TW! SA. Men, what can I buy my male detective?
Posted by satansexgirlfriendx@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 110 comments
Context:
I went through a five year police investigation, which finally reached court last month. My abuser was found guilty of rape and coercive control.
I would really like to buy my (male) detective a meaningful thankyou gift - I’ve checked, and I’m allowed to do so. I’m just not sure what would be appropriate.
This feels especially important because of everything that happened along the way. My original detective mishandled key paperwork and evidence, and after 1.5 years, decided to take no further action on my case. I appealed that decision, and the case was reopened and reassigned to a new detective.
This new detective had to redo everything from scratch, going through all the details extremely carefully. He worked on my case for 3.5 years. During that time, he was promoted and technically should have been taken off the case, but he chose to stay and see it through.
Thanks to his dedication, my abuser was found guilty. I genuinely feel like he’s given me my life back, and I want to express my gratitude in a meaningful way.
However, I know the UK police have rules about gifts, so it can’t be anything too extravagant—just something thoughtful and special.
Rare_Procedure7326@reddit
I’ve asked my friend (who is a detective) and he said something small but permanent. Something like a coaster engraved with “thank you”. He said that in his office the team all keep those items and it makes a difference to see them on a bad day.
He also agrees with the other reply that a letter to the superiors is good idea.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you for asking on my behalf!
Something personalised that is able to be kept on his desk is a great suggestion. That’s not too extravagant either.
Yes, will definitely be writing a letter also.
Thank you again!
ThrowawayMax222@reddit
This is it OP. Used to work for the police and something like a coaster would mean the world to me. I'd see it every day, I'd see it first thing when I get my coffee and remind me that what I'm doing makes a difference in people's lives.
It's subtle, but hugely significant.
strolls@reddit
Everyone suggesting a coaster because a World's Best Detective mug is too likely to be stolen.
ThrowawayMax222@reddit
But if they're not worthy, they will be caught by the true worlds best detective for whom the mug deserves to belong.
AgileSloth9@reddit
As someone that's bought a personalised coaster for my dad before, the only thing i'd recommend is either a nice hardwood one, or stainless steel (coloured optional).
Something that makes it last, opposed to the ones you get relatively cheap from most sources with softwood or plastic.
Captaincadet@reddit
If you know their badge number it’s also quite a nice touch to add that to anything you get them personalised.
MoominMai@reddit
I hope OP see this. Makes total sense that something practical in the office but personal works especially on the crappy days.
I remember many years ago as a teenager in a bad place, sending a letter to a radio host about how their show was literally the only positive thing in my life and was helping me so much. They’re quite a sarcastic funny person but they read it on air and said something like “it’s letters like this that remind me why I do this job” so yeah I think a letter both to him and one to his superiors would be a great thing!
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I have seen it ☺️
Great suggestion and I like that you mentioned “its letters like this..”. That would mean everything to give him a push to carry on helping others on tougher days!
Klutzy_Award1786@reddit
I think this is very much depending on the force you work for, as far as I'm aware most of us aren't allowed to accept anything
OkFlow1178@reddit
OP said in the post that they have checked and they are allowed
DurgeDidNothingWrong@reddit
a cube of tungsten. Makes a sick desk ornament. Men love em.
EpicEpicnessTheEpic@reddit
Along with a letter of thanks, something personalised that will be a long lasting reminder of this case and the difference he made to your life.
siblingrevelryagain@reddit
Would a testimony/letter to his superiors be acceptable; from a personal and career perspective, a letter detailing his character/professionalism/diligence etc?
Captaincadet@reddit
That would go a lot further than cakes or sweets. That will likely go onto his performer and posted internally as good work.
Cakes will be used to pay off his own cake fine, or make everyone else think he’s screwed up
(In UK police there’s something called cake fines - if you mess up in an embarrassing way - ie nobody been hurt - you often have to pay back your colleagues with cake. If the cake is not acceptable you’ll have to buy more cakes).
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I have already been told it is going to be reported on by his police force, due to the NFA being overturned and leading to conviction. I’m told it is rare? So I hope he receives all the recognition he deserves!
PieceOutBruv@reddit
Despite this, it would be very helpful for you personally to write to his Chief Constable/ Commissioner. There are a lot of steps in the process of feedback and the CC may not get to hear about it unless directly told by you.
Captaincadet@reddit
It’s quite rare to be overturned and possibly as a result of new information arising generally or the previous officer very much dropped the ball
It is noteworthy for the police internally. I’m glad you’ve got the justice you deserve
zozman@reddit
You could copy in the relevant Police & Crime Commissioner, as well as his bosses.
No_Camp_7@reddit
This is more than a kind gesture, or a contribution to his personal success, it’ll help victims of these crimes everywhere to have detectives like this who tirelessly advocate for victims to be in senior positions.
Brian-Kellett@reddit
Yes, that would be the most meaningful thing. I used to get them as a nurse and it was so rare it was really meaningful, and would help with my revalidation.
skankyfish@reddit
Last time I had surgery (in 2020, eek) I kept a note in my phone of everyone's names and job roles and I filled in a compliments form on the trust website a few weeks later when I was back on my feet. I name checked them all, with a sentence or two each about what they did that stood out to me. I hope it made its way to all of their appraisals, it was a really stressful time to be in hospital and they helped make it better.
connectfourvsrisk@reddit
My Dad had a serious illness and after hospital stays would send letters to the Health Trust complimenting the ward staff and his care team!
Honey-Badger@reddit
I would add in a personal letter also. One just for the detective on how much his work meant
Key_Hearing5146@reddit
Yes but only if it’s detailed. Generic praise won’t matter, but real examples of his work ethic, reliability, and impact can carry serious weight for both his record and career.
sweetpotatofiend@reddit
This, plus a hand-written thank you card to him.
AirconGuyUK@reddit
Great idea. He'll appreciate this more than any gift.
Aglyayepanchin@reddit
1000000% this. It’s super meaningful.
smelliepoo@reddit
Write him a card or a letter or something. Maybe with a pack of donuts attached or some biscuits. The gift will be lovely, I am sure, but something that reminds him that he did a good job will be reread time and time again, especially if he has bad times. I have cards from my clients (not a cop!) And they are so special.
Humble-Ad-2713@reddit
Friend of mine got a vintage watch for a lawyer after a really long drawn out painful divorce, they got it really well cleaned and buffed up. With a little note about how the time and effort they put in changed their life.
BeginningImaginary11@reddit
This has warmed my soul. Your recovery from that trauma is THE gift. Not saying it’s done and dusted but the strength determination and resilience you showed is incredible. Totally off topic but just wanted to share x
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you for that, truly 💜 Hopefully there is a ripple effect of gifts also - I’ve enrolled in college to specialise in DA subject, signed up to volunteer for a charity, so I’m able to turn my trauma into helping someone else. Additionally, if this post inspires anyone, that will be incredible!
BeginningImaginary11@reddit
Guaranteed it has. If not directly, then indirectly. And a reminder to us women, that there ARE detectives out there who believe us and who will fight for us to the bitter end 👊🩷
Shipwrecking_siren@reddit
Don’t know if you already know about the criminal injuries compensation authority, but I hope that you apply and receive something for what you’ve been through. It helps pay for some private therapy or might allow you some time or space to heal. I’m waiting on a decision at the moment, but I’m hoping I receive something after spending £1000s on therapy and issues caused by chronic pain/trauma.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Yes, my detective encouraged me to apply to CICA some years ago. Mine hasn’t reached a decision yet either, but I’m hoping with the recent guilty verdicts, it’ll help give them better evidence. I’ve definitely been financially ruined after what happened to me. Having to move out of my hometown and loose employment, therapy etc, so agreed, any monetary amount would help in some way to rebuild.
I hope your application reaches a positive outcome! Sending you all the best 💕
Shipwrecking_siren@reddit
Im really glad of that, but in a way it is another thing that gets in the way of closing that chapter of my life. I’ve been waiting a very long time and just want it to be over. They told me it might be November 2025 in June 2025… I’m still waiting. There was no prosecution with mine after well over a year of investigation, but the letter the CPS wrote a really healing summary of their decision. And my therapy discharge reports speak for themselves (I hope).
It just infects every part of your life in so many ways. I’m so grateful to have received NHS support at a time when people could still get meaningful trauma therapy (17/13 years ago). I got over 3 years in two lots of therapy, abs still had years more I paid for. My heart breaks for people that need it now.
thetoastmonster@reddit
A rotisserie chicken.
hellofromex4@reddit
How about giving him a nice pen, maybe engraved with his name? A ballpoint would be best for a policeman, and there are some exceptional models out there that I'm sure he'd appreciate. Montblanc, Caran D'Ache and Parker make some very special pens, and they always come beautifully packaged for gift giving.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you for your suggestion. Great idea!
goa7@reddit
Huge respect to you too for seeing it through.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you 💜
Mission_Silver_9162@reddit
My partner is a detective who works on similar cases and is just as dedicated as you describe. I am sure any gift will be received gratefully, however I know more than anything he would appreciate a thank you card. Something which outlines how much his hardwork, dedication and personal approach meant to you.
This line of work is usually so thankless, both from working with horrendous crimes and working within such a broken system. I know if my partner received a thank you card he would treasure it forever and look at it whenever he was having a more difficult day at work.
Being the victim of this kind of a crime is so distressing and it is amazing you have the capacity to thank your detective in this way. I am sorry you had such a horrible thing happen to you and I am sorry your first dealings with the police were so distressing. But I am so so happy you got some justice after what you have been through. I hope you continue to heal from this trauma and continue to spread such kindness inspite of everything that has happened.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Their hard work and dedication is truly inspiring. The amount of times I called my detective crying or asked questions that I spent hours over analysing, he never once made me feel silly or embarrassed, and was so reassuring. Please thank your partner for their work! I only hope the system improves over time, to help more victims (survivors).
I’m throwing myself into life again. I’ve signed up for an open college course of Domestic Abuse, and signed up to volunteer for an abuse charity. Hopefully turn my trauma into helping others. Thank you for your words 💜
PinacoladaBunny@reddit
Great suggestions already, so I just wanted to say that I’m so happy for you OP. The detective sounds like a wonderful man, and that you d been able to see this through to resolution is just fantastic. I hope it’s helped you in your healing and moving forward with your life ♥️
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank so much for your words! 💜 Feeling extremely grateful for the outcome, the support I’ve had and am excited for the future (again).
Kent_Doggy_Geezer@reddit
Definitely a letter for his file and a letter to the Chief Constable. That will have impact, and certainly will be noticed during his next board. (Promotion) Maybe a big box of doughnuts for his office. It’s a little difficult to find a happy medium, but that’s going to be very well received by everyone.
Asleep_Garage_146@reddit
I’d say a commendation letter about him to his boss; and a small trinket/ gadget for his desk like a mug, or coaster, or a really good pen (honestly I’ve prioritised suppliers who give me very good pens before!) that just say “thank you”
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Yes, I think this is definitely the best option! Looking at personalised stationary items as we speak ☺️
Thank you!
WanderWomble@reddit
I have one of these and it's the smoothest pen I've ever used.
https://cultpens.com/products/pentel-energel-sterling-gel-rollerball-pen-rose-gold-with-gift-box
https://cultpens.com/products/pentel-energel-philography-retractable-rollerball-pen-warm-silver-with-gift-box would be another good choice if the rose gold feels too girly.
Easterncrane@reddit
The letter/card plus some really nice coffee and biscuits for the office would go down really well I think. I always avoid alcohol just in case as you never know what someone’s relationship to alcohol is like. Especially for someone in such a tough career.
fastestman4704@reddit
Get him a magnifying glass with some sort of thank you message engraved on the rim of the lens.
Yanky_Doodle_Dickwad@reddit
Do they do a fake version of Ironman's nuclear whatever tf heart thing? a small version? It's not comical, but it is exactly like "you gave me my life back"... maybe ... maybe not I dunno
starbugone@reddit
I just was looking at a cool torch from a company called olight. It had a normal torch, a UV torch and a laser pointer. It was excessively £120. but I bet he's like it
ApprehensiveKey1469@reddit
Write a thank you letter/email Address it to the chief constable. Be sure to mention by name the officer who helped and specifically why you are grateful. E. G. For making you feel believed, confident enough to make your statement.
United-Cucumber9942@reddit
Something like this...... https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/207605635/personalized-leather-infinity-keychain?ref=elp_anchor_listing&pro=1&sts=1 you could have the back personalised with something like 'eternal thanks' or whatever personal message you think would be appropriate.
And write a letter of thanks with it to explain how much he has helped you. Also send one to his superiors confirming what an excellent job he has done and how much his work has helped you. Make sure you say what you've said here, that he stayed on to finish your case and went above and beyond and should be commended for his dedication that far exceeded the requirements. Words like these can lead to recommendations for Police Commendations, which can be used by the officer to support applications for promotions within the police force. Effectively, your words could provide evidence which could have real life positive outcomes for this officers career.
I'm sorry for the terrible assault you suffered. Thankfully justice has been served and I'm glad this has given you some peace. The world has some absolutely disgusting people in, and some absolutely wonderful ones too.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I absolutely LOVE this! ❤️ This is what I’m going to get. Had a lot of stationary suggestions, which I liked, but with the rise of technology, and with him not always being stationed at his desk, this seems much more of a reminder! Thank you!!
Yes, I will definitely write him a card. As well as write a letter to his superiors, so that he can be recognised on a broader scale and use this for his professional development. I hadn’t thought about a superiors letter, so I’m glad you and others suggested this also.
Thank you for your kind words. I am still in a state of shock at the outcome, based on the statistics. Will take a while to sink in. Will push through the sentencing date next week and then start my new life 💜
darybrain@reddit
Crosspost to r/policeuk
farmpatrol@reddit
As a detective who runs cases like this honestly a card saying exactly what you feel would mean the world to me. On a side note I’m so so happy that you were able to see this through and get some semblance of justice (IMO nothing is never enough!)
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you! ☺️
With the poor statistics out there, the convictions I did get are more than enough for me. I can start to rebuild my life now and that means everything.
farmpatrol@reddit
That’s amazing. I know the stats suck for RASSO cases but people like you willing to support the judicial process in the UK which is brutal at times really makes the difference! 👏
I’m genuinely in awe of all my survivors that allow me the time to investigate and put these cases through court. Absolute hats off to you because it is something else to be able to take a stand like you have. ❤️
Jumpy-Jello-@reddit
Do you seriously declare/refuse gifts though?
farmpatrol@reddit
Yeah we do have to declare gifts of course because of corruption etc. and I don’t think we can accept any gift over a certain cost (not sure what that is tbh).
Jumpy-Jello-@reddit
Fair enough. I don't think my therapist can accept gifts, but around Christmas time I'll always finish my session with "I'll just leave this here 'by accident' and if you happen to take it home that's fine by me." It'll just be candles or chocolates etc, and it's never made our relationship feel less professional, but I guess there aren't the same legal implications!
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I do the same with my therapist! 😆
GingerbreadMary@reddit
Op
I think you are a courageous person. Well done to you for not letting him get away with it.
Warrior not victim ❤️
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you Gingerbread, that means so much 💜
farmpatrol@reddit
Haha I’m sure it’ll be okay! I’m similar with my therapist tbf!
Halfang@reddit
After a fraud investigation, one of the witnesses invited me to have dinner with him at the Ivy.
I never quite answered, but I declared the "attempt gift" as a gift
Lower_Helicopter_742@reddit
Magnifying glass and trenchcoat.
Helpful_Librarian_87@reddit
A deerstalker hat
darybrain@reddit
And pipe to point out important items
DisapointedVoid@reddit
Take a look at the gifts and hospitality policy of their police force.
If in doubt you can contact the police force and request clarification if a particular gift would likely be acceptable.
While I am not in the police, some of the most treasured gifts I have received from people I have worked with/helped have been hand written letters/cards outlining what happened and the impact it has had; I might suggest a nice quality paper (perhaps something fancy with embossed and gold edging or something?) and a good ink pen to write with (uniball make really nice to write with rollerball pens that are really smooth to write with and are only a couple of quid). Do some practice so you know what you are going to write before you commit to the nice paper, and consider sending in an envelope that is of a size that the letter isn't folded, perhaps with card inside so it doesn't get crumpled.
If you want to spend a lot more, a ceremonial police batton or a sword are always awesome 😀
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Thank you for highlighting this - I didn’t even know such policy exists!
I just did a scan through and found the following:
[A Gift may be accepted if it is:
Of a small or inexpensive nature (e.g., diaries, calendars, stationery, or other small items offered during a courtesy visit or conference). A bona fide, unsolicited, and inexpensive gift of thanks from a member of the public or victim of crime offered to individual officers or teams in genuine appreciation of outstanding levels of service and where the offer of such a gift or hospitality cannot be courteously refused in a manner that does not cause offence or embarrassment to the organisation or individual making the offer. Acceptable items include biscuits, chocolates, flowers, and items of nominal value of less than £10. Alcohol may be acceptable but careful consideration should be given to the circumstances in which it is offered and what the public perception of any such acceptance would be.]
It definitely seems a quality stationary item is the way forward. As others have mentioned too, it can be kept on his desk as a reminder of his hard work and my appreciation.
LadyMiena@reddit
What about a book that is meaningful to you? Or a picture frame he can put a photo in?
hoodie92@reddit
I was gonna say Lego but these comments are making me doubt myself.
manic_panda@reddit
Like others said a letter of praise to go in his file will help him in the long run. I think there is a rule of it has to be under a certain amount.
Just from a psychological perspective as well, I'm lead to understand that working a job like that, in a department that deals with cases like yours, it is relentlessly demoralising and depressing, especially when most cases go unclosed and the DA declines to prosecute all those that are. It must be really haunting. If I were him I'd like something i.can look at after a hard case and remember someone I helped.
Its difficult because its gotta be under $50 I think so, would it be corny to get a worlds best detective mug? I'm just considering it might be awkward if its too sentimental and thats a way of saying what you mean with a slightly funny tinge to it. Get him something nice to eat or drink or a gift card to go with it for sure. As well as the letter of heartfelt thanks.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Yes, I cannot imagine the things that they have to deal with on a daily basis. The statistics in the UK are probably just as terrible as yours in the US.
The monetary value has to be under £10/$14 here. I can definitely manage to find something stationary based for that amount though ☺️ I like the thought of having something to look at everyday!
manic_panda@reddit
Oh I forgot I was commenting on a uk one! Im from UK, its just as bad here unfortunately :(
We dont take compliments well here so I reaffirm my mug idea as a silly but sincere gift 🙂
EvilInCider@reddit
You actually cannot do this in the way you’re describing - check the policy again because you’ve likely misunderstood it. If he receives something with monetary value, all he can do is declare it and donate it to charity, and he risks being investigated by the professional standards department.
The best thing you can do is write a sincere letter addressed to his superior - the best option would be to address it to the person managing whatever police station he works out of.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I have checked the forces ‘Gifts and Hospitality Policy’ which says the following:
[A Gift may be accepted if it is:
Of a small or inexpensive nature (e.g., diaries, calendars, stationery, or other small items offered during a courtesy visit or conference). A bona fide, unsolicited, and inexpensive gift of thanks from a member of the public or victim of crime offered to individual officers or teams in genuine appreciation of outstanding levels of service and where the offer of such a gift or hospitality cannot be courteously refused in a manner that does not cause offence or embarrassment to the organisation or individual making the offer. Acceptable items include biscuits, chocolates, flowers, and items of nominal value of less than £10. Alcohol may be acceptable but careful consideration should be given to the circumstances in which it is offered and what the public perception of any such acceptance would be.]
EvilInCider@reddit
There you go then. Just as I was saying, chocolates etc.
The stationary and diaries bit - that covers officers who are going to conferences and picking things up from the stalls.
Honestly though, the biggest and most positive impact upon him and his career would be a thank you letter to the Superintendent. It is something lasting that can be added to his professional development file.
Nothing else will have that level of impact, and a lot of what people are suggesting cannot be accepted.
Something personalised would be a very, very bad look for him and would not reflect well on him.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Are you talking from personal knowledge/experience that something personalised would reflect badly on him?
EvilInCider@reddit
Yes. Particularly if the case relates in anyway to a vulnerable witness such as abuse/domestic violence. It is so easy for lines to be crossed in these situations, which is why there is an absolute hard line when it comes to gifts in these scenarios.
Veenkoira00@reddit
I don't think they would be allowed to keep any THING. It would be corruption.
But you cannot be prevented from praising the guy to high heaven.
LaurenNotABot@reddit
I think a really nice pen would be a lovely idea.
So glad you had someone fighting for you.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I think this would be lovely too!
Thank you ☺️
hot_flash_fanatic@reddit
I’m an investigator, one of the most meaningful things I get is a thank you card, we have a wall where we all pin the cards up. Whenever one of us is having a particularly bad day we will go and read a few, affirms that what we are doing does really help … plus a fuck ton of biscuits for the team 😀
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
Fuck ton of biscuits has been put on the shopping list 😁
I love that you have a wall that you can all reflect on! Card is a definite.
CountTruffula@reddit
Something small they can put on their desk would be huge, nice reminder of how their work helps people. That and a letter commending their work sent to their boss sounds perfect
VariousClassroom8056@reddit
Make a donation to a police charity with a nice message without referencing the detectives name?
OddSign2828@reddit
Not gonna do much for him
danabrey@reddit
Things like this absolutely do 'do something' for people. Not everything is about money and material goods.
The short and long term impact of a meaningful message and a donation to a charity is going to be a lot bigger for most people than a piece of tat.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I have already donated to the DV charity that work alongside this particular police force. They have also been instrumental in helping me navigate the past 7 years (I didn’t report anything initially), and so for my contribution to somehow help another woman is reward for me.
So I second what danabrey has said.. it does do something.
VariousClassroom8056@reddit
With all the press about police officers forming relationships with female victims of DV etc I think he'd be reluctant to take something from them directly.
satansexgirlfriendx@reddit (OP)
I understand your concern. Whilst I can absolutely guarantee I am not entering a relationship with ANY man, from any profession, anytime soon.. I can see why gifts have to be declared and be reasonable for those concerns. Luckily I have just been directed to check the forces policy, and I am able to get him a small something.
I have already donated to the DV charity that are supported by this particular police force. They have helped me throughout this investigation also! Great minds ☺️
Ok_Introduction_7829@reddit
I used to be a private investigator
Buy him flowers, every man I know has a favourite flower and most don't get flowers until their funeral
James_White21@reddit
Hand written letter describing everything in your post
benistowninspector@reddit
Seeing it already in a few comments, but a letter of thanks seems to be the move. What greater thanks is there than a heartfelt letter of how their work has impacted your life and how much you appreciate it.
Pedantichrist@reddit
A shareable treat for the break room, with an obnoxiously gaudy card.
It sounds counterintuitive, but everyone reads a truly vile card, and everyone remembers what they did for a while. Tasteful stuff is passed over.
Amazing_Goal_8003@reddit
As others have said a letter to his superiors detailing his care, diligence and strong sense of justice would go a long way for him. He seems like he was dedicated and thorough as an officer, but also kind and supportive. I’m sure the case was a long, protracted battle and mentioning his unwavering support helped you to push through to court when you felt like giving up etc
Ginger_spice_smudge@reddit
It will depend on what is allowed and what he is allowed to accept.
I would write a letter of thanks to him and his superiors.
faucilien@reddit
My knowledge might be outdated as my dad has retired now but I was pretty certain gifts weren't allowed.
I know a letter to his superior and a thank you card would've meant a lot to him. If there is a monetary limit as one other commenter suggested then you could throw in a gift card for a fiver that would cover a coffee on shift but I feel like I remember my dad having to decline any gifts.
tomtink1@reddit
Pair it with a meaningful message written in a card he can keep. That will be more precious than any gift I'm sure.
Sea_Cue@reddit
A letter to his superior officers commending his work & highlighting the positive impact finally getting justice has for survivors like you would be plenty I imagine.
Klutzy_Award1786@reddit
A letter of thanks, or a letter to his superior thanking them for his outstanding work, please do not buy anything generally police are prohibited from accepting gifts, anything received would need to be declared, investigating and destroyed/returned so the only thing you would be doing would be creating more work
wanderingunicorn1@reddit
I think a heartfelt thank you card with a coffee shop gift card if thats allowed would be okay?
sundance464@reddit
Anything over a fiver has to be declared
Having been in this exact position, just a really nice letter / email covering pretty much exactly what you've said in this post is perfect. Makes the job worth doing and creates a memory for a lifetime (try to identify supervisor and copy them in too)
Bottle of wine or chocolates if you absolutely have to send something but the thanks is the important bit
Ill-Basil2863@reddit
It's not appropriate.
NotoriousP_U_G@reddit
I wouldn’t buy anything for the particular detective. It could make them uncomfortable with the nature of the work.
I would send some chocolates, snacks, hamper type thing to the department, with a note thanking them
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