What’s something that niggles from childhood that you often think about?
Posted by Jellybean199201@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 82 comments
This question isn’t about any major traumas we had but those small things that often come to mind that rankle every time you think about it?
My memory is always one of the girls in my friendship group. For context in Comp we as a group would always go back to my house on a lunchtime, sometimes we’d grab food on the way or sometimes just make food that was in my house. The thing that always annoyed me was this one particular friend would always raid the fridge freezer and make these ridiculous platters of food for herself, say they were all hers but then she’d only eat like a quarter of it tops. She’d fill up giant pint glasses with fizzy pop, have barely a mouthful of it and then just leave the rest of it.
I remember one incident I put some chicken nuggets into the fryer, when they were finished she took them out and split them between us, I didn’t think anything of it so just grabbed a plate at random, she then immediately shrieked that she wanted that one because it had one more nugget than the other plate, I wasn’t bothered so told her I’d just swap, she laughed and said there was no point now and I might as well have them all saying ‘look at greedy jellybean eating all the nuggets’ the other girls who never acted like this jus kind of stared at her like WTF?
I was a bit of a wallflower in school so obviously never called this out and just kind of rolled with it but it’s one of those things I’d love to go back in time to call her out on it 😂 or even just ask why? I don’t know if it was a weird power thing or sheer greed. We drifted very quickly after school after I stopped being the one she could walk over so I do hope she hasn’t continued like this haha
TheNutsMutts@reddit
When I was maybe about 7 or so, we'd get the bus back from school. It was a large double-decker bus that normally had the same driver called Fred. Fred was an oldish man with a large beard, and got on very well with all the other kids and was normally spoken highly of by them, but I really seemed to be Fred's favourite. To the point that he'd give me sweets on the reg, and even lent me a Terminator game on a floppy disk he'd made a copy of (I never put them in a computer, didn't know how at the time). Fred also had a friend who drove another bus of about similar age, and covered his shift on odd occasions. I was also this guy's favourite kid on the bus. Sometimes, where there'd be a spot that Fred would normally drive through to take us home where the other driver would wait for another route, he'd sometimes stop so the other driver could give specifically me sweets. They even sometimes talked to each other and to me about me hanging out with them so they could show me this game that Fred had lent me. By chance, circumstances changed and either I ended up going to another school, or they disappeared suddenly just before then. All I recall is that they just stopped being around.
This was something I'd forgotten about until a few years ago, when I recalled it, put the pieces together and thought........ wait a fucking second were two old men literally trying to groom me? I was completely oblivious at the time but in hindsight..... yeah two old men were actively trying to groom a 7 year old.
Unseasonal_Jacket@reddit
There is always aot of this. We had several teachers that when we all collectively think back we have the niggling thought. 'were they actually perverts??' it's always the 'cool ones'.
One of our good friends as a teenager became very friendly with a music teacher outside school and even went on a n overnight booze cruise to France and slept in his van!! I have never had the gall to ask him wtf that was all about.
Even at the time that felt absolute noncery.
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
I’m not going to lie my heart was in my throat reading most of your comment. Could have been innocent obviously but yeah definitely something you look back on differently
Usual-Journalist-292@reddit
Was really good friends with someone a couple years older than me back when I was in primary school, he was my moms friends son. I'd visit regularly, we'd hang out outside as we all did before we had the internet. Great friends for a good 3-4 years then for some reason we just stopped and never saw each other again.
I can't for the life of me remember why and it really bugs me, my mom and his are still friends to this day so there wasn't any falling out that side.
I think I vaguely remember him getting a girlfriend so maybe she thought it weird he was hanging out with someone younger than him so he just stopped. Maybe it was some other reason, I just don't know, and it's been a good 15/16 years now so way too late to try to rekindle a friendship now.
FunkyYoghurt@reddit
Losing my best friend (not death). He was my best friend from starting Primary School together. We did everything together. Slept over at his house most weekend or him at mine. For years. By Secondary School mutual friends even joked that we were a gay couple. To be honest we might as well have been (minus kissing and anything sexual). At the end of Year 9 and during the summer holidays, I went on holiday to Austria for a week. I came back and...that was it. Never saw or spoke to him again (we were at separate secondary schools). Completely ghosted. Him and family wouldn't answer the door if I knocked on. Nothing.
To this day I wonder about you sometimes and what the hell that was about, Matthew. I hope you're well.
tinymoominmama@reddit
My husband talks about something like that happening to him, with a close friend. It turned out that the friends dad had gone to prison for fraud. I think it was probably the shame and trauma of such a thing happening that caused the friends behaviour.
Unseasonal_Jacket@reddit
Similarly lost a friend. We were 25 though and already life was taking us in different places! But still thought we would keep in touch like many of my other friends. But his dad went to prison for defrauding/thieving lots of local people and I just don't think he could take the shame.
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
How strange! Have you ever looked him up on Facebook to see how he is?
At risk of sounding ignorant do you think it was the gay taunts he was uncomfortable about and being a teenage boy decided to distance himself?
Hope you’re doing well also Matthew
excitedbynaps@reddit
My friend did this to me. We wwre a bit older (16). Except we did go to the same school - all I heard though was she just didnt want to be friends anymore. I actually looked her up 10 or so years later and reached out. She was very apologetic and explained it all. We chat on occasion now but its not like it was and since we both moved away in different directions I doubt we will ever meet again.
ResponsibilityNo3245@reddit
Come on, what was the reason? 😂
mothsugar@reddit
i reckon it was something to do with ghosts! 🤞 👻
FunkyYoghurt@reddit
In my recollection it never bothered him. I left school in 2004. I tried to find him on FB years ago and the only information I got is that he was in London studying Law.
Own-Lecture251@reddit
That is very, very odd. Maybe his family were worried about the gay thing? Maybe he was gay and they suspected?
warmslippers12345@reddit
I just this morning watched a Belgian film called Close and the start of what you were saying is eerily like the plot of that. Luckily your life seems to have taken a different path to the film's storyline which I'm very glad to hear! Ghosting and losing a bear friend is hard. I had a falling out with my best friend as a teenager and haven't spoken to them since and I remember feeling like I'd lost part of myself as we'd previously lived in each other's pockets
crucible@reddit
Just so I'm clear here -
this was in YOUR house?
it was YOUR (family's) food she was helping herself to?
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
Yep that’s right!
I_like_Your_Face500@reddit
Omigod I thought it was in her house for some reason! Probably because that's even more mental that she'd do that in your house! Wild
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
Yeah she’d literally walk into the house go straight to the freezer and pull out a bunch of food and say these are mine by the way. Like no they literally aren’t 😂 I know as teens we can be a bit ignorant but when I think about it it’s kind of wild she didn’t have tha little voice in her head telling herself she was being rude. As well as leaving huge plates of food and drinks and not caring you’ve wasted other peoples food
wnttak@reddit
11 September 2002 and we were having a minutes silence for the year anniversary of 9/11. I was 7 at the time and just started year 3.
We are sitting in our class tables (4-6 of us) and a few seconds into the silence we notice a spider on the table that is walking towards me. Naturally, I'm petrified and edging my seat further and further away from the table. Meanwhile my entire table is sniggering at my horror.
Once the minute silence is over, the teacher reprimands me for being inappropriate, making people laugh etc. Admittedly, we were only a week or so into the new school year and she didn't know me but it really upset me at the time because I was getting berated for being disrespectful when I was just trying to get away from a spider.
ThePeake@reddit
This just occurred to me; I was in the bottom PE group, and I remember being taught that in volleyball, you catch the ball if it comes over the net to you, then throw it up and volley it back. Ostensibly this was to make it easier for the less coirdinated/ most unfit children. Later in school I had a class with a more mixed group, playing volleyball, and the ball came over the net to me, so I caught it. Cue gales of laughter from the other boys. 🥲
damned-n-doomed@reddit
My dad wanted me to be tested for autism and ADHD and my mum wouldn’t let me.
I’m not sure why as I’ve never brought it up to her and I don’t speak to her anymore but I think it’s probably because she wanted a “perfect” child and didn’t want to have to admit there was something “wrong” with me.
And now as an adult I struggle quite a lot but the waiting lists for diagnosis are so long.
G0d0fZ0mb13@reddit
Actually, you know what? Basically this for me, too. My brother had learning difficulties, and an ADD expert sat down and spoke to us both, and of the two of us, whom the Doctor believed had ADD, the focus was entirely on my brother, because his learning difficulties were more severe.
Over thirty years later, I've been sat on that fucking waiting list for years now, and I find it genuinely difficult to be a "normal person"
pixeltash@reddit
Would you rather wait and not be on a waiting list?
I'm 52 and female, everyone in my children's generation are diagnosed autistic. I finally started the process three years ago, got first appointment within six months, and they basically confirmed it, but I have to wait for the big appointment.
Just having someone outside my family confirm that I'm not weird just different has been like a huge weight lifted, it makes so much sense of my life.
So yes the wait is long, but time will pass anyway, so why not.
TheGospelFloof44@reddit
Yes what the other commentor said. The NHS are outsourcing now and you get to pick depending on your location who you get assessed with. The doctor explained this to me on Friday.
geesegoosegeesegoose@reddit
If you're in England, look at Right to Choose. Brings the waiting list down from years to months.
If not, the best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is now. You might as well be on the waiting list (if you're not already) because the time will pass anyway.
iffyClyro@reddit
When I was about seven years old a teacher lost their rag and pushed me into a door and then shook me.
I told my mum and she told the school and then I got expelled for lying.
100% happened no idea how they came to the conclusion I’d lied.
Sad-Insurance1313@reddit
So sorry this happened to you at such a tender age. Hope that teacher has been troubled by it every night since
ODST_Viking@reddit
Got made to stand outside the headteachers office all break, and then write lines all lunch, all because I accidentally bumped into a teacher while playing on the playground and she spilled a bit of her cup of tea.
The teacher I got sent to to write lines clearly hadn’t been told what I’d supposedly even done, just that I was in trouble, because she acted like I was the devil incarnate, barking orders at me etc.
ibiacmbyww@reddit
Greg. Roxanne. Callum. All dear friends when we were between the ages of 5 and 11. I looked them up, and they do. not. exist. Not even a matching name on LinkedIn or Facebook.
Weirder still, my dad has no recollection of them, including not remembering that I used to go to Greg's fairly often as he lived round the corner.
Did I invent them?! My childhood was pretty good, bar a divorce, it's not like I was away with the fairies and making up imaginary friends.
Super-Craig@reddit
I was born and raised in poverty. I don't often dwell on those times, but when I do, I think about all the good friends, and enemies too, people who were ground up in the meat grinder of poverty. Most were killed, some merely succumbed to circumstance, they were hard times back then where the strong didn't always survive, but the weak almost certainly perished.
Nowadays, welfare is so ubiquitous that the poverty class is almost non-existent, people have food in their bellies and everyone carries some kind of cellular device that can call for help in moments. It grieves me when I think about how many good friends and allies might still be alive today if only I'd had access to such a miraculous device all those years ago. Of course, these same devices also provide protection and security, being able to capture and record both audion and video evidence of wrong doing within a short moment.
Sometimes, I go back to the old estate, it's changed so much from back then, everything feels smaller, but also much safer. For starters you can actually walk into and back out again without anyone accosting you, that was unheard of back in the day. There's an actual playpark with a mini-five-a-side basketball/football area, and there were actually children playing in it. Actual children having genuine fun, not part of a gang, not involved in criminal activity, not huddle a corner starving and tripped out on drugs, just children running around playfully laughing and having fun.
It always brings me to tears seeing how much better things are for those at the bottom of society. It's a shame that such a huge drastic change had to take a few decades to come about. There are so many who lost their lives between then and now, waiting for this change to come about.
Wandering_ENTJ@reddit
This post had 5 upvotes when I read it earlier, what kind of heartless bastards downvotes a post about overcoming poverty.
Super-Craig@reddit
You need to get out of the head space of seeing the upvote/downvote buttons as agree/disagree buttons.
The more correct way to look at it is through the lens of "Do I want more people to see this, or less?".
Those were some very dark times back then, not at all pleasent, nobody wants to relive those days. We all lost important people back then, it's painful to look back then and compare it to how things, too painful for some. So you can't blame those people for wanting to protect the younger generations from that time.
upsidecloud@reddit
I was showing some girl 'friends' - I thought we were friends, retrospectively they tolerated me at best - some photos from my first ever holiday abroad when I was about 14. Of the pictures was one of those classic holiday ones, with the beach in the background and the photographer's knees in the foreground as though they've taken the photo whilst sunbathing. When I showed them that photo, one of the girls said, 'EW. Who's big fat whale legs are those?' They were mine. I lied and said it was my Nan. I still lie awake at night seething at how obnoxious she was to string all those words together - 'big fat whale legs'. Whales don't even have legs.
HelplessPenguinGod@reddit
When I was kid me and my cousins/siblings would regularly make "crab hotels" where we would collect crabs and put them in a small rock pool with nice rocks, plants, shells etc, maybe open an oyster for them to eat.
One of my cousins though had a cruel streak where she would murder them all! Just completely massacre them, like crush them, pull them to pieces, stab them with bits of shell etc.
She is chill as now though, a normal working mother who cares and thinks about other people, has a couple dogs she loves etc. Little kids can be psychos!
catsnstuff17@reddit
Oh my god, Crab Murderer!! That's nightmarish!
Own-Lecture251@reddit
I think they've got vestigial legs...
Wanita_1972@reddit
Ohhhhhhhh poor you. I was the fat kid at school and it was horrible. Big hugs.
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
Oh I’m so sorry about this and yes I understand completely the kind of person this friend was. The classic I’m going to put you down in front of other people to make me feel good type
Underwritingking@reddit
I was sent to a primary school run by nuns. I vividly recall the nightmares I had after they told all us little kids (I think I was about 5 or 6) that we should be prepared to meet god at any time, and that they knew children of our age who had "dropped dead" at playtime.
And I remember the nun who slapped me repeatedly until I confessed to something I hadn't done.
I have never met a bigger bunch of hate-filled self-righteous bigots
MandelbrotFace@reddit
My parents weren't generally strict at all but there were some odd/petty decisions around punishment that I question as an adult. Once I accidentally dropped the lid of our porcelain teapot, snapping the top part off leaving a small hole. My pocket money got stopped for like 6 weeks to pay for a new one. It must have cost about £12. Like, what's the message behind the punishment there? Don't ever accidentally drop something? 😂
Easy-Rider-9210@reddit
Two things
(1) Aged 13, on the bus back from a school trip to France, a girl I was really into sat next to me and we talked most of the way back. She gave me her number and said to call her, maybe we could hang out more. I phoned a couple of days later and she said 'oh that was just a dare from my friends, I don't actually like you'. No idea whether that was true, she changed her mind, or what, but it was pretty devastating for a confidence-lacking / shy 13 year old.
(2) Probably about the same time (this was the 90s) - I found 3 pound coins in a row in the street, one after the other. My parents decided I'd stolen it because how could you possibly find £3 in one go?
Careless_Soup_109@reddit
We grew up with a certain view of fair - big kids seized better seats on the bus, child and parent parking spaces didn't exist, etc - but when we grew older, the definition of fair changed.
It's like we waited for our turn and didn't get it. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or not.
doegrey@reddit
That one stupid thing I did that time that could easily have ended in disaster. I was just lucky.
leopardprintrovert@reddit
I have so many but the one that sprang to mind was when I was about 15. A small group of us booked tickets to a Reel Big Fish gig, with permission from our parents. However our parents didn't realise until after we booked that it was in a nightclub which freaked them all out. There were no extra tickets available for a parent to come and chaperone us so my mum immediately volunteered my ticket to another girls dad so they could all still go. No discussion with me. I guess that way she was satisfied that she didn't have to worry about me being in a nightclub and devastating me in the process was just a minor consequence in her eyes.
kylehyde84@reddit
Hope you managed to see RBF at some point after this!
leopardprintrovert@reddit
I did! At a local venue, not long after. Then again about 10 years later.
FunkyYoghurt@reddit
Gosh they take me back! We'd have been friends.
Moppo_@reddit
That kid in primary school who insisted "several" meant exactly "seven".
If you see this, you were wrong then, and you're wrong now.
Chevalitron@reddit
I'm going to assume this wasn't me. I never had a Mewtwo card.
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
Please tell me this wasn’t a shiny MewTwo card? If so this comment belongs in the major trauma thread not this one…. Sorry!
Moppo_@reddit
Nah, just a regular one. I still have my shiny Kabutops, and that's all that really matters.
BeanOnAJourney@reddit
My friend broke a piece of track from my train set, an integral part the loss of which rendered the whole track useless. I was absolutely distraught and so apoplectic with rage I grabbed her by her shoulders and slammed her head against the door. I was no older than 4 because we hadn't yet started school. I'm 42 now and it still upsets me.
charlii_47@reddit
Upsets you because she broke the toy or upsets you because you attacked your friend? Just out of interest
ManIsready@reddit
Stayed at my Aunts, she's rich, has a big house In the Country side. Stayed In my cousins room as they were at their Dad's (separated). 2 weeks later I go out with my Cousin and Nan and we sit down to eat and they basically blamed me for stealing some rare Pokemon Card
I am Audhd so was a very naughty child but wasnt a thief especially not to my cousins we really got on, but remember pleading my case and could tell they just weren't buying It.
I didn't steal the Pokemon Card, I didn't even look through any of his Toys as they were 8 and 10 and I a bit older at 12 so didn't Interest me
Jellybean199201@reddit (OP)
Thanks so much for these comments everyone. It’s reassured me that I’m not the only one that still remembers these little things. I can still picture my friend with her giant glass of coke and platter of fish fingers, chips and chicken nuggets she’ll barely touch and get annoyed 😂
dignityintactt@reddit
When I was 11, for one lesson, PE was split into boys and girls. The girls (and me) went to the local park to learn football, the boys did idk what. Football had never been taught as part of PE before, so this was many people's first time actually trying to properly interact with the ball. I hated football and avoided it whenever I could, so the most "impressive" thing I could do was roll the ball into my foot and kick it up, but I couldn't catch it with my foot again (at least not without it bouncing off again lol).
After about fifteen minutes of trying to get us to do keepy uppys or some shit, our (male) PE teacher said "Why are girls so bad at football? None of the boys have this problem."
I still daydream about going back in time and replying sarcastically something like, "I don't know, Mr. X. Could it be because boys are societally encouraged to play football and the boys in our year play football every day during playtime, whereas this is most of our first attempts to actually play a sport we don't give a shit about? Could it be the difference between someone who's been playing for five years regularly and someone who's played less than ten hours in their whole life? It's a mystery!"
Fuck him honestly. Actually liked him as a teacher but that was not on.
Boating_taxonomist@reddit
I was supposed to go on holiday abroad with my friend’s family (I thought she was my best friend). It ended up not happening because her parents were having relationship problems, but the next time I was round their house her mum said to me that she was sorry about the holiday and she’d try and arrange for us to go to centre parks or something when things were more settled. I might be misremembering but I do seem to recall she also repeated something to the same effect to my mum when they bumped into each other one day. Anyhow, a short while later, I didn’t hear from my friend for a half term holiday and we went back to school the following Monday and within a very short time, it became apparent another girl had gone on holiday with her (I think it was the other girl who said something about it). Once this other girl wasn’t around my friend really awkwardly told me she was sorry but her mum had invited this other girl first before asking her, and I was just like ‘oh, right, okay…’ :/ but I was really miffed and confused. I mean it didn’t make any sense (like why she didn’t tell me before, why her mum would have done that in the first place, etc). Still bothers me a little bit just because I don’t know really what happened, and it makes me question our whole friendship, that possibly (probably?) she just fancied going with this other girl, and it was one of those situations where she was my best friend but I was only her 4th best friend or something and I didn’t realise.
Tbh I’ve a lot of niggling things like that though, I got diagnosed as autistic when I was 31 and you find yourself thinking a lot on all those moments where you didn’t understand what had happened, and questioning what you might have missed or misinterpreted.
I_like_Your_Face500@reddit
I remember my friend group went out for my birthday - think it was my 16th - to an Italian restaurant. We went out for all our friends' birthdays as a group and usually all split the bill, so the birthday girl got her meal for free.
Firstly when we got there, one of my friends said "Oh, where did you get your handbag from?" And I said,"Accessorize! Did you like it?" And she just flatly replied,"No." And at the end of the meal, they didn't split the bill, and I had to pay for my meal. It was a shit meal as well as the waiters just seemed annoyed with us, though we were behaving ourselves.
Anyway it was then I realised the majority of the "friend" group were actually quite mean and bitchy and I gradually cut ties with them after that. There had been other incidents that painted that picture, but my 16th birthday sticks in my head as it was quite painful!
Thank you for giving me an opportunity to vent 😅
catsnstuff17@reddit
Teenage girl friendship dynamics are honestly brutal. I hated it and did not retain any of my secondary school friendships.
pirategospel@reddit
Not sure this is what you meant but I’ve been bothered for YEARS but this.
In nursery/reception class, I was taught that ‘’dark blue’’ meant light sky blue, and ‘’light blue’’ meant dark, sea blue. For shades of all colours.
Literally the inverse meanings of light and dark were taught. I was a smart kid and knew what dark and light meant lol, so quickly cottoned on to this and gave them the wrong answer in order to be ‘’right’’ when asked.
This wasn’t just me remembering it. My brother did too, over 5 years later by the same staff, and so did classmates when we looked back. I’m partially convinced it was a compliance test or some other psyop lmao.
Willsagain2@reddit
https://youtu.be/jk3EsXgXcyQ
jellyantler@reddit
Knew exactly what this link would be, hahaha
pip_goes_pop@reddit
Ah if you'd have answered differently you'd probably have been fast-tracked into MI6.
MiserableSympathy230@reddit
Was homeschooled and shy.
We ended up going to this camp playground thingy for homeschooled kids to hang out. Didn’t talk to any and hated the place, would just wait with my Mum for my sisters to finish.
This was deep into my “I hate everyone and I’m kinda moody” phase, so when this nervous kid came up to me with his mum and asked to play, I just blanked him. He looked so hurt, and I think about him everyday.
If you’re reading this, I’m so sorry
Gauntlets28@reddit
One of the more lighthearted childhood annoyances I still hold on to is one time at a birthday party at the local leisure centre, we were playing basketball as the main activity.
We were divided into teams, all good so far. But then one of the kids, can't remember who, had apparently never played basketball and for some reason got it into his head that the goal was to put the basket in your own hoop. Cue everyone on our team panicking and desperately trying to stop him before he scored another point for the other team. And for some reason, the adults running the show seemed to think that the points should count, even though he'd been actively sabotaging us!
GeggingIn@reddit
My pal used to get the ginger cake and mould it into the shape of poo for fun. He put it on the teacher’s desk, but I got scared and ate it.
Mum was crying because the school had called about reports of me eating jobby in the classroom.
RationBook@reddit
A school friend had an imaginary big brother. Imaginary in the sense that he wanted me to believe he existed. I went to his house often and there was no extra bedroom for this brother. Sometimes, I would call his house and he would pretend to be the big brother. He basically used it as an excuse to be mean to me. I assumed it was an attempt at a prank but he never came clean, he just eventually forgot he had a pretend brother.
Here's the kicker. He gave his brother the same name as himself. All the names in the world he could've used and he picker his own. His parents had two children with the same name, apparently.
ThinkIshatmyself@reddit
The one thing that always gets to me even to this day, roughly 15 years on is the time I stopped my little brother being squashed by a marble fireplace.
So there's 6 years between my little brother and I, he was around 3 years old so I was only around 9, so a child myself.
My mum was an alcoholic and she was in the middle of paying off somebody to install a marble fireplace she'd been given so at the time it was placed up to the wall and not fixed and we were explicitly told not to go near it.
Anyway she had been on it as per usual and left me to watch my brother and I'd gone to the door for something or another and when I came back in to the living room he was pushing the fireplace and I remember skidding the length of our living room (we had solid wood floor) and managed to stop it falling on him but crushing myself in the process.
My mum eventually came in the room and belted me multiple times for 'pissing' about. I'll forever be fucked off about this lol.
PinkFridaze@reddit
That's awful. I'm so sorry. Out of interest, & tell me to go away if you like, is your mum still around? If so, do you still have a relationship with her? I feel like I'd be so resentful once I reached adulthood.
ThinkIshatmyself@reddit
Not at all!
Yeah she's around. She actually shocked everybody and was given a few years of drinking before her body packed in. Took her self off to rehab and got herself sober and has been for well over 10 years!
We have a somewhat relationship. I have 2 kids so they're like the stepping stone for the relationship.
I_like_Your_Face500@reddit
There was a time in p5 when a teacher said something like, "Whoever didn't know that Jesus is the son of God, raise your hand!" I had grown up going to church a lot and Bible camp in Scotland and South Africa and had come to the conclusion that it was hypocritical and I didn't believe in God and Jesus, so I raised my hand. She then belittled me. "You didn't know?!" In a sarcastic tone. I should have explained myself, but I just felt so embarrassed as everyone in class was laughing. F you, Mrs Ferguson, I'm allowed to not believe!
Willsagain2@reddit
That sucks. Adults can be so cutting to children sometimes. She lacked understanding of the difference between knowledge and testimony.
Glad_Feeling_4030@reddit
The one thing that always sticks with me is a specific situation that happened about 5 years ago, when i was 15.
For context, I've had a lot of medical problems over the years that have caused me to be hospitalised for numerous weeks in a row. It's been really disruptive to my life and tends to be a recurring issue that I get hospitalised for once a year.
Anyway, I was in high school at the time and there were a group of people I considered to be my friends, but looking back on it, I was never really as close to them as they were to each other and I don't think most of them liked me that much in general.
There was this activity we often did together, once a week or so at our friend's house. To clarify, this wasn't something I joined in on later, I was there when we started doing it as a group. I was only able to go a few times before my condition got worse and I ended up back in the hospital again. This was during the summer I believe, so it was already one of the roughest times of my life, as that was also the summer that one of my parents died (about a week before I was discharged from the hospital.)
Anyway, I get out of the hospital a few days before the end of summer. None of them message in the group chat we made for this activity or talk there for a while, so I assume they just aren't doing it anymore and let it be. Except I show up to class one day around the start of the new school year, and... they're talking about their plans to meet up and do this activity again right in front of me.
While I was in the hospital, they suddenly decided to uninvite me from the group activity we all did regularly and instead make a different group to do said activity without me and invite their other friends instead. I didn't say anything about this and typically avoided talking to them too much after that and for the rest of the year, I started making friends with other people in my class and slowly left them all to live their lives.
They weren't obligated to be my friends or invite me, but it was just really awful timing for me considering everything going on in my life. Luckily, it proved to me that most of them didn't want me there and it allowed me to befriend the types of people I really wanted to be friends with.
matthainey@reddit
Must have been about 1995 and I was 6 or 7. I was pulled up in class because my best mate had got into trouble for "kicking girls in the playground" from the year above at break time. It was the first I'd heard of it and my mate had pointed me out as an accomplice to the teachers. I pleaded my innocence but the teachers were angry and uninterested. We were then escorted to to the class where the victim girls were and forced apologise with my friend in front of everyone. The school told my parents too - it's never left me!
Firesequence@reddit
I caught my dad shagging a woman and the fucker never had the adult courage to talk to me about it, not even to try say " lad let me explain ...dont tell your mom"
i was only 9 , i didnt tell her, how could i
a few years later she left
the whole scenario niggles
Own-Lecture251@reddit
I was going to the van* one day aged about 5 or 6 when I found a Mars Bar all in its wrapper on the pavement. I picked it up happily and carried on towards the van. I'd only just set foot in the van when the van man took it off me saying, "there it is" and handed it to the only other customer- an adult. Apparently it belonged to the other person and had been dropped accidentally. None of them actually said a word to me throughout this. It was as if I was a dog or something and had found it.
A few years later I won pass the parcel at a Christmas party and it was a 1/4lb of Black Magic. When I got home I had to go straight to bed and my mum ate them when I was asleep. She gave me a Mars Bar in return. A different one from the one I'd found a couple of years earlier. I think.
*general groceries
baeworth@reddit
I had a toy, it was a purple sparkly castle and it came with some figures and a magic key. You’d pop them in certain areas of the castle and shut a door and I suppose they were supposed to reappear in another part or like a hidden room. Anyway I lost all my figures to its secrets and never figured out how to get them out. It still bugs me
ramakitty@reddit
I wonder if it was one of these - https://www.ghostofthedoll.co.uk/starcastle-individual.php
baeworth@reddit
It was!! It was the flower garden one I had omg. It’s a shame they’re vintage and so expensive now
Outside-Resist4688@reddit
I remember being in Year 3 and our teacher was Head of the infants. A couple of kids in Year 2 had been sent to her for a telling off and she literally shouted in their faces while pushing them around the classroom....all in front of us Year 3s. Everyone sat in silence. It was horrible for those two boys and I think about it a lot. She should never have been allowed to get away with that behaviour but this was the early 90s and safeguarding was still part of the Wild West.
retailface@reddit
At primary school I got given lines for going to the toilet at lunchtime. We were supposed to be outside. I'm still not over the injustice of it.
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