What's the most recent lesson you leanrt in life?
Posted by Puzzleheaded-Act3746@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 51 comments
I’ll go first: never wish someone a happy birthday when you’re in no contact.
CalligrapherExtreme8@reddit
Sometimes a friendly face and smooth talking does not equate to a person with your best interests at heart. Shortform: be careful who you trust.
Inevitable_Bid8719@reddit
Ive been struggling with talking to women in public, and made a mistake trying to learn tricks from a dude like this. He disgusts me
CalligrapherExtreme8@reddit
Good. You caught on early and didn't fall for his ways. Kudos, friend. And don't sweat it, you'll get there with the whole chatting to women thing.
DoveHopeDownwrdSlope@reddit
Story time OP.
I am no contact with many people and have learned to keep very firm boundaries
Ok-Personality-6630@reddit
Don't make jokes in some subs you will get banned.
No-Season-7353@reddit
Don't ask genuine questions unless prepared for a deluge of downvotes.
Bascule2000@reddit
Don't preface your trolling with 'genuine question', it's a total giveaway.
No-Season-7353@reddit
Why is it trolling for someone to ask genuine questions? It's true: you get downvoted for asking 'genuine questions '.
MrB_RDT@reddit
Two recent big ones.
Life can change in a single step. A fall and a head injury nearly killed me, and i was "lucky" to be left with the symptoms i now have.
You can find love again, at any given point. Some people can feel more familiar in months, than those you've known for years.
Enough-Moose-5816@reddit
Not most recent but worthwhile nonetheless.
Adults really can change themselves and their lives for the better. I got divorced from my former spouse about 20 years ago. She was an alcoholic and a drug addict. She basically gave up our family life for drugs and alcohol. She walked out and left me (their father) to raise our 2 and 4 year old so she could get wasted. She was in and out of jail several times and was basically headed to oblivion.
At some point she developed Crohn’s disease and had to stop all the destructive behaviors in order to survive. After she dried out and stopped the drugs she got into AA and NA and really turned things around. She took responsibility for her actions and worked so so so hard to do the right thing when she was really in a dark place.
All these years later she is still drink/drug free. She runs AA meetings a few days a week, has been gainfully employed at the same job for 10+ years, and she has a good relationship with our children.
She recently got remarried to a really nice guy and they are happy together.
I am so proud of her!!!
weatherwaxs_broom@reddit
Absolutely beautiful story and a great lesson.
kliccit@reddit
Wear a condom.
Glad_Feeling_4030@reddit
Recently, I've realised that I tend to anticipate bad things happening to me after something good happens. I always think, "Things are going too well for me right now, what's the catch?"
Sometimes, worrying too much about what might happen rather than just enjoying the time you have where you're actually happy will only make you feel worse.
Internal-Dark-6438@reddit
A job will get rid of you in a heartbeat. So don’t let it matter too much. And save a few months expenses if you can
JayR_97@reddit
Also don't think company loyalty will save you. Whether you've been there for 1 year or 10 they don't care
sennalvera@reddit
The past three years of my life have been a repeating exercise in getting smacked in the face about how I was wrong about nearly everything. The most recent revelation is that I'm only miserable because I choose to be. I'm not happy about this. I was enjoying wallowing in self-pity backpatting myself over how unfair it all is.
Sharp_Budget_4416@reddit
Never agree to help a mate move "just the heavy stuff" without seeing the flat first. Turns out everything in his life was the heavy stuff, including a chest freezer up four flights and a grandmother clock that would not fit in the van without folding the side mirrors in.
PotentialInfinite55@reddit
Sorting out your head is actually important 😅
Sure it's easier to avoid your issues and say "that's just how I am". Getting therapy is hard, can be painful and emotional, but it's so worth putting in the effort.
getoutmywayatonce@reddit
That there is a low level of depression that many may actually find subsides pretty fast with lifestyle changes and discipline. It may be unpopular to say, but I’ve done a lot better mentally in the last 3 months than I did in the last 3 years by actively breaking habits that feed into depressive episodes. I accept some behaviours are indeed a side effect of having your motivation zapped, but this doesn’t cancel out that those same behaviours can make things worse and fundamentally can’t go on forever.
It doesn’t negate the use of medicines and therapies which are still valuable, and it certainly won’t magically transform everyone’s lives as mental health is complex and so varied, but there’s definitely going to be others who realistically will feel a tangible improvement if they consciously break through the sort of slobby stage of lingering depression.
pip_goes_pop@reddit
Do you mind sharing the lifestyle changes you found helped the most?
RBXXIII@reddit
Life and death is one and the same. I've been on this journey before and I'll keep coming back until I realize what I am.
Puzzleheaded-Act3746@reddit (OP)
This life and "death" more precious than anything
yoloswaggins92@reddit
How to spell learnt
Puzzleheaded-Act3746@reddit (OP)
That's what happens when you open Reddit once you passed your bedtime!
cgknight1@reddit
That will learn you!
(Smacks OP around the head).
RBXXIII@reddit
Get turnt
TheClnl@reddit
New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings - Dogman/Lao Tzu
Few-Law7887@reddit
When a person is more happy, they act and communicate more efficiently . Hence, making other people less happy is less efficient for team work / any communication.
Complex-Piano-81@reddit
That you shouldn't go through amber lights, an amber light means stop, not just prepare to stop. Learnt that today on a 'What's Driving Us?' course.
IntelligentCitron917@reddit
Unless your speed and distance to the lights would be a danger to yourself and other drivers by braking suddenly.
Complex-Piano-81@reddit
You would think. Even then you're supposed to have anticipated and slowed down in advance in case they change.
-TheHumorousOne-@reddit
Yea, great way to annoy all the other drivers on the road while you slow down to 10mph at lights, to ensure you can stop in time if you see Amber....
0800happydude@reddit
Honestly there are still many active drivers who haven't learnt that yet.
Complex-Piano-81@reddit
No-one on the course today knew that, and when I told my dad later he was surprised to learn this too. I'm sure my driving instructor used to say it was fine to go through on amber. Everyday is a school day!
Proud-Stand-2841@reddit
That ANYTHING is possible (both good & bad).
trippykitsy@reddit
People will not give you the same benefit of the doubt and multiple chances that you give to them.
theyellowscriptures@reddit
Procrastination will cost you.
Aggravating_Pizza592@reddit
Most people will have no issue throwing you under the bus if it came down to it
Any-Tomato-2915@reddit
America sucks
Superb_Copy1644@reddit
Better the smile and learn to handle your partner’s small, daily foibles than try and correct them. Anyone that wants to be right all the time in a marriage will have a long divorce.
GreyFox_1337@reddit
This will also ensure you have the longest, most miserable experience of their life. And then eventually get a divorce.
Superb_Copy1644@reddit
You’re an odd person. Half of the time you claim to be a muslim man that’s self made, and was millionaire in his twenties, but often say you’re a woman when people commenting on feeds where that’s of relevant…… bizarre people on here.
Superb_Copy1644@reddit
To clarify a foible is “they never put the lid on the milk” or leaves her pants on the floor, “she spends her money every month of roulette and dried flowers” or “he always gets drunk and fucks strippers” that’s a character defect. Which side were you better on there?
GeggingIn@reddit
Don’t ignore weird noises coming from a a pipe.
There maybe jobby about to explode onto your patio.
bleach1969@reddit
Sometimes you’re up, sometimes you’re down. It all evens out in the end.
NatchezAndes@reddit
Sometimes you can be your own worst enemy. I am cognisant of my own self-sabotage, but seem incapable of changing the inevitable. How can I actively make these choices, knowing the outcome will be detrimental to me, yet feel no control over my ability to stop it? It makes no sense.
Astarymus@reddit
Don’t satisfy your curiosity about AI girlfriends when you’re already married.
Additional-Nobody352@reddit
Things usually work out ok in the end.
Odd_Bug_7029@reddit
You're never too old for change
Distinct-Lion4658@reddit
That believing in yourself can and will make a difference. Sometimes all the difference
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