Different sleeping needs
Posted by Clearbreezebluesky@reddit | GenX | View on Reddit | 155 comments
Married for over 30 yrs. Husband needs the tv noise to sleep. I used to be okay with it but 3 yrs ago changed jobs and my sleep is critical. The sound distracts me and keeps me awake. My brain is hyper vigilant and my hearing is excellent.
Neither of us wants to wear headphones because we have an adult son with special needs (why my brain is hyper vigilant!) and it’s important that we can both hear the household sounds.
My husband has been sleeping on the couch, but really wants back into the bed and I do miss having him there. He slept in bed last night. The tv kept me awake (and it’s barely audible, and I have a fan next to my head) and I didn’t sleep well at all.
Solutions? 🫤 I’m thinking of maybe getting him a pillow speaker - has anyone tried that?
Mulva1971@reddit
Separate bedrooms saved my marriage. He stays up late, snores, and likes the room warm. I’m a light and hot sleeper and would lie there hating him. We get along so much better now. Sounds like it isn’t rare but people generally don’t admit it to friends/family.
HobieSlabwater@reddit
Same! I miss him but it's for the best.
MegaMiles08@reddit
I got a headband that has speakers by the ears so you can sleep on your sides without it hurting your ears. There's no way I'd be willing to sleep with the TV on all night. Have your husband play something on the headphones on a timer or something. I got the headband because my husband snores and I like nature sounds to drown him out and ear plugs hurt my ear canals.
Expensive_Rhubarb_87@reddit
I have the same. Mt wife’s sleep schedule is wonky. Some nights she can sleep with ear phones, other nights not so much, plays her audiobook through phone speaker.
I use the mask that has headphones. I set a timer on whatever I’m listening to. Hour at most. Only now I find I am waking up when it stops.
jk_pens@reddit
Can you share a link or at least the name of the one you have? Thx
Expensive_Rhubarb_87@reddit
The one I got is from Amazon, called a Music Cozy
MUSICOZY Mulberry Silk Bluetooth... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0D1Q2NDGR?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share
MegaMiles08@reddit
This is what I have, but if you search headband with speakers, there are tons of options.
https://a.co/d/0abKJhW5
jk_pens@reddit
Can you share a link or at least the name of the one you have! Thx
killslikeaninja@reddit
I was also thinking this. Seems like an easy solution.
Seabluele@reddit
Sounds like HE is the one who needs headphones that connect to the tv. That or an iPad to watch tv on…headphones work with those.
InteractionStrict927@reddit
did you not read they dont want headphones cuz they have a special needs child that lives with them?
GoinMinoan@reddit
the conduction headphones don't block anything ambient. stop being a speedbump.
InteractionStrict927@reddit
Stop making it sound like he is on the wrong and doesn't also deserve to sleep how he needs to
GoinMinoan@reddit
stop making it all about Your Feelings.
InteractionStrict927@reddit
Lol it's not my feelings it's his that we should also be concerned about not just hers
GoinMinoan@reddit
did I say ANYWHERE that his didn't matter?
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no. you decided that anyone who didn't agree 100% with Your Answer and Your Feelings about it was Hating On Him.
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it's not about you, pookie. your delicate fee-fees are not part of this.
InteractionStrict927@reddit
Lol Post after post was about how much she needed her sleep and how he should have to change She isn't any more special than he is Get over yourself lol
andyraylan@reddit
Can you wear ear plugs and a sleeping mask? I realize how lucky I am because my husband and I both prefer to sleep with the tv on. We have different heat preferences so we sleep beneath the same sheets but have separate blankets.
jk_pens@reddit
I have a cheap pair of JLab earbuds I got at Walgreens and usually fall asleep with one in listening to music or an audiobook. He could try that.
I looked into super low profile sleep headphones but they all seemed to have bad or at least mixed reviews and cost a lot more than $28.99
InteractionStrict927@reddit
did you not read they dont want headphones cuz they have a special needs child that lives with them?
Few-Pineapple-5632@reddit
You’ve said this after every comment. Do you have an actual solution or just prefer being oppositional?
GoinMinoan@reddit
they've gotta browbeat everyone else into their one-true-solution
*rolls eyes*
InteractionStrict927@reddit
Separate rooms
I_Am_Become_Air@reddit
Not cheap, but definitely contain what I am listening to: Soundcore Sleep earbuds. Wait for a sale to get either model. I sleep on my sides, and the earbuds are fine to sleep on.
Robviously-duh@reddit
Not separate beds yet... but whomever goes to bed first gets the bed, the other gets to choose.. join or go elsewhere.. wife prefers couch if I am snoring.. and I prefer the recliner... we both love waking up next to each other.. it just doesn't happen on a regular basis anymore.
ONROSREPUS@reddit
Best thing my wife and I did was start sleeping in separate beds.
She sleeps with fan on. night light and is always cold so a million and a half blankets and two pillows.
I sleep in dead silence, pitch black and one maybe two covers in the winter with one fairly flat pillow.
You can see how these two things are like fire and ice.
Bflatclar1981@reddit
Yep, separate beds here too. Its been complete lifesaver as we like different firmness of mattress, number of blankets, sheet fabric and my hubs falls asleep in 5 minutes and starts snoring which keeps me awake/tossing/turning.
Evening-Recording193@reddit
Me & my husband sleep in different rooms now. It works for us. When we want to be together we can. When we want our space, we got that too. During the week we have different t sleeping schedules, then on the weekend we r back together. It’s perfect because we r both loners, but we r loners together, lol
Ok_Jellyfish3215@reddit
Ok since I haven’t seen anyone suggest it: what about using a baby monitor that will flash or light up so the husband can use headphones/earbuds and still notice if your child needs attention?
For most people, wearing headphones or earbuds still allows ambient noise in unless you use ANC (active noise cancellation) so he should try it. If your hearing is hyper vigilant you’ll still hear your child also.
sloop111@reddit
If he can hear over the tv without the headset, he can wear a headset at low volume . Sounds like an excuse
InteractionStrict927@reddit
did you not read they dont want headphones cuz they have a special needs child that lives with them?
sloop111@reddit
And did you not see me say that if they can hear them over the TV, they can hear them with the headset on low..or just wear one earbud . The husband could solve this easily.. he sounds selfish
InteractionStrict927@reddit
His sleep is just as important
sloop111@reddit
How is wearing headset, earbud or other device while he watches TV , affecting his sleep?
InteractionStrict927@reddit
She said they need to be able to hear their special needs child
sloop111@reddit
he can hear them over the TV , he'll be fine with other options
InteractionStrict927@reddit
There is a difference between a TV on for background noise and wearing a headset His sleep is just as important I suggest separate rooms
I_Am_Become_Air@reddit
Soundcore Sleep A30 earbuds on Bluetooth have saved my marriage. My husband listens to his electronic music, and I listen to the sea over white noise.
Aggravating-Loss1805@reddit
Wife sleeps with fan on and I use sleep headphones and listen to my headspace app and fall asleep very well.
Phobos1982@reddit
Separate bedrooms.
zoombie_apocalypse@reddit
Yeah, it’s not that complicated. I don’t know why couples get attached to sharing a bedroom when it interrupts one or both of them sleeping.
dirtygreysocks@reddit
For one thing, not everyone has an extra bedroom in their house.
NeighborhoodNo4274@reddit
Another vote for separate bedrooms! Snoring, opposite work schedules, bedrooms too small to fit a king size bed to accommodate 2 humans and 2 dogs, etc… As Paul Bowles wrote in The Sheltering Sky, “Never confuse sex with sleep.”
LaceyBloomers@reddit
OMG YES. We switched to separate bedrooms about 10 years ago and it’s been glorious. Our sex life is better because we’re both getting proper rest. We just meet up in the room with the biggest beds, have our fun, and then separate to sleep. 10/10. Highly recommend.
RemarkableAd3371@reddit
This is the way. My spouse and I have very different sleep patterns and have started doing this and both of us sleep much better now.
Katiecake80@reddit
My husband and I also do this. He has crazy insomnia and likes to listen to podcasts which do NOT mix their audio well so balance is off on everything which wakes me up.
AllieGirl2007@reddit
Hubs has a CPAP machine. I got a good pair of sleeping ear plugs. Don’t hear a thing!
mis_1022@reddit
We moved to separate bedrooms. Honestly I get the best sleep ever.
sweetbaloo23@reddit
Best decision ever. My partner snores like crazy. It saved our relationship when we got separate rooms.
jk_pens@reddit
Partner should maybe get checked for sleep apnea. I snore like a bear without my CPAP and feel much better when I do use it.
sweetbaloo23@reddit
Partner should be checked but he is stubborn and won't go.
I_Am_Become_Air@reddit
Story of my life. He has a CPAP and refuses to wear the mask to get used to the sensations.
I am about to get a CPAP so I might need to eat my words! :)
MelodicToken@reddit
Yep. My partner snores and I NEED sleep to function. We sleep separate.
lastbeat-331@reddit
Put TV on a timer or get him wireless ear buds and he wears one. Have you tried silicone earplugs? Although they block low noise, your hyper vigilance may be sensitive enough to still hear what you need to hear.
pearltx@reddit
I do this. Soundcore has nice sleep buds on Amazon. I wear one and listen to the golden girls all night. Admittedly it’s not comfortable to lay on the side with the earbud in, but I don’t usually sleep on that side anyway so it’s nbd.
I_Am_Become_Air@reddit
I have Sleep A20s and A30s and sleep on my side; what is hurting for you? Maybe I can help?
RareBrit@reddit
We have separate bedrooms.
I snore like a canvas sail being ripped. My wife is a light sleeper. So we have an agreed snuggle time until one of us wants to sleep, then one of us will decant to the other bed.
We've had this arrangement since before we were married. I get a solid eight hours without being repeatedly poked or murdered. My wife usually gets her eight hours as well.
It has resulted in a happy marriage.
frozen_charlotte@reddit
Separate bedrooms. Separate bathrooms. This is the way. (Happily married 19 years in October).
doubleohzerooo0@reddit
Wife and I share a bedroom because that's what we prefer. I have my own bedroom downstairs. I mainly use it as a home pottery studio.
There's been a few nights where I crashed downstairs. Mostly due to toothaches. But yeah, there's absolutely nothing wrong with each having their own bedroom.
Kryceks-Revenge@reddit
This should be normalized. People insisting on sharing a bed because ‘that’s what married people do,’ even if sleep hygiene keeps one or both awake? Is ridiculous.
wwnj1974@reddit
I have tried the pillow speaker and for the most part, it works great. The only issue for us is occasionally when I sleep with my arm / hand under the pillow as well (propping it up enough that sometimes my partner can hear). In that case he prods me to turn it down :). Also, if he likes the tv (and you are bothered by the light), maybe have him try the pillow speaker and old time radio shows (like from the 30s - 50s). They are just like tv (with people playing different characters as well as sound effects). If you have an iphone, the app store has a bunch of apps for them, and you can stream them to the pillow speaker. I found all this when I went thru insomnia issues years ago....
No_Associate_4878@reddit
Why do you both have to be able to hear your son each night?
You could wear earplugs so you hear nothing, or he could wear earbuds that are not noise canceling with a timer so the TV goes off and he's still able to wake up for your son.
chickadee729@reddit
I’d say silence is the default for sleeping so this is his thing to figure out. I wouldn’t even consider sleeping with a TV on… we don’t have one in our bedroom at all.
GalianoGirl@reddit
For me it was not just the volume, the light from a TV was terrible.
Your husband doesn’t need a TV on to sleep. It is cruel for his want to disrupt your need for sleep.
RightLegDave@reddit
That's a lovely compromise
GenX-ModTeam@reddit
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Kryceks-Revenge@reddit
Option 1: separate bedrooms.
Option 2: he can figure it out before returning to the bed. His sleep habits are impacting someone else’s health and potentially financial stability. What is he offering to do about this? If nothing, then see option 1.
Lots of other ideas here without folks suggesting headbands, etc. For him.
Back_Alley420@reddit
My spouse and I start off in bed together ( he snores and I am in menopause and have insomnia) so when he gets snoring and wakes me, he just goes and finishes sleep in a spare room
Slinkystonermom@reddit
Exact same shit-ution here!!
TooDogMom@reddit
There are sleep headphones. Would another solution be some kind of automatic turnoff time? Like if he is falling asleep to the TV can it somehow be set to turn off at 30 or 60 or whatever minutes (like a podcast sleep timer?)
introvertednurse75@reddit
My husband likes the TV on but I want quiet and darkness. We sleep in different rooms. You'd be surprised how many couples do. We are very happily married and love each other but we aren't happy sleeping in the same bed. We did for years, but he got tired of my elbowing him when he snores. He falls asleep immediately and I don't. It just works better with us in different rooms.
L_wanderlust@reddit
Yep! I remember one day my partner said I was disrupting his sleep waking him up when he snores and I was like 😳 I am disrupting YOUR sleep?! sleeping separate is great. It’s hard sharing a bed on vacation now 🤪
introvertednurse75@reddit
Yes, we share a bedroom in our travel trailer. I slept in that bed alone when I was travel nursing so it's hard to share that. Lol
Deer-in-Motion@reddit
My boss and her husband sleep in separate rooms because he sleeps on a waterbed.
introvertednurse75@reddit
They still make waterbeds? I hated those. Wow.
polkastripper@reddit
Same, we both just sleep better in our own beds.
introvertednurse75@reddit
I love being able to stretch out and have my space. I don't mind a snuggle before sleep but even when we shared a bed, I had to have him stop smothering me.....lol. I get too hot and having him so close made that worse. Now that I am menopausal, that's worse. So by myself is so much better.
Ladymistery@reddit
separate bedrooms
spouse and I shared for over 20 years. my sleep was abysmal. needed a new mattress, and we decided to have separate rooms. it's been lovely.
whatsupgrizzlyadams@reddit
Separate bedrooms for the win.
ancientastronaut2@reddit
We are sleep divorced and it's amazing. I sleep so much better alone.
positivepinetree@reddit
My spouse and I have slept in separate bedrooms for years. Spouse uses a CPAP machine and also gets up often throughout the night to use the bathroom. I have RLS and have a difficult time sleeping because of it. Happy solution is separate bedrooms.
Fit-Olive-4680@reddit
A fan?
BuffyBubbles1967@reddit
Doesn't the tv have an off timer? Set it. If he wakes up after he can go back to the sofa or another bedroom.
girl1dir@reddit
Sleep timer on the TV is toooo far down the list. It's an easy solution.
He falls asleep with it on. You set the timer when you come to bed. 15 minutes and off. Boom! Done.
If he wakes up, he needs to extricate himself or rest until he falls asleep.
MaximumJones@reddit
The voices in my head are all the noise I need.
momofonegrl@reddit
We’ve done separate bedrooms for 10+ years and we both love it. If you can’t do that you could try the squishy yellow 3m earplugs. They are the best, can’t even feel them.
MundaneHuckleberry58@reddit
Sleep divorce!
We’ve had separate bedrooms for years. (And honestly? So did my grandparents in the 80s! It’s not a new thing).
Driving_Gloves_On@reddit
Separate bedrooms work amazing for my partner and I! It saves him from getting kicked throughout the night and me from balking him for my sucky perimenopause sleep schedule.
Hey-buuuddy@reddit
White noise machine
t53deletion@reddit
Seconded.
My preferred machine:
https://yogasleep.com/products/dohmclassic
There are many in my home.
twick2010@reddit
I used to fall asleep with the tv on, but my wife hated it. When we moved in together I just turned it off. Took me about a week to get used to it but now it’s just fine.
ahutapoo@reddit
The other room, it's life changing
SnowblindAlbino@reddit
I have a pillow speaker, which I use to listen to audiobooks while falling asleep. My wife can't hear it at all. Works pretty well, at least through the sort of thin pillow I prefer to sleep on. It's bluetooth and has a timer, so it powers down after a set time period.
SuspiciousGenXer@reddit
I second this. I just got a pillow speaker a couple of weeks ago and it's awesome. I got it to pipe in white noise to muffle the blaring tinnitus, but didn't want to blast something so loudly it kept my husband awake. I can hear it an he can't. It's also worked well for watching shows. I do not recommend it as a plain speaker that you'd sit out somewhere because the sound quality like that is horrible, but under a pillow, it works extremely well.
I got mine for $20 on Amazon. I use one of those extra thick, sculpted "old people" pillows and can still hear it just fine, but only in the ear it's closest to.
AlissonHarlan@reddit
Why are you thé one that have to mat h his requirement and not the contrary?
Maga_eats_dick@reddit
I was like this and then I got an iPad and noise canceling ear buds and throw one in. It works best for side sleepers. I’m out in 10 mins tops.
DainasaurusRex@reddit
I second this. I listen to podcasts to fall asleep.
snackingsnek@reddit
Separate bedrooms, you'll never look back.
introvertednurse75@reddit
I agree and we are the same. He has his space and I have mine
mvscribe@reddit
My ex and I had separate bedrooms for a while, then went back into the same bedroom. Then we got divorced. I, too, vote for separate bedrooms.
Kook1811@reddit
This right here!!!!YES
rollinrob@reddit
Separate bedrooms. We've had separate bedrooms in our household for years. My wife and I just retired to Thailand. We had to get a two bedroom because we dont sleep with each other. My wife was like your husband. She needs a TV on and I need the fan. A bonus is that we each have our own that we can go to to chill and relax without the other if we need it
slade797@reddit
My wife and I run not one, but two box fans to sleep.
bibdrums@reddit
I use a sleeping headband that has speakers built it. The speakers can be moved within the headband so the are not directly over your ear canal. I can still hear what’s playing and ambient noise. They work very well, my wife asked me to order her a pair.
ImMxWorld@reddit
Yeah, SleepPhones are the answer here. Especially if you're not bothered by the light of the TV.
Ok-Difficulty-4323@reddit
I came here to suggest this. They're less than $20 and pretty comfortable.
PreviousGolf9541@reddit
Agreed. I sometimes need something to crowd out ear worms and inner chatter. Sleep Phones are the answer (search to find). They are a soft headband with soft Bluetooth speakers built in and a small battery, so no wires. Your bedroom TV can probably connect to these. Your husband should wear this so you can have some quiet. Personally, I like a podcast called Sleep With Me. This set up helped with many sleepless nights and was welcome by my bed partner.
RubyRoze@reddit
I have this issue- needing noise/story to sleep. I have for many years now used Bose earphones, in one ear. I would keep my iPod (now I just use my phone) on the night stand and switch ears as I rolled over. I now use my Bose clips, still one at a time, switch ears when I rolled over. Doesn’t disturb my hubby at all. The pillow speakers are uncomfortable to me and muffled.
Sorry_Lecture5578@reddit
White noise generator or there are some 12h Spotify "podcasts" of just various white noises.
yeahipostedthat@reddit
Separate rooms is the obvious solution but you've stated you're not interested in that. So does he need the TV on all night or just to fall asleep? If it's just to fall asleep he could lay down 20 minutes before you and then you come on and turn off the TV and go to sleep.
Tired_o_Mods_BS@reddit
Most TVs have timers too. Just set it for an hour and you'll both be asleep before you notice it's even gone off.
yeahipostedthat@reddit
I don't think op will be asleep bc she said it bothers her. I definitely cannot fall asleep with the TV going either. My husband likes the TV to fall asleep with a sleep timer and that is why we're in separate rooms.
shooflypie@reddit
The blue light from the TV has a negative impact on sleep. Maybe he can switch to podcasts or audiobooks and a pillow speaker? I listen to podcasts to fall asleep and also to occupy my mind if I wake up in the night. I've been using a pillow speaker for years and it works great for me.
Ok-Entertainment5045@reddit
See if a fan can replace the tv. I find the constant fan noise much better than tv noise
fyodor_mikhailovich@reddit
separate bedrooms. there is a reason so many of our grandparents ended up that way.
funsk8mom@reddit
I need the tv to sleep but it’s on a timer so it’s not on all night, just to fall asleep. My husband snores, talks in his sleep and now has a c pap machine.
The best thing I did was go to another bedroom to sleep. It started out of being super mad at him 1 night, so I slept in another room and it was the best nights sleep ever! I never went back after that. Snuggle time can be important to some people, but sleep is more important. Snuggle during the day
migeek@reddit
We use SONOS speakers to play really high quality waves and brown noise. Gentle fan. If we are not ready for lights out at the same time she has a Nod Pod sleep mask. Even then, TV off. iPad only. It shouldn’t be that hard. The separate room people are a trip.
Tired_o_Mods_BS@reddit
He's not watching it, so the iPad isn't going to help.
daddydillo892@reddit
My wife has a fabric headband with Bluetooth speakers built in. I think she got it on Amazon.
sliight@reddit
Try this
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=relax.sleep.relaxation.sleepingsounds
You can customize the sounds from a ton of options. He can adapt to this, most of us need something to drown out the little sounds that trigger our defense response.
Studies show men listen for things that are dangerous to protect the family, and women will wake from any little thing the kid or baby does to protect it.
scragz@reddit
imagine actually wanting to sleep all night next to someone else snoring and farting. couldn't be me.
I'm waking up on the couch right now myself.
Significant-Deer7464@reddit
We were incompatible sleepers, more so after menopause started. I could spend an hour listing all the differences.
Separate bedrooms was the best thing we ever did.
SoUpInYa@reddit
Tv with a sleep timer?
theBADinfluence2015@reddit
After my shoulder surgery our bed hurt my shoulder, I started sleeping in the spare bed. The spare mattress is much more firm. I tried going back, but found not only did it hurt my shoulder but my back too. I sleep so much better on the firm mattress. Also the spare room is in the basement and I can make it completely dark and quiet. My wife has a air purifier in her room. She likes the hum and light from it. I don't. Its been 3 years. I've completely moved out of the master bedroom. Now I have my own closet and bathroom. We both sleep better this way.
Significant_Leg_7211@reddit
Could your husband listen to something through earphones? So as not to disturb you. That would drive me mad
PaulClarkLoadletter@reddit
My wife and I compromised with white noise machines since I couldn’t sleep with music on.
LocksmithGlass717@reddit
My wife and I haven’t slept in the same bed for over 15 years. Both of us are better rested and love each other endlessly.
Deep-Ad-9728@reddit
Separate bedrooms with identical beds so he doesn’t sleep on a couch.
profmoxie@reddit
My wife needs to listen to a show to fall asleep. She uses her phone to "watch" it, with the brightness down, tucked under her chin. If the volume is low enough, I can barely hear it.
I pop a THC gummy, and I'm out in less than 10 minutes.
jaxbravesfan@reddit
We started sleeping in separate rooms when our youngest moved out and we had a free bedroom. It has been a game changer for us. I have to wake up for work at 4:45, she doesn’t have to wake up for work until 7:30, so I no longer disturb her sleep getting ready in the morning. I like to sleep in a super cold room, she doesn’t. So now I got to put an extra portable A/C unit in the bedroom and sleep at 62 degrees. I have pretty bad tinnitus, so now I can have my white noise machine and box fan blasting and not have to sleep wearing headphones. We’ve both been getting the best sleep of our marriage. If you have a spare bedroom, it might be the best way to go.
panic_bread@reddit
Keep sleeping in separate places. You don’t need to sleep together to have a good relationship. Lack of sleep will ruin your life.
tanhauser_gates_@reddit
2 minutes. Head hits pillow and im out. Always been that way.
Sudden_Idea9384@reddit
Brown noise maker? I have a few and they are great.
SassholeSupreme1@reddit
I’m also one who likes the tv one for sleep. I will get up and move to the guest room when my husband goes to sleep. That way I don’t disturb him plus I don’t have to hear his snoring quite so loudly. It works for us. I’m always up around 3am anyway & don’t go back to sleep till around 6-7.
NoAd2254@reddit
My partner and I have the same issue. He needs the TV off, my mind wont shut off unless I have something else to distract it. Our solution: I use my tablet and watch what I need to. Volume is on low and the glow of the tablet doesn’t bother him. If it’s the glow of the TV, maybe also consider an eye mask?
Lemon-Cake-8100@reddit
Separate sleeping. Have a Spare room? Can you Convert a home office to sleeping area w/a murphy bed? Can you buy a sleeper couch for the living room? Things may not "look pretty" if you create a new sleeping set up, but it must be done - look up what lack of sleep does to your body & brain (its BAD). And ignore the friends/family who hint that your marriage is on the rocks bc you SLEEP separately. "You wanna see a marriage implode? Deny me sleep!"
ZooterOne@reddit
I have tinnitus in one ear and I need some kind of noise in it while I sleep. There are two solutions:
Pillow speaker. A flat speaker under his pillow. Works well if he's a side sleeper. Ultimately I like to flip over a few times, so this wasn't great for my tinnitus.
Sleep headphones. It's very easy to keep the volume very low and only wear one ear. This brand is cheap but it works, and the charge lasts for like 16 hours.
hark75@reddit
Pop a gummy 30 minutes before bedtime guarantee you won’t hear a thing
wire67@reddit
If he want's the bed, HE needs to figure this out. Having light and noise to sleep shouldn't be placed on your partner.
boybrian@reddit
Separate bedrooms or finding a new noise you can both sleep to.
Pigeonofthesea8@reddit
I need some sort of “tv” sound or whatever to sleep, boyfriend hates it. I put a video on my phone with the sound down low and have it close to my ear. I hear it, he doesn’t
Mfsmitty@reddit
I'm not a sleep expert but I play one on Reddit...
Wasatchbl@reddit
Time for separate rooms. You will be happier for the rest of your marriage.
BlownCamaro@reddit
The solution is for you to sleep on the couch because the tv is on in the bedroom. I doubt you will hear it from there.
97Whaler@reddit
Got divorced I sleep Great !
emccm@reddit
No one needs the tv on to sleep. If he thinks he does he can move to another room permanently. It’s crazy that you’re expected to accommodate this BS.
My rule has always been no TV, radio etc. in the bedroom. If you don’t like it then we are not compatible.
Beneficial-Cow-2544@reddit
He should try sleep headphones with white noise.
whirlydad@reddit
Musicozy Bluetooth Sleepmask
PositiveStress8888@reddit
My wife was in hospital as a child, she can wake up at the sound of a strand of hair falling on carpet. I toss and turn
I had a surgery a while back where it was better to sleep apart. We both had the best rest of our lives that week and we haven't slept in the same room since, best thing for our marriage.
blilleyjr@reddit
Have slept in separate bed ions since our dog had to wear diapers before passing. Sleeping in separate bedrooms is a godsend in retrospect. I 100% believe it has helped sleep and my marriage.
Resident-Condition-2@reddit
Separate bedrooms if you can swing it.
Apprehensive_Put4319@reddit
More sexy time. Everyone sleeps well.
caucasian-shallot@reddit
Ill concur on this. Married almost 25 years and more sexy time means too tired to care haha
calmnutz@reddit
Separate bedrooms, if you can afford it.
-Granby-@reddit
A loudish fan? That's what my wife and I use. It is a constant noise so it is easy to get used to vs the TV where the noise and sounds change. That's what wakes you up.