I joined vanpool 2 years ago. As a condition of joining, the existing riders told me I had to meet them at their homes rather than being picked up from mine. I didn't love the arrangement, but my commute is long and expensive, so I agreed.

For nearly two years I've been driving my personal car about 10 minutes each way to meet them — adding 20 minutes of personal driving to my day, every single day, at my own expense. Every other rider gets door-to-door service. I'm the only one who doesn't.

Then in early 2026, one rider's office relocated, which reshuffled the drop-off order. I now have to drop two people off before continuing to my own office, which is further down the route. That was the breaking point for me. I finally asked them to start picking me up and dropping me off at my home, just like they do for everyone else.

They refused, claiming it would add mileage and push them over their monthly allowance, costing them out of pocket. Here's the thing though — I've caught them multiple times using the van for personal trips on weekends, like running errands and going shopping. So they're perfectly happy burning through the mileage allowance for their own convenience, but suddenly it's a problem when it's for me. That excuse doesn't hold up.

When I pushed back, things escalated and now they're threatening to remove me from the vanpool entirely. I reached out to the vanpool coordinators, and they encouraged me to resolve it informally to avoid friction — which honestly felt like being told to just accept the situation.

Though I can get help from the vanpool coordinators, I'm now looking for revenge. Are there ULPT tips you can suggest I do with them? Since they used the mileage as an excuse to not pick me up, I want to drive up the mileage somehow to screw them up. What other things I can do?