Marriage should be limited to max 10 years. If both parties agree they can renew after it expires.

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I get your point, but as an abused child (Now 36), imo, while consequences "should be deserved", A LOT of pain on ALL PARTIES, WHETHER IT'S UNBALANCED OR NOT EVEN UNFAIRLY, could be ended sooner if people were legally allowed to separate, almost literally as soon as possible. And of course we need more minimum living situation support for that.

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GoonTime2@reddit

Put some real skin in the game, if they don’t renew then their children are adopted out to a random couple who renews for the next 10 years. Each renewal gives you a random chance of receiving another couples’ children who chose not to renew.

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JustMajestic1@reddit

Musical Childcare, it is so dumb and idiotic that I love it. Lets make a show out of it.

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GoonTime2@reddit

Reality TV show with the name “Musical Pairs” or some other play on words

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Famous-Prior6590@reddit

That’s straight up disincentive for renewing. Who tf wants to raise some other couple’s children?

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cfk77@reddit

You don’t renew and you get paired with someone who also didn’t renew

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VivisMarrie@reddit

OK, now to finish the loop we just have to force people to get married the first time at an specific set age.

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ZachMich@reddit

I feel like we had a similar system in the past. Not sure how that worked out though

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aldoaldo14@reddit

Mom, Reddit is trying to do a dehumanizing randomized test, again.

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SisterSparechange@reddit

Who wants anything to do with children at all?

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Kestrel_VI@reddit

Who wants to raise a random couple’s grown kids. I had to watch my partner’s 10 yo niece over the weekend, and let me tell you, unstable people in dysfunctional relationships do not raise good kids.

Coming from someone that was also the child of a dysfunctional family, I wouldn’t have wanted to raise me either.

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HermineSGeist@reddit

Presumably anyone who already has adopted or fostered children? 🤷‍♀️

(But your comment did make me snicker)

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humanofearth-notai@reddit

That disruption would be punishing the children

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TheAmazingBreadfruit@reddit

Imagine being adopted as grown-up because your aging parents forgot to renew...

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Anubis-Hound@reddit

This would make an interesting novel.

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dox2EwJn6iZh@reddit

This is a feature in Robert A Heinlein's 'The Puppet Masters' (the inspiration for invasion of the body snatchers) though not a large one

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GoonTime2@reddit

I’d read it, call it “the decade switch” and make it YA and it’ll sell like hotcakes

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ground__contro1@reddit

Two teens in love about to be separated by either/both’s parents choosing not to renew

Devastated by the knowledge their parents don’t give a single fuck about them, the two run away together, stumbling upon the secret resistance who are also jaded by the cold interchangeability of family members, scarred by their own abandonment stories

The scrappy young people something something and blow up the building with the computer and probably society is going to get better, but we’ll talk about that in part 2 of the trilogy

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toofshucker@reddit

Oh shit. Was Taco Bell the only franchise to survive the franchise wars?

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El_Zarco@reddit

Kinda reminiscent of The Lobster

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PianoAndFish@reddit

It's the plot of an episode of Dinosaurs (in their version you have to pay a $40 fee and pass a test about each other).

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Just-Standard-992@reddit

So what you’re saying is that people could try for up to 10 years, and after the trial, if they didn’t like their family they get to just get rid of them all without commuting any crimes?

I’m not sure that’s going to be “skin in the game” for some 🤣🤣🤣

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High_Hunter3430@reddit

As someone with kids going into teen years, I could make a non renewal for a few years. 😂 The first ten were good. But then they get all attitude n sass. 😂

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Numerous_Fudge_9537@reddit

Lmao 😂

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AvailableAd6071@reddit

They should give the kids a choice to pick new parents

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GoonTime2@reddit

Add an Uber rating system that gets updated annually

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edisonpioneer@reddit

You think children are toys or what? They have right to live with their parents and love them and be loved in return.

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GoonTime2@reddit

It’s almost like it’s a crazy idea or something 🤔

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CRAYONSEED@reddit

Why would children change this? People with kids get divorced all the time.

I’d assume if you have children and want to stay together that renewal would be easy to agree on, right?

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therealCatnuts@reddit

U have no children

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Megalocerus@reddit

Probably also no spouse.

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wizzard419@reddit

OP got divorced and didn't have a prenup.

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mrkstr@reddit

Right. How about you're only obligated until the youngest child is 18? Then you can renew?

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pingu_nootnoot@reddit

or divorce, which a lot of people do at that point.

I don’t really see the difference in practice. It’s a mess disconnecting two lives anyway. The legal difference between cancelling and not renewing a marriage contract is minor compared to eg selling the house and one or both of you moving out.

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mrkstr@reddit

I think its easier to keep lives less intertwined if you KNOW you're contract is up in 18 years. Its just that no one is surprised if it ends then. Plus, if your spouse gets a free out unless they want to renew, you might be on better behavior during the 18 year trial period. Heck, I'd probably go to the gym more and other little nice things like that.

Look, all this is just a hypothetical, crazy thought experiment anyway. I see your point. But I can see some upside. I don't recommend it. But I see the upside.

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pingu_nootnoot@reddit

or a house, or a pension, or any kind of shared financial responsibility with their partner.

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VatanKomurcu@reddit

its called crazy ideas not good ideas is it

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TheWaterBottler@reddit

Yeah everyone here has lost the plot. They’re all looking for reasoning

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bluebuns123@reddit

You can continue to be coparents just not married I guess

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Dziggettai@reddit

Exactly. Just don’t get married at that point. Not really any benefit outside of taxes in the US anyway lmao

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TedW@reddit

It's more than just taxes. There are a bunch of medical and inheritance rights as well.

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Dziggettai@reddit

Those can be solved by filing a few forms

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Its-a-write-off@reddit

Oh, which form to get survivors benefits?

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Dziggettai@reddit

If you’re old enough to be worrying about survivor’s benefits with social security, you’ve likely been together long enough to be considered married under common law despite not actually being married

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DandyLion97@reddit

Common law doesn't even exist in most places.

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Dziggettai@reddit

Hmm.. how odd that it would be named common law if it’s uncommon 🤔

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TedW@reddit

It's like an ironic nickname. Tiny for a big man. Slim for fat. Common for a law that doesn't apply more places than it does.

Sometimes I wish our laws were more consistent, but then I look at Florida and say ok, no, it's better this way.

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Glitchz0rz@reddit

I think it’s be cause of the recognition of a legal marriage under Common Law rules rather than the solemnisation of marriage under statute

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TedW@reddit

That would have been great to know before getting Cousin Law married. Dagnabbit.

I just thought it was a catered marriage. You know, with some great cousine.

Oh well, might as well make the most of it.

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anomalous_cowherd@reddit

I present: common sense.

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DandyLion97@reddit

7 states in the USA have it. more places in Europe, mostly northern. Even less places outside those. Idk what to tell you.

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purpleplatapi@reddit

Babe what do you think gay people fought so hard for? It's like very specifically health insurance family plans, visitation, parental rights, and inheritance. If there was a way to have that without marrying, we would have just done that. Straight up there were men adopting their lovers as their adoptive "son" just so they could visit each other in the hospital.

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GoonTime2@reddit

The new survivor’s benefits form, of course

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cerialthriller@reddit

Or assets

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sdfghs@reddit

Most childless marriages are also easier to divorce. It's either splitting the assets or splitting what both contributed.

Becomes harder when children are involved both with custody, keeping houses, ... + if the mother (it's the mother in 90% of the cases) stopped working because of children how do you take that into consideration...

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Tupcek@reddit

I know a lady who has same opinion.

She has 3 kids and 4 grandkids

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I-own-a-shovel@reddit

I have no children, but still don’t agree with OP. We have real estate and other financial stuff in common.

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GoliathBoneSnake@reddit

I mean I got three and only made it 12 years.

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StuckinReverse89@reddit

Setting a time limit on a partnership that requires renewal is stupid. The cows are “till death do us part,” not “till our certificate needs to be renewed” and would just add more paperwork.

The concept of reinvesting your interest and time into a marriage is important and a good point though.

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Alzdeejay2@reddit

My mum and dad about to celebrate 50 years, people said they wouldn't last. They argue about something everyday 🤣🤣

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JAMtheSeagull@reddit

What

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Wchijafm@reddit

Well honey its almost the 10 year mark are we going to renew or go thru the extensive process of legally dividing all assets and debts accrued during the marriage?

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Sp1ffyTh3D0g@reddit

Tomorrow is our ten year anniversary, guess I'm up for renewal

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Worldly-Bobcat-48@reddit

Seven feels more natural

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heybabalooba@reddit

I agree

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heythereitsemily@reddit

It is. That’s when couples naturally start to lose interest. There’s a show called The 7 Year Switch where couples switch to decide if they wanna stay together or break up.

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LordLannister47@reddit

Se7en

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Ghost_Turd@reddit

Why?

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Awsomethingy@reddit

It seems to make it take effort to stay together rather than to leave each other. Which actually kind of makes sense when you think of what keeps a relationship together and what ends one

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RoastedRhino@reddit

You think the effort required to leave is the paperwork???

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Awsomethingy@reddit

There would be no paperwork in this weird, crazy reality. It would be: Doing nothing = Marriage dissolved. Saying you want to stay together = Marriage continued. So paperwork doesn’t have any impact

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MrRogersAE@reddit

So what happens in this weird crazy reality with my house, kids, pension, cars, my remaining earthly possessions, spousal support, child support, life insurance policies and most importantly my LEGO collection?

Ending a marriage, even if the marriage part has no paperwork has a shit ton of paperwork involved

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Awsomethingy@reddit

I’m not OP, not sure what they’re going for

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RoastedRhino@reddit

Exactly, the paperwork does not have any impact. In the bigger scheme of things, you can assume that marriage now can be dissolved with the snap of a finger. So what is the difference?

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Awsomethingy@reddit

I guess the difference is that you don’t have to decide to end it, for it to end

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RoastedRhino@reddit

I understand that, and I am saying that it makes so little difference that it is completely irrelevant.

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Awsomethingy@reddit

Yeah I guess it’s a pretty crazy idea

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StarChild413@reddit

which doesn't mean it can't be criticized

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Awsomethingy@reddit

I wouldn’t say it can’t be criticized. Happy cake day

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Appropriate_Tie534@reddit

But the chances of it ending when it would be helpful are so low. You could easily renew and then regret it 6 months later, and meanwhile everyone else who wants to stay married has to jump through hoops. I don't want to live in a world where someone can fail to renew their marriage and find themselves accidentally divorced.

And legally divorced doesn't mean you would automatically be separated in any meaningful way. You're not having someone show up and move your things out, but you are going to have issues with taxes and hospital visitation rights and things like that.

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Lady-of-Shivershale@reddit

Physically moving house is not easier for a newly single adult than it is for a united couple. And given that it isn't easy in the first place, I disagree with you 100%.

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BenjaminHamnett@reddit

Every 10 we get our shit together and stop taking each other for granted. Then back to being shitty for 9 years, lol

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Global_Yam_9172@reddit

r/retardedideas

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Elemental_Titan9@reddit

I supper this…. I subpar this, dang it, I mean I support this.

If you have a community that was there during your wedding, I think they should be like a council that reviews the couple every few years in a formal way, to see how the marriage is.

Great to keep women safe and surprisingly men safe as well. See the well being of the kids.

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poopiepantz34@reddit

Bro, I had this same idea like a month ago in the shower but never told anyone. Except I thought 5 years would be a better starting point.

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firstinitallastname@reddit

You told me in shower remember

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bearded_charmander@reddit

Yea I remember too. He said that when he dropped the soap remember?

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Fuzzy974@reddit

I honestly only remember what happened after the soap fell on the floor.

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imagine1149@reddit

Do you have a video recording that helps you revise your memory?

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Elemental_Titan9@reddit

I was sure I put a hole in the ceiling corner and a small camera in it. Let me check the SD card.

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SomeCountryFriedBS@reddit

There's a sub for that.

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Affectionate_Hornet7@reddit

We appreciate that

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poopiepantz34@reddit

You're welcome

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NoShyira@reddit

This is my belief already. Marriage should be a 10 year commitment that can choose a renewal per year.

But here in New Zealand, I make it 8 because they enforce a 2 year separation period from the date of filing for divorce so that means it has to be shorter.

I was engaged once and I didn't really want to be 😅

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azaxaca@reddit

This is a crazy idea.

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Idainaru_Yokubo@reddit

just be normal, open your marriage and let your spouse have a boyfriend/girlfriend that you both agree on

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Possible_Farm4535@reddit

Actually a fantastic idea. Normalize reevaluating your marriage.

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Beneficial_Lie_190@reddit

Mairrage would never work under those conditions. The whole point of the vow is that you’re promising the other person that they can show you their true face and you will never run no matter what. That’s the whole goddamn point.

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antonio16309@reddit

Married couples do this already. You gotta keep choosing your spouse all the time.

And the things that keep people from getting a divorce are usually economic more than legal. When that ten year deadline comes up and you have a house, cars, 401ks, and debt together it's going to be just as complicated as getting a divorced. Plus kids add a whole other layer of responsibility.

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ilanallama85@reddit

My husband and I just hit 10 years in and thankfully still love each other very much. But, realistically, I’d have to get to the point of actively hating him where it would make much sense to separate our lives. Even aside from kids and houses and joint accounts, we make a good match logistically, not just emotionally - and we’d both struggle more in our day to day lives without each other.

I suspect that my parents, married over 40 years, have for a while now been in a state of not necessarily being deeply in love any more, but still liking and respecting each other enough as partners that there’s far more benefit to staying together than splitting. They seem quite happy, though. They care for and support each other, they get on quite well, have no major disagreements, etc.

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201111533@reddit

Yeah, the benefit of a logistically good match and general ally is just immense. My husband and I definitely go through the "roommate phase" each time we have a kid (pregnant with the third now) and each time I've missed the romance a bit but I've also just been so appreciative of the general daily teamwork

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nlamber5@reddit

You have to choose to stay together everyday, because if you don’t, life will separate you.

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antonio16309@reddit

Exactly. This is one of those marriage tips that's a bit of a cliche but it's true. It's not about your wedding day, or anniversaries, marriage is every damn day. You wake up in the morning and make that choice. It's worked well for my wife and I so far, 24 years in.

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math-kat@reddit

Also there's a social cost to getting divorced. My parents are clearly not happy together, but will never separate because they think staying together makes them better people / more Christian. They're exactly the type of people who could potentially benefit from having to renew, but would never take advantage of it.

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DanTheMeek@reddit

While I'm happily married today (about to celebrate our 10th anni) when I was younger I was raised christian and my first spouse was abusive to me from day one of our marriage, but I stayed in that abusive marriage for half a decade because the bible told me the only justifiable reason for divorce was if your spouse was unfaithful sexually, other wise god doesn't consider you divorced, and as abusive as my spouse was, as far as I was aware, they were never unfaithful.

On the plus side, I got really good at using make up and clothing to cover up injuries, skills I wouldn't have picked up other wise, so there's that I guess...

In any case, probably wouldn't have lived to see 10 years if I'd stayed in there longer, so this proposal wouldn't have helped me.

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ExitingBear@reddit

What problem do you think this solves?

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PuzzleheadedNote3@reddit

Pretty sure the tiktok.divorce lawyer already talked about this. Adding a sunset clause causes more problems than it fixes

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DreadpirateBG@reddit

Agree I like this

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phredbull@reddit

Your relationships don't really have to be subject to approval by state or religious authorities.

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CRAYONSEED@reddit

I had this idea but thought it should be 7 years.

If you want to stay together making it an active choice seems appropriate, rather than have it be something that’s actually difficult to get out of

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Slight_Manufacturer6@reddit

Term limits on marriage. Cool

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MariposaPeligrosa00@reddit

HA! My husband and I had a “meeting” on our 5th year anniversary to negotiate a 5 year renewal (he’s a lawyer but it was my idea 😹). On the second one, negotiations were approved as well, so we changed the timeframe to 10 years. He forgot but we had a motion to renew automatically and reconvene in 10 years, because “it’s going pretty well.” We’re coming up on 23 (I think), so there you go

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Honest-Government967@reddit

Yup, your handle says it all. "Crazy ideas".

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Mircowaved-Duck@reddit

don't get married if you don't want to be with that oerson FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. Simple

It says in good and bad times for a reason

Divorce in itself was a mistake and made marriage a joke in itself already...

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Historical_Stuff1643@reddit

Bad marriages exist. Divorce is a good thing.

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Mircowaved-Duck@reddit

then there should be exceptions with judges proving who is at fault. And the one who commited adultery or hit the partner should be punished hard. Other than that, maybe think twice before you marry someone and ask yourparents for advice, they got more experience than you

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Historical_Stuff1643@reddit

Nah. People need to leave situations they don't want to be in. No fault divorces cause a lot of issues because it traps people and people who are trapped do bad things.

I'm 42, dude. I probably have more experience than you. 😄

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Mircowaved-Duck@reddit

Did you ask ypur and their parents for their opinion before marriage, how it once was a tradition - for reasons. Also did you have the one year engagement, as test?

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Historical_Stuff1643@reddit

Do you speak English?

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Mircowaved-Duck@reddit

as second language

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Historical_Stuff1643@reddit

That makes sense.

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Here4Pornnnnn@reddit

Guh, every 10 years I have to worry about who gets the house, visitation with my kids, how the pets get split, which furniture goes to who, how to handle my house while I’m away working?

My wife gets to worry about her insurance disappearing, no income, potential alimony to live in a lil apartment?

We love each other and talk, but to have this be an impending automatic divorce every 10 years is fucking insane.

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No_Detail9259@reddit

2 years

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Any_Leg_4773@reddit

Just get the divorce man

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RepresentativeCow241@reddit

Symptom of sad, throwaway culture. Everyone is just for a while, everyone is disposable.

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TheSmartToasterUnion@reddit

We did it for life to save the admin fee on the renewals.

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sadeiko@reddit

I've had similar ideas, but closer to 2x square root of youngest party's age. So at 25, it's a 10 year term
at 49 it's a 14 year term. but at 18 it's only an 8-year term.

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https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/1qm1wwr/marriages_should_have_time_limited_terms/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/1opl11v/marriages_should_have_maximum_time_limit_of_5/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/1mzgoq3/make_it_so_you_have_to_renew_marriage_every_year/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/1dgcyrx/make_marriage_licenses_expire_every_10_years/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/10t5qsm/make_marriages_have_an_expiration_date_if_both/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/he24bv/rather_than_lasting_a_lifetime_marriages_should/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/fsdn3d/a_5_year_marriage_everyones_first_marraige_is/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/esoer2/marriage_should_be_a_limited_term_contract_you/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/erpisq/marriages_on_a_5_year_contract_to_lower_divorce/

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrazyIdeas/comments/bjx9ql/marriages_should_be_treated_like_a_10_year/

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spacebarstool@reddit

I like how you stopped at 10 examples

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RogerRabbot@reddit

Just so crazy that others may have thought of it too!

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anonstarcity@reddit

Ok but HOW is it getting renewed? If there’s a DMV style line to do this, tons of marriages will dissolve just to not deal with it.

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sdavids5670@reddit

Not a bad idea. It would definitely cut short a ton of bad marriages.

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werduvfaith@reddit

Makes no sense to add an additional unnecessary burden to a happily married couple.

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BakedFish---SK@reddit

I don't think this is supposed to target happily married couples

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JaysonTatecum@reddit

Unhappy couples can just… not be married

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Stock_Bandicoot_115@reddit

It doesn't have to be difficult

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Live_Perception9937@reddit

Too much paperwork

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ZenA1ien@reddit

No thank you, I’d forget and accidentally be divorced 😂

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iwtcipp@reddit

Here we have ignorance of the purpose of marriage (which is obviously a Chesterton's fence) and the magical number 10 (so rational! So scientific!) What are you, an architect of the French Revolution?

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spanooti@reddit

I Mexico did/does that. Marriage licenses have to renewed every two years

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stillphat@reddit

you'd piss off a whole lot of religious people, but I think it ought to be closer to 3-5yrs.

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CMG30@reddit

Why limited to a max of 10 years? If you're going to turn marriage into contract law, why not just do 10 year contracts?

The simple fact is that you can pull the plug at ANY point if you want to. Other than an additional layer of administration, what is the benefit with this proposal?

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MargaretOfKyte@reddit

I shouldn’t have to deal with unnecessary paperwork every 10 years because other people are terrified of commitment

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around-the_world@reddit

You can just say that you're scared of commitment, no need to make this reddit post

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jimbo-g@reddit

Til death or a decade do us part

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uncivilized_engineer@reddit

Technically, this is how ancient Ireland operated. Gaelic marriage customs also had official "one year" trial marriages that were super common.

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myersdr1@reddit

This is just a built-in excuse to not have to put in the work to make a relationship work.

Granted, there are relationships that just don't work, and they should have figured that out ahead of time.

However, you either love the person and want to work it out, or you do the work before you get married to really learn more about each other.

There is nothing you get in life that doesn't come with having to work for it.

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mtgguy999@reddit

You can end your marriage at any time if you want.

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poopiepantz34@reddit

Divorces are expensive. Just ask Brendan Fraser.

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rhino369@reddit

Why would an automatic divorce be any less costly?

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therealgunsquad@reddit

They dont have to be. Even without a prenuptial a lot of divorced couples just sign off on the "irreparable differences" slot and choose "no real property" even if they do have real property they just choose to figure it out themselves without lawyers and judges. Then its like 300 bucks to file the paper work he takes his shit she takes her shit and they move away lol. Expensive divorces are for people that can afford them.

Source. Im a divorcee

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bell37@reddit

It’s more than that. Especially when kids are added to the equation. One parent will take more responsibilities and might lose out on financial opportunities to address child care.

Even if both parents are still working, im sure one parent stopped saving as much in their individual retirement account to prioritize paying for day care, and probably discussed it with their partner. Or one parent never pursued a graduate degree or taken a better job bc the workload would have been too much.

Finances and responsibilities become much more complicated to evenly split when kids are involved.

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doob22@reddit

Everyone should get a prenuptial agreement. No matter how successful you think your marriage will be… look at the statistics.

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flip314@reddit

There are lots of marriages where a pre-nup is useless. If neither party has significant assets or debt before the marriage, and there are no children, then chances are it'sa waste of money.

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jfleury440@reddit

Yeah. Both parties have to agree to continue every single day.

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jtzabor@reddit

Or don't get married if you don't mean it

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gmhunter728@reddit

Marriage shouldn't be a legal construct

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jeffmc81@reddit

Most don't get close to 10

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SystemOk8832@reddit

I have friends who do this. I think every 5 years they both have to consider and make a conscious decision to stay married, otherwise it's divorce. They have kids. I think it's one way to not fall into bad habits.

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Fluid_Maximum_5643@reddit

Arthur C Clarke touted this exact idea in Childhood’s End

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Own-Raise6153@reddit

so that’s just called dating

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yourscreennamesucks@reddit

🎶He's head of the class, he's popular 🎶

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Inspector_Kowalski@reddit

To what benefit? Married couples already choose not to get divorced every day. Is the idea that this somehow makes divorce easier at the 10 year point? If so, why would the division of assets and potentially children suddenly no longer need the same legal mediation? If you do have ideas that would make those issues irrelevant, why not apply those ideas to all couples who want to divorce? Is the benefit that couples are forced to have the conversation about it? Why do we need to ask couples of 10+ years if they’re sure instead of just letting them quit when they decide to? What if a spouse goes into a coma and is still asleep when the expiration period comes so they can’t sign papers to get remarried? Does the healthy spouse just lose their power to make medical decisions?

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PrettyWetObsession@reddit

interesting concept, i like it

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DavidCRolandCPL@reddit

Why yall trying break my 18 years marriage?

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Complete_Resolve_400@reddit

Bro discovered what divorce is

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Sinbos@reddit

How about ‚till our children grown up‘ ?

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Low-Issue-5334@reddit

I do" is way too much pressure. "I’m down for a decade" is much more realistic. We update our phones every 2 years and our cars every 5, but we expect a personality match to last 60? Let’s normalize re-evaluating the terms instead of messy divorces. 🤝

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Blocked-Author@reddit

That is crazy and I hate it.

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Lonely-deustch@reddit

That’s … actually not a bad idea

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Potential-Leg-9300@reddit

If you are not intending a lifelong union, then you were never married in the first place.

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Stock_Bandicoot_115@reddit

You can intend to renew

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bell37@reddit

Then that isn’t marriage. That is agreed cohabitation.

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DDPJBL@reddit

So marriage should be limited to half the time it takes to raise a child to adulthood? Do you see why that would be problematic?

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TheReblogBandit@reddit

Read Heinlein, old idea.

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therin_88@reddit

Maybe the worst idea in the history of bad ideas.

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Due-Boss-4354@reddit

There should be less important/intense form of union. Like an official partnership, artificial family ties if you will.

Marriage is too big and lessening it feels wrong.

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ThatUsernameIsTaekin@reddit

How about requiring a prenup to get married? Even a boiler plate one make it clear what each side is planning for the long-term.

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gnirpss@reddit

Why would you want to increase the amount of paperwork that the average family has to complete regularly? What could possibly be the benefit?

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HeebieJeebiex@reddit

That seems really annoying and just like another financial issue to add to the list. At that point you'd have people who just stay together but decided not to bother renewing the marriage because they couldn't afford it so now they're fake married lmao. And best hope nothing medical happens to you or something during that time I guess?? Horrible idea

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RoastedRhino@reddit

First, find any evidence that long term couples that are not married break up more than the married ones.

Do you really think that unhappy couples don’t break up because of the paperwork???

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SleveBonzalez@reddit

Very Ferengi ideas here OP

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One_Disaster_5995@reddit

Why? Just get a decent prenup.

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salty_mate@reddit

Wasnt this an idea in a famous podcast not that long ago haha

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-xX--Xx-@reddit

Just don't get married if you don't want to, nobody's forcing you...

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CameronsTheName@reddit

I said "till death do us part". So I'm just gonna stick to that.

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fighter_pil0t@reddit

This is someone’s whole standup routine

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sonofblackbird@reddit

Ten years is too long. Two years is better.

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ruzzara@reddit

“Till death you part”.

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AcanthisittaBorn8304@reddit

Still way too long, but the base idea is a step in the right direction.

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mazzicc@reddit

This doesn’t totally solve the issue of divorce, because you’d still have to figure out how to split commingled and shared assets at the 10 year mark.

And you can essentially do this already with a good prenup agreement where both sides lay out what happens in 10 years, and if you decide not to divorce, there’s your renewal

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SomeSamples@reddit

I have had this very idea. But make it 7 years.

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LA_Throwaway_6439@reddit

This is what the Ferengi do in Star Trek lol

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pinaple_cheese_girl@reddit

This is kind of real marriage anyway though? You can back out at any time, with the same consequences (good and bad) as if you do it in intervals of 10 years

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theassholeofalabama@reddit

Love this idea.

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nullentotre@reddit

I propose we support a one month limit on going steady I think it would keep people more able to deal with weird situations And get to know more people I think if you're ready to go out with Johnny Now's the time to tell him about your one month limit He won't mind, he'll appreciate your fresh look on dating And once you've dated someone else, you can date him again

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I-own-a-shovel@reddit

Just get a divorce for yourself and leave other people marriage alone lol.

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Snarti@reddit

This is a repost.

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DanielMcLaury@reddit

This is some hack standup comic's joke from the 1970s which has been bouncing around the country for the past 50 years via Reader's Digest joke sections, talk radio hosts, chain faxes, and every other method of communication that's been invented in the interim.

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blahblahbrandi@reddit

I read a book once where humanity had achieved immortality and they made a new type of marriage that only lasted 20 years then expired

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ZephRyder@reddit

I've been saying this for years. My wife however, does not agree

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Lulu_Sagi@reddit

Okay. Life gets messy and busy. What happens if they forget to renew?

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Moist_Rule9623@reddit

If you can remember to file a tax return every year, I would think you could remember your marital renewal date too. Feels like saying “let it ride” on your marriage would involve a lot less paperwork and arithmetic too

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DanielMcLaury@reddit

We also should not have to file tax returns each year. It's actually insane that we're forced to do that.

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bluebuns123@reddit

Not married anymoreeee

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Lulu_Sagi@reddit

IRS- Oh, these two filed jointly, but turns out they are not married. Time for an audit and charge them more money.

Hospital- Oh, you're no longer married which means you cannot make medical decisions

Goverment- Oh, you're no longer married. Since he passed away, you're no longer deemed next of kin. Have fun in probate court while you're fighting to retain assets.

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tigeralidance@reddit

Well then you better not miss the deadline

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TedW@reddit

Deadline? Dude it's been 2 weeks. Too soon.

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HeartMelodic8572@reddit

Til death do us part ... Wait, no. Til ten years perhaps we may or not part.

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Temporary-Round-3@reddit

I tell this to husband. Marriage license should need to be renewed like a driver license.

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Fuzzy974@reddit

I don't see why we don't abolish marriage at all instead.

Why should married people get a discount on taxes? All the reasons for that are old and outdated.

And some couple who aren't married are faithful, while some married couple aren't...

Just abolish marriage, let people determine with each other what is their relationship and the rules.

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