How to support new parents in the first months?
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My sister in law is giving birth tomorrow, and I want to support both her and my sister in that first month. They've had a rough ride with IVF. What did you appreciate most as new parents, both as the birthing parent and the non birthing parent? Besides sleep of course!!!
We’ll be there with time, cooking, cleaning, and general hands on help as they need it, but I’m wondering what else new parents genuinely appreciate most as gifts in those early weeks.
For anyone who’s been through it:
- What were the things that made you feel seen, supported, or centred as a new mum?
- Are there practical items you didn’t realise you’d need until the baby arrived?
- Is there anything that really helped the birthing parent feel cared for (physically or emotionally) while everything was revolving around the baby?
Trying to avoid clutter and focus on things that actually make life easier or make them both feel held in the chaos, as most attention from others will go to the baby. Would love your thoughts!
Icy_Expert8869@reddit
Someone cleaning up my house and / or bringing prepared meals for us
Zoeanna@reddit
Take photos of them and the baby. Everyone comes round for a newborn cuddle and a photo. No one ever takes one of the mum and her baby as she usually gets the baby handed back to change/feed them. After this happened to me and I realised I had like 2 photos of me with my baby the first few weeks I have made a point of taking lots of photos of new mums and their babies. All have said how much they appreciated it.
Apprehensive-Cod-602@reddit
This
Onlyfangz@reddit
Even pictures of just mum and dad, it's such a beautiful moment in their lives I'd bet anything that they'd appreciate the ability to look back on not just the baby but the bond that mum and dad have as well!
foxytrot_forever@reddit
-Food. Bring food. Food that requies no effort to prepare. Snacks. Etc. -We got a lot of food vouchers too (takeaway or frozen meal boxes). Those were great and they all got used too.
-Offer to watch the baby sleep or take baby for a contact nap so they can have a nap too -My husband brought me really nice chocolates just to say I was doing a great job. Small gestures like that make a huge difference -Resist the urge to reorganize. The last thing you need on 3 hours sleep is wondering where your Tupperware went. -Just tell them they're doing great. It's a tough time and there's a lot of doubt. Remind them they've got this.
tsdesigns@reddit
Ask them. Seriously, ask them what they would like from you. They might like someone there to do cooking/cleaning/whatever for a while each day, or might just want space and leave them to enjoy their new family themselves for a while.
If you do visit early days, don't hang around for hours. Short visits. Bring muslins, and vests. Everyone bought us sleepsuits and new outfits that would do most of the first year, but we had to go buy vests at one point early on. Also, if its a boy, teepee pee pee cover if you want a slightly gag gift that actually came in useful...
CLJL17@reddit
Along the lines of the teepee cover, try and find a bottle of wee-away or similar - I think it's meant for puppies and they likely won't know it exists if they don't have a dog but it basically breaks down wee that gets on carpets/furniture etc and is a lifesaver!
donnygal@reddit
The clothes point is a good one! When my friends/family have had babies I’ve tried to buy clothes 3-6m and up knowing that babies grow so quick but the time to get new clothes doesn’t come as quick. It’s always been received well alone with money/takeaway vouchers
Living_Garlic3349@reddit
Remember to ask if they’re ok and talk to them about normal stuff, not just baby baby baby! It’s a huge adjustment and I honestly just wanted someone to tell me what they had going on to give my brain a break. Depends on the type of people they are though!
It sounds like you’re already going to be doing all the right things and even just asking this question means you’re an amazing support
Realistic_Song8263@reddit
Listen and be interested in the baby but don't have ANY judgement or advice. Like ah how are you finding feeding, how is she sleeping, have you given her a bath yet. Parents want to talk about this fantastic little joy and have someone else who's as excited and interested as they are. And after all the excitement of a new baby has worn off. Keep asking about her. Keep being involved. The most hurtful thing about having a child is how people are so excited the first month and then SO uninterested after that. My 3&6 year old barely know the names of their aunties and uncles because they never come see them or ask about them or anything. It's sad. Hopefully you can do better.
TwoValuable@reddit
I gave birth via emergency c section last April (during one of the many heat waves), you can't bath and showering was an ordeal so dry shampoo and a good moisturizer because hormone changes made my skin go really dry, helped me feel a bit more human.
The obvious helping out, doing hot drinks, letting mum and dad have a sleep are all invaluable and a sort of you don't need to reinvent the wheel to offer support.
crackingtoast@reddit
You've had some really good suggestions and I know you're asking specifically for the first month but the thing I wished I'd had more of when I had a baby was hearing from friends and family after the initial excitement had worn off. I'm sure you'd do this anyway as you sound really thoughtful but I so wished more of my friends had checked in on a regular basis after the first few weeks! It's a big adjustment even after the chaos of the newborn stage, once the buzz has died down and partner is back at work it can feel very lonely.
CheesecakeExpress@reddit
You sound lovely, I wish my sister in laws had been this thoughtful.
Please listen to mum (well both mums) about what they want for their baby; washing hands, no perfume, no kissing etc. I hated when people would say ‘let me hold the baby and you go sleep’. I didn’t want to be apart from my baby, but I do want them to offer me a cup of tea. Instead of just sitting watching me feed for hours, offer me snacks and drink.
Don’t give parenting advice, unless it’s asked for. Ask Permission before picking up baby or passing them to someone else.
Check in before visiting and see if they need anything from the shops.
Offer to do laundry and bring snacks!
No-Complaint3477@reddit
Monetarily speaking, a voucher for their favourite delivery takeaway service or organising a cleaner to come around at their convenience.
Actual support, give them a few days to settle at home before asking to visit and when you go, take over a frozen meal, their favourite snacks and do some housework.
First_Recognition_91@reddit
One of my favourite post partum gifts was brownies via post!
My in laws would also come over when my son was only a few weeks old, take him out for a walk just after I BF him and let me have uninterrupted sleep!
TheMightyKoosh@reddit
I wanted to talk. I was (am) obsessed with my daughter. I wanted to bore everyone about how she coughed and the sounds she made and look at her little toes. People i was close to i wanted to talk about my hospital and birth experience.
NoChipmunk3371@reddit
Pre-made meals, snacks and drinks. Offer little outings, like meet for a walk or coffee at a cafe, maybe a good environment for extended family to meet baby too. With a first baby it’s always a bit of a trench at home figuring things out but also with 2 parents and 1 baby, there are enough hands on deck to do everything. But… getting out the house for little outings and having the chance to use all the new baby equipment to test it out is a nice break from the same 4 walls at home.
Bombadombaway@reddit
One handed food!!
It’s great to have sit down meals, but there will be times when she is really hungry but holding the baby and needing to eat still.
Breakfast burritos, sausage rolls, egg muffins - these are all easy to freeze and reheat, and quick tasty energy!
I’d also look into Souper Cubes and creating portioned batches of food from that!
anonaccount119@reddit
A bunch of my friends are popping them out rn, heres my usual list:
Offer to feed any pets while they do the birth stuff.
Do a top up shop for them. Frozen stuff for the air fryer, cans of pop, dilute juice, teabags, coffee, milk, eggs etc. Top priority in week 1 and 2 when she's a bleeding, hormonal, exhausted mess.
Tell mum she can text you whenever and if she seems low/tired invite her to your place or cafes esp in the first few months. Help her keep her feeling like her instead of mum. Hormones are crazy and the lack of sleep doesn't help. She has to leave the house, do something for herself and talk to other adults about things other than motherhood.
So many snacks, popping over to see baby? You bring mum something. Double goes for if she's breastfeeding. Small things that take minutes to eat for between tasks. I usually do flapjacks, cookies, mini pastys. I usually also send a text like "stopping at corner shop, want a coke or owt?" 9 times out of 10 I'm asked for a pepsi or a boost or some crisps.
If you're close enough you can tell her to sit down and run a hoover around, wipe down worktops and do the dishwasher and a load of laundry. I always try to do at least one household task when I visit. Even something tiny helps a ton and makes everything feel a little easier. Make it clear you're there for her and not just the baby
nonsequitur__@reddit
My sister bought my other sister a gift card for just eat so they had it as a backup for meals/whoosh.
Perhaps some meals or snacks that require no prep or thought. Maybe clean up for them if they won’t find it overbearing.
I honestly think though, the best thing you can do is give them some space for a while and wait for them to invite you around or ask for help.
Some_Reflection1413@reddit
Meals for the freezer in throwaway containers that are dropped off at the door and you text saying frozen meals at your door. So they have easy food to eat and also don’t need to think about conversation etc.
originalwombat@reddit
Clean the kitchen when you visit and bring food
LaughingAtSalads@reddit
Do the Things: clean, wash dishes, make hot or cold drinks, sit with baby while mama sleeps or has a shower or both, fold laundry, change sheets. If you’re close enough, that is.
Bring your own snacks, meals, and refreshments.
Learn some neonate games: gazes, funny faces, ‘motherese’. After a month or so this will come in handy.
CouchKakapo@reddit
Adding on to those suggesting meals and snacks: meal replacement drinks like protein shakes, and smoothies.
Just because sometimes the process of actually getting a meal cooked and eating it can be too strenuous or get interrupted in these days. I found it a bit easier to be able to drink some nutrition whilst recovering and getting into the swing of things.
Also: biscuits. Can eat with 1 hand.
GrabbedByTheGhost@reddit
Honestly, just a bit of space.
Special-Course-8127@reddit (OP)
Yes I've already started trying to get the extended family to back off a little. They'd all be at the hospital if they weren't restrained.
jimmywhereareya@reddit
Sounds like you've got it covered. Offer support and assistance but know when to give them their own space. I (60 f) never had a sister, but I sure would have appreciated all the help that you're offering. One thing, don't offer any parenting advice unless you are asked for parenting advice. Unless absolutely necessary... Obviously. Anyway good luck to all involved
Mental_Body_5496@reddit
Gatekeeper - thats an important job
Prestigious_Elk353@reddit
My favourite thing was my sister made me lasagnes for the freezer.
Made with love, helpful, delicious. And importantly for when we wanted, so no pressure.
ButtercupBento@reddit
I live far away from my sister but the thing she said she appreciated most was some frozen ready to cook sausage rolls, pastries and pies. It was the closest o could get to home cooked food for them. Apparently they were much appreciated, easy and tasty when neither of them felt up to cooking
GeneralMedia1282@reddit
If they are breastfeeding, a MASSIVE insulated water bottle and insulated mug that is spill proof. A box of snacks. Doing cleaning! I really loved having a stash of under eye patches which were kept in the fridge. Putting those on when I'd not had more than 30 mins sleep in a row overnight, made me feel ever so slightly human. I'm not far off 2nd birth and I've got some of the eye patches in the fridge already.
Slowly-Mcshowly@reddit
Bring them prepared food for the freezer. If they eat meat then minced beef type dishes like lasagne, Bolognese, cottage pie, chilli con carne. All heat well.
Bring in sandwich bags which are pliable to minimise space so you don't end up giving them another job of having to find space in their freezer.
Offer to do some light cleaning for them or wash dishes while there.
Offer to hold/watch baby while they shower.
Tell them how long you'll be staying before you go so they have a sense of what's ahead. Keep to the time you say you're leaving.
Tell them you're stopping at the local shop to get yourself X on the way, can you bring them any groceries or a hot drink?
While you're there, listen out for clues about what they need or what would make their life easier next time you see them.
fleurmadelaine@reddit
I love my BIL and SIL but they came to visit way too soon. Wait until you’re invited.
UnexpectedFullStop@reddit
Dad here. Wife and I had a Gousto subscription bought for us. Was amazing to be able to eat half decently while getting over the chaos of a new baby.
Anything that makes meals easier will go down well.
Plenty-Wishbone5880@reddit
If SIL is breastfeeding, a really good, leakproof & spillproof cup is a godsend. You can be stuck for really long stretches of time when breastfeeding in the early days, and it makes you super thirsty. You also dont dare have a hot drink due to the risk of spilling. A great cup that can keep your coffee hot and wont leak or spill is essential. Snacks that you can just eat one handed are great too.
A giftcard for food is great too, not shitty takeaway, but for decent meals, eg COOK. Alternatively, you could make some freezer meals yourself, just make sure you label them with recommended expiry dates.
Onlyfangz@reddit
This! I've never had a baby and my 40oz tumbler is my lifesaver, hydration is so important and the larger tumblers can last you half a day easily meaning they'll only have to refill it twice for their recommended fluid intake, maybe find one in a cute design you know she will love! I've seen a lot of them marketed to men online too so dad could have one too!
ramapyjamadingdong@reddit
Food. Simple 1 dish meals, packed full of veg so they can heat it up and eat.
Invisible jobs that take time but distract from sleep etc
Onlyfangz@reddit
When my step sister gave birth I made her a little coupon book, stuff like "one home cooked meal to give you a break" some were simple like taking her dog for a walk, some were gift cards for just eat, boots, and tesco instead of homemade coupons, redeemable at any time via text so we were out of their way until they needed us. We even left food etc on their doorstep on the days where they had no social battery left. When a loved one gives birth it's the perfect time to show them they have a village that will support them whether they need hands on help or a please leave it at the door and go type of favour. Congratulations to your SIL I know what a tireless battle IVF can be, I can tell they've got a brilliant support system just by you asking this question, I hope everything goes perfectly for you all 🩷
MrsJBB@reddit
Firstly, call them by their names. Absolutely every single person they're coming into contact with will be calling them Mum or 'Babys Name' Mum. I found it so dehumanising in those first few weeks and months when I was struggling to come to terms with my new life. It was like I didn't exist anymore. See them! Name them!
Only go round when invited and take some snacks or drinks, maybe something nice for them to enjoy together when you've gone too.
Be prepared for them to just talk at you for a bit, it's a huge change and I found that I just wanted to dump all these thoughts out. Now my friends have started to have children I've experienced it from the other side and having someone listen with no judgement is absolutely priceless.
No-Daikon3645@reddit
I had 3 c-sections. I would have loved to have time to hold my baby without worrying about bottles, laundry , housework or cooking.
I'd also liked to have had guilt free time to sleep. Also to have someone tell me I was doing a good job when they cried nonstop and I felt like a failure.
chungalulu@reddit
This is such a simple and honest answer, I'd completely agree. Especially the emotional support in those early weeks.
princess-moo@reddit
I gave the baby clothes but washed them first. My SIL said it was one of the best things someone had done for them
Formal_Produce_8077@reddit
- food is always a good shout, but id also say if you wanna help the birthing parent, NEW PJS!!!! or trackie bottoms. i lived in comfy bottoms for the first few weeks, despite usually religiously wearing pencil skirts
- we also got a deliveroo voucher which was a godsend
- something for the non-birthing parent could be as simple as a 'new parent' item - i noticed that my partner was getting a lot of hugs but most of the conversation was directed to me. something to remind your sister that she's doing an amazing job!!
- also, talk to the birthing parent, dont just focus on baby! everyone who visited me said a quick hi and then crowded around the little one. i know its exciting, but your SIL will be feling so incredibly fragile, both physically and emotionally. talk to her, see how she is, tell her youre proud of her. make her know that you are a safe space for her to reach out to, no matter the time. i wouldve loved if my partners' siblings had done this - new parenthood can feel really isolating
- check up after the first few weeks have gone by. people forget how new every phase is, and PPD/PPA can hit at any point. if you live near enugh, maybe set up a once weekly coffee date for you, your SIL and your sister (depending on who is or isnt working etc). i looked forward to the once weekly baby class i had when my daughter was small - i had recently moved to the area we live in and still struggle to make friends. having someone who regularly cecked in, got me out of the house and spoke to me about ME, not just the baby, wouldve gone a LONG way
- ask what they need from you. they might not want to tell you they could do with help doing laundry, or hoovering, but make it clear that those things are not off the cards. be prepared to do this!
best of luck to you all!!
spanakopita555@reddit
We got sent two boxes of cakes/cookies, which were very much appreciated in tough moments. We also got sent a box of Cook meals which were a lifesaver.
In terms of physical items, I always needed more muslins. The electric nail file from Tommee Tippee is a must. A white noise machine and a gentle nightlight for nighttime caring as well.
LongjumpingLab3092@reddit
Food!!!! Honestly I don't have time to cook and I often forget to feed myself. Someone cooking for me and making sure I eat is amazing.
Also as soon as I had recovered from my c section people were very keen to hold the baby so I could do the jobs around the house. Would love more people to do the jobs so I can hold my baby.
sookietea@reddit
When my friends had their baby’s I brought a gift for the mother as well as the baby. After all, she’s basically ran a marathon. Flowers, nice creams, etc have all gone down well. When I was a new mum myself, I loved snacks and home cooked meals. I loved the visitors who just took charge of making tea, cleaning up a bit, asking if I needed a shower or a break. But I appreciate not everyone likes having people make themselves at home.
With hindsight, the best gift would have been a really good thermal travel mug. Not just for long walks with the pram but also something that would ensure my tea would stay warm for a good stretch whilst I was napped trapped on the sofa.
agbonlahoranator@reddit
Second the thermal travel mug!
DicketySixMiles@reddit
You could get them a voucher for freezer meals so they can choose what they'd like. I've used https://www.cookfood.net/ in the past but any well-reviewed frozen food delivery company would probably work.
CapPsychological464@reddit
It was nice when I could bathe or shower without rushing but the key is to take the baby for a walk. As a new mum I was always listening for him so wouldn't find it relaxing at all. Meals are about the best thing in my opinion to help. Sometimes you realise it's been hours since you last had food. You're so kind for even thinking like this my partner wasn't that thoughtful 😂
roloem91@reddit
Snacks. Also I loved people who asked me my coffee order before they arrived and would hold baby so I could drink my coffee hot.
I had a Velcro baby and I just wanted people to come round and hold her so I could eat or do laundry or wash up.
Take the rubbish out though, empty the nappy bin, when you leave fill up her water bottle.
OkTechnician4610@reddit
I only had a very small family & was in hospital after c section for 2 weeks. My husband & mother kept the house tidy my lovely mum did a load of ironing for me. When I got home she popped round most days to see if she could help. Was nice to have just a cup of tea & a chat. She was fantastic with advice if I needed it. Whilst the baby did make us do things differently we didn’t forget our normal day to day things. Baby was fitted into our life. Not our life fitted to the baby totally.
TeaPlenty3782@reddit
My friends bought me a hamper with sanitary towels, nipple pads, maternity bras and pants, nipple cream etc. They also included some trashy gossip magazines and chocolate.
My cousin bought us a week of luxury frozen meals delivered to our house. It was so incredibly appreciated as we were too tired to even think about cooking.
Other than that, check in texts, not turning up unannounced, encouraging messages that I was doing well and visits when I was up to them.
tunnocksmystery@reddit
Practical item, unsure what your relationship is like with your SIL and if she’s breastfeeding but silverette nursing cups were a game changer. Nipple cream is disgustingly sticky and doesn’t work, the cups were brilliant.
I also had lip balm handy, you can get very thirsty breastfeeding and having dry lips and being unable to do anything about it is really annoying.
If you bring any food, make sure it can be eaten with one hand! I used to make a lot of smoothies with oats in them because there would be days where I was literally stuck under a baby and drinking a smoothie is much easier than eating! Also to echo the suggestion of a decent travel thermos, great idea!
Space is good, don’t stay long unless she asks.
Don’t be too pushy on chores. I would have felt awkward if anyone, including my Mum offered to do a bit of cleaning for me, I would be paranoid that i wasn’t tidy enough...
bunnyswan@reddit
I appreciated anyone who left after 3 hours or less, I was just too tired to deal with anything longer. I was quite lonely, so someone who consistently would pop by or come for a walk and a cuppa.
bumbleb33-@reddit
I was so lucky a friend cooked meals that I could take straight from the freezer to the oven in individual portions! On a rough day it felt like a massive hug. She bath cooked for me 3 times and did 12 meals each time. She'd drop them off and didn't expect to come in and visit( I did invite her in but appreciated that there were no strings)
I also had friends who I'm close enough to that they'd pop a load of washing on or do my dishwasher. Really it was the 3-4 month mark where I needed the most love and support because lots of early visitors had come and gone and I was deep in the trenches of juggling siblings newborn house and life which was absolutely exhausting
Disastrous-Emu2013@reddit
When my friends had babies I would fold laundry, wash up and general clean while talking to them, so we were both “doing something” during the visit or I would watch the baby (and clean) so she could go take a shower in peace
Famous_Ebb_9193@reddit
Food they can heat up and eat or offer to do some laundry. Otherwise time and space for them to work things out.
Rude_Trouble_4075@reddit
Get them a cleaner to clean the house every fortnight for at least 3 months! That’s what I really needed then ☺️
QuiteFrankE@reddit
As others have said. Space. Let them know you are there is they need help and leave it at that until they reach out. Also, don’t focus on just the baby. Ask how the parents are doing.
If and when you do visit the baby, wait until you are offered to hold the baby and give baby back as soon as parent asks.
Ok_Fox_4540@reddit
I loved it when family came to help..and by that I mean did chores around the house, brought leftovers to heat up. If we had a pretty rough night, then coming over to look after the baby whilst we napped during the day was a life saver.
I'd check in each week, see if there's anything they need. If you are close to your sister and sister in law then they will love that support.
WGSMA@reddit
One thing we do for friends / family is a Deliveroo voucher.
You’re buying them time, on a night where shits just crazy hectic, and they don’t want to cook.
Old-Nun@reddit
I think ask/judge go with whatever they seem to want. Some people want a bit of space and not to have to field family and friends desperate to see the baby. For me, as long as no one was unwell, I wanted as many visits as people were willing to do! My friend really appreciated freezer meals that could be heated up- she found organising meals so tough. We found after a long unexpected week in hospital we quite liked cooking all our old favourites (nothing fancy we’re not great cooks!) so people turning up with dishes and food, whilst unbelievably kind was a bit of a faff. A friend of mine came and brought essentials like a loaf of bread after asking what we needed, and someone else did the washing up. I was happy for people to watch the baby in her Moses basket whilst I showered, other mums I know want to have the baby with them whilst people help in other ways. I’m sure having kind and respectful intentions will mean you can find ways to support!
Known-Highway-8465@reddit
Some home cooked meals. Healthy snacks for parents. If you see dirty dishes, wash them up. Offer to look after the baby for 30 mins to an hour while parents get a shower or maybe a quick nap.
Don’t bring flowers, I can’t tell you how irritating that is as a new parent even though the thought is there.
Known-Highway-8465@reddit
Also - don’t just be available for the first month and then disappear. Most people are interested for the first few weeks and the support falls off a cliff.
melanie110@reddit
Batch cook them a load of meals to freeze. Then they can warm them up.
I swear it’s the best thing a new set of parents can ask for. I do it for all our friends and they were so grateful. Especially first time parents.
Stew and mash, lasagna, curry and rice, bolognaise bake. Things that can go in the foil trays and heated up. Just meals they can pop in and warm
WillingApplication10@reddit
My mum bought me a lot of toilet paper and an m&s sheet cake which were both great. And she hoovered my stairs. She's usually a wee bit mental and gets too involved but this was all brilliant.
_All_Tied_Up_@reddit
A big bowl of homemade fruit salad. Making a few easy home made meals like lasagna etc.
Is the mother planning on breastfeeding do you know? If so then homemade flapjack is a great helpful gift cos oats are good for milk production. Also remember if breastfeeding don’t bring spicy foods full of onions etc
quaveringquokka@reddit
Just food!! Bring food every time you come
extranjeroQ@reddit
Snacks and food. Honestly, every time you go around, take something healthy ish but yummy.
Take around things that keep for a few days & can be picked at over successive meals eg a massive pasta or quinoa salads.
Finding time to eat something decent was definitely the hardest thing early on.
Sonawi@reddit
Gift-wise for the birthing parent - it doesn’t have to be super expensive, favourite or homemade snacks or similar shows you care 😊 Practically, a subscription/voucher for streaming (you get through a looooot of TV in those early days!) or Amazon gift card (for all the emergency orders you put in as a parent, realising what you need along the way!) I preferred these sorts of things to flowers as that was just something else to take care of on top of a little person!
Most useful thing local friends did for us was meal drops - turn up with something ready to eat (bonus if easy to eat one handed if baby is attached to you!) - or vouchers towards takeaway/food delivery apps if not local. Frozen meals (like Cook) if there’s space in the freezer for those!
Hope that helps!
mrsfadedglory@reddit
When we had our little one I loved when people brought some home cooked meals/baked goods, even if you don’t have the opportunity to cook, a care package with yummy food (esp snacks that can be eaten one-handed) or vouchers for take away would be appreciated I’m sure. It meant we could spend time with the baby, but still eat well and look after ourselves
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