Over 30s - Do you still enjoy concerts?
Posted by safeontwo@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 74 comments
I am finding the experience just isn’t as fun anymore.
At a gig over the weekend I was forced to watch the show in between or through the sea of phone screens lifted into the air. It only seems to be getting worse, and it’s really ruining the experience (for me and friends I’ve spoken to at least).
We’re lucky now to have the ability to take little snippets of our favourite songs, and I’m not talking about that, I mean the people who genuinely record the entire thing. One girl had her phone up the whole time, she even had it plugged into a power bank. I genuinely don’t know how she managed to keep her arms up for that length of time!
I also noticed the atmosphere has become really tepid, no one is jumping, dancing or seeming to enjoy themselves in the same way and I think the phones contribute to that.
The only semi recent gig that was the opposite of this was Oasis last year, such a good vibe of people enjoying themselves and the reduction in phones being used was really obvious.
I know we tend to romanticise things from when we are younger, and maybe those people are still having a great time in a way I cannot relate to, but it really feels like they are losing their magic!
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
I enjoy it as much as I did when I was 17. Sounds like you're picking the wrong ones.
Zaganoak@reddit
Same, mid 30s now and concerts are one of my purest sources of joy. Since moving to London last year I’ve been going to at least one or two a month and it keeps me going through all the work and bullshit required to live here lmao.
Most I pick are either metal or older audiences though so no wannabe influencers in the crowd.
NaturalSuccessful521@reddit
Well same. That or the occasional small unsigned gig. It seems that it's important which crowd you surround yourself with I guess.
Polz34@reddit
I'm 41 and still love gig, the difference is I used to try and get near the front back in the day, now I often choose seated or outdoor gigs and I'm happy to be further back, enjoying the music and having a dance!
dbxp@reddit
No, maybe it's the type of gigs you're going to? Metal shows and hardcore are still rowdy
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Bob_Leves@reddit
50+, just did 4 shows in 12 days and have another next week. However, I've never liked and very rarely go to arena shows, let alone stadiums. The best shows are in clubs and back rooms with maximum 500 people.
Feersum_endjjinn@reddit
Gigs. Shows are in America 😉😊
claretbailz@reddit
This is it. Arena and stadium shows are shite. Watched The Reytons at Kentish Town in 2023 and it was fantastic. Most recent show at Wembley a massive let down. Maybe it's just an age thing but you can't beat that smaller venue experience
Rubberfootman@reddit
They can be so expensive too. If I’m paying three figures for a ticket I expect it to be intimate.
Rubberfootman@reddit
Agreed. Huge arena gigs are just too industrial. The sound is generally bad too.
HirsuteHacker@reddit
Yep, I love them. I mostly go to concerts of small unsigned bands. Show up early, get right to the front, buy merch and feel good knowing that buying merch actually makes a difference to the band. Small venues where the stage isn't that high and there's no barrier between the audience and the band. Always an absolute vibe.
seklas1@reddit
Probably just depends on the concert/band/genre of music. I’ve been to see one band at two different concerts in stadiums and those standing floor tickets were amazing both times. Everyone danced and sang along, sure some people had phones, but it didn’t distract from the experience.
Also been to see a couple of bands in smaller venues and those were also very fun.
But I’ve also been to a few orchestras and staff walking around shinning flashlights at a few people recording videos were the most annoying, super distracting.
NYCRealist@reddit
If you're talking about classical orchestras, audience recording these is a SUPER "no-no". Just about everywhere in the world. Definitely needs to be squelched.
seklas1@reddit
Talking about arena performances, not in theatres. It’s different in a theatre. But an arena performance with orchestra/musicians/composers etc, a few random people recording is a lot less of a distraction than staff circling each section non-stop and shinning lights at everyone’s face.
poptimist185@reddit
My most old man opinion is that the main act should cone on at 8pm. The 9pm start time is so arbitrary.
Feersum_endjjinn@reddit
Thats the worst thing I've ever heard!😂. Pre covid, main band was 10ish or thereabouts. Main act at 9pm is just awful. I wanna get into town, have a couple of beers, go to venue, watch a couple of support bands and then ready for main band half 10 ish.
MrPogoUK@reddit
Whereas I’m usually in bed by not much after 10, so would much rather at least be out of the venue by then rather than halfway through the set!
Elvis_Precisely@reddit
90% of live music venues operate to an 11pm curfew.
Feersum_endjjinn@reddit
I know! Absolute joke. Never used to be.
Elvis_Precisely@reddit
I’m in my 30s and it has been that way since I started going to gigs as a teenager.
Some places open later on the weekend, but then sometimes bands play even earlier on the weekend to get everyone out the venue in time for a club night. These are the worst gigs to play as you have to be fully packed out within all of your gear within minutes of finishing your set.
mxsfitss@reddit
Love that for you some of us have last trains to catch
Ok_Cow_3431@reddit
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Rubberfootman@reddit
I don’t mind a later start, but I like to know when it is. I’m no longer in the mood to be drinking 4 pints while waiting for the main act.
MrPogoUK@reddit
The 9pmish start is because at anywhere but an actual nightclub there’s a strict curfew of 11pm (which means the venue usually insists the band are of stage a bit before that), and for some reason almost every band wants to finish as close to the limit as possible, so 9pm or so becomes a default start time when most sets are between 90 minutes and two hours. That said, I’m with you and would much rather they both started and finished a bit earlier!
Chickenhugga@reddit
Not really. I’ve been to a few in the last few years and only enjoy it if I have a seat or with a short concert
Feeling-Bluebird8413@reddit
Yes, I still love going to gigs but I do find it hard to stand on the same spot for that length of time though without back pain. I could walk around all day with zero problems but standing in the same spot without moving much = back pain apparently. 36M.
Cunterpunch@reddit
I hear that. If you have back pain then standing in a small space without moving is horrible.
Honestly you’re much better off jumping into the mosh pit if there is one.
Ok_Cow_3431@reddit
Im in my 40s. Yes I enjoy concerts and festivals and have for a long damn time, I go to as many as I can.
However I rarely care about seeing the performer, for a gig it's more about hearing them and being in the moment
xray_vez@reddit
I think it really depends on the gig. If you go to metal/punk/hardcore shows, you won't see phones out and most people are moving with the crowd and feeling the moment. But I have found pop/indie gigs have less of that in-the-moment vibe. Basically, go to gigs where people physically can't get their phones out 🤣
Cunterpunch@reddit
100% this. Punk and hardcore shows have really spoiled my expectations of crowds. I went to a big pop gig last year and everyone was just squashed in the front like sardines on their phones filming and not moving, it was horrible.
MeesterMartinho@reddit
Did you harumph? or tut mildly?
safeontwo@reddit (OP)
I sigh heavily and mumble under my breath about a dystopian society xx
MeesterMartinho@reddit
You need to lean into it old man.
Ill-Imagination4359@reddit
Yep, 55 already seen airbourne so far this year. going to blodstock, the stranglers iron maiden latter in the year.
insertitherenow@reddit
No. I went to several a month all through my 20s and 30’s. Loved it. Fucking hate going now. Saw the Pumpkins outdoors last year and the relentless beer/piss throwing and having to look around a sea of phones to see the band has put an end to that.
sin0shine0@reddit
Same. I booked tickets to the offspring last year and the week before I was like, I can't be arsed with this. It'll be packed, annoying, busy etc 😆 I didn't go. I used to love going to gigs and going mental. But middle age, something happened, I'd rather watch old live gigs on YouTube at home.
musicallymotivated93@reddit
I really enjoy going to them still.
Fucking hate paying the extortionate amount anything academy sized and bigger costs these days though.
Krumm34@reddit
Fuck Ya!
MrSteveBob@reddit
42 here & I go pretty regularly.
Heading to my 4th gig in 7 days on Thursday including an all day festival.
Thoughtless-Test@reddit
Yes i love dids and even put them on myself
Sad-Peace@reddit
I usually get a seat now unless the venue isn't designed for that. Shows are overly drawn out though. I go to kpop concerts and they are organised well - doors 7, artist comes on at 8, finished by 10ish, no support band, it's great!
Altruistic_Grocery81@reddit
I’m 40. I play somewhere between 40 and 50 gigs a year at the moment so I enjoy that side of it, but have a difficult relationship with live music as a spectator. Some gigs are great, some feel like content. I miss the days before a sea of phones. I don’t mind the odd snippet but I’ve seen far too many people recording whole gigs.
waggywaggydogdog@reddit
43
Yes, very much so. But my knees and back hurt more than they used to in the day
good4rov@reddit
I’m a generic six music dad and still love going, we go to loads regularly - we tend to always miss the support.
It’s usually a great mix of young and old; worst thing is the phones.
thelaughingman_1991@reddit
They're a real sweet spot in that I get to hear the music I want to hear, without being surrounded by cunts, whilst also being back in bed for a good time afterwards lol
MermaidPigeon@reddit
Gosh that sounds odd. Last time I went to a festival/concert was when I was 22, I’m 34 now and there wasn’t a phone in sight, everyone jumping, mosh pits. Perhaps things are not that fun for the younger generation due to the never ending dopamine supply they get with phones. I’m a bit addicted my self tbh and have definitely noticed I’m less interested in things as a whole
dbltax@reddit
Hell yeah, just go to less of them now as they're so expensive.
I go to illegal raves more often as a result.
Rubberfootman@reddit
50+. Very much so, but I tend to go to smaller gigs with an older crowd - better behaviour and fewer screens.
Altruistic_Grocery81@reddit
They didn’t get them out during the show but this really made me laugh before Tedeschi Trucks
Rubberfootman@reddit
Jesus, not that old.
glasgowgeg@reddit
The only time I've ever seen someone use a tablet on full brightness to take photos was at a "smaller gig with an older crowd".
Repulsive-Pear6391@reddit
I know what you mean. Although having said that, I went to a Laura Marling gig a while ago and when she came on stage of course the phones all came out, until a guy behind me shouted ‘put your phones away you losers!’ and, like magic, the phones were guiltily lowered into their owner’s pockets where they mostly stayed for the rest of the show. Perhaps the Laura Marling fan base is particularly self-conscious and compliant, but either way, I was able to spend the remainder of the gig with a great view. Although the crush of people was such that I couldn’t move, and my legs/back were killing me by the end.
Naive-Interaction567@reddit
After 7pm? No.
MrMonkeyman79@reddit
Yes i still enjoy them. There are a few too many people watching the whole thing through their phone, but most are still present in the moment and jumping and dancing.
The process of booking tickets however is an absolute nightmare.
dedido@reddit
Only if I can get a seat!
reddit_recluse@reddit
36 and my main issue is standing. My feet can't take it anymore. Especially when you have to get there super early to get a decent spot.
If there's a chair and it's close enough to the stage that my grandad eyes can see the act without squinting then I'm happy.
Going to see Joshua Radin tomorrow in Bristol. 3rd row. Bliss.
NoFewSatan@reddit
36 is much too young for standing to be a problem...
NoFewSatan@reddit
Absolutely, always a fantastic time
REidson89@reddit
I went to one last year where no phones were allowed, they had to go into a locked pouch, it was really good!
SaysUselessThings@reddit
Oh definitely. 10000%. I love live music.
I've got a bunch of gigs already booked this year. Priest, Metallica, Fear Factory, Machine Head....the entire Bloodstock UK festival.
Nothing more I love than seeing live bands.
Sounds like you need to get your ass into the mosh, mate. Beers are on me!
SPUDniiik@reddit
Just got to sit down now mate, much more enjoyable
NetRelative3930@reddit
I do think there has been a decline in concert etiquette over the past few years as well I feel your right that phones have a lot to do with it but also rather than being there for the band or the enjoyment of the night , it’s to be photographed and posted on Instagram
My kids have shown me some videos of that coachella and I honestly couldn’t think of anything worse All staged , and not my cup of tea at all
ClericalRogue@reddit
I'm nearly 40. I love concerts, but I find certain genres seem better than others (rock and metal concerts have the best atmosphere and crowd energy, I won't be convinced otherwise at this point 😂).
For anything not rock/metal, I've started favoring seats over standing. The view isn't much worse, I save my feet, and don't have to deal with the phone camera zombies ruining the vibe.
Mondays-fundays@reddit
Yep, and I'm noodling on Reddit waiting for ine to start. The secret is going to stuff noone cool would be seen dead at, then they won't want to post to Instagram. /s
PatientLasagne@reddit
Haha same!
dinkidoo7693@reddit
I love concerts. Going to one next week. I don’t like how much they cost though, ticket prices are ridiculous and drinks and merch at venues cost a small fortune so i often don’t buy anything other than a water
KatieCampbel1@reddit
Merch at concerts has always been insanely priced. Not going to pay £45 for a low quality t-shirt or hoodie for £70
afungalmirror@reddit
No, but then I never enjoyed them in my 20s either.
lilymtyson@reddit
33 here, I do, actively try not to be on my phone. But, bloody hell, the standing for almost two hours is starting to bother me. Got Lily Allen tickets, seated, cannot wait.
BigFloofRabbit@reddit
Yes, I enjoy concerts just as much. 33m. One of the things I look forward to most in life is a good band in a good venue.
KaylsTheOptimist@reddit
I’ve just turned 26 and I find this too. Last good show was in 2024 seeing the vaccines. Only seen a couple bands since but there was no atmosphere and I’m not in a rush to see anyone currently
ScottishScouse@reddit
Yes. Can't really say much more than that. They're my happy place, they're what I spend quite a lot of my disposable income on. I'm going to a couple a month, it's tremendous. There's no feeling quite like it imo.
Sweet-Total-7326@reddit
Yes hugely. Honestly it sounds like you go to the wrong concerts!
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