How many of you always feel like you’re in trouble and live in fear of rejection?

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I do strongly suspect that I’m neurodivergent but I’ve never explored getting an official diagnosis. I resonate with all the classic AuDHD symptoms. But in a way I also feel like, doesn’t everyone? Surely everyone experiences these symptoms at some point in their life so why does it even need a label. Does that make sense?

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hakz@reddit

I do not believe everyone has ADHD no, but I think a lot of people are undiagnosed with it

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MoleDunker-343@reddit

I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what every neurodivergent person would say 😂

I was diagnosed with ADHD recently.

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double-happiness@reddit

Used to, but then I came to conclusion that I'm pretty much the best that nature could do, in those particular circumstances. I think that mentality helps a lot with things like panic attacks, because you realise it's basically your fight or flight instincts in overdrive. (One sometimes sees something similar with cats' back legs - so highly-strung they can be observed to malfunction completely).

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AroxCx@reddit

All the time and idk how to deal with it than just react

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EefahMarie@reddit

Yep. 50mg sertraline a day changed my life!

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childrenofthegravee@reddit

I’m the exact same and I have OCD

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HiddenSynner@reddit

This is all down to how much you were told off, told you were wrong, bullied etc

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PKblaze@reddit

Never. It's not something I particularly consider. The people who don't like me or reject me, well, it's their loss.

Pretty much always been this way.

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Diura@reddit

I've got SAD and I get this quite badly during September - March. Constant feeling of fear that I've done something wrong or will do and I get paranoid and believe that people think I'm a bad person or evil. Stresses me out so bad and I get a persistent physical heavy head feeling and sometimes I can't move in my house for fear of my neighbours knowing that I'm there and their thinking I'm evil and bad. Really rubbish but I get a break over the summer until September hits again.

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RevFernie@reddit

My wife is like this in response to her Dad, all the childhood trauma appears whenever he's about. Also, when she's working from home, she behaves as if she's being watched and monitored by her employer.

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GlassJeweler29@reddit

Yup, ADHD, specifically issues with executive function, puts me in these avoidable situations that I constantly get myself into.

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apple_kicks@reddit

You may need to start self help with therapy. Depending on how bad this is for you. Like annoyance you can push through vs it’s sabotaging your relationships

Mind has some resources on anxiety

Focus if you can what you can control at work. Try to challenge your negative thought spirals. List good things more often. Explore childhood incidents that may feeding into this.

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PM-ME-UR-BMW@reddit

AuADHD diagnosis in my 30s with some trauma chucked in.

This very relatable, therapy has helped a lot to understand this and address it.

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37728291827227616148@reddit

Me. All the time.

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tasi671@reddit

Yeah I've been like this my whole life. Every time someone in management asks to speak with me I assume I'm getting fired. Even after 20 years of work without this happening and with frequent praise I still assume the worse. I also assume every statement aimed generally towards a group I'm in is targeted towards me specifically. And if someone asks me if I've done something "bad" and I didn't even do it I immediately assume that they're sure I've done it and I start behaving in a guilty manner (excessive sweating, shaking, red face). It sucks. Been on meds for 30 years of my life nearly and it's never gotten better

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whitetiger89@reddit

This resonates more than I’d like to admit. I’ve spent a long time feeling like I’m constantly “in trouble” — like I’ve done something wrong even when I haven’t. It shows up exactly how you described: assuming I’m about to get fired, expecting people to leave, thinking I’m being tolerated rather than actually liked.

What I’ve started to realise recently is that this feeling isn’t actually about what’s happening now — it’s old wiring. Somewhere along the way I learned that acceptance was fragile and could be taken away, so now my brain is always scanning for signs that it’s about to happen again.

The messed up part is it becomes a self-fulfilling loop — you act more anxious, overthink everything, people feel that energy, and it reinforces the belief that something’s wrong.

I’m trying to separate “what’s actually happening” from “what my brain is predicting.” Most of the time, there’s no real evidence I’m in trouble — just a very convincing internal alarm system.

It’s exhausting, but also kind of relieving to realise it’s a pattern and not reality.

You’re definitely not alone in this.

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ErmahgerdPerngwens@reddit

Acceptance is fragile totally resonates. I have a real problem with opening up to anyone for fear of being rejected, or worse, openly bullied (which as you say is a result of old wiring)

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whitetiger89@reddit

That makes a lot of sense. I think what gets misunderstood is that it can look like being cold or distant, when actually it’s the opposite — it’s being hyper-aware and trying to protect yourself.

The “afraid of myself” part really hits as well. For me it’s not even other people sometimes, it’s the fear of how I’ll be perceived or that I’ll somehow get it wrong and give people a reason to reject me.

What I’m starting to realise though is that staying closed off feels safer in the short term, but it kind of quietly reinforces the belief that opening up isn’t safe — so the cycle just keeps going.

I don’t think it’s a personality flaw like it can feel, more like a learned defence that’s just stuck on high alert.

You’re definitely not the only one dealing with that.

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Theres3ofMe@reddit

"Acceptance was fragile ', damn thats very poignant. Very true to boot. Explains a lot as a child of divorced parents.

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Necessary_Doubt_9762@reddit

Constantly. I’m on maternity leave at the moment and I’m absolutely convinced I’ll be sacked when I go back as they would’ve realised how terrible I am at my job. I’ve also made a new friend recently and after every interaction I’m convinced they dislike me and I’ve been really weird. My brain is fun.

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mmhmmye@reddit

Yup, I have this, although usually only in specific contexts like with my parents or my husband (despite the fact that the latter is the opposite of controlling or authoritarian!). Also anytime a friend takes longer to reply to a text and sometimes when they don’t use emojis. I’ve had it since I was a kid and am assuming it’s stems from a combination of being the firstborn in a high-achieving family, having very irascible parents (dad hit us a lot as kids, mum screamed at us), and being neurodivergent (autism and adhd). It’s not always present though and seems to rear its head more when I’m anxious and/or premenstrual.

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TransatlanticMadame@reddit

It's a classic ADHD trait. Rejection dysphoria.

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MoleDunker-343@reddit

100% I just got diagnosed with ADHD after struggling for a good chunk of my adult life wondering wtf was wrong with me.

I was just doing some research into rejection sensitivity literally this minute, open Reddit and this post pops up 😅…

When I’m in a good place I don’t have it, but I’ve been through some real hard and stressful times recently, job losses to a break-up and it can be almost crippling. I feel like stress/anxiety compounds with it, because when I was in a good place I never experienced it.

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seeksadvic3@reddit

Have you found the adhd medication helpful?

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umbrellajump@reddit

Not who you asked, but I'm coming towards the end of titration now and I was surprised how much my emotions leveled out. I've been on so many mental health meds (and still am on some!) as well as having serious long-term therapy, and the underlying anxiety and fear has never been so little as when I started meds. It's not perfect but I just didn't realise how much of a wreck I'd been feeling my whole life.

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MoleDunker-343@reddit

I’m not on anything yet, I haven’t started titration.

Diagnosis is new new!

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HugsforCuddles@reddit

RSD - rejection sensitivity disorder is common amongst many - not just those of us with ADHD etc might be worth looking into (I always think I’m getting sacked yet have never been too plus similar to rest of your examples)

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RoyTheWig@reddit

I've lived my life like this, like I'm just waiting to be "found out". It's an ADHD trait. I have been listening to Alex Partridge's audiobook Why Does Everybody Hate Me. It will probably resonate with you.

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gxb20@reddit

I defo read this as alan partridge

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English_R0se@reddit (OP)

Going to check this book out, thank you

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velvetm00n_@reddit

I just finished this book yesterday and it’s life changing! Another great read is, “Are You Mad At Me?”.

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Fabulous_Flan1158@reddit

It is also a trait of atypical depression, so it may be worth to have some reflection on how you're doing generally and a visit to your gp.

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piernut@reddit

And various other issues such as CPTSD and BPD

Not sure if what the person is describing is exactly this but rejection sensitivity dysphoria is common with neurodivergent dysphoria

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lilymtyson@reddit

So you say “sorry” all the time too?

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WhatevahMingah@reddit

Have you seen your GP?

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English_R0se@reddit (OP)

No, didn’t realise I needed to

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WhatevahMingah@reddit

I understand. I would recommend it. Living in constant state of stress and anxiety is a lot to carry. There are various possible reasons for it that could be helped.

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PrincessPK475@reddit

Tell me you were afraid of a parents footsteps or tone change without telling me.

Bonus point if you're autistic, quiet or sensitive and their wrath particularly undeserved.

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English_R0se@reddit (OP)

I grew up with an abusive and neglectful mother and an emotionally absent father

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MoonInTheDaySky@reddit

You may wish to look into “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma” is a 2014 book by Bessel van der Kolk.

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seasidesunshine45@reddit

Have you read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson? I found it very helpful, also Pete Walker's book on CPTSD.

Also, have you tried any somatic type therapies or inner child work?

I also found What My Bones Know by Stephanie Foo really helpful in understanding what an emotional flashback can be like as I expected them to be visual but it's more the same feelings you had in childhood come into the present moment (if that makes sense?)

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PrincessPK475@reddit

🫂 not alone.

I still get this in waves but one day it was like I got sick of my own self living this way? I'm still highly anxious and always prepped for the worst but I started making more intentional "fuck it" decisions. Liberating AF!

Like a lightbulb moment when I was least expecting it.

A Biggie for me was realising I would rather be alone than surrounded by the wrong people.

"You will be shown who they are, believe them the first time" - Oprah

"Those who love you won't mind and those who mind don't matter" - don't know but true.... Especially in a relationship. If they don't live you for you and stay by you in all you are do you really want to live an inauthentic life anyway?

"Take your fucking space" - my best friend 🤣

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LockedOut2222@reddit

Yep, this is what I was thinking. A lot of replies about this being an ADHD things and that's a possibility. But if you grew up in a home where you actually were always in trouble and that being in trouble was dangerous, this feeling follows into adulthood.

In answer to OP's question, I think this experience is fairly common but not a healthy way to live. You can get therapy and support to alleviate the feeling.

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PrincessPK475@reddit

True that....

Likely just disproportionately experienced by ND children due to their being ND and more challenging to parent to a generation that didn't have the research, emotional aptitude and an embedded "punish it out" mindset.... Whereas others were simply raised in a terrifying household or any combination of factors.... I don't think it's any sort of trait or indicator of ND.... It's a more likely consequence of it, but certainly not unique to that situation alone.

As an adult I can certainly see how my parents were ill equipped to deal with an autistic child.... But even if I wasn't autistic, my father had anger issues and was terrifying.

I've questioned my diagnosis for a long time because trauma can change the brain and present as autistic symptoms and traits. They say the distinction is being present from childhood.... Ok... What if my trauma was also present from childhood though? 😅 - difference is - One is treatable, the other isn't.

I ran out of treatment options for the tism symptoms and treatment worked (mostly-managed is a better word) on my fear of failing everything and everyone.

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LockedOut2222@reddit

Absolutely agree that this is a much more common experience for neurodivergent children for the reasons you said.

I have CPTSD and definitely experience ADHD like executive function symptoms. I think that very likely treatment for either one would be beneficial in some ways.

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Realistic_Ad9820@reddit

This is really eye-opening to me, thank you.

My mother did a lot of really good things while raising me but she did have a temper and was regularly yelling for mistakes I couldn't easily control (forgetfulness, losing things, clumsy). I also have this constant fear of being "caught" in daily life and a high fear of making mistakes. I don't have traits of autism or ADHD so that isn't relevant for me.

Thanks for the insight! Something I can work on now that I know that it may play a part in my reactions to life happening.

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MoleDunker-343@reddit

Woah, this made me think I had memories I never thought I did 😅

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Wide-Affect-1616@reddit

Me. I'm definitely in the same boat. As others have mentioned, it could be a symptom of ADHD, which I was diagnosed with at the age of 35.

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Voltalox@reddit

I strongly suspect I have ADHD too. I'm already diagnosed with autism and wonder if I'm just AuDHD with the ADHD hiding under the autism or something.

Is it worth getting a diagnosis, given how difficult it would be on the NHS (or would it be worth going private)? I don't know exactly what it would change but maybe it'd be beneficial somehow.

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Otto1968@reddit

Yep welcome to the Anxiety club, usually with a dash of depression thrown in for good measure. I'm 57 and been this way since 10. It's just part of who I am now.

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TomL79@reddit

Yeah. 47 years old and this is me to a tee, and it always has been.

Even as a young child, I had relatives call me ‘awkward’. I had teachers at school literally screaming at me calling me clumsy, telling me I was holding my pen wrong, mocking my handwriting in front of the whole class, showing it as an example of messy handwriting.

Later on in secondary school I was called lazy, but we’d be writing in class and my hand would be cramping up from writing where I’d have to rest and I’d fall behind or run out of time. Same happened in exams. I was told I was bright but just lazy.

At school I was seen as ‘gullible’ took a lot of things literally, was a joke. Was called a ‘waste of space’. My reaction was just to keep my head down, keep myself to myself to stop having the piss taken out of me.

I have traits where I’ll flap my hands or tap myself on the shoulder amongst other things and I’ve been mocked for that over the years. I’ve been called odd by colleagues.

There’s been times when I tried to push myself forward, develop myself. I took on a temporary management role that I was offered, but then had two different departments telling me different things that contradicted each other, that I was under their jurisdiction and to ignore the other department. And they wouldn’t even speak to each other to try and sort it. In the meantime I was dealing with sickness and behavioural issues on the team which was impacting on some really good members of staff who needed some support and I felt I let them down, because I was having to deal with all the other shit that was going on and taking up my time. I was glad when it came to an end and I could go back to the day job, but I felt like I’d failed and I was returning with my tail between my legs.

I’ve been to my GP on several occasions about an autism diagnosis but they won’t do it because it’s apparently for people who ‘can’t cope’ and apparently I don’t fall in to that category because I work full time. The fact that I always put everything on me, have little to no confidence, can’t form true or deep connections or relationships appears to mean fuck all.

Every day I think, I think ‘oh fuck’. Any time there’s a meeting or my manager wants to speak to me, I automatically think, I’ve fucked up, I’ve done something wrong, so yes, I completely get that.

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Jack_202@reddit

I think it's called hyper vigilance.

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Scaryofficeworker@reddit

I can relate. I have ADHD and C-PTSD.

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Same-Artichoke-6267@reddit

This definitely needs unpacking on the mental health path in some form, to help you out. It’s a tough way to live

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MightyDevOps@reddit

Its little T trauma , if you have heavy upbringibg and you forgot all your teens / childhood you likely need EMDR , good luck.

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Justwondering2508@reddit

Consider listening to binaural beat type of podcasts, and hypnosis podcasts ,for me they have been a game changer,I often use binaural beats to relax me before bedtime and during sleep,you just need a set of ear phones / headphones and all the podcasts are free ...imho give it a try it is a real brain soother

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JohnCasey3306@reddit

This likely stems from early childhood.

My mother died before I was one, and my father was a drug addict -- so I was put into foster care until the age of 6 ... This was the 80s, it was a different time, I was "mistreated" in all the ways a child can be mistreated (if you catch my drift).

Anyway, point being, the foster mother was insanely strict; her favourite punishment was to rub English mustard into my eyes (go figure) -- so what I carry into adulthood is the near constant assumption that I'm being a "bad boy" ... ten years of therapy in, I continuously remind myself I've not done anything wrong.

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DependentMind6101@reddit

I’m really sorry that happened to you

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xeraxia@reddit

I literally said out loud 'holy shit' about the mustard part. How anyone can do this to a child is insane.

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MyNameIsNavy@reddit

I have ADHD (undiagnosed because fuck wait lists... but 100000% sure) Whenever someone says something remotely critical to me the RSD kicks in and i feel like i've done something awful and unforgivable.

When i was in a relationship i was always afraid the slightest fuck-up would lead to a break up (and it did... but it was more like a series of fuck up's on my part...)

I'm always scared that my friends only stick around because it's easier to just not get rid of me.

I live alone now but when i lived with my parents the slightest raise of voice from them would make my ears twitch and i could feel myself trying to get smaller.

It truly is exhausting but that's just how it is i guess

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v_clandestine@reddit

Every. Single. Day.

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Theres3ofMe@reddit

As a child of divorced parents who suffered from trauma as a result of this, i definitely think this largely explained why I feel anxious most of the time and much more hyper sensitive than usual.

However, I also think I/we are potentially underestimating the impact the lockdown had on us all.....

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yawstoopid@reddit

You're probably either autistic and/or adhd or have r/CPTSD. It very common for people with cptsd to have autistic/adhd traits as a result of traumatic upbringing.

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mimisburnbook@reddit

Yep, for me it’s anxious attachment style, it sucks. Sorry you’re dealing with it

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bosso_biz@reddit

For most of my life I’ve been anxious as if I’m keeping a horrifying secret that’s about to be revealed. Come to think of it though, that feeling just vanished randomly about a year ago I feel much better now.

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CapableSong6874@reddit

I want to say, you do not need to feel this way and with good conversations and time it will get better.

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hydratron@reddit

Yes. Start therapy.

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MoleDunker-343@reddit

Ah, I see we all need therapy here 😅

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beernon@reddit

Absolutely. I always feel persecuted, in trouble, like something bad is just around the corner. My dad was very harsh and horrible to me despite being a quiet autistic sensitive child so I’ve grown up to be a wreck.

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Dyalikedagz@reddit

His voice has a very specific frequency/bass and whenever I use my dehumidifier I can ‘hear’ his voice coming from it saying bad things about me.

You... what?

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beernon@reddit

I should probably get therapy

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Dyalikedagz@reddit

Yes I think that may be wise.

Good luck reddit person

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boxingpandora@reddit

I have anxiety at times and was always afraid of 'being in trouble.' I think i have imposter syndrome, but i do think that everyone feels this to a degree. Mine comes and goes, and there are times when I actually want to cause or be, in trouble. Its got better as ive got older, im more challenging, less likely to back down and my boss once said to me that I was 'a force to be reckoned with.' There are a few people who have said similar throughout my life, I sometimes think I'm overcompensating?

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Have_Other_Accounts@reddit

Yeah but I'm so used to it I don't realise.

Funnily enough the only time I do is after watching those police interrogation videos like that JCS criminal psychology. I finish the video and feel slightly more dread because of the situation the criminal is in and the tactics the police use. Then I realise wait why am I even feeling this normally, I'm completely free, I'm not a criminal whose ruined their life.

Not sure if this is related but I've noticed it also effects the way I answer questions. Because you can't be 100% certain about anything I'd answer things with "I don't know but last time I saw..." etc even if I'm virtually certain. Hard to explain over text. But essentially it makes me sound unconfident which isn't necessarily the case.

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MoleDunker-343@reddit

I used to do that too, come to think about it I may have just got used to it, like you say.

Watching interrogation videos like that does similar to me and if someone asks me questions in an accusatory tone, it can really weird me out. I used to just have a nervous laugh in the face of accusations from teachers etc too.

I relate to the confidence thing too, I’m perfectly confident when I don’t have a major life event eating at me and even when something’s beating me down I remain confident in many specific areas.

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lilymtyson@reddit

Hello 👋🏻 me too, I’m in therapy now, two sessions in the last month. Would recommend it, even at early stages. I think you’d benefit it from it too. Find someone who specialises in anxiety. I wish you the best, and for me too haha.

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redspark92@reddit

Don't have any answers but can totally relate. Definitely wasted way too much of my life worrying that I've said the wrong thing or not done something correctly or that I've pissed someone off or that i'm gonna get reprimanded for something. It's quite draining and anxiety inducing when it takes over. Finding something to distract me can help, but i find getting a good sleep seems to work best, though that won't necessarily stop those feelings coming back, in my experience at least.

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Cunthbert@reddit

Yeah, diagnosed ADHD in my 30s

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Great-Science-8586@reddit

Anyone can get caught up in catastrophe thinking, whether or not they have ADHD or are autistic. You might find this recent article useful 👇https://www.theguardian.com/wellness/2026/apr/14/what-is-catastrophizing-how-to-stop-it

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Davidrabbich81@reddit

I’m 44. I’ve managed to get a good job, decent salary, been married 21 years, have two beautiful intelligent daughters and I feel inadequate 99% of the time.

I was an only child and have always struggled making meaningful or long term friendships. No one ever really reaches out, I have to do the leg work to keep things going. I lost my mum to cancer 6 years ago. She was the one person that understood that feeling because she was the same.

But I’m good at my job, so I’ve always managed to keep a little voice inside me, telling me I’m not worthless.

It’s hard, and it gets harder as you get older, but you have to find that voice, that thing that keeps you buoyed.

I hope this helps in any small way.

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FunkyYoghurt@reddit

I'm the same as you. I know I can do my job. I know I'm good at my job. I know colleagues and service users like me. I passed my year probation recently and senior managers have commented how good I am.

If a manager rings me or messages me "Can you come and see me?" I immediately shit myself with "I'm going to be fired." If Duty rings me that increases ten fold.

To defend myself: I hate it when management speaks to employees like they're school children in trouble. I'm being promoted this year to service lead and I am going out of my way to NOT speak to colleagues like "I need a word" like some service leads do. Fuck that kind of language.

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marvelatmymarbles@reddit

Yes, me. It’s exhausting. I’ve got ADHD so I’m sure that’s probably why

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Top_Mirror211@reddit

This is me. That’s why I keep my guard up it’s a way of protecting myself.

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blazesboylan91@reddit

Spookily familiar.

Being deadly serious, have you considered seeing your GP about your mental health. It’s so draining and wasteful for you to go on feeling like this.

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Poo_Poo_La_Foo@reddit

Just try and root yourself in reality. Ask yourself if there is a legitimate, measurable reason for feeling X way.

Eg. Job = can you tell if you are actually failing at anything? Have you had bad feedback? Have they told you you're underperforming? If not, you can put it out of your mind.

If people don't like you, it's okay. Not everyone likes everyone. Obviously, don't be a dick, but if someone just doesn't take to you - fine.

Honestly try not to worry too much - life is short! Enjoy it!

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Additional-Guard-211@reddit

I came to say RSD within ADHD but plenty have beat me too it. ADHD is not just the things thats in the name, personally i am in favour of changing the name because of things like this but we are no where near that yet. See Alex Partridge if you need a video domonstration.

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badreligionlover@reddit

Neurological trait of either ADHD or ASC. I am diagnosed with Aspergers long before it became unpopular, and unregulated reactions like these are the most difficult to deal with. I still have it now and I am 42 years old.

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krypto-pscyho-chimp@reddit

Yes. But then I have early attachment trauma, complex post traumatic stress Disorder, OCD, recurrent depressive disorder, psychosis in long term remission, possibly probably autistic and very likely have dissociative identity disorder. Really hit the jackpot of acronyms.

Rejection sensivity dysphoria is common to all of it.

I am hypervigilant a long. My body is just waiting for the next confrontation.

It really sucks and skews your perspective a great deal.

Thankfully, with a year of weekly therapy, I'm able to spot it more easily for what it really is.

If this is impacting your daily life, please seek therapy. I wish I could have done it 30 years ago.

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SJTaylors@reddit

I think everyone's always looking for a reason in the comments. I feel like this every moment of my life, I don't have ADHD, I come from a loving family with wonderful parents.

I just have a shit personality and thought process.

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Annabelle_Sugarsweet@reddit

Not at all, just live in the now and enjoy myself - however I had a very loving mum and nice childhood where she encouraged independence and any failures was just a learning opportunity.

Friends I know who are like this always seem to have their mums voice in their head telling them they’re rubbish. Seems to take a lot of self help and working on yourself to understand where it comes from and unlearn those behaviours. Also connecting more with your own self and worth.

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Winter_Parsley8706@reddit

Take it from a 41 year old, this is an exhausting way to live. It could be Depression/Anxiety/ADHD or all of them. Go and see your GP before it gets out of hand

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Responsible_Bird3384@reddit

It definitely shouldn’t be normal. I used to worry more when I was younger, but I’m in my 50s now and have zero fucks to give (unless it’s genuinely important). I just make sure I’m always decent to people and if I have an occasional bad moment, I own it, apologise and move along.

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Cal2k1@reddit

Yes! I thought it was just me so as awful as it sounds I’m glad you made this post. Thank you.

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jesuseatsbees@reddit

To an extent I do. I’ve had a decent amount of therapy so I know where it all comes from and I no longer have the anxiety with it, but I do live with the assumption everyone hates me and would rather I weren’t around, and despite the therapy I still go looking for evidence that I’m right. If you can access (good) therapy then I do recommend it.

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thegamebws@reddit

Can relate especially as an immigrant from abroad to the UK as a kid and having an accent. You always feel "natives" with proper accents are laughing at me. Lol I know it's crazy but amazing how vulnerable the human brain is , it lets you get anxious on trivial things like the world is ending.

Also attended boarding school at school which was very strict we weren't even allowed to have a personality and you would always be in a state of imposter syndrome and fear of being different than others.

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Mental-Voice-7037@reddit

I'm pretty sure most people don't have a feeling of constant anxiety, although I do. It's hard.

A little bit of anxiety is normal and healthy as it acts as a motivator, but if it's debilitating or impacting how you live your life you might want to speak to a professional (like your GP) about it for some support.

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Katena789@reddit

Surely everyone feels like this when they're low in their life (another poster was talking about feeling like this when they're stressed, maybe also unemployed etc - I'm extrapolating to meaning whenever life is a bit shit and you're tired and worn and low)

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