What are you better at doing than one or both of your parents?

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GroupApprehensive978@reddit

Being a parent. I'd never throw my children out over a relationship and see them go in to care. Yeh thanks, mam and dad...

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Decent-Chip-868@reddit

Absolutely. I think It's natural for many of us to behave differently from our parents, especially when they've mistreated us.

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DrH1983@reddit

I'm pretty sure I can use Excel better than my dad.

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Rootbeeers@reddit

Earning money, but they set me up with a working hard mentality, but they work thankless jobs. It’s motivated me to make plenty of dosh and not force any struggle on my to kids.

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Forgetful8nine@reddit

I have questions I really want to ask...but definitely don't want the answers.

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adreddit298@reddit

Listening to my kids when they disagree with me, and actually evaluating if they have a point. Being older doesn't mean you're always right about a situation.

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Ned-Nedley@reddit

I’m better at being alive than my dad.

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DreamingofBouncer@reddit

Giving my daughter a loving, supportive upbringing so she is happy and successful.

In terms of my mother I have been present in my daughters life instead of being obsessed with the church to the point of missing most of my parent evenings and concerts at school

In terms of my father I’m not abusive, I have never hit her, I’ve never told her that she was a disappointment or failure.

I haven’t been perfect and I’m sure there are elements of generational trauma from my upbringing but she’s much more confident and happy than I was or will ever be

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PKblaze@reddit

Cooking.
Can't speak much of my dads cooking, but my mum does not know what seasoning is and even overcooks things like pasta.

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Dimac99@reddit

I'll say cooking vegetables especially. No, mum, they're not supposed to be dull, soggy mush.

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PKblaze@reddit

Same problem here. I have learned I like so many vegetables as I've gotten older because they taste way better than what I grew up with.

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onlysmaller@reddit

Oh I couldn’t think of anything specific but actually I’m a much better cook than both of them. And the hugging one that seems very common lol

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Grimreaper9972@reddit

Father: being an abusing POS

Mother: Having a sense of direction, she has gotten lost in a supermarket and on a straight road 🤦

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Consistent-Pirate-23@reddit

Technology and ability to use public transport.

Oh and acknowledging my own neurodiversity

My parents are the ones I ask advice from a lot of

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lavayuki@reddit

Almost everything other than cooking which I can’t do but they can.

Driving is the main one- my dad lost his license (suspended 6 years) for repeated driving offences but before that he had tons of points and speed tickets, and always got lost despite google maps. My mum is a snail and can’t drive on motorways. Im the only normal driver who can drive properly on all the roads and no points or offences despite them driving for like 40 years, and me only for 9 years.

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itsfourinthemornin@reddit

Showing any kind of affection, respect or understanding to my child rather than "I'm the adult, end of" to everything.

Not placing alcohol, partying and personal life over that of my child's.

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Necessary_Doubt_9762@reddit

Controlling my reactions and Apologising to my children when I mess up without saying “but if you hadn’t done…”. I always make sure I own up to my mistakes and don’t blame my child for my reactions. I definitely don’t react like my parents did either-not that they were ever physically abusive but their expectations for children were far too high and their reactions disproportionate to the situation. Sometimes I snap or I’m sharp when I’m stressed and once I’ve cooled off I go and apologise and tell them I should’ve handled myself better.

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cheandbis@reddit

Hugging my child

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QwanNyu@reddit

My dad never hugged, and yea the same as you. Instead rather than a "hearty handshake" I now give him a hug when saying goodbye.

He didn't flinch, and, I wonder why I didn't do it sooner. Always hug the ones you love

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Weird-End5410@reddit

I used to get a handshake at Christmas. We probably had no other physical contact for 35 years. It's too late for anything more now, but I tell my children I love them everyday.

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Weird-End5410@reddit

Well done.

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Available-Nose-5666@reddit

I felt this 😞

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Gauntlets28@reddit

Hate to say it, but in my mum's case - probably most things. She is not one to enthusiastically embrace life in all of its many facets.

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Diligent-Magazine781@reddit

Not having kids

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DollySheep32@reddit

Driving

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chainedtomydesk@reddit

Well I am raising my kids, as opposed to abandoning them like my dad did.

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Milvusmilvus@reddit

Doing what I want to do rather than what's expected of me.

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stumblingfortheeight@reddit

Empathy. Cooking. Cleaning (and I’m not a ‘keep an immaculate house’ type by any means). Generosity and unselfishness. Parenting. Acting with some semblance of morality. Critical thinking. Thinking in general. Not stealing handfuls of those mini butter packs and jars of jam/marmalade from the hotel breakfast buffet.

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h00dman@reddit

Reaching high shelves 😅

I'm not that tall, but being 6ft and then standing next to them (my dad is 5ft 6 and my mum 5ft 3) , especially in photos, is hilarious.

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Sea-Still5427@reddit

Empathy and equality.

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tiny-brit@reddit

Not being an alcoholic, or an abusive alcoholic
Working for a living, even if I might be better off quitting and claiming benefits!

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FilmFanatic1066@reddit

Career progression Critically assessing information and identifying misinformation

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himit@reddit

Reading maps. No idea why, but they're both shite at it.

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Namerakable@reddit

Languages. My dad has been trying to learn basic Italian for years and can order food and do basic tourist stuff, whereas I have a degree in Japanese.

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Opposite_Funny9958@reddit

Parenting. Mine were bloody awful. Sorry if that wasn’t the answer you were expecting!

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Rasty_lv@reddit

I dont smoke (mom and stepdad).

my parents divorced when i was 5 and last time i saw my sperm donor was on my grandmoms funeral when i was 18. My son now is already 11 and i cant imagine divorcing my wife and leaving my son alone. heck, my sperm donor hasnt even met his grandson lol. So parenting? (though my mom and later my stepdad were awesome).

Travel. My stepdad has been only in eastern europe in neighbouring countries, while my mom had a chance to go to dubai and bulgaria + neighbouring countries. Me and my wife and son have travelled a lot. and i mean alot.

Ok, my stepdad is awesome cook, but i cook much better than my mom. My wife is much better than me at cooking, she and my stepdad would actually be equal level good.

Technology stuff. this one is kind of obvious.

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Thandoscovia@reddit

Getting ahead at work faster than one, being more alive than the other

Fell behind at time of first home ownership though, by almost a decade

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TransatlanticMadame@reddit

Everything to do with money, and not wasting time on religion.

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Mr_Bumcrest@reddit

Being a disappointment to my parents

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BobBobBobBobBobDave@reddit

Driving.

But only because mum has a degenerative condition and gave up her licence, and dad is losing his eyesight.

But still, yay me!

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SweetCryptographer72@reddit

Staying married.

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ReallyIntriguing@reddit

Well instead of having 6 kids with 3 baby mums (2 each) and hiding all three families for eachover, I have one kid and I'm present.

I asked my son what its like having a dad and he said "not to be rude dad but it's normal to me" at first I thought that wasnt what I was expecting to hear, then after a few seconds it dawned on me that its the best compliment ever

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Current_Mongoose_844@reddit

Father: emotional regulation, not abusing my spouse

Mother: Street smarts

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Agitated-Tourist9845@reddit

Reaching my current age.

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avemango@reddit

Not having kids (neither of them should have had them 🤣)

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Queenoftheunicorns93@reddit

Cooking, processing my emotions in a healthy manner, keeping a clean home.

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iamdeeproy@reddit

Cooking and eating a balanced diet. Grew up thinking I hated vegetables but really it was down to how they were cooked and what they were served with.

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CLWggg@reddit

Absolutely this. So many foods that I thought I disliked, but in later life I tried them again and enjoyed them!

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Significant-Key-762@reddit

Being alive

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Affectionate-Owl9594@reddit

Beat me to it

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jesspcrowley_@reddit

Came here to say this

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LazyBarracuda@reddit

Arguing. Conflict in general. I remember when I had my first argument with my husband and I honestly didn't know what to do because my parents are so whacked when it comes to fighting (my mother- personal insults as cruel and hurtful as she can muster, my dad - just shout and smash everything). I looked it up online and ended up finding a load of articles on Psychology Today and it was very helpful. Based on that advice, I let my husband not talk to me and sleep in another room and the next day I left without speaking to him. I wrote a message saying I was giving him space and would come home when he felt ready to talk. The advice said nobody "wins" in a fight and at first I thought, "That's ridiculous, I am definitely right and have the moral high ground!" but by the end of the separation period I just felt really sad and wanted to make up, which is exactly what the psychology expert said would happen. This probably all sounds really dumb, but for me it was a revelation and really key to my maturation as a person.

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