Has anyone else noticed their parents becoming more glued to screens than they ever were before?
Posted by Broad_Sense_4642@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 220 comments
Mine (both 60) used to take the mick out of me for being on my phone too much, now they sit there for hours on their phones/screens and can't concentrate long enough to watch the telly.
I A few friends have said the same about their dads in particular - constantly scrolling news, sport, Facebook, whatever.
Feels like the roles have completely flipped from 10–15 years ago.
Is this just a getting older thing, or have others noticed it too?
AdStreet8083@reddit
Yep.. And it's the older generation who fall for scams when they come across them.
Zorolord@reddit
This infuriates me, the amount of men who cant seem to grasp the 18 year old virgin teen who Mam is ill and their cant afford health care. It drives me insane you cant convince them otherwise.
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
I went to work with a bloke in his 50s that was convinced that he was in love with a girl from China and he sent her all of his money and thought they were going to meet up at some point. It was quite sad :(
Zorolord@reddit
I watched a program in which a man in late 30s was sending his a huge part of his wage to this alledged single mother in Australia (scammer imo). He left America to move and live with this person. The Australian authorities incepted him at the airport. He told them the situation and the Australian authorities suspected this American fella was being scammed, and they voiced their concern to the American fella. He tried ringing this would be lover, he couldn't reach her. I think the Australian authorities allowed him to leave the airport to meet her, which I don't think they should have let him or ar least the Australian authorities should have asked him to check in with them for his safety. I just hope I am wrong, but I am very cynical person.
Ranger_1302@reddit
Why did they intercept him?
Zorolord@reddit
Sorry it wasnt really incepted just border check, they basically asked him business. They didnt believe his story so they interrogated him (and thats how they found out how he was potentially being scammed)
Daveddozey@reddit
Can’t be scammed if you have no money. Kids today are so lucky.
TurnoverResident_@reddit
I would imagine these are the same people who pay for OnlyFans.
AluminiumSandworm@reddit
i think paying for niche pornography and getting scammed in an incredibly obvious way are very different things
TurnoverResident_@reddit
I know someone who runs a ‘OF agency/management’ or whatever you want to call it. OF is so much more than just niche porn pictures/videos. His clients make most of their money having him manage peoples accounts by replying to ‘1 to 1’ messages.
AnonymousTimewaster@reddit
I've got some experience in this field. Depends on the creator as to where they make their money, but PPVs and PTVs are 100% where the big money is. The most successful girls don't even let you talk to them with a subscription, you have to pay per 30 minutes. £80 for 30 mins I think they were charging. For some, that will be a chatter doing it for them as well. Absolutely crazy stuff.
Broadly, there's two types of guy engaging with this stuff. The first is the 'more money than sense' and generally older, probably middle class, maybe has a wife or something that doesn't satisfy them anymore.
The other type of guy is the 'societally left behind'. This is someone who is intensely lonely, perhaps never had a girlfriend (or a female friend even), doesn't have a stable full time job, and often has a learning disability. They become extremely attached extremely quickly, and they have been totally captured by online algorithms. They are chronically addicted and very likely to suffer from anxiety or depression in addition to any other disabilities.
The second type of person is the type I'm extremely worried about.
Imaginary-Hornet-397@reddit
A lot of scams hinge on making human "connection" with the victim. The victim is so lonely or isolated that they end up thinking the scammer is their friend.
AffectDangerous8922@reddit
The people who pay for OnlyFans know they are being scammed, that the girl onscrenn probably isn't even the one typing to them, and they aren't their bfs. Boomers are in complete denial of their gullibility.
jdaammie@reddit
Yep, mine now get annoyed when there isn't enough signal. When I was younger and got a annoyed about such things they'd tell me to get off my phone! My dad's gone the brain rotted route of obsessively sharing reform crap on Facebook.
Specimen_E-351@reddit
Yes, my parents (in their 60s) are like this. They do spend a decent amount of time doing other things without screens though.
I'm in my 30s and I look at/ use my phone quite a bit, but when someone speaks to me or anything else is going on, I'll put it down.
The difference is they don't seem to be able to do this, or will habitually pick it up and start scrolling mid conversation whilst going "uh huh" which is immensely rude and they only realise they are doing it when you point it out. This is sometimes even in conversations they started when you're answering their questions.
It's never a problem out of the house, like in restaurants etc, just at home.
It seems that those who grew up without these objects have a hard time controlling their use, to me.
Imaginary-Hornet-397@reddit
You need to get ahold of his phone and tv remote and start blocking stuff that sets him off.
Specimen_E-351@reddit
Please be serious, he's in his early 60s and still works.
You can't tamper with other people's property without their consent and he'd of course be angry if I put parental controls on his phone.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
I 100% agree. My Dad is always telling me about the latest news thing as soon as it happens, and will then watch the news at 7 and 10 to reinforce the doom loop.
I've written about it here in a humorous way - but I think it is a real problem. https://open.substack.com/pub/coursecorrection1/p/the-rise-of-the-ipad-dad?r=84o6lh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
StrangerWest2756@reddit
Yeah, I’ve noticed this too.
I don’t think it’s just age, it’s that the same apps and algorithms that hooked younger people are now catching up with older generations as well. Endless scroll is designed to keep anyone engaged.
Feels less like a generational thing now and more like everyone’s dealing with the same attention trap.
RaisinRainbow@reddit
60 year olds are Gen X, we digitised the workplace and our personal lives in the early 90s. We are not catching up with tech. Its that modern telly is sh *t compared to what came before and doesn't hold one's attention.
QuantitySharp2662@reddit
I think it depends on the nature of the screen use. My dad has tiktok and seems to get joy from watching the little mini dramas and other clips that pop up, mum enjoys a painting by numbers app thing and some daft phone game.
But sometimes they have both phones playing audio, with the TV on. And neither of them speak unless to complain that the other is being too loud 😂
a_little_confused_v2@reddit
Grim.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
I feel like it is a bit of generational thing. People my age (30) are a bit more clued up on it because we can just about remember what life was like before. Whereas 18-12 year olds have known nothing else and older gens have become slowly hooked by stealth. I've written about this here: https://open.substack.com/pub/coursecorrection1/p/the-rise-of-the-ipad-dad?r=84o6lh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
worotan@reddit
You just sound like you think that you and your peers are superior, and are inventing reasons to validate that.
People older than you can readily remember what life was like before it, and are no more or less likely to be hooked by stealth.
There are other reasons for what is happening in the world than that 30-year-olds are more clued up than everyone else.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
I don’t think my generation are superior at all. In areas like work ethic older gen’s clearly come out on top. I think this is also a function of retirements being longer - people have a lot more time on their hands than those who retired in the past.
Chloe_Jayne@reddit
Did you make this post just so you could link to your blog? You've posted that link in multiple replies now.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
No, I am genuinely interested in people have to say. I am surprised how many people have the same experience. I wondered whether my folks living in a very rural area was the reason, but seems to be more universal than that.
TheBabyWolfcub@reddit
My dad is adamant that me sitting on my PC for 12 hours a day is causing my migraines (I believe they are stress triggered actually), so he’s always ‘you need to stop staring at a screen for so long’ to me. But every time I come downstairs he’s not doing anything but watching Facebook reels of ai slop videos or random other shit like film clips or fail videos with volume up pretty high
SebastianVanCartier@reddit
Yeah my FIL cycles between GBNews, Facebook and NextDoor all day, every day on his phone. TV constantly on too, either sport or more GBNews (or occasionally Sky News). According to my MIL he only goes outside once or twice a week now.
He’s started to send the rest of the family memes and links to obvious AI stuff. He understands AI in principle, or says he does, but cannot distinguish it from real content in practice.
Round_Grand_4716@reddit
My dad seems to have an issue with critical thinking, and doesn't go outside as often either, when he does he finds his echo chamber group.
He sees headlines and doesn't check the source website, same with search results too. Like accidentally signing up for a DVLA subscription scam, and ranting about the DVLA. He would not have it that he had got it wrong. Then tried to scan a random QR code for something which came through the door.
Imaginary-Hornet-397@reddit
Yeah, my dad reposts obvious rage bait, with no source checking whatsoever. I usually comment telling him why it's bullshit and to knock it off.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
Sounds exactly like the experience I have written about here: https://open.substack.com/pub/coursecorrection1/p/the-rise-of-the-ipad-dad?r=84o6lh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web Sports and 24/7 news are a deadly combo
Stroud458@reddit
I do find it quite ironic that your article has an AI-generated image as the first thing you see, given the topic and comment you're replying to.
No-Taro-6953@reddit
My mum went through a period of being addicted to Facebook. Constantly posting to project a highlight reel version of her life.
Every dinner or outing, she'd make sure she'd check in so people knew.
Big life events, shed post about. She was barely involved in my wedding but posted the day after as though she'd been involved in the planning and prep and was a key figure for the day.
She brags about our life events and achievements on Facebook, without really offering much praise or encouragement in person.
It's bizarre for sure
KayleeWitherspoon@reddit
yeah that part is what makes it feel kinda sad tbh. it’s not even just the screen time, it’s like… who they’re doing it for.
the whole posting like they’re super involved but not actually showing up in real life is such a weird disconnect. like you end up feeling like a prop for their facebook instead of, you know, their kid.
i’ve seen similar with older relatives and it’s always the same vibe, loads of public pride not much actual presence. kinda sucks honestly.
Imaginary-Hornet-397@reddit
Keeping up appearances.
DuckMagic@reddit
My mum is the same! She started a long time ago though, when I was still in my teens. She took no interest at all in my hobbies but would steal my drawings and post photos of them on her social media. She'd put up drawings I did of my online friends and people would ask "who are these people" and she'd literally comment "I don't know I didn't ask her" :/
If I'd ever sent her a photo of me and a boyfriend (or later my husband), my pets, something I made, a holiday, everything would get uploaded onto her social media without permission. We had many conversations about it. Meanwhile she continued to be completely self centered and took zero real interest in my life.
There was a whole bunch of actual abuse and neglect in my childhood, but this pattern of behaviour was actually a big reason I lost hope that she would actually ever act like a decent parent or even a pleasant enough person to be around.
I'm approaching two years since I've stopped talking to her.
No-Taro-6953@reddit
Same. My mum was very negligent and abusive.
during my wedding, she wasn't really involved and didn't play a big part on the day itself. We went through the motions, she got a mention in my husband's speech, she sat at the top table.
And that seemed enough for her. The facade of her having a prominent role in my life means more to her than having an actual meaningful role in my life.
In the past I'd kinda assumed she did love me, she was just immature and going through a difficult period etc etc.
But since then, I've started to think that she may not love me in the normal sense, in the way a mother should. She's never been able to make me or my siblings a priority.
She's never seemed truly heartbroken at the fact I barely see her, and certainly never enough to apologise or take any accountability or make any changes. So I figure she actually probably just isn't pained all that much.
She's able to avoid acknowledging it by engaging in a pretend world in her mind, and posting online is part of that pretence.
Sad, really.
My mum lives in a large house, any normal mother would make it as welcoming as possible and invite her adult children and grandkids round for family get togethers. God knows she has the room. Yet it's just never happened, she's never cared enough to make it happen. I haven't set foot in her home in 6 years.
Secure-Property4926@reddit
Good lord. I could have written it word for word. The day I did turn up in her massive house just before Christmas with the kids, she neglected to even offer my son a drink and hadn’t thought to get any food in the kids like and there wasn’t even a Christmas tree up. Then some half hearted moaning that we don’t ever go for Christmas (the whole thing is about her wanting us to allow her to be a good granny rather than actually being a good granny). I wonder why we don’t?
DuckMagic@reddit
My heart breaks for you, I know the pain of having a mother who just doesn't give a shit about her kids but loves herself too much and is desperate to convince other people that she is brilliant. I've spent my life imagining a wedding where my parents would make a surface level appearance and be chuffed as long as they got photos, I dreaded it for years. So glad that I ended up getting married without them and I no longer need to imagine the disappointment of my future kids when granny and grandad can't be bothered to look up from their phones to acknowledge them.
I hope you have plenty of good people around you to offset your mum's shittiness.
strolls@reddit
I don't know if it's because I don't have many contacts on there, but Facebook mostly shows me group posts and short video reels these days. The videos are very addictive.
kaybelmerkel09@reddit
yeah altho if you ask her about it she says she wants her family and friends to think shes happy cuz then theyre happy ✌️
Severe-Ad8323@reddit
I’ve experienced this also.
CryptoRoast_@reddit
I find this painfully sad. I mean, we all enjoy an occassional ego wank but but damn.
Pilbzz@reddit
I mean yes. I don’t think it is their fault though. These apps/smart phones are designed to be addictive. They’ve just fallen into the trap like the rest of us.
LambonaHam@reddit
It's still their fault. They're still making a choice.
Excusing that is dangerous.
Imaginary-Hornet-397@reddit
The trouble is, at what point does it no longer become a choice, and instead become an addiction? I may have chosen to download Reddit, but Reddit set up their app to feed their users constant dopamine hits that would get people addicted to it. And at a certain point, that addiction takes hold. That's why I'm all for banning social media for under 16's.
im_just_called_lucy@reddit
For me it’s interesting how older generations who completely developed a frontal cortex (up to age 25) without the internet become addicted to the internet.
As a Gen Z adult who grew up with these addictive technologies, I remember screen time being restricted. Responsible parents of the time did that and told their kids to turn their games consoles an hour before bed or to spend some time playing outside, particularly during the school holidays. I don’t know how common it is for people my age but I try and have at least 1 hour a day without a screen. I try and go for a walk or read or cook/bake without screens. My childhood trained me to be more disciplined when it came to screen time.
I think for these middle aged and older adults who didn’t grow up with the internet and the only addictive screens they had were the television, it’s difficult to be disciplined when it comes to screen time. They didn’t grow up with parents telling them to take time away from their online devices and so that never became part of their growing up routine to have time away from a screen. When these new technologies emerged when they were well into adulthood, they didn’t have any “training” when it came to using them and so they don’t have much control when it comes to stopping themselves scrolling during family times or times when it’s really rude to scroll like at a restaurant or cinema. This lack of “training” from school or parenting during the time of devices existing also explaining why these people are more likely to fall for scams, why they’re less reluctant to generative AI use and why they don’t understand internet etiquette (like why it’s bad to post children’s face uncensored online).
ukrepman@reddit
I agree with everything you're saying, even though I have no idea if it's true or science backs it up.
The 'internet etiquette' thing is the biggest to me -- I had a massive argument with my dad about him posting videos on Facebook of my young nephew naked. He said it was harmless and will be funny when he's older to look back on, whereas my point was, even if you know everyone on there, you're private, and are 100% sure they arent pedos (you can never be 100% sure, I learned that the hard way) it is still weird. And pointless. Who wants to watch that video?
GarethGore@reddit
I'm 34, my sister is I think 6 years younger than me and I had to give her the internet safety talk, she was on kik and speaking to people and I was the one who had to instruct her to block guys who got creepy, block them when they sent unsoliticited pics etc etc. she was like 14. My parents were just like "awwwww, I'm so glad she's meeting people"
I was like ........
strolls@reddit
People weren't taught it when they were growing up, and most people seem to be incapable of simply being considerate through independent thoughtfulness.
If you ban a professional spammer from a subreddit you moderate they will never ask to be unbanned because they know the game - they know their marketing isn't welcome, but they know it earns them money, so they just don't care.
People who post referral codes for a kickback, on the other hand - bank switching offers and stuff like that - usually try to justify it by saying they were "just trying to help people out". People who post "how do I fix my PC" to every computer-related subreddit, irrespective of the question's relevance - they just don't get it. They get really confused when you ban them for it, because why the fuck can't they post "my computer won't boot" to the wifi networking sub? It simply doesn't occur to them to search properly, find an appropriate forum, choose a post title that explains the problem clearly.
You know how you sometimes see photos of litter in the developing world, everyone tosses their trash on the street or in the nearest stream? I swear, everyone would be like that if we weren't socialised into not littering by our parents and public awareness campaigns. Most people are careful with their trash because they've been trained like dogs not to litter, and because of social stigma, rather than out of any concern for the environment or other people.
AffectDangerous8922@reddit
It's easy to tell if anyone on your feed is a pedo. Ask how much money they make. Only rich people are pedos.
My evidence: How many poor people have been named as abusers in Those Files? And how many rich people are named as the victims? I rest my case your honor. Wealthy = Pedo.
strolls@reddit
That's not really very much.
The people we observe as "addicted" to a screen could be spending several hours a day without one that we're not seeing.
AffectDangerous8922@reddit
Social Media companies hire gambling psychologists from places like Vegas to help design their apps and to get people hooked. It just took them longer to get the mix right for the Boomers, that's all it was.
Kuddkungen@reddit
FYI, the thing about the frontal cortex being "fully developed" at 25 is a myth.
https://www.sciencefocus.com/comment/brain-myth-25-development
Imaginary-Hornet-397@reddit
My mother always complains about my dad being on his phone. Me too, if I'm staying for a visit, and I'm on my ipad working. She conveniently forgets she has the tv on constantly, and controls the remote.
demsdftba@reddit
The other day I was trying to talk to my mum and found myself saying ‘please can you stop scrolling and listen to me?’ - oh how the tables have turned
SadAnnah13@reddit
Oh yes, mine is far more attached to her phone than I was as a teenager. And she has the TV on from the second she wakes up, until the second she goes to sleep.
GarethGore@reddit
my dad is 65 and retiring this year, my guy fucken loves brain rot. He's on fb reels all the time, just watching those shit tier AI slop videos. Its constant.
craftyorca135@reddit
We all watch a film in my house if its a good film. If it's on tv with adverts, we'll go on our phones through the ads and watch the film once its on again.
bloodsoakedgown@reddit
Yes my dad is glued to his phone. Yet still ignores my calls lol.
TrainingLow9079@reddit
Yeah but me too so....can't judge them
phetea@reddit
The generation that told me to get off my ps2 after an hour because it was bad for my health won't put their bastard phones down for half an hour now.
My mother scrolling Facebook for recipe-slop and posting weird arse filter photos of her with her face in the sun or whatever and my father...i kid you not...putting hundreds of hours into "block blaster" and falling victim to adverts for new games worse than a 8 year old. Madness.
Known-Stop-2654@reddit
Agreed. I feel like the adults are getting as screen affected as Kids.
d3gu@reddit
Nope, if anything my dad is outside doing stuff way more recently (he's 65). My mum died 6 years ago so she's obviously not glued to her phone.
EmilyNook@reddit
Yes I agree. It makes me frustrated that governments are only looking to reduce under 16s using social media when it’s not only the under 16s who have the problem. Its literally all of us, and especially those who might have a bit too much time on their hands like people who are retired.
Instead of focusing on the under 16s I wish they’d start tackling the real war which is to use legislation to get websites to stop using known addictive or attention shortening behaviours for all content and all ages. It’s a near impossible goal as it requires worldwide unity and worldwide regulation. But there are an awful lot of small design changes that could be introduced to stop addictive qualities online, it’s just that it’s also going to cost companies billions in lost eyeballs so no country wants to begin to do it.
Character_Life840@reddit
I'm addicted to the scroll, and so is my dad. He's 86! Interestingly, though, my 15 year old and her group of friends are not. They use their phones mainly to have a group chat (we're rural, they all live miles apart). So they basically hang out over the phone, drawing, reading (actual books!) and doing their homework together. It's very wholesome and way better than doomscrolling. I do think it's funny though, when there's complete silence punctuated by the odd word because they're all reading their own books, whilst hanging out on the phone, .
PureHugeJobbie@reddit
It’ll stem from them being retired and therefore having more time on their hands and when you’ve got instant dopamine at your finger tips they’ll get sucked in to the addiction
LizardPosse@reddit
My Mother (62) recently bought a Switch and has accumulated 250 hours on Breath of the Wild and Hogwarts Legacy in the last 3 months.
Never really gamed before? Just fancied it. It’s total madness.
byjimini@reddit
Yep. Parents are retired and spend their time on Facebook. They get their laptops out whilst we’re visiting and have to peer around them to see us.
Ok_Pangolin1908@reddit
Yes - they lack self awareness and conversation about it.
williamg209@reddit
Yes me (26) and my grandparents (70ish) go to a coffee shop they sit on their phones on quora which is like a over 50s reddit, I try and talk to them and they are more interested in the questions and story's then anything, and at restaurants and wherever else
emimagique@reddit
Omg my dad used to love quora
ManicWolf@reddit
I guess I should be glad that my mum (69) hates computers. She just uses her phone as a phone and has no interest in the internet side of it (and is always cursing about how everything is done on computers these days). She'd much rather spend her time watching TV or gardening.
ollyollyollyoioioi@reddit
caught my dad using chatgpt earlier and it felt like walking in on your child doing something creative. Like I just stood in the corner, smiling away, feeling all proud and remembering how I showed him how to use it. I much prefer him spending his time learning what the settings are on the appliances than watching brainrot videos about german shepherds that do everything but talk.
DeadlyTeaParty@reddit
My parents are in their late 70s and 80s, they tend to sleep a lot.
Huge-Astronomer825@reddit
My mum is sooooo addicted to tiktok
No-Door-3181@reddit
All my mom shares now is AI videos and images and it honestly saddens me so much… as someone who used to be a graphic designer I’ve told her how bad AI is but I don’t think she can’t tell the difference between a real picture and a fake one anymore
NobDeRiro@reddit
One of my older friends is constantly sharing blatant AI politics videos, it’s getting infuriating
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
Same as people sharing these fake ragebait clips. It's bewildering how some people can't spot it.
NobDeRiro@reddit
It baffles me how they can’t tell!
joshii87@reddit
Glaucoma.
Hame_Impala@reddit
A lot of older people seem particularly susceptible to proper AI slop.
Not that youngsters aren't at all, but it's noticeable.
Stunning-Tour-919@reddit
Oh gosh, I'm one of these parents - but I have to use an Ipad as the phone screen is too small for me to see comfortably !!
onlywanted2readapost@reddit
Yes. My mum came to stay with us for a week to see my new son. She spent her time looking at her phone. Posed for a photo of her feeding him, but didn't actually feed him just gave the bottle back and went back to her phone.
smiffy197@reddit
Yep my parents are both late 60s and it's honestly mind boggling, and I don't even think they realise. My Dad will actually sulk if you ask him not to be on his phone, it's really sad.
A couple years ago we went to a carvery for father's day and my sister's birthday, and they spent the whole time before the food came on their phones. They did look up for a few minutes to loudly complain about a man on another table wearing a cap in the restaurant, like this was in some way significantly more rude than just ignoring your family completely.
BatmansLarynx@reddit
Yep. I hate it.
odegood@reddit
I tell my dad this all the time. He's in his 60s and his attention span is dead
Immortal__Joe@reddit
Nope. Mine spent a ton of time sitting in front of the television while I was growing up.
I honestly remember waking up from the programing during a commercials and just looking into their vacant stares.
SupervillainIndiana@reddit
Yeah my parents are like this and unfortunately my husband is still a bit like it too. So when we go to visit my parents, I try to stay off my phone/tablet but then as soon as one of my parents and/or my husband bring theirs out, the other two follow and then conversation totally dries up. I end up giving up and reaching for mine too.
A bonus annoyance is my dad and my husband have no issue playing videos that nobody else asked to watch. I actually called them out on it last time we were visiting. It stopped the video watching, but didn't stop the endless scrolling sadly.
bahumat42@reddit
I think this is an everyone issue more than any particular age bracket.
I have to make an effort to not do it myself.
James_Vowles@reddit
yep, my mum used to watch a lot of TV but now she can spend the whole day just being on her phone
Orange_Codex@reddit
My mum's gone full-bore mental with the GBNews / YouTube ragebait cycle.
Although to be fair, she was always a bit mental.
jolteonjuice@reddit
Yeah I've noticed my parents & grandparents have fallen into the same trap. Almost every conversation now is about "the immigrants" or "them LGBT people".
It's just sad.
MutinousMango@reddit
My mum is on her iPad 24/7 it seems now, even takes it to the loo with her. The other day I watched her using Facebook on her iPad, and then she opened Facebook on her phone at the same time. Madness!
TombsyB@reddit
That’s worrying…
BuxeyJones@reddit
Yeah 100% my mum is obsessed with Facebook and iPhone games
lazenbooby@reddit
I nip in to see my parents
We chat for 5 minutes
They spend 20 minutes glued to their phones
I go home
"We never seem to see you much"
Kanebass98@reddit
My mother (50) use to constantly talk to me about how much time I spend on my phone while she does the exact same thing. Typical hypocrisy
Dazz316@reddit
Your mother probably doesn't the energy and mobility to do things like you did when you were a kid, and while she's doing it, she may be aware she too needs to stop. I am, I've been trying to cut out shorts and stuff as it just consumes my time in a way I don't want it too.
strolls@reddit
She's 50, mate. Not 100. Takes me about an hour to cycle 12 miles, on a Dahon folding bike (like this one), and I am not really very fit.
Dazz316@reddit
Is she still telling you to not be on your phone so much or was that years ago when you were a teen? I bet you had a ton more energy as a teen when she was telling you this stuff.
strolls@reddit
I'm not the person you were replying to.
I was just saying that being 50 doesn't automatically (or "probably") make you into a potato, lacking "mobility".
50-year-olds are perfectly capable of exercise and other activities. Lots of the 50-year-old women on my Tinder are playing padel tennis 2 or 3 times a week.
Dazz316@reddit
You are right, but is the average 50 year old as fit as a teen?
Most parents saying "you're on that phone too much" are saying it to their children when they aren't adults.
Kanebass98@reddit
I did say I wasn't a kid in my reply
Kanebass98@reddit
Oh my mother said this to me as an adult. Not as a kid. And she is also very active still. Gardening in her allotment. Going on hikes. Good stuff like that. Doesn't stop her from barely holding together a conversation when I visit her because someone tagged her in a post on Facebook.
Chronically_Quirky@reddit
Same!
"You're always on your bloody phone!"
How the tides have turned.
jolteonjuice@reddit
Yeah, worst thing I ever did was buy them smartphones. They used to go out and do stuff but now they just sit and scroll all day.
I even suggest going places and it's just "what's the point?".
AssumptionBudget279@reddit
Yep, my dad’s especially bad.
I essentially told them I’m asexual when I was a bit drunk, I wasn’t planning to tell them anytime soon, it was a big personal moment for me, my mum was supportive but my Dad?
He was sitting right in front of me, they both were and he just ignored me and stared at his screen.
I gusss it’s better than him being disgusted or tell me I’m wrong and it’s just a phase but still hurt.
Revolutionary_West56@reddit
Yes! When I watch tv with my parents I tell my mum off as she’s always on her phone !
algbop@reddit
My dad (68) is obsessed with Reels. I’ve tried gently discouraging him but he is locked IN.
Useful_Pass_9423@reddit
Havent we all?
Narrow_Turnip_7129@reddit
My mum doesn't but she's never been very techy. She's definitely more 'attached' to her phone now thi even tho she has a landlines- she doesn't really use Internet and doesn't have data but uses WhatsApp and messaging mostly (not excessively).
My dad's for decades used computers (not super tech savvy tho) and I noticed he's on his phone lots more now and reads and watches a lot of stuff on Internet now.
Once caught him watching an AI vid(i would tell just hearing the voice from another room) - when I tried to talk civilly about it at that moment ge started getting super worked up insisting it wasn't AI how could I know etcetc then refused to share the video with me and started slamming doors. It was bizarre.
My friends parents are a bit more tech savvy and seemingly eternally on their phones(whether it be chatting to people or watching stuff).
Very interesting and curious change of times. I must, ofc, add a disclaimer that I'm perpetually on the Internet and usually doing things on 3 different screens most of tbe time(watching TV, playing on laptop, reading and scrolling on phone).
Bookman8@reddit
Its probably an age thing. 20+ years ago the elderly were glued to the newspaper. Now newspapers have been replaced with phones.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
a newspaper didn't automatically update every few seconds
Linkyjinx@reddit
But they had libraries and encyclopaedias to get more information. I grew up before mainstream web was common, daily papers with classified sections, P.O. Boxes and phone numbers. Then weekly or monthly magazine summaries for overviews, ezines and unofficial photocopied stuff was the equivalent of news letters, rave was spread a lot by leaflets in 80s/90s most didn’t have web, we have ceefax and oracle lol 😂
mothsugar@reddit
"Dad, put down the encyclopaedia and talk to us"
Fun-Marionberry9907@reddit
I can’t get my parents off theirs. My 3 year old will be desperately trying to play and get their attention but they will be face down in the phone. If they do look up and engage, they’re back on the phone within minutes. It makes me so sad for him.
They’ve always been awful for ignoring people though, the phone is just another means for them to not bother with anyone.
Champagne_Bunnny@reddit
I'm currently sitting with my parents at easter and we are all on our phones😂
Dependent_One6034@reddit
Yes. Scarily so... Had to get power of attorney over my mother because of the addiction. Thousands of pounds spent on facebook adverts for items that either didn't arrive or for things that were not even close to what was described, thousands of pounds spent on Farmville and other little games. My brother once overheard her explaining to a random phone scammer all of her details. All of them. She has got better, But we still have literally had to childlock her devices and make it so she can't send/spend money. If she wants to buy something, she can - we just asked that she check through us first.
We had diet pills ordered (Haven't tested them, but 100% they are bs), we had underwear which is supposedly the best thing ever ordered.
It's almost as if the internet today is built to scam the elderly.
putowtin@reddit
I've just spent a few days at the coast with my mum and dad, I'm running around after then and look after their dog whilst mum can't put her phone down!
guhj12345@reddit
I do notice it in my parents and in-laws.
But lets be honest - we're all addicted to our phones in some shape or form no matter our age.
It takes genuine willpower to put the thing down when youre in "downtime". Every spare minute everyone reaches for their phone. And here i am now!
Its depressing and doesn't feel like there is a way back.
louwyatt@reddit
I think everyone in general is getting more glued to the screens. Its because they're extremely addictive and most other activities cost more and more.
There's a growing trend of parents restricting access to phones, consoles, PC, etc, but not offering an alternative.
midgetman166@reddit
And that wont work unfortunately, kids are surrounded by screens from the moment they're born, whether it be at home or at school (now a lot of it is done on iPads and laptops). There is also the issue it creates around bullying (even when I was a kid you were shunned for not being up to date with the latest XBOX 360 or PS3) and the jealousy the other way around (going to friends houses and seeing they have a console and fit in with everyone because of it). It's a really difficult topic as Pandora's box has been open for over 20 years now and you can't just shut that box.
louwyatt@reddit
Banning access to phones, consoles, etc, just leads to the kids being an outcast. I also don't think limiting works unless you offer alternatives for them to do. They just end up having positive experiences on tech and negative experiences of being restricted from tech. You've got to make their experiences away from tech more exciting/rewarding than time with tech. Where people mess up is they do this from a young age. If you give a kid a tablet for 10 hours a day when they're a toddler, its going to be hard to get them to stop.
midgetman166@reddit
Id say the biggest issue is the lack of third spaces nowadays, there's nothing for kids to do outside anymore apart from loiter about. I'm partly to blame through my work for being suspicious of large groups of kids (work in retail loss prevention) loitering about and causing trouble. Gone are the days of the youth clubs where they could all go and play pool or ping pong or whatever, now a large group of kids outside is a cause for concern and they're unwelcome.
louwyatt@reddit
There are still third spaces these days like arcades, libraries, skate parks. There has been a significant decline in them and their use. This is mainly due to parents increasing not wanting their kids out on their own due to fears.
Amazing-Heron-105@reddit
This is overblown imo. It's probably safer for kids be outside than it used to be. When I was younger there'd be roaming packs of kids walking around often looking for a fight you don't really see that any more.
williamg209@reddit
I find I hate modern apps and websites everything feels like it's ai coded,, websites are slow baggy. Sluggish even in decent pcs, android apps often to buggy and slow, even major social media apps, makes me wanna go back 15 years to when I was 11
AffectDangerous8922@reddit
It took a while for the social media companies to nail down the mix to hook boomers to their screens, but they got there in the end.
The younger generation are starting to wake up from their screen induced stupors and are mediating there own usage to a more healthy level. Boomers have a lot of learning and self exploration to discover this happyedium, but I am not sure they have enough time left.
threeleggedcats@reddit
Had exactly the same thing happen
Real-Box-7144@reddit
100% why do they also believe all the crap they read too? My Mum has become delusional with all the shit she’s digesting. She’s become a religious nut, she thinks the end of the world is going to happen… I’ve told her if it does what the hell you want me to do about it? It’s strained our relationship sadly. I do try but it’s so hard when they refuse to acknowledge everyone on the internet pushing their shit is behind an agenda. They want clicks because = revenue.
fishonthemoon@reddit
My mom is glued to Instagram and falls for every single AI ad selling makeup or skincare. She’s been scammed out of money by at least one of these “companies.” It’s sad.
Okhlahoma_Beat-Down@reddit
It's well worth spending a little while introducing your parents to the sheer risk of AI deepfakes and AI content.
My mum was genuinely horrified to realize how easily shit can just be faked these days, and my Gran didn't even know technology existed that could generate videos and images.
Consistent-Pirate-23@reddit
Yep and then it’s “everyone is on their phones when you go out”
No-Problem-1354@reddit
I’m 35 and always glued to my phone. It’s a habit I picked up during the pandemic when everyone was stuck at home and I’m trying to reduce my usage but it’s tough,
treesofthemind@reddit
Yeah, and I’ve had more older people accidentally walk into me in the street on their phones compared to younger ones.
Equivalent-Good-7693@reddit
Last Christmas at my sisters house
My parents (70’s) turn up,within a couple of minutes they’re sat down and on their phones playing videos out loud or sodding Candy Crush
And that’s it,for hours on end,heads down not even acknowledging the grandkids or anything going on
Even at dinner,gawping at their phones
I couldn’t bear the prolonged bouts of silence,everyone slack jawed staring at a little screen,so I left early,what exactly is the point of us all being together??
Ricky_Martins_Vagina@reddit
Nah I'm too glued to my own screen to notice.
Noticed a lot of posts in here about it though, over the last day or two 🤔
Equivalent_Grade_352@reddit
Yep, I don't even visit my parents that much anymore as it's just be talking to myself as my mom what's bullshit ai videos on Facebook. Considering they spent sk many years trying to convince not to spend so much time on tech they are literally glued to this bs
Linkyjinx@reddit
It’s not bullshit AI to them EG, they find it funny and half know it’s having a joke, you don’t need to cut off contact with a person that did their best and trying to raise you, under a lot of social pressure- people in the past didn’t have it easier, they were treated like shit from the grand parents that have chilled out with age, it’s a media trick to reduce compassion imo.
Equivalent_Grade_352@reddit
I haven't cut off contact I just don't see them as much and when I do I make sure we plan something where we are out walking about. My mom can't even sit in Costa long enough for the coffee to arrive before she's back on her phone, so it always ends up me and my dad talking.
Any conversation about it just immediately turns into "I guess I'm terrible" no your just addicted to your phone and are actively wasting what time we do have together to watch nonsense
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
Exactly what I have written about here: https://open.substack.com/pub/coursecorrection1/p/the-rise-of-the-ipad-dad?r=84o6lh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
If I ever bring up what they used to say to me, they brush it off as the world changing!
_Odaeus_@reddit
Yes it's a thing with my 70+ parents too. They spend hours on their tablets every evening. Though before they were only watching ITV so it's probably better!
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
is it though? TV is more of a shared experience that you can talk about. Screen are so much more private and insular.
buy_me_a_pint@reddit
I still live at home my parents spend a lot of time on their tablets
My Dad does not use social media
My Mum uses games, Facebook etc.
With the tv on in the background , playing to it self
jimiblakk@reddit
Yup. Both of them. Mum's not so bad, but dad in particular. Constantly glued to his phone. Has a smartwatch so he never misses a notification. The only time it's not in front of his face is when he's driving or asleep.
LinuxMage@reddit
I'm 53 and have been on reddit since 2008, and also spend a large part of my day on discord.....
GordonW25@reddit
Moved back with parents for the past few months whilst I’m moving home and I’ve definitely noticed this. Both parents are early 60’s and their screen use is far more than mine and suspect more than even teenagers tbh. Especially at night sitting watching something on the tv they will both just sit consistently scrolling instead of watching the tv or talking. Still quite jarring with my dad who up until about ten years ago was staunchly against social media (Facebook in particular)
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
Yes - I think mine are probably using their phones 3x4 times longer than me these days. They can't focus to watch tv at all.
Toc-H-Lamp@reddit
As a retired 68 year old there's not a huge amount for me to do during the day. I admit I probably spend more time on Reddit than I should, but I still manage to keep up with my guitar (bass) practise (couple of upcoming gigs), and build / maintain / update a web site I put together to deliver stats to a local nature reserve, and I'm in the final stages of producing a book of puzzles for a local charity.
I should probably spend more time with my grandchildren, but whenever I go round to see them they seem to be glued to their screens. I rarely look at my phone when in company.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
that sounds a lot more productive than many people who are a lot younger than 68!
Mccobsta@reddit
My mum always looks at her phone when she's at mine so everything Facebook owns is blocked by dns now
She's way more present
xjezika@reddit
When my parents come over it takes them about 20 minutes until the two are deep in their phones, and the conversation dries up.
Its kind of interesting to watch, its like a long version of a robot being switched off
Danmoz81@reddit
And after about three hours you reach the point of saying "don't you have somewhere to be?"
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
Same. You get a good 30 mins before the screens come out. I've written about this here: https://open.substack.com/pub/coursecorrection1/p/the-rise-of-the-ipad-dad?r=84o6lh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Icy_Significance6436@reddit
This happens when I visit my parents. So I just sit there and look and them blankly till they notice.
Linkyjinx@reddit
It’s addictive and older people tend to own the most capital and own homes, so that either gets funnelled into eldercare expenses and or vacations then if you are lucky you get a couple grand through the will after house has been sold hence social media is in the niche of draining your parents pension money, but it’s them or foreign scams I guess, great choice…
A thing called SKI was a popular term in UK for older people in the 1990s it stood for “Spend the Kids Inheritance” it was a largely a pre web media fad encouraging Boomers to spend Generation X potential money as they were all “lazy” anyway - the lazy propaganda of younger people at the time was drilled into boomers( people over over 68?), hence rather than give their X kids help onto the property ladder, like their parents gave them, they were told to leave it to cats charities or their grand kids instead. “you don’t deserve any money” is mantra for imposter syndrome feeling with parents in some cases- they are constantly told they were idiots.
Your 60 year old parent is probably “self medicating” with Facebook likes when not in the shitty job with a pension that could disappear at any time, as was another UK thing.
cjay6489@reddit
Yep. Come over to visit the grandkids and my mum is glued to Facebook for the afternoon.
Jaded_Leg_46@reddit
Gen X have always been in the middle with boomers / generation Jones and gen Y, millennials and gen Z so we've seen the progression and understand it and that's why Gen X tend to group Gen Y, millennials and Gen Z together as the generations born in the technical age, Gen X saw the end of the analogue age and the start of the technical age. Boomers have always been slow to adapt to new technology in the 80's and 90's which includes microwaves, CDs, old school mobile phones and satellite tv - I kid you not which is why the majority of Boomers saw the internet as another fad that would die off.
Bear in mind that technology progressed a lot quicker than usual between 2000 and 2010 to the point where technology started to became easier to use, especially if it's explained in a way that they can relate to from the analogue age. I think the fact they could no longer exist in the analogue age forced them to begrudgingly adapt to new technology. No more paper forms, shopping from home because shops no longer used to stock items in shops but sold them online and of courses emails but I think the biggest influence was social media, being able to contact everyone from one place was amazing to them and as Facebook began adding games and other apps they progressed with that.
Fullchimp@reddit
In-laws. It’s awful, ignorant and terrible for them. Messing around on Candy Crush or whatever and Facebook for hours is an absolute net loss to their lives. Almost any other hobby or time sink is better than that.
CryptoRoast_@reddit
Seeing people spend their retirement sp badly makes me genuinely sad. "Golden years" :(
Fullchimp@reddit
Among other reasons, I think they’re a ‘high trust’ generation, so explaining that these apps are designed to suck you in by way of neurotransmitters sounds like Ted Kaczynski to them.
CryptoRoast_@reddit
I agree. I also think it's the generation which may have not had too much dopamine stimulation and it didnt take much to get them hooked.
Fullchimp@reddit
That’s an interesting one, they’ve both given up smoking over the last few years and in the middle of quitting vaping. No real vices other than those..
luckyloz@reddit
Older relative in her 60s spends all day glued to Facebook. Watches those videos with a robotic voice reading fake Reddit stories with Minecraft parkour or subway surfers plays lmao. Also many clips of Chinese and Korean dramas with a shitty ai dubs over the top.
Believes anything she sees on there as well unfortunately.
Forget screen time limits for your kids, we need to start doing it for parents and grandparents instead of
Voltalox@reddit
My mum has gone the opposite way which is nice. She was never one to be glued to a screen anyway, but I don't think she watches any telly at all now and the only social media she has on her phone is WhatsApp. She spends most of her time doing physical jobs like gardening, cementing, repaving etc (her husband is a builder/carpenter/lots of things) and she's very active. I think it bodes well!
ShabbatShalom666@reddit
My mum is fully entangled in Facebook politics. She likes every single thing on her feed and takes it as a personal insult if someone doesn't like her post, it's pretty insane.
Though she claims she hates Facebook lol.
pickindim_kmet@reddit
Same in my family. It's hard for me to have a proper conversation with my parents because there's always something on their phones. Between each other though, they complain the other isn't paying attention and are oblivious to their own screen obsession.
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
yes - they become oblivious!
Right_Ambassador_877@reddit
No younger people are way more into there phones.
iSkiia@reddit
My mum (60s) would send me several videos (some 10mins plus long) from Facebook a day and most of them were obvious AI. The ones that weren't AI I'd feel obliged to watch and then when I'd messaged her about it she'd tell me she didn't watch it!!!
She no longer uses Facebook.
Tumeni1959@reddit
In a word, yes.
Competitive_Pen7192@reddit
Boomer doom scrolling is completely a thing
My in laws started passing memes around to each other awhile back. Unclear what they're browsing to find memes...
I also glanced at MiLs phone and saw the YouTube notification icon in the corner. I remarked to the wife that she must be active on comments sections which she found hard to believe.
VegetableMix3751@reddit
Yeh it’s kind of sad. They used to be strict on us with devices or say how we were addicted. Then they fell to it.
Pockysocks@reddit
They've definitely adapted to modern technology and I definitely enjoy pointing out how much time they spend on their computer/tablets.
MrsJBB@reddit
Why do they do it all with every noise imaginable on as well?! Haptic feedback vibration, button click noise, adverts on full blast.
xxkxxaxx@reddit
Yes! And my dad is constantly forwarding memes and videos to me all day long via Facebook messenger or WhatsApp it's constant
DropDeadFredidit@reddit
Yep. I’m in my 30s. Mum and Dad are late 50s. Dad is especially bad for getting glued to his phone mainly looking at funny animal videos tbf but I definitely notice it.
furfreakmolly@reddit
my mum leaves me on heard when she's on her phone it's ridiculous
poodle9455@reddit
Yes. My mum with her Apple Watch has driven me mad, mid conversation with her and she’s reading her WhatsApp’s popping up. They’re much less aware of how addicted they are
lavayuki@reddit
My mum yes. She is addicted to her iPad. She is technology dumb as in she doesn’t know how to really operate an iPhone other than make calls and use WhatsApp, Instagram and YouTube, and needs me to do things like simply logging into her apple account or changing her ringtone. But she is always watching random crap on the iPad via YouTube or looking at peoples stories on instagram. She also stalks my brother’s social media. She never posts anything herself, she just likes to creep around other peoples lives and create gossip, especially when she sees stories about peoples weddings or having kids.
My dad doesn’t have a mobile phone. He used to have an old Samsung but broke it. Even when he had it he barely ever used it. He is ok with the computer but not smartphones for some reason.
Both my parents are retired in their 60s.
I have to admit me and my brother are also always on our phones too, more than them. I have a phone anxiety or addiction in that if I can’t see my phone I get palpitations and paranoia about it being missing or stolen. When I took it for repair the guy said I can come back later to collect it, but I couldn’t stomach being “away” that I just sat there for the hour or so it took him to fix it.
PinkFridaze@reddit
I'm 36 & have loved reading since I've been able to. At least a book a week since a child, now it takes me weeks to finish one book (if I can be bothered to start one at all) as a kot of the time I find myself getting distracted after one paragraph! My attention span since using TikTok is non existent. That's just my personal experience.
DutchOfBurdock@reddit
Funny that could say the same about the kids.
MiserubleCant@reddit
My dad is yeah. My mum's not so much, she's getting frustrated with him about it.
MushroomTop1381@reddit
The worst part is they can’t identify AI now and they’re getting sucked into political algorithms.
Glittering_Pop7807@reddit
The papers my elderly relatives used to read had mostly made up stories in the anyway
Broad_Sense_4642@reddit (OP)
Very interesting to see I'm not the only one having this experience/going mad! I've written about this here: would be interested to hear your thoughts! https://open.substack.com/pub/coursecorrection1/p/the-rise-of-the-ipad-dad?r=84o6lh&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web
Long-Phone-127@reddit
Yes! The same parents who were worried about brick phones many years ago.
pub_wank@reddit
Both of my parents are iPad babies lmao
TheTackleZone@reddit
When my sister in law's elderly (80yr) mother told me about YouTube shorts I knew it was over.
There's no laws about non-chemical addiction. Social media rooted in it's desire to get your attention no matter the cost.
Damn, time to get off reddit and do something.
Necessary_Delivery80@reddit
Yes my mum is the exact same used to make fun of people always being on their phone now she is glued to hers constantly
getoutmywayatonce@reddit
Oh yup. It’s a bit rich that I was on my phone as a tool to look up actual useful information, help researching for homework, and talk to people I actually know and they took a massive issue with phone use for this. Now they’re the ones with their nose stuck to their phones watching brain numbing shit (on full volume) but don’t actually know how to do anything of use on the phone. Sent my mum my live location the other day as it’s a long drive, still got multiple calls asking where I was, but arrived to find she’d sent multiple AI generated Facebook reels to me. But yeah, it’s my generation who are a bunch of smartphone abusing thickos apparently lol
farky84@reddit
Same with my dad, 73, glued to his smartphone.
Weary_Pickle52@reddit
Just went on a cruise, we spent time on our phones, but not to the expense of not talking to each other even when on our phones- was really surprised at the amount of elderly couples who sat for hours next to each other and didn’t say a word to each other whilst on their phones. Some were obviously reading books on phones, but even when reading a book I can pause and have a conversation. It made me really think about how I look from the outside when I’m on my phone as it was quite sad that they were on holiday together yet completely in their own heads whilst sat together for hours- but maybe that’s what makes them happy in their spare time. Is it that much different from sitting distracted as you are reading a book, knitting or doing sewing? I find myself using the tv as a new version of the radio now, so unless visually I need to be looking (which is quite rare)- I listen and use my phone as well, cross stitch, do a puzzle book.
Frosty_Leg4438@reddit
I have a theory it's something to do with not growing up with screens in their lives, so not having the same appreciation of the dangers of it/immunity to it.
It is ironic we were told about TVs (don't look at screens, it rots your brain), but it's actually them that are having the issues with screens.
trv09@reddit
yeah I’ve noticed this too especially with my dad. he used to complain if I was on my phone for like 10 minutes, now he’ll sit there scrolling facebook videos for hours like it’s nothing
I don’t even think it’s about not understanding the dangers tbh, I think they just got dropped straight into the most addictive version of the internet with zero buildup. like we kinda grew up alongside it and got bored of certain stuff, they got hit with endless scroll + autoplay + outrage news all at once
also they trust what they’re seeing way more than we do which makes it worse. my dad will read one headline and that’s his mood for the next 3 hours lol
superduperbongodrums@reddit
Yes! My mum cannot leave it five minutes to reply to a WhatsApp it’s intense
SmugglersParadise@reddit
Not sure about screen time. But my dad believes everything he sees on Facebook
"Look at this, I wonder how much that is" shows me an AI image of a concept luxury train that would go from Venice to Rome or something
ImpressiveRest2423@reddit
Massively. I feel a little embarrassed when they are on them at restaurants and things .
Abwettar@reddit
Its interesting because i do the same. And I've found i dont even really take in what I'm looking at on my screen.
I dont have the motivation to do anything in life that I used to, like reading, drawing, watching films etc. So I go on my phone and scroll instead because its in arms reach and easy to do.
I think for me personally its almost like smoking, like I need to be doing something with my hands, but because I can't bring myself to do anything useful I end up on my phone. There were times when I didnt have a smart phone when it was getting fixed and I'd still take out my little Walkman and just kinda pointlessly open apps and close them with no real purpose.
I also have been trying to get away from it by having a small game console in my pocket which does help a lot. Since I already have it with me I dont need to motivate myself to go find it so its easier to do something other than looking at my phone.
I wonder if older people are kinda in the same boat because they're all getting depressed about getting old and need something to take their minds of it 😂
QVRedit@reddit
They are catching up for lost ‘screen time’ !
KP0776@reddit
I stop talking when my parents get their phone out immediately after having asked me a question. If they want to hear me, they have to put their phone down.
Majick_L@reddit
Yeah my mum (60) is bad for it and keeps trying to persuade me to get on Tik Tok because “everyone’s on it”. Sometimes when we go out for a meal I’ve had to enforce a no phones at the table rule because I want to enjoy the meal and conversation
Consistent_Swim_5434@reddit
My mum has done this. Always used to go on at me for being on my phone, now hers doesn’t leave her hand!
ambabeeee@reddit
Yeah, my mum doesn't work so all she does is sit on Facebook all day
Watty1992@reddit
Both my dad and father in law. Gets on my tits, especially when you bring their grand kids over (4 and 1 y.o) and they would rather scroll on their phones than interact with them. Have to keep reminding them that they aren't this young for long and they will regret it.
Sea-Ganache-4330@reddit
It’s up to us to say something…
Alasdair91@reddit
My mum was adamant she didn’t want an iPhone. Now that she has one, she uses it all the time to watch TikTok, scroll Facebook and buy stuff on eBay and Amazon.
gogul1980@reddit
it's just it took them a little longer to get into it. Now they are just like everyone else.
L-0-T-H-0-S@reddit
Honestly, no. Back in the day - and I'm talking pre-internet - my old man would sit in front of the little portable TV we had downstairs and literally watch all 4 channels simultaneously, flicking between each channel. Would drive me and everyone else batshit, that's why he was relegated to the portable downstairs, but it's how he was.
My mother spends a fair deal of time on her tablet, but that's really more the convenience and ubiquity of the technology. Passive entertainment, like the TV she just doses off in front of.
chrisxxviv@reddit
Yep, my old man is constantly glued to his phone just mindlessly scrolling, and the moment anyone mentions it he gets all defensive and angry. His excuse is that my mum sits reading all the time and that's no different so why shouldn't he be on his phone?!
Wulfweard24@reddit
My mum was obsessed with colouring in apps.
After my mum died, my dad started watching a lot of Tiktoks, Reels, Shorts etc. It's a combo of the TV often being boring and loneliness.
shamone_mofo@reddit
Everyone is completely addicted to doom scrolling and society is suffering .we are not in the real world anymore we are digital crack addicts .
im_just_called_lucy@reddit
Yes. My mum is especially guilty of this (Gen X). We will have something on the TV that she chose to watch and then she’ll be scrolling TikTok on volume, showing us some really unfunny video not during the ads but during the programme. It’s also bad at the tea table too when me and another person would be talking about films or politics and she’d start scrolling.
It’s a sign these apps are incredibly addictive for people, regardless of age.
Puzzleheaded_Turn887@reddit
My 76 year old (lives alone) mum!! She never lectured us but then again I didn’t grow up with all this tech. I am surprised how much she uses her iPad though!
doc1442@reddit
Same for my parents. But honestly, it’s not more screen time, it’s just more small screen and less big screen
wafflespuppy@reddit
Yup. Although in my dad's defence he can't do any of the things he used to, like gardening, anymore so he sits in front of the computer watching YouTube and scrolling Facebook a lot. Lots of fail videos, playing games, and right wing shite 🥴 He is still playing with his model railway so at least he gets a break away from it but he's been sat in front of the computer all day today so far
ATSOAS87@reddit
I think it's by design, as social media companies are preparing for more social media bans for under 16s.
There's a new market with time, and money to get at.
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