How often do you Party? (i.e. get together for "traditional" dancing and singing)
Posted by Cameliablue@reddit | AskABrit | View on Reddit | 42 comments
I've seen videos of the giant Hogmanay Auld Lang Syne sing along from Edinburgh and also videos from Scottish weddings where everyone links arms and sings Loch Lomond along with all the dancing.
Apart from weddings and NYE how often do you get together with friends and family for what looks like an amazingly fun time filled with singing and dancing? Or does this happen regularly at pub nights, for example?
Is this just in Scotland or do England, Wales and Northern Ireland also have these amazingly fun get togethers?
rye-ten@reddit
Only at harvest festival or when there's a particularly bountiful turnip ration
neilm1000@reddit
This has to be a wind up? Right?!
Cameliablue@reddit (OP)
Not really. We don't have those fun traditions where I live; I wish we did. The UK seems like the best place to live (for many more reasons than just this).
Mikon_Youji@reddit
You'll going to be very disappointed that the UK is nitcas exciting as you think it is.
Mikon_Youji@reddit
People don't generally get together for a night of dancing over here, no. The most that will happen is singing along to a song that comes on, that's about it.
Disastrous_Cloud_558@reddit
Yeah we’re just singing and dancing all of the time over here.
Books_Bristol@reddit
I'm singing in the rain...
Alternative-Emu2000@reddit
To be fair, it is a wonderful feeling.
twirling_daemon@reddit
Never by your description
I used to go to events where loads of friends plus a bunch of new people would also be but I haven’t for years
I would like to get back to them some day though
Srapture@reddit
We don't live in the shire.
weedywet@reddit
‘Party’ isn’t a verb.
Illustrious-Fox-1@reddit
Stop trying to rulesify English. You can verb any noun, you can neologise freely. The language has no gods nor masters. That’s a strength, not a weakness.
Cameliablue@reddit (OP)
Lol. It's both a noun and a verb. I just capitalised it bc it's the Title
weedywet@reddit
No. It’s not.
Cameliablue@reddit (OP)
Okay? I guess you've never gone out partying?
Orange_Codex@reddit
You're describing a Scottish ceilidh (kay-lee). They're major social events in Scotland, particularly the north and west, but England and Wales don't have them. The closest equivalent - minus the 'traditional' - is karaoke singalongs in pubs, especially after a sport victory.
MerlinMusic@reddit
The equivalent in England is a barn dance, and they are put on from time to time, but they're pretty rare occurrences.
Chance-Bread-315@reddit
I've lived all my almost 30 years in England and have been to more ceilidhs (with Scottish trad music and dances) here than I can count, have never heard of a barn dance and wouldn't know any equivalent English group folk dances.
I reckon I could go to 4-6 ceilidhs a year in Bristol if I wanted to these days!
Orange_Codex@reddit
I'm stunned they still happen. Never heard of one in thirty years of life.
MerlinMusic@reddit
Basically you can hire guys who will come to your party with a little sound system and a mic and they'll instruct people how to do the moves for various dances. It's quite fun really, but I think I've only ever been to 2 or 3.
spicyzsurviving@reddit
I live in Scotland and throughout school and uni there were ceilidhs (Scottish dancing party basically) a few times a year- e.g. in Feb/March my uni society had its annual party in a hotel with dinner, drinks and dancing, there are end-of-year parties in May/June, St Andrew’s Day ceilidhs (November time?), and usually events around Christmas or new year.
Careful-Coffee280@reddit
I'm a 52 year old woman in Scotland. My friends and I organise a Christmas and sometimes a summer party in our village hall for the other women (usually or age, or teenage daughters and some older women) in the village, we have a 80s, 90s, 00s playlist (and some more recent) dance all night and often finish with a big circle like that, loch Lomond and 500 miles are the last two of the evening. Birthday parties are the same (but men and women), and of course weddings etc - and they always end up with the big circle and those two songs. Auld lang syne too, whether it's Hogmanay or not. But ceilidhs too. Ceilidhs are a big thing here, the universities have them, weddings, and where I live in the country there are a few locally throughout the year.
There's a big musical tradition in Scotland - I moved here from England when I was 18, and am involved in several music sessions in pubs and halls - I've been at one tonight - where we all play guitars (usually, there are a few fiddles and other instruments) and songs - you take it in turns to perform and people join in if it feels right. And with those people if we have parties/ evenings at each others houses we get guitars out and sing songs. It's really the older ones who do more folk songs, even in our 50s we play and sing pop/rock - the youngsters and teens play and sing their tiktok songs, but we all get the guitar chords easily on apps so we can all join in while they sing.
But I'm in a village in Scotland, I wasn't part of all that when I was young in Edinburgh - apart from ceilidhs and weddings etc, I just went clubbing a lot! Normal clubbing. I guess I've tapped into the acoustic music scene as I got older. I do perform too though, so it won't be everyone, but there is a deep seated musical tradition here. Ireland is the same, if not more so.
Scarred_fish@reddit
A couple of times a month.
Usually in the form of a "dinner dance". Meal first then a band from 9ish onwards.
JohnCasey3306@reddit
Roughly never.
No_Bullfrog_6474@reddit
i live in newcastle upon tyne and i’ve been to the odd ceilidh here but it’s not at all a mainstream thing
AuroraDF@reddit
There are pubs in Edinburgh and Glasgow where, if you hang around long enough on a Saturday night and put the right tune on the juke box at the right time, everyone will sing it. And if they're drunk enough they might dance. But if they're too drunk they won't.
BillyD123455@reddit
Depends on your definition of 'traditional' .. if a banger comes on the jukebox then some pubs can get a bit lively. Clubs more so.
If you want to jump around with complete strangers, sing the national anthem, get covered in beer (hopefully), then squeeze into a busy, flat roof pub during the world cup.
Not a lot of traditional dancing goes on tho .. Morris dancers arent exactly the coolest things on the block!
Shnicketyshnick@reddit
I once partied like it was 1999. I think that was 1988.
Elliedog10@reddit
may day
Dense_Imagination984@reddit
Every chance we get we love to get together for a night of traditional dancing not forgetting the special traditional attire. Us women folk sew them for our lovely gents. I'm hoping to meet a suitor ever so soon!
Cheap-Vegetable-4317@reddit
Never for ' traditional' singing and dancing. About once a week for non traditional dancing.
Slight-Brush@reddit
Just weddings and NYE.
There are organised ceilidhs you can buy tickets for, or you can join a folk or Scottish dancing group if it's the kind of thing you like to do often.
dnnsshly@reddit
I'm English - I'll generally sing Auld Lang Syne with whoever is about on New Year's Eve, but I'm probably in the minority there - a lot of English people don't know it.
Otherwise there's not really a point in the calendar we would celebrate by all singing a "traditional" song together. Football fans will sing football songs together, but otherwise you never really hear a whole pub singing a song together - I believe that's more common in Ireland (and possibly Scotland?). People will obviously sing together at church or in choirs but that doesn't feel like what you're looking for.
As for dancing "traditional" dances, ceilidh is the obvious one but that's firmly Scottish and again is something most English people may not be familiar with (although you can go to them down here). Morris Dancing is the "traditional" English dance but is not popular; you will get Morris dance troupes performing at May Day celebrations and the like but I would say it's seen by most as a bit cringe, and probably <1% of the population has ever Morris danced.
Most people's experience of public dancing is at clubs and weddings etc. - or at particular classes/nights like salsa or whatever because they like dancing and have actively sought it out.
N64Andysaurus92@reddit
Never.
buzzfrightyears@reddit
WTF?! Never
Infinite_Spring_3564@reddit
In my experience at least, I’m pretty sure this literally only ever happens at things like, as you say, Hogmanay.
Again, I only have my own experience to draw from, but this sort of thing would simply never happen at a wedding, or a standard New Year’s party. Maybe in, say, the 1940s. A family stood around a piano singing, that I can picture. But other than that? Not a chance.
(And btw I’m very glad about that. I must say, singing dull old songs with one’s family sounds like a nightmare to me.)
MojoMomma76@reddit
I do community choir each week and monthly pub karaoke with choir pals, but this is unusual
Cautious_Freedom9726@reddit
Saturday for a friends birthday, I’m from England.
LadybirdMum100@reddit
Never.
SnooDonuts6494@reddit
Never, in the last 30-odd years.
OverCategory6046@reddit
literally never
>Or does this happen regularly at pub nights, for example?
No. people may sing along to the same tune though. It's never really planned (except obviously the rare ocassions when it is)
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