Yes they did. And it was awesome.
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Posted by WasteOfBerries@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 289 comments
seriouslynope@reddit
Now we will get CPS called on us in our own yard
cheeker_sutherland@reddit
I know this has happened but is it really a thing?
red286@reddit
Calling CPS is a thing, but usually CPS doesn't actually do anything.
Now, if your kids are off your property, that really depends on the CPS worker who shows up. A lot of times they consider allowing any child under the age of 13 to be off your property without adult supervision to be "neglect".
cheeker_sutherland@reddit
Even walking to school?
red286@reddit
In some cases, yes.
The problem is that most states (and other jurisdictions) do not clearly specify what exactly counts as child neglect/endangerment, other than "lack of reasonable diligence as to a child under the age of 18", which is extremely vague.
Therefore, it winds up being a decision made by the CPS worker who is first contacted regarding it. If they decide it's neglect, then it gets referred to family court where a judge will decide if any laws have actually been broken.
FoppyRETURNS@reddit
say_what_again_mfr@reddit
I challenge my kids to go out and get in some trouble. They just can’t do it. They are all indoor cats now. We used to be lions. lol.
Longbeach_strangler@reddit
I wasn’t given the option. My dad physically walked us to the door and escorted us outside if we wouldn’t go on our own. The the door was shut and you absolutely did not come back inside unless the sunset or you needed to shit.
AFarewellToArms@reddit
My 16 year old is finally getting into shenanigans. He and his friends found a sign in the neighborhood that had fallen over. They took it into the woods and tried taking it off the post. Last night their friend called them frantically looking for cat food because they found a stray cat, so we let him take two cans of wet food our cats won't eat and they had fun with the cat. Words cannot express how grateful I feel that he's finally having some slightly mischievous fun outside for once.
chocki305@reddit
"A sign"?
I got grounded when my mother noticed orange flashing lights from my trunk.
I had around 20 construction lights that I detached from the wooden uprights along the side of a road. All flashing.
transponster99@reddit
We used to take orange traffic cones and leave them in friends’ driveways as a sign of affection.
pienofilling@reddit
In the mid 90s, it was expected among a certain crowd that if you held a houseparty for your birthday, someone would bring you a traffic cone they'd swiped on the way for your present.
The crowd was Scripture Union members across a bunch of grammar schools, by the way.
CreampuffOfLove@reddit
One night my senior year of high school, a bunch of us got drunk and thought it would be hysterical to go around stealing all the yard signs we could find (there was an election coming up)...so we grabbed a sober friend to drive and went all over stealing random signs*. And what else do you do with 50 yard signs that to drive to the house of the friend who ditched us to hang out with their SO, wait til 3am, then cover the lawn with said signs!
We didn't stick around to see what happened when friend's dad walked out to go to work, but damn did we hear about it! 😬🤣
*Just to be clear - it's 2026 and I feel like I need to specify this for some reason - we didn't 'target' any party or candidate specifically, it was just idiot teens being idiot teens. A proudly non-partisan tradition!
Old_hubbard_mother@reddit
Me and two of the kids next door took a pumpkin out of the front garden of a neighbour up the street. We threw it into the woods because we were pretending there was a bomb in it. One of the kids snitched and I got raked over the coals and grounded for 2 months. I also got accused of throwing orange peels…which I didn’t…during the pumpkin heist of 89
Ineedavodka2019@reddit
lol. Thats so innocent
Primary-Strawberry-5@reddit
Can’t say just how proud I was as a father when 10 years ago I looked out from the street side window of our old top floor duplex and saw my kid leading around a bunch of younger kids all carrying sticks. That was the same year where she got red on Class Dojo on the last day of school and I asked what happened and the reply was priceless: Because people are a bunch of snitches. I decided to pick my battles that day and accept the given answer
SixAlarmFire@reddit
Maybe bobcats. Lions is a stretch for kids from the burbs 😂
BitPoet@reddit
Having worked next to a landscaping company, I have come to the conclusion that if one has access to a bobcat, all problems become bobcat-shaped.
Need to move your car? Bobcat.
Need a place to sit for lunch? Bobcat.
Cut down trees? Bobcat.
The one thing I saw them fail at was opening a beer.
Content-Seaweed-6395@reddit
give them a pager and tell them to literally get lost lol
WasteOfBerries@reddit (OP)
All the other kids' Moms gave their kids pagers!
Mom: I'm not all other kids' Moms!!!
vrgamemachine@reddit
"Beepers are for drug dealers" is what I am sure she said.
Cactilily@reddit
That was my mom 🤣 Yet, she had no problem paging my friend who had one (not a drug dealer) 🤣
smokiechick@reddit
My friends all having one was why I didn't get one! If I was with who I said I was with, she could page them. I was always with someone if I got into trouble. I think I was safe when I was alone because she couldn't check in.
Cactilily@reddit
I just though they were cool especially the the transparent ones came out
lawduckfan21@reddit
My mom said this too! 😂 But my sophomore year I just bought one myself and she later admitted it was wonderful.
anyb0dyme@reddit
Bring back pagers #911 #143
Content-Seaweed-6395@reddit
They actually still exist I just found out
ReadyAimTranspire@reddit
Yeah I think they are still used in some specific industries, doctors being one
quixotica726@reddit
I kinda want one
TK1129@reddit
Pager? You had helicopter parents
WheelLeast1873@reddit
Or rich parents
anyb0dyme@reddit
Couldn't be farther from the truth in my case. I insisted on getting one. Almost exclusively for use with friends and bc they were 'hi-tec'
Content-Seaweed-6395@reddit
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nojoblazybum@reddit
Damn, citing the old magic 👍🏼
Daw_dling@reddit
geekgirlwww@reddit
My sister in law asked for a pager and immediately regretted it. My very sweet MIL finally had a way to check in when she was out. It ended fine they had a conversation.
JamieC1610@reddit
My daughter (10) and her friend walked to a park that is almost a straight shot down the road from our house (a little over a mile away) -- there is a bit of a dogleg by the library but its all the same street. They got there fine, but got lost coming home. They usually hang out on our side of the neighborhood, but they had to go two blocks past the dividing street and it was apparently like a foreign country without an adult.
They knew enough to stop and call me and I was able to track her phone to go get them. They'd gone about a mile on a street perpendicular to the one that ran between our house and the park and had no clue why they'd turned that way. They survived though.
Own-Lake7931@reddit
I think kids are better at training parents these days. Kids are smarter and and better at hiding the truth these days. You thinking your kids don’t get into trouble is adorable
Rust_Bucket37@reddit
It's only trouble if you get caught 😉
PlantedinCA@reddit
I wasn’t even a big outdoors kid and I stayed outside most of the day.
At some point though I did start video games. So friends would come over and we’d play Nintendo. It was in my bedroom. I had another friend in middle school, and we’d go to her house.
Sometimes her mom was home, as was mine at my house. But both of us had moms that were like “this is me time, figure it out, I am ignoring you all for the whole day. You can work a microwave.”
We’d also finagle to get dropped off at the beach boardwalk or the mall all day.
ShortIrishGuy@reddit
Right. Scrapes, bruises, covered in mud. We did things daily that are now considered extreme sports. Lol. We all were doing Jackass style stunts. Knoxville just was smart enough to film his stunts.
CEEngineerThrowAway@reddit
On the things that sold me on my neighborhood was seeing packs of wild children roaming the streets and playgrounds. We have a good system of off street trails that allow the kids to navigate without much interaction with traffic.
Our elementary school doesn’t have bussing, so we have large percentage of kids riding their bikes to school. I think this has foster a sense of independence of kids riding alone by 3rd grade
ADH-Dad@reddit
We looked at a lot of different neighborhoods before moving with our kids, and ended up picking the one where we saw middle-schoolers riding bikes and playing catch.
CEEngineerThrowAway@reddit
I went on bike rides through the neighborhoods scanning for the same. I’m glad I did, our community and friends are my favorite part of where we live.
ONROSREPUS@reddit
Take the electronics away for a few hours a day. Its amazing what the young mind will come up with then it isn't face first in a screen.
Afternoon_Despair@reddit
My youngest will literally sit in his room and stare at the wall before going outside. He won't be able to tell you the color of the wall, either.
ONROSREPUS@reddit
Hey nothing wrong with zoning out either. I'd still prefer kids do this then spend 23.11 hours on the screen of there choice.
buhleg@reddit
.11? That’s pretty specific. Why not 23.45?
drtyhppi@reddit
That's also pretty specific. Why not 23.67?
Slowmaha@reddit
Nope. All they do is bug us. Maddening
Funandgeeky@reddit
Exactly. My brother does his best to limit his kids’ screen time. They are fairly analog kids and come up with all sorts of ways to stay entertained. And they do get into some scrapes, but that’s a good childhood.
MulberryEastern5010@reddit
My sisters and sister-in-law have all made a point to not make their kids dependent on screens, be it phones, tablets, or TV.
Slowmaha@reddit
Same they WON’T roam. It sucks
Diligent-Resist8271@reddit
Indoor cats. That is exactly how I describe my two daughters. They are indoor cats. I jump at the chance when they want to "hang out" with friends. My youngest (12 now but 13 in 13 days!) has discovered hanging out at the mall with her friends, and I am HERE. FOR. IT! It's a very small mall with a lot of empty stores and a handful of food court offerings, but they just want to hang out together and not at a friend's house and I will gladly drive her to meet friends (and sit in the food court while she wanders with them, I may want to give them freedom but society still requires the parental sacrifice of keeping an eye on them).
optimaloutcome@reddit
We bought a house on five acres about 7 years ago (my kid was 9). Beautiful area, lots of space, everyone around us is on 5+ acres too. There's a private lake on our street. I had these dreams/ideas my kid would never come back in the house. She'd be at the lake all the time.
Yeah that's not how it worked out. The best we got was occasionally she'd walk to the lake with her friend to swim a little. There's a kid her age on the next property over and they're great friends so me and the other dad cut a hole in our fence for the girls to run through. That has been great for them, but I figured they'd be like I was when I lived in the woods as a kid and outside constantly having fun. Shit we even have a building separate from the house I offered to put couches and stuff in and they just aren't interested. I don't get it.
uhlemi11@reddit
Oof, mine could definitely get in trouble. We got up tight neighbors though
Gwarnage@reddit
I remember pokemon go was a small cultural phenomenon because it actually got kids out and walking around for one summer.
curlyhairedsheep@reddit
We still see packs of kids and parents roaming my neighborhood playing, which is so fun.
geekgirlwww@reddit
It was fantastic to watch
Bored_Acolyte_44@reddit
The difference is that now we live in a surviellance state. Everyone has cameras on everything.
Colambler@reddit
I dunno that I'd call wandering around primarily safe suburban neighborhoods "lions" but people used to be certainly more outdoor cats lol.
But that's the way things have trended for a while. When my father and uncles were young, they would literally just hitchhike to the beach or back from work. But when I was young they though that was insane. "Don't talk to strangers". Now it's like "don't be anywhere you might even be seen by strangers..."
beer_engineer@reddit
Same. Been trying since he was like 7. He's 17 now and he just never had the desire to want to go roam outside.
octopusgardeb@reddit
Yeah kids were allowed out all by themselves at young ages- I was kicked out do the house on a bike and hold to come back before it got dark. I was like 8-9yrs old. I rode down hills with my hands off my handle and never even knew that cars could total me. There were never any parents at playgrounds - I didn’t realize this until I just wrote that. Whoa. I never saw a parent at a single playground. Also the playgrounds were made of old tires and lumber into climbing structures that would be considered death traps today but were awesome
Squeezer_pimp@reddit
I can confirm and recommend that if stepping out unsupervised that you are expected to have a whoop ass if caught doing something stupidly.
ManateeNipples@reddit
This is a real thing I experienced, like I had a very wrong idea of what being a parent meant so I planned to have 2 kids. But then I had 1 and was like "wtf is this, why am I so busy, my parents weren't ever busy like this" and I only had 1 because f that it's too much work lol. Also they're SO expensive! I was not that expensive because my parents just let me go without stuff and didn't concern themselves lol
southernfirm@reddit
All the expense is self-imposed: why is childcare expensive? Because it’s tightly regulated, and they require a minimum number of teachers per child. Why are activities so expensive? Every kid has simply got to cosplay as a miniature pro athlete. Why can’t the kids roam? It’s illegal under the age of 15. If you want them to have some freedom, you probably feel like you have to buy a home in an expensive gated neighborhood.
Everything is designed to be zero risk, and that’s simply expensive. No wonder we have a generation of kids that have zero social skills or tolerance for any kind of risk.
cheeker_sutherland@reddit
Is it really illegal under 15?
LilDanglyOnes@reddit
Depends on the state, and how shitty your neighbors are. I was inside one day while my then-6 year old was riding his scooter on the sidewalk in front of our house (minimal traffic neighborhood, just a street with 10 houses on one side and sidewalk all the way) while I was inside doing dishes. Had just the screen door there so I could still hear stuff from outside. Neighbor lady comes and rings the doorbell to scold me for my kid being outside without me.
I’m sure that same neighbor whines to anyone who will listen about how much kids are on their screens all day. 😤
Exodus180@reddit
neighbor complaining =/= illegal
LilDanglyOnes@reddit
Yep, but sometimes those same neighbors are shittier and will call the cops. And then things get subjective.
GodOfDarkLaughter@reddit
It's less that there are specific laws than that your local cops or child protective services might decide you're being neglectful. There are indeed stories of CPS coming to check on the welfare of children in their homes because they walk home from school rather than being driven. People are rarely penalized in any way, but there's a chilling effect. And there's the paranoia, sometimes justified, that there are nosey people everywhere just itching for a reason to call up some authority figure so they can feel powerful by proxy. There are a lot of folk who feel like the police chief in a movie who sends in the swat team if they can get the cops to actually respond to their complaints.
JMurph3313@reddit
ahaha yes this is totally me too.
YcemeteryTreeY@reddit
Yeah our parents generation actually got paid for work properly and could support a family on single income and own a house. Most of them never say kids being expensive was a factor in weather or not to have them, vs now all anyone can think is.. a whole other PERSON?!?!? HOW DOES ANYONE DO THIS?!?!
uhlemi11@reddit
Counterpoint- I had two kids so I can tell them, go play with your sister, and I go back to bed
drainbamage1011@reddit
I still know people having 3+ kids with both parents working and I'm just like...how??? How are you not in 3 places at the same time, all the time? How do you afford things in general, not to mention each kid being in several sports/activities?
Ok_Bird_9745@reddit
Same, I’m 1 and done.
Five_Pents7@reddit
We loved ditches so much
ClockworkJim@reddit
You ever talked to someone who is born in The '30s or early 40s?
After breakfast, they would maybe come home for lunch and dinner. Aside from that you wouldn't see them until sunset.
adchick@reddit
Yes. I went out exploring as a child with no shoes in the summer, and got 3 degrees burns on my feet from the asphalt. My mother’s response was “you knew better and you know where the first aid kit is”. I was not taken to the doctor.
My grandmother (retired Army nurse) came over to visit a few days later and helped me, but yeah, it was not a “oh my poor baby “ situation.
Ok_Percentage5157@reddit
My kids grew up in the 2000s/2010s. We kicked them out of the house all the time, and they were fine. The older siblings did have a phone, so we were never too worried, and then once they all started driving, they left the house all the time. As parents, my wife and I didn't realize this had become a rarity until talking to other parents when the kids were in elementary/middle school.
CategoryExact3327@reddit
There was a week in 1981 after Adam Walsh got kidnapped that I wasn’t allowed to roam freely in the mall, but that really didn’t last long.
Funandgeeky@reddit
80s parents after a week: “I’m so sick of you being around all the time I don’t care if you get kidnapped. Just tell the kidnappers to have you home by dinner.”
CreampuffOfLove@reddit
Basically that era's parenting ethos! My mother used to tell me that if anyone kidnapped me they'd quickly bring me back, so she wasn't too worried 🤦🏼♀️
HicJacetMelilla@reddit
I just feel like this generation maybe didn’t actually want children or want to parent lol
drtyhppi@reddit
Now I say this to my mother 🤣
therealRustyZA@reddit
When I was a kid, my parents would've paid the ransom for them to keep me.
AshleyRoeder33@reddit
There was a whole commercial that aired at 10pm to remind our parents to see if we were home. That’s how much we freely roamed.
Gwarnage@reddit
Granted, we dissappeared in droves and occasionally fell down uncapped wells, but it was a small price to pay for freedom. And bikes just extended our range exponentially.
Treadingresin@reddit
"Dissappeared in droves"? Not only do I not know a single peer that disappeared, but the stats never supported the fear and they still don't. The highest percentage of kidnapped children comes from within families, typically at the hands of parents themselves. Letting kids wander freely was always pretty safe and ot continues to be to this day. There was just a story on NPR about it yesterday.
thisisanalaia95@reddit
This is so weird but a few months ago I was…well, I was pretty high and saw something that reminded me of the old “it’s 10pm do you know where your children are?” commercials. And I fell into this huge mental rabbit hole about milk carton missing kids and America’s most wanted etc etc and it made me wonder if there was this weird conspiracy to drum fear of letting our children out of our sight so that we could normalize paying thousands of dollars a month for childcare and pay for tracking apps and devices, and buy them iPads and entertainment to keep them quiet while we run errands because we aren’t allowed to leave them home alone anymore.
Whew. That one was a doozy.
Pezhead82@reddit
And yet kids are made vulnerable to predators by being on the internet all day . . .
thisisanalaia95@reddit
I mean, if they are going to be vulnerable anyway might as well let the tech bros monetize it, right?
Jfc what a sad state of affairs.
film44@reddit
An interesting story. Grew up in the 80s and myself, along with my best friend, was nearly abducted by a stranger. We were out on our bikes (as was usual) a guy tried to get us into his station wagon. We bailed and he chased us about a half mile before we hid and he counldnt find us. However, I dont blame our freedom as young kids being to blame in a negative way. Instead it was this independence that saved us. We knew it wasn't right, and we knew every nook and cranny to hide in. We were resourceful kids.
Treadingresin@reddit
This was brought up in the NPR program yesterday actually how that independence mixed with challenging and dangerous situations actually made kids smarter and more resilient. It also turned into adults with more resilience.
No_Ground7568@reddit
Just based on the milk cartons, it must have been in the 10s of kids!
graveybrains@reddit
FastWalkingShortGuy@reddit
I remember at least two kids falling down wells.
graveybrains@reddit
I remember baby Jessica, do you remember who the other one was?
omega_manhatten@reddit
Timmy O'Toole
FastWalkingShortGuy@reddit
I think it was Timmy
graveybrains@reddit
mstrdsastr@reddit
And when we did get hurt nobody told our moms because that would have meant we lost a least a day inside under her supervision until she got annoyed with us moping around and sent us back out.
WasteOfBerries@reddit (OP)
The ever-present fear of quicksand helped keep us alive. Most of us, anyway.
jimmyandrews@reddit
And the killer bees! (Although that's been replaced with killer wasps)
disaffectedlawyer@reddit
If you survived the quicksand, a stranger in a plain white van was there to lure you in with candy and take you to the Bermuda Triangle.
knittinghobbit@reddit
No mollycoddling from movies or books. We saw the consequences of things like quicksand. Ha.
Seriously, though, that’s what the old fairy tales are for. Don’t wander into the woods by yourself, and ESPECIALLY don’t go visit the old lady who lives in a house on chicken legs.
No_Ground7568@reddit
“mollycoddling” ❤️
ialsohaveadobro@reddit
The BMX is a force multiplier
GODDAMNFOOL@reddit
Now, if kids are playing in the front yard and nobody is watching them every minute, some busybody will call the cops
Canadatron@reddit
I swear my parents taught me to ride a bike specifically so I could be further from them.
Gwarnage@reddit
"And take this realistic looking BB gun with you!"
Canadatron@reddit
Naw, we had those battery powered all black Uzi squirtguns with the water filled clips that slid in and out of the all black gun like a real one.
Material-Imagination@reddit
Baby Jessica pretty much ruined it for everyone
shakeyshake1@reddit
I actually did almost fall down an old well when I was a kid at maybe 8 or 9 wandering around in the forest. I was able to jump off the rotten board covering it while it was cracking.
I had pretty much forgotten about that until now.
anyb0dyme@reddit
Prestigious-Row-3244@reddit
This is exactly how it happens! 👆
PlantLikeMe@reddit
It blows my mind that this in unfathomable to young people today. We were just running the streets and exploring the city we lived.
Inevitable-While-577@reddit
I'm 41 and it's unfathomable to me. My mother was breathing down my neck almost 24/7. "I wish" is my reaction every time I see such posts.
Wildeherz@reddit
Why are you all so incredulous? I imagine parents of the 1970s would be horrified to know that you let your toddlers and children spend all their time indoors glued to little tiny screens. You let your kids stare at those little screens during dinner. They never crack a book. They don't get exercise.
T_Rex_Pdx@reddit
I'm shocked every time I drive by an elementary school and see the large amount of parents picking up or dropping off. Even in the second grade I would have been embarrassed at that.
RanklesTheOtter@reddit
I was out exploring, but sometimes I'd just find a cozy spot in the woods and play my Gameboy for a bit and then get back to trashing some kids fort found. 😂
So screen time, technically, but the Gameboy was rad.
pienofilling@reddit
I can still vividly see my normally extremely chill mother storming up a grassy hill towards me yelling my name. I can still feel the twist in my stomach because I was absolutely, royally, 100% busted as that hill was outside the limits of where I was supposed to be. I'd forgotten she drove that way to go visit my Granny on that evening every sodding week!
She never caught me racing my friends on their bikes down the footpath of a different hill. I was allowed on that hill. I knew damn well I shouldn't have been racing down it, not least because I didn't have a bike. I had Fisher Price roller skates!
vivoconfuoco@reddit
I remember crawling through big open sewers at our bus stop. We brought flashlights one morning and managed to crawl across the street to the manhole. We missed the bus 😂
Working_Isopod3713@reddit
I let mine roam free. There are some of “us” left.
Magnetheadx@reddit
Can confirm. Ditches, drainage systems, foothills, unfinished construction sites. Yyyyup!
time2sow@reddit
It was weird with a grandparent caretaker at that time. You ideally had to be out of the house/ out of sight/ but you GD better be close enough to answer on the first holler
Fianna9@reddit
There wasn’t anyone my age in my neighbourhood.
I became an unpaid unofficial babysitter as I was bored so I would round up the younger kids to all play in one yard or another.
And when I had friends my age over we would vanish for the creek near my house and just float down it
steve2166@reddit
those kinds that were allowed to wonder off are now the parents that are not allowing them to do the same
ZDMaestro0586@reddit
Glorious times. BB gun fights, dumpster diving, bike rides to the corner store felt like returning the ring to Mordor.
Poethegardencrow@reddit
My mum said I get to repost this next week.
Sgt_JC66@reddit
Absolutely, we roamed freely! I lived in a town of about 35,000 as a kid back in the ‘70’s and I rode my bike everywhere, sometimes by myself or other times with friends. My parents’ rule was be home for dinner at 6:00 pm and also by the time streetlights came on. Best days of my life. Wish I could go back for a bit.
elkniodaphs@reddit
The person asking got their name from Town & Country Surf Designs: Wood & Water Rage, an NES game from the '80s. They already know what it was like, this is engagement bait.
Exodus180@reddit
I dont need a break from things that I love... unlike something else that your brain is just tricking you with chemicals.
shinyRedButton@reddit
I really miss riding bikes like 30 miles away with a pack of 10 kids, doing some light-mischief and knowing I just had to be home by the time the street lights came on.
Gwarnage@reddit
The first time you ride to an entirely different town was always a thrill.
ReadyAimTranspire@reddit
Hell yeah, there would be some skate shop or gaming store or whatever that I had heard of in the next city over and I would ride my bike to go there. Sometimes by myself, sometimes with friends. Being a whole new area of the map was exciting times.
FictionForest@reddit
In the early 1980s, we’d get all camoed up, armed with BB guns and smoke bombs, walk to the garbage dump and shoot rats.
reddit3k@reddit
I traveled about 3-4 miles into the countryside alone when I was age 8-10.
Travelling on my own (barrel) raft, with a paddle and a small sail that I made. :)
a_black_angus_cow@reddit
looks like we became dinosaurs. we move in herds, we do move in herds.
bicylcling the neighbourhood looking for spiders.
davebyday@reddit
We had a strip mall down the way from us. Grocery store, pizza place, Party Card Store, Movie Theater, McDonalds, and a driving range to hit golf balls.
We would dumpster dive in the Party Card Store trash when they would toss out inventory, pick threw all the good stuff and toss it in a cart we took from the Shoprite.
We'd stand out front of the Shoprite and sell all the salvaged trinkets we could for cheap. Take the money and go do shit at the other stores. We once took one of those Gatorade Sports coolers and filled it with Pink Lemonade from the McDonalds and sold that on a summer day.
JimmyJooish@reddit
“Hey you can’t do that!”
“Well I guess I can because I just did it.”
NicPaperScissors@reddit
The playing in ditches thing isn’t even a joke! We actually played in ditches!
BirdLawOfficeESQ@reddit
My son is 10 and he and his friends are out on their bikes in town on free days. We live in a small town but I love it. He has a phone and checks in via text.
mstrdsastr@reddit
Anyone else routinely play on the railroad tracks and enter abandoned buildings?
Geek_Wandering@reddit
Not just allow. It was sometimes mandatory. We got told to go to friend's house or outside so that the carpets could be shampooed.
CRT-Gaming-HQ@reddit
We didn't wear seat belts and road around on the back dash! It was fun until it wasn't.
lemmylemonlemming@reddit
We made forts and filled them with mud balls to throw at some unnamed enemy when 'they' came. But eventually we would throw the mud balls at each other.
mstrdsastr@reddit
It also usually involved us ruining our new shoes which got our asses chewed out when our parents found them soaking wet and covered in mud.
JoshSidekick@reddit
same, but with crab apples.
lemmylemonlemming@reddit
We had black walnut trees that dropped ammo all over the ground too.
CrouchingDomo@reddit
You have described the military industrial complex 😐
lemmylemonlemming@reddit
Jesus. You're not wrong, but it was so fun to hit my brother with audnsll and then convince him to stop crying and keep playing.....shit I'm doing it again aren't I.
CrouchingDomo@reddit
It’s not our fault, we were just kids 😅🫠
L-is-for-living@reddit
Shit…I’m 40 and I still roam freely to this day
lawduckfan21@reddit
My best friend had the cops show up at his house because a concerned neighbor called the police when they noticed a child (my friend’s kid) walking through their neighborhood alone. Not an exaggeration
Ok-Journalist-2060@reddit
We were told to come back for lunch and when it got dark. Otherwise, we were outside all day with all the other kids who were also sent outside. Riding bikes, playing in the woods, etc.
sundayfunday78@reddit
When we were really little, Clifford Olson was active. My mom was always outside with us. But as we got older the freedom increased. We became latchkey kids and were just fine.
feartheswans@reddit
No, my parents did NOT know where I was at 10pm, but, I had a house key and as long as I called in the morning and went to school the next day it was somehow fine.
Dildo_Shw4ggins@reddit
I was blessed to have grown up in the sticks. My closest neighbors were about a half mile down the road and they had a kid my age. As young as 8 years old, we used to ride our bikes for miles and stay gone all day long. It wasn’t unusual for us to knock on a stranger’s door and ask for a glass of water (or just drink from their hose if they weren’t home lol). I miss those days so much. I have lasting images burned into my brain of us riding into the sunset on our bikes.
jeophys152@reddit
When we were 15 we would ride our bikes to 7-11 at 1am to get nachos between Goldeneye rounds
WheelLeast1873@reddit
In 1st grade I was allowed to ride my bike down the street like a mile to go see if my friends were home.
veryblanduser@reddit
Be the parent you want your kids to have.
Pinklady777@reddit
I remember when I was 11 years old I spent the summer babysitting for a family while the parents worked. The kids were five, three and twin babies. I was 11! Now I know that a lot of 11-year-olds aren't even left alone yet. Or maybe for short periods of time.
WarhammerRyan@reddit
As a kid, got yelled at to "just get outside..... go somewhere" regularly.
Enxer@reddit
Me 12 years old on Saturday morning or summer day: Mom I'm going out!
Mom: Where are you going?
Me: Daniel's house then Rachel's and probably the woods
Mom: Ok be safe, call me if things change, dinner is at 5 pm.
Me: Ok!
RockShowSparky@reddit
So funny that it’s so foreign to them they question whether it was even true.
jazzbot247@reddit
My mother wrote me a note saying I was allowed to buy her cigarettes. The man at the store always accepted it. I was 10 or 11. Mid 80s. Funny enough I never got into smoking.
Tenaciousgreen@reddit
I brought home frogs and tadpoles, scraped knees, a starving stomach, and tired eyes, only to be told - dinner won’t be ready for another hour, go back outside.
allmimsyburogrove@reddit
Yep my friends and I were out all day until it got dark. Hitchhiking everywhere, building tree forts and underground forts in the woods, getting lost. Good times.
taleofbenji@reddit
The movie Stand by Me is particularly striking in this regard. Those kids were gone for days at a time and no one cared.
Weird_Squirrel_8382@reddit
I cannot relate, honey. I lived in the HOOD. Couldn't go off the block without a big cousin, couldn't go inside anyone's house until our grownups met their grownups. And going to a kids house while their grownups weren't home? What for, unless we were trying to be fast? We were often reminded "I didn't program those street lights. You get in my house by five."
ArtsyRabb1t@reddit
We also have a cool scar or 10 to show our friends from those shenanigans.
Dan_Berg@reddit
"It's 10pm, do you know where your children are?"
"I told you last night, no!"
Solid-Hedgehog9623@reddit
Somebody always had stitches, sprains, and broken bones. The collarbone was a pretty popular break for a few years in my neck of the woods. Most of those injuries happened unsupervised and probably during some rite of passage, meaning now we had to lie to our parents about how they occurred. Jumping out of a tree fort became ‘fell off my bike.’
hiro111@reddit
By age 15 I had broken both wrists and both collarbones doing stupid shit. I had stitches on one knee and on my chin. I once cut my forehead so badly that it was just gushing blood and I had to ride my bike home trying to see through the blood. I didn't think my mom took me to the doctor.
Local_Debate_8920@reddit
To be fair. The forehead bleeds a lot for minor cut. Just wash it, pour hydrogen peroxide on it, press a paper towel over it until it stops bleeding, then neosprorin and a bandaid if it still looks bad. That can fix almost anything.
hiro111@reddit
Yeah, I learned just how much a small cut on your forehead bleeds. It didn't really hurt but the blood was going straight into my eyes and covering my shirt and bike. I remember hosing the blood off of my bike, lol.
FiveCrappedPee@reddit
I was like 9 or ten or so and took like $20 or something from my dads wad of cash he always kept and went and bought an RC car from Zayre on my bike. On the way back it fell in the median of a busy street so I thought it'd be a good idea to leave it and put my bike down on the sidewalk and walk back to get it. I don't know why I thought that made sense.
I walked back and immediately got hit by a car. I only remember three flashes and then being on a fence with the lady screaming for someone to call an ambulance. I was terrified that I'd get found out that I stole money from my dad so I somehow stumbled up and got on my bike and rode back home in a concussed daze. The car ran over my foot and shredded my shoe and I was in an obvious concussion (first of many in my life) and I just told my parent's I fell in a construction site on my bike. And that was that. No questions or worries.
The 80s were fucking wild man.
MotorCycologist@reddit
My favourite was the aftermath.
"What'd you do today, honey?"
- "Nothin'. Just played games with Billy. What'd you do?"
"Spent all day gardening with your father."
They didn't want to know what we really did, and we didn't want to know what they really did. We all lived the lie, and it worked.
Shoulda_Ben_Aborted@reddit
I was smoking cigarettes and throwing rocks at the boy scouts tents near the mountain. She was at the neighbors with dad smoking weed
hollisann79@reddit
We had a fort next to the railroad tracks. Spent summers putting rocks and money on the tracks because we were unsupervised idiots. We didn't die though.
Boo-Boo97@reddit
"It's 10pm, do you know where your children are?"
TheySayImZack@reddit
A year ago my son took the wrong bus home from school on purpose because he wanted to investigate the town and walk around. I was at work and didn’t know until I got home. He has it in him.
langley10@reddit
By age 8 I’d ride my bike on trails miles and miles into the forest, we would sneak into an abandoned mine (now I know how flipping dangerous that was!), played chicken with trains… as long as I was home for dinner or called before 4 that I was having dinner at a friends it was absolutely fine.
Custos-7013@reddit
💯 Aged 8... I was gone before sunrise and back home when hungry.
Slight_Parsley_4860@reddit
Outside all day with bikes all the time. Also, the neighbor’s been seeing a mountain lion around so “look out”.
AbbreviationsGlad833@reddit
Yes. Be out from morning until the street lights came on. It was so much part if childhood life. The tv had a public service announcement saying its. 9 o clock. Do you know where your children are? Because we were out all day and parents would forget.
Re1deam1@reddit
Yes, we roamed daily. Just had to be home for dinner
DUPCangeLCD@reddit
We live in a neighborhood where this is still the case. Have a few areas of woods. A few culverts that the kids play in. Plenty of kids around. Very little thru traffic. We have to keep reminding ourselves how lucky we are.
bananabastard@reddit
To think that if modern kids played "The Goonies", they'd do it at the bottom of the garden or in their bedrooms. We were crawling down actual water wells and ravines, with made-up treasure maps, looking for rich stuff.
I_argue_for_funsies@reddit
My step father used to send me outside and lock the door.
I grew up in rural Canada and my friend lived 4 kms up the highway... Guess where I walked to along the highway everyday?
No one gave a shit.
hashn@reddit
I’m on the other side: do kids really not go out and run around freely all day?
xWaterNerdx@reddit
My girls roam. They walk to the mall, grocery store, park, ride bikes, etc.
TheBardicScribe@reddit
Fear mongering news media managed to convince so many of us who wandered free and had experiences that the world is so much more a dangerous place than it actually is. When I was 14 my buddy and I used to just wander the streets at night, not doing much more than talking and hanging out, never any problems or challenges and we'd come home to doors unlocked because there was no real concern over that.
supergooduser@reddit
I remember somewhere around 12-13 when I "unlocked" walking for an hour straight. Long distance places weren't really that long distance.
I have a memory of me looking over at my friend and realizing "hey let's go walk to the $1 movie theater" and it was like "wait we can do that?"
Suspicious-Earth-648@reddit
I don’t know about you guys, but I always seemed to have access to fireworks, too. I had a great childhood.
Punkinpry427@reddit
Come soaking wet and covered in algae from fucking around in the stream behind our house ALL DAY
fossilreef@reddit
Yup. I was literally missing from school until dinnertime. Usually having snuck back to a farm pond to go fishing.
zetaphi938@reddit
I feel like so many parents are beyond weary of strangers. I am a dad with two kids. Even when they were little, and I was at the park with them, I still got more than one stink eye or a concerned look from the moms there. And it isn't just me; I know many dads, and men in general, who have been at parks with their kid or are trying to enjoy a public space and get the same vibe.
Like moms, the thought of a stranger hurting your children is a real fear all parents have. But the cool new pastor at the mega church you're attending in the old K-Mart is way more likely to be a danger than some guy pushing his kids on a swing or scrolling on their phone on a park bench.
Are there dangerous strangers? Absolutely. But it is more than likely a call coming from inside the house.
cheeker_sutherland@reddit
“Check the children…”
Cool-Word2409@reddit
Personally, I hated it; my Mum insisted I be out the house from 10am till at least 6pm, and that was fine when I was 5-8 years old. From about 9 onwards I was a prime target for bullies (particularly older kids in their teens), and was harassed quite badly (at one point thrown in the Thames). I would have quite happily have spent the summer days in my room, but no, every day was a fracking gauntlet of running from scumbags.
Prossdog@reddit
My parents would work all day and leave me and my sister at home alone every day during the summer. Maybe we were inside, maybe outside, could have been in a truck bed on the way to Mexico for all they knew.
bowleggedgrump@reddit
Due for real. 100% my life. I will say, I grew up in a small town (that’s now a dense suburb), I’d have to move 30-45 mins further out now to find a similar area. I live in the city now and it’d be mad to let my kids wander around like I did.
I think a lot of us grew up in “wanderable” environments
PracticableSolution@reddit
“Go play outside” was what our parents told us. Not an agenda, not a set of questions, just a slightly more polite form of “get out”. Summer was the same. You have ten weeks, don’t be here. That was the expectation.
Fast forward to today, we have 7 of the 10 weeks of pre scheduled activities for my early teen daughter for the coming and my wife is panicking. My response? She can go outside and amuse herself. It’s fine. My daughter’s take on that? She’s fine with it. Can I have $20 for food if I go up the pizza shop? No, you can have $10, but I like the cut of your jib kid, decent people clearly raised you.
Ok-Piglet1157@reddit
When my siblings and i were 4 5 and 6. We were dropped at the local park in the morning with nothing and told to stay there until they came back for us at dinner which was 7pmish . We had water from the fountain and bathrooms. For food we would hope for a birthday party and would sit close enough to be noticed and a parent who would feel bad would usually bring us Hot dog cake and ice cream .
Custos-7013@reddit
Absolutely! I was always up a tree or falling from one. Freedom to roam. I'd have my breakfast at 6am and be gone. Only returning home when starving hungry. After trying all day to get lost. Grew up on a council estate. Spent as much time as i could up in the country park... Freedom!!! I miss it. 😬
Grreatdog@reddit
My next door neighbor has two boys that are being raised the same way I was in the 60's. They aren't allowed to stay in the house and have no screens in the yard. They have toys and a jungle gym. Admittedly it's a bit of a pain when I look around and one is standing in my garage messing with something they shouldn't. Because my neighbors lose containment all the time.
Which I suspect is the point. So I try to channel all the cool old dudes that let me explore and helped me learn stuff as a boy in the 60's. I remember striking out on my own at their age to explore the city dump being turned into ballfields and being brought home on a bulldozer by some cool old dude. My mom didn't get mad and my neighbor mom doesn't get mad at them.
I think she wants them to explore and challenge boundaries. The old man next door always working on stuff in his garage is apparently one of those boundaries. If it weren't so rare and so good it would be a lot more annoying. But those kids are so much like me the kid me that I don't mind. It's weird to find myself as the old dude some kid will one day remember.
Karreck@reddit
The community park and pool is across the street from my house. Every weekend and school break there are kids playing there. Makes me happy.
Jsmith0730@reddit
Which is ironic because unlike when we were kids, they’d probably be safer outside since “Stranger Danger” has mostly moved to the digital space.
wheatgivesmeshits@reddit
Stranger danger was always overblown. The vast majority of child abuse happens in the home and from relatives. People would see stories on T.V. and over react. I don't know what to do with this other than express frustration. We've made every stranger dangerous instead of teaching kids how to identify when people want to hurt them.
JavaOrlando@reddit
They had someone on NPR saying it may have had a negative effect, for the reason you mentioned.
The uncle, scoutmaster, priest, etc. isn't a stranger so no alarms go off.
I doubt there is really any scarier thought than a predator kidnapping their child, but (luckily) the chances of it happening are incredibly low. Obviously children should be taught not to talk to or go with strangers, but it's not worth forcing them to spend their summer in front of a screen.
HostilePile@reddit
For all the times we were told not to get in vans with strangers, never once did a van ever approach me. I was asked for directions a few times by passing strangers but I stayed away from the actual car itself, but the people were legit lost!
KerouacsGirlfriend@reddit
We actually had this super gross woman pull up her car close to us while we walked home from school. She opened her passenger door, telling us to get in, talking about free kittens, following us slowly with the door open. My little bro kicked the door (no effect he was seven) and we ran off through some yards. Brrrr.
Knight_thrasher@reddit
I knew what the rules were, I had a lot of fun bending those rules, it got to a point that I had no rules because I had their trust
YcemeteryTreeY@reddit
Its alot different when parents can get ARRESTED and put in JAIL for half the shit they pulled back then. I try to remind my mom of that when she gets confused as to why I won't try her methods.
jamessheldon444@reddit
And during the summers, after dinner, a lot of us would go back outside and play Manhunt until 10-11pm.
dontbajerk@reddit
Something funny, the French spend LESS time with kids now than in the past. Like the only developed nation like that.
therealRustyZA@reddit
We got chased outside to go play because mom wanted peace and quiet.
We played till the street lights came on. That was our signal to go home.
buttery_nurple@reddit
Just gotta be home by the time the street lights come on. What you do in the meantime is not my concern lol.
I get anxious about letting my kids free range because I know exactly what kind of stupid shit I was doing at their age unsupervised.
Chemtrails_in_my_VD@reddit
It's true but I don't know if it was awesome. It was fun and wish modern kids had some of our experiences, but I have memories of wandering the neighborhood as a 5 year old all day without a shred of supervision. The boomers are an entire generation of negligent parents.
LeftHandStir@reddit
The expectation of watching practice. The whole point of sports is learning independence, teamwork, how to assimilate into a new environment, etc... and now your kid is constantly checking the stands/seats for your approval.
On_my_last_spoon@reddit
Eh kind of awesome. Yes I got a lot of freedom. But thinking back I got in a lot of dangerous situations.
I absolutely think it’s overkill now. But the whole “see you at dinner” mentality was not great either.
krneki534@reddit
still perfectly normal in rural villages
MIBJO@reddit
Kids don’t have summers anymore either.
We didn’t go back to school until after Labor Day in September. Now it’s early to mid August.
I’ve heard of kids in some districts going back in July.
GoonieMcflyguy@reddit
I do wonder if unexpected accidents or fatality % have decreased with the helicopter parenting era.
CantaloupeAsleep502@reddit
I want to know the absolute numbers. Even if it's decreased, going from 0.01% to 0.006% probably isn't worth the detriment to kids and families.
GoonieMcflyguy@reddit
I agree.
Funandgeeky@reddit
You’re probably not wrong. Definitely a lot of survivorship bias in these subs, myself included.
radelix@reddit
Ohh man, my siblings and I were urban kids then small town then suburbs.
I had my bike friends and we went everywhere. Built tracks in any slightly hidden away woods or field. We'd pool money to get on the train to go ride bikes in Chicago. My parents were blissfully unaware.
Meatball-Alfredo-Mom@reddit
I was just talking to my BF about this. Literally for like 12 hours a day my parents had no clue where I was.
It was always everyone though. All the kids of all ages. If we went to 7/11 for candy everyone went . Even the weird kid no one liked. If we went to play in the new houses being built everyone went.
If issue arose in the summer when no adults were around the teenagers came out and helped. I remember them bandaging scrapes and stuff.
Honestly the best. We learned to work out issues. We communicated. No adults stepped in to solve issues. We just all sucked it up. No one ever wanted to risk getting stuck inside lol
silversunshinestares@reddit
My parents let me and my sister wander around the damn woods by ourselves. Like just walk off into the woods behind the house for a couple hours.
Res_Novae17@reddit
I feel this comment so much. I suggested to my wife that we let our six year out play on our swing set by himself and you should have seen the daggers her eyes shot at me, like I was proposing to abandon him in the Alps.
NemeshisuEM@reddit
"Hey parents, can I have some money?"
"What for?"
"Going to the beach with these 4 friends and then we are going to spend the night at Jason's house to watch movies. Be back tomorrow."
"Who's Jason?"
"Friend from school. Mike, Josh, and Pete are going."
"Where does Jason live?"
"Over by this and that street (general description of intersection 5 miles away)"
"OK. Here's $10 for food and a handful of dimes for pay phones. Be safe."
Context:
me and friends - 13-14 year old boys with bus passes on summer break
beach - 2.5 hours away on 4 buses. could have ended up anywhere on 80 some miles of beach. wasn't asked if I remembered sunscreen. learned I should take some.
Friends - parents never met Jason, didn't know his last name, didn't know where he lived exactly, and only knew we went to the same school. Mike, Josh, and Pete had been to the house before, and I had been to theirs and returned alive. Not sure parents knew where they lived either.
Only condition - I had to provide home phone numbers for friends in case they had to look for me.
Caveat - my sister got a great deal more supervision
iknowiknowwhereiam@reddit
Not my mom, she would never. We grew up in the era of stranger danger to me this idea seems more early Gen X
Still-Minimum-7212@reddit
We also didn't get offended by words as easily and somehow made it through life without ever having a "safe space". Truly magical times indeed.
Confident_Win_5469@reddit
Nah - different people got offended but no one wanted to hear about it from them so they ignored it.
Funandgeeky@reddit
Yeah, it wasn’t easier or better for everyone back then.
Still-Minimum-7212@reddit
Nah. Only racist remarks got any attention. You could freely be homophobic and no one gave a shit. Obviously times have gotten better in that respect.
-Gman_@reddit
Says the person pretending to be tough online lol.
Ok buddy
USWolves@reddit
How’s he “pretending to be tough”? You’re kinda proving his point…
-Gman_@reddit
By ranting about people having a place to deal with emotions is some how soft certainly proves the pint this person clearly looks down on emotions and probably struggles to deal with their own. The type to have a temper and tell people that’s just the way they are, they are just brutally honest types.
The type to be a self centered asshole who’s oblivious to anyone not themselves. This comment screams asshole and not getting that context seems maybe you agree with the?
USWolves@reddit
Exactly what I thought. Have fun with that.
AffectionateFig5864@reddit
It also screams “white Gen X guy”.
-Gman_@reddit
That too lol
LastCallKillIt@reddit
fasho
Bugs-Ear@reddit
Sheesh, I don’t know why you’re getting downvoted here. We did live in magical times in so many ways! I guess our generation is a big part of the problem. To be certain, our childhoods weren’t perfect, but did we have to swing in the opposite direction to such an extreme degree? It would be nice if we could have landed somewhere in the middle.
Still-Minimum-7212@reddit
Snowflake late Millenials and Gen Z read these threads that's why.
wynonnaspooltable@reddit
Which words? Please let us all know.
Gwarnage@reddit
Safe space was the tree stump by the fence, no tag backs!
GenericDave65@reddit
The neighborhood place we would all go play at was literally known as “The Ditch”
spazzyattack@reddit
I got in trouble for borrowing all my dad’s lumber and building a fort that was a legit shed, down in a wash, when I was 11. They had no idea I built the thing until he went to grab a 2x4.
NoiseTherapy@reddit
Looking back, it was like we were a bunch of cartoonish little gangs roaming the streets 😂
Funandgeeky@reddit
Basically the Little Rascals
nefarious_angel_666@reddit
Bebe's Kids
1nv1s1blek1d@reddit
Yep. Home by 3. Out to play until the streetlights came on. Best time of my life.
flabergasterer@reddit
We live on a street with 80 houses and a dead end. Only 1 way in and out. It’s so nice to see kids roaming all over. Bikes on the street, running through the woods in the back. Total throwback setup. I love it.
Funandgeeky@reddit
Those kids are having an amazing childhood
knittinghobbit@reddit
We have lived in military housing a couple of times in the past two decades and it was legit like this. Hordes of children roaming. It was fantastic. My kids had so much fun.
Jermine1269@reddit
Yeah, thanks to Google maps, many neighborhoods are now by-passes for normal traffic. And those folks can be in a hurry anyway.
Or like my neighborhood, there's signs plastered everywhere saying no anything with wheels except cars.
We grew up in a neighborhood like yours tho: 80 houses surrounded by cow fields, 15-20 kids 6-12 yrs old. All playing basketball or swimming or bikes or bike ramps or whatever. Mis those days sometimes.
castlenutjob@reddit
Literally would come home soaked and covered in mud. My mom would make me strip so she could hose me down before going into the house. Some of the best days of my life.
Forsythia77@reddit
My parents used to tell us to go outside and not come back until dinner or it got dark, whichever came first.
lurker512879@reddit
This. From the age of 7-16 I only came home if I was hungry and nearby or if the streetlight came on, or called ahead first with backup from a friends parent to give credence that I was safely at their house
Otherwise all adults had basically been drunk those days
TiffDaBlaq@reddit
I loved being a latchkey kid! I had a lot of fun growing up!
WeArePandey@reddit
We used to ride bikes down an incline from a train track towards a canal and bet we wouldn’t fall into it. We were all 11. Not an adult in sight.
dakapril77@reddit
I imagine she woul have got 9 plus hours free during school year?
ModeJust4373@reddit
Ya we were always outside. Then you go home and say you’re going to bed then crawl out the window.
bulbishNYC@reddit
It’s totally the main reason people are not having kids. I cost my father 10 minutes of time and $10 per week in the 1980-90s. I mostly was left to myself and figured stuff on my own. If I had to go somewhere - take the bike or figure out the bus. Now it’s a full time job for parents.
PmMeSmileyFacesO_O@reddit
They are complaining that the kids are congregating in the city center where I am and causing issues, shouting at people and throwing rocks / cans and running off. So a sign that kids are off the leash again in this uk city anyway.
Lumpy_Strawberry_154@reddit
I'm a very transient person. I've lived in 8 different homes in the last decade, three different states, different demographics and vastly different costs of living.
I can say with absolute certainty that the poorer the community I live in, the more kids I see on the streets, on bikes or at parks, and not indoors. I'm thinking it's because these families cannot afford modern technology so kids have less options for rotting indoors their whole childhood.
DBE113301@reddit
Absolutely spot on
Prestigious-Row-3244@reddit
And if no one was around to play with we’d just venture out on our own!
nefarious_angel_666@reddit
Or head over to that house you saw a kid's bike in the yard and see if anyone there is your age and wants to play?
elektrik_noise@reddit
I was one of 7 and my mom would tell us to get lost. And if we didn't show up around lunchtime, it was assumed someone else fed us. Or she didn't care. Maybe a check in around dinner, or calling the house and telling them we were eating somewhere else. Gone until Carson came on playing night games.
The trees and streets raised us in the summer. During the winter we were told to go in the basement lol. We had to get ourselves to sports or extracurriculars if we signed up for any. Got ourselves to school and work. My parents had a million kids and barely parented after we were 8 or so. It was amazing. When I hear about kids starting school not being potty trained or able to tie their shoes (not sped kids), I realize we are in scary and different times.
wazacraft@reddit
Carson, damn, what a throwback...
xithbaby@reddit
My kids wanted to go play until they realized there were no other kids to play with in a neighborhood where almost everyone has kids. I got hit hard with this reality after we moved from an apartment complex where it wasn’t safe to allow the kids out to play unsupervised to a house in a good neighborhood on a dead end street.
Treadingresin@reddit
NPR just had a story about this on air yesterday. Not only was it safe to head out alone when we were kids, but the stats still show that its safe for them today. The greatest threat of abduction has always come from within the family itself.
hiro111@reddit
I'm 52 and I grew up in a somewhat rural area in New England. We owned about 50 acres and there was a lot to explore just on our property. Also, I didn't think anything of riding my bike several miles to go visit a friend. We would then ride from there to a convenience store or go wandering into the woods to see what we could break. Actually, I remember doing that as young as age 6 or 7. We'd mess around in abandoned quarries, go for hikes up local hills, go swimming in a local creek, pick and eat wild blackberries, go into the swamp and try to catch snakes, wander into an abandoned dairy barn that was full of broken glass, rusting metal and rotting wood etc. In the summer this was every day. In the winter I would go sledding or XC skiing basically all day in weekends. I was never in the house during the day after age 8 or 9 if the weather was reasonably OK. I wasn't really allowed to watch TV, so I read Hardy Boys books if I was stuck at home. My mother mounted a large bell on the side of the house that she would ring at dinner time and I'd go home if I was in earshot. That sounds corny but it's 100% true. This whole childhood is completely different from how my kids grew up here in suburban Chicagoland.
Lumpy_Strawberry_154@reddit
I spent my childhood on my bike, in the woods building tree forts, playing sports, and just cruising around causing trouble in any ways possible.
I barely have a relationship with my mom. She's basically a friend who kicked me out of the house for 12 hours a day all summer long so she could drink beer and smoke the devil's lettuce with her friends.
djevilatw@reddit
My parents fed me breakfast, packed me a sandwich and kicked me out the door. Get You Ass Home When the Street Lights Come On was the standing order unless you called from a friends house that you were eating there.
Affectionate_Hornet7@reddit
I had a whole secret dog that would meet me at a certain dirt pile in the evening
Zulers_Sausage_Gravy@reddit
I didn't come back until the sun was going down.
andrewclarkson@reddit
We should bring it back. Too many people make it to adulthood now without the ability to handle life without someone to tell them what to do.
Material-Imagination@reddit
"crawled around in ditches"
We call those "unguided educational urban nature hikes"
kvnstantinos@reddit
My. mother forced me to go outside and play, it was mandatory
Appropriate-Divide64@reddit
Yeah we were out exploring abandoned train tunnels and starting fires.
Zealousideal-Fly9531@reddit
Yeah we did some really dumb stuff. I only got caught for like 2% of it. Looking back, I'm glad I was able to get it out of the way then rather than be a risk taker in my adulthood.
Significant_Dog412@reddit
The free range thing worked differently for urban kids like me, as you can't simply roam great distances in densely populated/built up areas.
Even with that, we were usually outdoors around the estate (or neighbouring streets when I was that bit older) or at a friend's until either evening or dinner, whichever came first. Saturdays after the morning kids TV, your parents pretty much put you out for the day.
In my case, we usually had someone at least nominally "responsible" somewhere around. The estate had an adventure playground with staff open most days. Plus there was a local woman who'd watch over up to a dozen kids each weekday evening including her own three, and our Mum's slipped her a bit of cash for this.
Rain was the exception, the free roaming kids Kryptonite. Even the real latchkeys whose parents you never saw were indoors during rain. Our adventure playground also closed for rain.
Jar_of_Cats@reddit
Im letting my daughter roam this summer