Nursing home Easter Dinner

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holdorfdrums@reddit

I cook at a nursing home and I PROMISE none of my food looks like this. That sucks

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ohnodamo@reddit

"Grilled Ham & Cheese?" That bread was nowhere near heat. I'd believe "thawed" but not grilled.

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Seriously. There's no tater tots instead they get a pitiful scoop of (clearly instant) mashed potatoes. If the bread on that sandwich didn't come already baked in the bag, I'm not sure they would've even baked the dough with how ungrilled that "grilled ham and cheese" is. Didn't even bother with a garbage substitute for the coleslaw. I'll assume the milk and tea are there and then there's a single lone cookie in a plastic baggie.

I know not every place is staffed by people who care about food but GENERALLY you'll have people in a kitchen that want to make the best food they are capable of. Even if the people running the place were buying the shittiest Sysco garbage out of the back of some dude's car, I'd be doing everything I can to at least TRY to give the people who I'm feeding something semi-edible.

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iheartgeekz@reddit

It could be that the resident has to have their food textures modified due to difficulty swallowing or lack of teeth. Not saying it's not a lie, but working with the elderly often involves substitutes for textures that can be disappointing.

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AverageInfamous7050@reddit

The ticket does not reflect anything that suggests that. The plate is despicable.

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pokamoe@reddit

For real. I want justice, where is the tots and ketchup packet!

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mensfrightsactivists@reddit

and not a single cole was slawed..

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HamiltonHab@reddit

Or creamed for that matter

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RefrigeratorLonely53@reddit

they didn't even cream my slaw...

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ikindapoopedmypants@reddit

I work at a nursing home. Last week, all our cooks quit on the spot. WE had to make the food. I'm talking, all the available nurses we had, hr, laundry, housekeeping, AND social services. All of us had to go in the kitchen we've never worked in before and make food. Pretty sure we violated like 500 laws. But we called corporate and they were literally like "figure it out" so either we let 80 old people starve or we make SOMETHING. I got nervous that this post was about our facility 💀💀

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Cheeky_Puffs@reddit

Very thankful none of my grandparents had to go to nursing homes and the one still alive will never go to one either. This is disrespectful and sad.

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prenup-nibba@reddit

Been working for LTC health company for almost a year now, and they are money grubbing too. Was here when they had $10 per person/day. Now we're at $8ppd. It's rough but looks a hell of a lot better than whatever the fuck this is, even at my worst buildimgs. Holler at the ombudsman.

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jimson_weed_tea@reddit

Private Equity spoils the party again.

This is what my MIL's nursing home food looks like exactly.

Society wants the poor to suffer, it is that simple.

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vevensonxo@reddit

There are agencies this can be reported to!

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vevensonxo@reddit

You should continue to document this and report to AHCA. Be very detailed, with dates, etc.

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TheRedditAppSucccks@reddit

This is so sad. Post to a local community Facebook group. I’m sure your community would love to bring you home cooked meals. I would.

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SexxyAli420@reddit

This is fucked up, what the actual fuck is wrong with people how heartless can you be??? It’s Easter for fucks sake, if you won’t give them edible food normally atleast put in a little effort to make it a decent Easter dinner. Shit prisons do better than this, much better. And that’s saying something.

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Oranges13@reddit

But but the shareholders!!!!

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SexxyAli420@reddit

Oh the horror!

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-Ein@reddit

I hope I can send my dad to ghis place one day

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zonianjohn@reddit (OP)

Owned by an investment firm from New Jersey

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deanereaner@reddit

Is there a sub rule against naming and shaming inhumane corporations?

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justArash@reddit

Aviata health group, this is the Pensacola location

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snertwith2ls@reddit

Health or "health"?

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Thatguyyoupassby@reddit

Wealth

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snertwith2ls@reddit

Won't someone think of the shareholders??

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Alpacapybara@reddit

Everyone needs to tighten their belts so the share holders can loosen theirs

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Eye_Worm@reddit

Hellth

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snertwith2ls@reddit

lol

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GIJne69@reddit

Run by the mob? I worked at a place in indiana like this that was funded by the Chicago mob. They were so obvious when they came to view what their money was being spent on in the mental health industry, with several more hospitals opening nationwide that they were also finding. It was a shithole full of abuse, neglect, and deaths that were caused by medical mistakes and resulted in several lawsuits and families being paid under the table while the county prosecutor was also being paid off to turn the other cheek. Sickening

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m3t4lf0x@reddit

Can you share the name of the place? I feel like this needs more way more attention

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GIJne69@reddit

The Neuropsychiatric Hospital in Indianapolis. They have several across states in told now. One of the owners was an MD, the other a non-practicing clinical psychologist who left his wife to marry a nurses aide they're that he was sleeping with. She was also a stripper. Well, he married her and made her the CEO and her other nurses aide friend/ stripper the marketing me Mgr or something like that. He soon discovered his new wife was cheating with the Maintenance man and died him. The guy filed an NAACP complaint and they paid him off - just like they paid off one of my patient's family members after she died when a nurse mistakenly administers insulin to her. 😠 They're were SAs of the geriatric population, nurses abusing patient's, you name it and I complained endlessly to no avail. Also no security until several staff were seriously attacked.

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m3t4lf0x@reddit

Whoa, you weren’t kidding… this place is insane and I can’t believe there is such an extensive pedigree of transgressions without anything resembling justice.

I think mental institutions are particularly ripe for the type of fraud detailed in the article, especially when your victims have literally no recourse even if they had to the resources to do so. Truly despicable.

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GIJne69@reddit

Oh, and this isn't the particular one that I was referring to, but they ended up owning this place as well. They shut their doors at the location you referred to. It used to be Valle Vista in Greenwood, IN. The one in referring to was in Indpls, but there are several. I also know they were opening several out-of-state. Nothing but illegal and unethical business practices! Forget about nursing homes as well, because they would all send their patients to these places if they deemed their patients unruly, if they refused meds, or if they needed their medication adjusted. In the beginning, what was a regular 72- hour hold ended up laying for several months for patients at these private pay facilities. The Nigerian psychiatrist "worked" at every one of their Indiana facilities to write patient notes, prescribe meds, etc. without ever having seen or met the patients outside of the one location he worked out of. There was no teleheath whatsoever. Can you say illegal?! Patients locked with nothing but their mattress in an emptied out janitor's closet for days without a doctor's orders, and then told that they couldn't tell their group home about what happened, and bribed with toys and new clothes in return to keep quiet.

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violetkiwii@reddit

Holy fk. I use to drive by valle often. I had no idea this was a thing

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GIJne69@reddit

Exactly this! I tried for so long to stick it out for my patients, but the owners and staff were terrible to them and no changes to improve were being made. It was literally a bigger shit show everyday to put it lightly! I can say so much more about that place. I've worked in mental health for many years and have seen some bad places, but THIS one was literal Hell on earth because of how the patients were treated! I hope everyone that abused or turned a blind eye to it gets their karma

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h0ldplay@reddit

A local journalist or newspaper would probably be interested in talking to you, if you reached out. It's no guarantee, but the more upset people you have, the more likely something is to change. Best of luck.

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Bebebrass@reddit

There’s something evil about that plate of food I don’t think I’ve ever seen such a pathetic meal thrown together with 0 care

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tujao@reddit

Shameful

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ThoughtPhysical7457@reddit

I worked in about 10 different nursing homes in my life and the difference between them all is staggering. Everything from cold cheese sandwiches to your choice of lobster or ribeye (grilled to order) for dinner.

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Particular_Room_933@reddit

Looks like the food budget went straight to their salary.

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zonianjohn@reddit (OP)

Along with the old people’s pills

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reedzkee@reddit

We tried like 5-6 homes before finding one that wasnt a complete NIGHTMARE

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Great_Will_1361@reddit

I think you should ask for you missing food. Bring your receipt

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zonianjohn@reddit (OP)

Tried and they lied. Corporate doesn’t care

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Great_Will_1361@reddit

Dont eat there

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LungFlavoredJello@reddit

It's not really a choice for those living in the nursing home. They could go to another but there's a reason they're there in the first place

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Great_Will_1361@reddit

If they are boomers, then they didnt take advantage and put themselves into a favorable situation when they are older.

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ArsenalinAlabama3428@reddit

What a fucking cretin you are. Crying about getting your disability money for your dependent kids yet shaming someone for simply seeking dignity for this in need. I guarantee you’ll be in a place like this one day if you live long enough, and I hope people have more compassion for you.

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ObscureEnchantment@reddit

Look at the Economy now. Some boomers had their savings wiped away due to medical debt. My grandma was put in a skilled nursing facility while she recovered from a bad fall. Idc how you feel about generations or politics or money most of those facilities are horrible living conditions and understaffed. People deserve better. You’re gross for this comment.

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taterrrtotz@reddit

You realize people don’t go into nursing homes for shits and giggles right?

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AverageInfamous7050@reddit

What ?

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NoWall99@reddit

The fuckhead is implying that poor old people deserve to suffer because it's all their fault for not having become rich when they were younger.

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mensfrightsactivists@reddit

you realize skilled nursing facilities treat patients of all ages?

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LunacityxArtistry@reddit

Ive worked in nursing homes for about 12 years. Can confirm most places have the shittiest food. I work at a very nice facility, for a change, and their food is actually edible. Breaks my heart seeing places offer food to people. I bet corporate wouldnt even take a bite.

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LarenCoe@reddit

Yet another reason to avoid them at all costs.

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mysticaltater@reddit

Sometimes you can't. Or your family members aren't medical professionals who can tend to you every waking moment

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EmperorBamboozler@reddit

Jesus that's depressing as a meal. Literally worse than hospital food since it obviously won't give you your caloric needs. Also calling that sandwich "grilled" is some lying bullshit. If that's a grilled cheese I'm the king of Spain.

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IIRCIreadthat@reddit

🎵 Once I was, the king of Spain... 🎵

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TanglimaraTrippin@reddit

Now I eat cold ungrilled pie

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adamosity1@reddit

This has to be a for profit one because that’s almost as miserable as prison food.

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malowu97@reddit

My dad just passed away after living his last year in a religious not-for-profit nursing home. It’s the same thing. Ice cold food every day. The folks who didn’t go home on Christmas Day got a boxed lunch and a juice box for dinner. We brought him outside food every single day.

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Phoenixpizzaiolo21@reddit

I unfortunately have experienced prison food and have had better looking meals than this!

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ObscureReferenceFace@reddit

We’ve also had much worse 2 years and 4 months Big House and 8 months of county receiving) But yeah they need to treat these people better. One of my first jobs that didn’t involve farming was working in a kitchen of a nursing home (not a great one but better than most in US). I was ~18 and this was about 1994 in Illinois. Honestly, the food was pretty decent. Some are in very restrictive diets and get meals that look really sad, but there is a reason behind it. A lot of residents don’t eat very much and I’d say more than 33% is in the garbage after. It was a very sad place to work. Honestly the food is the easy thing to get right and when perspective clients come around to pick a place for their parent, if the food is pretty decent it’s a huge selling point. The “children” can’t really assess the nursing care etc but they can see if the place is clean and if the food is pretty good. The devil is in the details though. The nurses were pretty mean sometimes. I didn’t see any if the physical care but I always assumed it was bad based on how the nurses acted

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r15km4tr1x@reddit

They also have to eat the food at family dinners when everyone treks to see them

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rm79@reddit

75% of nursing homes in the US are for-profit. I spent 6 weeks in a rehab/nursing facility for an injury and the food was pretty close to this. Not as bad, but it was close. Thankfully I was able to have all my meals delivered or brought by family.

The hospital was fantastic though. They really put effort into the food. And the chef and dining coordinators would come by the rooms to ask for feedback and make sure everyone was enjoying their meals.

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WinterSector8317@reddit

Honestly, for how much it costs to stay in a hospital per night, they should have Gordon Ramsey serving the food

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Sheepherder-Optimal@reddit

I had to stay in the hospital inpatient. Me and the other patients all wondered if Gordon Ramsey was in the kitchen there. Loo

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Primary_Mind_6887@reddit

Private Equity owned, then?

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No-Command-1038@reddit

The prison food i See last Week (on reddit) looked more delicious.

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Automatic_Law5711@reddit

My Dad was at, what is now "Noble Senior Living" on Mobile Hwy. Then, the director was a flashy dude with a Cadillac with a gold grill(on the Caddy). He was obviously skimming. But everyone was taken care of. He and his staff got caught and they all got replaced.

New staff was cold and uncaring. Everyone smelt off piss and the patrons weren't being cared for. All my Dads belongings came up missing and later he had developed bruises. You couldn't find any staff to talk with them. That place turned into a shithole.

They should've let that original director keep his hustle. Everyone was happy. And the food did not look like this.

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baquea@reddit

"Consistent carbohydrates"

Well there's certainly carbs there, I'll give them that.

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Own_Establishment4@reddit

That's sad

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Tarrin_morgan_69@reddit

I'd rather kill myself than go to a home like this

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spacebagel25@reddit

There is nothing “grilled” about that ham and cheese.

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BuddysMumOz@reddit

Is this the main meal of the day? It’s pretty shabby if so.

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Over_Detective_3756@reddit

Cmon, there may be dietary restrictions

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Acornriot@reddit

Aviata

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GIJne69@reddit

I honestly never did either until I worked for the company previously mentioned. They took every opportunity to take advantage of this population, simply because I believe it was easy for them to do. Unfortunately, we live in a society where mental health concerns are still very much taboo or largely improperly treated. Indiana is also one of the states that lacks adequate mental health funding and resources, so altogether, this population is often disregarded. Some believe is better to place them in these facilities, as they're out if sight and it if mind. Afterall, they're receiving what many believe is helpful treatment, but it's money over first - especially in private pay facilities like this. People get desperate for help when they have no one and very little resources. This place was so bad I quit seeing patients in Indiana altogether when nothing was done to reprimand these facilities after continuous reporting.

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thatspideyguy@reddit

Is the grill in the room with us?

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hereisalex@reddit

Fun fact receipt paper contains massive amounts of BPA and is NOT food safe.

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Appropriate-Review55@reddit

I would consider relocating my loved one

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surgicalapple@reddit

Jesus Christ. Nursing homes charge a fuck ton monthly, close to $7k for a low tier one. Seeing this is infuriating.

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ExcellentWolf@reddit

Tater tots got forgot. And, the grill for ham had to scram. But, at least they made with the single chips ahoy. Try not to Cookie Monster it too fast. You got to nibble to make cookie last.

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Thund3rMuffn@reddit

Is getting old just pure shit

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elBurritoBurglar@reddit

That is neither grilled nor cheese

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emiliafabela@reddit

😕

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LeChampeon@reddit

I think I’ll rather be dead than live in a retirement home like that

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hatecriminal@reddit

Aramark does nursing homes now?

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fschwiet@reddit

Op here's wishing for a smooth recovery

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BitCautious4536@reddit

I worked at a “luxury” for-profit retirement home for a few years right after I turned 18. I was the dining room manager and had a lot of beef with our “executive chef,” this fat, greasy, middle-aged asshole that insisted we all call him “chef.” I eventually ended up getting fired after going to HR about “chef” sexually harassing the underaged girls that worked as servers, but the thing I hated the most about this pompous asshole was how he would feed the residents there- mind you, they were paying thousands of dollars a month to live and enjoy the amenities of a LUXURY home.

I don’t know if there was a distribution error or if this wannabe-Rordan-Gamsey was wholly off his rocker or what, but I came in for a shift one night where one of the featured meals (there were usually 2-3 to choose from every lunch/dinner and then we had special buffet days) was “homemade pepperoni calzones” and I walked in the BOH to see “chef” throwing PEPPERONI HOT POCKETS into the oven. One of my favorite residents, a little old Italian lady from Brooklyn who bonded with me over Park Slope, put her ticket in for one of the “homemade calzones” and I personally walked her out a different meal and told her what was up. She was just as furious as I was. I’m not surprised by this sad ass meal, at all, and it’s incredibly saddening to think this is how most home’s treat (and feed) residents.

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lmarieg1996@reddit

Reminds me of Fyre Fest

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Appropriate_Offer577@reddit

Ive worked in multiple nursing homes and independent living facilities and this is sadly the norm! Residents will complain about their food, or simply not eat but their families are too busy to be bothered with their elderly to care. Complaints can be made, but the issue probably wont be resolved for a while. Imagine the building’s infrastructure. Usually thibgs like this come with multiple issues. Im sure that building has black mold and maintenance issues.

Only throw your old folks in a home if you hate em

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Nelle911529@reddit

This should be a crime. When my father was in a nursing home they fed him the same kind of crap. Luckily he had someone to feed him when he felt like eating.

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monstersmuse@reddit

This makes me sad as hell

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Xirokami@reddit

Just like the morally damaging rehab home I used to work in! Half the shit on that ticket isn’t even on the plate!

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Lefantomeamical@reddit

On what planet is that GRILLED? 😭

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ChefAsstastic@reddit

As someone who advocated for my dying mother at cedar village in Mason Ohio, i can attest that this shit food is common place. My mother died an agonizing death at the hands of some of the worst health care workers ever. I wish I could have protected the 30 other unfortunate souls on my mom's floor. Seeing this kills me.

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Desperate_Fill_2732@reddit

💔😭

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Lethal_Opossum@reddit

Is that white blob the "creamy coleslaw"?

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silverwareinthesink@reddit

I think those are the tatertots

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SexxyAli420@reddit

I thought it was mashed potatoes 💀

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spiflication@reddit

It really might be all three at once

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samuelram97@reddit

This makes me sad :(

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Choice-Committee3858@reddit

"grilled"

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fromamomof2@reddit

The food was one of the worst part of my mom's rehab experience. Absolute swill, especially considering eating food was still.an activity most were able to do.and could have been something to look forward to

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EmmyWeeeb@reddit

The food being terrible is also why I get upset if I go inpatient cuz I know the food is gonna be ass

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SexxyAli420@reddit

So weird I went to rehab for like a week and I think I just got lucky but it was some of the best eating I’ve ever done. The dude cooking was big guy who loved cooking bbq and all the bangers, he even gave me seconds and thirds when I wanted. Shit I almost want to go back for the cooking 😂.

OPs post though genuinely depressing. I worked at a retirement home and I literally had to quit because I was always fighting with the management over the god awful treatment towards the residents. Saddens me still. Those places should be condemned and we should actually respect our elders, they have so much wisdom and so much to offer.

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DoritoLipDust@reddit

My aunt lives in a nursing home and her food is disgusting. I bring her barbecue sauce packets because otherwise she won't eat half of it. I also bring her homemade meals when I can. For Christmas she requested nachos, and for Easter she wanted the same.

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icedcoffee420@reddit

I have a resident whose daughter brings her food every night because the food isn’t great. It’s definitely better than most of the nursing homes I’ve worked in but still. I absolutely hate working in nursing homes. I love my residents and what I do but I hate the companies. They’re so fucked up

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Phoenixpizzaiolo21@reddit

I don’t know how to give someone an award so here s my version!

👏👏👏👏👏👏🏆🏆🏆🏆🏆

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DoritoLipDust@reddit

Awwwe! Why thank you!

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Academic-Map-3185@reddit

Good on you for looking out for your family

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EmmyWeeeb@reddit

Bro if I was in a retirement home like this I’d want them to just put me out of my misery. No wonder they’re always mad lol.

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Noxodium@reddit

I ate better in jail

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zonianjohn@reddit (OP)

That’s what a relative of mine said

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icedcoffee420@reddit

It’s very much true

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UnderstandingWeak292@reddit

They were serious.

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Hope4years@reddit

I am so sorry. My older brother was in a high paying profession and he saved a lot so when he needed a nursing home I shopped around and got recommendations; he got surprisingly good food at the place we chose but the place was expensive.

I assume you’re in the United States…. The way this country treats older people is shameful.

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IslandGurl04@reddit

Older people, sick people, poor people...all people except 1%ers

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peoples_key@reddit

This is ABSOLUTELY worth a formal complaint over. They are in no way following the diet ticket, and moreover this is a dignity and residents rights issue.

New Jersey Long-Term Care Ombudsman - Complaint Form https://share.google/4CMw8Cft0pbHni9eL

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SexxyAli420@reddit

Where are you OP I’m sure one of us is close enough to bring you some real Easter dinner

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The_Wallet_Smeller@reddit

What did they say when you complained?

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zonianjohn@reddit (OP)

The elderly , mentally and physically disabled can’t complain but if you complain it doesn’t matter because admin just blows you off

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mensfrightsactivists@reddit

if you have a family member willing to come bulldog for you it helps. i was at my mom’s facility multiple times a day, not necessarily yelling at staff. but firmly making sure they were paying attention to her needs. idk why a second pair of eyes gets shit done but it does.

are you on a restricted diet for any reason? they had my mom misclassified for the first few days she was recovering from a broken leg and kept trying to serve her pureed sandwiches (not kidding). they might have you noted as a mechanical soft diet unnecessarily?

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00trysomethingnu@reddit

State attorney general

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dev_roe@reddit

The part that's crossed out says "psyche!"

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zonianjohn@reddit (OP)

Potatoes

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otterpoportunity@reddit

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theseedbeader@reddit

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Dude008@reddit

No matter what day of the year that is absolute garbage. Total carbs, guaranteed illness. Wow.

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art_mor_@reddit

That's awful. Did your family bring you anything?

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HeavyArmsJin@reddit

I don’t know why old people in America throw themselves into a nursing home willingly, pretty much all media I consume shows how awful the living conditions are

Is it really that bad to live with your kids

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