Dating Apps | TheaterFire

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59apache01@reddit

I don't have any recommendations, but I just posted to wish you luck. I have a couple of buddies in their 40s and 50s who are single and they say all of the apps and sites suck.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

My hope is just to meet someone in the grocery store..

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bloomsday289@reddit

If you crack this code let me know, I cannot meet anyone organically in "life". Women do not want smiled at in the grocery store.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

I’ve always had good interactions with women in grocery stores

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Powermac8500@reddit

Step one: be attractive

Step two: don’t be unattractive

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Psychological_Tea674@reddit

Take a class, join a group on something that interests you. Enrich your life. Shopping for a person online may work for a few but for me it was a total disaster each time as well as for my friend.

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Queer_Taina@reddit

If you only knew, when I met my wife, I was on different hiking and kayaking groups. I would hang out, I was out there in the wild yet I met her on Tinder so... ya never know

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Psychological_Tea674@reddit

Happy for you. I won't talk about what happened to me here but it's not for me.

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This is true. The apps are terrible, most of the profiles are fake or inactive or flooded. The apps themselves are predatory. They take a lot of work to make the slightest connection, and then thats usually a girl that wants you to buy them dinner...

HOWEVER, Im WFH and because of the apps I've also not been single really since I became single. If you use it, try to make a good profile and then just hang out and let the girls pick you - thats the success ive had.

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59apache01@reddit

Not sure how accurate it is, but I read an article a while back that said about 90% of the women on dating apps who contact guys first almost always reach out to the same 10% of guys on the app. If there's anything to that, the average guy's odds aren't that great.

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Freddiepuppy@reddit

I find men will chat with me for several days but back out when it's time to meet.

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mjh8212@reddit

Been with my husband 6 years we met on an app. I had seriously given up on apps but boredom got me and I saw his message and we chatted met and it just went from there.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

Mind me asking which app?

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mjh8212@reddit

Plenty of fish

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EdditorXX@reddit

Met my wife on POF as well. We’re in the middle of a divorce after 10 years married

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ButterscotchAware402@reddit

I met my husband on Tinder 6 years ago¯_(ツ)_/¯

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More_Bluejay9938@reddit

My current living situation (roommate, shared expenses) is a guy I met on Tinder like maybe 6 years ago. Our relationship has morphed a ton over the past few years.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

I was just making a tinder account, all my pictures are with my EX making it weird

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Queer_Taina@reddit

Swipe left and keep going. You're gonna probably see people there you DON'T wanna see like co-workers, friends or even family, make sure you swipe LEFT. Had a few right swipe accidents

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AndrewInMN@reddit

Don’t listen to the people telling you not to do it at all. Do it and see how it goes for you. Not everyone is successful on the apps, but some are. How you approach it is key.

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Queer_Taina@reddit

4 year #Tindersuccessstory

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TheGillos@reddit

No apps. Meet IRL.

Be introduced by friends/family/co workers.

Join clubs, classes, and whatever else.

Go to bars even... karaoke, anything. Trivia nights. Come on. Apps are dogshit.

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Queer_Taina@reddit

Well... after several years on and off I would use them to talk to people if I was bored. I went on a few dates, had some fun while not really believing this could bring a real relationship. The last app I tried thinking of more casual encounters was Tinder... lo and behold I met my now wife. No pressure, no expectations, using current all body pics cause I'm not skinny, as natural as possible, happily married with my only Tinder date 4 years later! So if you're patient, willing to have some fun, no pressure, maybe kiss a few frogs on the way, it is very possible you meet nice people to date or heck, marry. Good luck OP!

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ttttunos@reddit

I've been popping onto dating apps once or twice a year since my last relationship ended 4 years ago.

Every time I go back, it's the same people with the same old photos.

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Vintagemuse@reddit

I do Facebook dating. I'm 43/f Cincinnati

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Ok-Criticism6874@reddit

They only suck if you have the personality of a kumquat. If you're hobbies are the gym/traveling/etc. You won't meet anyone. If you have a high post count on reddit and look for advise here, you won't meet anyone.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

Who pissed in your cereal

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Ok-Criticism6874@reddit

Just saying reddit isn't a place to ask this, they aren't exactly normal people.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

I don’t necessary like normal

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AndrewInMN@reddit

They worded it a bit harsh, but pretty much every time I see the subject of dating apps come up on Reddit the comments are overwhelmingly negative. It is possible to have success dating on those apps, but not everyone is successful. So you get the people that haven’t had success telling you not to do it because if it didn’t work for them then it won’t work for anyone.

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AndrewInMN@reddit

I met my girlfriend on Facebook dating. We’ve been together since September, so it’s still early, but it’s been going really, really good. I’ve had some success on the other major apps, but it’s really in how you approach it and how you set up your profile to present yourself. 10 out of 10 times I’m swiping left on someone with one picture and almost nothing in their bio. Though with the way those apps tend to work I’d often get some matches in the first day or two and then nothing after that, even if I paid for a subscription.

Some people have zero success so they’ll tell you to avoid the apps like the plague. I wouldn’t know how to meet someone if it weren’t for their apps.

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SlayerAlexxx@reddit

Terrible. But it’s terrible for everyone. In person is making a comeback. I like grocery stores.

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caramelpupcorn@reddit

I found my lovely slightly older xennial boyfriend on OkCupid a little over two years ago. All of the apps are kinda meh and you won't mesh with probably 99% of the people on any of them, but I've had my best success on OkC. I'm more introverted and so is my partner. It gives you more space to write and is less of that feeling where you need to make a quick yes/no judgement on two sentences and a photo.

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IceSmiley@reddit

Use Instagram and find people around your age in your area, that's what I do

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

This is sadly the only social media I have so I will look into it

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Kain347@reddit

Mini-rant:

Online dating is in late-stage capitalism, just like everything else in the world. You literally have to pay to see who likes you, and it's mostly bots. Dating sites like PoF and okcupid were free to use back when the internet was mainly home computer based, before smartphones took over. Just meet people in the real world. Rant over lol

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Psychological_Tea674@reddit

No. Can’t recommend.

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epidemicsaints@reddit

I'm gay and have done nothing but online dating since 1997...

All I gotta say is work from a list of WANTS and positives. Not a list of dealbreakers.

Don't dwell on behaviors that bother you and spiral into negativity. Just keep moving. (By behaviors I mean what people say on their profiles.)

Don't create a habit of doom scrolling the app. I only go on when I am in the mood to be curious. Not when I am sleeping in and grumpy.

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GarciaWolf@reddit (OP)

This is exactly what I was expecting.. lol