What could have been | TheaterFire

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philipjfry1578@reddit

I can't talk to girls, let alone online, so lmao anons got somey

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ibejeph@reddit

I've just straight up ghosted girls for the same reason.

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bisky12@reddit

yes. there’s basically no reason to ghost someone, ever. it’s fine to turn them down but ghosting just leaves them with no closer and is so evil

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not if you're polite to them before like the person OOP was talking to. it's not a crime to be unattracted to someone when you see them. if you see them and say literally nothing after then you're kinda sissified tho. leaving them hanging is something a mentally weak person does.

trying to use a nicer word than I would if we were having a conversation that wouldn't get the comment reported for calling you a mean word.

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Triple96@reddit

That's not what ghosting means

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xvsanx@reddit

thought it was pretty clear I was explaining how to not be a bad people. woosh'd you?

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Frierguy@reddit

the guy you replied to essentially said "I ghosted women, am I a bad person?"

and your entire comment is "you're not a bad person if while ghosting them, you didn't ghost them"

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xvsanx@reddit

first comment seemed rhetorical, second seemed to be asking a question, mine - the third, was answering with an inferred yes and saying how to change that. it's really not that hard to understand. unless you're like one of those people that needs fresh cups of coffee to have "caution: hot" explicitly stated on them

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Jugaimo@reddit

“Oh, you looked different in my head. You’re really charming/attractive, other person, but just not my type. I’m really sorry for stringing you along.”

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xvsanx@reddit

.."I'm sorry, while I think you're interesting and have a good personality, you're not my type physically." it's not that complicated.

and how's it stringing along lol? talking for a little before trading pics seems like the natural talking stage route.

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nintendonaut@reddit

The amount of people who think ghosting is the appropriate solution in dating/pre-dating is horrifying. People are so conflict-averse now, it's unbelievable. People are either too pussified to tell another human being the honest truth, or they truly believe that they're "sparing someone's feelings" by vanishing off the face of the earth with zero explanation, leaving them to wonder what they did wrong. It's legitimately one of the cruelest things you can do to someone.

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Jugaimo@reddit

Yeah, that’s probably more eloquent. I still feel bad over it, even if it is normal.

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xvsanx@reddit

oh yeah, it is too common in modern dating, unfortunately. I've done it as well when younger but I try to be direct ever since getting my anxiety under control.

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EquivalentSnap@reddit

If you don’t find someone attractive you can’t help that. You’re a bad person if you ghost them though

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NorthKoreanKnuckles@reddit

Yes.

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AccomplishedCake53@reddit

gif

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Helgrind444@reddit

no

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OzzRamirez@reddit

gif

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caughtyoulookinn@reddit

Are you me? I have missed potential relationships because I wound up ghosting the girl

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The_Junton@reddit

so? the point is that you don't want a relationship. that's why you ghost them

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Automatic-Worry-1498@reddit

Same.

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coffee_n_deadlift@reddit

No

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johnson7853@reddit

I remember talking to a girl who had no profile. Like up until that point I had never had such easy conversations with a girl. She says “I guess you want to see what I look like, just be honest if you aren’t into it”. I was not and never responded.

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WanderingSociopath@reddit

I had the same happen with an older woman. She removed her filter during videochat after we hit it off and I wasn't feeling it.

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CaptainKino360@reddit

People use face filters to video-chat now??? Wha??

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girrrrrrr2@reddit

Insecurities run deep.

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TrueGootsBerzook@reddit

Same, honestly

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nintendonaut@reddit

Insane that she literally gave you permission to be honest with her and you still ghosted her.

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PoshDiggory@reddit

A single girl doesn't like how I look, better kms.

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rip-droptire@reddit

Change the first word in that sentence to "every" and you have my existence. Sigh.

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PoshDiggory@reddit

You ain't missing much.

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Sen-oh@reddit

A person can change basically anything about themselves in the long term. Anything can be learned, any shortcoming improved upon. If you stick with a relationship long enough and you're both willing to try, two people can work through anything.

But if someone's ugly to you, they always will be. It's good to be shallow when picking a partner. They can't change their face and smell and feel, so be picky. Everything else is an act, and the act can be adjusted as we go

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TheReverseShock@reddit

Anon dodged a scam. "She" moved on to a new mark.

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ReliefZealousideal84@reddit

It’s extremely cringe to get feelings for someone you have never seen.

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RecentPlenty768@reddit

Oh ya so cringe to get feelings for someone und dating online is totally not a thing so must be uber cringe

Sorry I was feeling that comment too much despite not knowing what you look like

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ForumsDwelling@reddit

Having a purely online relationship is cringe

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ReliefZealousideal84@reddit

If you don’t have a photo on a dating site then good luck with that.

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WhoTheHeckKnowsWhy@reddit

I would blame discord but this shit has been happening in mmos since the dawn of time.

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DiegesisThesis@reddit

Ahh, to experience the young love of your first WoW girlfriend.

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caddyben@reddit

even earlier in chat rooms

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_that_random_dude_@reddit

Even earlier with people sending letters

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PurpleWoodpecker2830@reddit

In rare instances one of them is even a woman

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RaiderCat_12@reddit

Same but it happened after the first date. It sucks but eventually you do learn how to move on.

Not even getting a bare minimum “sorry, I think we should see other people” is something I’ll always stay a bit annoyed about though.

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sorryiamnotoriginal@reddit

Sucks but physician attraction in a relationship is important. It’s why I don’t like those chat only online kinda deals because you run the risk of taking a blow like this when you feel a real connection. Plus it’s not that the other person is bad for feeling that way, it just sucks and there is no framing that makes it better.

It’s why I like dating apps. I know the other person at bare minimum is physically attracted to me.

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renraks0809@reddit

I feel bad for the guys I've done this for. As much as I like saying "looks aren't everything" they certainly do mean something. It's something I have worked on a lot since. Trust me, if a girl rejects you for your looks, you DEFINITLEY don't wanna be with them. She's got issues of her own she's gotta fix if she's like that.

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Datsitkinz@reddit

I don't know how you can think its a bad thing if a woman wont fuck you because she finds you unattractive, what's she supposed to do have sex with you wile avoiding eye contact and trying not to vomit. it's totally normal to not have a relationship with someone you don't find attractive and there's nothing wrong with that.

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renraks0809@reddit

I find it a bad thing because if I kept thinking that way I would be cut off from some amazing people I've met, and I probably wouldn't be with my current boyfriend if I was thinking like that.

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renraks0809@reddit

Also actually now that I'm thinking about it, like well over half of them I rejected cause they didn't even take care of themselves. So... do that.

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KacKLaPPeN23@reddit

As long as you actually rejected and not just acted like you still like them and then let the conversation die a bit before completely ghosting them with no explanation whatsoever that's totally fine.

Bc that shit hurts more than even an insult would. I'm still not really over the last time someone did that to me and it's almost a year ago now.

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Athenstone@reddit

Does taking care of yourself include having a developed chad jaw line?

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renraks0809@reddit

Taking care of yourself implies making yourself look good, putting effort into your looks, even if minimal. Eating well, exercising or atleast getting out, getting good sleep, all of these will naturally make you look better as a person. Nothing more nothing less, it's genuinely that easy!

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Big_Fungus12@reddit

I take care of myself. I don't put efforts into my look, I just bath everyday with soap. I eat only my mother made food, unless in compulsion I eat outside. I sleep 8 hrs a day, like 00 to 08:00. People of my community admire me so much.

Well, I'll do arrange marriage. Some father are willing to give his daughter to me.

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Athenstone@reddit

Tell that to all the healthy fit 5'5 men who are well dressed and groomed but can't get any matches solely due to their face and height.

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music-about-money@reddit

One day, I pray you realize the incredible power of a good haircut

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renraks0809@reddit

I'm not on your side but I'm not saying it's their fault dude. I'm dating a dude like half a foot shorter than me lol. I'm saying that there are girls who date only on looks. Girls like that fucking suck, I used to be like that and I was a POS back then. It's something they need to fix within themselves I feel, it's a selfish way of thinking and cuts them off from amazing people.

But you can't force everyone to think that way, everyones human. I believe everyone deserves a chance, but most don't.

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Featuremeintiktok@reddit

mfs downvoting you for being rifht

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renraks0809@reddit

Idek why I'm being downvoted but it is r/greentext so idk what I expected

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Kumori_Day@reddit

Wow Aradia Homestuck

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renraks0809@reddit

0_0

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CPC1445@reddit

Texting a lot + long distances from said person youre interested in = shits gonna get boring and dry quickly. Thats for both men and women.

If youre in the same general area as that person, just ask them out and meet up more often. Within first contact/matching, it should be 48 hours of you two texting each other and then after that a date should be planned and followed through with.

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West-Strawberry3366@reddit

Real Life Shrek

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caughtyoulookinn@reddit

Anon needs to realize it’s not necessarily because of the pics he sent, girls just go ghost sometimes

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miluielmclovin@reddit

I hate that this is so normalised though, as a girl I think you should have the common decency to explain or say your piece before you go, but I think people are so scared of pissing the other person off? it’s better than leaving them constantly wondering why you stopped talking to them

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Not_NormalLake69735@reddit

Yuh and it doesn't always mean you aren't handsome. She just didn't like you.

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Custer99@reddit

You guys talk to people romantically without knowing what they look like?

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TheChannelMiner@reddit

What if, hear me out.... I am a personality guy?

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Bovolt@reddit

Yea you need to interact with somebody in person to get an actual taste of their personality lmao

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miluielmclovin@reddit

Limerence is a terrible thing

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Xhromosoma5@reddit

Why do I see you in every other sub I join

Also tell that terrainer guy I said hi, I'm taking his Ascendancy

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TheChannelMiner@reddit

how ordinal

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Stable_Immediate@reddit

Liar

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Malvastor@reddit

That's great but then you presumably don't ghost when you see their face and aren't attracted to it.

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Jaime2k@reddit

I feel so bad for anyone trying to online date nowadays, shits brutal

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BraveUIysses@reddit

Well it's my only hope. It's low, but I believe if you don't overcommit it's fine

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Meewelyne@reddit

Girl's compliment was genuine, anon replied whining about all the imperfections of his face and body and how he's just a 4/10, girl was turned off.

I can see it happening.

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Crunkario@reddit

Reckon so? Other people have similar responses is whats bewildering me the most I didn’t know people genuinely cared about physical appearance that much. From my perspective (granted I am a woman, I think most people here are men) I broadly don’t care a ton about physicals for relationship things. Its like, maybe 10%-30% of the factor of a relationship for me? Idk just shocking to me post and comments and further enforces the fact I am way too tistic for dating in a traditional sense.

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Meewelyne@reddit

You know who is that obsessed with physical appearance? Incels. Anon in the pic sounds like one.

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K33NY03@reddit

This is just deflecting and being dishonest.

People care about physical appearances, no need to being reductive

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Meewelyne@reddit

Yeah, people care for looks, but Anon's description feels biased af.

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RecordEnvironmental4@reddit

Some girl sent me nudes before knowing what I looked like, Snapchat quick add is wild.

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Crunkario@reddit

I didn’t realize people do the fake messages about how attractive someone is and then ghost them. God damn I really am way too autistic for this shit man

Not like it matters I’m happy enough with life

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Big_Fungus12@reddit

I messaged a random person in telegram to talk something new. But it turned out he is girl. I didn't block her immediately, kept talking about academic, and some childhood shit. After talking two months, she asked me what is my real name... I said I'm uncomfortable to tell you. From then, she kept asking my real name, my answer was same.

In third month, I had no energy talk to her because she only like gossip but not something good. I told her to become mature and we parted away.

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Aggravating_Pie6439@reddit

The bot got your image.

There's a lot of those now.

I once sent a bot an AI generated image - IT got offended... and then I said "Tell your master that you failed your mission"

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Lucifer_Kett@reddit

Sometimes, you’re not someone’s type.

Sometimes you are…

Sometimes, we’re not our own type so we think we’re ugly.

Sometimes we are…

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Far_Honey_7685@reddit

... Charlie kirk

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RefrigeratorOk8544@reddit

Sometimes we carry the flame

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Pwnage_Peanut@reddit

Other times we fight for the gospel

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Far_Honey_7685@reddit

Seldom we honour his name

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Squawnk@reddit

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PiqueExperience@reddit

I choo-choo-choose to kms!

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Winton38@reddit

This has happened to me a lot and I don’t even get the overly happy fake messages. Just straight up getting ghosted after they see a pic of me. It’s soul crushing every time but it is what it is.

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HiddenSneedV2@reddit

It’s time to ascend buddy

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bgovern@reddit

Of course, OP. Your worth as a human being is entirely determined by a single example of second-hand pussy.

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Puzzleheaded_One_927@reddit

I've lowk ghosted hella guys for that

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xvsanx@reddit

the "ey" at the end of that is just too much spelling to do, eh?

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protokhan@reddit

y tip ful wrd wen fw lttr do trik?

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TimberAndStrings@reddit

You goth chicks are a blight on society. Y’all need to be send to the looney bin like we have done before

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Reaper781@reddit

Plot twist she was only stealing your identity.

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AdorableBunnies@reddit

People need to lower their expectations. Stop hitting on the girls out of your league.

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TimberAndStrings@reddit

Talking something about leagues and then still posting on IT of all places. You people are turboregarded

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ShortTheseNuts@reddit

Yes and no. 15-25? Yeah stay in your lane. Between 28-32 you can hit pretty damn far out of your league if you say you want kids and have a decent career. If you're not actively ugly or short and the competition isn't ultra high (large cities) you can land almost everyone.

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UristMcMagma@reddit

What if I'm 28-32 and going after women who are 15-25?

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music-about-money@reddit

FBI OPEN UP

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wordjedi@reddit

If anon was on tinder he would be her 10000th left swipe of the day

If you asked me to pick my ultimate girl, I would probably skip past even some of the cuties I have dated, and spec [Kristen Stewart + Theresa Palmer + Keira Knightley + Emily Browning]/4 all age 20 by the way. That's pretty much what they're doing with all the left swipes - searching for perfect

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ThrenodyCore@reddit (OP)

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