If your high school had a reunion would you go?
Posted by _FailedTeacher@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 113 comments
why? why not? America seems to have them but not us.
Posted by _FailedTeacher@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 113 comments
why? why not? America seems to have them but not us.
amf8033@reddit
Absolutely not. Some things are better left in the past...
JollyConfusion2545@reddit
Agree, don't ruin your childhood memories
amboandy@reddit
I'd like to add to this. Absolutely fucking not!
NortonBurns@reddit
Nope. I really wasn't bothered about people I knew from school. I had a circle of friends centred around a youth club instead. This was in the 70s.
Completely coincidentally, I'm going to a reunion of that youth club this weekend. The last one was in 1994.
WikiBits17@reddit
So much has changed since then. This is coming from someone born in the 2000s and can remember how much things were different 10-15 years ago were. The 90s was a definitley a different world (a better world from what I've heard).
InsaneNutter@reddit
I feel growing up in the 90s was unique in some ways as we grew up both with and without computers and the internet, same with mobile phones.
Both were fascinating to me, I always thought I'd been born just at the right time to experience both as they became accessible to the average person.
I don't really know if the world was a better place back then as I feel I was probably oblivious to a lot of it been a kid and teenager towards the end of the 90s. However I do feel the internet was far more amazing back then. It was mainly us kids online, messing about, posting on forums, chatting on MSN and playing games.
Pockysocks@reddit
No. I'm not really one for nostalgia to begin with and most of my high school friends are either dead or in prison by now.
Hot-Satisfaction19@reddit
not again.
TheDragonborn1992@reddit
No i was bullied for the whole 5 years i was there i don't ever want to see the bully again
DameKumquat@reddit
I left before social media was a thing. Went to one 15 years later because it was round the corner from work, free drink, and it was nice to see some people who were nice that I'd not stayed in touch with.
Went to the 20 year one, same reason, and that was seriously weird as it split into the rich on one side, talking about private schools and living in Richmond/Chiswick/Surrey, and the average middle class on the other talking about getting any mortgage at all and local state schools.
GuzziHero@reddit
Yes, with a can of petrol and some matches.
(j/k MI6 plz no arresty)
Important-Plane-9922@reddit
Genuinely like most of them or did when I knew them and hope they’re well but no chance I’d go
Rasty_lv@reddit
I'm originally from Latvia, where we have different educational system. We have mandatory secondary school years 1-9 (ages 6-16ish).after year 9, you have many different options what you can do. Drop out and have basic education, carry on in middle school for 3 years or do college / technical schools that are 4 years usually.
I did mandatory years 1-9 and college education for 4 years and then moved to the UK.
If reunion was for secondary school, then yes, I would attend. Heck, I did attend one in 2017. It wasn't official, but I was getting married in Latvia and same time one guy organised unofficial reunion and I attended. I legit missed all those people. My brother and best friend also attended one more hangout few years ago, but I couldn't get off work and fly to Latvia. Problem is that my secondary school was closed due to 2008 economic crisis, so there won't ever be any official reunion.
If it was college reunion.. Fuck no. That was hellish nightmare. Hated most of the people there. People were bullies. My ex was there. Nope. Pass.
Agile-Quail-3679@reddit
I would rather shit in my own hands.
alanaisalive@reddit
It's dying out in America. Social media has made it redundant. (Originally from the US, and my class hasn't had a full proper reunion since our 10th in 2005.)
Educational_Worth906@reddit
I did. They had just built a new school and were about to tear down the old one. I went with a couple of friends I was still in contact with & I saw a few people I hadn’t seen since I left.
A few of the teachers were still there a couple of decades later. One particular teacher was very surprised when I told him I was a teacher, he would have thought that was the last thing I’d end up doing, especially since the school had kicked me out.
Morganx27@reddit
I'd probably go back for a laugh at the expense of others. They were all cunts to me back then, so it'd be nice to see whose life has fallen to pieces.
LungHeadZ@reddit
I'd love to see some of my teachers again but I doubt they'd retain the same nostalgia for me. Understandably as they've continued to meet new students each year for decades now. Not to mention a few probably aren't around anymore.
I think American films romanticise reunions. Also, I don't want to be that guy but it's senior school, high school is an Americanism which somewhat leans into the whole American influence on it.
Morganx27@reddit
I've never once in my entire life heard it referred to as senior school, and most high schools including my own in this day and age are officially called "high school". Mine was St. [Redacted]s Catholic High School. Or secondary school, either work. So high school reunion is probably the best phrase for it.
Harrry-Otter@reddit
Someone actually arranged on a few years back. I didn’t go on the grounds I don’t live anywhere near where it was, but I probably would have if I still lived in the area. From the pictures I saw it was reasonably well attended.
jimicus@reddit
They do, every year, though they're not so well attended these days now everyone's on social media and can keep up with old schoolfriends a lot easier.
Broadly speaking, people going tended to fall into one of two categories:
I stopped going when I was too old to fit in with the first group and I have no desire to become part of the second.
MiserableSympathy230@reddit
For a start, it’s called secondary school. Second, considering it would be exclusively myself, and my sisters, as we were homeschooled, it would be rather moot .
kwack250@reddit
Nope. The people I cared about in high school have my number and can call me anytime they want. The rest don’t mean anything.
Diddleymaz@reddit
They do and I have been. Ten years ago and we’re all looking forward to celebrating 50 years since we left! I have in fact been to reunions for two different secondary schools. (We moved)
Norfuckingood@reddit
If they held it in my garden I’d go out for a pint.
Wise-Independence487@reddit
Nope, if I wanted to then I would have stayed in contact. I didn’t even like half of them when I knew them
ExcitingCriticism524@reddit
Nar. I’m still in contact with the one who matter to me the rest I hope have had decent lives.
Delicious_Zombie5736@reddit
This. I too hope the rest have had decent lives but on the other hand I don't really give two fucks about what they've done over the past 25 years.
qqqqtip@reddit
yes it would be nice to see everyone again
Whole-Strawberry3281@reddit
If I ever become a millionaire or have cool job I'll go to flex, otherwise never
kitknit81@reddit
No, I don’t speak to anyone from high school anymore and have no inclination to do so.
Ceejayncl@reddit
No, absolutely not. I heard last year that someone from school was trying to organise a reunion, and basically everyone has said no. Honestly pretty much everyone at school is someone who I didn’t want to know outside of school, except from a few people.
Significant_Return_2@reddit
Mine had one. I went. I wished I hadn’t.
dinkidoo7693@reddit
Its had a couple. I haven’t bothered. I hated school. Im in contact with about 4 people i went to school with. 2 of them went to the reunion last year and said it was awful, just people we haven’t seen in years showing off about their jobs or cars or whatever else and trying to out do each other with their successes
Evening-Web-3038@reddit
I would not. It's a mix of:
I fell out with pretty much all of my friends at the time. They started to dabble in drugs, I did not. They turned into pricks and I was the easy target. And to be fair I did respond once or twice, but nothing too bad just an official end to the friendship. I played football with them a few years ago as a mutual friend needed someone, and yea the atmosphere was tense as fuck! Those peeps are really bitter etc (probably all the drugs?).
Nothing my old friends have done surprises me. They are pretty much spawns of their parents, with 2.5 kids (or whatever the average is these days) and their IT Admin in a school (fucking mad how that ex-friend actually had that specific job as their dream job!) or EO civil service role. Steady but not setting the world alight. Probably boring as fuck.
The interesting people won't turn up, and if they did I never 'got in' with the crowd so they wouldn't know me.
The only ones I'm likely to get on with are the ex-bully types who aren't in prison. Why? Because I've occasionally seen them in the last few years and they have sorted their shit out and are actually quite pleasant these days. Friendly bunch who I'd actually get along with! And that's a bit depressing.
So yea, fuck a school reunions! That chapter has closed never to re-open!
vae0o@reddit
yeah lol. i’d be curious to see how everyone ended up
AnimeBritGuy@reddit
Would I go? Probably. Then again the few lads from my school days we still hang out and see each other a few times a week.
Digital_Palpitation@reddit
I'm from the US but moved here a few weeks after I turned 18, so t would be expensive for me to go back just for that.
I'd probably go if I'm visiting my parents anyway, but I wouldn't go out of my way to fly back. It would be interesting though, I haven't really kept in touch with anyone
huskydaisy@reddit
Nah, I'm in touch with the people from school I care about. I wish the rest well (most of them anyway) but don't really care if I never see them again.
Daveboy25@reddit
No, i wouldn't recognise anyone anyway.
Nuthetes@reddit
Yeah, I enjoyed school and was pretty popular. And would be nice to see my old friends again
thread_cautiously@reddit
I think I would. I knew a lot of people in my year so it would be nice to catch up and see how they're getting on.
daksh798@reddit
definitely not
PureDeidBrilliant@reddit
Christ no. I'd only go to my former classmates funerals to dance on their coffins in my silver dancing shoes and laugh loudly and merrily at the eulogies. I tell you this: dancing the Macarena in a kilt on a coffin isn't as easy as you think.
LittleUglyBug@reddit
It did and I didn’t
Prize-Phrase-7042@reddit
Not in a million fucking years.
Ambivalent-Axolotl@reddit
Absolutely not; I ran screaming from that place until I literally hit the sea, can't imagine why I'd ever want to go back.
I did get a little tase of what I think it might be like years ago when FB started and people who'd bullied me mercilessly sent me friend requests as if we'd been mates; I guess maybe the bully probably doesn't remember the things they did as clearly as the person they bullied? Anyway, perfectly happy to never darken that doorstep again.
Fine_Analyst_4408@reddit
Oh god, I hate when people that tortured you as a kid act like it's great to see you and like they didn't literally cause you years of misery. Easy for them to forget they were wee psychopaths, not so easy to forget what they did to you.
Active_Definition_57@reddit
Perhaps. There was one at my school about 20 years ago covering a range of years that included me and my (older) sister. There was talk of us going together as we were worried about going alone if we struggled to find anyone we wanted to talk to but we didn't in the end for reasons I don't recall.
I have some contact with a couple of people from school although we haven't met in person for quite a few years. Meanwhile my 62 year old sister met her best friend at secondary school and they still are friends with a few others from their year.
Alaina_Henderson98@reddit
depends on who shows up. some people from that era were delulu anyway, so probably not worth it.
lemmylive19@reddit
I do the cool job… I’m still uncool
mrfluffypants1504@reddit
No. I didn't like secondary school and am in touch with very few people from that time. It would be interesting to see how many are not alive anymore but thats about it.
TimeTimeClock@reddit
I would love to! I'd be interested to hear how people are.
MuayJudo@reddit
I'm in touch with and still friends with my friend circle from secondary school and sixth form. We're all mid thirties now.
If there was a reunion I'd go if they were there, but I wouldn't give a shit about anyone else there to be honest.
hiking_n_stuff@reddit
Feck no. Hated being there and hated the people I went there with. Especially those arses who told the school I was doing drugs who were apparently my “Friends” this is in the 80’s-90’s so doing Drugs was probably taken more seriously
shutterpete@reddit
Only if one of the conditions was to kick the people that made my life hell in the balls.
Cantabulous_@reddit
Reunion is just one part of the US alumni activities, they’re always fundraising for the school (be that high school or college). They really work at the alma mater angle to instil a sense of belonging and continuity - especially centred around school sports. So, typically they’re all-in on it. They’ll organise a reunion every 10 years for each graduating year. There really isn’t an equivalent experience in the UK, save perhaps public schools and their old-xyz members clubs?
Opening-Fortune4@reddit
Hell no. In fact they did, and I didn’t.
YouCantArgueWithThis@reddit
Had. Didn't go and would never go. Never had any connection with them.
Foxtrot7888@reddit
Yes, I’d be curious to see what people have been up to.
ToshLyons68@reddit
Probably not because at 57 I'm still in regular contact with my best 3 or 4 friends from school. That said if they were going I would.
Spottyjamie@reddit
Mine did but as it was in a village hall in winter i couldnt go sadly
Im in my 40s and still have friends from primary school, let alone secondary school but i guess that happens in small rural towns
Worried-Penalty8744@reddit
I kind of vaguely keep “in touch” with some ppl I went to secondary school with who still live in the same town, and might say hi if I pass them on the high street.
Some other ppl though are best left in the past. That said I’m pretty sure my ruse group’s bully ODd and died; I could probably find full similarities to The Kids Aren’t Alright by Offspring if I thought hard enough.
jb108822@reddit
No. I’m in touch with the people I want to be in touch with. There was a reunion of sorts of my year group a while back, but I didn’t bother going. Largely because I’m now living a long way away, and to be honest, I just didn’t get on with a fair number of people in my year.
Ok-Blackberry-3534@reddit
Yeah. I'm going to one soon.
Many_Hamster6055@reddit
They have had a few but no I don't go.Too embarrassed to let everyone see me again bcos I've put on so much weight and I have Social Anxiety and I weren't popular always had probs fitting in with other girls,stl do.My friend was a lad and he's dead now!
Early_Enthusiasm_787@reddit
Yes because I’m very happy with my life, family and career. I was bullied and I would love the chance to look those dickheads with shit lives in the eye.
nfurnoh@reddit
Nope. I’m an American and there’s no way I’d fly back just for that. Even if I still lived there I hated high school, so still no.
No-Relation1122@reddit
I'm torn - I'm so nosey and would want to know what people are up too, but also, don't actually care about it, so I'd base it on location and date; if I could, I maybe would, but wouldn't lose sleep if not.
musicallymotivated93@reddit
Oh god no. There are a small group of people I keep in touch with/see every now and again, but I'm not interested in seeing the rest of the year group. That's a chapter of my life that's going to remain firmly closed.
121daysofsodom@reddit
No. I wouldn't know anybody.
Bex1775@reddit
I loved secondary school, I went to a reunion, re-met my first ever boyfriend and we got back together, we've been together 15 years now.
I've kept in touch with quite a few friends from back then, a lot of them didn't leave the area, me and my husband had both moved away but moved back now. I went to a very rural pretty small school, I think that's why it was easier to get on with people there.
cariadbach64@reddit
Ive been seriously ill, as in nearly died ill, and then my friend had a heart issue. We're arranging a small get together when my friend is next home from the states, along with the rest of our drinking group from the pub,unfortunately we're a few down including someone who died from the condition I have. We're also arranging a 6th form do later in the year.
Fine_Analyst_4408@reddit
Nope, it was a hobby for those kids to hate me lol.
RoutineAbroad3486@reddit
I’d go solely to make them all aware that I’m not a druggie, on benefits or in prison. That’s about it
PurchaseDry9350@reddit
There has been an annual reunion but I haven't been, part of it is it's hundreds of miles away and it's hard for me to travel due to illness
Academic-Chocolate57@reddit
They would have to hold mine at HMP Leeds so for that reason, I probably won’t go.
LordJimmy84@reddit
Not a chance. The people I want to stay in contact with I already am. Why would I want to go to a massive festival of people gloating about how well they've done in life and trying to one up each other.
Purp1eMagpie@reddit
No thank you. I still see the people I want to be in touch with
thelaughingman_1991@reddit
It'd be like a 3D Facebook feed
YesTesco@reddit
Except all but a handful are masking their racist antics
Single-Position-4194@reddit
No way. I'd be paying £20 plus bar bills to be told I was a prat in 1972. What's the point of that?
PoolRamen@reddit
I have gone to the odd event. The requests for money comes in very genteel terms, and I've also provided internships for students.
Particular_Pickle465@reddit
Probably not. I wasn’t really friends with any of them.
eyesonly456@reddit
No couldn't think of anything worse
Boring-Equivalent315@reddit
My school does have reunions and I’ve been to a couple. It was fine, I had no strong feeling either way.
Ry3nh0wells@reddit
I rather jump in front of a train
Sea-Still5427@reddit
God, no.
BurkesRoad@reddit
No, but only because I live 6000 miles away.
Mysterious_County154@reddit
Yeah why not
Find out where poeple are at in their life now
BarSalt970@reddit
Yeah id love to see my old class mates again, especially the old gang! I cba organising one myself though lol. There was one about 5 years ago but I was abroad, gutted!
ashyjay@reddit
I'd have the curiosity to go, but it'd be a flying visit that's even if I'm allowed in.
lloydmcallister@reddit
Mine did and I didn’t get invited.
Icy_Place_5785@reddit
Only to find out who has died
Tricky-Slip-9483@reddit
They could hold it in my back garden and I still wouldn’t go. Nothing of value to be gained from going to such a thing.
Tski247@reddit
Yes, been to a few. The only ones who tend to go are the party people who don't give a fuck about the opinion of others.
clovenheart1066@reddit
100% i love gossip.
Velo_Rapide@reddit
Oh, do you remember that time Mrs Jarvis farted in assembly?
HA HA HA HA HA.
Me: no
Smash_337@reddit
Probably not. I’m in touch with those I want to stay in touch with. There aren’t many people I’d want to connect with otherwise, and if I did I’d probably look them up on social media.
Fragrant_Mind_1888@reddit
Sixth form - yes, had a good two years there and chill with everyone in the place, secondary school? LOL - you would have pay me £1m to be with a bunch of people who made my life torture for 2-3 years
PinkandTwinkly@reddit
Probably not. I left 30 ish years ago. I'd not recognise or remember anyone
Feeling-Bluebird8413@reddit
I didn’t
BobBobBobBobBobDave@reddit
The people from school I actually liked and wanted to stay in touch with, I am mainly in touch with.
I might be tempted out of curiosity, but I don't know.
I went to a university reunion recently, and I haven't seen some of those people for more than 20 years. It was a nice thing to do. But I probably have more in common with a lot of the people I was at uni with than people from school, after so many years.
NotaThreatUK@reddit
Fuck no.
SuperHansDunYourMum@reddit
Well they had one. It was in some dingy working men's club in a different town from our school (because that's where the organiser lived). I was on holiday, but driving 3 hours across the country to hang around with a bunch of people I had no interest in didn't appeal to me.
CoconutBandita@reddit
Probably not if my secondary school did. I live 4 hours away and I have remained in contact with the people I would want to speak to.
We don't have the sports team /cheer culture that America has so there's not really a unifying identity of having gone to a particular school. I'm sure that's different for those who went to Eton etc
cgknight1@reddit
There were 40 people in my year - I know what all of the people I'm interested in are actually doing...
kestrelita@reddit
I'm not that fussed - with social media it's much easier to keep in touch, and I've stayed friends with the people I cared about!
Mglfll@reddit
It’d be a very dry affair. Last I heard tons of my year were a mix of drink/drug dependant
Venomnight@reddit
Probably not
Stinkinhippy@reddit
I'd be amazed they found me to tell me about it honestly.. but yeah i'd go.. just to see what happened to some of them.
tellemhey@reddit
Yes and I’d fight all the jocks
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