What's a rule you were given as a child that you've made with your own kids?

I’m 21 and I’m still not allowed to answer the front door, mostly for the fact that it could be a bailiff though 😂 anyone who has access to the house goes through the back, that’s the rule lol

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herwiththepurplehair@reddit

Manners will carry you far in life. Please and thank you cost you nothing.

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SensitiveCamel8043@reddit

Don't have kids but when I do it will be: if you or your friends are too drunk/high or in a dodgy situation, call and I will come, no questions asked.

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TheLastObsession@reddit

THIS! I don’t CARE what mess you’re in, CALL ME AND I WILL GET YOU AND YOUR FRIENDS!!

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My parents did this, only needed to call once because I didn't realise I'd missed the last train. But it meant I was never scared to call and actually took friends home with me that I knew were drunk/high since they'd get told off by their parents but my parents would help them

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Lady-of-Shivershale@reddit

Hey, me too. The film ended later than we thought so we missed the train. Two dads came to get us.

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keithbelfastisdead@reddit

gay dads are the best dads

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4321zxcvb@reddit

Dads who show up are the best dads

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blitzwig@reddit

What if they're growers, not showers?

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keithbelfastisdead@reddit

GAY DADS ARE THE BEST DADS

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4321zxcvb@reddit

If you insist. I’d argue being a good has little to do with sexuality but as you used ALL CAPS I’ve missed something or it really matters to you to be right .

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Gingerpett@reddit

They are exaggerating for comedic effect! Yay!

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UnusualSource7@reddit

Until you start getting touched twice

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Out-For-A-Walk-Bitch@reddit

It so rarely happens - I love when comments make me exhale laugh.

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MillsOnWheels7@reddit

💀

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summers_tilly@reddit

As a parent to toddlers who wants to be like your parents, would they tell your friend’s parents what had happened? Eg that they’d had to pick them up drunk/high? Not for them to get in trouble but in case there were any other concerns. For context I grew up hiding absolutely everything from my parents so it’s hard for me get my head round sometimes.

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HauntedBiFlies@reddit

Nah bc then the friends will pressure your kid to not come to you when they need help.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Not my parents

There's much less parental contact in secondary and beyond

My parents were other people's safety as well as i have been for my kids friends whose parents were not LGBT aware/open etc.

My kids think its hilarious what me and their dad got up to - cautionary tales and all that.

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dekker87@reddit

those 'cautionary tales' have got me into trouble with my sons mum....apparently that;s encouraging bad behaviour.

i mean personally i'm quote proud i managed to take 15 ecstasy tablets in 6 hours and not die but seems i'm in the minority there...

that's obviously a joke.

it was 8 hours.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Oh lordy ! Yeah there has to be a moral to the tale - dont do stupid shit not everyone has 9 lives !

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dekker87@reddit

think i've had about 18 so far tbf!

but yeah - agreed.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Truth mate - never thought id still be mainly alive and in 1 piece at 55 !!!

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dekker87@reddit

not sure 1 piece is 100% accurate tho...

in the last few years i've been diagnosed with psorisis, type 2 diabetes, had all my teeth replaced with implants (long story), lost the sight in one eye due to a contact lens infection and i'm currently in agony having managed to fall out the loft putting the xmas decs away and ripping my rotator cuff in my shoulder to pieces. that should take 12 weeks to heal but i keep going to football at the weekend and throwing my arms about in frustration at the sub-par referees in the championship and tearing it again. Was actually on Sky Sports last week celebrating a goal and you can see me grimace in pain as i throw my arms up. My team are going up this year and Sky keep using that shot when showing the highlights of our season so far....much to everyone elses amusement ffs.

Still smiling and enjoying life tho!

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Oh mate !

That's shit !

Try being married to a Spurs fanatic right now !

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dekker87@reddit

Most of my mates are spurs fans so im having great fun...the fact were potentially replacing em makes it even more fun.

Get yourself one of those Ange masks that Cundy keeps wearing on talksport! Thatll cheer em up lolol

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

🤪🤪🤪🤪

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Painal-Performer-69@reddit

Don't tell, wouldn't tell.

The kids need to learn to negotiate that stuff themselves. Of course they'll get it wrong - if no crimes have been comitted shtumm

My son played Magic the gathering, and did comic con stuff htere were a group of about 20 boys and girls who liked that. Other schoolfriends of my son Rugby players and sporty types the sort who did drugs too some of them were accused of raping/sexually assaulting a girl in their cohort. Never heard the outcome.

In that situation I guess - I'd have taken him to a police station and came forward.

He dodged that particular bullet because he had a girlfriend and they had the whole sexting thing at 14 and we were able to sort that family to family. Another Friends son was sent unsolicited images, by a girl Bella who fancied him but felt nothing for her. The boy fancied a girl Amy so he forwarded the image to her, and she told her mum. Mum like Kyle's mom told the Police.

The police triaged the situation - decided because of the ages of the children - no public interest in arrests/prosecutions. Passed the matter to the school's safeguarding team, who confiscated the phone and called in parents. My friend who was estranged from his wife went to the school heard the story. They deleted the images and applied whatever guidance was needed and that was the end of the matter.

When your kids turn to teenagers - that's the moment you raise it takes a village to raise a child.

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Randy_The_Guppy@reddit

I'd definitely tell the parents of a toddler if they had got too drunk or high. I have told mine if they are going to drink then it's max 2 cans of beer or a glass of wine.

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awesome_am_I@reddit

No, my parents never told. They wanted to make sure all my friends had a safe place to go if needed. Especially my mum, I'd have friends often over to visit when things weren't great at their homes and stuff. Because of this some of my friends would go to my mum for advice and stuff, they knew she'd listen and not tell anyone and try to help.

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NugzYKnot@reddit

Your mum sounds brilliant. You're lucky

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therealhairykrishna@reddit

My parents never did with my drunk mates. But probably only because they didn't have any worries that there was a big issue.

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Alwayslearnin41@reddit

I would never tell other parents. I did once call my child's friend's Mum to thank her for looking after them, then we had a chuckle at the behaviour and moved on.

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CountTruffula@reddit

Your parents sound fucking great

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Sorry_Information749@reddit

Don't think it even needs to be said unless your an a-hole parent. Mine never said it to me and I still knew theyd pick me up when I was in trouble, as they did mutliple times.

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Shimozah@reddit

From my own experience of being young, I very much disagree with this. Being clear on things like this is always important, rather than relying on assumptions. It lets kids know explicitly rather than leaving space for doubt.

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Sorry_Information749@reddit

hmm guess depends on the family. Just saying it isn't going to magically make a bad parent a good one though.

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banananey@reddit

I'm going to have the same when my kids are older. I'd rather have them home safe than not have them home at all.

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Xenc@reddit

Love this! Better to be open and safe than hide things and risk safety

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Remarkable_Chance401@reddit

This is exactly what I told my 15yr old, I quite often end up being taxi for all the mates too but I like to do it, I now know all the group ( who are nice kids when you get to know them). I have helped them out when friends were too drunk and stopped a 15 yr old girl from sleeping outside as she was too drunk to go home She wasn't part of the group but they found her and wouldn't let her stay on her own in that state. I'm so glad my kid trusts me enough to call any time/ any situation. I wouldn't have it any other way.

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coffeeebucks@reddit

It does make a difference to get to know the friend group, and if done right it’s not cringey. I was always grateful that my parents never complained if an extra couple of friends needed a lift or stayed the night at a weekend, and I want to be that kind of parent in the future.

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Remarkable_Bet_4131@reddit

The dark knight arises.

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dekker87@reddit

always said that to my son.

dont care what you've done...dont be scared to call me and ask for help cos i'll never have a go at you.

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Pixiebel81@reddit

On a sort of related note if I had kids I'd tell them to always use me as an excuse to get out of a situation they don't want to be in

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CallsHerselfPerditaX@reddit

I do that with my kids. I've told them to blame me if they need an excuse.

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Painal-Performer-69@reddit

I was that Dad too. I explained it thus.

I always pointed out the shrines where local teenagers were commemorated having died in Various collisions.

I said "call - I'll always come" - I'd rather deal with your drunken/high/vomiting friends than explain to your friend's grieving parents how it came to be they died while out with you"

Son never needed me. However there were a couple of situations where he was in over his young head, Muslim friend, while Parents were in Pakistan - drunk so much alcohol - they thought he needed to go to casualty. They also called boys dad because he was a Doctor - he wasn't he was a PhD in Crystallography. I told them to stand down the Phd. Boy was conscious and we just walk

He was conscious and pretty alert. Made him take small sips of water, put my coat around him to stop him going hypothermic, as it was cold in january and alcohol lowers body temperature.

Arranged for the lad to stay at PhD dad's house once he was over the worst of his self induced alcohol poisoning. Told him if asked what happened said he had picked up a food bug.

Told my son to have a serious talk with him a couple of days later - use alcohol responsibly don't make a dick out of yourself. Drink, enjoy yourself, don't talk shite, don't get involved in confrontations. Behaviour my son saw with my family.

I dealt with the situation and never felt more like winston wolfe in my life

2 months earlier, he was the lad who ordered 24 beers of the world to our house. Told son - that happens once, and I removed all the identifying marks from the packaging, before dropping off. Told son he'll probably be an imam by the time he is 30. I know the perils of western corruption ... although it was all inside the boys head.

Last year my son went abroad to Germany for a client meeting, drank them under the table and along the way their engineer coughed up the operating margins they client worked on. Never been prouder of the boy. Espionage agent for the UK

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Alwayslearnin41@reddit

This has always been my rule, although it wasn't my parent's rule.

I've rescued more of my kid's friends than my actual child.

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Bowzerthebrowser@reddit

Me and my mate snuck out with a bottle of Vodka, her mum found us at 3am in a dodgey area. She picked her daughter up and left me by myself, I was 14 and about 40minutes walk from home.

I went close to home and waited in a bus stop for one of my sisters to wake up and let me in.

My mum happened to be awake as my older sisters boyfriend had just got back after breaking his arm that day.

She was absolutely furious with my friends mum. I still hadn't felt comfortable to call my mum that night though. I hope my kids ring me

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phatboi23@reddit

She picked her daughter up and left me by myself, I was 14 and about 40minutes walk from home.

fucking hell what a shitter of a person.

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Bowzerthebrowser@reddit

Yep, we had been drinking too! Our fault for being our but as an adult and a parent now I can't imagine how she thought that was okay in any way

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Gurmergur@reddit

I have to ask, did your mum confront your friends mum in any way? Can't imagine leaving that without saying something...

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Bowzerthebrowser@reddit

She phoned her and had a go at her but my friends mum wasn't exactly the full picnic

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missyrainbow12@reddit

We still have this rule and my eldest is 26 now aha

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International-Wear57@reddit

Not much I can do - apart from warn them about the dangers & side effects of drinking.

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adreddit298@reddit

We have a codeword with our boys, if they text it or call and say it, we'll be there ASAP without question or judgment. It's meaningful to us, but an otherwise innocuous phrase. It means they can ask us for help even if they don't want to look like they're asking for help.

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lonesome_okapi_314@reddit

My dad did this, he became the go to for if the group got too messy. Patience of a saint.

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mbrowne@reddit

We did this with our kids, and the one time it was needed, it worked.

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J8YDG9RTT8N2TG74YS7A@reddit

A good one I've seen on other subs is to let them know that if they are being peer pressured into doing something and they need an excuse to leave, text a code word so the parent can angrily shout at them down the phone and demand they come home right now to deal with it.

This allows the child to get out of the situation and blame it on the parent.

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ColdFix@reddit

I see folks scold their dog when it doesn't recall immediately then wonder why they have a recall problem. This is potentially similar but the stakes are much higher - you'll make a great parent.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Yes this!

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PacificNWCryptid@reddit

Honestly the best rule. My mother had it and I remember calling her scared as a teenager because I ended up alone at night with some very bad people. She immediately picked me up and nearly 20 years later, she has never asked me a single question about it.

I am going to have the same rule with my children.

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forget_it_again@reddit

My mom always said

What you want and what you get are two different things...

And she was right, 100% of the time

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gameofgroans_@reddit

Don’t have kids but do have younger family that I’ve always had this with. There’s a bit of distance between us now but I said call me and I’ll stay on the phone and try sort an uber or whatever and make sure you’re safe. I never had this as a kid and there were a couple times we called friends parents and they helped so much.

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_Happy_Camper@reddit

This is one my parents never said, but it’s one my wife and I agree will be a given when our kids are older

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Visible_Star_4036@reddit

Do have a kid, same.

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HeWhoHasABeard@reddit

That it’s against the law to put the inside light on in the car

Only because the little shit is 4 and will just keep turning it on and off on repeat

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DoctorOctagonapus@reddit

At this point you might as well just take the bulb out

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rich1068@reddit

Ha! My kids (12, 14, 17) still believe this.

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Perfect_Ground692@reddit

I assumed it was (or at least, frowned upon) as it might distract other drivers being able to see in your car or something

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AinmSuimiuil@reddit

My wife is 30+ and she is still convinced this is true - sometimes I turn it on when driving if I need to for some reason and she acts like I'm going 90mph in a school zone haha

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bacon_cake@reddit

There should be an interior light override next to the window override!

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Novel-Early@reddit

😹😂😹

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Soggy-Mistake8910@reddit

As the nights draw out, does that mean he can come home later and later each night?

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PaddedValls@reddit (OP)

I'll probably give him a limit of being in the front door no later than 10pm.

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360Saturn@reddit

Stockings are from Santa but gifts under the tree are always from family, and we never pretended Santa brought those too. To be honest I was surprised to learn other families don't do this.

Also, Christmas isn't about mum and dad/parental figures buying gifts for kids, it's everyone buying (or making) gifts for each other.

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smellorapuple@reddit

Same here, stocking was from Santa and presents on Xmas day were from my parents.

My mum use to spread the presents over the whole course of the Xmas time off, so you would get a present every day until you went back to school. It worked really well, so one day I would get socks, my brother would get a film and my sister would get lego and then it would change round for the next day. So then in the afternoon we would sit and make the lego together as a family and then watch the film after dinner all together. When I think about it, it was ingenious and it meant you played and enjoyed everything you got

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Behind_The_Book@reddit

My mum brought us up that she ordered the toys from Santa and he made them and delivered them on Christmas Eve.

Still had the magic but I knew that the gifts were from my family

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lukemelon@reddit

My parents used to buy them but send them to Santa. That's why I'd never see them at home 🤔🙄🤣

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Behind_The_Book@reddit

Once we found them (she didn’t hide them very well, they were under a blanket in her bedroom) and she said “santas really busy this year so he asked my to hold onto some gifts and send them at a later date” Little 6 year old me NEVER questioned it although mum got a better hiding spot in the subsequent years 😂

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360Saturn@reddit

I'm really tickled by that!

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Behind_The_Book@reddit

I now joke that Santa was Amazon 😂

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smeghead9916@reddit

Santa in the movies always brings ONE simple gift, handmade by the elves. I as a child always thought it strange that movie children got one gift from Santa while I got loads.

Besides, elves don't make tablets and playstations.

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captainstupidbeard@reddit

Father Christmas stocking family checking in. Best time of the year and meant we could show actual gratitude to whoever for the bigger presents under the tree. Father Christmas brings little bits for everyone.

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TheMightyShrub@reddit

I also never understood families where it was all from Father Christmas! Presumably this means that as a child you get gifts from grandparents, aunts and uncles etc, but just nothing from your parents because Santa did it instead? Never made sense to me

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Magnetrans@reddit

This is fantastic, I'll definitely grab that idea!

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CaptainMikul@reddit

Fellow "Stockings from Father Christmas" child!

Ain't no way my parents, who had to work overtime to afford Christmas, were letting a fictional character take the credit for the tree presents.

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when_music_hits@reddit

I was told to never ever lie. The wife and I have enforced that with the kids. Of course I lie prolifically in job interviews, but then so does the employer. The kids don't need to know that.

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MaximumTop6714@reddit

This can be really detrimental. Children need to learn to lie in a safe space so that if they are ever in a situation where they need to lie to protect themselves, they can. I tell my child, tell me a lie so she can practice. Some people are just no good at it. If someone asks you where you’re going or what you’re doing or just anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s a good life skill to be able to lie without much effort or thought. Yes there are bad lies, but there are also good lies too. It’s worth considering.

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The__Pope_@reddit

I feel like the likelihood of a child needing to tell a lie because they're in danger compared to the amount of lies they would tell day to day if they can it isn't really worth it

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MaximumTop6714@reddit

Maybe not as young children but once they start walking to school or enter into adulthood it certainly becomes more apparent. The key is explaining that not everyone has good intentions and therefore lies can be useful, and in teaching them and giving them the opportunity to learn this as a skill, it can take the fun out of the situation. Hence why I say to my child tell me a lie, rather than asking if she has lied. She knows it’s a moment to practice, not because she is trying to keep the truth from me. I’m 33 and last year a dodgy man at a bus stop was asking me very personal questions, I lied. Because it was dark and we were alone, I wouldn’t have trusted him not to turn if I became abrasive or rude or not wanting to answer. So lying in that scenario helped and made me feel safer. You never know when you might just need to lie.

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PhillyWestside@reddit

I mean my parents told me not to lie, but I was still able to figure out if some dodgy guy asks me where I live I shouldn't tell them or tell them a lie. I didn't need lieing practice lessons for that.

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coffeeebucks@reddit

It’s very nuanced. I don’t think I could explain this kind of concept to a kid younger than about 8, but around that age they should start to get it

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accepts_compliments@reddit

I know this is a niche outlier here, but just to offer a different perspective - autistic kids struggle with the concept of white lies that people tell every day to save people's feelings/manage relationships, and this can become a problem really quickly as they get older and lose the tolerance people have for little kids.

If a friend's mum asks them if they like her cooking, and they don't, they need to know that telling the truth isn't always in the best interest of the vibe, so to speak.

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MattSR30@reddit

This is a big reason why I am so precise with language, and why if I am close enough with them, I ask my friends to not lump me in with statements they make.

Adding "...right?" at the end of a sentence severely changes how I interact with it. To use your example, if my friend said "this is delicious!" that's easy for me to navigate. If they said "this is delicious, right?" then suddenly I'm in a spot that my brain does not operate well in.

This happened to me the other day where my friend said to me "isn't this person gorgeous?" and I just went silent. I found them to be very far from gorgeous and it feels nearly impossible in my mind to lie there. My friend went "so just silence, huh?"

Don't ask me to agree with you!

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when_music_hits@reddit

Full respect.

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georgexsmiley@reddit

Yes. You are right. Thank you for being sane. The whole "I have imagined a highly improbable hypothetical situation to appear important on the internet" is 1/3rd of the problems on the internet. (The other 2/3rds being porn/kiddie porn/revenge porn and simplistic political extremism.)

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Dazz316@reddit

It's not, but then it all depends. It doesn't need to be danger. It can be to spare people's feelings. Like when they turn to an age and stop believing in Santa, do they HAVE to be truthful about it to their younger siblings?

the way I tell it to my kid is that often you can lie and what you're scared of will be worse down the line. You can get into a little trouble for stealing that chocolate now or more trouble for lying and stealing it.

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Dazz316@reddit

My parents called these "little white lie's". It's a hard thing to enforce as there's no clear set rules as it's situational.

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when_music_hits@reddit

I disagree, the kids are doing fine, too.

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MaximumTop6714@reddit

I’m glad they’re doing good, I didn’t doubt that and don’t doubt you have the best intentions. Like I said it is worth a bit of consideration and maybe some further research into it for clarity. This isn’t to say you should let your children lie whenever they want, it’s just about practice under the right conditions that are explained to them in a way they can then learn and understand. I’ve known many women friends specifically that cannot lie and it hasn’t always ended well when people make them uncomfortable for one reason or another.

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when_music_hits@reddit

I don't suppose it's best for all occasions all the time. It is a double edged sword, I'll happily stick to what's been best for our household all these decades though. Thank you for your advice.

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lavender_cookie_@reddit

I wish my mum then explained to me as an adult that little white lies are ok. I was very I CAN'T LIE ABOUT ANYTHING EVER 🤦‍♀️🤣

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Historical_Panda9701@reddit

What about if the elephant man asked you if he looked nice in a dress?

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TheGreatBatsby@reddit

Would you say, bearing in mind that he’s depressed and got respiratory problems, would you say "take that blusher off, you ugly misshapen-headed elephant tranny?"

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Historical_Panda9701@reddit

Exactly. I'd say "You look nice... John".

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Necessary_Body6312@reddit

I’d say “Don’t stand against the light you little heartbreaker, I can the junk in your trunk.”

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Voltalox@reddit

Meanwhile my mum scolds me for not lying about things, lmao. Stupid autism.

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Laurenamy_p@reddit

Currently pregnant, she will not be having a phone until she goes to secondary school and has to walk herself. Until then she doesn’t need one

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jimmynorm1@reddit

Yeah....good luck with that.

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ASpookyBitch@reddit

I’d suggest setting up a safe word. Something they can say to you if they’re in a situation where they need an out without making a scene. Something they wouldn’t say regularly, like coconut for example.

Also teach them how to set up and use the SOS feature on their phone (auto sends a text with location to set numbers. Some also take a photo with front and back camera)

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sergeant_cabbage@reddit

Manners are free. Manners are key .

Also ask for their name and remember it. Does wonders in hospitality setting.

Drilled that into my son since he was 3. He is now 8 and a very very sweet polite child.

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stellfox-x@reddit

No TV in bedrooms for us.

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tdzangel@reddit

"Almost everything is fixable, but if you lie about it... you haven't created one problem, you've created several, starting with how much I can trust you"

Wasn't a parent (too drunk), but a teacher. However, I've followed that same idealogy with my daughter and in her words "I always appreciated that I could mess up and we could talk about how to fix it, and I never wanted to lie about a mistake"

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Lilylongshanks@reddit

“If you’re not here you don’t get” (usually nice things like cake at dinner time when older teens don’t come back in time). It’s become a standing joke in our family.

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BrightLeaf89@reddit

No snacks after 4:30pm or it will spoil your dinner.

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abyssal-isopod86@reddit

A cup of milk and two biscuits then brush teeth and bed.

My son is nearly 21 now and we both still do this every night before bed.

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Altruistic_Grocery81@reddit

“Do whatever drugs you like just don’t touch heroin or crack” - my Mum.

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_Happy_Camper@reddit

Or meth!

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nhilistic_daydreamer@reddit

I’ve been around a lot of addicts in my life and in my opinion meth is the quickest life ruiner.

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International-Wear57@reddit

Absolutely not. Avoid all drugs & find healthy coping mechanisms.

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The__Pope_@reddit

It doesn't have to be a coping mechanism, most people do them to have fun

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International-Wear57@reddit

It’s better and more healthy to have fun outside of drugs. Holidays, hikes, good foods

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Anonynymphet@reddit

I think it’s disingenuous to say you can’t have fun doing the things you mentioned whilst also not enjoying something like weed or a cocktail on occasion. I can count on my one hand the number of times I’ve smoked weed/drank a cocktail in the past year, and still say I’ve had fun from both hiking AND drugs/alcohol without it being a massive detriment to my health any more than a cheeseburger.

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2cbterry@reddit

I’m gonna get high and go for a hike with a mojito in a flask

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msully89@reddit

Username checks out. I'd join you.

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2cbterry@reddit

I hope we can get through our mental trauma enough to enjoy it /s

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International-Wear57@reddit

I think a cocktail once in a while when you’re 17/18+ is totally fine. But drugs is where I draw the line personally.

In my culture, drugs aren’t viewed in a “fun” lens. It’s something that’s pretty taboo and we don’t have fun in that way at all. Drinking is as far our culture goes. Each to their own!

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msully89@reddit

Try hiking in the autumn, pick a bouquet of liberty caps, then set a camp up somewhere, make a tea with them and watch the stars. I would recommend that to anyone.

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The__Pope_@reddit

Yes you can. You can also have fun without PlayStation but some people enjoy it. Just cause you've never seen the appeal doesn't mean everyone else doesn't

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International-Wear57@reddit

I think it’s cultural. Drugs are highly looked down on in our culture. I won’t ever encourage my children to do drugs. Unfortunately nothing will change my mind on that.

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Cole-Palmer-phd@reddit

That's up to you but the vast majority of teens drink and a good portion of them take drugs. I hope you're more open minded if you ever have kids and find out they are taking drugs with their friends

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International-Wear57@reddit

When I was a teen, many teens like myself never drank or took drugs. My kids will be raised in a way they won’t seek alcohol or drugs to have fun. Teen drinking is something I can’t normalise either.

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lagerjohn@reddit

My kids will be raised in a way they won’t seek alcohol or drugs to have fun.

Teens like to rebel in my experience. Taking a hard line might be counter-productive. But then they're your kids and you know them better than anyone.

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International-Wear57@reddit

My parents raised me in this way and I never rebelled. There’s a way to do it that naturally makes a teen not want to do drugs. I’m that way, my friends are that way. So.

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Cole-Palmer-phd@reddit

I'm guessing they're Indian or something because they said about a different culture which doesn't approve. I personally knew 2 Indians who had sheltered upbringing and both had to go to hospital for alcohol poisoning because they had no experience and went wild at uni

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International-Wear57@reddit

I’m in uni right now and still never had the urge to drink. My parents didn’t raise me in a sheltered way or strictly forbid me from drinking/drugs. I was allowed to play out with friends, attend parties & have sleepovers etc. They just warned me of side effects & discouraged it.

Because of that, I just never felt a desire to do any of these things. And I genuinely feel contempt with that.

Also, I’m an African with Immigrant African parents. I’m also not religious & didn’t have a religious upbringing.

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Cole-Palmer-phd@reddit

That's why I said vast majority and not everyone. I know from experience the sheltered kids were the ones prone to overdo it when they got a taste of freedom at uni

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International-Wear57@reddit

I’m in uni right now and still never drank or did drugs. I genuinely don’t see the point in any of it.

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bill_end@reddit

No matter how you raise your kids they may decide to drink or take drugs.

Have you considered how you will deal with that situation, should it arise?

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2cbterry@reddit

Well said

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The__Pope_@reddit

Relevant username? 😂

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2cbterry@reddit

You know it my guy

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slimboyslim9@reddit

“Not seeing the appeal” =/= being aware of serious dangers of taking hard drugs and wanting to keep that out of your life. Normalising drug habits by comparing them to playing video games is utter madness.

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The__Pope_@reddit

Way to miss the point. I'm saying just because he doesn't see the enjoyment doesn't mean that everyone doesn't

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2cbterry@reddit

This is such a funny thing to say, like people who use illicit drugs recreationally are unable to enjoy a holiday without being high? They don’t enjoy good food? Or walking? What are you on about?

I mean you really didn’t need to tell us that you don’t use drugs, we can tell, you’ve got the ignorance, arrogance and judgmental attitude of a sober 22 year old.

Enjoy hiking and eating 😆

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International-Wear57@reddit

I didn’t say people who use drugs can’t enjoy holidays etc. In my opinion, it’s just not right to do drugs and poison your body.

Growing up, no one in my family touched or entertained the idea of drugs. And that’s how I want to keep it. I never see myself compatible with those who do drugs for fun.

I can’t believe grown adults are arguing with me for not being okay with drugs😭

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2cbterry@reddit

I’m not arguing with you about not wanting to do drugs, I think that’s great and doing them is not something I would ever encourage my kids to do either. It just seemed like such a strange sentence, like people who do use drugs don’t like food and holidays because of the drugs. It’s true that people who are addicts, or use crack or meth for example do find it really hard to enjoy the simple things in life but those cases are more extreme and recreational/social drug users should not all be written off or lumped together.

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Cole-Palmer-phd@reddit

Honestly, they just sound like a repressed judgemental knob

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Anonynymphet@reddit

This notion that anyone who’s ever done drugs has either mental health problems or coping mechanisms are lying to themselves. Do we say a person who has a few cocktails with friends on a weekend is coping unhealthily?

I probably smoke weed about once a year with a few childhood friends. I’m an absolute health nut, to the point I probably have less than a handful of alcoholic beverages throughout the same year, so I find this anti-drug sentiment hypocritical when alcohol is so normalised.

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courage_the_dog@reddit

Most ppl absolutely do them to cope with something from my experience not fun. Only ppl that never did drugs from my experience are ones that didn't have a serious kind of mental trauma

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The__Pope_@reddit

"Only ppl that never did drugs from my experience are ones that didn't have a serious kind of mental trauma"

Well that's just nonsense isn't it

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Fowl_Eye@reddit

Wow look at these fucking bellends disagreeing about taking very harmful and addictive illegal drugs.

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2cbterry@reddit

I think you might have missed the point my friend

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PlasonJates@reddit

What if my doctor prescribes them?

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International-Wear57@reddit

Clearly that’s different. I’m talking about illegal drugs that people take.

There’s better coping mechanisms out there.

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oneyeetyguy@reddit

What about if I wanted to enjoy some edibles and watch sci-fi? Statistically it's less harmful than drinking.

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International-Wear57@reddit

I’m against drinking too so.

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caspartina@reddit

Hypothetically, what would be your reaction if your kids did drink as a teen?

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International-Wear57@reddit

Not much I can do - apart from warn them about the dangers & side effects of drinking.

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ampmz@reddit

Taking an eccie and going to a rave is statistically less harmful than having a drink.

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Nemariwa@reddit

"don't get so high on weed you a) start talking to a wall b) smack the wall when it doesn't respond." Words of wisdom from my old man

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ProgressKlutzy3254@reddit

That’s what my dad said! Followed it with a story of his 2 mates who chained themselves in an abandoned house to get clean. One had to watch the other die. But, tbf, I never touched it, so it worked

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Novel-Early@reddit

WTH! That's awful.Why/how did one die and how did the other escape?

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boli99@reddit

how did one die

got eaten

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Bowzerthebrowser@reddit

I mean....this was surely a story to scare his daughter? Unlikely to be true

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ProgressKlutzy3254@reddit

No idea! I must have been about 10 when he said it and I was too scared to ask. Would have been sometime in the seventies so it’s not like they could have text!

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ampmz@reddit

Probably from raw dogging heroin withdrawal.

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-DoctorSpaceman-@reddit

Fentanyl time!

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2cbterry@reddit

Sound advice

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cooksterson@reddit

A few were drummed into us, please and thank you, honesty, and, if your friends start getting up to no good, walk home straight away. Handed down to my three as the bare minimum along with always be polite until it’s time to not be!

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Rough-Sprinkles2343@reddit

Don’t open the door if you’re not expecting anyone/parcels.

We have a ring doorbell now which mitigates that

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NoFewSatan@reddit

Why do people on Reddit have suh an aversion to answering their door?

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Future-Exercise-7433@reddit

Okay so there's this thing called crime, right...

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FlippingGerman@reddit

I doubt hard data exists but the likelihood of someone knocking at a door having bad intent seems really quite low. You’re better off getting people to be more careful crossing the road or walking down stairs, where the likelihood of something bad happening is quite a bit lower.

Of course everyone has different risk tolerance, but I think that decision should be made with some awareness of the actual probabilities and not just based on what’s scary.

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Slartibartfast_25@reddit

That's one of those 'yes it's very unlikely' in general, but once you actually have someone knocking on the door who you aren't expecting, the likelihood is quite a bit higher.

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FlippingGerman@reddit

This is true, it’s a useful heuristic.

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Future-Exercise-7433@reddit

Agreed. I was just explaining the incredibly obvious answer to the guy pretending not to understand

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NoFewSatan@reddit

Well I sure hope you never go outside

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MurderedByRap@reddit

What is it about people on Reddit not being able to understand the context of other people's comments.

We're talking about parents teaching their kids rules.

I certainly don't want my children answering the door to strangers without my knowledge.

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NoFewSatan@reddit

Sure, but as you see, I didn't ask about kids.

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Future-Exercise-7433@reddit

You responded to a comment on a thread about kids, which implied that you were staying on topic. Now I think you're some weirdy who knocks on random doors. As well as a weirdy who doesn't understand how comment threads work.

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BugAdministrative683@reddit

They generally do yes, but this is specific to children, and in that circumstance, it does make sense.

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DryBee1762@reddit

It's something that was drilled into me as well, and I understand it.

Even though we live in a nice neighbourhood, on more than one occasion we've had a random person ring the bell asking for some help getting some medication for them; they were not well; while I can politely decline this and point them to a pharmacy where they might get better help, a child could be more susceptible to wanting to help or being persuaded to help. Even if that person had no ill-intent, it's not something for a child to get involved in.

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Novel-Early@reddit

That is so strange! I'm 51 and have never, at any time in my life, had anybody (let alone different people on separate occasions) ask me for help to get medication. In fact, I texted my mum to ask if it's ever happened to her and dad and she said it's never happened to them, either!!!

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Then-Significance-74@reddit

"hi son, are your parents in?" "no".... who know what can happen then.

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DameKumquat@reddit

Kid has door on the chain, shuts door.

At some point they do need to learn how to answer the door, to take in parcels - and how to shut it or at least chain it while going to fetch a parent.

Youngest recently answered the door to a charming man offering to fix our roof for cheap, so went to get me or Dad, leaving the door wide open, so he could have easily nicked our car keys etc. I explained why you never leave the door open for a stranger. "But he didn't look like a thief..." I was trying to explain that thieves don't wear stripy jumpers and have a sack labelled SWAG, and a charming young lad with a Traveller accent who 'just happened to be in the area' with roofing supplies was in fact a total stereotype of a thief.

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mtmp40k@reddit

We were told we could answer the door - but had to say that dad works nights and is in bed

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CapableSong6874@reddit

You don't need a survielance company subscription, just a spy hole.

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v00g@reddit

No boiling live swans (in public places)

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Slartibartfast_25@reddit

Poisoning pigeons in the park lalaaaa lalalalaaa

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LogiCub@reddit

Just earlier today I mentioned to somebody that “Spring is here!” and I’ve been humming this to myself ever since!

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Active-Strawberry-37@reddit

They’ll break your arm!

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LogiCub@reddit

Okay party pooper, calm yourself down and let us have some fun!

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DancingWilliams@reddit

Not my parents. But my best mates dad told him "son, never drink meths". And he hasn't. Top parenting.

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smeghead9916@reddit

Wow. If it weren't for that legend of a father, he'd be a meths drinker now.

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amlamba@reddit

Isn't it super hard in the winter? I'd be cross with my parents if they had told me to be indoors at 3 pm on Christmas, because rules and tules

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J8YDG9RTT8N2TG74YS7A@reddit

You should be home at 3pm on Christmas day.

You should be in full suit and tie, standing to attention, and watching the King's speech, hand on heart.

Like a true patriot.

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smeghead9916@reddit

Ew.

No, you should be eating Christmas Dinner with a good film on. Last year was Sister Act.

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honeybonesX@reddit

Don't eat raw sugar out of the tin or you will get worms in your bum. Genuinely believed this into my mid 20s, will be using it with my own children.

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smeghead9916@reddit

The truth is scarier "or your teeth will fall out".

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CuriousCatkins96@reddit

We all had to wait till 13 to get ears pierced, and I did the same with my daughter. It really helped being a family rule, as there was no argument.

But my favourite is that we always open Christmas presents after lunch (and not until the kitchen is cleaned up). I hated it as a kid, but really value it now. My son in law loves it so much, he's committed to it for life! We do stockings when we wake up, but all other presents have to wait. Highly recommend.

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smeghead9916@reddit

My mother gave in when I was ten. I'd certainly never pierce a child that isn't old enough to ask of their own volition though.

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minglingmumbler@reddit

This. With the slight addition of one main present that will keep them occupied until Christmas dinner. So, excitement of stockings from santa, one big present, dinner, tidy, all the other presents, collapse.

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DameKumquat@reddit

We do Christmas stockings, then lunch, then the Brisk Revitalising Walk, before presents. This is more to stop the kids bouncing off the walls, but in Reception where they learn about Festivals, it was established that a walk after Christmas lunch is a vital part of English culture, so they've insisted on it ever since!

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Zestyclose_Menu_1394@reddit

Asking before you can leave the table.

I used to think parents were being petty tyrants with that rule, until I had a toddler.

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siziyman@reddit

i'd probably feel like i'm living in a supermax prison if such a rule were to be enforced (or even mentioned) in a household i was living in

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Zestyclose_Menu_1394@reddit

That's how I felt!

However, our 2yo would get halfway through a meal, remember she has a dolly in her bedroom, and then suddenly wander off to start playing with it, with her mouth full of food and hands all covered in sauce.

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anonoaw@reddit

You stay seated at the dinner table until everyone has finished eating. Dinner isnt just about eating, it’s family time to chat about our days with each other.

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mbrowne@reddit

Some of our kids' friends used to like coming to our place for meals, because we had a "talk about anything you want" idea. It allowed a lot of freedom for them, and meant that they (and our kids) always felt comfortable bring important stuff up with us.

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chase___it@reddit

slightly depressing to think that some families don’t allow their kids to chat to them during dinner

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SheffDus@reddit

Perfect

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smeghead9916@reddit

No kids yet, but I will enforce the "Breakfast before opening Christmas presents" rule. Ensure the kid has some decent food in them before they start on the chocolate.

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lemonherring@reddit

If the elastic band round your forehead pings off, you have to make the next round of teas.

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exposuure@reddit

If you keep picking your nose then your finger will get stuck up it forever.

90% of parenting is just white lies

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rich1068@reddit

"Wave to me when you reach the bridge" was one of my mum's sayings.

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dekker87@reddit

i was born in the 70's and grew up in the 80's.

used to finish school....go and play football til 6....every school day for about 5 years...we'd then go back out after dinner and usually come home around 11 or 'when the lights came on'

during school holidays we'd be out the door at 9am and not back til teatime.

during all those hours away from home our parents had literally no way of knowing where i was or contacting me....

seems alien these days eh.

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Storyteller_Luke@reddit

Sounds silly maybe but "kindness is contagious" and I really believe it.

My Son is polite and kind all the time to people and he is always treated with kindness by those people.

It's a great way to live that I've always lived by thanks to my Mum.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Thank you notes - although with the price of stamps its a whatapp message usually!

Manners - offering a seat on the bus etc.

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Bowzerthebrowser@reddit

I record my kids opening their gift from each person and saying thank you. I live the other end of the country so I want my family to see them opening it and saying thank you

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Fat_Bottomed_Redhead@reddit

My sister does this for us, she lives in Canada and we're all still in the UK. Munchkin turned 2 last December so was able to open her own birthday and Christmas presents. Sis recorded little videos for each of us so we got to 'see' her opening them and the resulting excitement/apathy 🤣😂

It sucks that they're so far, but modern technology definitely makes it 'easier' in some ways.

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Aww xxx

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Mental_Body_5496@reddit

Thats lovely 😍

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amlamba@reddit

"If a woman looks like she's old enough to be my friend you give her your seat, or else", grandma.

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SexyMuthaFunka@reddit

Not my kids but my nieces, two sisters about two years apart.
Whichever ones birthday it is they get a REALLY nice present. The other one will always get an 'unbirthday' present. Slightly cheaper but still something nice for them. It's an Alice in Wonderland reference (I think) that our dad used to do for us when we were kids.

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thegerbilmaster@reddit

Think this is an absolute terrible idea.

Not really teaching the kids that the world doesn't resolve around them

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bowak@reddit

My parents did something similar but it was usually just a easy to give us a book.

Hardly turned us into divas.

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thegerbilmaster@reddit

Not saying it would. Just don't think it's a great lesson to be teaching kids.

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LittleSadRufus@reddit

I had an aunt who did this and I found it very confusing, even as a small child. "But it's not my birthday!?"

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EmojiRepliesToRats@reddit

Great input from someone who very obviously doesn't have kids

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LittleSadRufus@reddit

I had an aunt who did this and I found it very confusing, even as a small child. "But it's not my birthday!?"

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Novel-Early@reddit

I agree. Tis like participation prizes so nobody has to go through the 'trauma' of losing!!!

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Gary_BBGames@reddit

Theres more than one way to teach them. I do this, but its only a smaller present, and have 2 polite, incredibly caring children.

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Yolanda-B-KL@reddit

When the ice cream van plays music it means it’s out of ice cream.

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BeerElf@reddit

I adapted one of my parents'. "Stay off the spirits until you're 18" became "Stay off the spirits and Class "A"s until you're 18". I also didn't like them drinking Alcopops, but I liked them to try beer and wine with me, so they'd develop a taste for the good stuff. Its mostly worked.

I also used to feed any of their friends that were here when I started dinner. Kids get hungry, and I'm not kicking people out! This led to them having parties at mine, and they always cleaned up after themselves and took their shoes off in the hallway etc, they were a smashing bunch of kids, my two were lucky.

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AnyOlUsername@reddit

Hold onto your rubbish until you find a bin

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Weird_Fun1493@reddit

Yes mum used to say that to me

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Weird_Fun1493@reddit

If I stormed off after an argument my dad always looked pleased to see me. He always drummed it into me never be angry with your kids when you see them that way they won't be scared of your reaction

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Funtimetilbedtime@reddit

Don’t tell tales and don’t tell lies! Also, I don’t want you drinking but if you do call me for safety. Your safety is more important than you being at risk because you’re worried about how I’ll react (14&12).

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BeanyCudger@reddit

Chats. Once a week instead of a story or song at bedtime, it was 'chats.' The rule of chats was that you could tell your parent absolutely anything, and you wouldn't get in trouble. That opportunity as a child can alleviate an enormous amount of stress, and really keeps lines of communication open. Made me feel safe.

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ShirleyBassey@reddit

My son has three "grandpa rules" that are directly inherited:
1) No playing with doors
2) No playing on stairs
3) No 'spraunging' - the pancake like flopping kids do when they don't want to do something

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captainstupidbeard@reddit

I love this word and will be stealing this for immediate use

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Gouldy444444@reddit

That wouldn’t work where I live. Council turned them off to save money. Don’t come on until like midnight. Little fuker would be out all night

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StorageStunning8582@reddit

Only swear when you get hurt or when it's realy funny. Not general conversation.

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Scasne@reddit

Golden rule, "do unto others", makes it easy, if you don't know whether you should do or say something then if you wouldn't like it done to you don't donor say it to others

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LichenTheMood@reddit

I don't think this one is especially useful in a moment to moment basis. Not eveyone likes things the way you do. Not eveyone wants things done the way you do.

Recognising that other people have their own preferances and thoughts is a thing children often really struggle with.

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Scasne@reddit

Obviously there's nuance but depending on what age we're talking about the easiest place to start from is to try and get them to put themselves into the other person's place.

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eaunoway@reddit

I'm a grandma now but my Mum taught me to always have a tampon, a toothbrush and enough money for a taxi home. She called it the 3 Ts. She also told us that no matter where we were, if we needed to get home we should call her and she'd figure out a way to get us home one way or another (we didn't have a car).

I miss her dearly.

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AccomplishedBeach545@reddit

If you piss on the toilet, clean it off

If you piss on the floor, sober up

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sugar0coated@reddit

I don't have kids, but I told my boyfriend it was illegal to have the ceiling light on in the car while driving. In my defence, he kept turning it on to read things/while eating while I was driving and it was doing my head in.

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uilspieel@reddit

Don't tell lies, don't steal.

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Moppo_@reddit

I'm just impressed your cat can text.

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wildflower12345678@reddit

I had far too many rules as a child. I tried to give my own as much freedom as possible. So when I said no to anything they knew there was good reason.

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That-Bid-4943@reddit

So true! If you tyrant your kids and particularly teens who are at a difficult age as it is, it gives them an incentive to break the rules. Also, giving an actual reason as to why you’ve said no instead of “BeCaUsE i SaId So” used to really grate me when my mum would do that so I would do the exact thing she told me not to do 😂 also if you give a good reason for that no, teenagers can then think about it and then be like “yeah fair enough” parents don’t give their teens enough credit I swear!

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accepts_compliments@reddit

Yeah, and as I got into my teens I interpreted 'because I said so' as shorthand for 'I have no concrete reason, I just don't like the idea of this and think you shouldn't either'. Sometimes it was in hindsight legitimate, like not wanting me to go to that illegal warehouse rave, but as the same excuse was given for stuff my dad just thought wasn't masculine enough, like taking music as a module at school, I would do everything in my power to sneak out or do it anyway. Not a father, but if I was, I'd like to think I would approach that way differently. Like you say, give them credit.

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MrKrayzeeK@reddit

No tattoos before 11 yrs old

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R33Gtst@reddit

‘Hold onto your rubbish until you find a bin’.

Also, ‘don’t be a twat’.

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sparkielev@reddit

If you're not in bed by 10pm then come home

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BocaSeniorsWsM@reddit

If there is sharing of something that requires to be cut/sliced, one person does the cutting then the next gets first choice.

Dunno if that's a rule as such, but still.

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Pitiful-Ad5290@reddit

Power cut street lights never came on .. sulked home about 10 ish instead of 8 when they should have came on 🤣🤣🤣

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EDStraordinary@reddit

My latest one is ‘we take care of our things, if it breaks through rough play it won’t be replaced’

My girls are 4 and 2 can be a bit feral and get into “it’s mine” wars frequently. The second one touches something the other immediately wants it and then they fight over it and things keep being broken even if I step in, trying to get the fought over items off them usually ends in it breaking faster. I got so fed up of buying new books etc so now if they break it, it’s tough shit.

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Dazz316@reddit

Same, streetlights. My sons 8. He also has local landmarks on distance on where he can and can't go.

When he starts drinking, I'm going to provide him with some beer and on the condition he has it at friends houses or kids from school he knows already. No drinking vodka in the parks or going across town at 16 to some weirdo's house.

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minglingmumbler@reddit

The whole family eats the main meal of the day together, unless there's a specific reason, at the same time every day.

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Broad-Train@reddit

Getting changed out of school uniform as soon as you're home

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SheffDus@reddit

At dinner time: Always at the table “Please may I start?” No elbows on the table Use your knife and fork (we’re not Americans) Put your cutlery together when you’re finished “Please may I leave the table.”

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AdhesivenessGlum1143@reddit

My parents made sure I always had a little money on me to call a cab so I did not have to get into a car with a boy if I wanted to go home. I guess the equivalent now would be for them to have access to an Uber account with some prepaid amount.

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RandomHigh@reddit

I've done a similar thing for my niece when she first started going out with her mates.

I let her know if she ever needed a taxi home, call me and I would pay for it over the phone.

She only ever had to use it once when her parents were on holiday. But it's always good to have a backup.

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CorpusCalossum@reddit

Never go to the kitchen empty handed

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PerfectChaosOne@reddit

If you can't be good, be careful.

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CorpusCalossum@reddit

Safety 3rd and make good choices

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acripaul@reddit

Be good, and if you can't be good, be fabulous!

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Lyrakish@reddit

Cleaning away plates and tables while out for dinner. We pile everything evenly, scrape any leftovers to one plate and make it easier for servers to clean up. We say please and thank you to any person who serves dinner, or in shops, and everyone is equal.

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Dr_Lahey@reddit

Inspired by my parents but not because it was their rule: we absolutely do not use violence in this house. No hitting, pushing, biting, kicking, even threatening it. We use words when we’re angry.

My youngest gets a slightly easier ride on this as she’s 2, so less able to use words to express her feelings, but I still come down fairly hard on her if she smacks her brother or whatever.

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amlamba@reddit

But then I'd be half the man I am today if I wasn't scared of my elder sister. It's important, it's a part of the deal.

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Pal1_1@reddit

If you don’t get a motorbike at 16, I will pay for your driving lessons when you reach 17.

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Choccybizzle@reddit

Don’t sit on the arms of chairs.

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Ok-Middle8656@reddit

That when you say you will do something, you do it. No excuses.

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shh70@reddit

If it’s not in your laundry basket it doesn’t get washed 😂

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mad_saffer@reddit

If my kids need me, we have a secret phrase they can text me. 5 mins later I phone to tell them there is a problem at home and they need to come home. If they can't get home themselves at that point I get the address to go fetch them

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Fuzzy_Cantaloupe6353@reddit

Never really had hard and fast rules and don't now we have negotiatable and non-negotiable.

Health, hygiene, safety and respect and non-negotiable. Everything else we can talk about.

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Kingstinator@reddit

But something that's non-negotiable is just a hard and fast rule, isn't it?

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Fuzzy_Cantaloupe6353@reddit

Yep but its.tje normal stuff like brush your teeth, wash your hands, look before crossing the road etc.

More common sense shit but I don't have to argue the whys and where fores cos non-negotiable

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Ill_Beyond_7909@reddit

Yep just dressed up in a middle class lefty way to pretend they are cooler than they actually are.

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Fuzzy_Cantaloupe6353@reddit

You couldn't be more wrong 🤣

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Simonion88@reddit

My exact reaction also 🤣

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PackUpTheKittys@reddit

Don't have kids.

Wonderful advice from my Dad before he went out 30 years ago to get milk & cigarettes.

I think he'll be back soon.

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VerankeAllAlong@reddit

Ahhh, an enjoyer of This Be The Verse

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No-Translator5443@reddit

He’ll come back when you have kids and you guys can go get more milk and cigarettes together, the cycle of life continues

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Individual-Gur-7292@reddit

Never leave a friend behind to be alone in a club/pub if they are drunk. Make sure they are safe.

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NagromNitsuj@reddit

Look both ways before crossing.

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Pigeongirl79@reddit

Ear piercing is done ( if they want it ) at 11 during the summer when yhey go from primary to secondary school , parents did it with me and I wouldn’t let mine have it done till then too .

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blondeheartedgoddess@reddit

When out to eat at a restaurant and he had a drink with a straw, he could have two slurps at the end of the drink to get the last of the beverage or the melted ice water. After the 2, he was done.

The slurping straw sound is annoying to other patrons.

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8rummi3@reddit

No ball games in the house

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IntelligentCitron917@reddit

Don't eat yellow snow

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SpudFire@reddit

The white snow doesn't have much flavour though

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Whatthacuz@reddit

Don’t touch the walls

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Puzzledandhangry@reddit

This is lovely!

My favourite rule that I say and hear in my own mothers voice ‘treat people how you want to be treated’. My daughter had a fall out with a friend at first school and told me ‘I won’t play with her anymore because I treat people how I want to be treated but she is just mean’. 🥰

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