Anyone else with a cabinet full of wedding china you’ll never use?

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Illustrious-Highway8@reddit

I totally understand. No china for us, but I have all of my grandma’s silver and never use it, have no idea what to do with it. I’ll be interested what you decide to do. My wife and I were just talking about how to declutter. Some stuff you can just donate to thrift stores, but feels wrong to do that with a set of silver (or china!).

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lsp2005@reddit

Look up the name of the pattern on replacements so you can get an idea of value. Then take them to either a jewelry store or coin store and find the melt value. Sterling silver is $$$ and a full set of 12 will net you a pretty penny.

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PopcornSurgeon@reddit

I recently realized my grandma’s silver is not in the drawer where I thought it was and I don’t know if I hid it to keep it safe when we had a pet sitter or if one of the pet sitters we have hired over the past five years stole it. But I kind of also don’t care, since if it was a pet sitter it’s somebody we are not working with any more and nothing I actually care about is missing.

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ArtsyRabb1t@reddit

Silver is at least safe to use the China all had lead in it if from 70s or earlier

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Practical-Plenty907@reddit

TamaraRubin.com tests current dishes and many still have lead, cadmium, and arsenic, China or not. Best dishes are plain white. No painting.

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ArtsyRabb1t@reddit

Agree plain white unfortunately everyone is inheriting ornate patterns often with gold. It is what it is. Wish I could just use them

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imissthecomfortinn@reddit

Silver is more more valuable than China to me. It’s a precious metal and is valued at $76.48 per ounce as of today’s market.

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moles-on-parade@reddit

Mom bought 925 on eBay for less than melt value during the 2008 recession. She gave me a full set a couple years later. We never once used it. Because it had zero sentimental value, I sold it to a refinery last January. Missed the peak of the peak, but still got $1,668.27 United States Moneydollars for it. Thanks, mom ❤️

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Sea-Day9742@reddit

Chances are it’s epns, which is worth $4 a pound at the scrap yard.

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Sea-Day9742@reddit

Is it real sterling or it it silver plated?

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Sufficient_Turn_9209@reddit

Depending on the pattern of China you can sell through replacements LTD or ebay. Silver can be sold at a silver and gold exchange. Local or something like JM Bullion.

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lupini53@reddit

I have been having this conversation recently after my mom died and had left me labeled boxes of my old wedding china that I had store there.

I looked into selling one set out of 2 and one resale spot was only taking certain items. The cost for shipping would have outweighed what I would get.

I’ve now decided I’ll be using once set as camping china in our trailer because it’s hand wash only anyway.
Why not get some use out of it? And the pretty cups and saucers would be great for having morning coffee and tea with our close friends who camp with us often and would take the care while using it.

The other set is going to get more use even if it has to be hand washed.

My oldest son has decided fine China is a pyramid scheme to get folks to buy China hutches, expensive silverware and glassware and fancy dining tables etc. I’m not entirely sure he was joking.

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lsp2005@reddit

I have and use the China. One thing my mom told me was that none of it is too precious to go into the dishwasher. I would wash one piece and see how it holds up.

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variegated_lemon@reddit

If it has hand-painted elements or gold leafing it will eventually come off in the dishwasher. Some newer China has the gold “baked” on - but it will say dishwasher safe on the bottom.

But hey if dishwashing it means using it, go for it! Just know it can and will fade or crack over time.

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avalonfaith@reddit

For sure. If it's between actually using it or it sitting forever collecting cobwebs or trashed/sotting in someone else's place gathering cobwebs, through that stuff in the washer!

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Diablojota@reddit

I’ve got turn of the century (19/20th century) Meissen and KPM pieces. Hand painted. No way they go into the dishwasher. At this point, I don’t use them either. They’re purely display pieces.

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avalonfaith@reddit

This is the way.

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sage__evelyn@reddit

Just remember that if there’s metallic leaf on the rim it is NOT microwave safe 😬

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Jaded-Owl8312@reddit

Said with total “Ask me how I know” vibes 🤣

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Tess47@reddit

Same

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Rare_Background8891@reddit

Yep. I used mine until the finish was wearing off from the dishwasher and it seemed not very safe. Then I tossed it and got new dishes.

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juliechou@reddit

My MIL used to put hers in the DW. Yes, the gold has faded off. Considering we got rid of it anyways when downsizing, what's the harm?

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CommandAlternative10@reddit

I love my white bone china. Daily use for over a decade, always in the dishwasher but lighter and more elegant than stone wear.

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GroundbreakingWing48@reddit

That’s how I feel about my Corelle.

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naturalbornoptimist@reddit

Once you test it, just choose a couple of place settings, put them in a different cupboard, and have those be the ones you regularly use and put in the dishwasher. If it fades over time, you still have the others for your dinner party (or for resale).

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RandomTreat@reddit

Well I don't think mine is super fine China, I have been using the good China as my daily plates for a few years now, and they have been just fine in the dishwasher. I'd rather see them get used than just sit there. And I don't have enough cabinet space to have multiple sets of dishware laying around

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malai556@reddit

my mom puts ours in the dishwasher and I cringe every time she does because it has the gold leafing on it. She refuses to wash it by hand, so that's my job when we get it out.

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FlatRooster4561@reddit

Sell it now while boomers are still alive and accumulating stuff. Nobody our age is going to want it and it’ll be impossible to move in ten years

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Mental_Chip9096@reddit

Yall, sorry to burst your bubbles, but it is very likely worth nothing.

Could only give away my grandma's rare 70s china.

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w30freak@reddit

This was our experience as well. Wasn't worth anything to sell so we just started using it as our everyday set. That was 15 years ago and most of the set is still surviving.

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ridelikeagurl@reddit

I love buying the random pieces at the thrift store. But I drill holes into them and create planters and water catchers out of the fancy plates.

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annamollee@reddit

What a great idea! I’m going to try this!

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ridelikeagurl@reddit

Google drilling ceramics, I use water and masking tape.

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Salty-Tea6815@reddit

Yes this is the only way I can see people getting use out of things like that nowadays. Times, tastes, and traditions have changed a lot.

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bendybiznatch@reddit

I also don’t want to spend my old age cleaning stuff just sitting there. Watching older women spend hours dusting (or not) little shit over and over for decades didn’t make it look appealing.

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boost2525@reddit

Yep. We sold ours a few years ago and never looked back. We might have used them twice in fifteen years. I use my IKEA stoneware daily. It's more durable and functional.

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MartinMerten@reddit

How and how much?

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Material-Heron6336@reddit

Suggested this to Mrs and the reaction I got was “so… you’re wanting a divorce?”

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KerissaKenro@reddit

My father in law was so excited that he got an entire china cabinet full of some hand painted monstrosities. Some young people had just left behind after a move. They had never been used. He thinks he will be able to resell them for a lot. These rare and precious antiques that nobody wants because they can’t be used without scratching them and are probably full of lead paint anyhow. So we will be saddled with them in a few years. Maybe we will use them as clay pigeons or something productive like that. At least he got them for free because the new home owner didn’t want them either

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Hntrbdnshog@reddit

That’s exactly what we did with the full set of China that my wife inherited from her Oma in Germany. Her mom paid to have this entire set of pepto bismol pink hand painted dish ware with the included tea set ups. We were never going to use it and we hate clutter. We took it to the outdoor shooting range and put it out if its/our misery with our old shotgun.

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Remarkable-Split-213@reddit

I use some of my grandmas fancy dishes to feed my cats. I think about her every single time I feed my cats. I put them in the dishwasher and haven’t had any issues. If they break I will not feel bad because they will have served their purpose of being used.

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Bubsilla@reddit

I have a set of beautiful Bernaudaud white bone china, no metal and totally dishwasher safe. I have a small kid, and a rather incomplete set (no bowls, only plates) so right now we only use it for holidays. I'll never get rid of it, and when my son is older it will become our everyday dishes just like when I was growing up. I'm actually looking forward to more of this stuff going up for sale for pennies because I'd love to have a more complete collection if I can get it on the cheap.

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Beautiful-Willow5813@reddit

About a year ago we decided that we were going to start using them as our everyday dishes. We decided it wasn't worth it saving them for a special occasion when everything could go sideways tomorrow - so we are enjoying our fancy plates with our friday night frozen pizza now

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DenvahGothMom@reddit

This is weird to me. I did not get “wedding china” per se because my first and second weddings were both small and private—not the kind of thing you “register” for. But I went ahead and bought my own… It’s antique blue willow pattern. We use it whenever friends come over and even sometimes just for Friday night dinner.

My whole house is full of antiques that I found at thrift stores, estate sales, eBay… I guess I don’t really fit into this generation where all of your household stuff is mass produced crap from Target or Ikea or pottery barn if you have more money, that isn’t built to last, and you just keep changing it out every time the trend changes or it falls apart. Right now everything is all white and gray and modern. That’ll change and people will donate all their stuff to the Goodwill or throw it in the landfill. Meanwhile, my stuff is classic and timeless and may be 100 years old but it’ll last another hundred. And it’s made of beautiful old wood or has actual colors and doesn’t look like the exact same stuff everybody else has.

It just seems so wasteful! And conformist. To each their own, I guess!

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FantasticWeasel@reddit

My mum inherited 6 sets from her parents, grandparents and various aunts and we had so much trouble getting anyone to take it. No point in keeping it.

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FantasticWeasel@reddit

My mum inherited about

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EmmalouEsq@reddit

People still got wedding china then? I've got my grandparent's unused wedding silverware and I have made it clear to my mom that I'll only take the china my great grandma gave her and the tea set I bought her in Sri Lanka. I don't need more crap. In fact, once I have them I'll be using both sets as much as possible with the pretty silverware.

Just put that stuff on marketplace or donate it if it's just gathering dust. Life and sanity are too short for clutter.

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johnb300m@reddit

Hell no, but my parents are.

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Few_Secret_7162@reddit

I use them. They’re in a cabinet to be used. I also put them in the dishwasher because I figure once I’m done with them nobody else will want them.

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the_cool_hand@reddit

Mom and I managed to dump hers on my sister. I took mom to the “Fiesta ware” factory and the outlet store and with careful thrifting and some retail shopping have a very nice and colourful selection. It’s 12 settings plus serving and baking with a lot of extras. It’s bulletproof ovenproof microwave and dishwasher safe freezer to oven and will dent the hardwood floors if you drop it. I’m not sure I need it all but it’s mine when the time comes.

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Queen_Of_InnisLear@reddit

My family was never a china family and we didnt do wedding gifts so at least I dodged this one. But I'm a collector,can't help it, so I've caused my own problems.

So I do have a "special" set of dishes that do t get used too often, but they are so fun. It's from Calamity Ware- they make fun patterns with monsters and things in them.

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mrsjetset@reddit

I refused to register for it. We have my mom’s china, and put it in the dishwasher. I don’t really have any sentimental attachment to it. If a plate breaks, I’ll just toss it. I know MIL has like 4 sets we will inherit 🫠

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lisette729@reddit

When my husband and I moved in together after college we had no dishes and my dad said here and gave us this big box. It was my grandmothers china. We used that as our daily dishes for years. I finally passed it on to another poor college grad with no dishes😂

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PuzzledKumquat@reddit

Your granny is probably rolling in her grave thinking about how her fine china isn't being tenderly hand-washed and then stored on display in a china cabinet! 😂

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lisette729@reddit

The weird thing is I don’t remember ever using them at their house growing up. Apparently my dad bought them for her in Japan when he was stationed overseas. I guess she didn’t like the fine china either😂

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mweisbro@reddit

Just let it go- I use mine for holidays. The kids asked me to keep.

I recently got rid of all my stemware because no one in my family drinks and they took up a lot of space and that alone felt great.

I did not use the fancy plates this Christmas because we were out of town- stored above fridge so not really in a space I need- but if not used this year- gone.

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RestaurantInternal63@reddit

I use mine to give my cats wet food 🤷 all goes in the dishwasher

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rharper38@reddit

I use our stuff, but we didn't get wedding dishes because my husband had from his first marriage. I am slowly buying good dishes

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yourmomishigh@reddit

When I got divorced I made all the wedding stuff my daily. They went 10 years unused.

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Glum_Discipline2761@reddit

My husband is basically a hoarder and won’t let us get rid of it 😩

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3daycondor@reddit

3 boxes of collectible plates and delicate glassware from my mom. Some is 100 years or older…I have no use for them whatsoever, but I’m morally obligated to keep them. They are an albatross in my attic. I will one day have to deal with them, but not today!

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trustme1maDR@reddit

When we registered for wedding gifts, the lady at the fancy Macy's was like, "You're adults now. When you have people over, you don't have to serve drinks in red solo cups." That blew my mind. I was 36 at the time.

We didn't get china, but we do use glassware for get togethers!

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ShootinTheBreez@reddit

Lol, I’m the opposite. I got married last year - at 41 - and regret not buying wedding china. But I’m an outlier in that I hand wash at least some of my dishes every single day, and I love china.

I’ve always been a renter and rental dishwashers run at approximately 8,000 degrees. When I was younger, I started hand-washing some of the nicer stuff people had given me. Antiques and nice pieces. Then over the years - because I’m apparently the only Xennial alive that is willing to hand wash - people have given me tons of really nice stuff. Like barely acquaintances have given me full sets of china for free. I own a (very full) china cabinet that I keep paying someone to move from rental to rental.

My husband won’t hand wash. If I get hit by a truck, everything is going back through the dishwasher, and anything that gets ruined is going straight to the trash. He’s not having it. But I love pretty, shiny things!

I will agree with the other reviewer that if you want to get rid of it to sell it while Boomers are alive. Our generation won’t pay for this. Not even someone like me who values it, because why would I when I can pick it up super cheap or even free?

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nuskit@reddit

Never got the point of china...but then we didn't register for gifts, either, since I was 19 when we married and had moved out of my parents house years prior. I definitely didn't want any housewares. For our 20th anniversary, we went and sprang for some Corelle, which I love, but of course, 6 years later, the pattern is discontinued.

My in laws have their china set from when they married, and while it's beautiful, I pray that we don't inherit it. I want nothing to do with things that can't be actually used and abused in daily life. However, if they'd like to pass their golden harvest Corelle this way, I'll grab it with both hands and run off cackling with glee.

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FormidableMistress@reddit

When my aunt died some years ago we were helping my uncle clean out the house. He found a tote of their wedding china stashed away in the bottom of a cabinet. He said they'd only used it twice their whole 40 year marriage.

He looked at it for a long time and then looked up at my cousins and I and said "There's nothing in life so precious that it should be put away for special occasions. Every day is special. Use the damned fine china."

That night we had dinner on the damned fine china.

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Weird_Squirrel_8382@reddit

Mine isn't really Fine China but I do have a set of dinner party dishes I use every month. You can sell them, you can even keep a few as decoration if you like. But there's someone out there who just broke their gold rimmed butter plate and would love to buy yours to bring their set back up to 16.

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molmols@reddit

As someone dealing with my parents estate let me tell you. That expensive, fancy china brings pennies on the dollar at estate auctions. We had three generations of China in the house. It was nuts and nobody in the family wanted it. 😂

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afteeeee@reddit

Use it! Fancy plates and glasses are way cheaper than new cheap stuff now bc it's in every thrift store. I use it daily. I can't imagine buying plates new from a store. My plates all have fun flowers on them and are 40+ years old. Also you can use nice plates for drip trays under plants.

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effitalll@reddit

Use it. Put it in the dishwasher, it will be fine.

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MungoJennie@reddit

When I got married, my mom said to be practical so I registered for Pfaltzgraff. Then left them with the ex when we divorced.

Now I have two other sets of Pfaltzgraff, one from my grandma and one from my sister. I have a set of Corelli from my dad’s bachelor apartment. I also have a gorgeous set of vintage china from my g-gmother. I live alone (except for the cats), and don’t entertain. I use the same four or five dishes, but I would feel guilty if I got rid of any of them, so my cupboards are stuffed w/ dishes I will probably never use.

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Elegant-Expert7575@reddit

I inherited my BFF’s mom’s and Grandma’s China. For Mom’s China pattern Moonlight Roses, I can’t afford to buy more to fully complete it. Id love a covered serving dish, tea pot, coffee pot and the three tier serving stand.
Grandma’s pattern is Tranquility Rose. Definitely more affordable, but it’s not the one that’s sentimental to me.

Both were definitely a rescue mission. I didn’t own this or any China wear until 3 years ago.

In the 90’s I totally loved Noritake patterns. I do live a good bone china plate and mug.

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TheycallitLeBigMac@reddit

Did I write this post? I had this exact convo with a girlfriend yesterday.

My boomer mom’s exact words were: “it’s the only time in your life people will give you china.” And my dumbass, 23 year old self nodded as added platinum rimmed Mikasa china to the registry.

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flyza_minelli@reddit

Omg I’m laughing I love this. As if I wanted China as a wedding gift anyways. We needed a new washer snd dryer set because ours was 14 years old and dying. So that’s all we put on the registry and asked that if anyone felt inclined to gift us, they are welcome to contribute to our new washer snd dryer set.

Ended up with the washer and dryer and a ton of gift cards that came in handy later. Honestly that was the best - Visa, MC, Amazon, Walmart, door dash - all gift cards. We were able to use them up as we needed stuff.

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emmyg85@reddit

I was married in 2013. Not a sole purchased us a single item of china or fancy silverware we registered for.

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SlytherClaw79@reddit (OP)

Platinum rimmed Lennox over here! So many women our age got duped into this stuff, my sister in law has a similar set.

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travelingslo@reddit

HA! So much boring china!! I inherited my MIL’s platinum rimmed Lennox and sold it at auction when I downsized.

I did keep my grandmother’s wild tea cup sets and my great-grandmother’s hand-gold-rimmed stuff from the 1800s and early 1900s, but it’s on a shelf in my pantry and I just enjoy looking at it. 🤷‍♀️

But because I never married (same partner for 25 years) I never registered for anything, and boy, am I thankful for that.

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joyisnowhere@reddit

I have the gold rimmed Lenox! It is dishwasher safe so we use it for our fancy dinners. My grandmother’s china I inherited from the early 1900’s has been used once.

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OneMegOfMany@reddit

I’m have the Gold Lenox eternity pattern. It was my grandmother’s, so has sentimental value, but it sure as hell goes in the dishwasher!

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Automaticman01@reddit

We never unpacked ours after we moved 10 years ago. I asked my wife about it a while ago and she said she knows where it is in a box somewhere. I don't even remember what they look like, but she doesn't want to get rid of them.

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she-dont-use-jellyyy@reddit

I can't think of a friend or family member who has China and most of us got married in the early 2000s. Maybe it's a social class thing. We are not well-off lol

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Falcor2019@reddit

Platinum rimmed Waterford over here! All same as you. We use it for T-Day and Christmas.

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Time4Muchness@reddit

Noritake Ardmore Platium here! Registered for it when I got married in the early 2000s when I really needed everyday plates and utensils. Think I have used it twice. Now it is stored in the big oak hutch that no one wants either.

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Muzzledpet@reddit

Divorced here, but I tried! When making the registry, I specifically only added a nice daily set that we liked the look of and would.... y'know....use.

My MIL just decided to gift us a set of fancy china anyway. Never used it once, sold it after the divorce cause neither of us wanted it.

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GretaGreen3@reddit

Times are a changing. I too have a 12 place fine china setting w/ glasses as well. So expensive back in the day and I rarely use any pieces. Makes me sad but when I got married I had visions of entertaining and family gatherings. Never happened as life got busy. Now I hate entertaining and my children won’t want them. So when my last everyday dish breaks. We will switch to the fine china to get us thru the golden years.

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Excellent-Goal4763@reddit

I put my grandmas Wedgewood in the dishwasher. It’s fine. If it breaks, everyone else’s wedgewood of that design becomes slightly more valuable.

We are all just borrowing ceramics anyway.

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Traumagatchi@reddit

My mom gave me hers, I've ALWAYS loved this china. She told me, don't let it just gather dust. So I use it every day! The teacups are so beautiful, and I use some of the pieces in my bathroom too.

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Effective_Jello9731@reddit

Ours are thankfully dishwasher safe. After realizing we were only using them once every 5 years we put them into regular rotation, along with our fancy wedding cutlery.

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MundaneHuckleberry58@reddit

Not wedding but my grandmother’s china. I love it & it means a lot to me. But I have never, not once, used it. My friends lately have been like: screw it! USE IT. For a random dinner, for thanksgiving, for a dinner party. But I just don’t like the idea of any piece chipping or having to wash by hand.

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loves_spain@reddit

My parents bought a huge ass china cabinet with china when they retired. I’m an only. I most assuredly do not want it.

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bfjizzle@reddit

Nope. We got mostly cash as gifts. No china

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DisplacedEastCoaster@reddit

When we went to register for stuff, the lady at the store brought us over to the china, and started pointing out patterns, asking what we liked. Our moms were with us, and my mom didn't say anything out loud, but she gave me a look that said "you don't need that crap. Don't do it." And we didn't. I did end up getting china from my grandma when she moved, but I gave it away to some woman who wanted to make stuff with it.

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tarravin@reddit

Same, I've never owned china and my mom understands that I don't want hers

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bfjizzle@reddit

My mom asked if any of us wanted it, but also understood when we didn't

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emmyg85@reddit

I have fancy dishes in our china cabinet. They aren’t from our wedding but from an Easter dinner we hosted once. We’ve never used them since. No one got us the wedding china we registered for, and it wasn’t important enough for us to go buy it ourselves. I think we only registered for it because it’s just what people did when getting married.

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ComplexTomatillo6278@reddit

Is it any surprise that couples today are not buying (or registering for) china? I have a set and will inherit 2 more sets from my parents. No idea what I’m going to do with all the expensive but rarely used dishes.

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Just_Me_79@reddit

Ugh ugh ugh, effin “chiiiiina”.. so much of the crap and I want NONE OF IT, I wonder how many “oops” moments I can get away with… at least one set is dishwasher friendly, the rest hasn’t seen the light of day in years

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Maebnus@reddit

Sooo glad I registered for a normal, dishwasher-safe dish set. Nothing fancy, just something pretty from Target. Replaced heavy hand-wash stoneware with it. Marriage ended a few years ago, but the dishes are still going strong 20+ years later.

AFAIK I do have a full set of Royal Albert Old Country Roses china coming my way eventually. Zero need or desire for it, so likely will just donate.

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Shashu@reddit

When we downsized we threw out the day to day kitchen dishes and have been using the good china and silver everyday. Why not? Our kids don’t want it and it’s been sitting in the dark for forty years. It’s time for it to shine.

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Intelligent-Camera90@reddit

Not me - I asked for Corelle in a pretty pattern. I wanted something I could use everyday and that wouldn’t weigh 1,000 lbs if I had to pack and move it. I had been using my mom’s old stoneware from before she got her Corelle, so she totally understood!

It was what my mom and grandma bought me when I got married (along with a nice set of pots & pans)

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physicscholar@reddit

I have two sets in the basement I have never used and never particularly wanted.

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2011ACK@reddit

I inherited my parents set of Royal Copenhagen china. I use it and put it in the dishwasher.

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SSolomonGrundy@reddit

Be careful, because a lot of old china is poisonous (the glazes often have cadmium or even lead in them). Especially the older stuff, but also some more recent. It's really meant to be decorative, never to go inside your body. :)

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Mental_Chip9096@reddit

Yep, finally got around to testing it. The gold leaf edging is lead af.

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Reasonable-Wave8093@reddit

how old?

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IntelligentAd3283@reddit

Just donate it, you will feel so relieved!

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TrixieBastard@reddit

I am so glad my parents asked for stoneware rather than china. It's been 45 years and all of the dishes except a couple of mugs are gone at this point, but they got used at least three times daily for decades and didn't just sit in a hutch.

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doctor48@reddit

Use it

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who-dat24@reddit

When we had been married for about 10 years, we started using our wedding China for every day. We did that for about 10 years ran it through the dishwasher like anything else. You can imagine that it was starting to look a little beat up by then. My adult child gave us a nice set of every day dishes for an anniversary or Christmas or something. By that time, I had very little emotional attachment to the wedding China and was able to donate it.

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LKayRB@reddit

My husband and I didn’t register for china as I knew I was getting a set from my aunt’s 1st marriage. I do have a china hutch for it and keep it on display as she is my favorite aunt. We’ve used it a few times but honestly I forget to bring it out 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Mackheath1@reddit

Lord have mercy, my parents keep giving me more when I visit. It's heirlooms, I suppose, so there's a tug of war about whether I just sell it or appreciate it with nostalgia. I think since I entertain a lot, I'll just use it and see what happens (we'll all get lead poisoning or something).

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SakaWreath@reddit

"Its a really good cabinet" Not for me. I'm not going to shrink the sqft of my home by coating the walls in cabinets that no one wants.

I've been swatting away those cabinets full of crap for years as my older relatives down size or pass on. The guilt and hurt they toss around is unreal when you tell them no, but I'm not going put anyone else in that position.

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sage__evelyn@reddit

I inherited a 12 place setting china set from my great grandma. It’s in a box in my basement. 😬

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polkadotrose707@reddit

We picked China that is dishwasher safe, bur we rarely use it because I was also advised to put “daily” sets on our registry and lo and behold we love them and got a backup set for when we break things (because we do 😂).

sometime last year my husband was like… we should use the nice china and nice silverware because when will we ever use it otherwise?! So sometimes we do, especially Sundays because that’s our big dinner of the week.

We have been considering selling some of it off though. We don’t need 8 sets. Heck we don’t even need 4, the friends we have would be weirded out if we put out china lol.

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pina_koala@reddit

When I was a kid my parents insisted at stopping into the Replacements LTD warehouse to find some extra pieces. I would check with them first. The warehouse, not my parents.

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MotoMom77@reddit

Use it! Put it in your regular cabinet and use it every day.

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reverepewter@reddit

Nope. People were shocked when we didn’t register for China.

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CrazyWhammer@reddit

You’re about 20 years too late to the table here. Generations before you have been trying to sell their heirloom China and there is no market for it anymore. My suggestion is to just use it or donate it.

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Soggy_Porpoise@reddit

China never should have been in in the first place. Good luck selling it. You've already learned people don't want it anymore.

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hajisaurus@reddit

We have my husband’s grandmother’s china in a bin in the basement. It’s all he has of her but it’s pink and not practical. For the space it holds in the house I’m happy to keep it. It would be harder to get rid of it and I don’t want to throw it away.

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Dry_Inspection_4583@reddit

We gave up and have been using our wedding china as our daily ware for a decade. If I could reliably afford things like steak I'd be far more inclined to save it for company.

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Big_Animal7655@reddit

ah yes back when we were all told good marriages are rooted in a couple choosing from mass produced china patterns to find the one which “reflected the essence of our love” 🤢

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accountforcatsonly@reddit

The solution: Use it everyday

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firewings42@reddit

Ha I lucked out. The place we registered pushed us into picking a china to register for from a catalog. Thankfully the one I liked and registered for was discontinued so I didn’t get any! I like my regular plates just fine thank you

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skullsnunicorns@reddit

I say use it or ditch it. No time like the present!

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slippedintherain@reddit

I’ve never married but I inherited my grandmother’s wedding china after my mom died. It sits in a cabinet now but I’m planning on moving in the next couple of years and don’t really want to take it with me. The antique stores around here are already full of unsold china so I have no idea what I’m going to do with it.

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Tribblehappy@reddit

I didn't get China (didn't ask) but I'm actually looking forward to getting my parents china set one day. Mom keeps it stored away, only to be used for Christmas dinners. I plan to use it daily. It will either survive or it won't, but it is a nice set that I've always liked. If it gets ruined over time that's better than sitting in a chest in the bedroom.

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TheCunningRabbit@reddit

I have it from my first marriage. It is sitting in a box in the garage. I'm trying to decide between selling it (for literally anything I can get) and saving it for my son (from that marriage).

I think this post has convinced me to try to sell or donate it.

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Front_Humor5329@reddit

I have my grandmothers whole collection and I use it everyday. Not all the pieces all the time because some are fancy serving dishes. It’s lovely in the morning to use the smaller cup and saucer for my coffee and the small pitcher I put my cream in. My grandmother loved coffee. I have the coffee mug she used everyday. That sits in a special place and not used, but using her fine china cup in the morning is a small connector ritual and comfort. I have all her old Corning ware and Pyrex from 50s too. For me, again for me, in a world of overpriced overconsumption shit that moves at a rapid rate I love the symbolism of slow connection rituals. It activates and allows me to sit and remember and honour. I also use her everyday plates that I remember eating off as a kid when I spent my weekends with her. I eat on those plates and watch the Golden Girls and suddenly when life is hard I can for a moment to the best of my abilities, because I can’t fold the fabric of space time, can be back in my safe comfort space from my childhood. I like delicate nature off them. The fragility. They are just material things, but for the moment they are reminders of something I can’t access directly anymore and the fragility of time.

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strong-4@reddit

I only got court marriage done and still ended up with stupid china. But i use it daily, idc if it scratches, breaks in regular usage. I dont have any special cutlery for occassions.

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burnermtj@reddit

Start using them regularly for regular meals. Seriously.

I recall seeing this topic years ago when someone said the same thing - we only use them for special occasions. Another person replied with a statement that I wrote down because it really made me pause:

"Being alive is as special an occasion as it gets."

Use it!

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PoisedMeerkat@reddit

More like a bin in the basement. Thankfully, we didn’t ask for China, but it was ‘gifted’ to us by grandparents :(

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godimtired@reddit

I started using all may fancy shit daily a long time ago. My dogs water bowl is a Waterford crystal punch bowl because that’s the only thing I’m realistically ever going to use it for. It’s beautiful and I love it so much more than any stupid plastic paw print thing. Why use ugly things and keep beautiful things hidden away? It’s your house. You make the rules!

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RockNRollMama@reddit

Here’s a weird one… my husband and his FIRST wife had this sick wedding china set that was very punk rock - like skulls and black hearts and black spades. Try cool actually, full set for like 16 (lol in nyc apartments no less).

Anyway one day the display case fell and they were fine to an incomplete set for maybe 8-10 and it went into a box. When I moved in I didn’t even know it existed until almost 15yrs later when he and I moved into a new apartment. We couldn’t even find a place to donate it, no one wanted it. So we said FUCK IT and just started using it.

Says “not dishwasher safe” but they all go in. Plate breaks, it goes in the garbage because who truly cares. I do have some antique display china sets from the Soviet Union that belonged to my family prior to our escape and those are (for now) at my mom’s house because what the fuck am I gonna do with it? Where am I gonna store it?

Anyway, at least my parents have a place in Fl too so they are shipping some sets down there as decorations. My mom doesn’t even use her own sets anymore, she gets the fancy plastic ones from Costco for holidays💀

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ArtsyRabb1t@reddit

I love that

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djsynrgy@reddit

We purposely asked for a set we'd use daily. 🤷🏼‍♂️

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seriouslynope@reddit

Just got back from visiting my mom's after staring at a chest like this thinking, "wtf will we do with this?"

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violetstrainj@reddit

I don’t, but I remember when my best friend got married right out of high school the ladies at our church threw her a wedding shower and nearly everyone got her a set of dishes. She was just like “um, can I just return these for cash? I’m behind on my bills…”.

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RedSolez@reddit

Buckle up, I love this topic! 😂

Like many of us, I had many jobs during high school and college, one of which was working for Villeroy & Boch, the oldest continuously operating ceramics manufacturer in the world. I learned a lot about China there. The biggest takeaway is that fine china and bone china are actually the most durable materials for dishes- far stronger and resistant to chipping and scratches than the shitty stoneware and earthenware that most people tend to use for their everyday dishes. The other thing I learned is that fine/bone china and dishwasher/microwave safe are not mutually exclusive - there are plenty of fine & bone china patterns that are safe to use in both the microwave and the dishwasher.

So don't fall victim to "The China Syndrome" as we used to call it and think these dishes are too good to use. If they're impractical because the pattern you own can't go in the dishwasher or microwave - by all means sell them or donate while you can. But if you have dishes that just feel too fancy to use but can go in the dishwasher and microwave - start using them!! We registered for only one set of fine china from Villeroy & Boch for our wedding in 2008... they're practical enough for everyday but pretty enough for holidays. Still going strong, I think we've broken or chipped only a few pieces in 18 years.

Another fun option to slowly get rid of these dishes: when you go to a party, instead of bringing food to share in a disposable plate, put it on the fancy plate and give it away to the host. They can choose to keep the plate after or do the same the next time they go to a party (just hopefully not one you're hosting 😂).

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literanch@reddit

Yes, it’s from 1910 when my great grandma got married. Not idea what I’ll ever do with it but it’s been passed down 3 generations now and I can’t stand to throw it away.

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rinky79@reddit

FWIW, my mother's "hand-wash only" china got washed in the dishwasher every holiday for 40 years and the gold leaf stayed on just fine.

I'm looking forward to inheriting it, frankly. I love my dishes (I have 32 place settings in 8 colors of fiestaware so I can build seasonal-themed color combos and store the rest) but my mom's old china means special occasion.

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Confident_Win_5469@reddit

So, our wedding dishes were our every day dishes until they were passed down to my nephew when he needed some. We moved at the same time, and we took my mom's (She moved in with us) wedding dishes and we use those daily now.

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Reen842@reddit

No. I got married in 2013 and we didn't register for gifts, we just asked for donations towards the honeymoon.

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TellMyBrotherGoodbye@reddit

I would just use that fine china for everyday use!! So what if they chip or break? Make every day special. Once a piece breaks, put it in a tub or box and use the pieces to make mosaics. (Or give/ sell to someone who will)

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often_awkward@reddit

We specifically decided to not put that on our wedding registry and we are so glad we did. We have some ornate crystalware and stuff that's in a box in the basement because we have two boys and two dogs.

My parents have a really fancy set that my dad picked up when he was in Vietnam and sent it home but those always came out on holidays or special occasions so they weren't unused.

Recently my sister-in-law served I think Thanksgiving dinner and Easter dinner on really fancy plates that she picked up at an estate sale. They definitely sat on a shelf somewhere for a million years but they are useful plates because they're really big. 😂 I don't think my sister-in-law took the same etiquette classes and things I did because she didn't know the difference between a charger and a plate but whatever - just because I know the difference doesn't mean I care.

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C-ute-Thulu@reddit

Yep! I didn't want it, said it was a waste. My future insisted. Still a little salty

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el_barto10@reddit

I have china my grandmother got me, my mom’s china, my grandmother’s china, and a set of Christmas china I inherited.

Plus boxes of wine glasses, and miscellaneous items from multiple sets of grandparents and great grandparents.

I have been able to unload some place settings in buy nothing pages for little kid tea parties.

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Phyzzx@reddit

I started just using all that stuff cuz why not.

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she-dont-use-jellyyy@reddit

This wasn't really a thing anymore where I lived when I got married (2007). I don't know anyone who has wedding china.

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drkittymow@reddit

Worse! I have fancy Christmas china. I can literally only use it once per year. I still don’t.

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PoisonMind@reddit

Our in-laws foisted it upon us. We can't get rid of it until they die, though.

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pickleranger@reddit

I do have my China, and I actually LOVE it and wish I used it more. But my house is quite small so it’s stored in the basement, and I almost never dig it out because it’s a hassle. I was just thinking the other night about it…

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SunshineInDetroit@reddit

We sold ours.

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seminarysmooth@reddit

We use our wedding china, and as our house slowly gets renovated we plan on having more people over where we’ll use it even more. It’s the ‘fine’ china I inherited that went deep into the cabinets and has never seen the light of day.

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EastTXJosh@reddit

I have my great grandparents China, crystal, and sterling silver. I’ve never used any of it. It just sits in a storage closet because my mom tells me I need to eventually pass it down to our kids.

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Arriwyn@reddit

Nope, never acquired my own set of fancy china. My mom tried to give me her fancy wedding china and heavy crystal and it stayed in the attic for decades until she recently donated the entire lot to the cancer society thrift store. She knows I don't want any of her accumulations and is decluttering her house so not to burden me later on.

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aksnowraven@reddit

I gave mine to a millennial setting up her first home. She was thrilled.

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Ok-Helicopter3433@reddit

I didn't get wedding china myself, but have a set that came with the house. The owner was an elderly lady who'd gone to a nursing home and I told her son at closing he should come back by and pick it up, as I'd found it in the final walkthrough. He'd been cleaning the house out for months (including the piano he tried to leave) and just shrugged. 🤣🤣🤦‍♀️

I need to give away or post on marketplace. We have only used when we were short a plate or something. I just recently found sugar still in the sugar bowl.

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RedCarpetbagger@reddit

My wedding china is still in my mom’s basement. She moved and it’s still in her basement. My house is bigger than hers and it’s still in her basement

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ThisSideOfHistory@reddit

Use it! Use it all the time instead of once a year occasions. Also people DO buy China so if you donate it to a thrift store or sell it on eBay / Facebook marketplace it will go.

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Izalii@reddit

Sorry to burst your bubble, but China, even really nice expensive China, doesn’t sell well. I have a vintage shop and it’s almost always left behind when I go to estate sales. Most people don’t use it or have the space for it these days so usually it gets donated in the end. I’m definitely all for decluttering!!

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MediaIndependent5981@reddit

I’m taking a load of crystal stemware to goodwill this week along with depression glass and a ton of other stuff that sat in my china cabinet unused literally for 30 years.

I do not care if it is worth millions. It means nothing to me. If someone else can benefit from it, THAT brings me joy.

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Sea-Day9742@reddit

I work for an estate cleaning and downsizing company. Sometimes I feel like half my job is trying to convince people that the fancy china the have is not worth trying to sell. Funny enough I also often have a hard time convincing people that the old Pyrex that they want to throw in the trash or donate is actually worth a small fortune.

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FiguringItOutAsWeGo@reddit

Use it!!! I inherited two Pickard sets from my grandmother, after she gifted me a 16 pc Lenox set at my own wedding. Five years on, I decided to start using it. We use it as everyday wear and I will never regret it. Now, my mother’s ridiculous Spoke Christmas china is another story…

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ArtsyRabb1t@reddit

We registered at Target so ours is cheap BUT then they all handed me down their lead filled stuff and ugh I hate it

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AmyGranite@reddit

I returned mine for cash because I registered at Bed, Bath, & Beyond while they gave cash returns on bridal registries. With how my life has gone since, I'm relieved I had this opportunity!

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austex99@reddit

When we got married 21 years ago, I couldn’t bring myself to register for china. We ended up registering for plain white dishware from Crate and Barrel. Best decision ever — we still use it every day. I have accumulated some real patterned china over the years through relatives or yard sales (not much—no big sets) and I like that I can mix and match it with my white dishes.

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yourlittlebirdie@reddit

Why not just use it? Life is more fun when you actually use the fancy things you have.

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Cisru711@reddit

My parents used their china once a year growing up. No way was I letting us register for that. My wife was gettting her grandmother's plates anyway.

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2DEUCE2@reddit

I feel like it all just takes up so much space in our house but my wife loves it and she gets all excited taking it all out and washing it before a large dinner party. We use it maybe two or three times a year.

She loves it so it stays.

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rjcpl@reddit

Growing up a military brat that moved every few years and continuing that habit into adulthood I purposely avoid accumulation of such useless “stuff”.

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jenbenfoo@reddit

My mom actually gave her china to my cousins wife, because I didn't want it and neither did my sister-in-law. There are some things she's explicitly told me I'm getting, and who they're from, but I don't know that I'll remember 🫣 i should ask her again and take a video for reference.

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Bubble_Lights@reddit

Try replacements.com

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Lazy_Mood_4080@reddit

Hahaha

My sister registered for it, got it, and promptly returned it and used the money for other things, like completing her set of every day dishes!!!

I thought that was BRILLIANT.

I inherited my grandmother's china, and I got a full set of Noritake Colorwave when I got married.

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mommiecubed@reddit

I don’t have wedding china. Never bought it and thought wedding china was stupid

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Roseheath22@reddit

If you think it looks nice, I’d just use it and put it in the dishwasher (assuming it might degrade the paint a little but not make them unsafe to eat off of). Otherwise, definitely sell.

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Architorture_66@reddit

I have an interesting story for this. My father-in-law has cabinets of china ware, probably a dozen sets, if not more. He buys them from estate sales on the cheap.

From a bowl of cereal in the morning to a late sandwich at night, he will always eat off of the china sets. Why? His mom had sets growing up that they never used.

"It's for special occasions" was her excuse, but if you absolutely never used it, what constitutes a special occasion? Thanksgiving, Christmas, she still wouldn't let the family use it. In fact, the final time we got together was for her 90th as a family, she argued with her son (wife's father) not to use that fine china. He of course argued how is this not a special occasion?

The bigger question for my wife and I will be how will we approach inheriting a dozen sets of this stuff....

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HighSeasArchivist@reddit

No, but we've made it pretty clear to our parents that their sentimental stuff is not our sentimental stuff. If they want it to go to another family member then they need to make that clear beforehand or it's just going in the dumpster.

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Northern_Lights_2@reddit

I guess I’m in the minority but I have a set of China and I just use it. Use your pretty things. No sense in saving it for later.

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New_me_310@reddit

I realized this mistake very early on, back when Bed Bath and Beyond gave cash refunds for registry returns. I took it all back and bought a set of golf clubs instead. Have only used those about 5 times in the past 20 years but at least they can go in the garage.

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youknowwhatthisis00@reddit

Got married in 2005 and stood firm that I didn’t want china. My mom’s is sitting in her China cabinet, untouched for probably 35+ years. She passed 2 years ago and it’s still there in the house my stepdad still lives in. It will become my problem when he dies and I’m not looking forward to figuring how to get rid of a house full of boomer crap.

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Flimsy_Situation_506@reddit

I just use it as my everyday dishes

If it breaks it breaks, I’d rather use it and break it then store it for a lifetime

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WheelLeast1873@reddit

Got nice chna for wedding and my wife inherited her grandmother's silverware. We use it on holidays. Kids can do whatever with it when we're gone.

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yespls@reddit

I didn't get wedding china, but I do have my mother's in a plastic tub in storage.

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keto_and_me@reddit

This was one of the 1st big disagreements my husband and I had while we were planning our wedding. I wanted no parts of collecting dishes, bowls, glasses, etc and he wanted to register for all of that because “that’s what you do”. His parents have so much stuff that we now have boxes of their stuff in our basement. I married into a collecting family. My parents rented a dumpster and really did a deep clean out of their house a few years ago and I am very thankful!

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Wodentoad@reddit

We never registered (married in 2003), but my mom uses hers on holidays. We have mostly lead-lined Corelle.

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SciFi_MuffinMan@reddit

Sooo…we use it as our daily plates and stuff and it’s great. Stick it in the dishwasher, back up in a normal plate and bowl stack. We were military for 24 years and moved a lot - our “normal” plates broke too often in moves plus just daily stuff. After one move I said he babe, these never break, why don’t we use them? 6 moves and 15 years later they’re still going strong.

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yarnhooksbooks@reddit

I donated mine to a thrift store and wrote it off on my taxes before a big move about 10 years ago. No regrets.

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MYSTERees77@reddit

On top of the stuff we got for our wedding, we inherited 2 more sets. That was around the time we got into auctions as well...and picked up more sets.

Needless to say, we use a different China set for each holiday and have a massive China cabinet in the dining room.

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Tough-Astronomer-456@reddit

Sell it now if it would get you decent money. OR start using it regularly and just see how it does in the dishwasher. Try some of it on the top rack first.

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who_farted_this_time@reddit

My grandmother told me she had a small plate that she bought at a flea market for 50c. She said she loved eating breakfast off is every day and loved the picture on it.

Then one day, her friend looked it up and found out it was worth about $45. She said she was really sad to have to put it in the china cabinet because it was worth so much.

I told her, grandma, just enjoy the damn place. Nobody is going to know what it's worth anyway. And it could just end up at an OP shop.

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Constant_Roof_7974@reddit

I refused to register for China. My mother was quite unhappy but I didn’t care.

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malibuklw@reddit

I did not register for china and what we have was passed down because no one else wanted it and it’s still in the box it was given to me in.

I’m afraid to use it because I don’t like lead poisoning

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larryb78@reddit

My wife insisted we had to have them - 14 years later I don’t think we’ve used them more than 7 or 8 times if that much even. Every now and again she’ll pull them out at a family dinner out of pure guilt and everyone has the same sentiment: we can use paper don’t go crazy. What a waste

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cigarandcreamsoda@reddit

Not wedding but inherited my great grandmas china. It sits in a china hutch in the dining room and that’s about all it does. One day I’m going to box those up and fill the hutch with action figures.

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mrossm@reddit

We were pressured into it by parents, received half the place settings, the line was discontinued and I'm pretty sure none of its made it out of the box. what do you do with 3 plates?

On a funnier note, we also got pressured into fancy silverware, of which we received a single setting of. I always joke that only one of us gets to eat fancy.

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WillowOttoFloraFrank@reddit

3 plates = 3-course meal. But only for one of you. 🤣

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SwitchbackHell@reddit

MIL has forced three sets of China on us and my wife feels like she can’t get rid of them while her mother is still alive. We don’t use any of it so all of those dishes sit cabinets taking up space.

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shakeyshake1@reddit

I use china for guests for any occasion where I wouldn’t use paper plates. I like having it. Mine are fine in the dishwasher, they just can’t go in the microwave because they have metal trim.

I hope no one treats it as an heirloom when I’m dead though. They’re really nice, but they aren’t particularly special to anyone but me. I wouldn’t want anyone crying over breaking a plate.

Funny thing is my mom did ask me if I was really sure I wanted china when I registered for it. I think my parents got rid of theirs years ago. It’s one of the few things though where when I use it, it reminds me of being a newlywed.

The first time my husband and I cooked a recipe together, we planned to eat it on the china. It turned out so terrible we had to throw it out and then we ate Arby’s on the china. I like having something that sparks memories of early marriage when we were young, broke, and had no idea what we were doing in life generally, but we were in it together and we had really nice dishes.

I don’t feel like we gave up something better we could have registered for. Ours was a complete box set for $300 instead of individual place settings for $80+ each.

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giraffemoo@reddit

You got wedding gifts?

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Extreme-King@reddit

2 cabinets actually

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tgbarbie@reddit

We use our for holidays and I love it. It’s so beautiful and makes the prettiest table. Definitely brings me joy.

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viridiansoul@reddit

We have one of my husband's grandmother's sets of china buried at the bottom of our bedroom closet. His sister has the other set. I don't know about hers, but ours is only missing 3-4 pieces to be complete.

No one uses them, and they're not even displayed.

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jackfaire@reddit

Honestly this makes me glad we didn't do a lot of that stuff. We got a Wedding Chalice that we'd planned on giving to our daughter for her wedding someday but it went missing years ago.

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Entire-Order3464@reddit

Nope. Never acquired this kind of stuff for exactly this reason. I don't think my dad has any china like that but if he does I'll give it to goodwill when he dies (hopefully a long time from now!).

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cloudydays2021@reddit

I never registered for it, never wanted it. My mom asked me if I wanted their’s, hard pass. I like living in a small apartment with minimal shit

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KW5625@reddit

My parents have one waiting for us (sister and I).

We don't want it or have room for it

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variegated_lemon@reddit

I registered for a simple gold Lenox pattern that complements my mom’s discontinued Royal Doulton pattern. So I use it for certain occasions and love mixing it together. I love vintage/antique stuff so I’m kind of a sucker for China, silver, and crystal. Beautiful glassware is my kryptonite!! You can sell vintage patterns on eBay - people out there collect it!

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transer42@reddit

Between my wife and I, we've ended up with at least 4 sets, plus at least one more incoming. We didn't get our own wedding china, either. We never use any of it, it just sits in boxes. I suspect as the boomers (and maybe early Gen X) go, there's going to be a flood of old china in the thrift stores

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mmoonbelly@reddit

Maybe we could ship them all to Greece for use at weddings?

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orangedrinkmcdonalds@reddit

Just use it every day.

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FoppyRETURNS@reddit

I wish I did. My father damaged my grandmother's china and my brother used my mother's china like it was frat housr dishes.

Maybe when my mortgage is paid I dumb the F out.

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LemonGrass6432@reddit

I inherited my great aunt's china, from the 1940s. I do not use it as I tested it and it's full of lead. Decorative only, it's a Myott Staffordshire from the UK.

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bcentsale@reddit

We went with a simple design, no pattern, stoneware, that we regularly use for holidays and when we host friends or family. We've also adamantly refused everything my family has attempted to foist on us with the exception of my grandmother's cut crystal, which also comes out on the aforementioned occasions.

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ladyvanderboom@reddit

I have my great-grandmother’s wedding china. We will never use it, they don’t make this type of china any more, but I’m keeping it and it’s on display. One of my kids will have it and I won’t judge what they decide to do with it, but the family history of this particular china is cooler than the inconvenience of its existence in my home.

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rattlefox9@reddit

Both my mom and I use “wedding China” as our everyday dishes, all washed in the dishwasher (I did it 1st and she liked the idea). Only issue has been that hers has silver detailing that sparks in the microwave, so she has a couple plain dishes reserved for that purpose.

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delladoug@reddit

We got not super fancy china, and they were our daily dishes for the 14 year marriage.

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Traditional_Entry183@reddit

My wife and I specifically requested zero China. We did get a set of plates that are now all broken and gone 20 years later.

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Sufficient_Turn_9209@reddit

We sold ours at a garage sale around 2005 after inheriting my grandmother's set and silver. I always loved hers and the pattern as no longer in production. We have holidays and dinners at our house so it used to come out a few times a year, but I've gotten more protective of it in the last several years. I framed a setting with some other family sentimental pieces and the rest of it is looking pretty behind glass cabinet doors. My daughter in law has already called dibs. Lol

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herozero@reddit

I got married right out of high school. Was going to move in with a girl who graduated a year before me. Our parents said we couldn’t live together unless we were married. Spite is a helluva drug. Anyway, our patents forced us into this and the girl was really into it too and we got all the fancy stuff and divorced a year later and maybe she still has it, but likely thrifted, idk.

A few years later I meet my current and forever wife and we have a low key wedding with our closest friends to avoid all of that bullshit. My mom still ends up gifting us fancy china we’ve never used. It’s currently in storage.

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No_Proposal7812@reddit

I use my wedding china on holidays. I like having special dishes. I also have two more sets of every day china that I rotate.

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Glendale0839@reddit

We didn’t do a gift registry when we got married, and fortunately didn’t get any china as gifts. When my parents downsized houses a few years back, they somehow realized the truth that the wedding china they received in the 70s, that they used a grand total of maybe 3 times in 40 years, was worthless. They offered it to me first (I didn’t want it) and then they trashed it.

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primusperegrinus@reddit

We got a dishwasher safe Lennox set that looks nice, we use it 4 or 5 times a year, usually when we need more place settings. Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter, birthday or two. Probably would t ever use it if it was hand wash.

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MexicanVanilla22@reddit

Go ahead and sell it if it is t bringing you joy. It will make someone's day.

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moonstruck523@reddit

I didn’t have a big wedding so we skipped the China, but my mom definitely would’ve advocated for it. My sister had a big wedding and I think she did get some China, but she actually uses hers a couple of times a year because she hosts the holidays. That’s the only time I do wish I had a nice set is when I have to host a holiday or a nicer family dinner and I don’t have any nice plates, but realistically I have no place to store it because I don’t have a China cabinet.