Have you reached the, "I'm too old for this shit" era of your life.

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itgoesineasy@reddit

I’m totally there. For the first time I have “co-workers”, not friends I work with. I love my job but I simply tolerate most everyone I work with.

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I get work is just a job and you’re not there to hang with, or make buddies. But there is also an element to working that requires at last minimum basic pleasantries and courtesy towards coworkers. You don’t have to be friends per se, but you do need to friendly.

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WenYiMedia@reddit

To move ahead, you need to be friendly and respectful to your coworkers cause you may need their assistance and support one day. But if you’re just coasting waiting to retire…..the circumstances are most certainly different. But I’m with OP, the case of the grumps are getting more and more frequent. 50 years old and have no need to socialize but a need to communicate with my coworkers to perform effectively. You get burned by people enough, be disappointed at life, at past relationships, and maybe a divorce or two and it’ll wear your ass out quick. X’ers really still have that “fuck this shit, and fuck you, and fuck you” mentality. It was instilled in our culture.

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MissDisplaced@reddit

Are the coworkers being assholes or something?

I and friendly and pleasant but have little tolerance if people are being assholes for no reason.

I worked at a place once where the people were all very oddly intrusive and prying about personal shit. Like, constantly asking me why I didn’t have kids, them making my “just didn’t want kids” into a whole THING that I hated all kids. Truly bizarre

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Impossible_Balance11@reddit

Yup. Pushing sixty, out of fucks to give. I've cut off more than one actual family member over their extremely shitty and chronically toxic behavior--will 100% end contact with anyone else who displays same. (Yes, I make MANY attempts at communicating the issues, asking for change, warning of consequences beforehand--probably far more than I should--so don't @ me. I'm not heartless. But once my overall peace and mental health are threatened, I'm out.)

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NekoTheSpookieCat@reddit

Oh yeah, zero fks given

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jcmacon@reddit

I just put in my 2 week notice because I'm too old to deal with their shit.

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Zestyclose_Media_548@reddit

We were doing stupid activities for health and wellness today. At one point we had to talk about our ideal vacation and I said somewhere tropical because I want to be on the beach. They said who would go and I said just me. And then I realized I meant it. I just want to do what I want to do when I want to do it. I want to eat when I want and not discuss it. I want to not consult ANYONE about anything. This is a big change for me. I am 50. I wonder if I will enjoy other people more at some point.

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zeajsbb@reddit

I wonder this too. I hope I go back to enjoying people one day.

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basscat474@reddit

Nope, you have come to realize that people suck.

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aduirne@reddit

My best vacation was 3 weeks in Scotland alone.

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Zestyclose_Media_548@reddit

That sounds amazing ! Good for you .

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AngstyAF5020@reddit

Yes! 1000 percent DO NOT CARE!

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evilpercy@reddit

Yup, at work. I do not need to learn new systems that are not user-friendly.

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Majik_Sheff@reddit

You jumped straight over indifference into hostility.

You can probably get back to a detente if you don't let it fester but if you keep causing friction you're not going to be paid much longer.

Carrying that kind of anger isn't good for you or anyone around you.

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marugirl@reddit

Get off, there was nothing hostile in what op said ffs. Everybody gets so damn butthurt at nothing these days.

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Majik_Sheff@reddit

Maybe not by our standards, but younger generations tolerate disrespect the way we tolerate idiots.

OP needs to understand their audience or they are going to continue to have a bad time.

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Pooz87@reddit

OP was just straight-up unnecessarily rude. They went out of their way to say something mean to colleagues. You think OP’s colleagues want to be at work, dealing with that shit? It’s one thing if you dgaf about stuff in your life that you don’t want to do anymore (have at it), but it’s bullshit to use that as an excuse to be a jerk to people.

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NaDarach@reddit

For real.

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TheLastClubKid@reddit

Read! Yes! I agree with your sentiments here and I don’t think it’s just because of age. I have never wanted to be around people that I didn’t really care to be around and I don’t really subscribe to the fake mentality so kudos to you for being real.

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TheShortWhiteGuy@reddit

Yeah. EVERY. SINGLE. RUN.

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hahamtfkr@reddit

Yep. I just work with you people.

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denzien@reddit

Not really. Not work my coworkers, anyway. I spend more waking hours around them than I do with my family.

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Quirky_Operation2885@reddit

Several years ago, I got called into the office [again].

Production supervisor looked me dead in the eye and said, "People don't like you."

"I really don't care."

She looked at me strangely, and asked what I meant.

"I don't come to work to make friends. If it happens, great. If not, I'm not going to sweat it. Has there ever been a question about the quality of my work?"

"No."

"I think we're done here."

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SnoozuRN@reddit

Yes, and I love the not giving a shit era.

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ImTheGoldfish@reddit

Kinda? Told my hubs today that most doctors look like children now, but I know they're grown ass adults. Feels weird.

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thingsgoingup@reddit

It’s a strange phenomenon isn’t it. I feel the same way when i watch newsreaders on TV…..they look like little kids who are in over their heads.

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56KandFalling@reddit

So much this, fumbling and stumbling, it's painful to witness...

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Ginger630@reddit

Absolutely! I don’t want to deal with people’s drama.

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Lthrr9@reddit

Yep! Quit my job of fifteen years a while back. Done with putting up with bullshit.

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Timely-Youth-9074@reddit

At age 16-I had enough of adults’ bullshit.

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Elderberries1974@reddit

Yep just this week

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txgax@reddit

💯…the auto immune $hit started last year and that was it. I’m too old for all this $hit.

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FluxusFlotsam@reddit

“Climate and culture” are very Millennial and later concepts.

I want to be clear- toxic work environments are terrible and should be dismantled.

But this “I need to be friends with my co-workers” is also incredibly toxic. These aren’t my friends. These are people I complete projects and tasks with for pay.

I’ll go you one further- “my friends are at work” is an exploitive capitalistic concept to keep you working longer hours and psychologically focused on work 24/7.

Fuck that- it’s beer o’clock on a Friday afternoon and I’m going with my real friends. See you assholes on Monday.

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heretik@reddit

Not just friends.

At EvilCorps, we are FAMILY.

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FluxusFlotsam@reddit

we are a generation that read a whole lotta Bukowski as theory and praxis

do they really think that shit works on us?

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epicpillowcase@reddit

An alcoholic edgelord who was abusive towards women is hardly a role model. Even if he was a good writer.

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FluxusFlotsam@reddit

I was more referencing the “take this job and shove it” aspect of his writing

no disagreement he was an abusive asshole and certainly not a hero

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LondonIsMyHeart@reddit

Very much agree. "Friends" is a different word from "co-workers" for a reason.

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WorriedCrow2464@reddit

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Bitter-Juggernaut681@reddit

Yeah. Anything after 9pm

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ninde_inglorion@reddit

You party animal. My life stops at 6:00

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MishmoshMishmosh@reddit

When can I put my pajamas on is a daily question 🤣🤣

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goingloopy@reddit

I remove the outside clothes when I get home, but the asshole cats want their snack first.

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hoseb4brose@reddit

Absolutely fucking too old for this shit. I am female bodied and it happened when I hit the change of life.

EGGS = FUCKS and I’m all out!

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goingloopy@reddit

Turning 40 flipped my “give a fuck” switch to off. Turning 50 disabled the switch completely.

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gettinby000@reddit

Same

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WorriedCrow2464@reddit

YES- I have reached that point in my life ! … lol 😂

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sb8972@reddit

I’m shocked at the shit come out of my mouth now, I have no filter for bullshit. Now that I’m older, people acting dumb just makes me so mad that I have to say something. And not in a nice way.

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goingloopy@reddit

Yeah, as I’ve gotten older, my filter has degraded. It was not very functional in the first place, but now it’s almost gone. I try not to be rude, but if someone gives me attitude, I’ll give it back.

Luckily my boss and the other 2 people in the office have a similar lack of filter.

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Pavementaled@reddit

No. And I hope I never do. What a nightmare it must be to work with you. And they say Gen Z is difficult...

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Consistent-Dog8537@reddit

Yep. Sort of. Not upset with work colleagues though. No issues there. But just life in general. I don't tolerate nonsense and bullshit anymore.

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Innerrested@reddit

Am I missing something? Since when does getting older make it ok to be rude to others?

What was the context for that statement? With no context what OP said to coworkers seems anti-social and hostile. Why treat people that way?

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Individual-Food9757@reddit

Because anyone that does not respect boundaries why .

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Economy_Row_6614@reddit

It depends on the shit.

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diente_de_leon@reddit

That's my answer!

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Wrong_Staff_6148@reddit

I been there since my twenties lol

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GrandMoffJerjerrod@reddit

Yes. And about ten years ago is when I hit this part of my life.

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Automatic_Gas9019@reddit

Yes

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Allmyexesliveintx333@reddit

Yes

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daemonhat@reddit

yes. yes i have. as far as your situation goes, i've always been like that in a way. i say hello and goodbye to everyone by name every day if i see them. we talk and joke, and all the other stuff people at work do. but that's where it ends. unless it's a random thing like seeing someone at the store or whatever, there is no interaction outside work. i do not talk about work outside of work to anyone. and if you get together with people from work outside of work you are going to talk about work. i refuse to be a part of it. work stays at work. there are no exceptions, ever.

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battlesong1972@reddit

No, and I hope I never do

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stephaniestar11@reddit

Yes. It’s just enough already. Lol

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Enough_Talk_6328@reddit

Been saying this a lot lately.

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Visual-Pineapple5636@reddit

I’m too old to hold a grudge anymore. At least for the small stuff. It takes a lot of mental work to be mad at someone…I just let them go and consider them one less person on my contact list.

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SpokeAndMinnows@reddit

Yes. Asked coworker if she just clocks in and sits in her car. She got offended-don’t know what the fuck for. I don’t even care anymore.

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Ckc1972@reddit

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Trolkarlen@reddit

He was 41 at the time.

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thasparzan@reddit

Ouch

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RoamingGnome74@reddit

Yeah I don’t do the work social events.

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DarthTexasRN@reddit

Same here. I hate those fucking things.

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RoamingGnome74@reddit

This weekend they’re giving all employees free tickets to our minor league team game including free hot dogs and drinks. I’d love to go to a free game but I’d have to sit with my coworkers and their annoying kids.

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RedBirdOnASnowyDay@reddit

OMG yes. I don't go to work to do anything other than earn money to pay my bills. I barely like most of my own family. Certainly not that lady sitting on the other side of the cubicle.

I just generally do not GAF. I am working hard to liberate the remaining f*cks I've got to give.

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NegativeBonus699@reddit

I'm in the don't give a fuck era.

It's liberating.

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mcchillz@reddit

Keeping my head down for 33 more days, then early retirement. I. Can’t. Wait.

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DarePitiful5750@reddit

What's the 33 day mark? Is that because of years of service or what?

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mcchillz@reddit

end of contract 🎉

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gettinby000@reddit

I have no fucks left to give in the workplace. 100% there with you.

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MrChristopher23@reddit

I genuinely like several of the people I work with. We have gone to dinner. One helped fix my brakes. I watch another’s cat when he goes out of town. I’m a bit of a cantankerous fuck, but I’m fun. Also I’m double most of their ages.

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lasorciereviolette@reddit

I've been firmly in the I Don't Give A Fuck era of my life since I turned 50, but I'm not "too old" for anything.

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DealNo3840@reddit

I am always respectful and nice, but I no longer care what others think of me and I’m no longer just a people pleaser. If people don’t like me, that is their loss. I don’t have time in my life to worry about other’s opinions

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lando-hockey@reddit

Ah! You mean you’re now effective at work. Well played!

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Aromatic_Garbage_390@reddit

Reached that stage of my life about 20yrs ago when I was 36

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Personal_Gur855@reddit

Not at all

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Noisechild@reddit

Competitive consciousness went bye bye shortly after grad school. Put that shit down after deleting social media and no longer need meds. Take that “way of the world”! I was a late grad school goer.

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williammunnyjr@reddit

Hahahaha. I’m there.

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Imcluelesstoday@reddit

58 here, nah. Not there. And hope not too get there. But I am looking forward to retirement.

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janlep@reddit

59 and same. I hope I never get that mean. I don’t need to be paid to be kind.

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jimflaigle@reddit

I was always grouchy, now I'm old and grouchy, and I work for the US government. I have moved past too old for this shit and reached fuck everything nirvana.

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Future_History_9434@reddit

Ah, yes! The unofficial government motto: Just because it’s stupid, doesn’t mean we don’t have to do it.

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eat_more_vegies@reddit

100% there!✋️

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EX1500@reddit

I totally get where you’re coming from. I’ve been in the same office for over 15 years. I love my team, but the overall entity? No real feelings.

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Barcelona_McKay@reddit

I'm not that blunt about it, but yes. I got things to do, and if talking to you isn't on that list, I am looking for the exit.

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toooldforthisshittt@reddit

Beetlejuice

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Nancy2112@reddit

Yes I’ve reached it. Fully living in this era! 🤣

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Ok-Till-5285@reddit

Love my coworkers, I love and respect people one a one to one basis, but collectively? Society sucks and I can so without the whole lot of them!

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kstweetersgirl2013@reddit

I tell people daily "Im here to make money, not friends. Got all of those I need, thanks.

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Zyhara@reddit

I’m still pleasant at work but I have told numerous people “ I hate a lot of the people I work with, but I’ll never let any of you know who” 👀😉

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MrRetrdO@reddit

YEP!

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surfinbird@reddit

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tez_zer55@reddit

Oh Yeah... Years ago! A lot of years ago!

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Slow-Amphibian-2909@reddit

In a word yes

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crankypickle@reddit

I have just under three years to go. Joy! But I am still (mostly) warm and pleasant at work. I mean, I do only interact with some of them because I have to. But I actually also have friends at work.

Plus I have some younger ones that I mentor — and that feels worthwhile. But did I mention — just under three years to go 😉!

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Amateur_TimeTraveler@reddit

OH HELL YES I HAVE

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Life-Ocelot9439@reddit

Here endeth the sermon. Amen.

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nygenxmom@reddit

Sure have. It’s fantastic.

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Reynardine1976@reddit

Absolutely, and I deliver it like Danny Glover in Lethal Weapon to boot!!!

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QuarterBore@reddit

And Glover was only 40 when he said that.

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LonelyMachines@reddit

I told some people I work with that I ONLY interact with them because I'm paid to

I've said exactly that. I have work, and I have a life. Keeping those separate keeps me sane.

It helps that I'm in an industry where I don't have to pretend to be loyal to the company or the boss. Pay me fairly and treat me well, and I'll stick around. If that changes, there's plenty of green grass elsewhere.

That's not to say I don't have friends at work, but I don't HAVE to have friends at work.

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ThatGuyInThePlace@reddit

Yesterday, as a matter of fact.

I still kept going though, because I ain’t no quitter.

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Jagged_Rhythm@reddit

I have, but I'm still pretty good at faking it. I try to come across as pleasant as possible, but it's becoming more of a challenge to mask the suppressed cynicism, disgust, and disappointment I feel toward everything in general.

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4thdegreeknight@reddit

I've been working almost full time my entire life since I was 14. I don't know if I can make it to retirement I have about 10 years left to go.

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pquince1@reddit

Oh yes. Loved that morning when I woke up and started looking for my fucks and simply could not find them.

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Bug_Calm@reddit

I've been there since i was 28 years old

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BertaRocks@reddit

I’m realizing how lucky I am that my whole department is Gen X.

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suburbanplankton@reddit

My department is half Gen-X and half Millennial.

I try to set a proper example for the young'uns.

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marugirl@reddit

Lol my whole department is me so I'm good

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Tacos_N_Bourbon@reddit

Same here

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Frosteecat@reddit

I’m just arriving and feel like I’m way behind the curve lol.

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JiveTurkeyII@reddit

I am friendly at my job. I try to be likeable.

But don't ever confide. Dont ever give your opinion of Jessica over in QA or Steve in Maintenance. Dont gossip. Dont make after work friends with any of these people.

Be likeable, don't be friendly.

Why be likeable?

Because studies have shown its more important that people like you at your job than you actually be good at it.

Do I really care? No. I dont like Baseball. My Boss likes Baseball so I keep up with Baseball highlights. I like gaming - But I don't give a shit for Fortnight but my bosses assistants adult kid, likes fortnight. So I know enough about it to have a conversation.

I do this with most important people at my job.

Am I kissing ass?

Yes. Yes I am.

I am playing the game and I am treated well, paid well and relatively certain my job is more secure than the guy that says "I'm not here to make friends, I'm here to work"

I mean - I feel the exact same way. I just donlt let people ever - and I mean, ever - See the chip on my shoulder.

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suburbanplankton@reddit

Whenever anyone asks me about my job, I tell them, "We've got a great thing going; I show up to work every day, and they keep on paying me."

I expect nothing more from them, and so far, they haven't let me down.

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marugirl@reddit

Yeah I'm not going through life pretending, or kissing ass, n order to make someone else feel better. My boss is into hunting and I couldn't give a fuck about it and they don't care that I don't like it.

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NaDarach@reddit

Hey... would you happen to have a link to one (or more) of those studies? I know someone who really needs to see some evidence-based data on that before they lose their damn job.

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Brilliant-Onion2129@reddit

All the time!

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ER_Support_Plant17@reddit

Didn’t we all get to that point around 6th grade

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Knowitsome3000@reddit

Gen X here - your stance initially and without knowing very much else reminds me of a character that I really appreciate in a book series and also from a show on HBO, Olive Kittredge, written by Elizabeth Strout.

You do you, and enjoy, or perhaps don't. Whatevers clever.

As for me I don't think I'll ever enter that era, though I have pulled way back on constantly laughing or placating people when my heart or moral compass isn't in agreement. I don't debate them but I don't entertain them either. That's my version of I'm too old for this shit.

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Independent-Crab-914@reddit

Said it literally a half hour ago.

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Greedy_Blueberry420@reddit

Every day I bus to work. Climbing up into the bus, and trying to get off without my knees giving out.

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undeniably_micki@reddit

Yep. Quite a while now.

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PeterPunksNip@reddit

Depends for what. Definitely for people's gossip, hassling to be productive or "keeping up with the Jones".

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Worldly-Suspect-6681@reddit

I don’t mind a bit of office gossip…

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sweet_ned_kromosome@reddit

After dad died in 2017 I promptly transitioned to a complete unwillingness to be miserable and very little tolerance for nonsense. I don't know if I'll ever go back.

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TrainingLow9079@reddit

Opposite. The older I get the more I don't see why people would waste 40 hours of their life acting like it isn't their life.

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PeterPunksNip@reddit

Because it isn't. Life begins after obligatory work.

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MaximusHomerdrive@reddit

I reached that stage of life at 30. I dgaf what anyone thinks about anything. It's really freeing.

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TimeKeeper70@reddit

Yep. As soon as I turned 50. I’m sure it was a coincidence though. My mom died 2 months before my 50th birthday so I think that’s when it started for me.

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GoslingIchi@reddit

Years ago.

Maybe even two decades ago.

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SirenaSmiles@reddit

Yep! 🙋‍♀️ I just reached that era a few months ago. It is liberating to be honest.

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Outrageous_Plum5348@reddit

YES. The performative relationships and interactions are a non-starter. I'm being my introvert self and if you don't like it, kick rocks.

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strange-lady78@reddit

Bro, I’ve BEEN THERE.

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ClockSpiritual6596@reddit

I reached that stage in my 20

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simonbreak@reddit

Christ I hope I never turn into the people on this thread, what an absolute symphony of curmudgeons

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Alternative_Sock_608@reddit

In agreement

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bikeg33k@reddit

Depends on the situation

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eyecandynsx@reddit

That’s just flat out being an asshole.

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HenryLoggins@reddit

OP set the correct expectations by being direct and honest.

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churchofsanta@reddit

Well, more context is needed. If he was just randomly walking up to coworkers unprompted and telling them he only hangs out with them because he's paid to... that's kinda assholey.

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HenryLoggins@reddit

Agreed but think about this rationally, it makes no sense for someone to do that, in the context in your example. Let’s see if OP chimes in for clarification.

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Quintipluar@reddit

I think it's much worse to say you care about someone when you don't. But I also think there are more tactful ways to get the message across, e.g. "I'm flattered by your sentiment of kinship but I don't have the capacity to manage another friend circle"

Having said that, I think going to HR because an employee was being a little abrasive is kindergarten-level retaliatory behavior. If it's a pattern that's one thing, but if it's a one-off comment then leave it alone. And hey at least you know where that coworker stands now.

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churchofsanta@reddit

Sure, and I totally relate to OP, I hate that pseudo- friend banter with people I'm not interested in, even in my personal life.

Personally though, I find it leads to less hassle for me if I just ignore them, they leave me alone in turn. They don't think I'm an asshole, they just think I'm an introvert or shy or whatever.

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AngryK9_@reddit

The only thing I am too old for are the childish high school games that some of my co-workers like to play. I don't go to work to make friends. I go to work to make money. I have to be around those people 40+ hours a week. I don't want to be around them outside of those 40+ hours. My only relationship with them is work related and I don't want to drag that stuff around during what little free time I actually get. I know there are several there that don't really like me. I don't care. Their opinions have no bearing whatsoever on my level of success or failure and I have too much responsibility in my role to waste any energy worrying about what people think about me. I do my job and get it done and go home. If someone is offended because I don't want to socialize, heck 'em!

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Boop-D-Boop@reddit

Yes. I had to tell a guy yesterday to please not ever come up and interrupt me and a customer again. He’s a boomer and he literally walked up to us and started to tell her what to do, and he was wrong and has only worked here a year.

I don’t know why he did that and I was just so low key upset the rest of the day. It was just like what are you doing? I didn’t say that but I wanted to.

The lady got more confused and I just had to tell her to ignore what he said he didn’t know which he didn’t. We got things sorted and she just needed to talk to her bank but gosh did that piss me off.

Mostly because I didn’t really want to have to go back to him and confront him about it because I don’t like doing that but I also knew it had to be done because this guy might do it again.

I know that he’s just not a smart guy because I missed work one day and the next day he asked me if I had my hip replacement surgery on the day I was off and then I was back the next day! I don’t know how someone gets to that age to not know that a hip replacement surgery is much more serious than getting it and returning to work the next day!

I just had to vent on that because I hadn’t talked about it with anybody

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ExpatriateAnthem@reddit

Boomers, the absent and yet incredibly annoying when present parent, non family members I have very little patience with from their generation. I can see why my grsndparwnts (silent gen) were so frustrated with their vhildren but absolutely adored their grandkids.

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bigkat5000@reddit

That was unprofessional as fuck. You would have been fired at my company.

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hkusp45css@reddit

We wouldn't fire someone for that. But, I would sit them down and discuss "soft skills" a bit and then I'd have them sign a document saying we chatted about it.

What kind of loser can't get along with strangers well enough to not personally offend them?

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imagine966@reddit

The kind of loser who's spent 30 years leading others, and every time they encounter a subordinate that refuses to do their job they are forced to go through an endless HR loop of tiresome paperwork that goes nowhere.

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hkusp45css@reddit

Which is it? Are you a leader or is HR making the management of your subordinates difficult?

Leaders don't usually clash with HR or resent rational policy.

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imagine966@reddit

HR has convoluted the process of employee management making the effort not worth it.

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hkusp45css@reddit

Maybe try leading them instead of managing them?

I've been in leadership in multi-national corporations for over 20 years. I have never had an issue with an employee that HR wouldn't let me solve.

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imagine966@reddit

I am happy for you. I too have been a highly effective “leader” and my track record speaks for itself. Lately however, HR has become more of a hurdle to overcome, rather than an ally in developing team members.

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hkusp45css@reddit

And you're just certain the problem is the other side of the equation? Nothing about the way you're handling, obviously.

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imagine966@reddit

100%

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hkusp45css@reddit

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daphatty@reddit

That's right. Tell them that they are the problem. It has nothing to do with the shortcomings of a company. They are the problem.

You definitely sound like a leader of 30 years.

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hkusp45css@reddit

You see the question mark at the end of that sentence? That denotes an interrogative statement, not an observation.

Read a fucking book.

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daphatty@reddit

lol. You came to the internet looking for problems and get in your feelings when called out for doing so.

Yea, you’re a great leader of humans. 🙄

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AsiasDaddy@reddit

Eat a bag of cocks

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GenX-ModTeam@reddit

Poor Behavior - No antagonism, trolling, rage farming, flame wars, juvenility, or any other overly cantankerous commentary and/or behavior will be tolerated.

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Chiccheshirechick@reddit

Very much so !

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mtcrick@reddit

Heck ya....I felt like that when I hit 45...I'm an older GenX, '68. I retire at the end of next year and have zero fucks left to give with whiny colleagues.

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wire67@reddit

I have but I do enjoy most of my team. And I would never say that to them. I see people at work who say things like this and they look miserable and feel toxic. If you're that bitter, maybe retire?

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GroundbreakingRip970@reddit

I have reached the age where I have officially run out of fucks. I don’t expect them to be replenished any time soon

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PersonInDenver@reddit

Been there. Don't want or need work friends. Pay for my time. That's our relationship.

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unsafe357@reddit

I've reached it to a fault. I was fortunate enough to be able to retire about 4 years ago at age 42. I simply can't be bothered to give a shit anymore, about anything.

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PrincessGiantFeet@reddit

Congratulations. This is also my dream, but I basically spent my 20's getting high and having sex. Didn't get a fulltime long-term job until I was like 35. So I'll probably be working until I'm dead.

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RHCP1031@reddit

Totally. I’m a 46-year-old woman in perimenopause. Get out of my fucking wayyyyyy. I don’t care anymore who gets offended, I say what I need to say, my boundaries are steel now. I think as we age we just stop giving fucks and focus in on what really matters. The whole “my feelings are hurt” became a thing thanks to Hiden and co., but Mr. President said fuck off, grow a pair and suck it up.

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GenX-ModTeam@reddit

No Politics - Political posts or comments of any sort are not permitted. If you wish to have political discussions, you may do so on our other sub r/GenXPolitics.

Breaking this rule may result in bans, either temporary or permanent.

Before you make the claim: No, providing respite from political discussions does not infringe on your rights.

Also, this politics ban was put before the sub over a year ago, and members have spoken.

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CreativeHandle9429@reddit

100%

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jbenze@reddit

I hit that in my early 20's.

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alyssd@reddit

Oh I’ve been in this era for a while now.

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Fast_Green_6731@reddit

I used to work at a 24/7 type of place and gladly volunteered to work every company party.

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throwaway5882300@reddit

I don't care about most of the people I work with but I'm also just polite to my coworkers because it's free and it makes it easier to work with them. Crazy, right?

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Next-Drummer-9280@reddit

Too old for bullshit? Yeah.

Too old to be POLITE to people? No.

You just sound like a jackass.

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errie_tholluxe@reddit

Yeah. I've been too old for bullshit since I was 24.

I've never been too old to be polite

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MandyPandaren@reddit

I completely agree. There is so much division and isolation in this world. Making friendship connections with others is almost impossible for many. Be kind to your fellow humans.

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jolly_bien-@reddit

This post reminded me of someone in my family and I am getting ready to let person know that I am too old to take their shit attitude problem anymore.

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epicpillowcase@reddit

Perfectly said.

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d-jake@reddit

Got stage 4 colon cancer two and a half years ago. Was out for almost year and a half. I'm a nurse working at a hospital. Everyone knows me. ONE nurse kept texting me to inquire how I was doing and encourage me. Needless to say I am no longer nice guy since I came back. I'm not angry. It's just my eyes were opened.

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DragonflySmall6867@reddit

That sucks. I'm so sorry. I hope you're feeling better physically.

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Plantron1@reddit

Danny Glover was only 41 when that movie came out. 🥲

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DragonflySmall6867@reddit

There with my job right now. I'm committed to finish out the year, but in 2027, I am GONE. Going fully remote where I will only have to deal with a bare minimum of people.

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Either_Mirror_6536@reddit

I had a coworker ask if we could stop being at war, I told her,"Why would I do that,it makes the day go by faster...."

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epicpillowcase@reddit

So someone showed some vulnerability because the dynamic was causing her stress, and you decided to continue antagonising her for fun?

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MissT_is_here@reddit

My co worker bullies me daily with sarcasm, passive aggressiveness, exclusion, micro sabotage, the list goes on. It upsets me terribly but nevertheless I keep on being friendly, etc. So, yes, why do people enjoy random bullying and conflict? I go to work with knots in my stomach, surely you can't be happy doing this or maybe I should just grow a spine, I don't know.

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epicpillowcase@reddit

I'm sorry that happens. Have you told your supervisor or HR? I won't be so harsh as to say "you need to grow a spine" but for all intents and purposes, yeah, you should be doing what you can to stop it.

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MissT_is_here@reddit

We work at a school so there is only the principal. She has been there for nearly 2 decades and I've been there for 6 months. I just can't get my head around the randomness of it, why is she doing this?? Sucks to be an empath as well, I'm wracking my brain trying to find an excuse for her.

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epicpillowcase@reddit

I say this gently- "empaths" aren't a thing. That's a fluffy pop psychology term for a manifestation of trauma hypervigilance, and people who tell themselves they're empaths don't push back enough on their internal conditioning that they're responsible for other people's feelings. Essentially- being empathetic is not the same as being a doormat and the "empath" framing allows that to go unchecked.

And this person doesn't need or deserve your understanding. Talk to the principal. It doesn't matter how long the colleague has been there.

It sounds like she's just threatened by you. That's usually the reason.

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MissT_is_here@reddit

Thank you for this, I was a typical Gen X kid, terribly emotionally neglected and I think this is why I have rejection issues, it makes me feel unsafe and abandoned. I do agree that "empath" is an overused term for a much deeper psychological issue so maybe I interpret her behavior as hostile where other posters on this sub would probably ignore it or laugh it off. I need to work on myself here, not be bobbing about emotionally about someone else's rudeness. It's just sad that I still struggle with this at my age, I wish I didn't care but unfortunately I do 😟

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epicpillowcase@reddit

No problem. It's an understandable reaction.

And no, you definitely shouldn't ignore it or laugh it off. It's troubling that you're interpreting my comment in a way that still essentially blames yourself. That programming sounds very ingrained.

It's very human and normal to be find someone being hostile upsetting. It's not weakness. You don't have to "toughen up" in terms of just "taking it." If there's any "toughening" that needs to happen, it's in learning assertion.

If you haven't seen a therapist, it's maybe something to look into.

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MissT_is_here@reddit

Thank you so much for taking your time to give me advice, you are 100% correct, I will come back to this whenever I feel "weak" and try to be more assertive. I really appreciate your insights 🌸

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epicpillowcase@reddit

You're most welcome, I'm glad it helped. I hope your situation improves. :)

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RetroBerner@reddit

I was born too old for this shit

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SickandTiredofStupid@reddit

This.

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papachon@reddit

lol, you have to update us on how it goes. I’ve told countless people “im only here to get paid”

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No_Lake_9759@reddit

Yes

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LaVida2@reddit

Yeah, at 25 or so I found no one gives a F, so I don’t give a F either (and why did Cardi Bs song come into my head when I typed that?!). That was also around the same time I decided that I was never having kids.

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lucid_intent@reddit

This is why I no longer date or seek a relationship.

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denvergardener@reddit

Maybe I was ahead of my time but I reached that stage in my 20s.

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Helpful-Drag6084@reddit

Late teens lol

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Sparkvector@reddit

Saaaame

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danjr704@reddit

I've been working at the same company for almost 25 years now (im 43 now) and i've only spent time with my co-workers maybe 3 times after, and 2 of them were for company related functions.

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Legitimate_You_3474@reddit

But where’s your stapler?

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Black_Mamba_CA_68@reddit

I'm proud member of the "I'm Too Old For This Shit" and "Zero Fucks To Give" clubs.

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SugarsBoogers@reddit

Parties or anything that starts past 7 gets a groan from me. Meanwhile I’m up until 1 puttering around.

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genghis_Sean3@reddit

Dude, we’re GenX!

I’d say we hit that anywhere between 3rd and 6th grade.

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BertaRocks@reddit

My mom says I was born “sick of this shit” already.

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TheNolaCatLady@reddit

😂 Yes! I feel like I've been this way my entire life.

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Cookies4Dinner73@reddit

Wow, did u just overhear my conversation lol!

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SickandTiredofStupid@reddit

Yes, but sometimes It makes me grateful. Life in the 70s and 80s was quite an experience. Sorry, THE experience. We got in the mud, took risks, got scraped up, beat up, avoided all kinds of pitfalls and disasters, or didn't, to get here. People had to say shit to other's faces or go unheard. Enough people believed you had to at least feign having empathy, and avoid denigrating it, keeping us on a somewhat positive trajectory... progress. I'm not even gonna start talking about the MUSIC we grew up with... but I will mention the thrill of hearing it because it wasn't as easy to do so. A lot of today is just trying to replicate the experience in a comfortable and convenient environment. Not trying to sugar coat life, it was rough, people are always awful to each other, but what a time to be alive.

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DantesGame@reddit

Definitely for some things:

Climbing ladders
Lifting heavy/bulky furniture on my own
Helping people move house
Squatting/bending/stooping over for long periods of time (like gardening or fixing things)
Standing on hard surfaces for more than 4 hours a stretch
Cocky "know it alls" at work

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GullibleCrazy488@reddit

Definitely. People can sap your happiness. "You can go" became my mantra.

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N47881@reddit

Yep, walked out our President's office with my VP and looked him in the eyes and said, I'm not putting up with his shit anymore. VP understood and didn't argue or belabor the point.

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IcyCryptographer5919@reddit

Yup.

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tango421@reddit

In my 30s. It’s only progressively gotten “worse”

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Chin up. You've got thousands of redundant meetings about project parameters changing that could have been emails ahead. Just make sure you're paid well.

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tango421@reddit

Hahahaha I tell the PM, if they’re sure about that, I’m charging them for it.

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dawkin5@reddit

You sound fun. Listen, a few of us are heading to the pub later. What pub do you usually go to?

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Sure. Hell, I'll buy the first round even.

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dawkin5@reddit

Aw, sweet. But we're just making sure we don't go there.

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shinynugget@reddit

To quote the great Raylan Givens, ""If you run into an asshole in the morning, you ran into an asshole. If you run into assholes all day, you're the asshole"

I totally get how you feel. I worked as a senior manager in a Navy Civilian job and part of it was supervising teams of young sailors. It could certainly test my patience at times. But part of my job was helping them get better at their job. I couldn't do that if I treated them with resentment or maybe worst, apathy.

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sparky398@reddit

that sounds like you being grumpy and unnecessarily hostile. i’d watch that at work if i were you.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

I sure could have used you 26 years ago when I started with this sage advice.

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LexKY_guy@reddit

While I am friendly with coworkers I am not friends with them. Nor do I want to be.

Work is for earning a living, I have made friends in previous jobs and once you don’t work together you realize you had little in common other than being coworkers.

I have been at this point for at least 10years.

What did it for me was realizing that at the end of the day most of these people would throw you under the bus if it meant they could move ahead. Yes, I worked at a shitty company for years.

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No-Air-3401@reddit

Well, i recently switched from BJJ to boxing, then proceeded to tear my rotator cuff. Of course, I didn't stop and I've made it worse. Surgery is next week.

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Desperate_County_680@reddit

I am too old for this shit.

However, there is soooooo much shit for all of us to put up with...I've become more polite/nice.

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JUYED-AWK-YACC@reddit

OP is just spreading his shit around honestly.

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regeya@reddit

I'm trying to be nice as I get older. I'm going to try to avoid being that bitter old man because honestly, undiagnosed mental illness made me an asshole when I was young and I ain't got time for that.

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Business_Coyote_5496@reddit

Shooting myself in the foot while at work? No, I haven't

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

You work at the worst gun range ever if that's a possibility.

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Hyperion1144@reddit

My first baby is due in a little over two months, so I better not be!

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

It won't hit you until the 14th or so year. You'll find 2 day old wet clothes in the washing machine, and they'll look at you like you are speaking a foreign tongue when reminding them for the 20th time how a dryer works. Enjoy the next 14 years. Best of luck.

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BertaRocks@reddit

At least yours make it to the washer!!

“Why are you always telling me to get my clothes out of the bathroom floor?!?”

Because there is always clothes in the fucking bathroom floor! Don’t want to hear me bitch? Beat me to the punch and get the clothes out of the floor!!

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epicpillowcase@reddit

Are you Gen X...because the maths...

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scottnshadyside@reddit

😳😳

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stardust_361@reddit

I've been at my job for 7 years (I've worked here before so some coworkers already knew me) and on my first day I told my new coworkers that I was here for a paycheck not friends. I'm not mean or standoffish. I just don't want to eat lunch with anyone or be invited to do things on the weekend. I'm grateful I can wear headphones all day so I can basically ignore everyone. lol

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ColdObiWan@reddit

Man, I’ve been too old for this shit since I was 16.

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Chemical_Author7880@reddit

I reached when I was 23.

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mattmattatwork@reddit

I noted a listing for a bulldozer yesterday. Probably a good thing I dont have a welder.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

I remember that guy.. Meditation and bourbon are far cheaper than diesel and argon these days though.

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mattmattatwork@reddit

One of the only reasons I didnt buy it.

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wildwolfay5@reddit

37: Covid hit and even with "hard work" and blah blah blah still made my 6 figure ass hurt.

If the 20 years before didnt work, fuck it, too old for doing that another 40.

Lessened my material need and moved to the desert to enjoy my wife, dogs, goats, chickens, etc.

A mix of love and little pain but I ain't working 40 hours and own land (undesirable to most), and you cant beat 5 acres owned for $5,000 if you can manage the code enforcement and NIMBY's.

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No_Gap_2700@reddit

Been in this arena for about 10 years now. I have a lot less friends these days, but my life is a lot more peaceful. I was pulled into the HR office last week for yelling at an employee who damaged a door and locked down a department, because he left his access card at home and decided to break a door so he would have access to his department. He could have just came and asked for a badge but was too lazy to. I get paid to make shit happen, not make friends. Hinder me or help me, and I'll react accordingly, regardless of who a person is or their title.

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notguiltybrewing@reddit

Sure, but I'm too old for this shit doesn't mean being a dick to people's face (although I'm not innocent in this regard either, it doesn't really make it ok). Especially when they haven't earned it. If they have earned it, I'm more understanding, but if they are just there, not so much.

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ethersings@reddit

I work healthcare and we had a major software change a few years ago. All the departments learned how to use it except PACU (surgery recovery RNs). The word there was that the new program was bullshit, largely instigated by one long-term guy.

During one call, he told me that he had told management “I’m too old for this, if I have to learn another program, I will quit”. I asked him how old he was, which was roughly my age. So I said, “We are the same age, man, the program is intuitive and easy to learn. Why do you think it’s cool to refuse to do your job and call us to do it for you?” I’d be seriously embarrassed if I had to call another department to complete my job.

His beef was that he refused to learn how to drag and drop a patient into their assigned room when they were ready to move out of surgery. He still struggles and complains about it one year later.

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Mr_Chicano@reddit

Nope ...but I have heard too many 30 somethings bitching about their backs, work hours, and technology.....

I'm 50... working 2 jobs, very tech savvy and have sciatica but that doesn't stop me from anything.

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Ckn-bns-jns@reddit

I refuse to go to any work events or happy hours, I don’t want nor need work friends. I loathe the people I work with now but stay because I’m doing well with my retirement progress and looking to partially retire at 55/56.

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Ok-Bar601@reddit

I reached a point a few years ago where I was sick of office politics and having to deal with other people. I was fortunate in that I had some investments work out well so I pulled the pin and stopped working. I became a stay at home dad to my two young boys of which the youngest is starting school next year. I’d been thinking about going back to work to be doing something, I decided to do Uber driving and so far it’s working out ok. Got me out of the house, work the hours I want and I get to meet different people albeit briefly (which is preferable actually).

I briefly went back to work for a year about 6 years ago and I actually was a positive work colleague, I made the effort to get on with my colleagues. But in the end office politics crept back in and I became disillusioned again so I left, it is what it is and I don’t blame other people. It’s just I don’t want to deal with it anymore. I’d been in work continuously in one form or another since I was 11 years old doing a paper delivery run on my bike until I stopped around 42/43. The only regret I have was not going into business for myself because I believe I would’ve enjoyed that immensely and people are working for me so I don’t have to play the game as I call the shots. It’s not too late but I can’t see it happening.

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JingJang@reddit

I've got a 7 year old so I make a sincere effort to stay as engaged as possible but one facet of modern day life that I refuse to participate or give attention to are "social media trends".

It all feels absolutely ridiculous.

Ive also banned Tik Toc, Shorts and Instagram reels from our household. I'm sure my son will think of me as a monster as he gets older, and I know he'll be exposed to all of that through friends.

But not at home.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

When he is a fully functioning adult who understands that there are very few things that can be understood via a 10-second video, he will thank you.

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Special_Slide_2257@reddit

At 49? I’m hip deep in it.

I don’t get work pals so much as work kids and am so over it.

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Substantial-Spare501@reddit

My mantra… what are they going to do, fire me? Then I laugh maniacally. Of course I only say this to myself or my kids.

(I have tenure at a state university in a field that is in high demand).

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

I was standing with members of supervision and management when I made the statement, the head engineer laughed.

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Silver_Breakfast7096@reddit

While that’s great for reasonable situations tenured teachers who aren’t in integrity and don’t care because they’re protected do a lot of damage to others. Don’t be that person.

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Acceptable-Topic-183@reddit

I show people basic courtesy, especially when they have done nothing but exist in my space. I goof off with my coworkers. But I don’t set myself on fire to keep someone else warm.

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Mundane_Ad7197@reddit

oh yeah.

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tattoojoe8@reddit

Yes a long time ago So with where I work and the type of job I do. We use our cell phones alot and honestly, I dont get to know anyone's name or put their contact info in my phone for at least 6 months

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howmuchitcosts@reddit

"Why don't you go out with us after work?" Because I can only tolerate you when I'm being paid to. Me being friendly does NOT mean we are friends.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

As the kids say....THIS!

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dfh-1@reddit

Around fifty years ago.

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no1kat@reddit

Happened around 10 years ago.

Very liberating!

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Crivens999@reddit

Yes. Absolutely everyone else, apart from the wife and cats, can go get fucked. Don’t give a shite anymore

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asj-777@reddit

Wait, are you me?

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Crivens999@reddit

Probably. I don’t remember what I did this morning, and tend to talk to myself. Do you also bang on a bit too much?…

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Aggravating-End9576@reddit

Yup, ever since I kneeled down to pick up something I dropped, my knees hurt, clicked and popped. I said that exact phrase plus I said and tomorrow doesn't look any better.

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ancientastronaut2@reddit

A few years back, I used to say I "go to work to work" in interviews but quickly realized I was being rejected, likely for saying that.

That would have been respected 15+ years ago, but now employers want the opposite.

When I began my career, I had to learn to get along with all kinds of personalities. I didn't get any say in who my next coworker would be.

Now everyone hires by committee and if your peers to be don't like you, you're out.

Once on the job, you're not going anywhere if people don't see you as some sort of popular cheerleader type.

As I've gotten older, this problem combined with the lack of patience for bullshit that's come with age has stagnated my career.

Don't get me wrong, I'm polite and friendly, but I also have a certain directness that some people don't seem to get, and just isn't respected like it used to be.

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BitNorthOfForty@reddit

The corporate mantra of “bring your whole self to work” horrified me. Thankfully it seems to be less trendy now. No reasonable person would want to know every aspect of me, figurative warts and all; nor would I want to know others in that way. Any company pushing things this far is just asking for trouble.

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liv2lfthvy@reddit

This 100%

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Confirmationbias10@reddit

Yeah like 20 years ago lol

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Infinite-Hearing2629@reddit

Ah yes, it was a Tuesday and I was 7.

I honestly feel like I've been like this whole life. Just wish my people pleasing didn't always hijack me and make me smile and say "OH sorry!" while thinking "grow up you absolute yoddler."

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Silver_Breakfast7096@reddit

Only on certain things. Namely people’s bullshit.

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Threeboys0810@reddit

I am like that in my job. If I ever decide to move to a different position, if they ask me in the interview where do I see myself in 5 years, my honest answer would be retired. I would have to pretend I am staying longer.

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73rd-virgin@reddit

At one of my former jobs, my manager asked me where I saw myself in five years. I told her, "I'll be here 'til I'm tired or fired".

I left in 2004 to deliver corporate pizza to people who are stoned off their tits.

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DoctorMoebius@reddit

Hit that with hangovers around 30

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JanaT2@reddit

Oh yeah since menopause

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JustAnotherBrokenCog@reddit

I'm already older than Danny Glover was when he was too old for this shit. Granted no one shoots at me in my job (so far) so I've got that going for me, which is nice.

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jmreagle@reddit

Is that Lethal Weapon 1, 2, 3, or 4? And Glover or his character? 🙂

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JustAnotherBrokenCog@reddit

One, and the actor himself. I don't think we get an age for him until the second one? Been a while since I've watched them.

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Life-Wealth-3399@reddit

I reached that point when I was 20.

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NihilsitcTruth@reddit

Happened to me at 35.

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VenomousVenting@reddit

I was too old for office social politics when I worked at Toys R’ Us at 16.

I’m a teacher. I put on my “positively happy to fucking be here” for students- not my colleagues. I don’t do social outings with colleagues (don’t recommend others do it either), but I stay late and volunteer to help with school dances and what not.

I do for kids what other adults do for adults. Next time you feel pressure to engage in social outings with colleagues, remember their adults who can get along just fine without you.

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SunshineandBullshit@reddit

About ten years ago. Now I'm post hysterectomy and my give a shit must have been removed with the ovaries.

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liv2lfthvy@reddit

Yes Sir!

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Lilredh4iredgrl@reddit

I'm Gen X and in perimenopause.

So yes.

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SunshineandBullshit@reddit

GenX and post hysterectomy. Absolutely.

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eatitwithaspoon@reddit

🙌

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StatusNerve5@reddit

Yes....I feel the same way. I try to be friendly enough but not too friendly and some do not like it.

Some coworkers in the past expected me to entertain them. I said to one of the coworkers that I wasn't part of my job to entertain them.

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KittenFace25@reddit

I can be a pushover at times, easily intimidated. Lately, I've been standing up for myself in situations where I normally or previously wouldn't, for example, when I'm asked for my receipt when leaving Walmart. I don't give it to them because I don't have to. 😂

Stay tuned for more riveting examples of "sticking it to the man." 😜

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heldaway@reddit

As a former pushover, I’m hella proud of you! Pretty soon you’ll be doing that all the time. Setting boundaries, putting your needs first… it’s life changing.

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KittenFace25@reddit

Thanks! 😊

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eightsxteenam@reddit

I’m trying to learn how to do this. It’s so difficult to set boundaries. Ugh.

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Montgomery943@reddit

54, 14 year old twins, possible cancer pending a second biopsy, crutches for at least 7 months while trying to do a sales job and feeling like I have to work until I'm 70 to pay for it all.

Yep. I'm too old for this shit.

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Little-Plankton662@reddit

A While Back 🤪

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rotomangler@reddit

I was never happier at my last job than when they stopped asking if I wanted to join them for lunch.

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ElGuaco@reddit

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UniqueIndividual3579@reddit

Silence is addicting. I've been mostly WFH since 2020. I hate going into the office. I have nice coworkers, but I just like being alone.

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97Whaler@reddit

I feel the same way I like listening to birds and trees blowing in the wind people and TVs no !!!!

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bratch@reddit

Yep, my sister made me a T-shirt with that quote from Danny Glover in Lethal Weapon.

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coyote_zed@reddit

Didn’t really have to age into that mindset. I’ve low-key been that way for as long as I remember. The only difference is that now I don’t hide it as much.

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JimVivJr@reddit

Yup

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cgiuls1223@reddit

ohhhhh yesss and it’s amazing

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hypothetical_zombie@reddit

At work no one will ever know how I really feel about them, unless they become a nuisance. Then I let them know. I have 14 coworkers right now, and we're crammed into a tiny office. If we're mad at someone, we're all mad at them.

Honestly, I don't have a lot of negative interactions with people. I don't have a lot of positive ones, either. I have neutral interactions with the service industry workers I encounter from day to day - and I go out of my way to be kind because I've worked in the industry and I know their feet hurt.

My social circle has contracted to me, my s/o, and our dog. My bff is in another state.

I guess my phase of being done with other peoples' bullshit worked! I have no one to really get into a beef with!

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NewHandle3922@reddit

I’m getting closer

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EnjoyingTheRide-0606@reddit

I’ve been there with coworkers for a decade now (since late 40’s). I was told I’m unfriendly because I don’t want to go out to lunch with coworkers. I reminded them I show up for work because they pay me to be here. Not for friendship or meaningful fulfillment. I am productive and enthusiastic at my job, not disgruntled or argumentative. I just don’t want to spend more than 40 hours weekly with them!

I was the team birthday person for 7 years. I asked people to take it from me. After no one would take the bdays I was getting a little peeved (I asked individuals personally). Someone told me I should keep doing it because I’m good at it and I’m like the team mom. Eff off! I sent an email and said I’m done, I’ve asked multiple people and no one took it. A coworker took the responsibility of the cake and cards. Someone else created a new job: cube decorations. Which we have never done in 67 years history! Half the team doesn’t want decorations! Creating roles that are not needed and no one wants done is a regular practice now.

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ancientastronaut2@reddit

I think when we began our careers, we were expected to show up and work hard and that was respected.

And although there were occasional team dinners or whatnot we were expected to show up for, all this extra performative socialization during work was not as much a thing as it is in recent years.

Nowadays it seems (and my husband is experiencing the same thing) that work is a more of a popularity contest and that has surpassed the importance of someone's actual skills and abilities. (Ironic because now we're supposedly more aware and accepting of neurodivergence.)

We each worked our way up to low level management, then stagnated while we watch young up and comers get put into positions they're not qualified for, because people like them better and they're seen as more moldable because they're young and don't know what they don't know.

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DangerousSnow1973@reddit

It’s fun looking for a job with almost 25 years at the same company. I think it’s counting against me I didn’t job jump.

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MarcoEsteban@reddit

Yep...they say put the last 10 years of jobs on your resume. It betrays our age when we put one. company for 30 years (that's mine). I've had different roles, but it doesn't feel right putting the last 10 years of roles when there are 20 more at the same company. It is so hard to get interviews, but if you do, you can tell that they're thinking about our age when they say "are you aware that this is less than what you.._____" fill in the blank with "make in compensation," "are used to in responsibilities", "job grade", or something as it relates to the job we're apply for vs. what we did in our previous roles. Then, an offer never comes. Or if we're interviewing at Amazon, which I've done now 3 times, they cut us in the round to see if we're a fit with their culture. Funny, I can tell I'll be cut when they tell me that I should be proud of myself for being selected for an interview, because only 1 in 100k is or some shit. I'm like just fuck off already!

Anyway, good luck!

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DangerousSnow1973@reddit

Good luck to you too. My position was building a small business on my name sake and hard to keep a resume short and sweet and not see the jack of all trades.

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DianaPrince2020@reddit

You will find something. Older people in charge know the value of dependability and knowledge. Many have been thru it when hiring youngsters.

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jmeq404@reddit

It definitely is. You will be viewed as “institutionalized” and incapable of learning a new system. It doesn’t make it true but it is the perception.

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vanchica@reddit

Not on purpose? BUT- have been told I'm 'aggressive' and 'seem angry' because I dropped the female sing-song from my voice at about 50

I'm just tired, guys, can't dance for you AND get this project out on time

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platypusandpibble@reddit

My “give a shit” has been broken for years. Honestly, I really hate people.

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Deaner_dub@reddit

Some shit, yes. An increasing amount too.

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bro_hal@reddit

I (53M) went out for drinks with some high school friends a few weeks ago before they all went to see a Journey concert. I had told them previously I’d love to get together and see them but under no circumstances would I pay to see Journey. I was asked “what concert do you want to go to, then?” I told them I didn’t want to go to any concert! They start too late, it’s too loud, and there will be too many fucknuts there.

And I used to love concerts!

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Global-Jury8810@reddit

I think you would’ve wanted to go to the concert if Steve Perry was singing with the band. I know the singer they got was good, but I would personally feel disloyal to the original singer, and these things do matter.

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bro_hal@reddit

I wouldn’t have wanted to go if Jesus was on vocals.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

When Journey is too loud, you've turned a corner.

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LadyNorbert@reddit

I mean, is it really even Journey if Steve Perry isn't there?

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Careless_Yoghurt_822@reddit

That’s experience talking!!!

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Broken-Emu@reddit

Yes

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PossibleDiscipline90@reddit

The only part I feel like that coincides with my life would be amusement park rides. I'd definitely not survive and I miss it so much. I've gotten back into video gaming. It's much less on my blood pressure...sometimes lol

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Dry_Transition4134@reddit

Went on a roller coaster about a year ago. Big mistake. All of the internal connective tissue that holds everything in place seems to be gone. My organs were thrashing from side to side. I don’t recall having that concern previously.

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PossibleDiscipline90@reddit

I can't even imagine, that sounds awful.

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michaelleehoward@reddit

I was literally talking with a coworker last week about this. I just turned 52 and something in me snapped and said "I just don't care I have lived to long to care for your petty drama". I have lived enough life to literally not give a shit.

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Astronaut6735@reddit

I'm still in my don't-be-a-crotchety-old-wanker era.

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rosesforthemonsters@reddit

I've been in the "here to make money, not friends" stage since I was 21 years old.

I couldn't care less if my co-workers know that I don't want to be friends with them. I rarely even feel like speaking to them, I sure as hell don't want to be their buddy.

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Difficult-Future-450@reddit

Yes! We even joke that we have reached the "get off my lawn" phase of life.

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Mobile-Quote-4039@reddit

I started that when I was 40. And don’t make a 3 point turn in my goddamn driveway!

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Coggonite@reddit

Yes.

Quitting a job I used to enjoy. I am that one in a position to say 'No' to recent, unrealistic changes in expectations. I'm too old to put up with that shit. We learned from the dot-com crash, didn't we?

People who have kids and a mortgage are pretty much stuck. Everybody blusters; no one actually leaves.

Until now.

I'm 57 with decades of experience. I can read the tea leaves and suss out the difference between lip service and true intentions. No one above me in the org chart really understands the root causes of their problems . Therefore, it will only get worse. There is no point in staying. Fuckedcompany.com, where are you now?

The power move, of course, is to set up shop as a 3rd party and provide services they will inevitably need as their tech crew collapses around them.

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valis010@reddit

Haven't yet arrived at the asshole phase of life. Hopefully it doesn't happen.

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emblazoned58@reddit

Playing a bit of semantics here but I think they're two different things. The Murtaugh line can be deciding that staying up past 3am isn't fun like it used to be or pretending to like listening to that coworker blather on about their idiot decision making just isn't worth your time anymore. Being an asshole is putting down everyone else enjoying the 3am last calls or making that idiot coworker feel bad by ridiculing or intentionally hurting them. But there's nothing wrong with establishing a boundary in a polite bit not assholey way.

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jaxiepie7@reddit

Never too old to be kind to other people who are not being c*nts... definitely too old to tolerate dickheads.

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obxtalldude@reddit

Yeah, I've actually mellowed when it comes to just hanging out with people.

Pickleball is the new "third place" in my area, taking over from churches and bars.

Lots of new friends, most are very surface level, but simply being kind to one another is far more important than I'd realized before.

It's like a little fantasy land. We don't talk about anything important, besides one thing - not tolerating adults who act like children on the courts.

It's weird how hard it is for some people to just shut up and be kind. They want so badly to win, they forget to have fun.

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ShimmyxSham@reddit

This is the British version of

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jaxiepie7@reddit

Exactly

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1wrx2subarus@reddit

What’s the difference between a cnt and a dickhead? I take it the cnts are warm and welcoming with depth? The dickheads are abrasive and constantly inserting themselves into your business?

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epicpillowcase@reddit

They're saying it's the same, just using different words to emphasise a point.

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pocketdare@reddit

Definitely this. I actually like to think I've become a bit more tolerant about explaining things to younger employees and such ... as long as they're not dicks who pretend they already know everything. Then screw 'em, they can learn it on their own.

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PleasedPeas@reddit

I think mine started when I was 13 years old. I’m now 55.

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MagentaMist@reddit

It's not a function of age. It's zero patience for bullshit and fake kiss ass drama. I've never put up with that.

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PurpleTangerine78@reddit

Ooh, overt rudeness disguised as “I’m so over this” is really edgy and cool.

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epicpillowcase@reddit

Glad others are seeing it too. This isn't an age thing, OP is just being a dick.

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Separate_Primary_686@reddit

lol. I don’t see a reason to be grumpy towards coworkers even if I don’t like them.

I am really good at saying no to anything extra though. I work in healthcare and we are always short, I’m not doing doubles all the time because someone called out.

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RogerClyneIsAGod2@reddit

At my last job before I retired I told them pretty early on that I didn't do the big company picnic/team building/off hours type stuff. I said "Listen, I like you guys but I spend 40 hours a week with you already. I don't want to spend my off time with you too."

Honestly, there were several people there I would've hung out with if I didn't work with them but there were waaaaay more I would only be in the same building with because I was paid to be there but I also think most jobs are like that.

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r0d3nka@reddit

"I don't know half of you half as well as I should like; and I like less than half of you half as well as you deserve."

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HeinousHaggis@reddit

Are you also on your hundred and eleventh birthday

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r0d3nka@reddit

Feels like it... 59.5 can't get here soon enough.

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HeinousHaggis@reddit

Dude I’m with you on that one 100%

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haz_waste@reddit

I stopped talking to staff and eventually changed jobs because I couldn't stand some of the people I worked with at my previous job. I think it was more me being tired of the BS than "being too old."

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Abpoe77@reddit

My fuck it switch was flipped about 5 years ago. My filter is only limited because we have harassment and sensitivity meetings from time to time at work. At 49 working with 20 year olds in a blue collar job I might have created a work place where sensitivity and harassment classes are scheduled

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NegScenePts@reddit

I recently retired and for the last year or so of my career I refused to interact with 75% of the people in my workplace. I even dipped out on my last day without saying goodbye because burning that bridge would have been too much drama. Life is too short to suffer the stupid.

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ideapit@reddit

No. I don't buy into any "I'm old." thinking.

But I do not have patience for inauthenticity or bullshit but that hasn't changed ever in my life.

I've never been out of a "Fuck this bullshit." era.

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motorik@reddit

I spent my entire adult life in the SF Bay Area (21 ~ 55). Between the 12+ hour days my work-life turned into and the sheer amount of bullshit daily life entailed, we took a huge chance and moved. We were in Phoenix for a couple of years, now we're in San Diego county. I work a fairly chill 40-hour week from home now. When we go back to visit I cannot believe we put up with that amount of stress on a daily basis. I'm not fully aligned with living in the suburbs either, but for now I'll take it. At least the area we live in is designed for about the number of people that live here, not 1/3 the number of people that live here.

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MeikoChii@reddit

🤦🏻‍♀️ you’re really so stupid to say that to ppl. OFC they were offended. Not everyone is like you and it is NOT about age.

My bf is 2 years younger than me and he is like you. But I’m not. I like to talk to people and know their lives even when it’s boring, I’m curious.

But the thing is you don’t say that to ppl. It’s just mean since you don’t know if they feel the same and they could be genuinely liking you. Ofc ppl get offended when they are not liked back 🙄

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heldaway@reddit

If people are offended by not being liked that’s their own problem to deal with. Jesus.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Liked? Do you get paid more at your job based on who likes you? That is amazing. Never leave there!

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sugarlump858@reddit

Yes. But if I said that, I might be fired. I like my job, but I'm no longer interested in faking that I give a shit.

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killerwithasharpie@reddit

I’m here. Feels like sitting on a high ledge over the sea, watching the waves break. And laughing hysterically.

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mapleleaffem@reddit

I was born like that

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notguiltybrewing@reddit

Same

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heldaway@reddit

Oh yeah and I’m letting everyone know it! lol

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jrsixx@reddit

While I admit that my field of fucks hath been barren for many years, I don’t say that to people other than jokingly. As in “behold my field of fucks (while sweeping my arm out) tis barren”.

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myheromeganmullally@reddit

That was in 2007. Now I just smile and nod. Nope. No thank you. Just here on my own.

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AssistFrequent7013@reddit

*to

Jesus

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jazzyjjr99@reddit

its *too.

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markallanholley@reddit

It's not.

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MrBlahg@reddit

First too is correct, second too is not.

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jrsixx@reddit

So you’re saying of the too twos, only one of the tos is right?

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Distinct_Magician713@reddit

Yes. 10 years ago.

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LayerNo3634@reddit

Even if I feel that way, I would never tell people what you said. It's rude.

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manjar@reddit

Yeah, I'm not sure there is a "needlessly making people around you feel bad" stage of life that we all have to enter.

Also, there's a difference between pissing in the pool and pissing into the pool.

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rabbledabble@reddit

I’m an xennial and I’ve been there for a few years. Having little kids in your 40s accelerates that timeline I think.

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jazzyjjr99@reddit

Eh, does anyone think this "I'm too old for this shit" is just code for "i've always been an asshole and i try to hide it"

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Old_Size9060@reddit

That absolutely seems to be what a number of people here actually mean by that phrase. You should never be “too old” to show basic civility, but whatever lol

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epicpillowcase@reddit

Exactly. It's especially ironic given how many posts and comments on this sub are about Boomers being dicks to people.

The call is coming from inside the house...

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epicpillowcase@reddit

100%

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markallanholley@reddit

I like people and I'm interested in them. I'm very strongly in the introvert and probably autistic court, so there's a limit to how much peopling I can handle, but I do my best.

Sometimes there will be a high-work low-reward task that I know I'm doing just because I always have, and THEN I say I'm too old for it.

But I try to approach life hopefully and helpfully, I count my blessings daily, and I'm in a continual state of wonder about how all of the mechanisms in our society and also in the natural world work.

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Illustrious_Big_6357@reddit

This response really resonates with me. I'm similar, except I seem to have lost my wondering state. It's a good reminder to appreciate what I do have, thanks.

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Some-Screen4847@reddit

Wow youre a miserable dick. Even if youre not looking for friends doesn't mean you have to be rude.

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freisbill@reddit

been there for most of my life...

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Straight_Cod_3510@reddit

Yep. Workplace drama? "Keep walking." Am I popular? No. Am I past caring? Yep.

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Fast_Hat9560@reddit

I feel the same way but really, why would you say that to people? It only starts more shit.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Nope. Weeds out the weak I'm learning.

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therealgookachu@reddit

Ok, I’ve been like that since my mid 20s, but you don’t say shit like that cos it’s just mean and unnecessary. You can distance yourself from other ppl without being a dick. O

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Old_Size9060@reddit

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C’mon lol

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WhenVioletsTurnGrey@reddit

Too old for the sensitive BS. Yes. Been in trouble a few times over the last few years because people cant just be offended & keep it too themselves. Everything has to be OK to everyone, no matter the context or the meaning behind it. Isn't it enough that we all have to juggle everything on a daily basis, then this crap? Medicate yourself if you can't handle the world. Yes, I'm too old for this ...

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Old_Size9060@reddit

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truejabber@reddit

I have, but I take a different route. Mostly I just smile and keep my mouth shut. If someone is being an idiot I don’t have to accept their invitation to join them. So I just smile. Maybe take a deep breath. And feel better knowing that, at least for that moment, I am not engaging with morons.

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OkConsideration8964@reddit

I got there by 30 lol

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AnarchicDeviance@reddit

I'm definitely at that age and have been for several years. That being said, I might think those things, but I'd never say them out loud. As long as I need the job and some level of peace dealing with my co-workers, I'm not going to insult them. They're mostly good guys anyway, if a bit annoying at times.

My boss, on the other hand, is a moron and a poster child for the Peter Principal. Another manager, who's indirectly above me, was born with a silver spoon in his mouth and always comes across as patrician and condescending, like he's forcing himself to be polite to the peasantry. Thank God I work mostly independently. Whenever I deal with either of those two, I have to bite my tongue and make nice. At this point, I'm counting the days till retirement when I can simply walk away.

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Salty-Pack-4165@reddit

I lost patience for fruitless arguments/conversations long ago. That drove some people around me nuts starting with my parents. I refuse to engage in arguments with no conclusion just for the sake of arguing . Some called me "antisocial" because of that.

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BeebsMuhQueen@reddit

I usually play with my coworkers and I’m friendly; but I’m “Too old for this shit” when it comes to people being offended by everything, or disagreeing with stuff or being wound up by the political theater. People seriously waste their lives being bent over things we can’t control. You sound like Stanley

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NoPossible5519@reddit

I was waiting for a Stanley gif

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BeebsMuhQueen@reddit

Haha

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Im more a Creed. My outside work world is amazing.

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SufficientOpening218@reddit

so right, and that is an on point gif

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constipado68@reddit

Been this way since I was 22. Gen X here

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FuggaDucker@reddit

Two days ago at the dentist.

NO.. NO.. NO.. .. just stop.
You are going to tell me that I need mouth guards.
I am going to try to defend it like every six months.

How about we just skip that and I keep you as my dentist?
Would that be ok?

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mtcwby@reddit

Is there really an upside to being a grumpy old person? Had this conversation with my older brother because I could see him falling into that. While I may a reputation of not tolerating fools I also have a rep of being helpful. There's a fine line there and I'm much happier being positive with people directly.

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Pmoneywhazzup@reddit

I retired last year. I have talked to exactly one person from the office since that day.

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therelybare5@reddit

I understand. I keep meaning to keep up with retirees but life keeps getting in the way. 😂 I guess I’ll find out soon enough!

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Retiredgiverofboners@reddit

I’m 51 but I reached this very early in my working life 🤔😵‍💫

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Emotional-Heron2643@reddit

Being cordial costs nothing

If this is something that you can't control or happens impulsively, perhaps you should see a neurologist. Early onset dementia is a thing and your actions as described may be an early indication of sundowning early in life.

Quick google result (focus on the behavioral changes)

"Early-onset dementia (or young-onset) affects individuals under 65, typically in their 40s and 50s, often presenting with subtle memory loss, language difficulties (aphasia), behavioral changes, and impaired judgment. Often caused by Alzheimer's or frontotemporal dementia, it is frequently linked to genetics, and progress is often faster than late-onset, requiring early diagnosis to manage care, legal, and financial"

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inode71@reddit

I’m too old to carry drywall up a set of stairs unless I cut it down first.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

I feel that. I do not mind getting older. It's the getting weaker I hate. And how muscle aches take longer to heal up.

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tanhauser_gates_@reddit

I dont even say anything. I dont engage and walk away or ignore.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Now, I would have found that ruder than just saying, "You people kind of suck." honesty has to be respected.

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tanhauser_gates_@reddit

At my point of reaction/non-reaction I could not be in the least bit concerned on how rude I was being percieved.

let them take it how they want. It matters to me not at all.

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DCLascelle@reddit

When I was 7.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Thats hardcore!

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Round-Public435@reddit

I may say it, but internally. It does no good to alienate those you have to work with every day. You can keep your head down, do your work, collect your pay and go home - no need to create hostility with those you may need to collaborate with in the future.

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therelybare5@reddit

The closer I get to retirement, the less willing I am to do some of the less than safe aspects of my job.

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ActPlayful@reddit

Yep…I tell people I’m channeling my inner Danny Glover when I say it…most people just look confused 🤣

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heyyabesties@reddit

Sometimes I preface it with something like "as Murtaugh always says". I get a lot of "who's Murtaugh?"

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WileyCoyote7@reddit

Same. And I remember that Danny Glover was only 39 when Lethal Weapon came out 🤯

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WileyCoyote7@reddit

I had to grow up at about 9 years old. I was too young for that shit. But, it very quickly led me to a “too old for this shit” predisposition.

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GeXmomnumbersgirl@reddit

Yes. Definitely try to keep the conversations/communication to work only. I definitely limit any social interactions to company events. But some take it personally and called me the ice queen and I’m like fine go ahead I don’t care even a little if you call me that.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Yeah, we ain't friends, we are coworkers. You don't have to love me, we just have to keep each other employed.

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ElCaminoLady@reddit

Yep!

But in the work department being self employed I fire customers that are more interested in bs than business. I do not care if they try a smear campaign, cry, whine, whatever. If others want to believe them I don’t need their business either. Have plenty of other clients that support me without the drama.

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Dangerous-Medicine54@reddit

I've found that people don't get my humor (sarcasm)

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heyyabesties@reddit

Worse is when they're offended by it. If my sarcasm offends you wait until we get into a real verbal altercation. You'd wither up and die. Once someone told me they didn't like me. I said whatever, I'm here for a paycheck not a popularity contest. Cue tears, cue my eye roll.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Wit is one of the most wasted commodities in life. Sad.

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aldoraine000@reddit

Yes. When I look at the leadership of my current and previous employers, it feels like a mirror of our national political climate: feckless, incompetent, arrogant and corrupt. I just want to be done with “work” because my tolerance for stupid corporate assholes/bullshit is wearing thin.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

I hope your 401k hits big and you can get out of Dodge soon.

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FredOaks15@reddit

Yep. Cut three people out of my life a month ago. Stress levels way down. Fuck them

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Least-Sail4993@reddit

I say it practically every single day now. Lmao

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abbagodz@reddit

You sound like me. I'm 20 years older (60) then the next oldest person in my department. They're all fine but no one I would associate with outside of work. Just not much in common.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

My group ranges from mid 20s into the 70s. I hear shit from both sides of the spectrum. I just don't care for about 90% that isn't making me money at this point.

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epicpillowcase@reddit

I'm wondering why you haven't shared why you said that to them in the first place. Was it provoked by them being obnoxious or rude in some way? Because that context actually matters.

If it wasn't, and they just politely invited you to join them, there was no reason to be so abrasive to them.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Briefly, someone was rehashing an issue that had long been resolved. I advised the group of this, and some continued on and wished to carry on after work hours. Myself & others declined, and I reminded all of my motivations in their entirety: compensation.

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SnuggleMoose44@reddit

Yeah. I keep getting reminded about it because people act shitty and I remember that I don’t care and only interact when I need to.

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TriGurl@reddit

YES!!! And it's glorious!!

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HelgaTwerpknot@reddit

Holy hell yes, thirty years ago

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Bokononfoma@reddit

I was out walking my dog with a neighbor and he started talking about the afterlife and I just shut it down with an "I don't know? Who cares?"

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Effective_Farmer_119@reddit

Answering who cares definitely shuts it down and is overly rude because people do care. Even people who aren’t religious. It’s about having an imagination and sparking conversation. But being rude is a choice so whatever.

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Bokononfoma@reddit

My neighbor is one of my best friends and if we don't want to talk about something, I say something, but your judgement of my friendship is shit.

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Effective_Farmer_119@reddit

Of course. I am speaking in general.

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_Caracal_@reddit

Even if it's true, I'd never say it out loud. Why would I want to create an awkward working environment?

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Awkward how? This is work, not a drum circle.

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_Caracal_@reddit

They're still people you have to see and work alongside for about 40 hours a week.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

And the offended ones will only speak of work subjects for my average 50ish hour weeks.

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misanthropymajor@reddit

This

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jzoola@reddit

That’s a poor attitude that isn’t going to serve you well. You don’t have to be buddies but you do have to be a good teammate and know when to bite your tongue and keep things moving in a positive direction.

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Short_Advance_7843@reddit

OP is GenX. Obviously he was in the right and the millennial was offended for attention. If he truly offended his coworker he would have apologized.

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epicpillowcase@reddit

Unless you're being sarcastic, you have no way of knowing...any of that. You don't even know the ages of the people he was talking to.

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PrinceFan72@reddit

I've had this exact conversation a few times. Not in a confrontational way, but in answer to "why don't you go for drinks / weekend activities / etc?".

I also learned the hard way that the majority of "friendships" I've made during work completely disappear the moment you no longer work there or see them every day. Despite me working to keep the friendship alive.

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Pmoneywhazzup@reddit

I’m 59. Retired last year. In my office, I had “relationships” with dozens of people over 15 years. Since I walked out the door, I have spoken to exactly one person from the office.

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autymfyres7ish@reddit

Yep. And with remote roles if you are moved into a horizontal position, but still on the same Team, many of those you worked closely with, went through a myriad of projects together etc. - just literally go silent. I mean, not a huge deal but bothersome, and to me, very curious.

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Winter_Ratio_4831@reddit

Yes OP.

I'm not quite that verbally harsh to others about it, but I have stepped and walked away from a number of people and situations that I no longer give a shit about.

Honestly I'm not sure I ever did, but now I feel the complete freedom to say "I don't want to"

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LASER_Dude_PEW@reddit

I find that I am actually getting more chill as I age but I also am more choosy about where I go and what I do. If I'm tired I go to bed. Lol. I also always keep home home and work work. Things are just better that way.

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analogthought@reddit

Since about 25 years ago, yes

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omysweede@reddit

I think I hit that in my 30s. "Mandatory fun" work events and "team building" exercises. No thanks.

Point me at a problem and, yeah I'll solve it.

Then leave alone as the DJ revolves it.

Dumdumdum-diddi-dumdumdum

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No9No9No9No9@reddit

Bro I was like this when I was 20, hell, high school.

We should always be very picky about the company we keep!!

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More-Complaint@reddit

Reached?!... Reached?!

I'm 58,and it's been at least ten years of me saying "And that's my problem how exactly?"

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MeowMeowCollyer@reddit

Honey. I’m GenX. I’ve been too old for this shit my whole life.

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LuckyAd2714@reddit

For real - that’s what I think - I said I have been there for a while 🤣❤️❤️

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WendySteeplechase@reddit

I'm old and crotchety too, but that was kinda rude. I wouldn't say that to coworkers.

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RHCP1031@reddit

Was it rude or just honest?

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karma_the_sequel@reddit

Or both?

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epicpillowcase@reddit

It was rude. "Thanks, but I keep my work and personal lives separate" is honest. Actively telling someone they are worthless to you outside the fact you're being paid is rude. It's totally unnecessary.

A lot of the people on this sub seem to think there is no possible middle ground between being a doormat and a jerk. There is. Respectful frankness is a thing. This was not that.

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KatJen76@reddit

It was rude unless they were really being assholes about OP not going somewhere with them. Life is a lot easier when you don't seek out unnecessary confrontation with people. Like, what if they genuinely liked OP and wanted to get to know them better? How would you feel if someone you felt you got along with said that to you?

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LuckyAd2714@reddit

Yea - been here a while now

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Smittles@reddit

Plot twist: they’re a school teacher.

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SIGMONICUS@reddit

For sure. As a parent with a demanding job and too much to do, alone time is most precious to me.

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mikeisfree11@reddit

💯 my shit bucket is the size of a thimble nowdays.

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wordstogetherrandom@reddit

I think it but keep it to myself. "Never let anyone know what you're thinking."

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VirtuaFighter6@reddit

Yup. I’m ready to take it easy. High pressure work bullshit is not my thang anymore. Let’s some GenZer have at it. I’m ready to be a Walmart greeter.

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MisterSandKing@reddit

Yup. Every day I care a little less.

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SufficientOpening218@reddit

see my field of fucks... but i make exceptions for new people in my life who seem cool. im always up for meeting new people, because i was new people once. for one thing, my friends are getting old and dying off. for another thing i was young once, with annoying music.

the HUGE difference is i move much more slowly in the steps of friendship. it can take a year befor i go out to lunch with someone i know from a work setting or a hobby type setting. it can take 5 years before you meet my family or see my house. ive seen too much and know too much for those instant friendships from my yout

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Minirth22@reddit

Welcome! Grab a drink, spark up a joint!

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Human_Type001@reddit

Heh, 8th grade! Everyone was making plans for high school and already redividing their friend groups based on which one of the 2 high schools they'd be going to. They finally got around to asking me which one so they could decide if they wanted to be friends the following year. I got to look at them and say, "I don't give a fuck and will never see you again we're moving this summer." Then I got to do the same thing in high school when it was, "I'm not going to state university. I'm going to an out of state college. Buh bye!"

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neanderthalman@reddit

Yeah but I reached it right around puberty, so…

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xantub@reddit

Not in that way. I had no problems interacting with co-workers in and out of the office. I considered them "temporary friends". As soon as I switched jobs they were gone and I would get a new set of "temporary friends". That was my modus operandi until I decided "I'm too old for this shit" and quit my last job 11 years ago at 45.

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Patient-Chocolate531@reddit

Yep. I had a job where I made legitimate connections and was friends with a group of people. When I got laid off, it was unbearable. A lot like a breakup. After that, I kept work and personal life separate. I’m still friends with one of them but it was hard to stay in with the others.

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Redman_Goldblend@reddit

Hell yeah 😂

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Electronic_Neck_5028@reddit

I'm glad at work remote at a large corporation because if all the people interact with were in one location, I would just sock someone every week.

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wordstogetherrandom@reddit

I think it but don't say it.

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ProfessorExcellence@reddit

Past it a long time ago. Walking back from lunch with a work friend and passed a group of 20 some year olds protesting the flavor of the day. Realized I just didn’t care. Looked at my friend and said: Even if I gave a shit about their cause I no longer give a shit about any cause.

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belligerent_tortoise@reddit

My tolerance for stupidity and willful ignorance is at zero, and the filter between my brain and mouth is fried. I’m too old most everything.

Went to a general admission rock show two days ago. Clutch and Corrosion of Conformity. Two amazing bands. Used to love concerts. Never again. Fuck crowds.

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user710827@reddit

Just counting the days until I retire and I don’t have to get paid to deal with the bullshit.

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SignificantTransient@reddit

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Notice, he needed to be hypnotized to express himself freely and live a happy life?

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SignificantTransient@reddit

You can totally be the grumpy gen x dude at work. The only thing is, you have to be funny too.

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onedemtwodem@reddit

Pretty much... I'm definitely too old to hear somebody tell me their problems over and over again without any solution. I just stopped taking calls and texts from certain people anymore.

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LockieBalboa@reddit

Oh man, got there about 10nyears ago

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Kid_supreme@reddit

I reached that at 15.

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Sad_Apple_3387@reddit

Yup

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NostradaMart@reddit

Reached that stage a long time ago.

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SumoBoi420@reddit

Yea, for me it’s when family members came to me with their problems and looking for me to solve them. Eventually I said I had enough because it was becoming “same shit different day” and put a stop to it. When I do they complain more and try to out me out as a bad person. -sigh- I’m getting to old for this shit. (Thanks Danny Glover for your quote and the toilet scene 🤣)

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Louisiana_sitar_club@reddit

Getting old sucks. We all know that. But not everybody is at that point in their life. Acting like that to the younger people is just taking your problem and turning it into everyone else’s problem. Please don’t do that.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Younger? Problems? ohhhh, you're assuming. Thats always a great idea.

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Princessferfs@reddit

I’m too old, fat, and lazy for most of the drama and crap these days.

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Plastic-Ad-5171@reddit

About 4 years ago. Flat out told people I’m here for a job not to make friends. I will be civil, but don’t expect to know anything about me. My personal life and professional life are separate and will stay that way.

A few people got snotty, most just said cool, and only talked to me about work stuff.

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Global-Jury8810@reddit

I think just by reading these experiences alone I’ve learned that the ones that get snotty are the ones that like to start work drama.🎭

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

100% of the time.

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Soreal45@reddit

Yes

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pocketdare@reddit

OP username checks out.

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TheVioletEmpire@reddit

Apparently, I'm well into it since Danny Glover was only 40 the first time he said it.

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Diogenes-of-Synapse@reddit

I'm homeless and gave up street fighting...I just walk away now

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Dangerous_Category91@reddit

Yes, it's AI. I'm glad my job doesn’t force me to adapt to this innovation. I just don't get it.

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titlesquatch@reddit

Quite sometime ago, when I was in middle school.

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Sattaman6@reddit

You sound like a bit of a dick.

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Aggravating_Piece232@reddit

Oh, I'm screaming that on the inside, but I have yet to say that to anyone. We just went through two full years of layoffs (about 5 rounds) and I like money. I work in a huge corporation where likeability is almost as important as effectiveness. That said, I go to work networking events not because I love my "work family" (vomit), but because that's part of a game I have to play. It's all theater and the sooner you come to terms with that, the sooner you can make a decision about whether it's worth it to you to play your part. It's worth it to me right now, but very soon I'll be at the point where if I'm handed a severance package there will be a hard decision between retirement and working a more administrative job just for the benefits.

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ennuiandapathy@reddit

Not like that because I'm not a jerk. I put on my adult pants and manage my emotions like the grown up that I am.

I'm too old for shit like putting up with rudeness or toxic behavior. I'm too old to see concerts at standing venues. I'm too old to deal with holiday shopping crowds. I'm too old to sleep on my SIL's futon when we've spent two days in the car to visit. But I'll never be old enough to act like a Boomer.

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debcon14@reddit

Standing venues!! And the boomer part too. I’m old enough to know that I don’t have to say everything I think, and too old to extend the effort to teach someone manners.

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ItsHappeningNow31@reddit

The Boomer part !!!

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

That guy sounds like management in a conflict free pillow company.

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Ms_not_Mrs0771@reddit

Good gawd! The disapproval in some of these posts is off the charts. Probably not the wisest thing to say but your co workers don’t dictate if you get laid off or fired! Everyone has a breaking point and people should be allowed to make a minor mistake like that. Just be sure to not repeat it and act neutral from now on. If it’s a one time blow up, it will fade and some other incident caused by someone else will surface. It does get harder to keep your mouth shut in the moment. I started writing it all down in a journal at home. When I want to say “Shut the f@@k up, Valerie (not real name)! I instead think “You are so going in my hate journal tonight!”

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Projectguy111@reddit

"your co workers don’t dictate if you get laid off or fired"

They do, in fact, have a huge impact on that. I've worked mostly for large global companies and a few smaller ones in professional roles.

ALL of them take input from people you work with. Perhaps not officially, but when it comes time for layoffs you've got a much better chance of keeping your job if people like you.

It also has an impact on compensation and opportunities.

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Omnipotent-Bread@reddit

Whut?

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epicpillowcase@reddit

What was the context that led to you sharing that? Unless these people are actively rude to you or are hassling you in some way, I don't see the value in saying something like that.

I do think there are a lot of edgelords in Gen X who think that being frank/protecting boundaries and being a rude arsehole are the same thing.

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13maven@reddit

Yep. I’m freaking done with nouns (people, places, things)

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Global-Jury8810@reddit

Didn’t you watch the Scrubs reboot? That chief doctor kept getting in trouble so he gave up his practice to his favorite student who he loved talking to the way that gets him in trouble now.

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this_kitty68@reddit

After my last job, I’m done being social at work. A woman I thought was my bestie- we ate lunch together everyday, took our breaks together, ride to work together, texted in the evenings, I bought $250 emerald earrings for her new baby, and covered for her multiple times during her pregnancy- just blew me off and tried to throw me under the bus for HER mistakes. I was blindsided and heartbroken that someone could do such a thing. Work is for work. Period. End of story.

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Overall-Avocado-7673@reddit

Glad I don't work with you pal.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

Must mean you kinda suck.

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LadyNorbert@reddit

I can't relate to what you're specifically describing (I'm the universal wacky aunt among my younger coworkers) but I've felt 'too old for a lot of shit' about a lot of stuff for a long time. I have multiple invisible disabilities and that kind of thing ages a person a lot faster than anyone's workplace shenanigans. I wake up tired.

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kermitsfrogbog@reddit

Shit I’m too old for: waking up at 4am with night sweats because I dared have a single alcoholic beverage.

Shit I’m not too old for: being kind to people I need to work with.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

If I WANTED to be outside work pals, we'd go get beers when we aren't forced to be together.

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Alovingcynic@reddit

I have this thought often, but OP just sounds like an antisocial jerk.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

This place would make someone like you cry in the bathroom

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Alovingcynic@reddit

Nah, you're just way up your own asshole with self-importance.

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Sirloin_Tips@reddit

Vans OGs hurt my feet now. I have arrived (unfortunately)

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Adventurous-Egg-8818@reddit

So true... I'm not here to be anyone's friend. I enjoy my own company better.

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Gloomy_Narwhal_4833@reddit

I was born too old for this shit.

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Ok-Mention6768@reddit

I was going to say precisely that.

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BWWFC@reddit

since birth... old soul.

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smithe68@reddit

No and I hope I never become an asshole like that. I've been at my job for over 30 years, new people come and go and I continue to make new friends. One of my best friends only started working here a few years ago, if I had your attitude I would have missed out on a lot of great adventures and learning new things.

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violet715@reddit

For the most part this is me. Some of my best friends are former and current co-workers. On the other hand if I truly don’t like someone I’m not going to pretend. There’s a woman at work who says the most inappropriate things, has inappropriate tattoos she shows (in court!!!), and has been at the job for 3 years and has learned nothing and continues to screw up constantly. She’s not the type of person I’d be friends with outside of work and I don’t respect her, so I ignore her.

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Soniquethehedgedog@reddit

That’s what I was thinking too, getting old happens, being a dick is a choice. I’ve never understood that with coworkers that are just assholes and fall back on the ”oh I’m old” trope.

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Chicagoj1563@reddit

I choose to be like this too. I don't associate myself with 'old' or 'grumpy'. I'm aware of the age, but its not a limitation or anything to make me jaded.

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YoghurtNo2026@reddit

https://open.spotify.com/track/7A4dSkY0gF6h9K7GJr4mM4?si=DqrMKOXUS8qR0-ASklcqjQ

My theme song.

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Ok-Commercial-924@reddit

Years ago, it was not good for my career path, it was discussed at several annual reviews.

But fuck them. Fortunately I was good at my job, so they kept me around until I finally told them I quit, retired 2 years ago, mid 50s.

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mtngoat7@reddit

Every day at work I get more and more like this. Not so much that I’m too old for this shit but more like I’m tired of dealing with this BS and I am ready to quit the game. So I decided to retire at the end of this year.

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MasterWinstonWolf@reddit

I hit that bar in my 30's...welcome to the club.🤷‍♂️

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Elegant_Source900@reddit

I’ve been there for a long time. Work is just a way to pay bills now.

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Certain-Incident-40@reddit

I have a similar story, only it doesn’t involve a nasty interaction. I (M57) did really well in my career, and have always been able to easily move up. A few years ago I found a position that is quite important but requires very little of me. I am still asked whether I want to take training, go back for more school or move up to a “better” position. I am in a place where I do my job better than anyone else could and am quite satisfied to roll with it to retirement. I have reached the point where I am comfortable just saying it like it is. When I am asked to climb the ladder I just tell my bosses that I am very happy where I am and intend to retire in this position, but thank you for offering.

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ZebraBorgata@reddit

Think it? Absolutely! Say it out loud to those people I work with? No.

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DPax_23@reddit

You sound rude, not old.

I've very rarely spent time with coworkers outside of work in my career. But that doesnt mean I don't like them or need to dismiss work relationships. I spend a lot of time with coworkers.

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addage-@reddit

Agree, one of the things I’ve also learned is the “will it help” rule.

Just because I feel something if there is no upside, even if absolutely true, then I keep my mouth shut.

There really isn’t an upside with pissing off your coworkers. Especially if you need the job.

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robsker@reddit

Sound advice!

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DPax_23@reddit

Same. Creating problems for no reason sounds exhausting.

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DreadpirateBG@reddit

Yes and I find I get angry fast when this shit headed my way due to others being clueless.

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phoenixdiceflow@reddit

You don’t have to like anyone at your workplace but that attitude will turn you into a boomer Karen quickly, if you’re not already there.

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robsker@reddit

No. You can get older while also valuing people enough to make them think they’re not just background noise in your world.

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technonoir@reddit

I should be… I’m still in the “it’s weird that I’m the same age as old people” phase of my life. 53 and I have more in common with people 20 years younger than me. I’m told I don’t look old. I feel old, but not so old that I’m tired of all this shit yet…

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koalena@reddit

I was at this stage at my very late 20s, apparently. Said on a job interview that I would not socialise outside of work, would not attend any team building whatevers, I have friends, don't need work buddies. Got the job, btw.

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AQualityKoalaTeacher@reddit

Yeah, but it has a different effect on me.

I'm too old for negativity, petty behavior, and unkindness.

I minimize contact with negative people and maximize contact with kind, supportive ones. It has made a tremendous difference in my quality of life.

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CakeSeaker@reddit

Dick move.

You could have said it like “I’m only here because I get paid”. Not, “you guys ‘s personalities are so bad I wouldn’t talk to you if we didn’t work together”.

Even if you didn’t mean it this way, it sounds like you’re so self absorbed you couldn’t stop to think about the people next to you.

TLDR: dick move.

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HandshakeOfCO@reddit

“But I’m just being honest! Geez!”

Yeah dude is a tool. Even when their livelihood or day to day comfort depends on it, some people can’t keep their ego in check

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Araneas@reddit

Older X reached that point a decade ago - It's great!

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Fickle-Rest6271@reddit

Looks like you need an effinbirds calendar

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freerangeXkid@reddit

The last 10 years of her life, my MIL would say "I'm glad I'm on my way out!" whenever she watched the news. I've adopted it

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someguythatiknow@reddit

You’re not too old, you were just being a dick

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overmonk@reddit

Time for my favorite Spanish phrase.

¿Por qué no los dos?

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someguythatiknow@reddit

Perfecto

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BooRadley_Esq@reddit

It can be both but employment doesn’t automatically = friendship.

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someguythatiknow@reddit

Nobody is saying it is. But why say it out loud to them?

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largos7289@reddit

LOL careful are you vested at work yet? i got 7 more yrs for me before i can pull that kinda attitude. Looking for work when your 50 is not fun in this climate. Agism is very real.

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ravenwillowofbimbery@reddit

Yeah, I have a friend/ colleague (in another department) who basically told the people in her office that she didn’t socialize with them because she doesn’t hang out with people she doesn’t like. Not only was that an asshole move, it was incredibly stupid career wise. So, now her department is changing and no one wants her around. She’s miserable but she’s brought most, if not all, of that on herself due to her arrogance and her mouth. Some things are better left unsaid and, after having served on a few interview panels, I can attest that ageism is definitely real. Oh and this colleague is over 50, has an older husband and needs the job. She

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5lashd07@reddit

Despite the Civil Rights Act of 1964 and the Ann Bark case against Cisco.

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happycj@reddit

Yep. Tried to move some furniture the other day. A couch and two dressers.

Nope. Never again.

Bending way down to get my hands under a couch and then trusting my left knee is going to be able to rotate into standing position again while carrying the weight of the couch? Nope.

And the dressers turned out to be crap particle board and anywhere you grabbed it and tried to lift, the particle board broke off in your hand. Nope.

Not helping friends move anymore. Not buying crap furniture anymore. Nopeitty nope nope nope.

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stonymessenger@reddit

This is what caused my disc problems in my lower back.

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myleftone@reddit

No. That’s boomer talk.

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Guardsred70@reddit

Yes. When people want me to deal with school-aged children….especially to watch them sing or dance or play with balls.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

You get to dance and play ball with kids all day? That sounds heavenly. Unless the kid has shit parents.

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BasketBackground5569@reddit

Dude. Not that much. That's job losing speak. Too old to be out of work in 2026.

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NoStyle79@reddit

I started off my working life in this mode.. although I'm not an asshole about it and talk to people so they understand it has nothing to do with them that's me and how I maintain my world.. Too many people walk around assuming everyone understands emotions and feelings but the truth is most people have no clue how the shit in their own mind works and why. You may not care and then don't be surprised when the world don't care about you as well. You get the exact treatment you give so give it in a way you'd want to receive it.

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lsp2005@reddit

You have gotten old. You can think this all you want. But I would never say something like this out loud to their face. You likely are now on a list for potential candidates to RIF. This is toxic energy that no one wants on a team.

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

You sound like a great supervisor for young people. I hope your company recognizes that.

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lsp2005@reddit

Thank you.

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Historical_Monk_6118@reddit

I did several years ago... now I'm too old to say I'm too old for this shit.

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BlownCamaro@reddit

Whatever!

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TheGreat_Powerful_Oz@reddit

Been there since the age of 11

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Lizakaya@reddit

At my retirement party (I’m now semi retired working part time for a friend), a now ex colleague asked me, “why didn’t you come to any of my events? We always missed you.”

Let me introvert in peace, man.

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One-Pepper-2654@reddit

Enough with the fucking birthday cards and birthday cakes in work. Yes, say happy birthday but there is no need for a crappy sheet cake.

"How was your weekend??" It was fine. End of convo, I DNGAF about yours.

"Where are we going for lunch?" That question starts at 10 AM every fucking day. I don't care.

"Who wants takeout?" Not me, thanks.

"I'm selling ___________ for my kid's ___________________" No, I'm broke.

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Harambe-Avenger@reddit

We have the first 5 to 10 minutes of our monthly Zoom call just celebrating birthdays. It makes me want to send everyone a message wishing them a crappy day.

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Lizakaya@reddit

lol. Yes

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Harambe-Avenger@reddit

I’m too god damned old to answer this fucking question 😂

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Marlou1313@reddit

Have I gotten there? I guess. I’m definitely not looking to socialize. Would I actually say that to my co-workers? No, because I’m not a jerk.

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Wyndeward@reddit

Not quite, but it's close.

I can still do the crunch, the weekend warrior push, etc.

It just hurts more, to the point I start looking askance at my reflection in the mirror, muttering something about bad choices.

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lopix@reddit

Oh man, yes. I ran out of fucks a LONG time ago. Haven't found any new ones. My oldest son might have a bullshit tolerance even lower than mine, which makes me a little concerned I might have taught him to be too cynical. But then again maybe not.

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loveallcreatures@reddit

Being an asshole isn’t a flex. Mentoring the younger generation at work is fulfilling. Pass on the knowledge. I spent my last two years at work creating come if you like lunch meetings where I mentored GenZ and young millennials in how to survey bureaucracy, survive toxic co-workers and get work down without stress. They’re like having kids at work. I’ve been gone a while we still keep in touch.

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East-Garden-4557@reddit

This is the way to live life, being decent to other people and helping them

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BeenThruIt@reddit

Yes, II think I was about 4.

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Mental-Artist-6157@reddit

I'm most assuredly "too perimenopausal for this shit," but I actually enjoy my coworkers. I work in a non-profit with 2-8 yr old kiddos on the spectrum. There's a few other folks in their 50s, a bunch in their 30s & a big chunk in their early 20s. Lot of us were theater kids, so that makes for a fun crowd.

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kentuckywildcats1986@reddit

57 years old here. Yes.

I am kind of completely done with people. I've been working from home for the last 5 years, and mostly interact with a handful of people over Teams when we need to meet and discuss projects.

Beyond that, there is my immediate family who I love, and my dogs.

I have entirely lost the desire to make more friends or socialize beyond that.

Which is a big shift because in the past I was a big extrovert, always held front-line operations management positions leading teams and dealing with customers, while being a unit leader in my church for several years, which involved working with lots of people, in groups and one on one.

But several years ago I think I just burned out - and I discovered I found most interactions/relationships with others just drained my energy and gave nothing back.

Now I'm something of a misanthrope - and I find myself thinking maybe Thanos did nothing wrong.

I'd like to think maybe I'm going through a phase and I'll get over it.

But from the look of things out there, I'm thinking that maybe most people really are just selfish, stupid, pieces of shit and it isn't getting better soon.

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WaterwingsDavid@reddit

Oh im definitely there, although i wouldn't say something like that to my co-workers. Job is fine; the "too old for this shit" comes from having to exist in a large crime infested city with zero quality of life. I do wish I could retire. Id start a new life somewhere completely different.

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jrtski@reddit

Not yet, thank goodness. Sometimes it takes a deep breath and a count to 10.

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IT_learning_only@reddit

That only works if you are safe from layoffs. Even if you think it, you don't say it. You don't have to be best buddies, but your method makes enemies.

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Elchimpy1@reddit

It’s gotten downright anti-social. Went to see a movie and couldn’t stand being surrounded by people. I used to love going to movies.

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Significant-Deer7464@reddit

No question, zero doubt. I am here because I am too old to get hired by someone else. I have virtually zero personal interaction with coworkers.

I have nothing in common with people 10 years older or 10 years younger. It's not like they are begging me to join their conversation or outside work gatherings.

Must give off that "too old for this shit" vibe

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Scrappyl77@reddit

I reached that when I was like 4.

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bored2death2@reddit

....yea you summed up my feelings, but... you also but a big fat target on your back that says "lay me off on the next reduction in force". congratulations, you are going be retired soon.

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ORF1Live@reddit

Yep, I don't do things I don't want to do anymore.

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Troublemonkey36@reddit

Spreading around bad karma and negative energy on others. Dude, it’s time for you to get a new job. I do t know what line of work your in but if you’re telling people shit like that you need a new line of work or need to learn to manage your emotions better. I’ve worked in the hospitality business my whole life. I am not like that. It’s not inevitable. So yeah, this is a sign for you.

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Cats-And-Brews@reddit

In some aspects of life, yes. But I am still fighting the good fight in other areas and have not checked out yet. What has definitely changed is that "your urgency is not MY urgency".

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Nervous-Rooster7760@reddit

lol. Yes. I mean I haven’t said that directly but completely agree. I don’t want to socialize with most of people I work with so I don’t. I don’t purposely try to offend but I am not at all worried if I do.

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_higgs_@reddit

I enjoy banter with my colleagues. I’m retiring in a couple of months and it will be the only thing I miss.

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youtalkingtoyou@reddit

I’m too old to play nice anymore. Fuck it. Liberating as hell.

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icedragon71@reddit

Mid 50's, and Sure have!

About 20 years ago......

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Timely_Fishing5566@reddit

100%. I’m paid to do a job not make friends. I will be cordial but do not expect chats or bonding. Isn’t gonna happen.

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theShpydar@reddit

Whether you feel that way or not, saying it to them just means you're an asshole, full stop.

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pluckyfemme2@reddit

I forbid myself from getting on the roof now

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danielkemp90@reddit

Pretty much the same, I'm thinking about retirement almost daily...

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fuk-dee-say@reddit

I've actually "softened-up" as I've gotten older. I try to be the coolest person you spoke with today cause I don't wanna be a dick and make sure I don't act like them.

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eternallycynical@reddit

Let’s have a list of shit we are too old for.

Ill start:

Pull out couch beds and inflatable mattresses

Back seats in 2 door cars

Neighbors cutting grass at the crack of dawn

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Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit

I don’t mind the lawnmower but I’ve always been a morning person.

I’m too old to listen to the neighbors high-decibel party that stretches way beyond midnight.

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eternallycynical@reddit

This one neighbour was using the whipper snipper every morning for a week while I was in short term rental apartment. On vacation. 7am sharp. Like, what did I do to you?

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Alovingcynic@reddit

Been that way since I was 7.

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Hot-Butterfly-8024@reddit

Played another “expensive sonic wallpaper” Wednesday. At the end, the event coordinator is vibing, tells how much everyone enjoyed us, says she hopes we weren’t offended that nobody was dancing. To which I replied, “You’re kinda paying us to not be offended.”

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Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit

I think about it every day when I go to work.

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Dogzillas_Mom@reddit

Ohhhh yeah.

Earlier this week, I dumped a friendship that had become toxic. I might be the toxic one. I don’t care. Either way, the friendship is toxic to both of us to continue and I am too old for this shit. Blocked.

And I feel so, so much better.

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ONROSREPUS@reddit

No, and I am hoping I never get that way.

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bambam_mcstanky2@reddit

I guess I’ve reached the stage of my life where I understand that anything that is worth something requires effort sometimes huge amounts for little positive outcome. I’ve also come to understand that kindness and empathy are worth that effort

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adashiel@reddit

Yeah, but I wouldn't say anything like that. I mean, what possible benefit is there? When I have something grumpy to say, I just keep my mouth shut.

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JJQuantum@reddit

I’ve been that way about work for a while. The last person I met at work with whom I actually became friends I met 20 years ago and am still friends with him. It’s honestly the same with my neighbors. We will be downsizing in a couple of years and I’ll likely never see these people again. My friend group is full.

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Ok_Location7161@reddit

I dont wanna,be mean to anyone....I dont talk alot....and keep my mouth shut....for my own peace of mind

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Better_Resort1171@reddit

I'm too old to take a crap on a low rise toilet...

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Fritzo2162@reddit

Nah. That's not me. I can tolerate nearly any type of personality and I'm generally pretty friendly with everyone. I find it makes my job a lot easier when people want to work with me.

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banedarthou812@reddit

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Angry_GorillaBS@reddit

I feel like I've been too old for this shit for at least 20 years now and every day there's more shit I'm too old for

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seigezunt@reddit

That sounds more like boomerism or depression.

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LuceLeakey@reddit

OMG, yes. We hired a new contractor recently and each member of the team has to train her on different things. She kept thanking me extravagantly for "helping" her. I said, "It's my job." And she was instantly upset. "Oh! Don't say that!" Why TF not? It's true??

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Training-Finish-2754@reddit

Get off my lawn.

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freakythrowaway79@reddit

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ShimmyxSham@reddit

Don’t you want to help the younger generations? Those thar are willing to take advice. I’ve said to myself “I’m too old for rhis shit’ But I’m still a human being

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fastcatdog@reddit

Sounds like slipping into boomerism, I’ll pass!

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Pinakolonopin@reddit

As soon as perimenopause started, I stopped giving a shit completely. It was totally subconscious, it just happened. I absolutely love it.

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big_galoote@reddit

Isn't it glorious? My filter broke around the same time as well. I keep offering to work from home to minimize my contact, but they haven't accepted it yet lol

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Top-Molasses7661@reddit

I feel those things but I still have kindness and manners. I'm sure you do also, but you need a better example.

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bigkat5000@reddit

Exactly. You get paid to maintain a professional decorum and exercise sound judgement in the interest of your employer. Full stop.

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jthmniljt@reddit

Yep. I chose carefully where I spend my energy.

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tamhenk@reddit

I had a heart attack in December, age 49. Since then my attitude to people and tolerance of is very low.

I told my boss several weeks ago that I'm done putting up with people's shit. Don't think she took it seriously.

Yesterday I said something (quite rightly) which I'd never say beforehand. She took it personally, offended, and I just walked off. Couldn't give a flying fuck.

Luckily I'm in quite a high position so I can get away with speaking my mind. I just never did before, afraid to rock the boat. Now the filter is gone and it will probably get me in trouble at some point.

I kind of like the new me but I also think I'm a bit of a selfish arsehole.

I have a different perspective on life now. Only 3 people really matter: me, my son and my mother. In that order. Everyone else can do one. (Not you reading this though. You're alright).

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Njdevilmn@reddit

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Base_Ancient@reddit

I've been there for awhile, just haven't been vocal about it yet.

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StartKindly9881@reddit

YES! Happily retired at 61! Woo hoo

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tmf_x@reddit

Yeah I have, but I'm not so much of a dick to say it to people

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steveoa3d@reddit

Oh for sure, 30 years of inspections at inner city gas stations I’ve seen enough.

Working 7 more years for the health insurance!

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BooRadley_Esq@reddit

When I was 18 I worked with a guy around 50, he told me “ we aren’t friends, just guys who work together “. Now I’m in my 50’s and feel the same way.

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ApatheistHeretic@reddit

Eh. I do have some friends at work, people that I associate with outside of it and will keep in touch after we leave the place. Not many though, the default is "your an NPC drone" until proven otherwise.

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Stillmaineiac88@reddit

I’m there. I just don’t make a habit of telling coworkers, whom I don’t give a rip about, that I don’t give a rip about them. No reason not to be at least mildly pleasant to others.

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jermo1972@reddit

Well, you sound like an asshole...but other than that, good job?

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NOGOODGASHOLE@reddit (OP)

I pray you make it to asshole level someday yourself. it's amazing.

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dianaprince76@reddit

But why? Why does it make you feel good to be hurtful to others? There’s a way to be “too old for this“ without being hurtful and rude.

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krneki534@reddit

we are done wasting mental energy on rewriting a thought so your precious self is not offended, jus done with it.

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jermo1972@reddit

I would need to explain how big of an asshole I am for anyone else to comprehend it.

I don't show them.

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Zealousideal-Ice-814@reddit

Hell yes! I'm 55 and font be asking me personal questions!

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Copytechguy@reddit

I'm 48 and have started catching myself after I've said or thought something absolutely obnoxious (but necessary in each situation). I always think gee, this is a new feeling, and I think I'm OK with it.

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BerryLanky@reddit

I always treat people with kindness unless they do something not to be treated that way. But there are a lot of things I don’t care about like I did when I was younger. News for one. I realized the constant negativity with crime did nothing positive for my mental health. I don’t care about climbing up the company ladder. I’m too close to retirement. I don’t care what other people think of me and realized most people don’t think of me. Not self conscious about stupid stuff. Just enjoying life

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krneki534@reddit

yap

told my bosses that I simply don't care. give me a task and it will be done, if you have any idea, put it down in written form.

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Nonetoobrightatall@reddit

Nope. LFG.

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no_car1799@reddit

Damn

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willingzenith@reddit

Definitely. And I also learned a long time ago that there are things you say, and things you think, but never say. I’m a few years away from retiring and the last thing I want to do is get fired for being an asshole.

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jeep242@reddit

When I had my tia stroke a couple of years ago.

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BadHairDay-1@reddit

I was born too old for this shit.

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These_System_9669@reddit

I think I reached out at like 28, I’m almost 50 so yeah

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tpt75@reddit

That started 10 years ago when I was 40. Can’t be dealing with drama. Don’t have the energy for that.

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BIGscott250@reddit

I stopped taking friend applications years and years ago.

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1971stTimeLucky@reddit

Because closing yourself off to new things is definitely the key to happiness

You gotta stay open to possibilities man, otherwise you’ll miss cool shit

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butterflygardyn@reddit

My filter completed dissolved on my 59th birthday. I do not have time for stupid people anymore.

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CommitteeNew6412@reddit

Many moons ago and about a great many things

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zparks@reddit

I thought our deal was “Oh, this shit again?” all along.

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Cominghome74@reddit

I love everyone

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CptBronzeBalls@reddit

Clearly you haven't met Tom.

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wandernwade@reddit

Or OP.

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groundhogcow@reddit

Had a company takeover recently.

New HR comes over and wants to know what my career aspirations are and if they can help me achieve them.

Lady my next career goal is retirement, and if you are looking to help me achieve it you are going to have to start talking about severance.

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No_Suit_4406@reddit

Cool, nobody cares about you either, so keep ypur negative bullshit to yourself. Why do you think anyone cares about your opinion?

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kitashla42@reddit

This. Most jobs, I've spent more time with the people I work with than my friends (and sometimes family). If I am going to spend 40+ hours of my life with people, I want it to at least be a friendly, constructive environment. Bonus points if its someone I can joke with and kill a lunch hour with.

Professionally, people don't collaborate well if they think their coworkers don't like them. Nor will they ever trust any of your negative feedback or constructive criticism because they'll assume its because you don't like them.

I mean, its one thing to feel that way. I know lots of perimenopausal women feel that way. I'm getting there.

But to be that outspoken and aggressive about it is both mean and asking to be passed over for promotions and growth. Because unless you are the top performer 100% of the time, even your superiors are going to avoid you.

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DustyBottomsRidesOn@reddit

You have a point there lol.

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Weltschmerz9353@reddit

59 and feel old and cynical. I feel like I have seen it before and don't have the patience to wait it out again. Weltschmerz.

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chrispd01@reddit

To the point in life where I’m a total fucking dick to other people ? I hope not.

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Away-Test3822@reddit

I personally have met some of the most amazing thoughtful helpful people that were my coworkers and if my life wasn’t so busy and chaotic, I’d definitely choose to hang out with them for free.

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ave427@reddit

That’s my current situation. I don’t like my actual job, but I like my coworkers.

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TemperReformanda@reddit

Since I'm the plant manager, and it's my job to have a well trained and cooperative crew, you'd be giving a warning about talking crap like that. And I've given many warnings about that.

Saying ignorant stuff like that makes for an unnecessarily abrasive work environment and is almost always a sign that someone is toxic and not going to last.

There are far better ways of telling someone you aren't interested in small talk, because I really some people try to be friends with everyone and not everyone is interested.

You pride yourself making it to this level but it sounds to me more like you're just taking pride in being obnoxious. Get over yourself.

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GelatinousGoober@reddit

Yeah, about 50 years ago.

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brandrikr@reddit

I’ve been to that stage for several years now. Probably my early 40s is when it started. And I think it started about the same way, telling coworkers I’m not there to be their friend. I’m just there to work. It’s amazing how that bothers some people. Oh well, who cares?

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