ULPT: How do I get someone to stop being friends with my brother?
Posted by farmhouse_cheddar@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 11 comments
This guy is extremely manipulative and he’s 21 hanging out with a 17 year old junior in high school, my brother. He’s already proven to be a creep by trying to date my younger sister, 16, then my parents stepping in and making her block him. He still goes to my church and still is constantly following my 17 year old brother, even to the gym almost every night. I have a lot of info about him, almost everything except his email. How do I get him to stop going to my church and stop being friends with my brother?
If anyone wants to help out, DM me or comment
surfTorreypines@reddit
It takes work. Be everywhere your 17-year-old brother is an make it very clear the 21-year-old friend is not welcome.
If you're looking at "unethical" I'd run the dependency tree: How does this guy get to where your 17-year-old brother is? Is it a car? Make that car go away.
Is he a member at the gym where your brother goes? Make a complaint that you believe this guy is grooming your brother--a child. Businesses take that seriously.
Find every point of contact (the commenter recommending informing the church ladies is right on the money) and do your utmost to create friction at each point of contact.
Does your brother like this guy? Be prepared for pushback or no-contact with you if he ever finds out you did this. Consequences.
emmakobs@reddit
That seems like a lot of work. How is OP supposed to make someone's car go away?
Another option would be to get really interested in the guy. Be where the brother is, as you said, and invite the guy over when he's creeping. Make a big show of it. Wave, smile. "Hey, [Creeper]! Hi!! So nice to see you!!" loudly and emphatically.
Be really interested and invested in his and your brothers relationship. The dude is almost guaranteed to f off.
farmhouse_cheddar@reddit (OP)
I appreciate your help, I’m gonna look into this
Puceeffoc@reddit
I'd take it right to your church leadership. Sexual sin is frowned by the church leaders (most of the time).
Quirky-Invite7664@reddit
Are your parents aware that he’s hanging out with your brother? I’d imagine they don’t want that, given he was after your sister.
farmhouse_cheddar@reddit (OP)
He doesn’t live with us, he lives with his bio dad (just for legal purposes that he can’t move out yet) so they can’t monitor what he’s doing really
Miami_Mice2087@reddit
talk to your dad, tell him this guy is bad news, he's financially abusing your brother. like he asks for money and doesn't pay it back
Bratchan@reddit
Talking to your brother is clearly out of the picture if you are here.
Let the pastor know at the chruch that he is trying to hook up with minors.. They might not take kindy to that. Some chuches and super community based.. and it will spread like wild fire. OR if you know those old ladies that always show up.. and they know EVERYONE business.. let them know.. let those rumors ruin him.
ACynicalOptomist@reddit
Better to tell the old ladies in the church or whoever the biggest gossip is.
metalflygon08@reddit
Or they'll promote him./s
farmhouse_cheddar@reddit (OP)
That’s a good point, thank you