How can I get rid of my housemate who steals everyone else's food?
Posted by NeonGrapez@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 112 comments
Hello everyone! So I live in a house with 5 other people, we all have our own en-suite bathroom and we share a kitchen. I have been in this house now for nearly 2 years, with 2 other tenants who have been here for around the same time. The rest have come and gone. During this 2 year period, we have been dealing with getting our food stolen from the kitchen counter and the fridge on multiple occasions. we have narrowed it down to one housemate, let's call him D. D has asked us for money in the past as well. D uses other people's washing up liquid, uses other people's condiments from their cupboards, and have stolen a plethora of items from the fridges (such as and not limited to milk, cheese, cured meats, sauces cooked meats, yogurt, desserts, an entire uncooked steak,etc). At one point, 2 amazon parcels were also stolen from the kitchen (it was 2 keyboards and it showed what it was on the cardboard box it was delivered in).
We are renting this house from an agency, the rest of the house mates and myself have sent multiple emails regarding this theft. The agency is not at all helpful (suggestions included label your food and clean up after yourselves and create a cleaning rota?) so completely oblivious to the point about the food theft and gave irrelevant suggestions. I feel silly even typing this because it is just some food, but at this point we are all sick of getting our food stolen. We have already confronted D, he lies as easily as he breathes and denies everything. We have asked him to please ask us and then we would be happy to share if we can, he does not ask and only takes things. Multiple times people have had to order food or go out to buy food because that was all they had to eat and D had eaten it.
Recently we put a very obvious camera in the kitchen and have already seen D steal other people's items. Some context about the camera, it was already discussed among everyone and everyone gave verbal consent, including D, to have a camera. I just wanted to get your thoughts and ideas on how exactly we can get D to leave this house, because even with this video evidence of him stealing other peoples belongings, I dont think the housing agents are going to do anything. I am saying this because another house mate rang them and discussed this current situation, and they said something along the lines of "oh we dont have any escalation processes for that im not sure what we can do to help you".
Additional context: D smokes cannabis in the premises, our housing contract obviously says this is not allowed, I dont think the housing agents know he is doing this. Should we report D to the housing agents? or should we report D to the police?
At this point everyone is really frustrated and annoyed and feeling quite stuck, so what can we do to evict him/ ask him to leave?
I hope this question is okay to post, and thank you so much for taking the time to read it and respond! :)
high_plains_grifter_@reddit
Lace some food that he’s likely to steal with laxatives
CtaBeckie@reddit
Or just make a shit sandwich if you have pets. I’ve done that b4
Remote_Sun_2017@reddit
Or Carolina reapers
Feelincheekyson@reddit
I ate one of them for a dare one time. It was the worst three days of my life. My insides felt like they were on fire every time I ate and was constantly braking out into hot flushes and dripping with sweat. Not to mention the INTENSE pain of it coming back out.
OP… do it!
Bounty_drillah@reddit
Sounds familiar, dealt with a few housemates like this.
One thing I've noticed about agents/property management is that they hate people dropping by the office or even saying they will. So it might be worth all of you turning up unannounced to complain in person. That might kick them into gear.
Also yes tell them about the weed.
Otherwise don't let him get comfortable, be on his case constantly.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
This is honestly my first time, I've lived in a few shared houses and people are generally so respectful! Yeah that might be a good plan, I'll try to plan a visit with the others as well and keep pushing them too. Thank you, I'll share about the cannabis use!
BabyBearBennett@reddit
I would also make a point to say that the stealing is illegal. Is the agency just a small local company or just a branch of a bigger company? If they're just local, then ask to speak with the landlord directly. If they aren't ask to speak to someone higher up. Basically, go full Karen. They are knowingly allowing a tennent to commit illegal activities in properties they are paid to manage. I'm sure their boss/the landlord would love to know just how much care they take of their properties.
Plus by suggesting options that include not using the facilities that, according to your contract, you pay for, they are in breach of contract. They did tell you not to store food in the kitchen.
ReallySmallFeet@reddit
Did they? I only saw that they suggested to label their foods and to clean up after themselves.
BabyBearBennett@reddit
You're right. It must have been a fever dream. Lol
ReallySmallFeet@reddit
You had me wondering if I'd finally lost my damn marbles, lol!
GetNooted@reddit
Knowingly allowing someone to smoke weed in a property is a criminal offense so that might kick them into gear too.
ben_jamin_h@reddit
Laxatives and chilli powder are both cheap and freely available, and it's absolutely up to you whatever you put in the food that you make for yourself.
You wouldn't want to put that stuff in food you were planning to serve anyone else, unless you had let them know you were going to do that and got their consent.
So just make sure you only put those things in the food you intend to eat yourself, and don't offer it to any of your housemates.
Tao626@reddit
I wouldn't suggest anything in particular as it may be against the rules.
But if he denies doing anything, why can't you all collectively deny things happening? Those "things" are down to your discretion.
No_real_beliefs@reddit
A long time ago I was living in shared accommodation and we had a thief who would regularly drink other people’s milk, orange juice or coke from the fridge. I know that pretty soon after it started, some of the victims started topping up drinks bottles with piss, laxative and / or other substances beneficial to no-ones health. I don’t know if it stopped the thievery but the thought of all the substances ingested by that thief makes me want to vomit.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Oh gosh no that is so gross 😭😭😭 a few of my friends have also suggested making things super spicy or adding laxatives to teach him a lesson. I will consider this ...
PoolRamen@reddit
Do not.
The weed alone is a breach of contract. Take it up with the agent listing the various infractions.
peepooplop@reddit
Guy I know left an unopened milk carton next to a radiator for 72 hours then put it in the fridge. Thefts soon stopped.
Amonette2012@reddit
Start stealing his stuff and dispose of items far from the house. Shoes, duvet, throw out all his shower stuff. Deny everything.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
🤣🤣🤣 a taste of his own medicine!
The funniest thing is, all of the housemates we have had in this house so far in the last 2 years has complained about some food item going missing. Guess who is the only person who has never complained about his food going missing?....
Amonette2012@reddit
I'd totally gaslight him over it too. Also maybe just steal one of each of his shoes.
Feelincheekyson@reddit
Cut holes in all his socks!
Amonette2012@reddit
Pour wine in his dresser!
AdaandFred@reddit
Sprinkle breadcrumbs in his bed!
Amonette2012@reddit
Rosehip seeds are itchy.
Hancri84@reddit
You've already answered your own question.
If he's smoking weed on the premises inform your agent and if they do nothing. Then tell the police hes been stealing.
Or just confront him and tell him to leave.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Yeah I feel like we have enough evidence in a way, I think I'm feeling quite anxious because im worried the agents and police won't do anything because it is such a small crime repeated over 2 years. I think our last resort would be to tell him to leave to his face. You won't believe the amount of times all of us have separately had talks with him to say "I have seen you use xyz without my permission, that is not yours, you cant take it" and the very next day he will just use someone's else's stuff 😭
_Hoping_For_Better_@reddit
The agents don't care as long as they are getting their money you need to be more annoying to them than getting rid of the guy is.
As for the police I doubt they will be interested unless you live in a very low crime area, maybe they will be more interested in 50 occurrences on film that add up to a decent amount. Especially if it gets their stats up. I wouldn't hold my breath,, maybe wander down to the station if it's a quiet one and tactfully enquire.
Also you don't say how the contract is set up, presumably you all have entirely sperate contracts, you don't rent the house together?
Hancri84@reddit
Another idea is play him at his own game and nick his stuff.
Relative-Tea3944@reddit
Take his stuff, or leave out bad/spoiled food
YouCantArgueWithThis@reddit
First, do you have a shovel?
firthy@reddit
Are you in Edinburgh?
YouCantArgueWithThis@reddit
Are people in Edi more experienced regarding... shovelling?
DameKumquat@reddit
There's a documentary on what to do with crap housemates, called Shallow Grave.
YouCantArgueWithThis@reddit
Nono! Not shallow! That's not good enough. You need to put in the work to reap the benefits!
AdaandFred@reddit
Yeah, you have to bury a body 6ft deep then a dog at 3ft so if anyone digs there they'll find the dog and assume that's all that's buried there.
friendlypelican@reddit
Great Film
GoodTato@reddit
"Hm? Why would you need the antidote, the only food I put any poison in was my own. No, I just like the taste."
Wickedbitchoftheuk@reddit
I'm doing an experiment to whiten my skin using arsenic. You have to build up the dose gradually. Ach to hell with it. Just poison him.
Gormolius@reddit
Pig farm is where it's at.
trevhcs@reddit
The proper answer.
biffo120@reddit
Laxatives
Isgortio@reddit
Due to the theft, I'd report him to the police. They might say the food is nothing but he's stolen people's parcels.
eekamouse4@reddit
Can you all get a mini fridge in your rooms & locks on your room doors?
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
All our rooms do have locks thankfully. We were thinking of a mini fridge too, but it is quite the expense and pain to carry around if we needed to move again due to a change in job or circumstance. If he is not evicted after trying out everyone's ideas, it might have to be this 😭
eekamouse4@reddit
You could sell it second hand if you no longer need it.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Very strong point I did not consider, thank you!!!
eekamouse4@reddit
All your other options, police, landlord, trying to get them evicted are going to take time but you can get a mini fridge tomorrow. If there’s nothing for them to steal they might just leave anyway.
Plastic_Doughnut_911@reddit
Get rid of? I mean, I don’t want to put suggestions in writing but I understand that quicklime can be useful. 🤷♀️🤭
But, seriously, if all other housemates agree then you should have a conversation between you all. You don’t have to start off with accusations… just state the facts about the thefts - and the impact - and see how it evolves.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Yeah group intervention is starting to sound more and more like a good idea as well thank you, we need to do this!
Whatiii@reddit
Are you on the same tenancy or different tenancies? If the same tenancy as a group find a new place and give notice. Let the thief find their own way. If separate tenancies report directly to the landlord ignore the agents doing nothing. Make sure you mention the smoking cannabis on the premesis and that you have been complaining about their behaviour to the agents (let the landlord assume this involves agents not caring about the cannabis).
Report every theft to the police. They won't do anything but it will be a lot of reports, which will appear on crime maps and lower the value of the property (something a landlord cares about). Make your house a crime hotspot.
Assuming you are in England Shelter Legal England - Tenant's right to information about a landlord's identity - Shelter England gives you the steps for doing this. How to find your landlord - Shelter England has a letter template you can use. Agents hate this stuff being asked as they do not want to be circumvented. You may want to wait until May so they don't respond with a quick S21 before 1 May 2026 and you get protection from this.
Suddenly they will figure out an 'escalation process' as it will cause them problems.
Then while doing the stuff on the landlord side make things less nice for the person. Don't buy replacements (unless you have a mini fridge you can safely store it in). You are literally better off pouring out milk/binning a steak than letting this person eat it. Don't clean up after you use anything, only clean something before you will dirty it. Anything that is yours and is clean store in your own room.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
I believe we are on different tenancies as we all joined at different points. We have no contact information for the landlord which is annoying, I will try to find his information. The agents are super gate keeper-y about the landlord information we dont even know the man's name 😭
I didn't even know there was something called a crime map what! LMAO the house being a crime hot-spot is hilarious i love it, I shall do 🤣
Yeah I was wondering about that new change before May, a part of me was worried we might be asked to leave because we are pulling such a fuss, and another part of me was thinking 'why cant the agents give D the S21 notice and ask him to leave' 🙄
Yeah I am really trying to ensure our stuff doesn't keep getting stolen. 1 housemate already had their own private mini fridge in their room. 1 more completely stopped using the kitchen and only eats outside. Thank you so much for taking the time to give me such a detailed response, I really nice the ideas and will try them out!
Whatiii@reddit
Check your contract carefully. Either you don't understand what is in it or they have screwed up.
Who is your contract with? If your contract does not have any named person/company as a landlord, then... well who must payment be made to? Get advice from CA/shelter around this. you may be able to save a whole heap of money if the contract has been fucked up. Does the landlord have the requirements for a HMO (house in multiple occupancy Houses in multiple occupation (HMO) - Shelter England. If they fail to have a license and need one you can make a claim for repayment of rent.
Is your landlord a company or a person? Does your contract or a demand for payment contain the information in Shelter Legal England - Tenant's right to information about a landlord's identity - Shelter England under subheading Provision of address for service of notices. If it does not then you have a reason to not pay rent (it will become due at a later point so it doesn't stop you owing it, just there has been no lawful demand for it so no claim for late payment/non payment can be made) as you can not serve any notices on an unnamed entity. Get advice from Citizens advice/shelter about this.
Is your deposit protected correctly - also get advice from CA/shelter around this.
On a S21 notice. It is scary and a threat - threat of being homeless is not nice - but its not the worst thing. You will have months to find a new place.
A S21 notice doesn't force someone to leave anyway. First you get the notice, then it expires, then they make a claim through court, then you put forward a (any) defence, then they wait for a court hearing, then it happens as the S21 goes through and you are now given a court ordered date to leave, then you don't leave, then they get bailiffs to evict, then you get evicted. What forces the eviction is the court and then bailiffs at the end. From notice expiring to eviction is a 4+ month process depending on court backlogs. At maybe a £1000 cost to you (court costs + landlords legal fees on the loss), while you still have access to the property. So if you will want to leave in the next 4 months (or have a contract that is not periodic and so can't be served the s21 notice anyway) start complaining.
There are multiple reasons a S21 may not be valid. Its worth knowing if any apply. If they do any notice they give you, you just return a defence form with that reason its not valid and... it fails.
Spazhazzard@reddit
Just start stealing his stuff in return. Go into his room and just pick things up, throw his weed away etc. Make him fucking miserable so he fucks off of his own accord.
Psychological-Bag272@reddit
If you have a recording from camera showing him stealing your food, why can't you just sit down with him as a group and show him that. He can't really complain about the recording cos he consented to having the camera installed.
DrainpipeDreams@reddit
It's kind of hard to record a smell!
Psychological-Bag272@reddit
I think a picture of him smoking and picture of the the ends of the spliffs that he flicks off all over the garden could be sufficient? Idk, tbh. Maybe OP should pretend to be neighbour and report it. They will probably take it more seriously if the report comes from a neighbour.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
I think everyone is too disorganised and on completely separate work life zones, but I will try my best to make a group intervention happen.
Regarding proof of the weed use, he smokes in our garden and just flicks off the ends of the spliffs all around him, so the garden is just littered with it. It is a little weird for me to record him smoking, unsure how else to get evidence of it other than the pictures of the burnt ends in the garden.
imalreadycoolest@reddit
Yes, why hasn't this been done?
Sad-Nectarine-7855@reddit
Are you an adult?
Tell them to stop, be firm. If he doesn't make his life uncomfortable.
Wickedbitchoftheuk@reddit
The cannabis is an easy in to have him banned.
bishibashi@reddit
I don’t know the answer, but it’s reminded me that I once shared with a French girl who would sometimes shit in the garden.
Thank you for your attention to this matter.
KingKie129@reddit
You have to elaborate.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
..... I am very sorry that has happened, and I am also very sorry to bring up these interesting flash backs for you.
Money_Spider420@reddit
Still better than living with a thief tbh.
Psychological-Bag272@reddit
wtf?
Johnnyfootwrinkle@reddit
Buy chocolate fingers and coat the bottom of them with nail polish remover. Buy food that he likes and put chilli's in it. Till he gets the message.
660trail@reddit
Steal his weed. When he gets more, steal that. Send it to his parents with a letter telling them what he's been going in the house.
Jowrin@reddit
I had a similar experience, although “D” which is funny as he was called Dave was an even bigger melt than just stealing food. Jobless twit, who yes smoked weed and stole food items, but would also destroy a toilet in many unforgivable ways, try cut of everyone’s internet via the router and even verbally and physically threaten house mates. Hygiene was just a word in a dictionary, he broke into my locked room whilst at work, oh and even pulled a knife on me and tried to stab me! Oh they were fun times.
To get this oxygen thief out of our abode, I contacted the landlord and explained the situation. Asked for a fake eviction and that at the end of it we would all pretend to leave and then basically when he was out just charge the locks. To make sure this all happened we did invest a lot of time part packing our items ready for “moving day”. We also made a job list of all the stuff that needed to be done before the move, and mentally tricked the dumb idiot by going “make sure you do all your bits on the list and don’t screw us by leaving a day early or anything”. Of course he left early whilst we were at work, and stole a few choice items on the way but that stupid duck was out. It was like being Christ on Easter Sunday 🤣! I’m sure you could tailor this plan to your own scenario! Your home is your safe space, this man baby literally does not care, will not change and will only get worse. I wish you all the luck and hope to read a positive follow up!
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
I am so sorry to read about your ex house mate, they sound like an absolute nightmare! That is genuinely so scary with all the violence!!! I hope youre doing okay?
Yeah this guys hygiene is disgusting... he was washing chicken which smelled rank so it was clearly off, touched the chicken then touched the salt shaker to salt the chicken, then wipes his chicken hands on a kitchen towel we use to wipe the surfaces, and then puts his chicken fingers into another housemates bigger pot of salt to refill his own tiny salt shaker. Constantly touches and wipes his nose with his hands, always looks very not put together.
That is so much effort put into that plan, well done to you and the rest of the group, it really is a group effort 🤣 You're right, we have genuinely been feeling quite shaken and uncomfortable at home because you never know whats going to go missing next. Thank you for taking the time to share and comment, gave me a good laugh and a plan to put into action if all else fails!
KingKhram@reddit
Make something you know the housemate likes and put lots of Naga chilli in it
Friendly_External345@reddit
Buy nice big old juicy cake, fill that bastard up with laxatives. Leave in fridge and wait for fireworks.
Sir_Edna_Bucket@reddit
Arsenic
CPeeB@reddit
Just confront him about it. He’s taking advantage of your collective good nature. He knows you know he is doing it, and are doing nothing about it.
Rude-Possibility4682@reddit
This ☝️
Appropriate_Trader@reddit
The real question here is what would be the most enticing food you could not lace with a copious amount of laxatives without it being detected. And where and how would be the places you definitely couldn’t acquire such supplies.
Exact-Character313@reddit
Make a turd casserole or something with big meaty turds as the main ingredient, film yourself adding the turds with plenty of seasoning to cover up the smell. Put it in the fridge with a please don't touch note on it. After he eats it, show him the video of you making it.
Mr-Incy@reddit
You have evidence, get together and confront him, don't accept his lies and give him an option to either stop being a c*nt or move out.
You can also try making his life hell, the rest of you just need to stick together and treat him like the scum he is until he feels pressured to move out.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Yeah a few of us no longer speak to him because I am genuinely disgusted by his behaviour. The group confrontation would also work well with the video evidence I think to pressure him to move out!
Mr-Incy@reddit
It is the only way, the rest of you need to tell him how it is and either kick him out or make it so that he wants to move out.
Obvious-Water569@reddit
You definitely shouldn’t slip a little something in the food.
60percentsexpanther@reddit
LSD is tiny
Distinct-Lion4658@reddit
Scotch bonnet seeds should do the trick
Scuba_Ted@reddit
Buy some Carolina Reaper Chilli’s. They’re available for a fiver on Amazon. Put them in food, shampoo, milk etc. this will certainly make other people’s stuff less desirable.
CobblerSmall1891@reddit
Give me his number and I'll text that prick.
Doughtnutz@reddit
Me too, you have my phone!
BabyBearBennett@reddit
And my text
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Thank you I appreciate you xD
BabyBearBennett@reddit
And me
ActionBirbie@reddit
Evict them immediately, they're a drug addict and everything stems from that.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Yeah D has told me hes used alot of things in the past and that hes been to rehab a few times. He also was complaining about how his salary goes to his parents account and they give D a set amount of money every week because in the past hes finishes his entire months salary in a few days. We will try to evict him!
Impossible_Volume811@reddit
Police don’t care about a house mate stealing your food.
But they would be more interested in drug offences or theft of items worth at least £200.
Get him on camera stealing something worth that much and then all of you together threaten to take that evidence to the police if he doesn’t move out in 2 weeks.
Then lock up everything you own because if he leaves he’ll steal anything he can first.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Now to find a housemate who is willing to part with an item worth £200... 😭🤣
dbxp@reddit
So if he steals drugs worth over £200?
FairfaxAikman@reddit
Carefully open a Mars bar and melt some chocolate laxative on top. Reseal.
Might not get rid of him but you won’t have to see him for a while
Civil-Fan-3586@reddit
Report D about his smoking to your agency and the police. That's your chance (possibly) to get rid of him.
Arnoave@reddit
Police. Show evidence, he'll get his collar felt. They'll even already have his name and address.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Thats a good point, thank you so much!
Adept_Butterfly_6742@reddit
Had something similar as a student, when our D went to bed we took the handle off his bedroom door so he couldn’t leave. Left him for 24 hours. He soon left
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Hahahahahah nice! Unfortunately D here has a window he can leave from 😭
trevhcs@reddit
Personally I'd say the drugs angle is probably the best as breach of contract. Using the aforementioned signed letter from everyone might help there.
Hopeful_Lake9382@reddit
speak to your agent and say youll all give your notice unless hes given his. police dont care about petty theft/weed.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
This is a good card to play, I just dont know if the other housemates will be comfortable with saying this. I will discuss with the rest, thank you!
AdMaleficent6813@reddit
If you have proof, a good old fashioned shoeing.
The reason these things happen is because nobody seems to do it anymore.
InkedDoll1@reddit
Unless you can catch him on camera doing something that contravenes the terms of your contract, the agency are probably not gonna care as long as he's paying his rent. Same with the police - you need to have evidence of him doing something major. They won't care about him smoking weed unless he's also selling it. It might be worth asking in r/legaladviceuk ? As a last resort you could try a bit of witchcraft, sprinkle some chili powder outside his bedroom door.
bigfannyflap@reddit
Laxatives.
Haunting-Button-4281@reddit
Get hold of him and throw him out..
Mglfll@reddit
Fridge, suitcase, separate bin bags, car sank to the bottom of a body of water? Few various ways to get rid of someone. Or did you mean have them evicted?
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
.... I see your point. I really should have reworded that huh...
Momotaro6@reddit
Make stuff super spicy or so weird the won't touch it.
Randomfinn@reddit
Leave something very valuable, something you know he would like, in the kitchen. Catch him on camera stealing it and go to the police and have him charged.
NeonGrapez@reddit (OP)
Yes we were thinking of getting his faves and trapping him in the act, but hes already stolen so much, and we have video evidence of him using and stealing other peoples food too, and I feel like the police would just laugh at me if I tell them about food theft 😭
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