My mental image just changed - I'm old
Posted by Maudib1962@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 178 comments
I've always felt like my early 20's me riding life and being chill with it all. But yesterday my brain just changed and said "Nah man - You're getting OLD! Go think about that in your lazy boy, sipping your coffee. going through your routine you've had for years! You are Old now.". I'm in a state now. Need Xennial help - is this an epiphany, a realization of truth or just a moment that will pass?
TLDR; I always felt like if I joined the matrix my age would be 21 but yesterday it changed and I think I'd be 46.
rulenumber62@reddit
2000 was 10 years ago. Don’t worry.
melodic-abalone-69@reddit
I'm currently shopping for a new, used car.
I keep finding myself thinking things like, "wow, great price! a 2012 model? that's not very old..."
When in car years, it is, in fact, old.
BHarbinson@reddit
The first new car I bought was a 2005 VW Jetta. $23k for the mid tier trim with heated cloth seats, 17" wheels, moon roof and "upgraded" Monsoon sound system.
Thinking about that purchase, I feel like the stereotype of the 80 year old reminiscing about when you could buy a Hershey bar for a nickel.
avalonfaith@reddit
I am the same way with cars. I felt sooooooo fancy when I got a 2014 and had HEATED SEATS!
LMurch13@reddit
2006 honestly feels like it was 7 years ago.
Throwaway_inSC_79@reddit
It doesn’t help that 2013 until 2021 feels like a fog. That was also the timeframe I was on meds.
Economy-Camp-7339@reddit
This tracks for me, minus the meds. For me kid 1 was born in 2013 kid 2 in 2016. Kid 1 just slept in until 9am yesterday for the first time ever.
I truly feel like the last 13 years have been a fog of early wake ups to cater to their hunger.
Nottheadviceyaafter@reddit
Mine are 12 and 14 born. We now sleep in on weekends, often im the first one up. Wind it back 5 years ago and it was..... torture.
fading_relevancy@reddit
Yup. Kids rearrange everything about life. Dare I say complicate many things and you need to let go of what was. Lately it's felt like my only job is to try to do better than my parents did with myself and siblings. Raising kids in this time line is a effing gauntlet.
Money_Magnet24@reddit
In 4 years, 2020 will be 10 years ago.
Chemical_Shelter9816@reddit
Thanks, I hate it (Love you, fellow xennial)
ouijahead@reddit
Shit. It does though
Rich_Performer_5697@reddit
its weird because the 1900s decades are so clear. but after 2000 its all one big blur.
Dark-Empath-@reddit
I feel that about every decade. I was watching a 90's music video which was satirising 80's style. Literally 10 years beforehand. Yet the styles between 50s vs 60's vs 70's vs 80's vs 90's are so distinctive.
I cant imagine '20's music videos doing the same with '10's style. What would the difference be?
Tinyhulk27@reddit
Because 2000-2010, and 2010-2020 had/have no "good names" we started to associate trends and things with Gens instead of the decades. (Or into other categories)
E.g. the Mullet is an "80s haircut". A Xenial might have rocked it in 1st grade to be like his GenX cousin, who rocked it in high-school, who was emulating boomer uncle Mike who rocked it to pick up chick's at the bar. But this all happend in the year 1987 so we consider mullets an "80s cut".
When that "broccoli cut" became popular we associate with the Gen who mostly wears/wore it instead of the era it became popular because "two thousands teens cut" doesn't roll of the tounge like "the 80s"
Think music. Cindy Lauper, Motley crew and Duran Duran are "80s music" , then divided by sub genres like hair metal, rock, pop.
Katy Perry, Maroon 5, 5 finger death punch are labeled subgenras like pop and heavy metal 1st, because "twenty tens" or "twenty hundreds" music doesn't make a "good lable". We aren't reneforcing/ defining the idea of what the 2010s were like.
(The guy from Adam ruins everything has a YouTube video on this subject with more examples, better explanation. it makes sense to me)
Dark-Empath-@reddit
That’s actually a very reasonable hypothesis- things such as the Broccoli cut are actually notable, but you are right - my brain doesn’t ascribe a decade to it. And in fairness, doesn’t necessarily ascribe a decade to Katy Perry either (was she 10’s?). I think it might be a combination of what you described and also my own naturally losing interest in contemporary pop culture.
soopafly@reddit
That’s a good point and I never really thought of that. From my perspective, pre-2000 decades were so defined and clear cut, but post-2000, there were no lines. Like everything was some sort of weird mashup and things just felt recycled and familiar
peterpancreas@reddit
Better than it being one big oasis
chawrawbeef@reddit
I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one who has felt this way
LittleAd1445@reddit
And the 70s was 30 years ago
shitshowsusan@reddit
Yes. Yes it was.
Top-Elephant-2874@reddit
I always have to do a bit of extra mental math once that insidious 2 shows up. 2005 feels like 2015 feels like 2025 (not politically of course, just like, numbers wise).
YEMolly@reddit
Love reading this b/c I believe it.
Diligent_Kitchen7705@reddit
Sounds like midlife crisis, personally. It sucks. It does go away but it SUCKS.
gdj11@reddit
The point where my brain fully accepted I'm old was 42. It happened pretty quick and never went away.
HistoryGirl23@reddit
I was 38. Now I just embrace it
LopensCouisin@reddit
I think it was around 42 for me. I’ve been a lifelong athlete, but got super depressed that year. Now at 45, I’ve lost the 30 lbs I gained from that year long depression and started training for weight building competitions. My husband and I just got back from Patagonia backpacking the O-Trek. We finished backpacking the Colorado Trail last year. My recovery time is definitely not what it was, but I’m still feeling fantastic. At 38, I ran my first 100 mile Ultra Marathon… so 38 was definitely not it for me.
HistoryGirl23@reddit
That is awesome! Good job.
I still move a lot at work, I just feel it more now
LopensCouisin@reddit
Oh, recovery time is definitely not the same!
Prestigious_Rip_289@reddit
Yeah I hit this at 44. It was really freeing, like I don't give a single shit about half the stuff I was very willing to argue about before. I mean of course I still care about important issues in society, in the lives of the people I love, etc, but I'm no longer attending every argument I'm invited to.
imissthecomfortinn@reddit
I love that: “I’m no longer attending every argument I’m invited to.”
ViceroyFizzlebottom@reddit
I didn’t get the I’m old thing until this year. I’ve been graying hard for the last 5.
Appropriate-Neck-585@reddit
I honestly am tormented with self-image everyday since 40...been waiting to settle into it, but it hasn't happened yet. Hoping it does soon.
Paws_and_Plates_App@reddit
Wait till you see your first wrinkles. My crows feet are serious and now I'm moisturizing every day/night I can remember to lol.
CrouchingDomo@reddit
I regret to inform you that pubes go grey. If I have to know, yall have to know.
And if you ask me how I know, I’ll grapevine at you while maintaining eye contact until you back away in silence.
^(it’s my only dance move)
Paws_and_Plates_App@reddit
I'm dead!
cat_at_the_keyboard@reddit
I got a single grey eyebrow hair come in recently. Tons on my head it this feels monumental. I want to name her.
lost_horizons@reddit
It’s fun getting the random super long eyebrow hairs. Grey or otherwise, I call them Gandalfs.
cat_at_the_keyboard@reddit
That's perfect 🧙
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
😂 LOL. This improved my mood. Thanks
No gray at 46 yet. Vision has always been shit so I'm sure I have crows feet but can't see them.
LibertyCash@reddit
I started to get a smile line at 39. Now at 45, it’s a god damn canyon. I can’t ever see anything in the mirror now but it. I’m a non smoking, sun phobic, water drinker. Why is my skin already shitting the bed 😭
Mindless_Flower_2639@reddit
I joined the dark side and got Botox for my crows feet. It took trying two different people but my current dealer is an artist and the lines around my eyes are gone and I can still smile with my eyes 🙌🏼
_kurt_propane_@reddit
Buy a sports car. I hear it helps
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
Bright Red right? Loud engine?
_kurt_propane_@reddit
That’s the one!
GotWood2024@reddit
I feel old...so why doesn't my period just go away already??
Blando-Cartesian@reddit
I was on a short hike yesterday and imagined what I look like. Some almost 50 weirdo having coffee and a sandwich on a trail people use for jogging. Thank god I’m too old to give a shit as long as I keep inside my own head.
ConqueefStador@reddit
Getting older can sting a bit until you embrace the confidence it brings. I'm loving 42 because I know exactly who I am and I don't need anyone else's approval.
cantwejustplaynice@reddit
Recent scientific research has shown we go through 2 rapid bursts of aging, one at 44 and the other at 60. You've just gone through the first. This entire subreddit is going through it. Stafford Medicine Link
BloodyPaleMoonlight@reddit
I don't feel like I'm 45. I just feel like I've been 26 for the past 19 years. Except for my knees...
stephsco@reddit
I work with a trainer at the gym who's like 22. I am constantly telling her I need to adjust something because of my old knees LOL But...my knees are in much better shape after strength training the past year.
Funandgeeky@reddit
To borrow from Frasier, we aren’t old. We’re just smack dab in the middle of “not a kid anymore.”
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
Quoting Frasier is Xennial
Phyzzx@reddit
Im the same or less witty. The old thing i do now is non-stop doing things and I used to be the staunchiest of night owl activity but that flipped over the course of a year a while back.
marmot1101@reddit
I don’t want to be 20s me so that helps. But instead of being upset about being old pick the problem apart. Can’t do shit about my parents getting old and mom passing. Can address many physical ailments. But not all. Can’t change that I’m a little more out of tune with the yoots, but if I could it wouldn’t be about them anymore. Can continue to support them and their distinction and similarities with who came before, and who will come. I feel the serenity prayer these days.
KittyPuperMamaPerson@reddit
It isn’t an epiphany as much as it’s a slow creeping realization that makes you say out loud to absolutely nobody, “Fuck my goddamn life. When did this shit happen?” Then you get over it or embrace the fully humiliating midlife crisis. And idk about you, but it’s I’m not trashing my credit and going into debt to pretend I’m whatever the kids think is awesome.
Would I like to look like a Kardashian? Not fucking really. I don’t have Kardashian money to buy and pay for premium Kardashian parts and services.
Hatecookie@reddit
I’m in my early 40s and just laid to rest my uncle who was 60, believe me, 60 felt young to him. He was not ready. Get plenty of exercise and you’ll put off feeling physically old for a long time.
BassElement@reddit
It's a moment that will pass, but also a bit of a realisation.
The terror goes away, but you start to realise that you can't do certain things. So long as you get a bit more careful with the old body, very little actually changes.
Turkatron2020@reddit
My parents had me at 20 so we're all still very young somehow even though I'm pushing 50
Rich_Performer_5697@reddit
i freaked out tonight when i realized that a year only has 365 days in it. and a day goes too fast. and a decade only has ten years. im still freaking out.
chawrawbeef@reddit
I have this theory that I came up with some years ago when these kinds of time thoughts were really messing with my head. I figured that I think the way we experience time is relative to how much time we’ve already experienced. Remember when you were a kid and 15 minutes felt like an eternity? But as an adult 15 minutes is not enough time to do anything, and the days just fly by. Well that 15 minutes is a larger percentage of lived time to someone who’s only 5 years old than to someone who is 40, so relative to their life the 15 minutes is a more significant amount of time to the 5 year old than to the 40 year old and therefore feels more substantial.
I don’t know if there’s any science or academic theory behind this. It’s just my own personal way of reckoning with the fact that the moments of my life feel like they are racing by at breakneck speed as an adult.
LifeClassic2286@reddit
Yes, I have always thought this.
Jcolebrand@reddit
You may be interested in https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Weber%E2%80%93Fechner_law?wprov=sfti1#Fechner's_law
mrsrobinson0316@reddit
This makes so much sense to me.
KarlMarxButVegan@reddit
You're high, my friend.
assumetehposition@reddit
Welcome to your midlife crisis. Time to do something different! I took up running because it’s cheap. Not easy, but cheap.
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
I'm a runner already and in Canada. Running ain't cheap. Multiple shoes and running gear needed for the diametrically different conditions of winter and summer here. Adds up fast!
grilledstuffed@reddit
I graduated from nursing school (RN) a month before I turned 44.
Fingers crossed I’m going to warped tour and welcome to Rockville music festivals this year.
There’s nothing stopping you from going out and doing fun stuff that keeps you living in the moment.
If you feel middle aged that’s on you.
jackfaire@reddit
I'm not old I'm just not young anymore. I can't think of myself as old but I can't think of myself as young. I just am.
GrungeCheap56119@reddit
I agree. We're in the middle ground.
jackfaire@reddit
I feel like my parents hit this state earlier
GrungeCheap56119@reddit
My dad says "everywhere I go there are old people there." I said dad you're the old guy now too, haha.
albauer2@reddit
Yeah, at 42, I feel this.
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
Solid perspective. This helps.
christopherDdouglas@reddit
I threw my back out yesterday while putting on shoes. Yep.
time4meatstick@reddit
It hurts my left shoulder blade when I sneeze. I am now have this weird fear of sneezing because I knit the stabbing pain is waiting.
GrungeCheap56119@reddit
Chance-Adept@reddit
I threw mine out when I coughed too hard last week.
Cottoncloudhigh@reddit
I did that with a sneeze once 😭
SyntheticScrivner@reddit
Dude I bought Skechers that you can just step into with no laces and no bending over and I don't care if I'm an old man. They are the fucking best!
Chemical_Shelter9816@reddit
This could be a cardiovascular problem, please get yourself to a doc, friend
depths_of_khazad_dum@reddit
I start breathing heavy tying my shoes and I'm not fat
ThaVolt@reddit
This unironically happened to me in 2017, at 33 lol. Do your stretches folks!
kaest@reddit
Welcome to the mid life crisis! Enjoy the coffee in your recliner. (typing from my recliner)
casadeparadise@reddit
I still get carded for everything you can get carded for. My outer body does not match the slipped discs and aching tendons that come with the 40s. I constantly have to remind myself im not 23 years old and just cause I THINK I can still jump down from the 4 foot stage, I better just sit down and slide off gingerly lest I tear a quad.
Bakhtiian@reddit
Drink more water.
Source: Your Body’s Many Cries for Water by F. Batmanghelidj, M.D.
canisdirusarctos@reddit
Weird. Here I am picking up shit to do that makes me happy because I’m at a point where I’m like, “fuck it, they can deal with my idiosyncrasies”. I’m too old to care.
IvenaDarcy@reddit
I’ve never thought about aging or death in my life. I was aware our time is very limited and lived according to that knowledge but never really stressed about it. We all die, whatever was my attitude.
All that changed this year. Guess I’m in my existential crisis era? lol I think watching my mom with dementia and deteriorating it’s just making me super sad and depressed and thinking about my own death. What a horrible way to go and maybe that’s my fate too. We just never know. I’m trying to snap out of it but damn … when it hit it hits! lol
I hope this passes and I get back to my carefree self again soon. Thankful it took half a century to get to this place because a lot of ppl start thinking and worrying about these things way earlier. I would have hated stressing about this in my 30’s or 40’s. I know deep down it’s waste of time but same time I just can’t snap out of it.
imissthecomfortinn@reddit
🫂💜
pkslot@reddit
Fuck it.
Go have fun and enjoy life!
I mean REALLY enjoy it, because tomorrow you'll feel twice as old, but you'll have something new to laugh about.
Global-Jury8810@reddit
Now I drink prune juice regularly because I need to!
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
😂
Global-Jury8810@reddit
Yeah, it’s not just when the bipolar meds constipate me, it happens all the time now!
Notredamus1@reddit
My oldest will be graduating high school soon and I just realized I graduated 25 years ago. Damn, where did the time go?
DasKittySmoosh@reddit
A couple years ago I went to eat with my spouse and 6ish year old child. The young hostess sat us and complimented my haircut.. she followed it up with “my mom has a similar cut”
That’s when I knew I was officially old
croissant_and_cafe@reddit
Do things that make you feel young. Try new things. Get back into the music and hobbies you had as a teen. Get a piercing!
Haha kidding about that last part, but how you live is up to you.
willworkforwatches@reddit
Currently drinking coffee under a blanket on a reclining section of my sectional sofa.
The fact that I own a sectional that reclines was probably all the evidence any of us needed to prove I’m no longer young 🫠
Truth_Seeker963@reddit
I’ve always felt 25 until this year. Now body and face have changed and I feel really old and like what’s the fucking point.
needsmorequeso@reddit
I am in my 40s and I work with traditionally aged undergraduates, so like 18-22 in the US.
I am constantly reminded of the show Freiren: Beyond Journey’s End, about a 1000 year old elf on a quest with the children of the guys she went on a quest with a (human) generation ago. My students talk about the 1990s like it was another millennium, and then I remember “oh shit, it was.”
So I’m not old. I’m full of the wisdom of the ancient times.
Separate-Relative-83@reddit
I love that show!
MidgarZanarkand@reddit
A moment that will pass. I’ve been feeling old for awhile at 41. Then this year I swapped out my love of junk food and 1x a week working out for 80% of my diet being chicken and other lean protein, veggies, 4x working out a week, daily green tea, and when I do eat junk food it’s until satisfied but not full, rather than stuffed to the gills. Result? 32 lbs lost since Jan 9th while keeping lean mass. Body feels 24 years old again for the first time since I was actually 24.
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
Nicely done. I'm very active with running but my diet is not the best. This is a good help to motivate.
Clean_Usual434@reddit
Sometimes I feel like that, but I don’t focus on it too much. I’m “old,” not dead, lol. I’m still young enough to get back into shape and enjoy a lot of the same hobbies I’ve always had, plus new ones.
LetsGoToMichigan@reddit
The switch finally flipped for me this year at 46 when I started truly needing the progressive lenses they prescribed me last year (which I didn't think I needed at the time). My body is holding up fairly well but vision is something you use every minute you're awake so yeah, fuck.
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
Got mine last month. I think that is part of it. So many little things all at once.
osddelerious@reddit
Yep, same. No help, just let your deterioration proceed.
mrmurdoc1981@reddit
I felt like that a few years ago. I snapped out of it. Started eating right and working out. Focusing on self improvement. Both mentally and physically. Currently down 35 pounds, starting to see some real muscle. At 45 I’ve never felt better. You’re good. It’s in your head.
Dogs-n-Flowers@reddit
I felt a change in myself at the beginning of March this year (so, a little over a month ago). Started building a workout routine, cardio for heart health and strength training for everything else. Actually minding what I eat (lucky enough to be able to cook whole foods at home). Pursuing hobbies like painting and puzzle building for mental agility and pleasure. I'm a little more careful with my joints, but I'm down 12 lb and my energy level has bounced back up. Looking forward to seeing what my next set of labs and bloodwork say about cholesterol and A1C. I feel like I entered middle age Renaissance at 47. Keep on!
mrmurdoc1981@reddit
Nice work. Yeah when they say it’s a lifestyle change that’s not a cliche. I completely changed everything about the way I eat, the way I live. I’ve got a face care routine, I wake up at 3:45 AM every day to work out. I do vocal exercises and face yoga. My goal is to be a better me everyday. I’ll keep doing that until I die.
cat_at_the_keyboard@reddit
Damn, good on you. Can you recommend vocal exercises to do?
mrmurdoc1981@reddit
I don’t know how legit they are but I followed a YouTube video. I have noticed my voice is richer. Not necessarily a lot deeper though. https://youtu.be/HT9_VxN8iSE
Ant_Cardiologist@reddit
It's also fair to say we're not young anymore which is something that drops down on some of out heads like a ton of bricks one day. Could be a child or highschool kid calling you old or creepy, or being offered the seniors' discount without a doubt in the cashier's mind. I think it's cool that we're elders now whose very real wisdom is largely ignored, but imagine if they still listened. We need to guide the young gens through the cyberpunk dystopia, seeing as we've been training for it since the 80s.
mrmurdoc1981@reddit
Oh for sure. I just mean it’s never too late to feel good about the age you’re in. I still KNOW my age. That’s why I need elbow, wrist, knees, and back braces when I workout. lol I feel great but I’m not in denial. I’m also not going clubbing with the teenagers. It’s okay to feel great in your own skin.
HappyEquine84@reddit
Love this. Love your attitude. I slipped on the ice in January and broke my wrist. I have an outside, very active job, so it really messed up my whole world. I've slipped plenty of times, I've never broken anything. I will forever be taking the extra time to go AROUND the potentially hazardous area now, lol. And when my husband got some rollerblades, I totally ordered him the elbow, wrist, and knee pads, along with the helmet. 😄
neckbeardsghost@reddit
For me, it was when I stopped getting carded for alcohol
Minute-Yogurt-2021@reddit
I think most of our generations went to the gym at 35+.
yeahipostedthat@reddit
I think that may be true. In my youth I never worked out and felt and looked great. Started going to the gym when I realized my figure wasn't quite as youthful. Now I feel strong and fit. But when life gets in the way and I fall out of the habit my body starts to feel so old, I feel weak, joints hurt etc.
Minute-Yogurt-2021@reddit
supplements for the joints, limit the alcohol, etc. I have my cluster headache for the past 5 weeks, the nights are pure horror, BUT due to being 100% sober everything else went back to perfect - blood pressure, nerves, etc.
Dr_Wheuss@reddit
I tell my wife that it is impossible for me to become a distinguished old gentleman without getting old.
She tells me that I really need to work on the 'distinguished' and 'gentleman' parts.
Mindless_Flower_2639@reddit
1970 was like 30ish years ago
theCaityCat@reddit
My college degrees can vote and I'm not okay with this.
dluiiulb@reddit
I have a friend who's in his 80s who still mountain bikes and goes backcountry skiing. I asked him how he does it, was it his diet, he said to just not stop. He said his friends convinced themselves they were getting old which meant they "should" slow down or stop. He said he just kept going even if he was going at a slower pace, less far, less difficult, just don't stop because you think you are supposed to.
OpiumPhrogg@reddit
Congrats on still being here! Some don't get to live long enough or in a way that let's them say something like this.
Active_Yellow_1573@reddit
It's all subjective, and old age is our reward. I've know people who have died tragically young, teens that should have had a long runway. I've lost several more through the years. It's not about the age we are, but what we do with the time we have. Life is absurd, and the only thing we can do is embrace it. If we don't, and we waste the moments we're given, then it does not matter if we get old or die young.
CSWorldChamp@reddit
It would be easier to maintain my youthful enthusiasm if by body would stop fucking falling apart, please.
TumbleDownShaq@reddit
Some recent studies show we age in spurts. Like, we didn’t change much (provided we took care of ourselves) from 22 to 43, then at 44ish, something happens where we from looking mid 30s to exactly 44 in a very short time. We get another burst of aging at 60. So enjoy being 45 for the next 15 years, because we’ll go from 45 to 60 in the time it takes to trim your nosehairs. You can see it happen in some older folks but we are the first generation that aged well across the board because most of us gave up smoking darts by early 20s.
EidolonRook@reddit
Welcome to the party pal.
Crack open a cold one and get comfy. Don’t rush anything. Let gravity do most of the heavy lifting from here on.
ArtsyRabb1t@reddit
Went on a water slide with my kids, that was my turning point. Scared the piss out of me. I’m now the mom sitting in the chair waiting
HalfFrozenSpeedos@reddit
For me it never passes, I tried to do the right thing by others, did the wrong things for me though, too selfless and not selfish enough. Left feeling like I've wasted my life more and more, worse I see the health issues I'm genetically predisposed to, go to the docs and get patronised with "now now you get yourself in such a state and all worked up and we've talked about this at length before"
MaternalFornicator2@reddit
Find a different doctor until they take you seriously. I spent 7 years over 3 states trying to figure out what was going on with me. Then literally my Mom died and it all clicked together, kidney failure and it was presenting weirdly with me. That was 2018 and I'm currently 1.5 years with a new kidney via transplant now and feeling way better. I had a general practitioner (a few of them in succession) that treated me the way you're describing. We may have been able to stave of the kidney failure longer before needing peritoneal dialysis and then the new kidney.
Yeah it was after transplant where I was feeling old, "but my brain feels so young?" lol
HalfFrozenSpeedos@reddit
Thanks 👍
ijustwannabegandalf@reddit
Just got through a rotten month (death of my last parent) and realized that I'd put on fifteen or so pounds between final caregiving and the month of funeral/placing pets/clearing out house/etc.
The biggest difference between 25-year-old me coming out of a fog and 41-year-old me is I have to work back up to healthy. I can't just wake up and say "Ok, 5k and then 10 hour workday on my feet with kids, LFG." even though I want to. Because there's a really fine line between "push so I feel better tomorrow" and "break something for real." My mom was 44 when she fell off some waterskiis at the wrong angle and became permanently disabled.
General-Carob-6087@reddit
My body reminds me of my age but my brain still says we’re in college. Hell, it often dreams we’ve missed an entire semester of classes.
alphabetikalmarmoset@reddit
Two words: morning hands.
Maudib1962@reddit (OP)
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alphabetikalmarmoset@reddit
That’s when you wake up one day and your hands are stiff and arthritic and you say, huh, must be getting old. And then that’s every morning.
AntiRepresentation@reddit
It's weakness. You're calcifying.
DocBEsq@reddit
I walked past an older woman yesterday. In my mind I categorized her as “old.” I walked past some 20-something’s a little later and categorized them as “my age.”
Then I realized I was probably closer in age to the “old” woman…
scott__p@reddit
I felt old when my daughter turned into a teenager
Walkaway20@reddit
Remember. Old is a state of mind. What we believe about ourselves we manifest. It may sound hokey but our minds are powerful and as the mind goes, the body follows.
Let this moment pass and decide to engage with your life actively - not passively. Stay in motion and change things up. Sure have times you relax but don’t stop believing your capable of new and active endeavors.
PhysicsStock2247@reddit
Research shows there’s two big jumps in the aging process- once in your mid 40s and once in your early 60s. It’s like a switch being flipped on your metabolism for fats, alcohol, and caffeine. It happened to me a couple years ago. I packed on 30 pounds without any lifestyle changes and noticed that I had constant brain fog. Your metabolic switch has probably been flipped and you’re now becoming aware of it. The good news is that you can keep the crankiness at bay by watching your diet and alcohol intake and consistently exercising.
Clem_bloody_Fandango@reddit
I just hit that mid 40s one and it feels like my skin aged 10 years in 1. I keep looking in the mirror thinking it was just a bad angle for the last six months, but no.
bakerstreetrat@reddit
Young and old are states of mind more than numbers for sure. I mean, there were mornings in my early-20s where I felt - and moved - like I was 75.
The one thing I try not to do is give in to Age: The Social Construct. Women especially are bombarded with messaging of "maiden to mother to crone" by 40, and it just...doesn't have to be that way! I think there's value in keeping informed of current trends and celebrities and such, but a good way to take the whammy off aging is to hold onto role models in our own age range. I love the Xennial actresses who are speaking out about aging naturally. I'm looking at how celebrities my age are dressing for events over than what current style trends are. Because nothing will make you look or feel older than dressing younger!
Clear_Tangerine5110@reddit
Having a kid did that to me. I look back at photos and videos when he was born 12 years ago and see how little gray I had then.
Imaginary-Pain9598@reddit
But I am Le Tired.
Dunnersstunner@reddit
Significant-Rush-129@reddit
The median age in most developed countries is between 39 and 50. That used to not be the case, we would have been “over the hill” by now. That fact made me feel better about all this (for purely selfish reasons of course! Having an aging society is technically bad, but WHATEVS!)
Starkravingbrie@reddit
Hutterite colonies let the women stop having as many duties at 45. Just a random fact to take how you will.
trustme1maDR@reddit
That's because they're too worn out from having 14 babies
trustme1maDR@reddit
Embrace it! I like my life, my routine, my old music. No 25 year old is going to think your cool anyway. Best to roll with it.
Boom_Valvo@reddit
Sucks when that happens…. That’s life tho…
YousAPenguinLookinMF@reddit
Just add alcohol and watch local news to complete the experience.
Big-Honeydew-961@reddit
It is what it is.
The market values youth because it can extract the energy and take arrange of it’s ignorance for its gain.
Consider yourself lucky to be here and thinking of yourself and how you are going to show up for yourself now.
It’ll be okay. You’re not worth less because you are old. You never had more time them versus now. You are here now. You were there then. But there is only now.
You are you. It doesn’t matter. Love yourself for who you are.
PopularSet4776@reddit
Constantly surprised by this cause I have felt old for several years now.
Turning 40 especially filled me with a lot of existential dread.
Automatic_Beat5808@reddit
This is totally normal for Xennials. I had the same thing happen recently.
Rapidwatch2024@reddit
It happens. I think our parents called it a midlife crisis and they experienced it about 10 years (37 ish) before we did.
nursetanya2@reddit
When I'm talking to coworkers and they say they were born in 1996. I'm like holy shit that was when I graduated. 30 freaking years ago!!
babyeventhelosers_@reddit
I'm 48 & the only thing that made me feel old without my consent was hitting menopause. It physically changed me rapidly. But now I'm figuring that out & finding that Old is a state of mind. I still go out sometimes at night, I have a social world, albeit less intense than my youth, and I keep making friends over time. I have friends of all ages, and I really mean friends, not just people I know from work. We go to happy hours, dinners, brunches, take classes & the elderly friends are these active women whose partners are gone. They've taught me so much about aging. I kind of view them as time travelers with helpful information from the future. It's ok if you have decided that this is how you want Old to be & that you're comfortable with it. I've been sitting around lately due to injury & mental health stuff and I'm done with that. I started painting & learning to sail since there are free lessons nearby. You get to do whatever you want. What oldster are you going to be?
EasterElk@reddit
I'm at the point where sometimes, instead of seeing glimpses of my parents in the mirror, I'm seeing glimpses of my grandparents.
dishwasher_mayhem@reddit
Shit this is real. I'm like a clone of my dad. But lately I see my grandfather in the mirror looking back. It's odd.
dishwasher_mayhem@reddit
I hit 50 in January. This month I finally felt the rest of my youth slip into the void as I watched my last child turn 18. I'm essentially just a younger version of Grandpa Simpson. I'm cool with it.
Wickywire@reddit
Yep. I'm turning 46. Seriously considering taking up birding as a hobby. I'm out of fucks to give about what that will make people think of me, and I guess that in itself is one of the most reassuring signs of ageing in the book.
No_Ratio1493@reddit
I coasted through my 30s looking and feeling like I was in my 20s. Now 45, the gray beard, little bald spot, and stiff morning back that emerged the past few years are still pretty jarring.
I try to embrace it and not dwell. I have a great life and I’m in good health.
But, yeah….it’s weird and hard to wrap my head around.
OnlySezBeautiful@reddit
When you hear your 92 yo bedridden Gran say "I wish I could just go walk around Walmart", it puts "old" into perspective for me. We're babies. Enjoy the glory of mobility and youth. Rip Gran.
ViceroyFizzlebottom@reddit
San Junipero here I come
lauraintheskyGNM@reddit
I love being in my 40s. I have so much more self confidence and emotional stability than I had 20 years ago. I have 15 years of experience in my profession. 40s life is good.
sweetassassin@reddit
I went to a comedy show last night and 80% of the cultural references went over my head, or more like poured out of the bottom of the sieve.
I’m an X leaning xennial and even the early 2000s pop cultural Easter eggs fell flat. NKOTB was my boy band era than NSYNC or BSB.
WhtvrCms2Mnd@reddit
I’m perpetually 27
Common_Juggernaut724@reddit
I guess my mental image has always been changing to some degree. When I think of myself, there's not an age attached though. I don't imagine myself as a young man, nor do I imagine myself with the wrinkles I have now.
What I do notice, is that the core of me, and I don't believe in a "soul" exactly, but it's the word I use to describe the concept, but that interior me, the thoughts and ideas and beliefs and values and all of that, that has stayed relatively consistent at least since I was a very young man, maybe even earlier.
So it's like, I don't exactly feel like I'm almost 50. But I don't feel like I'm in my 20s either. And I also don't really feel like I've changed at all.
NeutralLock@reddit
I heard the body goes through periods of rapid aging and one of those periods is early to mid 40's.
So that's us folks!
https://www.theguardian.com/science/article/2024/aug/14/scientists-find-humans-age-dramatically-in-two-bursts-at-44-then-60-aging-not-slow-and-steady
YoghurtPrimary230@reddit
Life begins at 40. Everything up to that point is just research.
wrldruler21@reddit
Background:I grew up on a farm
So yesterday a cat was missing at the barn my kid rides horses at. I went on a cat search, and I climbed onto the big stack of hay bales, like I used to do growing up.
I indeed found the cat in the hay. Victory.
Then I proceeded to lose my balance and fall. Thankfully, landing in a soft pile of more hay.
But now my back hurts and I don't want to get out of bed this morning
kheret@reddit
It helped me to start trying some new things and getting out of my comfort zone a bit. My lifelong best friend died a few weeks short of 40, and that really changed my perspective.
I’m trying to take advantage of the time I have, and do some of those things I always wanted to do but didn’t. In the words of esteemed philosopher Billie Joe Armstrong, “it’s not over till you’re underground.”
FoppyRETURNS@reddit
Starkravingbrie@reddit
My friends were mainly ten years older. Now I realize my friends are usually ten years younger. And people respect my opinion. My opinion hasn’t changed so it’s 100% age and that’s just weird and dumb. This aging thing sucks lol
timsea99@reddit
gthedamned@reddit
Embrace the concept of middle age. Youth has its advantages, but also its drawbacks. No one who isn’t also young takes you too seriously. Your influence isn’t individual but collective. You probably care far too deeply about what other people think of you. However, we’re not “old” either. There’s a lot of fun left to be had, and while Father Time may have made his presence known, he’s not breathing on our necks yet. Hopefully we’re in a slightly more stable financial situation than we were in our twenties (though also less capable of sleeping on somebody’s couch in a pinch), so some measure of planning more than the next few weeks worth of goings on can allow for comfort.