didn’t know but respected just seems a bit much.
suziequzie1@reddit
The day after Bowie died, Starman played on the radio on my morning commute . Tears just started streaming down.
owzleee@reddit
I'm Gen-X and I've never understood this either. Even when my biggest hero (David Bowie) died I was sad, but like you say, I never met him. He was a huge part of my growing up but that was the music, not the person.
Fluffy-Disk3961@reddit
Totally.
cgund@reddit
I don't understand a lot of the comments saying "I didn't know them, so why would I cry?"
I don't know the kids who die of leukemia who are featured in documentaries or clips you see on social media or wherever, but it's still sad. Their poor families are never going to be whole again.
I don't know the victims of natural disasters but it's still sad.
For celebrity deaths, crying makes sense if you think about lost opportunity to enjoy their talents, nostalgia over the color they brought to my own life, and a reminder of mortality.
Having said that, I am pushing 60 and am much much less likely to cry over anything at all anymore.
Square_Ad_4929@reddit
Lost my dad 2-1/2 years ago. I didn’t shed a single tear. I believe death is inevitable and not worth crying over let alone a celebrity. I haven’t shed a tear in 20+ years. It was the day I lost my grandpa. Cried for maybe 30 seconds and then was over it. Haven’t cried since.
iggyazalea12@reddit
I have been fortunate and not lost many people knock wood. I cried for them when I did. I also cried for jimmy buffet bc of strong linkage to my dad who has dementia, John prine and the tom Petty/prince/vegas shooting that was kind of all Mixed together. I’m numb af but those ones made me cry. Not racial mourning but it’s okay to tear up when a musician dies I think. I certainly never cried over an actor but probably could have if I dwelled on the details of Gene Hackmans final days I probably could
Dark-Empath-@reddit
Death list in triple digits? I’m lucky I know a total of people up to double digits.
But agree on the crying for the celebrities. I’ve felt gutted precisely once about a celebrity death, when I was 15. Don’t think I cried though.
Stefanz454@reddit
I created a playlist on Spotify of dead singers that I liked-and some that I did t really care for and enjoy listening and reflecting on my youth and what these songs gs mean to me now. For instance, I wasn’t a huge Ozzy fan but listening to War Pigs and Mama I’m coming home helped me see the circle of life and that our generation experienced unique times and today is different but related.
ShariBomb@reddit
I did the same thing. It's a work in progress, meaning I add to it whenever I hear a song that I used to love and forgot about. I think I named it Gone too soon but never Forgotten. Lot's of 80s music, which is my all time favorite era for music, fashion, movies, everything. And there have been so many that I listened to since their first album, and they all really influenced my passion for music and inspired me to listen to so many different genres. Today, my taste in music is so diverse that one day I'm listening to Broadway and old showtunes, and another day I'm making a Playlist of the new generation and their latest release. I'm 60 years old, GenX, and I can talk music made in the 70s, 80s, 90,s that I loved when I was young, but I can also hold my own about music released in the 2020s to today and who's popular, topping the charts, and who I have on repeat for days on Spotify. Back to the original topic, the artists I loved in my early 20s and 30s that left us too soon, I feel like I grew up with them. And when they died at around the same age as me, I had such a hard time processing the fact that they would never sing again, not in this lifetime. And, that if so many of these great talents that gave so much to the world through music could be taken at this age, it was very likely that my time could be near too, which honestly was something that I had never really considered. I think I thought that I would just always stay young and nothing would stop me.
Quick memory.... I had a subscription to 17 magazine, and I would read that from cover to cover, every single word on every single page, look at every single picture and want to look just like those 17 model, but not so much look like them, but mostly I wanted their cute, trendy, clothes, they really taught me how to be a fashionista at that time. But one of the models was this gorgeous girl and her name was Whitney. I believe she was 17, and she was in the magazine pretty regular for a while. I used to just love looking at her and her outfits and the way they did her hair, she was just so cute, so gorgeous, and then that Whitney in 17 magazine became Whitney Houston. The first song I ever heard her sing was "You Give Good Love". I heard her sing before I actually saw her, but I had to find out who sang this song that I sat with my cassette recorder waiting for it to play again on tbe radio so I could tape it. That's how we made playlists back in the 80s, Before cd's and streaming and spotify, cell phones and computers, and all that was around. Then I had to get to the mall, to Wherehouse or Tower records, to see if she had a record and other songs. And there was Whitney, my favorite Seventeen model, looking so grown up and gorgeous, on the cover of that amazing album. Whitney Houston, the model I knew from Seventeen, became the iconic and amazing best female vocalist I've ever heard, and I miss her, I really do.
Annual-Individual-9@reddit
I cried a little when Tom Petty died. I wasn't expecting to, but it just hit hard. His music was always special to me and a big part of my growing up/formative years so I guess I was crying at the loss of the past maybe, rather than the loss of the actual person who I obviously didn't know.
omysweede@reddit
Losing people close to you will hurt you. Sometimes that can be a celebrity. The thought of not hearing anything new from them, who touched you (metaphorically), or you learned lessons from and identified with.
I've lost family members, and friends. Celebrities and artists? Certainly hundreds.
Bowie, Nimoy and Meatloaf hurt me. I felt actual hurt and I cried..
scro-hawk@reddit
Prince, Nimoy and Adam Yauch for me. Sinead too
SWNMAZporvida@reddit
I bawled my eyes out for Robin Williams, Prince and Tom Petty. I’ve yet to accept Chris Cornell but I will burst into tears randomly when the right song hits
Known-Needleworker82@reddit
I don’t cry about celebrities I only cry about close family members, and pets
Genn8130@reddit
I get teary, at least. Sometimes it's more about the adjustment than the loss.
Glad-Pen5593@reddit
It depends upon the person. I usually shed some tears. It's a release for me.
Inkdrinker56@reddit
I feel like it's not only that you are sad for whatever that particular person went through, but also that I am grieving the loss of enjoyment and the future joy that would have come from them. I cried when Robin Williams died. It was partially because of the horror of what he went through, but also, I knew that we would never again experience the laughter that he alone was able to bring to so many.
chainmailler2001@reddit
I have never cried for a celebrity. My wife has but I have not. Tears are for family and friends only.
Celebrity deaths that hit the hardest for me were Robin Williams, Anthony Bourdain, and Chester Bennington.
NihilsitcTruth@reddit
I dont care that a celb died.. I dont know them, I never met them, and it means just about as much as that. Appreciate their work but its more like this.
Oh so and so died... huh thats too bad. turns on game
elizinrva@reddit
I haven’t seriously cried in a pretty long time. I feel like I’m too dead inside for that much emotion.
kat2211@reddit
I cried when my ex-partner died last year - we hadn't talked in a few years and had been broken up for 15 years but it really hit me hard.
I haven't flat-out cried when a celebrity died but Matthew Perry's death, for whatever reason, definitely got to me. I felt weird and really sad for a few days after.
Felon73@reddit
I have never cried over a celebrity death but Ozzy’s death really did bum me out in a big way. Him and Dimebag. Dime was a total shock to the system but Ozzy was like your awesome grandfather dying.
C-romero80@reddit
I only cried for Ozzy when I saw the fact that his last performance a short time before included mama I'm coming home. It hit different and made me sad for Sharon and their kids, and the idea he knew it was coming.
I was upset with Robin Williams, I loved him and he did his on my brother's birthday. And the fact meeting him is now 100% out of the question.
Otherwise I generally don't cry for celebrities, but definitely do for my family, friends and pets. The last one was a pet and it was more so it was super hard on my kids and I felt it for them.
b0zzSauz@reddit
I think it's more about the passage of time and the reminder of my own mortality. I cried when Chris Cornell died, but it was also mixed with having seen him a few years back with a close friend who also has died. So I was crying about the loss of a friend, the loss of the carefree feeling sof youth, and the loss of a talented artist. John Prine and Prince both hit hard and their passing made me cry. There will be more. I lost my brother, who was a huge musical influence. When more of those artists die I'm hoping I'm not too jaded to cry.
WalnutTree80@reddit
I've only cried at the deaths of close family members, friends, and pets.
I can't imagine crying over someone I never knew.
Don't get me wrong. I've been sorry to hear about some celebrity deaths, and shocked by some. But it would never occur to me to be sad enough to cry.
I don't cry over deaths in movies either, unless it's a dog, so I'm just not personally invested in the passing of people I don't know.
KitsMalia@reddit
2Pac and Michael Jackson made me cry. It was uncontrollable.
Pedadinga@reddit
I'm an easy cry (happy, sad, hungry, cold...), so of course I have. But I think it's less than just "I'm sad this person is gone", and more to do with our own mortality. I had a crazy depressed reaction to Val Kilmer dying, much deeper grief than I would have anticipated. It wasn't so much losing him as it was recognizing most of my life was over, I'm not young anymore, existential dread kinda thing.
DisappointedDragon@reddit
I have only cried for a few. Jim Henson, Michael Landon, George Harrison, and Olivia Newton-John. Jim, Michael, and Olivia were huge figures of my childhood. I came to love the Beatles as a teen, after John’s death.
slothboy@reddit
I don't worship celebrities. They are just doing a job to entertain me. I cannot fathom crying over a celebrity death.
bluedonutwsprinkles@reddit
Never cried over anyone besides family and friends. I don't get it because I need a real relationship in order to grieve someone.
Emotional_Mess261@reddit
Ozzy Osbourne, James Earl Jones and Donald Sutherland brought tears to my eyes. Nostalgia as well as how much I enjoyed watching/listening throughout my life.
Felon73@reddit
I have never cried over a celebrity death but Ozzy’s death really did bum me out in a big way. Him and Dimebag. Dime was a total shock to the system but Ozzy was like your awesome grandfather dying.
TheGrinchWrench@reddit
I cried when my mom died, also any of my dogs.
badchoices40@reddit
Tragic deaths usually get me. I cried over Aaliyah and Rob Reiner.
geodebug@reddit
You personally know more than 100 people who died?
I have a hard time thinking about my younger brother who died of brain cancer two years ago without getting salty eyes, especially if I’m tipsy or a little high.
He wasn’t even 50 yet and one of my best friends.
I felt complex emotions when my step dad died, then my real dad.
All these were in the same 18 month period so it was a sucky year.
Emotional_Mess261@reddit
Losing a sibling, especially when we’re not over age 70, is traumatic and it never leaves you. It’s one of the most difficult deaths to experience. We’re coming up on the 32nd anniversary of my oldest brother’s death and it’s a very difficult time 💕
Crivens999@reddit
For me it’s much more that it hits home part of your childhood has died, say when an actor you liked since a kid dies. Never got the crying bit. Sure can be a bit sad, but you didn’t really know them.
My Grandfather was woken in the middle of the night, by a phone call from one of his three daughters. She was hysterically crying out “she’s dead!” multiple times. Once he calmed her down he found out it was actually Princess Diana. He told her to go back to bed and only phone him in the middle of the night if one of his family died. About right I think
christina311@reddit
That's one I'll never understand. It was sad when she died of course. But people really went nuts.
PezCandyAndy@reddit
I have felt a bit melancholy over a celeb's death but never cried about it. Certain actors or musicians hit me a little harder than others, but even then not all that much in the grand scheme of things. I do have issues with emotion, or more accurately a general lack of it. I find it difficult to form attachments to much of anything, from people to hobbies. The feeling of loss seems to fade quicker in me than most and doesn't even form without some kind of meaningful and direct in-person connection. A short meet and greet at a convention isn't enough.
Without that relationship or some kind of personal experience I equate most deaths similarly to professional retirement. Is it cynical or strange of me that I think most people confuse the loss of that person with the loss of any future movies or music they would have made?
OneLonelyBeastieI-B@reddit
I think again, Gen X is the first generation to have their first to last life influences (meaning from birth to death) available to them on multiple media platforms, therefore we were the first generation able to be marketed and targeted specifically from our birth. I know baby boomers had television at a very young age, but the medium of TV itself was in its infancy then and advertising was too. They weren’t targeted as aggressively as we were and our parents were to get to us, either. Just my 0.02 cents on that.
With this, we were the first to be able to form a social kind of thing with celebrities through multimedia and feel as though we were able to be friends with them, so people also were able to be affected by the things that happened to celebrities in that way, if that makes sense?
platypusandpibble@reddit
I guess I am unsentimental / unfeeling or whatever, but I just don’t cry when people die. I mean, sure I value them for their talents and contributions to society, but death happens.
I don’t even cry when family members die. Of course, I didn’t have good relationships with pretty much any of them. But, I guess other people cry when losing any family member. My Silent Gen grandparents died years ago, and sure, I felt sad, but not overwhelmingly so. At this point I am just kind of waiting for the last few Boomer relatives to die. (Honestly, I’ll be kind of glad when that happens. They are terrible people.)
My sister and I will be the last two left in our family since we are both childfree. We are also very different people and don’t have much of a relationship, so I am sure Sis will not be grieving too much when I die. I won’t for her either.
hazelquarrier_couch@reddit
I don't think I ever have. I took Sinead O'Connor's death pretty hard but didn't cry about it. I've lost a lot of family and friends and I have cried about them.
Infamous-Yak2864@reddit
Cried like a big baby for several days when my dog passed away almost 2 years ago....other than that, not so much.....
Infamous-Yak2864@reddit
Cried like a big baby for several days when my dog passed away almost 2 years ago....other than that, not so much.....
parisindy_writer@reddit
Definitely mourned with a nation the day Gord Downie died 🇨🇦
Vinnie_Dime_1974@reddit
Me too...
YukonSunset@reddit
Absolutely agree. That was a tough one.
CatelynsCorpse@reddit
The only celebrity death that made me cry was Phil Hartman. He was murdered and man did I sure love that guy!
What kills me are the people who are like "My heart is so broken because this 99 year old person who I haven't thought of in like 30 years just died." Sorry but it's not sad when someone in their nineties dies of old age. It's fucking inevitable!
OneLonelyBeastieI-B@reddit
Most people who loudly and publicly (ie social media) grieve people they barely knew or haven’t seen in years have unresolved psych issues, usually.
YukonSunset@reddit
I think that in our day, celebrities were still people who had something more meaningful to offer. They were genuinely talents musicians and actors.
Since the year 2000, it seems like we have too many "famous" people, and a lot of them are famous for nothing, or they're supposed influencers online. This is so vapid and stupid to me. I think kids today think of their own celebrities and how stupid they are, and maybe equate that to the love we had for the actors/musicians we used to love in our day.
Our celebrities back then soothed us when we were sad, or made us feel joy whenever we saw/heard them. Since we didn't have the internet, we formed a deeper emotional connection to their art by means of collecting things and listening/watching over and over of whatever they created.
Today's kids just watch something on YouTube, and quickly just check out the Recommended for you stuff and they move on.
So while I personally don't cry when I hear of a celebrity's death (ok so Bowie was an exception), it does hit me hard if it's someone I spent a lot of time and emotion invested in who brought me a lot of happiness in the years I needed it most.
Wedjat_Eye@reddit
Prince’s death had me crying.
He died 10 years ago today and yeah I’ll still be shedding a few tears. That man’s creativity and inspiration, his profound musical gifts are dearly missed. They’ve seen me through everything from pure joy to the depths of depression.
formercotsachick@reddit
I had a few tears when Catherine O'Hara died. She was someone who is truly irreplicable and I feel like the world is a sadder place without her in it.
Hubby has been a Rush fan since he was 15 and cried when Neil Peart died. Also Ronnie James Dio.
As far as personally, we haven't lost many people recently, but my BIL passed a few years ago and we both cried our eyes out.
Pink_pineapple_pizza@reddit
Catherine O’Hara for me too.
Spicercakes@reddit
I feel bad, and am surprised, but no, I've never cried over a celeb.
I also think wishing dead celebrities a happy birthday is super weird.
Aggravating_Mix8959@reddit
It is positive to have parasocial relationships. I have some.
1989DiscGolfer@reddit
I shed a few tears for celebrities that brought me joy. Harry Caray, Chris Farley, Ryne Sandberg, and sadly this past Friday, Bob Kevoian.
Seagrave63@reddit
When people I admire pass, I get sad. But I am not emotionally affected.
Iko87iko@reddit
They aren't typically crying for the dead celeb, but for the passing of a meaningful part of their own life
A_wanderer_forlife@reddit
I like this. Yes.
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
This. 🙏🏻
Own-Fox-7792@reddit
I agree. I don't get it. I also don't get why people get so fired up about sports for the same reason. None of those athletes care about me.
Igmuhota@reddit
I cried when Neil Peart died. And since then, admittedly. I was too young to invest in Bonzo, but Neil. The Professor. A foundational part of my childhood, and a primary reason I gravitated toward music. Having met the man only added to my grief.
Not sure if I literally cried over Kurt, Layne, Jeff, Elliott, Shannon, Scott, or Chris, but holy shit did I feel all of those losses, because they basically told us, “hey, I’m kinda fucked up. I’m not sure I’m gonna make it.” And we all just enjoyed the pain they shared with all of us through some pretty telling lyrics.
Those losses were more about empathy and regret. Empathy, because I’ve been to those places, and I know how hard it is to get out of them. Regret because I guess I stupidly wished I could have helped.
I should add that I became a therapist after music didn’t work out, and the preceding paragraph is based on the fact that I deal with clients going through that shit most days. The world seems to glorify not giving a shit about each other, and many suffer and die for it.
Self-Comprehensive@reddit
Losing Prince, David Bowie and Tom Petty in such a short amount of time hit me pretty hard, not gonna lie. I don't remember crying, but it certainly sucked and now it's kind of bittersweet when I hear their songs.
CrabbyCatLady41@reddit
I cried watching the "Lazarus" and "Blackstar" videos on the day David Bowie died. I think if we hadn't watched the videos I wouldn't have cried, but it's still the saddest celebrity death of my life. Otherwise, no. I say, "oh, that's too bad" and move on with my day.
deathproofbich@reddit
Gord Downie’s death got me. He was a local guy (I remember the Hip as a garage band) & because I was going through treatment for my own brain cancer when he passed.
LomentMomentum@reddit
I don’t really cry when celebrities I like pass away, although I am sad. At our age, though, the passings of relatives, friends, acquaintances, and even celebrities become regular and are a harbinger of our own age and mortality, and that can be tear-inducing.
sleepytjme@reddit
This is the answer.
Sepsis_Crang@reddit
Many people develop parasocial relationships with celebrities and the famous. Others are just quite emotionally fluid and feel events more strongly.
FTR, I've never got it either.
lionbacker54@reddit
I agree 100%
Whitney Houston is the greatest female vocalist I have personally heard. When she died after a long struggle with drug dependency, I was a little sad. However, I did not think it was the “national tragedy” that my wife proclaimed it to be.
Concentrate-Upper@reddit
I agree too…I’ve never cried over a celebrity. More often than not, I am absolutely blown away to the point of shock sometimes at why some celebrities have died.
sas317@reddit
They cry because the celebrity's TV show, movie, song, album, etc. made them happy at 1 time. The source of any happiness in our lives makes us emotionally attached to them, even if we never met them.
iamnotbetterthanyou@reddit
I cried when JFK, Jr died. It was such a shock to me and I’d never had any particular affection for him. I think it was because it was yet another Kennedy dying too young.
danieljohnsonjr@reddit
I know for me, that I have had to learn and develop some sensitivity around understanding that everyone's relationship with someone is unique.
My Mom died the day after Christmas last year. My relationship with her is profoundly different from my siblings' relationships with her. The same is true with a relationship with someone in the public light, a celebrity. There is an emotional connection even if it is one-sided.
Our generation's movie stars and artists are primarily from the Baby Boomer generation, which is the largest of any to have existed. The number of them dying is going to increase because there are so many of them.
In addition to our own family members, our favorite bands, musicians, singers, actors, and, actresses are going to die. And it's normal to have feelings of loss — whatever they may be.
I have benefited much from going through a Grief Recovery program to help see and process the unspoken emotional communication that still exists.
Hope this helps.
poetrygrenade@reddit
I didn't wail or sob uncontrollably, but I absolutely and unapologetically shed some tears for John Denver, Carl Sagan, Mr. Rogers, Robin Williams, Steve Irwin, Anthony Bourdain, Prince, Jimmy Buffet, and others -- people who put something beautiful into our world. Also, does anyone else find it odd that everyone's list includes mostly men? WTF?
socialmediaignorant@reddit
I cried when the Queen died and Princess Diana. I’m not even British. I was sad for days after Betty White died. She was amazing. Any death that takes a great person from us, especially if they had so much more to give, such as Prince, Princess Diana, Heath Ledger etc hurts my heart. But I’m a known softie.
poetrygrenade@reddit
Heath! Forgot about him! And yeah, Diana as well. Ugh. Nothing wrong with being a "softie," fellow empath!
I'm an old Army Ranger, and even as such, I recognize and honor my soft side as being a quiet strength, not a weakness.
Different_Victory_89@reddit
I cry when its someone I know. Celebrities die all the time, even some favorites, but if they couldn't pick me out of a line up, RIP.
FuggaDucker@reddit
Nope, not just you. 100% agreed.
Alovingcynic@reddit
I'll mentally mark a passing without tears, when someone had a great gift of talent that they gave to the world. I miss the gift, even if I never knew the giver personally. I did cry over John Lennon when I was 11. Not only because I was raised on Beatles, and loved that band above all things, but because he was also a man who lived in my neighborhood, Upper West Side of Manhattan, and was nice to us ferals and he acknowledged us when other adults either ignored us or disparaged us for existing or made us victims of their criminal behavior, and us death was unspeakably terrible and ended what childhood I had.
I cried when Princess Diana died, and to this day am not sure why, because I'm not hung up on royalty, but I felt it was the end of an era (well before 911).
I felt awful about losing Phil Hartman for a long time, I met him briefly when he did a lecture on comedy writing through the Learning Annex, but I didn't cry.
tandem_kayak@reddit
I think the death that hit me hardest was Anthony Bourdain. Partly because it was so tragic. It seemed like he had everything going for him, but inside was a different story. Not just to people like us who watched his show, but to people who really knew him and were close to him. And his life of traveling and meeting people and experiencing different cultures just seemed like a dream job. It made me wonder - if I feel miserable trapped in my dead end job, but I dream of a life of travel, maybe travel isn't the cure-all I imagine it to be? It made me re-examine my view of life.
largos7289@reddit
Family and friends sure it's human, actors celebrity types LOL no. I've never had hero worship syndrome.
Gen7Malibu@reddit
Some deaths have gotten to me. Not sure I cried for anyone beyond family. The one that got to me the most outside of family was Edward Van Halen. The one that shocked me the most was Malcom Jamal Warner. I do not remember crying for these.
I remember Anthony Bourdain passing away and people at work were shocked and saddened. I legitimately had no idea who the guy was.
hypermark@reddit
Goddamn EVH hit me hard.
It wasn't so much him as a person as much as it was how impactful his music and videos had been for me.
Him smiling on stage and effortlessly creating the most amazing music felt like carefree childhood. Eruption just feels like joy incarnate.
And Eddie dying was a stark reminder those days are well and truly gone. It was like the best parts of my childhood died.
weight22@reddit
I am sooooo thankful that I got to see him perform live. Soooo thankful & lucky.
hypermark@reddit
Also, I know this might be divisive, but seeing Wolf play live kind of helped the grief. He's doing his own thing, but he's also up there doing it live. Watching him laugh on stage and play his tunes and in many of them pay tribute to his dad made me feel a little better.
hypermark@reddit
Yeah, me too!
LuckyAd2714@reddit
I cried over Bowie. His music was important to me in really bad times
Raven-Wise7755@reddit
I've lost high double digits of people as well. I've lost so many people that (with my dark humor) I joke that I'm a pro when it comes to funerals. I also never understood someone crying because a celebrity died. It was utterly foreign to me because of all the personal deaths and I'm generally just not a crier.
Then Chester Bennington lost the war with depression. Linkin Park had gotten me through so much. I would play their songs as loudly as possible and would often use Chester's vocals to scream. Suddenly I understood why people cry over celebrity deaths. No they didn't know them in person, but their connection with that person is just the same. Your brain can't tell the difference. Grief is grief.
notworkingghost@reddit
I think when someone your age, someone you idolize, and maybe someone whose struggles you relate to dies it hits particularly hard. That’s how I felt about Chester.
Krazy_Kat_Lady_2025@reddit
Thank you for this. Regardless of whether or not you know someone personally, their presence on this Earth may have had an impact on you. Catherine O'Hara was a beloved actress but also, from all accounts, a genuinely beautiful person to be around. Robin Williams brought millions of us to our knees with laughter, and to know that he died alone with such fear and pain in his heart is devastating, at least to me. Richard Adams & James Herriot wrote books that made me LOVE to read and inspired me to care for animals and their environment. Carrie Fisher was an author, a script doctor, an actress and someone who struggled with mental health that talked and wrote about it openly.
You don't have to know someone personally to feel a connection or for them to have an impact on your soul.
starksfergie@reddit
I think it is just the memory of what they meant to your life, a nostalgia for things that never happened. I still think of songs that maybe I didn't know back then but my parents loved and it makes me emotional now (since they are gone).
One example, 2016, January 10-11, my Mum had started to downturn, it was the weekend of my parents 63rd anniversary, David Bowie dies and while I loved his music for years, it had no connection to my parents either. But the moment he died it focused my head on the fact that my parents wouldn't make their 64th anniversary. I felt it in my body when David died and I was in a horrible place for a couple of days - I forced myself to watch something to make me cry (we watched the Bowie music videos dvd and that worked) as it was like an ugly pit in my stomach. Funnily enough, my Mum did pass on my birthday weekend later in 2016, I really didn't cry that much again after that weekend in January as I had put those emotions in the right place. Within a few months of that ugly January day, we lost Alan Rickman and then Prince and it cemented what a horrible year it was for me.
econkle@reddit
The reason is now there is no chance you will ever that person in anything else again. Think Robin Williams. When he died there was no chance you would ever see a movie with him in it again, and you can’t take your kids to show them. We don’t have people like this anymore. They are all freaks and weirdos. I will cry when William Shatner goes too.
Natural-Pineapple886@reddit
Betty White Shatner pants.
econkle@reddit
Guilty as charged.
truce_m3@reddit
Walter Payton (no idea why)
Phife Dawg
whats1more7@reddit
Princess Diana and Robin Williams both hit me pretty hard. I feel sad whenever I think about their deaths. But I’m not really a crier. I cried around my parents’ deaths but that’s about it.
I work with kids so I read a lot of kids’ books. Robert Munsch has been diagnosed with dementia and has chosen MAiD. Thousands of Canadian children have seen him in person and know him from his books. When he goes I will be gutted. Such a truly wonderful and inspiring person gone too soon.
Same with Raffi. I need him to live forever.
JD_tubeguy@reddit
Same I never cry at stuff like that. In other news my girl's dubbed me a sociopath for never crying.
WhiteHeteroMale@reddit
I think the Facebook algorithm is forcing this upon me. It seems like 75%percent of the push notifications I get are from “friends” commenting on a celebrity death.
It begs the question. Are my “friends” suddenly, all on their own, paying more attention to celebrity deaths? Or is the algorithm pushing it on them? Or were some of them doing it all along, but it was easier for me to ignore?
I’ve buried both my parents and three of my siblings. I’m not going to let the death of some stranger occupy my emotional space - even if I listened to their songs in the 80’s.
tandem_kayak@reddit
Maybe they just like commiserating with others who were also touched by that celebrity's work.
Caliopebookworm@reddit
I understand what you're saying. I see posts asking what celebrity death devastated you. None of them. I'm not unfeeling, I just don't know these people other than what I see on screen.
Comfortable-Help9587@reddit
I was more upset when Neil Peart died than I was when one of my oldest friend’s father passed.
hypopig242@reddit
Only two come to mind at the moment. George Harrison, found out on my drive to work, and Roy Lichtenstein, one of my favorite artists. I'll probably cry when Paul McCartney dies, but not sure about Ringo.
froction@reddit
The Beatles are dying in decreasing order of talent, so Ringo will probably outlive us all.
hypopig242@reddit
He's also the oldest, so you'd think he'd be one of the first.
_ItsTheLittleThings_@reddit
I have never cried over a celebrity death, but losing Paul McCartney might get me.
Hungry-Industry-9817@reddit
The fact I had to learn how to cry again through therapy, I think it is great that we have emotions and empathy for other people that are not just to our inner circle.
usingbadnamesabunch@reddit
Never happened to me. I don't put that much stock into people that I don't actually know.
CheesyRomantic@reddit
For celeberty deaths, it depends on what those celebrities meant to me. What they brought to my life.
When my aunt passed, I was okay until the funeral. I became a blubbering mess. She was older but her death cane unexpectedly. When a family friend passed, I took it hard even though it was expected & he was elderly.
When a friend close to my age died by suicide, it shocked me and I still feel it.... but I kinda shut down. It's like I haven't allowed myself to deeply feel her passing. It's been 3 years and I still can't let my head go there.
Brock_Savage@reddit
Just a few weeks ago this sub was flooded with posts from people who were still traumatized by the Challenger explosion and couldn't bear to watch Artemis. Reddit's a safe place for people with low emotional resilience to express their feelings.
But hey, I cried when I had to put my longtime cat buddy to sleep and a hardass would think that's just as strange as crying over a celebrity they've never met.
darkest_irish_lass@reddit
Crying over a pet is different, IMHO. There is loss combined with regret that we couldn't save them, since we are used to providing everything from food to shelter to comfort. Anyone who doesn't cry might have been told it's not appropriate which is just ridiculous.
As for crying over celebrities, I haven't yet. But I also don't follow their lives closely, marriages/divorce, etc. Maybe that's the difference?
hereforit_838@reddit
Jim Henson took me out
Erok2112@reddit
When Neil Peart died in 2020, I didn't exactly cry but it was the first (and only) artist/celebrity that effected me when he died. He had been my drumming idol since 1977 when I first heard Rush 2112 on 8-track no less. I was hooked from the start and he inspired me to be a better drummer my whole life. Everyone else? eh. I don't especially want them to die but I don't care either.
Stevnated@reddit
Yes, this one was hard for me too. :'(
CreatrixAnima@reddit
Sometimes it’ll make me sad, and sometimes it’ll break me. It depends on how much of an impact they’ve had, but it also means the end of something that was a part of my life. Not so much the person, but whatever they did that I respected.
For me, it took me about a year or two conceptualize the fact that Nanci Griffith was no longer in the world. I have so much of her music on my phone, and I just feel like she’s always been around. And then she wasn’t. I’m not sure that I cried, but it definitely had an impact.
During Covid, when Adam Schlesinger and John Prine died, I did cry. I wasn’t a huge fans of either simply because I didn’t have enough of their music to calm myself that, but I respected the hell out of both of them. There was also stress involved, so that was part of it too.
Stevnated@reddit
Losing John Prine was hard for me (but I didn't actually cry).
Fearless_Street5231@reddit
It’s not for the loss of their person you don’t know, it’s the loss of the talent that brought you joy.
Unusual_Memory3133@reddit
I have never cried and usually I just say, “Oh, that’s too bad” but not with Bowie. He was everything to me as a kid and as a young adult because I had older siblings who worshipped him, so the belief that he was the apex of cool and artsy was instilled deep very early on. I didn’t cry when he died but for years just couldn’t fathom him not being in the world. It’s still gets me sometimes. But no tears.
StereotypicallBarbie@reddit
Yeah Bowie was a sad one..
StereotypicallBarbie@reddit
At this age I’ve lost a few family members and friends..
So no it doesn’t affect me when a celebrity dies! I just can’t imagine feeling grief for someone I’ve never even met or don’t know personally. I think it’s sad.. because death is always sad..
I have a friend at work who cried real tears when the Queen died..
addctd2badideas@reddit
Everyone handles parasocial relationships with celebrities differently.
I cried hard when Carrie Fisher died, not because of how much I loved her work beyond Star Wars, but because I had met her too and we briefly shared a stage.
I cried when David Bowie died. I cried hard when Leonard Nimoy died.
It's often about something deeper, whether their work meant something to you or they represented some part of your world.
If you don't cry for certain figures that have meaning, that's however your brain works, but I might judge you a little. Everyone's got to have someone that is a public figure that they love, even if you've never met them.
zionzednem@reddit
It’s the emotional connection. A song or a movie or a show that’s mapped to a specific memory in time. Usually a joyful memory. Breaking joy hurts.
There also memories that are mapped to family and friends whom are gone and the overall emotion loss is harder.
Just my wooden nickel. I’ve felt sometimes hard for artists passing that I didn’t meet.
Brownpecan31@reddit
It’s about nostalgia, not necessarily the person itself that passed but the memories acquired during that time grow up, it’s all associated
SBInCB@reddit
And sometimes the realization that there won’t be any new ones.
SBInCB@reddit
I don’t cry over celebrities but I do cry more. Some movies, especially if the music is right will get me like they didn’t used to. It’s a little annoying but I’m working on accepting it.
Federal-Membership-1@reddit
Classmates. That number is growing. To be fair, the list started before graduation, but still.
superfedupguy@reddit
Generally no. But Lennon's death hit me hard and reverberates down the decades even now.
SciFiFan24@reddit
Same. He’s the only celebrity I ever cried for. I was a huge Beatles fan, also I was only 11 when it happened, plus it was such a horrifying way to go. And he was relatively young. I was devastated.
superfedupguy@reddit
Similarly, I was 13 and also a huge Beatles fan.
caught-n-candie@reddit
Generally more about the reason and circumstances. I took Robin Williams death pretty hard given hes a stranger. But the shock hit first, then the details trickled out and it was just so tragic and sad.
Watermelon_Sugar44@reddit
I have a mixed feelings when it comes to death because I lost my dad to suicide when I was 3. I still cry over him sometimes and over my grandmother because I miss her so much. As far as celebrities, I only felt deep sadness when Chester Bennington died. It's because his songs told his story and he lost the battle. I thought about his kids, experiencing the sudden loss of their dad. In a selfish way I was disappointed that he wouldn't be alive producing any more music. I feel this way about Prince too, that I wanted so much to experience new music from him but he's gone.
Elektrik_Magnetix@reddit
I cried when Darth Vader died.
Ceorl_Lounge@reddit
Never cried over a celeb, that's reserved for family members I actually liked. But I was really shaken up by Jim Henson, Steve Irwin, and Robin Williams. All three of them played a big role in things I enjoyed over the years. Good men gone too soon. There have been others I've mourned, like Leonard Nimoy, but he was very old, very sick, and led a long, interesting life.
Park_Ranger2048@reddit
I didn't cry for Hensen until Big Bird sang "it's not easy being green" then I lost it for Kermit lol
Dr_Drax@reddit
You could say that Nimoy lived long and prospered. 🖖
Ceorl_Lounge@reddit
Indeed. And thanks to the newer Trek movies and Fringe we got a solid farewell to the man and his most famous character.
Meep42@reddit
For me it’s not that I’ve met them or not…but how big an impact they have been in my life.
When a “celebrity,” especially a musician, actor, or author passed that helped me get through some shit? Cuz therapy came way way way later?? Bawling my eyes out (maybe I need more therapy? Heh.) So…never met them…but wore out the cassette tape as I overthought things or cleared my head by diving into their movie (or reread their books dozens of times…) Yeah…probably just a one-direction trauma bond…
But a family member who I met once and had zero connection with? Of course I send my condolences and hug their children or parents because te related…but if there are no memories to mourn or whatnot…the emotional connection is missing.
Park_Ranger2048@reddit
Celebrity death doesn't move me in particular, but tragedy befalling people I don’t know can be heartbreaking and sometimes I will cry for sure. I cried when Spock died on screen so I kinda felt sad when Nimoy went, even though I knew it was me conflating the actor with the role. But Robin Williams pretty much undid me and opened up the waterworks.
HenryLoggins@reddit
For what it’s worth here’s my .02 when somebody cries for a celebrity death. Yes you’ve never met that person, in person, but you’re not normally attached to the actual person, more so the character that provided you the entertainment over the years.
Many people find tremendous amounts of joy, watching their favorite television series, following their favorite actor, or Joy from their music over many decades.
The loss may not specifically be for the person whom you have never met, and who doesn’t even know you exist, but more so for the character in the joy of the character they played brought you as a person.
sebastianrileyt2@reddit
I understand that. I feel sad and sorry for those that knew and loved them, that are now suffering this personal loss.
I feel sad that what they contributed to the world is gone. However i don't cry either. I don't know many that do.
OreoSpeedwaggon@reddit
When I'm sad about a celebrity dying, it's not because I feel like I know them. (I obviously don't.) My sadness has more to do with acknowledging that they will no longer be able to provide any creative output that entertains people, or that people connect with because of sharing life experiences with an actor's characters or a musician's lyrics, for example. It's natural to mourn the loss of things that have personal value to you, even if you don't personally know the individual responsible.
NoneyaBizzy@reddit
I'm sad about losing some celebrities, but I've never cried about it.
But were you also saying that you don't cry when you lose people you were personally close with? I absolutely do, especially at the funeral or when having a heart-to-heart about them with other friends/loved ones.
pmbpro@reddit
I wonder if it’s the connected positive memories that the celebrity evoked in people, that makes them cry — not necessarily the individual person, since they didn’t really know them personally…?
chairmanghost@reddit
I cried when Johnny cash died. I loved him all my life, I was barely holding on to all those happy memories of riding around in the truck listening to him with my dad as a kid. He was a consistant thread to a very chaotic life. And then he was gone.
NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit
Parasocial relationships are a real thing. Its surprising how many people you'll find in one.
mobfather@reddit
I agree with you. I feel like we are already best buddies.
NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit
Well, that goes without saying, you're a god damned delight.
gsr852@reddit
I would suggest it’s not always just about the death of whoever the person in the public eye may be. When the people you grow up watching, listening to, etc. who are contemporaries die, it’s a big reminder that it’s no longer the “older” celebrities who belong to your grandparents or parent’s generations that die. You are now the “older” generation, and that reminder of one’s mortality is smacking you in the face with each new obituary.
Curious_Field7953@reddit
🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯
cosmoboy@reddit
I didn't cry when my parents died. I'll be a wreck when I lose my brother and sisters. It just depends on... everything. Since the parents died, EVERY death reminds me of my own mortality. Sometimes the reaction to that is stronger than I'd like. It has also spurred some lifestyle changes. Parents deaths did result in heavier drinking, but it's also a large part of the reason I eventually quit
WimpyZombie@reddit
For me, I think part of it has to do with how shocked I am by their death. I didn't cry when my mother died, but I think that's because she had cancer and was in hospice so I had time to grieve and say goodbye over several months. Plus, I was the one responsible for handling all of the issues after she died. Plus, I was VERY close to my grandmother and always thought I would cry a lot when she died, but I didn't - and that kind of bothers me.
But...I did have a cousin who was 6 months younger than me. We were close when we were little kids <10 years old, but grew apart as we got older. She got cancer when she was 16 and had to have her leg amputated. She almost made it to the "5 years clean" mark but then it came back right before she was 21 and she died when she was 22. I was actually very surprised at myself that I was crying so much at her funeral.
EveryExplanation8084@reddit
John Lennon, George Harrison, Michael Hutchence, Rob Reiner. I don’t think I cried but I was really upset when Heath Ledger died. It is the loss of any future art created by these people.
Foxingmatch@reddit
I don't judge other people's emotions and reactions. It's OK for people to feel sad about celebrities. I've never felt this way about celebrities, though. I admire plenty of people (famous or not) for their various qualities and contributions, but I've also never had a hero or mentor. In true Gen X style, I blazed my own trail.
SideLongjumping8294@reddit
Seriously? Like, never cried for a movie or book character? You reserve actual sadness only for people you interact with in real life? To each their own I guess.
Curious_Field7953@reddit
Because some of us are of the "sensitivity" population. 20% of all people have a gene that predisposed them to being more sensitive. We feel deeply for everyone & everything. I feel sorry for those who don't have it bc we feel EVERYTHING more deeply including but especially of the happy, upbeat, joyful feelings more intensely.
BlownCamaro@reddit
I feel like crying when someone cries over losing their source of entertainment.
Krazy_Kat_Lady_2025@reddit
? You think that's why people cry when some celebrity's die?
BlownCamaro@reddit
Absolutely. They never knew the person; only the personna. They didn't love the person - they loved how the person made them feel. And now that's gone and so they feel a sense of loss. But that loss is based on selfishness.
flashingcurser@reddit
People have built pro-social relationships long before social media.
ohb78@reddit
I’ve felt sadness when a celebrity died but have never shed a tear for one. Sure they’ve impacted my life and it’s a reflection of those memories but I didn’t know them personally.
Sensitive-Issue84@reddit
I don't cry. It's a waste of time. I cried when my parents passed because that was truly sad. But other than that? It's not something that I do and find it weird that other women and girls cry at the drop of a hat. Yes, I should probably talk to someone about it.
chrimen@reddit
I could give 2 shits about celebrities, millionaires, billionaires or anyone who isn't using their platform and money to make the world a better place.
I grew up watching them sure. But they're just a rando on a screen to me.
I do get teary eyed when I hear all of theb good someone did and they're longer with us.
Other than that death is imminent and I'm aware and cool with it. I'm trying yon live the present with my family the best I can and when the death happens I hopefully shall have lived as healthily as I could with my loved ones.
lazygerm@reddit
I think the word "celebrity" is loaded.
A celebrity could be Kim Kardashian or Kurt Cobain.
One is a successful but vapid business woman/no-talent actress. The other is fucking Kurt Cobain.
It all depends on how they touched your life; the connection through their art, their words or the ideals they stood for. Like Martin Luther King or Fred Rogers.
WimpyZombie@reddit
"The other is fucking Kurt Cobain."
You mean....a suicidal drug addict?
Spot_in_the_Sky@reddit
Chris Cornell took his life just hours after their concert in Detroit. I was at that concert. Cornell is my favorite singer of all time.
The next morning when I learned, I just went numb. Two days later I found myself crying at a stoplight because "Hunger Strike" came on the radio.
And yes, I miss that man every single day.
mamac2213@reddit
I felt the same about Taylor Hawkins' death. Numb for 3 days, then sobbing when The Sky is a Neighborhood came on the radio when I'm at a stoplight.
Spot_in_the_Sky@reddit
Definitely! Another gut punch.
JanaT2@reddit
No I haven’t. I might when it’s Springsteen’s time because his music means so much to me. It got me through bad times in my life and also the good. So maybe
thanx_it_has_pockets@reddit
I cried about my first celebrity death when I was 15 and it was Danny Kaye. I grew up watching a lot of musicals and he was one of my favorite actors. A couple of months later I was downright inconsolable when Fred Astaire died.
I also cried when Audrey Hepburn died as I loved her so much. She had inspired me with her humanitarian work as well as just loving her movies.
So I have cried for celebrities as well as family.
Probably the last celebrity death that hit me hard was Chris Cornell.
Historical_Project86@reddit
It's not just you, I'm the same. I think people are different, that's all. When Lady Di died, I just could not understand the public outpouring of grief, from the same sort of people who don't bat an eyelid when they read about the atrocities being committed around the world. A similar thing happened with the Queen, which leads me to one of my current favourite Stewart Lee jokes (to paraphrase):
When the Queen died, royalists put messages and flowers and Paddington bears on the railings of Buckingham Palace. Some royalists also left marmalade sandwiches, didn't they? The police didn't like that though, they said "Hey, royalists! Don't leave marmalade sandwiches there, because it'll just attract other vermin".
Boom boom.
WimpyZombie@reddit
I was sad when Queen Elizabeth died. She (at least appeared to) always had grace and class.
Princess Di? I never understood the fascination with her. Tell me that the entire reason she married Charles was NOT just for the title and position and future of her children.
lottadot@reddit
Nope don't care. Only loved ones which I liked and knew.
I think it's more social media wanting those page views and ad impressions.
LadyNorbert@reddit
I think the only celebrity death that made me actually cry was Mister Rogers, because that felt like losing a family member. I was upset about Robin Williams, Alex Trebek, and Carrie Fisher, and there have been a number of others that saddened me, but that's generally as far as it goes.
solsticesunrise@reddit
Latchkey kid of a single mom. Mr Rogers WAS my dad through my childhood.
He was a truly good person. And now I have tears welling up in my eyes.
WimpyZombie@reddit
The first time I felt genuinely sad...but didn't cry when a celebrity died was when Jim Henson died. It was hard to see a picture of Kermit the Frog sitting on a hill looking at a sunset. It was almost as if Kermit had died too. Strong attachment from childhood.
Other than that, the first and only time I actually cried was when Jimmy Buffett died. I am still a Parrothead deep at heart and always will be. Also, what made his passing so difficult was that it was such a shock. It really wasn't publicly known that he had cancer. He always appeared to have so much energy, he didn't seem like he was in his 70s. Then when they released the single "Bubbles Up" from his last album, that was what really broke me.
Braincloud@reddit
I cried when Prince died (10 years ago today). I’ve been a fan since about 1982, and his music has meant so much to. His death was mostly unexpected, and the details of how he died and was found, were so sad. He was an absolute force, and I found and still find the idea of him just being gone sort of inconceivable still.
solsticesunrise@reddit
I was new to my HS and bonded with my new friends over the album “1999.” Core memory unpackaging the vinyl and listening to it in a friend’s basement.
Second listen we danced like the untalented dancers we were. He was a mind-blowing performer, gone too soon.
1 - 2 punch in 2016 with Bowie dying as well.
brunoponcejones03017@reddit
I don't cry when celebrities or athletes die. I don't even know that I am sad. I can always listen/watch them anytime. I get bummed when I realize that there won't be anymore output from the artist. Perfect example of this is Tom Petty. I consumed all he put out and the fact that there will be nothing further is what impacts me
levianan@reddit
I didn't cry, but I was seriously bummed out when Miles Davis and later Anthony Bourdain exited the stage.
geetarboy33@reddit
I cried when EVH died because it felt like a part of my youth and the person that inspired me to begin playing guitar as a kid was gone. Obviously, I never met Eddie Van Halen and his loss didn’t affect my daily life, but it was more me mourning someone who had real meaning to me and inspired me.
nvr2manydogs@reddit
I probably cried as much over Jimmy Buffett as I did over my brother. They happened close together, and somehow it was safer to experience my emotions over him than my brother.
Commercial-Novel-786@reddit
If someone had a huge impact/influence on one's life, grief can hit hard. Whether it's someone you know, a family member, or an entertainer is almost irrelevant.
I'm not sure if I've shed tears when musicians I love have passed, but I did enter periods of extreme sadness from them. I also decided to change some of my ways and enhance my life as a result.
Beneficial-Cow-2544@reddit
Some people will just never understand certain feelings. For you, this is one of them.
sloop111@reddit
Triple digits? No one is super close with 100s of people. Let's not exaggerate.in the other direction either
grateful_john@reddit
Yeah, I’m with you. Off the top of my head, my grandparents, my father, a few friends but no one I was super close to (yet).
cthulhus_spawn@reddit
I cried when I heard Terry Pratchett had dementia because it was announced right after my dad died of it, just a few days later.
I didn't cry when Sir Terry actually died.
micropterus_dolomieu@reddit
Yeah, I think the most emotional I’ve been about a celebrity death was along the lines of, “That sucks.”
Three4Anonimity@reddit
I don’t have an emotional reaction to people dying that I don’t know.
bettypenney@reddit
Brian Wilson’s death hit me like a ton of bricks out of nowhere, I’m still sad. I was always a fan but not to the level I am now after he died. I don’t know, I can’t explain it.
myskara@reddit
YES.
bettypenney@reddit
You too? Yeah, I’m actually just sitting here in my car now thinking about him and I’m tearing up. WTF? 🤦🏻♀️ sigh.
myskara@reddit
Yep, though I was admittedly a big fan before he passed. I haven’t been able to listen to a BB/BW song since he left us. As soon as I hear the first few chords, I tear up and have to turn it off. He meant a lot to me, he got me through a lot. It’s still so painful.
bettypenney@reddit
Oh no, I’m sorry to hear that, hopefully you will be able to again. ❤️🩹 I know, he was just such an incredible human being, he has literally changed my life.
xAlice_Liddell@reddit
I was upset over Kurt, Scott, Layne and Robin. I cried when I lost all my grandparents. I don’t care if people need to mourn celebrities. They felt a connection and probably felt a bit of their own mortality fade when they did.
Firstnarrows100@reddit
You're not numb, just not dumb. I guess I can understand being upset at a tragic early death such as Kurt Cobain, but when celebrities die at 60+ we should be celebrating their contributions such as they were rather than bawling. After all, these people had the looks, the money, the endless romance, the adoration of others and a truly enviable occupation. Save your tears for your own miserable existence :)
tanhauser_gates_@reddit
Have never, so cant relate.
skeeterbmark@reddit
I cried a little when Eddie Van Halen died. No, I did not know him, but the man had a profound impact on my life. Much more so than some people I’m related to.
Hockey1899@reddit
I cried over Tom Petty. His music means so much to me ans the way I found out was so shocking that I burst into tears, which is highly unusual.
HermioneMarch@reddit
I might for certain musicians. I feel deep emotional connection to music and so I feel like I know these people even though I don’t. Actors or sports figures? I think “it’s a Shame” and move on. Only one that got me was Robin Williams.
Landshark-1@reddit
I have never cried for a celebrity death. Not even for the ones who I liked their work. I don't understand how someone can get that emotionally attached to celebrities. I have cried more for the loss of my pets than relatives.
Clairefun@reddit
I don't usually cry about celebs, but I did cry when Terry Pratchett died. The world just felt a little less happy, and welcoming, and intelligent. I did meet him though, about 5 times? So maybe it's different as someone i 'almost knew' sort of, kind of. His was the second fan club i ever joined, The Guild of Fans and Disciples, back in the days of photocopied fanzines.Still got my guild badges! There were only 2 or 3 books then, so around 1988, 89, which makes sense - i was around 12.
Sufficient_Stop8381@reddit
I never shed a tear or was ever attached to any celebrity enough to really care. I dislike celebrity worship and have no idea why people are so obsessed with them, Nothing against the artists when they kick it, but I didn’t know any of them. I appreciated their art, so if anything I might be disappointed they won’t be making music, movies, whatever, anymore but that’s it.
But I’m fairly detached from emotion. It’s more of a Jerry Seinfeld “well that’s a shame” sort of response.
CallingDrDingle@reddit
I don't give two fucks about any 'celebrity'.
JimboFett87@reddit
I don't know about shedding tears over celebrities, but I get bummed out for sure. Like I was bummed for a while after Prince died, but I never cried about it.
Optimal-Ad-7074@reddit
I'm not a crier, period. unless I'm physically exhausted, that is.
some "celebrity" deaths do hit me hard though.
a friend of mine was devastated by Whitney Houston. I tried to be respectful about saying I didn't quite get it, and she said that to her and most of her friends as "little black girls" Houston had been like a special kind of big sister when they were growing up.
still didn't relate in that case, but I've got my own that are similar. John Prine, Shane McGowan. Michael Marra. Piet Botha, David Lindley. the writer Timothy Findlay affected me a little. Elizabeth Jane Howard, Fay Weldon, Breyten Breytenbach, Nelson Mandela. I'll feel it when Paul Simon and Laurie Anderson and Bruce Cockburn die. Ry Cooder, Taj Mahal, Koos Kombuis, Pete Townshend, Paul Theroux.
it's not that I (will) miss these people personally, but something they contributed is now (will become) a finite quantity. there won't be any more of it, and anything of theirs that I read or listen to is now definitively a looking back. their memory and their names will begin to diminish and their work will become less and less known.
because it's a part of my own experience and I truly feel the value of it, I feel it as a general loss.
Krazy_Kat_Lady_2025@reddit
Thank you for hitting a core point. There is a scene in the book A Wrinkle In Time by Madeleine L' Engle where when someone with a special quality or who had a positive impact on the world dies, their soul or essence becomes a part of the greater good; Part of the light in the Universe that fights the Darkness.
That's how I view the rare people among us who are both famous and completely themselves and that we will probably not see the likes of again.
RexCelestis@reddit
Interestingly enough, I got most saddened by the loss of local radio personalities. I felt like I grew up with the likes of Larry Lujack and Lin Bremer and I miss them now that they are gone.
StormCloud616@reddit
It’s ok to cry when you lose your best friend in the whole world.
stowaway43@reddit
I cry when an artist I love dies. The thought that I'll never see/hear them in another movie or song is sad. I'm a crier though. I tear up easily
hapster85@reddit
I've shed plenty of tears from the loss of friends and family.
I've been sad after the passing of some celebrities, but no, I've never shed a tear over one.
I did well up several years ago visiting the 9/11 Museum. Listening to the voicemails really got to me.
HawkingzWheelchair@reddit
It puts me in an odd headspace, contemplating my own mortality and thinking about my wife and kids having to go on without me, but I've never cried over it.
DeadManAle@reddit
I do not care if a celebrity dies. Means nothing to me.
weight22@reddit
Die-hard Yankee fan here.
I did shed a tear when George Steinbrenner died. I knew at that very moment nobody would ever be as passionate about the Yankees winning again. Nobody would ever push management & players like he would ever again.
Baymavision@reddit
The only celebrity death to make me tear up, not fully cry though, was Eddie Van Halen. That grief was likely helped along by my own mothers' passing about a month earlier.
mrkeith562@reddit
In my dotage I cry at everything, commercials, songs, old tv shows, name it. I’m suddenly sentimental.
brendhano@reddit
I guess Im just not sentimental at all because there is no celebrity that has or could die that I give a shit about. I got much bigger problems....also Philip Seymour Hoffman died way to soon.
7eregrine@reddit
I was really sad when Carlin died. Did not cry. Rip George.
ShowLasers@reddit
I did. Surprised me!
VeryLowIQIndividual@reddit
We grew up spending more time with TV characters than or parents in a lot cases
Glass-Nectarine-3282@reddit
Nobody actually cries, Well. not "nobody" but very few people. It's just what people write to convey emotion.
You can't very well write "I was moderately wistful when Shannen Doherty died," You have to be like "OMG TEARSSSSSSSSS OF HEAVENNNNNNN for Shannen!"
So it's the necessary ingredients for Reddit performance art, not actual weeping.
Raven-Wise7755@reddit
Eh- I think there may be some actual weeping. I actually literally weeped when Chester died. My mom cried real tears when Elvis died and that was in 1977. She grew up in the sticks and probably still has no idea what performative art even is.
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
Is this sarcasm? I'm sorry, but I'm slightly defective and i have a difficult time recognizing sarcasm 🤷🏼♀️
eggs_erroneous@reddit
I've never cried for a celebrity death. It HAS made me feel sad, not really for the death itself, but more that it is a sobering reminder that I am getting older and my time is also coming. I see these celebrities that were once young and vibrant who are now old and dying - it's hard not to feel something. Maybe that's why they are crying? IDK
ckdexhaven@reddit
I was blocks away from the Dakota, having dinner with my parents, when John Lennon was murdered. You bet, I cried. Sobbed actually. Because I was a kid - a second generation Beatles fan and he was violently taken away from us at 40! Never met him but I loved him. At no time was I ever ashamed of that reaction.
NeoPrimitiveOasis@reddit
I have never cried over a celebrity death. Today (April 21, 2026 as I type this) is the 10th anniversary of Prince's death. A brilliant musician, but I certainly didn't cry when he died. That said, I don't judge others who do cry!
FangioDuReverdy1@reddit
We lost Bowie, Prince, and George Michael all in the same year. Fuck 2016
staplesgowhere@reddit
I swear those 3 were holding the universe together. Everything has gone rapidly downhill since then.
FangioDuReverdy1@reddit
Three huge talents in one year😔hard to accept when such a larger than life presence disappears forever 💜
t_huddleston@reddit
I don't ever recall crying over a celebrity, but I don't think it's stupid or anything. People react to things in different ways and that's just how people are. Like, I cried at the end of The Elephant Man, but not when Elephant Man (and my personal favorite) director David Lynch died, so explain that. It's not like I wasn't sad when he passed, or just felt nothing, but it was more just a feeling of heavy weariness more than anything else.
thundersnow86@reddit
I honestly think it is how you were raised. My dad did not believe men should cry. When I was little and fell it was always get up and walk it off. Or rub dirt on it. Mom wasn’t the comforting one that much either. The last celebrity I cried over was Bill Muncey when I was 9. He was my favorite hydroplane driver. I was told to go to my room to settle down. After that I just knew better than to cry about anything.
ElteeRyan@reddit
Odd this post showed up today. I cried for 3 days straight when Prince died, which was 10 yrs ago today. I was overwhelmed with shock and sadness. Of course I didn't know him but he was a part of my formative years growing up, and as an adult I never lost my admiration and appreciation for his talents.
I also cried for Chris Cornell. Huge fan of his, saw him live multiple time both as a solo artist and with several of his bands. Such a senseless loss.
chrispd01@reddit
Ummm why is this directed to GenX ?
Its seems a pretty typical reaction across the age spectrum and your position is also fairly common uniformly.
Raven-Wise7755@reddit
Yes but I think as Gen X'rs stereotypically we don't really cry as much? Maybe that's why it's here. I know that instead of crying I laugh but have had to go out of my way to teach my kids that crying is okay. It's healthy. Just ignore Mom cackling in the corner. Don't be like Mom lol
chrispd01@reddit
Yeah. No. Its just a poor attempt on OPs part to create a GenX issue from something that isn’t…
The question generically is fine (if kinda trite imo) but its not a GenX one …just a general culture one
_ItsTheLittleThings_@reddit
My guess is that it’s directed at Gen X bc generations of people sometimes respond to things in similar ways, and OP wants to know if there is some consensus among this particular age group.
chrispd01@reddit
Yeah. To which my criticism is that this is not a generationally specific phenomenon.
It’s a similar to something like “GenX why do you guys like french fries fries?”
gmkrikey@reddit
My “death list” is around thirty counting all distant relatives I met once and “did you hear so-and-so died last year” coworkers and former classmates.
Otherwise it’s like 12.
No never cried over a celebrity death.
CaughtALiteSneez@reddit
Sinead O’Connor was the only one…
I was going through a very rough time around her death and she was helping me get through as well as heal from some childhood wounds. When I read the news it felt like a shot in the heart & just more general feelings of life isn’t fair.
Pretty sure I will be very sad when Robert Plant and Patti Smith pass too - music is important to me and I’ve spent a lot of time with these people even if I don’t actually know them.
And yes, I’ve experienced loads of real life loss too.
Aromatic_Revolution4@reddit
Some of us cry because that person's accomplishments, performances, work, art, or whatever touched us in a profound way.
And some of us don't cry because all of us process sadness, loss, and grief differently.
Brother_Professor@reddit
"Wow! I just read that just died. He/she seemed really fun/cool/talented/etc.
Its just sad.
...
Hey! The won last night. After that last game they really needed..."
Ancient-and-Iknowit@reddit
I’ve never cried over a celebrity death. I get sad sometimes, but not enough to cry about it.
gcwardii@reddit
I cried when I heard that Bob Uecker passed away a couple years ago. I still weep a bit when I think of him (yes, like now) or hear his voice.
I’m a lifelong Wisconsin resident and have been a fan of the Milwaukee Brewers since I was about 10. Ueck was the radio announcer for the team for my whole life. My dad always had the games on in the background, and my husband and I did, too.
It’s just not summer without Ueck.
FangioDuReverdy1@reddit
I cried when George Michael passed away. No, I never met him. But he was an important piece in the fabric of my childhood. His music got me through a lot in high school. Gave me an escape. I had posters on my wall of him. Nice to wake up in the morning and see his gorgeous face🙂I followed his music as an adult and knew he was a tortured soul. It was a shock when he died. Couldn’t believe he was gone. So yes, I shed a tear for someone that was important to me growing up
StillC5sdad@reddit
We know death is part of life. I always found it weird when celebrities are seen different. People die constantly but you don't cry for them .
Astronaut6735@reddit
I don't even cry when people I care about die. I'm just not wired that way.
ItsNotAFraggle@reddit
People experience emotional situations differently. I bawled, like full on boo-hoo bawled, when Prince died and still get misty eyed when I see certain video clips or hear certain songs because his music is sparks so many memories and was ever-present in my life from the time I was 11. Same when Bowie died (especially when I listened to Blackstar that day). For those two, a lot of it is also just sadness that their immense talents are gone from the world. Ray Charles is another—so many special memories of going to see him in concert, his music playing throughout my life, singing along with my sister and my dad. Cried a bit when John Lewis and Jimmy Carter died, not full-on sobbing like Prince and Bowie, but more because they were both heroes to me and their lives had such an impact on so many. There’s definitely a larger list than this, but I don’t think I’ll ever become numb to death of people whom I admire and have had an impact on my life, whether I know them in person or not.
princessbubblgum@reddit
I cried a little bit for Amy Winehouse, because she was so troubled and it was inevitable. A long slow visible death publicised by the media. Plus many of her songs are so good for crying.
jamesdmccallister@reddit
Many tears fell for Jerry Garcia. Otherwise, no.
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
I too shed many tears for Jerry. Also a few fell for Bob Weir, very recently. I was certainly sad when Phil Lesh died but i don't think actual-tears-falling sad.
I just didn't feel quite the same level of sadness, probably because I'd only seen Phil perform once in the last thirty years, whereas I'd seen Bob perform countless times. You start to feel like you're going to see an old friend after a while ✌🏼
jamesdmccallister@reddit
Phil, Donna Jean, Bobby were all tough for me, but for some reason I didn't cry. I had not seen Bobby in a number of years, probably since Furthur in 2012 or so.
Redkris73@reddit
Strangely, the only celebrity death that made me cry was Leonard Nimoy. Such a lovely voice to be lost.
Likewise I'm sure I'll be a wreck when David Attenborough dies, but that's less about him being a celebrity and more that I feel like he's shaped me as a person.
OldSlug@reddit
I cried when Robin Williams died because he reminds me of my father, and also just because I loved his work, and his reputation made the way he died even more tragic.
I cried when Ruth Bader Ginsburg died because we were in deep(er) goddamn trouble.
Some people feel connected to some celebrities, because they were a part (superficially, maybe, but still) of an event or period in their lives that was meaningful, or because they were really hot, it doesn’t matter why. Some people cry when they feel a loss. Why go out of your way to judge them? How does it hurt you?
HighJeanette@reddit
They weren’t judging.
OldSlug@reddit
Thanks for the perspective!
No-Onion8029@reddit
Not crying, but a little ouchie. I remember John Lennon was a big WTF. A few years later the space shuttle. Diana was unexpected in all sorts of ways, including happening right after SNL. Robin was... I mean... we knew he had problems, right. Big "oof," but not shocking. Brittany Murphy caught me off guard. Dana Plato. (Hm. Do I have a "type?") Matt Perry. Prince. Douglas Adams...
froction@reddit
I found RW's choice to die to be the opposite of tragic. Man wanted to go on his own terms instead of withering away inside a decaying body and brain.
OldSlug@reddit
I agree with that, actually. Maybe it’s more accurate to say that I found the circumstances surrounding his death to be tragic? Anyway, yeah I think in general we should have more control over how we go out.
rumblepony247@reddit
I've never understood idolatry. For celebrities, politicians, athletes, religious figures etc. Automatic failure of the Idiot Test as far as I'm concerned.
SimpleVegetable5715@reddit
I think people create parasocial relationships with their favorite celebrities. It also wakes you up to your own mortality, when you see people your age dying.
scout_finch77@reddit
I cry over celebrity deaths. I’m an emoter, in general.
pomdudes@reddit
It’s dawning morality. We (as a society) tend to view people we revere as immortal. So when they die, it’s a shock and we start thinking “Am I next?”
Personally, I don’t shed tears when a person of note dies. But I will reflect on my relationship to them.
FairBaker315@reddit
I cried a bit when Mr. Rogers died because he was a big part of my early childhood and I loved him.
I wasn't hysterical or anything but I needed a tissue.
Otherwise_Object_446@reddit
I cried telling my kids about what a decent human he was. I’ll probably bawl when Dolly Parton dies too for the same reason. The world just seems a little less without them in it.
FairBaker315@reddit
I know I'll weep for Dolly. Probably multiple tissues.
jbarinsd@reddit
I cried a little when Carrie Fisher and Catherine O’Hara passed. Both brought me joy that I knew they could never bring me again. Also their deaths were so sudden. A couple others left me stunned and sad but not tearful. David Bowie, Prince, George Harrison to name a few.
Heavy_Spite2105@reddit
Princess Diana. Such a caring and charitable person who got a raw deal with Prince Charles. And then for her life to be snuffed out too soon.
Lauren_sue@reddit
My only tears were for John Lennon. I was in high school and celebrity worship was real. We were so excited he had a new album and seemed to be getting his life back together. It came out of left field.
TXtogo@reddit
Yeah no. I was watching season two of “beef” on Netflix last night and this genz guy texts his fiancé that a bee died and he cried
I was like, omg this reminds me of my daughter’s fiancé. Soft like a marshmallow.
Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit
I broke up with a guy who cried at a gwyneth fair festival. In retrospect, I should have broken up with him because he went to a woman’s music festival.
lemmylemonlemming@reddit
I got really sad when Kurt Cobain and Layne Staley died because they were two of my favorite rock stars.
I got really sad when Amy Winehouse died just because I knew women just like her that died from addictions.
But I don't think I've ever cried because of any celebrity deaths.
special5221@reddit
I always thought when people said they were crying over a celebrity death it was just a figure of speech.
For me the only ones that could get me would be someone who dies suddenly and has kids or dies from cancer. Cancer took both my parents way too early, so it can hit my emotions at times.
Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit
I know someone who cried and took two days off work when Selena died. She didn’t know her and wasn’t even that big of a fan.
ezgomer@reddit
I cried for weeks when River Phoenix passed in 93.
I teared up a bit when Anthony Bourdain passed.
Both of these people were more than entertainment to me. They inspired me to do things a certain way in my own life. Maybe that’s the difference?
HighJeanette@reddit
When I lose friends? Devastation. When a celebrity dies, especially one that has live a long life, nothing.
David Bowie is the exception
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
Many have made me cry. Most recently was Rob Reiner. Losing David Bowie, Prince, and George Michael in one year was devastating to me. When Dolly is no longer with us, I’ll need a day off. That being said, nothing is like losing your parent, siblings, spouse, child or close friend. It changes who you are as a person.
joeyjoejoeshabbadude@reddit
When Robert Smith goes, I may shed a tear. That is the only celeb I would miss.
jseger9000@reddit
I'm with you.
Dangerous-Art-Me@reddit
I’m not sad about them and can’t relate to most of them anyway.
beccabebe@reddit
I don’t cry for celeb deaths.
However, I do find that if I’ve perceived them to be good people (as much as I can know) outside of their roles and they have suffered the same as all other people, I find I get v sad for them. Example, Robin Williams. I wish he could’ve found peace and stayed w us. Same w heath ledger. I’m sad for them as I would be for non-celeb. I just hate to see people in pain. Celeb’s obviously have impact via their work so that increases my awareness of them.
Heavy_Spite2105@reddit
Yes, Robin Williams. Because it was a suicide. Such a brilliant man who brought so much joy and laughter. I don't know if he realized how loved he was.
HackedCylon@reddit
I cry when I lose family members.
As far as celebs go, the one who hit me hardest was George Carlin, but I only brooded for awhile.
medusamagpie@reddit
I cried when Eddie Van Halen died, but he was a big part of my teen years (and beyond) so it felt more personal.
Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit
I was really sad when Robin Williams died. The only crying happened when my boyfriend died in a car crash in high school and then when my grandfather had a heart attack when I was in college. That’s it.
BitterPillPusher2@reddit
The only celebrity death that brought me to tears was Adam "MCA" Yauch. The Beastie Boys provided the soundtrack for the best days of my life. I'm about to turn 54, and I still listen to them almost every day. When he died, it was like it finally hit me that those days are really over. It was a lot.
I don't know if this counts as a celebrity, but I also cried when Ruth Bader Ginsburg died. Because I knew what was going to happen. My husband and I were standing, looking at the TV, and the first thing I said was, "They're going to overturn Roe."
Rmorgeddon@reddit
This. Both. MCA was such a shock and so sad to me because of his age, just a few years older than me, and the talent. I learned about RBG while driving to the cape with my daughter for the first time since before COVID and we had been so excited to get out and after she read the news it was just silence in the car.
alex_dare_79@reddit
I haven’t cried over celebrity deaths but I am definitely more sad for the ones that die young who were so talented but tortured and couldn’t overcome their demons: Kurt Cobain, George Michael, Whitney Houston, Amy Winehouse are a few that come to mind
drhoads@reddit
I never cried for a celeb but I was sad when Steve Irwin died. Only celeb I ever looked up to. I have lost so many friends and family at this point, but it feels like it is getting harder not easier. Each loss is like slowly losing part of myself.
chrispd01@reddit
Also, that was a classic fatality that did not need to happen because he did not have the right staff with him…. It was wholy unnecessary and not to be too harsh, just the result of stupidity.
Ok-Cap-204@reddit
When Kobe died, my son stayed in his room for an entire week. Full mourning mode. I cried watching his wife, although I did not know her personally.
allaboutaphie@reddit
I agree, I will say WOW and then check my age and say damn when did i get old.
Ray_The_Engineer@reddit
Cry, for celebrities? No. It will make me sad when someone that I considered to be iconic during my childhood dies; Chuck Norris comes to mind. It's not really about "losing the person", more about the reminder that certain things are gone, never to return.
When I lost each of my parents, it made me sad and contemplative, but for whatever reason that kind of thing doesn't activate my "cry reflex." That seems to be reserved for other things that touch me.
eric90125@reddit
I'm not really a crier, but I definately teared up and got really sad when Neil Peart passed away. It was a loss of someone who had a great impact on my life and it made me feel my own mortality.
Krinks1@reddit
When I lose people I know, yes.
Celebrities, no. Though I did feel especially sad about losing two Canadian iconic celebrities: Gordon Downey and Catherine O'Hara.
ikediggety@reddit
Kurt, Elliott Smith, and Syd Barrett all affected me when they died. Kurt and Elliott were people who I identified with strongly through their lyrics. They were two people who made me feel less alone and hopeless. So when they threw in the towel it was a real bummer.
Syd Barrett I didn't feel nearly as much of a connection to, but I was always so sad about his personal tragedy and how disconnected he was from the world.
Then Brian Wilson died. I took the day off work, watched "love and mercy" on repeat, and cried like a baby.
When Tom Baker goes I will not be ok at all. Like at all.
Impressive-Glove-878@reddit
When Bowie died, I wept like a baby, I think it was the suddeness of it, plus it was January which is a bit depressing month for me, listening to Blackstar released a couple of days before with its funeral tones, yeah it was a bit much, I dont think ive listened to it since. For context Im not a habitual blubberer, the previous time was when my old man died suddenly when I was in my twenties
southernruby@reddit
Celebrities no, a couple or three musicians who’s lyrics and music have had a large impact on me and they left too soon? Yes.
commandbasketball@reddit
I remember my mom crying when Elvis died. But I have only been sad when I hear of celebrity deaths. I was sad Prince passed and we wouldn't get more music. But cry...no. Betty White's death was really sad. She was a treasure.
SpankyDammit@reddit
I was sad to see Ken Block go but didn’t cry about it. Only if it’s family. Everyone else I figure just finished their game.
Turbulent_Tale6497@reddit
I didn't cry like actual drippy tears, but I was very upset when Luke Perry died.
The guy is about my age, and was a fun part of my 20s, disappeared for a decade or more, and was on the way back up, when he just kind of dropped dead.
Made me really feel for our mortality, and I'm not ashamed to say it got to me
ConsuelaApplebee@reddit
It's funny that you bring this up because I saw a Nat Geo thing about the Kennedy assassination on Sunday and you see all these random citizens crying. And I thought geez, it was sad but you didn't know the guy.
Human_Reflection_166@reddit
I talked to my parents about the Kennedy assassination. They both voted for him and were catholic. They said it was the shock and uncertainty of what would happen next. They said it was as though time stopped for a few days
Pjsrock@reddit
I only cried for Old Yeller.
Unusual_Bet_2125@reddit
Nobody cries when a bum dies.
Beyou74@reddit
It is more about them than the celebrity that died...
punktualPorcupine@reddit
“The celebrities keep getting closer and closer to my age.”
RevToy@reddit
I barely cry so I’m sure as fuck not crying over a celebrity.
CommodorDLoveless@reddit
A couple years back a Musician died that I was a huge fan of. When he died it reminded me of the years of enjoying his music and the people I enjoyed it with. Many of those people are dead now and many have drifted away. He sang about situations that were relevant to my life and it made me think of how helpful his music was during hard times. I think it was the first time I cried when a someone i didn't know directly died. The reality was that he had been more important part of my life than I ever realized .
BadJuJu-Weirdo@reddit
I cried when Eddie Van Halen died. Van Halen was a huge in my world back in the day. Also recently when Ozzy died.
I'm a crier so of course friends, family and pets passing are cry fests. A sweet memory comes to mind and I'm choked up and teary eyed.
jewelophile@reddit
So many kids at my high school cried when kurt cobain died.
mindy72@reddit
I agree. I also never understood women at concerts for Elvis or The Beatles faint or completely break down in hysterics.
EfficientSociety73@reddit
It’s not so much about the person but about a time in your life that they represent. Looking back at being “young” and seeing someone who’s work influenced you die makes you look at your own mortality. And for me it’s also about the people who love that person. I can cry over the death of someone I didn’t know and it’s more about the loss for their loved ones. In the case of celebrities specifically, it’s the loss of a part of your life and their talent that I miss. Especially when they aren’t much older than me. And when it’s something like cancer, to which I’ve lost far to many people I love, it brings those losses back up too. So it’s like grieving my own loved ones again.
lassita_48det@reddit
Very well said! I was about to type a reply but saw that you hit the nail on the head!
PinkyLeopard2922@reddit
I was always a daddy's girl and lost my dad to Covid in 2020. I'm still not over that. When Jimmy Buffett died in 2023, it felt a little bit like losing another dad and I cried a lot during those first few days. I think it was also that his death signified the end of the era of for us... going to JB concerts with friends over the years, tailgating, taking our daughter as she grew up, making new friends, and generally acting like idiots even though we were in our 30s and 40s.
GilfCherryanne@reddit
Wouldn’t make me cry , but can get you emotionally when u first learn the news if that celebrity was a big part of your upbringing .. I didn’t know the queen personally but I’d shown ponies alongside her , she was Queen through my upbringing and so yes I was sad she passed But different from losing personal friends and family
PaulClarkLoadletter@reddit
It’s something I’ve been privy to but I’ve never personally done it even for notable people that I was very fond of. I’ve definitely felt that empty feeling for a few of them but it didn’t last long. Maybe if I knew them personally but even then I have had friends pass and it wasn’t all that heavy.
fruskydekke@reddit
I've never cried over a celebrity death and don't understand people who do.
I have cried over the deaths of people I haven't met, though. I'm in Norway, and in 2011 we had a right-wing terrorist kill about 80 young people in their teens. I sure as hell cried then.
kermitsfrogbog@reddit
I don't cry easily at all. I tend to bottle up my feelings and stew in them for a while instead.
I do not cry over celebrities. If anything, the death of a celebrity I grew up watching is just a reminder of my own mortality. That's what makes me feel sad.
I just lost another classmate from high school this past week. Another stark reminder than anything can happen at any time. I haven't spoken to her since high school, so there were no tears. That doesn't mean I'm not sad for her or her family on some level.
Things that did make me cry: When my grandmother was dying. I kept obsessing over how she must have been so frightened during her last days. The thought of her being afraid broke my heart.
Any loss of close family will probably push me over that edge. But celebrities? Friends from decades ago that I no longer talk to? Probably not.
markov-271828@reddit
I didn’t cry but I do remember where I was when I learned that Elvis died and when Michael Jackson died.
0hheyitsme@reddit
I cry when I lose someone I was close to. I don't cry when celebrities die.
ShaChoMouf@reddit
I think part of it is the recognition of our own mortality. We watch certain actors growing up and they are in so many of our favorite movies that they feel comfortable -- familiar -- like a family member. If they are in your age group, it is doubly-so, perhaps you grew up along with them as they acted in more and more mature roles as they age. When those people die, that part of your life is forever gone and it is a reminder that your day will come too.
Old_Association6332@reddit
I'm not a person who cries easily -even when close relatives and friends die -although I do get very emotional. As to the question of whether I get very emotional when celebrities die, not usually. If I know of the celebrity in question, it's usually a feeling of some residual sadness and, if I grew up with that celebrity's work when he or she was in their prime, a reinforcement of the feeling that time is going by too fast and I'm getting old.
There are a few exceptions. I did get very emotional when Princess Diana died, because I felt quite attached to her and she died so young. When Michael Jackson died, I also got very emotional because he and his music were such a big part of my childhood, and he was perhaps my main pop idol during that time, and it felt almost like a part of me had died. I think the closest I came to crying was when Robin Williams died, because his work had been such a big part of my life and cultural enjoyment since childhood, and I just adored everything about the man, and it was such a shock to lose him. I still haven't completely gotten over his loss -it still feels so empty without him
mfk_1974@reddit
For me, it comes down to those times in life where things were so soul crushing that you couldn't imagine how you were going to come out on the other side. This often involved a breakup or a friendship that blew up. Whatever the situation was, music was often something that pulled me through. Later on in life, you look back at those moments, and they become moments of strength, because you did pull through and you did come out the other side. The music that you played back then often becomes the soundtrack of your life. So, the song that you played 643 times in a row now has a deeper meaning, and if the singer of that song passes away, it can often feel like an actual loss.
In the end, I think people often form connections with celebrities. Of course they are one sided, but even so, it can feel like an actual loss when that celebrity passes away.
Just my $0.02.
NebraskaCornSucker@reddit
I am not a crier. Certain things will make me tear up on occasion but celebrity death’s are not one of them.
Ianthin1@reddit
When you step back and look at the emotional connection many of us had to TV, movie and music, I think it's pretty normal for some people to be so upset about it. Many of us have a very, very deep connection not necessarily to the person, but to what they created. The impacts those things could have had on us at that point in our lives can be pretty profound.
A_wanderer_forlife@reddit
Friends, yes. I've lost a few now and it's heartbreaking.
Celebrities? No. They won't be crying over me, of that I'm certain.....