Wife turning 50. Jewelry recommendations needed.
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TLDR: Wife unhappy about turning 50. Should I just give her simple jewelry I know she likes or something fancier to mark the occasion of turning 50???
First, I know there are lots of "gift ideas" threads and I am using them, because the kids and I have decided to get a giant box and get/make my wife 50 little/medium/big presents for her 50th birthday.
She is NOT excited about turning 50. She didn't want a big party. While her 40s were good she feels like her 50s are going to hard because she is going to lose a lot of important people in her 50s. Plus the world is on fire.
We've been married 27 years. We used to be pretty granola newlyweds, but now we are just suburban parents, small business owners. My wife is not a big fancy jewelry person. In the past I have gotten her earrings and simple necklaces. She has liked those. She doesn't really wear bracelets. I really have no idea what nicer thing to give her.
I am feeling like now that she is 50 I should get her something, bigger, nicer. We can afford something nice, but she probably will feel like it is money wasted on her instead of super excited. She is not a flashy person.
I am worried if I get her something much fancier because she 50, she will not like it because it will make her feel 50. That is to say, old.
Are broaches still a thing? Do women like those? Or is the jewelry equivalent of an AARP card?
Maybe a gold necklace with a smallish diamond. I don't know.
ParkerGroove@reddit
I was thinking a tennis bracelet, but you said she doesn’t like bracelets. I have some pendants from Na’ Hoku that I love. Maybe a trip to Hawaii and a slipper or palm necklace from that site to commemorate?? Very nice things.
My slipper (flip flop) pendant is to mark out Hawaii trip; palm tree was for when we moved from a place with palms to a place without, which my husband knew I would miss.
AbiesGreen7412@reddit
If she likes simple, consider an eternity necklace. I think Tiffany does one so then you get the legendary blue box.
Weekly-Aide-7719@reddit
I’m a huge jewelry lover, but you know what I don’t mind having a bunch of? Watches! That’s what I’d suggest.
Reasonable-Record494@reddit
I don't have any gift ideas, but I remember my mom hiding in her bedroom all day the day on her 40th birthday. But then a few years later, her friend died at 49 leaving behind twin daughters who were in maybe 8th or 9th grade, and my mom said "She would have given anything to turn 50 and see her kids grow up. I'll never complain about aging again" and she never has. I hope your wife gets a little bit of perspective on aging--it's a privilege not everyone gets.
North81Girl@reddit
A nice trip instead of jewelry imo
BiscottiDowntown3631@reddit
A nice vacation !!
OlderAndTired@reddit
How about a nice gold anklet and a resort weekend getaway to wear it? Let her relax and be pampered with you, so she knows you love celebrating this milestone with her but not making a public display of it with a big party…plus she has a piece of jewelry to represent the getaway, if not the birthday.
ccannon707@reddit
A luxurious spa day would cheer me up!
Sunbee_Peanut@reddit
If she wears gold jewelery then I would be very found of a great piece of it. Doesnt matter what, but something i can have every day.
Or a classic watch, a good brand.
No broaches please😎
New-Mathematician841@reddit
At 50, she probably wears a smart watch.
Sunbee_Peanut@reddit
Well it depends. Not all of us wants smart watches couse there is no need to be online all the time. For the time, normal watches works just fine.
Smart watch is never a good gift couse you replace it every 3-6yrs. Ita outdatet.
While classic watch is lifetime gift.
New-Mathematician841@reddit
No, I wouldn't get her a smart watch if she didn't have one already. I know a lot of us use it to count steps.
No_Transition_8293@reddit
My husband always bought me jewelry and I loved it. Some of the most beautiful jewelry I have came from Costco. They have beautiful pieces that are very high-quality and are a bargain. I hope you can have fun with this and that she will really enjoy it.
RateBig6136@reddit
Agree with this, I have some pieces and they are a,Asian,
Lovetasha@reddit
Some people can’t wear studs so keep that in mind.
DizzyJellyfish_9@reddit
I (F) turned 50 last year. I wasn't, and am not, happy about being >50, and I don't like fusses, but I would have liked to get a special gift still. My husband gave me some towels, which I appreciate, but it would have been nice to get something a little special, wouldn't even have to be expensive, just thoughtful. A watch could be nice, or a necklace with an engraved pendant. You could even find a coin made the same year as her birth and have that made into a pendant. You're at least winning already because you're putting thought and care into this. Good luck!
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
a couple of things here. I am an extravert; she is an introvert. She is a creative, marvelous planner. Below is the result of my 50th Bash at my favorite music club.
I am sorry about the towels. It really took me about \~15 years to learn how much she values gifts. Not the actual gift as much as the effort put into it. This is a humorous but important reminder in our house: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOVCtUdaMCU
That coin idea is really great. I will save it.
Lovetasha@reddit
Sweet!
Oldskywater@reddit
How about a simple gold bracelet with your initials and her initials engraved inside ? Or yours and the kids and her name ?
echointhemuseum@reddit
Personally, I feel like experiences are better than jewelry. But I know you didn’t ask so maybe she doesn’t? I’d say go somewhere amazing and buy a piece of jewelry she likes when you get there!
Lefthandtwin@reddit
A trip to her dream destination. Does she have mother’s ring or necklace?
Guest8782@reddit
I love a diamond band my husband got for our 10th. I stack it with wedding and engagement ring.
It’s a great place to spend, an every day wear.
camkats@reddit
This is something I’m asking for myself and think it’s a great idea.
Disastrous_Falcon969@reddit
take her on a trip!
latitudechanges1515@reddit
I turned 50 during the peak of Covid madness. It sucked ass. And I have always declared myself to be a low maintenance type of person - no fuss, no flare. That combination got me two visors (my husband still gets teased about it). Make a fuss over her. And get her more than two visors ffs. She feels really awful about turning 50 but will most likely get over it very quickly and will really love a great gift. Turning any age is truly a blessing. When I was turning 40 and complaining about it an oncologist friend of mine said to me “Do you know how many people I know who would love to see another year?” That has always stuck with me. Please don’t say that to your wife as I share only to share. You will come up with something, no doubt.
Bratbabylestrange@reddit
I turned fifty in mid February, just before the world shut down. My husband had gotten me tickets to see the Reverend Horton Heat at the Stanley Hotel (inspiration for The Shining) and a reservation to stay overnight. It was such an amazing gift! But of course, it did not come to pass 😓
ToneSenior7156@reddit
We are similar profile in who we used to be vs who we are now. Not sure about your budget, but one Valentine’s Day my husband gave me a Tiffany necklace similar to this and it really meant a lot to me, because it was a notable splurge for us. And I know it’s just marketing but that blue box is iconic and weirdly exciting!
https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/necklaces-pendants/tiffany-signature-pearls-18k-white-gold-cultured-pearl-necklaces-pendants-1544144787.html
Clear_Session8683@reddit
That's beautiful!
ToneSenior7156@reddit
This is actually what I have. I wear it every day, it’s not big or flashy.
https://www.tiffany.com/jewelry/necklaces-pendants/ep-diamonds-by-the-yard-sterling-silver-round-brilliant-diamonds-necklaces-pendants-1591568434.html?queryID=3928ce4cc299f74aa4be12ed6aada307&objectID=60017922&indexName=ecommerce_us_products__en_US&searchQuery=diamond+necklace&variantId=1591568434
Clear_Session8683@reddit
I love that too!
certifiedcolorexpert@reddit
My hubby took me to my dream destination: Italy for 14 days. Experiences are better than jewelry.
Somewho_10@reddit
A family trip to a special place.
Old-Appearance-2270@reddit
Love this gift idea.
Catbutt247365@reddit
That she doesn’t have to plan, organize, etc. ask her preferences and make it happen so that she just has to show up.
SpacerCat@reddit
Gold paperclip necklace. Google it. It goes with everything. The chunkier the better.
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
Will definitely look into this.
Zestyclose_You_1616@reddit
Similarly, a T bar necklace would be lovely. I (F64) wear mine with jeans and sweaters or if I'm dressing up.
Additionally (I don't know what she likes or where you're from) -- I am not a fancy person but I have several pieces from Scott James Jewelry. His diamond stuff is gorgeous, too!
kimmy-mac@reddit
Can confirm, I’m on my 50s and would love one!
LostTiredWanderer@reddit
My husband's taking me to a week long trip to Salem MA for my 50th, its a bucket list place for me. Is there a trip or a big activity (skydiving, hot air balloon ride) anything like that? Something she mentioned many times over the years?
Fluffy-Mine-6659@reddit
Off topic - a week is a lot of time just in Salem. Other than Marblehead and Boston take a ride up to Maine and spend a couple of days near Acadia. Or go south to cape cod or Newport RI.
Do grab a cocktail at the hidden door in Marblehead. Research where the door is before you go.
LostTiredWanderer@reddit
Thank you for the information. We have a rental car and wanted to go out and about.
Zestyclose_You_1616@reddit
In Salem, don't sleep on the House of the Seven Gables. If Cry Innocent is offered, take the time to see it performed and participate. If you like great beer, be sure to stop into Notch.
Hit up Rockport and Gloucester while you're that way. Check out DeCordova Sculpture Park in Lincoln (look at the Trustees of Reservations for other cool spots), and Walden Pond and Minuteman National Park in Concord.
If you do head up to Maine, consider Portland for some great food and Coastal Maine Botanical Gardens in Boothbay Harbor (another don't miss). Happy 50th!!
LostTiredWanderer@reddit
Since you are local, any places to avoid? This is a once in a lifetime trip for us
diablette@reddit
Get your Salem Witch Museum tickets ahead of time, they sell out quickly!
LostTiredWanderer@reddit
Thank you for the info.
LessLikelyTo@reddit
Nice choice!!
lena10108@reddit
If she doesn't have them already, diamond studs. Buy lab diamonds with good specs and it's not too indulgent. There's a lab diamond reddit sub. At least 1/2 carat each.
CindersMom_515@reddit
Diamond stud earrings. Manufactured is fine if good quality. Platinum or white gold setting.
Go for at least a carat each but not more than 2. Big enough to be seen, but not so huge as to be appropriate only with a ball gown.
One_Priority_2333@reddit
I think many women of this age have always wanted diamond stud earrings. I did and many of my friends also, I’m 63 now. They’re simple, beautiful, and very elegant.
CindersMom_515@reddit
I got a pair for my 50th. I wear them almost every day.
I’ll be 60 this year. Going on a knitting cruise in Japan next spring this time.
bibleeofile123@reddit
I just want to say this is a very sweet post from a husband that clearly cares for and loves his wife. I wonder if any of her close friends have ideas?
Extreme-Injury-5447@reddit
You already seem like a great husband for posting this question! Now we all know that any one present won’t fix how she is feeling. I agree with making a fuss over her but maybe if she is scared of losing loved ones in her 50’s maybe start planning visits with the ones she holds dear and make sure to document them and plan to do a scrap book. She also just might be worried that she is now going to be a frumpy 50 year old(in her mind) so lavish loving attention on her like you did when you first met her. Better yet, maybe recreate your first date and tell her how much she still does it for you. Good luck to you and your wife
IGotFancyPants@reddit
When I was nearing 50, my husband took me to a nice jewelry store and asked me to select what I wanted. I chose to get a custom diamond ring. He then asked me to go to the best clothing store and find a beautiful dress, so I did.
On my 50th, he took me to a very high end French restaurant, wearing the dress and the ring. I felt like a movie star.
I’m 65 now, and he’s been gone seven years. That evening is one of my favorite memories.
Ready_Tomatillo_1335@reddit
No brooches and keep jewelry simple per her tastes! (I’m very low key with my jewelry and my absolute favorite necklace is from an Etsy seller named Ravit Schwartz. I have no personal connection except as a customer. Her designs may be too minimalistic for your wife’s tastes, but tossing that out as a consideration! If there is a jewelry artist she has been happy with, maybe they can help you come up with something special?)
One of my friends decided to treat herself to a little adventure or outing every month for the year she turned 50 - really cool spa visit, fun restaurant, weekend trip, etc. Maybe you can gift some experiences beyond just the one day, especially if she’s not feeling excited about her birthday?
Seabluele@reddit
I would take her to an experience you know she would love. Some ideas are a concert, a camping trip, hotel getaway with spa for her to pampered, a nice dinner at a restaurant just for you two, a museum or aquarium or zoo if she loves art or animals, a wine tasting tour, a cooking or painting class you go to with her, hot air balloon ride, escape room, and so much more depending on her likes!
bronwyn511@reddit
Pay a certain amount to her to have her own shopping spree and spoil herself with what she would love. ❤️
Genuin1@reddit
As a non jewelry person myself, experiences/memories are the way to go IMO. A trip, weekend, getaway somewhere with activities she likes to do. If she likes to take pictures, you could buy her a nice digital camera if she doesn’t have one so she can use it to take pictures during the experiences you set up. Then get a photo printing package or one of those frames with the picture that changes so the memories will last.
NDT03076@reddit
I lose every piece of jewelry I get and I turn 50 this year. An Apple Watch or one of those rings that track your stuff would be the only thing I would ever like. Don’t assume that you need to get her jewelers if she has never been one to absolutely love that. It will literally make her feel “less than”.
Elegant-Leg540@reddit
I’m getting a strong vibe that your wife isn’t really into jewelry, and you’re thinking it’s just a matter of figuring out what jewelry you need to buy. Complete disconnect. What about a nice weekend away? Visit some place fun and have an adventure, go to a nice restaurant, get a spa treatment?
roskybosky@reddit
Write this on her card-
“Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety”
-Wm Shakespeare.
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
Deal. Thanks.
claustrophobic-toes@reddit
Get her drilled diamond earrings. They sparkle from all sides. They can be worn everyday but still can be dressy.
SavageQuaker@reddit
Agatha Christie had this note from her husband in her purse when she died.
"Sometimes, but not so very often, two people find real love together as we do. We know that what we have cannot perish. For me, you will remain beautiful and precious with the passing of years." — Max Mallowan
Fluffy-Mine-6659@reddit
Spa trip just for her or an all inclusive vacation or cruise for both of you that includes a spa day for her.
She might really enjoy some me time. And few things are better than sitting in a quiet space sipping champagne while wearing a robe, flipping through a magazine, waiting for a massage followed by a solo hot tub dip and a long high pressure shower that she doesn’t have to clean afterwards.
bessa100@reddit
Experiences are a great way to celebrate something you may not be enthusiastic about. You’ll remember the experience as positive instead of the mixed feelings of being 50. There are also a big selection of books that look at turning 50 in different ways, from comedic to introspective. You would know what suits her personality.
Altruistic-Result339@reddit
For my husbands 50th , 50 days before his birthday I got 1 gift a day with a little cheery note. He looked forward to his special gift every day and it was fun to plan. It can be as simple as a favorite snack , a bottle of wine to share, a lunch out…….. and I culminated it with a week long vacation on his actual birthday.
Silver_Queen_Bee@reddit
You are a gem…. That is so amazing
Low-Passion6921@reddit
Nice watch
_ChristmasSunday@reddit
No broaches. Please. We all beg of you.
Best option is if she has a girlfriend or sister. Ask them. They will know! Things like gold vs silver. Colors she likes etc.
Diamond tennis bracelet is also a classic.
tylersmom1919@reddit
A diamond anniversary band would be lovely.
Designerfrog@reddit
Not if you aren’t a regular jewelry person. It won’t be up her alley.
HighGlutenTolerance@reddit
Look for a cool vintage ring with her birthstone. Eragem is my favorite.
Designerfrog@reddit
Ohh nice tip!
Designerfrog@reddit
Ohh maybe a cup of stars necklace, link below. It is from a Canadian independent jeweler, that I think a Gen X would appreciate and really wear, and makes a statement about being an individual. There also is another independent jeweler who makes flower jewelry that you can customize to your family birth month flowers- link below. Either of these would be special and thoughtful or they may have something else that sparks an idea. It would be a token to remember the celebration and the love your family has rather than a thing.
DO NOT get her just anything that doesn’t have personality or anything meaningful. Generic diamond anything will not feel special. OR-it could be like a fake plane ticket to a place like Oxaca, Mexico and then she could look forward to going somewhere exotic with good food and be involved in helping pick out the hotel and the restaurants and focus on that instead of aging. You could write a little speech about what she’s meant to your life and you could also do a scavenger hunt with clues around your city and that would be a fun experience.
CUP OF STARS
Flowers
Famous_Ear6952@reddit
Make it fun! Have you ever seen the videos where people hold up 2 cards and the other person has to pick one? If you know her 2 favorite stores you could do those and take her on a little shopping spree and then her 2 fave places to eat and take her to lunch. Then if you know 2 places she’d like to go to or visit you could take her on a weekend getaway. Maybe it wouldn’t make turning 50 seem so bad for her
DaScrumMistress@reddit
Omg save yourself and do NOT do the 50 boxes thing. No, just no.
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
Definitely seems to be polarizing. Lots of people think it is super sweet and creative. Lots of people hate it. Regardless, the kids and I are all in.
Except it is not 50 little boxes. One big box with 50 gifts of various kinds, all of which she will like.
DaScrumMistress@reddit
Ohhhh jeez I read that all wrong, my bad! I was thinking you guys were doing the thing that’s like a box inside a bigger box, times 50… which can get someone seriously hurt lol but 50 actual gifts, yeah that’s super sweet! Put a candy bar or something halfway through so she can have a snack during that marathon.
Greenwitch5996@reddit
Something vintage/classic or leather
dzeltenmaize@reddit
Personally I don’t want jewelry or stuff. I have enough. Give her an experience instead. Fabulous weekend away at a deluxe resort. A great restaurant meal and a concert A road trip etc.
zyeu9@reddit
Tenis bracelet
Usual_Plankton_2874@reddit
I second this. I wear very little of my jewelry, but my tennis bracelet is something very special that always makes me feel like a million bucks when I wear it. Depending on what kind of gemstones she likes, you can alternate diamonds with another gem. Mine is diamonds and sapphires.
Disastrous-Soup-5413@reddit
My sister who doesn’t wear bracelets, wears her diamond bracelet that she got from her husband every day!!!!
And all women love diamond stud earrings- 1.5-2 ctw (carat total weight ) which breaks down to about .75 - 1 carat per stud is usually a really nice size. They are classic. Not flashy.
Thatstealthygal@reddit
No we don't. I have super stretched lobes from 80s earrings and I'd lose them immediately.
However I'm not Mrs OP so she might well like them! Just pointing out that Not All Women.
Disastrous-Soup-5413@reddit
Ok thank you ill amend
ApprehensiveArt2813@reddit
I received a 3-stone diamond ring for my 50th. I love it and wear it daily.
Tls-user@reddit
Have you considered a nice watch as a way to commemorate your time together?
"To my wonderful wife on her 50th birthday, Every second of the last 27 years has been a gift because I’ve spent them with you. This watch is a small token of my gratitude for every moment we’ve shared and a promise of all the beautiful ones yet to come. I love you more with every passing minute."
PrudentSyllabub636@reddit
Take her on a trip and buy jewelry there.
OsideOps@reddit
That she picks out.
PracticalPurposes@reddit
I second the "Take her away" suggestions. Could even be the best restaurant in town and a hotel room for the night. It's about hey and the fact that she is still amazing after 50 years and you are still in love with her after 27.
And you're doing it not because she's 50. It's just a good excuse to treat her the way you want to every day.
CookieMatisse@reddit
I am impressed by how thoughtful you’re being about how your wife wants to celebrate, or not celebrate, this milestone birthday. So I’d like to caution you about your “giant box of 50 things” idea. Will it just emphasize the despair she feels when contemplating that number?
I empathize with your wife. On my 60th birthday, my husband presented me with a giant “60” balloon. I busted out crying and fled the room. My family comforted me by letting me ceremonially pop the balloon, and we carried on.
But you know your wife, so go with your gut on this.
Patient-Chocolate531@reddit
You said in your post so many times that you don’t think she’ll like it and that she doesn’t want it.
Do not get her big jewelry if that’s the case.
Women in their fifties often feel invisible and like no one listens. (Source: I’m 52). Do a weekend getaway, plan a trip that you think she’ll like. Do not buy her jewelry that you’ve said half a dozen times you don’t think she’ll like.
MLPNY14@reddit
This is just my opinion, but I would skip the big expensive present and take her somewhere that she has expressed interest in going. Even if it's just to the beach, hiking in the woods, whatever activity speaks to her. Sit down and write her a letter telling her how much she means to you and how wonderful your life together is. My husband and I were married 39 years before he passed away suddenly at age 60. I cherish all the little cards that he gave me, and all of the times we spent together. Let her know what is truly in your heart, it will be the greatest gift ever.
-SweetD-@reddit
I would’ve loved some diamond stud earrings for my 50th since diamonds are my birthstone. But, I rarely wear jewelry and I kinda feel like it’s just a waste (for me). I would’ve much preferred if my husband had planned an amazing trip for me without me having to lift a finger (I am the only one to plan things like that normally).
Downtown-Trainer9568@reddit
Get her a nice watch - my husband bought me one that doesn’t need a battery or to be wound. (Citizen eco watch). With a little sparkle and I wear it everyday. It was maybe a few hundred $ which I felt was expensive enough to love but not so expensive I worry about it.
And travel for something fun to take her mind off turning 50 is always good! Kids keep us young and hanging out with them reminds us that at 50 we still have lots to look forward to.
AgntOrng1@reddit
Came here to say this. A trip and a nice watch. Would be perfect.
Puzzled_Wealth_9766@reddit
Book a weekend away, or a really nice dinner out somewhere. Even a day trip where she doesn’t have to plan everything and maybe a small pice of jewelry from the location. This is what I would want (almost 50 gen xer here).
IllAbbreviations4097@reddit
Your diamond solitaire necklace idea is great.
saltysoul_101@reddit
Great call, a timeless gift that would go down well with anyone regardless of age.
Thatstealthygal@reddit
I reckon - a very simple small diamond necklace of the type she can wear all the time if she wants, AND some kind of lovely activity like a dinner somewhere really nice, or something you know she really wants to do. That way there is both the memento of the necklace and the memory of a nice activity that's not all about FIFTY OMG HALF A CENTURY etc.
JobAffectionate4078@reddit
Woman in my late 40s.
I’m currently in a phase where I’m trying to invest in my hobbies and family life, my health in a holistic way. Personal fashion and career aspirations are not where I want to focus at this age. I would like a record player. Some trekking poles. To invest in some stuff for family life with kids who are soon going to be teenagers - fixing up our basement to be a family room, buying a ping pong table b/c it’s a way I like to hang out with them, buying a trailer so we can haul camping gear. Backyard sauna. Outdoorsy weekend trips.
Talk to her about her goals and positives she’s looking forward to in her 50s, then buy something related. Honestly just anyone talking to me about any personal goals or dreaming about goals as a couple is a gift b/c I’m often in service of everyone else. I have a hard time even having dreams about my 50s b/c culturally it seems to be about deteriorating health, menopause, kids moving out, parents aging.
RedditWidow@reddit
As a 50+ woman who used to be pretty granola and is now a suburban parent, who's been married 27 years, who also doesn't like spending a lot of money on flashy things and feels bad about my age and the general state of the world, my vote is NO, do not get her anything expensive without talking to her first.
If my husband handed me a piece of expensive jewelry, tbh I'd be really uncomfortable ever wearing it in public. The grand gesture would feel hollow because it would be so incongruous with my personality and values, and he should know me well enough to know I don't like wasting money on flashy things. The 50 little gifts put together with the kids would mean a lot more to me than expensive jewelry.
If you really really want to gift her a big ticket item, get her input. Float some suggestions, like a trip, couples spa day, shopping spree, maybe throw "expensive jewelry" in there as an idea, and whatever else you think she might like. But make a joint decision, not a surprise.
Embarrassed_Kale_580@reddit
This is very well said. She doesn’t seem to care for jewelry or expensive things so why push it on her? Why make a big deal of this birthday she’s dreading. I do hope once she gets over that 50 threshold she’ll see that it’s pretty great here.
Like others have said maybe go on a trip, maybe find a cool vrbo or air bnb nearby like a treehouse or something. Maybe just the two of you, maybe as a family. Think about what she really likes, not what you think society has said you should do or you feel like you should do for a landmark birthday. You guys might be excited about this birthday but if she’s not, don’t make her perform excitement just because you guys went big.
Good luck figuring it out, OP. It sounds like there’s a lot of love in your family.
OriginalDivatologist@reddit
I would look into the Cartier love bracelet or bracelets similar to the Cartier love bracelet. I know you said she didn't wear bracelets but, she may wear one with a meaning behind it. I buy myself a piece of jewelry for my bday (June) every year!
Do you think she would love the whole luxury jewelry buying experience? I know I do lol. I'm not sure what's available where you live. I have access to several fine jewelry boutiques in my area. It can give her the opportunity to doll herself up and go out with her hubby. I would love to have my husband take me jewelry shopping. It's just something about a man turning you loose in a jewelry store to pick out what you want. In that moment, I would feel special and loved.
I'm so sad to hear she's not looking forward to her 50s. It's freaking glorious here!! I'm not married and I wasn't in a relationship when I turned 50. I went to Jamaica with some of my high school classmates (Class of 87). We had a freakin ball!
I looked forward to turning 50! It's not easy being in the "Fall Season" of our lives. I lost my brother and my mother. At this point, I've lost a few close friends and have lost a few schoolmates. So, I can understand how she feels.
Another idea could revolve around a hobby she likes or one she always wanted to get in to but, never had the time. Get her a "she shed" or a place in the house that gives her a specific space just for her. She can set it up for anything she wants. Once you've lived your life as a "whole" (wife, mother, caregiver, that friend, just being family oriented, etc.), sometimes you just need time and space to be "one".
Birthday blessings to your wife.
Aunt-Dot@reddit
My husband got me a Gucci necklace for my 50th birthday last year and I could not have been happier! Get her a designer brand piece of jewelry or purse
Enchanted-Tangerine@reddit
What about using that money to take her on a trip to make some new memories?
Luna_3904@reddit
Something simple from Tiffany’s
ratty_jango@reddit
Diamond stud earrings
CarpetScary684@reddit
Ask her to go to her favorite Jewlery store with her best friend and have her pick out 5-8 different Jewlery items she would LOVE to wear . Make sure the friend snaps the ones the wife love get a ring size then have the girls go have lunch .
Heathers4ever@reddit
I love jewelry. But we all have our own tastes. Does she like any gemstones? A beautiful eternity band ring would be a great gift. Or upgrade her hoop earrings. If you bought plain gold or silver hoops, go with something a smidge bigger with detail. A beautiful gemstone pendent or a locket would be nice as well.
Boycatmom3@reddit
Take her someplace fun.
Super_Ad4363@reddit
She wanna Pearl Necklace
SisterGoldenHair1@reddit
Diamonds. Earrings, necklace, cocktail ring, or bracelet would be a wonderful, special gift just for her. ❤️
NaughtyLittleDogs@reddit
Another vote for taking a special trip. I celebrated my 50th in Costa Rica. It was a wonderful experience that I'll always remember fondly. Jewelry is just "stuff." By this phase of our lives, most of us have more than enough stuff. Think of a place that you and your wife have always wanted to go but never made time for. Go there and have that experience while you're still young enough to do it. Every passing decade makes adventurous vacations more difficult to manage. At 50, we're old enough to have the resources to take special trips and young enough to have adventures outside our usual comfort zone.
knintn@reddit
If she doesn’t love jewelry what about a nice relaxing vacation if she’s stressed about turning 50? Find someplace that has a spa if she likes stuff like that?
I’m turning 50 in 3 months and I’m here for it!!! I’m better than I was at 40, I want to continue to be better. I don’t like dwelling on negative because otherwise I wouldn’t want to get out of bed each day.
Sensitive-Issue84@reddit
We dis an Alaskan cruise tour for my 50-year birthday and our 25-year anniversary. It was great.
knintn@reddit
Alaskan cruises are the best!!! What a great gift.
Sensitive-Issue84@reddit
I agree!
Blodeuyn13@reddit
May I suggest a tattoo? You could have it designed specially for her, and present the concept on her birthday.
Notatexan0317@reddit
As a woman with rather low key, granola leaning tastes, I would recommend at least one nice piece with natural crystals/gemstones. I am c train you can find someone on Etsy who could make something with all your birthstones that isn’t super flashy but is still very nice.
AbjectFix1399@reddit
When I turned 50 I learned a new sport. Life-changingly great. Helped me see I can still grow and do fun things, and also got me a bunch of new friends.
Experiences are definitely the way to go.
Afraid_Quail_3099@reddit
Tiara!
Deep-Internal-2209@reddit
Thank you me Lady. ( I say this as I struggle to get into a curtsy.)
Opposite-Lake-9679@reddit
Lol yasssssss Queen!
PlaneTurbulent4825@reddit
Doesnt seem like shes a jewelry person! Take her on a trip!!!
awmaleg@reddit
Buy experiences not stuff
DtchGrl@reddit
This is the correct answer. We're at the age we have the stuff we want. But memories are always fun to make!
TurtleToast2@reddit
Do NOT get her a broach. That's old lady jewelery.
I've always been partial to jewelery with all my kid's birthstones. I'm not fancy and rarely wear jewelery but I like having those for special occasions.
OceansTwentyOne@reddit
I always like trips. As we get older and can afford better travel, it’s the best way to rejuvenate, IMO!
seahag24@reddit
My now husband didn’t know exactly what to give me for an engagement ring. So I sent him links to 7 or 8 rings I liked and he made the final pick. I knew I was going to love the piece and was surprised at the same time ❤️
sleeg466@reddit
We always travel for my big birthdays. My husband never plans our vacations, except for my birthday trips he takes care of everything.
5150-gotadaypass@reddit
50 seems like the perfect time for a BIG trip!!
kmjenks@reddit
I think a very simple diamond solitaire necklace would be nice….not over the top, a small classic simple pretty piece that she could wear all the time if she wanted to. I do work in the jewelry store so obviously I like jewelry but even if she isn’t a big jewelry person, I would think that something simple like that would be flattering and sentimental. That’s just my opinion.
5150-gotadaypass@reddit
I like that idea!
sissydv23@reddit
Let her pick
LeFreeke@reddit
Take her somewhere and do something that makes her forget her age and feel like she has lots to look forward to.
I don’t know her tastes - but maybe a trip to the Caribbean. Go jetskiing. Or see her favorite band. Or go camping. Or zip Lining in Costa Rica. Or safari in Botswana.
Something That makes her feel ALIVE!
TacticalPurpose@reddit
I bought her a pink faced Rolex. She never wore a watch prior, but sure loves this one.
ricekrispytweet@reddit
I suggest an experience or a trip. Even if not fancy or expensive, memorable time is so much more meaningful than stuff especially for people who are not big stuff people.
barbi_in_the_house@reddit
How about a nice mother's ring?
OnionLayers49@reddit
My friend upgraded the diamond in her wedding ring set. She liked her set and didn’t want to change the design, so he got her a new stone that was the same size, but much better quality (color/cut/clarity). She was happy.
beachy_mtn_explorer@reddit
Jewelry sounds lovely but maybe find a local jeweler to hand make something special. Someone who works with local stones or materials that would have special meaning and/or can design something for her style. It doesn't have to be a giant diamond to be special and fancy.
docfallout22@reddit
Pearl Necklace. 😏
And probably like a tennis bracelet too. Maybe give THAT to her 1st. 😉
Wild_Read9062@reddit
I see what you did there.
Wild_Read9062@reddit
People do like nice things. I’m thinking a personalized diamond necklace that either spells out ‘happy 50th birthday’ or ‘I’m getting too old for this shit.’
Or, maybe tickets to a show.
DagnyLeia@reddit
She sounds a lot like me. If you know she doesn't like jewelry or expensive stuff - don't get it for her. It's for HER, not something that feels like it's the right thing.
A) I didn't want to acknowledge I was turning 50. The 50 little things would honestly make me sad... actually counting how many years I've been around? I like the lots of little thing - love those kind of gifts..but 50? I would cry.
B) simple, beautiful jewelry if that is something..maybe a simple name necklace with the kids names, or birthdates, or birthstone..but since she doesn't like expensive big stuff...just simple and meaningful
C) trip / experience with the family..or maybe on her own? I went on my own to a place I wanted to go and it was fabulous. Didn't have to entertain anyone, pretend I was happy or do anything I didn't feel like. At 50, quiet is kinda nice.
Those of us who are simple, are okay with being simple, even if we can afford more. It's really okay.
M-M-L10@reddit
Totally agree and the Trip would be my suggestion.
Euphoric_Event_3155@reddit
Tennis necklace!
Confident_Storm_4884@reddit
Skip the jewelry do a trip she’s always wanted to do!
diablette@reddit
And do the planning - don't just book a flight and leave the rest of the logistics to her.
Confident_Storm_4884@reddit
On the nose!
Double_Sweet_3404@reddit
Ok so please just take her to a nice jewelry store and have her pick it out. I know I am really picky about jewelry so my husband would never buy something like that on his own. I picked my engagement ring, wedding band and more recently my 20th anniversary ring. I turned 50 in Sept.
EnjoyingTheRide-0606@reddit
Pearl necklace. If you can…
Any-Document5438@reddit
Give her a massive diamond, HRT and a butler 😉
ChooChooChaboog@reddit
I’d be so mad if I got expensive jewelry - such a waste. But that doesn’t matter - what really matters is what your wife wants. Ask her - generally does she want a total surprise, travel, jewelry, a party, etc. Then choose in the general category she likes.
ShortySmooth@reddit
The idea has been BROACHED about maybe buying her a BROOCH. Please don’t do this. She’s 50, not 90 (not that I don’t respect aging, but really?). Anything heart-shaped is also a no. Again, 50, not five.
A longed-for trip would be lovely. Where has she always wanted to go? Base your gifts to her around that place, with the last one being plane/train tickets or a map of the destination. I would LOVE to take the beautiful train around Scotland, so gifts could be related to that. It would be so neato. Shoot, just an Amtrak trip around the US would be fun!
recoveredcrush@reddit
Tiara.
Malady1607@reddit
And get her something else, too !
FloppyFerrett1@reddit
I really like this idea - making the best of a situation she's not happy about. Just don't spend a lot of money & make a small private joke about it to laugh WITH her about, so she knows without a doubt it's not at her, which given why you'd said, she should already know.
quarkjet@reddit
Take her to bonaire
CaptainFlynnsGriffin@reddit
It’s really the wrong time to buy gold. But, quality pieces that can be daily drivers never go out of style.
A heavy Byzantine chain or a puffed mariner is quiet money. Especially if it’s in 18K or 22K. The same for a cigar band ring. Plain and heavy.
Would she go for non invasive cosmetic treatments? Like a radio wave or laser treatment? It can completely refresh the skin and provide gentle lifting and tightening. But, only if she’s expressed interest.
How about getting a personal trainer that will come to the house or one that has a private facility? It could even be something for you to do together. It’s difficult to find the time to work out but, not having to set everything up is fantastic.
Is there a sport that your wife used to play but, because you don’t, she just fell out of keeping up? Maybe reignite her interest with coaching sessions and new equipment. And instead of a box drive around and get everything already pre set. If it’s tennis line her up three high end racquets to choose from with stringing done right away. Then give her a new membership to the closest indoor facility with prepaid court time with a ball machine and lessons.
This can be done with anything she’s interested in - you do the ground work for her to have an awesome experience.
Fifty presents is a lot of stuff. How does your wife feel about clutter?
Anotherams@reddit
Do not entertain cosmetic procedures, even if she expressed interest in the past. Thst is as bad as the brooch idea. Even if she expressed interest the 50th birthday isn’t the time. That has to be 100% her decision and hers to plan on her own. If he suggests it or gifts it she will see it as he thinks she needs it. He will not get points for that gift at all.
ShortySmooth@reddit
It’s kind of like getting a vacuum cleaner as a present. You’re more likely to get whopped with said vacuum cleaner, too.
EvolutionaryZenith1@reddit
LifeAlert
KwiatLuxe@reddit
Travel. For my husband's 50th we did his epic dream tour of New Zealand. For mine its 2 weeks in Maldives. Take her somewhere she has been dreaming of for a lifetime!
Lcky22@reddit
I would want simple but expensive earrings
beanzerbunzer@reddit
I agree completely - beautiful, gem-quality studs of a meaningful stone like her birthstone, or just in a color she loves, will get so much use.
There is a risk of like, is this it? But it really depends on your wife’s personality. But for me, gorgeous simple jewelry I can wear and enjoy every day is the height of luxury and specialness.
dirtygreysocks@reddit
What does she like? For my 50th, my husband planned a mini trip to swim with manatees, my fave animal. After, he told me to go nuts in the manatee gift shop. It was the best present I've ever received. Jewelry is good for someone who is a big Jewelry person, but if it isn't a thing she really wants, it's not a great gift.
Historical_Nail7271@reddit
Make memories......!!! I say adventure, spa weekend, or a staycation where everyone waits on Mum. Don't overthink it, but make it memorable. 💕
Dramatic-Pass-1555@reddit
Throw her a huge party with "Congrats on a Half Century" banners. You won't have to worry about jewelry or anything else after that!😁
LLR1960@reddit
You must not have read beyond the first sentence ... wife doesn't want a big party.
Dramatic-Pass-1555@reddit
You must not have discovered jokes and sarcasm...
LLR1960@reddit
It's not like Redditors always read through the entire original post every time... how's that for sarcasm :)
Minute-Frame-8060@reddit
Experience. Take her to an event, trip of a lifetime. Sounds like things for the sake of things aren't really her...thing and she doesn't want a memento of the occasion.
MsBigNutz@reddit
Seconding this. What experiences does she like. My friend’s wife received beautiful jewelry but it wasn’t her thing. You sound very in tune with your wife so maybe an experience would be a better fit. My husband and I went to Portugal to celebrate our 50th.
One of her note. Hormone changes are a real thing. Friends who did hormone therapy say it was a miracle and made them feel like themselves again. A GP checking could be useful too
Elegant-Expert7575@reddit
Name brand jewellery is what I’d suggest. Like Tiffany, or Van Cleef. A beautiful bracelet or necklace as a dressing accessory.
50 is golden. What about a Louis Vuitton purse? Or, now hear me out on this - a new car!! 🚙 beep beep!
BlackberryHill@reddit
If she is not generally a jewelry person, don’t get jewelry. I’m not a jewelry person and my ex used to get it for me all the time anyway so that he could tell me people he got it for me.
What is she into? She has surely said something about always wanting X, or to see X. Is she outdoorsy? Trip to national parks. Religious and outdoorsy- walk the Camino de Santiago. Posh? Take her on a cruise. Likes art? Go to the Louvre. A trip would let her get away from thinking about her birthday.
This is about what she would like to receive.
charlestontracy@reddit
I was never a Jewelry person but the older I get the more I love it!!!
I’d love my husband to buy me a nice pair of diamond earrings. I’m an earrings person, but necklaces are nice too!!! For my 50th that would be so lovely!
He once got me a necklace with our daughter’s names on it and it’s probably my favorite necklace ever! Pic is an example of it.
Is she a fan of anything popular??
I love Stranger Things and discovered pandora has stranger things jewelry! They also have Bridgerton, Game of Thrones, Marvel or just regular jewelry!
Anyway, I think jewelry is a beautiful , romantic and thoughtful gift!
doglady1342@reddit
If you're set on jewelry (which would be good with me), why not make an event if it? A couple of years ago for our anniversary, my husband and I were headed out to dinner. On the way, he surprised me by stopping at our regular jeweler and having me choose something for myself.
beecreek500@reddit
My mother got a lovely, delicate, feminine gold and diamond watch as a wedding gift. I always coveted it. Something like that might be nice, even for a non-watch wearer.
PuzzleheadedIron5543@reddit
TRIP. Europe :)
needhelp1209@reddit
I would have like to have gone somewhere. I got to look at memory care center for my dad instead. Womp womp.
Any place she really wants to go? Any climate, food or landmark that would make it special?
Local_Programmer_383@reddit
Another vote here for a trip. My sisters took me on a trip to NYC for my 50th. So much better than guessing at a physical gift.
onewingedwoman@reddit
I would get her a "Family Ring" with each birthstone set in. It represents all of your love for her.
mvl0505@reddit
I love the idea of the birthstones because it’s so special and personal. This will also look beautiful in a necklace or bracelet depending on the size of the family
Malady1607@reddit
What does SHE want? My husband " didn't know what to get me", so he didn't get me anything. Don't be that guy . I told him several times that I wanted to go on a trip. I didn't even get a cake/cupcake/ dessert. ( I have a gluten allergy, so I am gluten-free, but we live in a large metropolitan area where pretty baked gluten-free goods are easy to get and plentiful)
Dragonfly_Peace@reddit
You guys are incredible. I got a 2 hr motorcycle ride and an expectation to make dinner for him and his adult son.
Cultural_Wash5414@reddit
My husband got me a Tag Huer watch when I turned 50. I never take it off
erino3120@reddit
Go into the jewelry sub, tell them your budget and about your wife and the magic fairies will pick out plenty of options for you.
plemyrameter@reddit
I love, love, love jewelry, so I'll throw in my opinion.
Does your wife regularly wear jewelry? If not, then a different gift may be better. If she does, then I'd definitely get something nice that she can wear every day. Fancy stuff just sits in a box. Think diamond studs or "inside out" hoops on the smaller side (because that's comfortable for every day). Or a tasteful diamond pendant.
Depending on your level of sentimentality, you could also consider resetting (or upgrading) her wedding ring. I still wear my original diamond, but have changed the setting a couple of times over the years to mix things up and have a different look.
AdhesivenessEqual166@reddit
I don't wear much jewelry, but I love my huggie earrings and my diamond studs.
AlwaysTheNewb@reddit
A broach? Dude, don’t, unless you’re signaling she is closer to 80.
AdhesivenessEqual166@reddit
Or she's time traveling back to the 1980s.
BoogerPicker2020@reddit
My cousin's husband got her Rolex for 50th. Not a super fancy one but a nice woman's gold one.
All us cousins took a cruise on Royal Caribbean's new big ass boat for a 4 nighter to the Bahamas (her husband couldnt go because he gets super motion sickness and gets weirded out being in large groups) We had a fricken blast! She talked about that trip for weeks...and not one time mentioned the Rolex her husband got her.
madduxcr@reddit
I enjoy Etsy for beautiful earring ideas. And they're inexpensive and well-made. They don't look cheap. So these earrings could be part of a lovely gift basket for her 50th birthday. Comprised of things she loves. PS 50 is a great age! The best ever, really!
MacaroonSad8860@reddit
What about a trip somewhere she’s always wanted to see?
Any_Mixture_8632@reddit
If you do buy jewelry please, please stay away from diamond heart shaped pendants. Or anything heart shaped . IMO
Ruby-Chicken23@reddit
I would upgrade her wedding and engagement rings. Nothing ridiculous just a 1/2 carat glow up
RollTideMeg@reddit
love this idea!
Fantastic-Ride-5588@reddit
A vacation getaway would be nice. When you get to 50, unless you go out a lot and she wears jewelry on a regular basis, spend it on something else. A nice handbag is another great idea. Louis Vuitton, Chanel or Prada.
Express_Hotel2682@reddit
I turned 50 last June. My husband and I have been married 27 years. For my 50th, he gave me a Cartier love bracelet with an engraving inside that says, “Happy 50th, my love.” It is so special to me. I like to think that someday my daughter will get it and it will be passed down generationally. So there’s an idea for you.
Mental_Luck8592@reddit
This is amazing! Can your husband reach out to mine and give a few pointers?
ShiftEducational8848@reddit
Make sure she likes jewelry before you buy it for her.
intentionallybad@reddit
My absolute favorite gift ever was my husband getting all of our videos which were on magnetic media (VHS, etc) digitized.
Extrapolating that, look for ways to celebrate all of her amazing memories and help her cherish them.
Alarming-Hope-2541@reddit
You are so sweet. I’m not a jewelry person. My ring and small earrings and I am good. Definitely not a broach we are 50 not 80. My suggestion is a fancy purse. A LV or Prada bag would/could be nice and gives a “I have arrived” vibe. Diamonds are always a good choice too.
intentionallybad@reddit
My mom says broaches are making a comeback. But then again she is 78 lol.
Ok-Temporary@reddit
1) My 50s have been the best time in my life -- she may be surprised. (I have lost both my parents and only sibling -- but still, it's overall been great.)
2) Lab diamonds are 'real' diamonds. You can get her a lovely diamond ring or earrings for not a lot of money. Check out the https://www.reddit.com/r/labdiamond/ sub to learn more. Do not pay for the name brand (and markup) of Tiffany and the like, unless that is really important to your wife. (I'm a jewelry maker)
3) Take the money saved and pay for an experience. That way she'll have a keepsake, and some great memories. I saw someone mention a trip to Hawaii. Can't go wrong with that.
Bride-of-wire@reddit
I’m also a jeweller and agree with lab diamonds. Natural diamonds are mined in awful and exploitative conditions, in the trade they’re known as ‘blood’ diamonds. Lab diamonds are identical in every way to a ‘real’ diamond, without the misery in their supply chain. And cheaper.
HeyHeyHiFi@reddit
You are sweet for caring so much. You definitely need to mark the occasion, but if she isn’t flashy or doesn’t care about jewelry, don’t fall for the ads that say all women want jewelry and spend a bunch of money on something she doesn’t necessarily want. I turned 50 last year and did a bucket list vacation. I can’t remember if I even got any gifts but the vacation was the gift. Would she want a nice little getaway with you where she could relax and/or do things she enjoys? That would be an amazing gift. Experiences are better than things at our age, imo.
Whole_Craft_1106@reddit
I hate it when people post questions like this. No one here knows your wife! YOU should know her. Go learn about her better.
Ok_Responsibility419@reddit
A nice getaway trip, or a big spa day with her bestie , or diamond Tiffany stud earrings in the famous box …
Acotar47@reddit
I would skip jewelry and do a trip (or maybe a spa day if she’s into it).
Lunamax_432@reddit
Came here to say this same thing! Give her an experience to remember.
paisley716@reddit
Take her on a trip
zephyr_sd@reddit
Unhappy bout turning 50? Isn't that better than dying at 49?
glurbleblurble@reddit
I just turned 50 not even two weeks ago and my husband got me a pair of Tiffany Paloma Picasso olive leaf sterling silver hoop earrings. They are beautiful.
He also got me the same design in gold climber earrings and a necklace for our 20th anniversary a few years back.
sedona71717@reddit
Does she like to travel or do spa experiences? (Or might she?) I’d be into a fun trip for my 50th.
Ok_Inflation_6992@reddit
Don't buy anything that she can turn into a projectile if you piss her off.
sedona71717@reddit
A broach would fit into this category
KittyTB12@reddit
9 day theme cruise…you got the 80s cruise( loved it btw for mine) Mario Gras cruise, jazz cruise, Star Trek cruise…totally awesome.
curious4peace@reddit
Get a piece of poster board and markers. Help the kids make a list of 50 things they and you love about her. From big to small and some silly, some serious. Read them all out loud to her, with extra details or storytelling provided from bit to bit. With cake. Best. Day. Ever.
mouse_attack@reddit
If she doesn’t wear or generally love jewelry, please don’t throw money away on something she won’t care about.
Take her to a spa experience you can enjoy together (soaks and saunas ftw) or plan a particularly special getaway. Again, just the two of you.
Take decisions off her plate, help her decompress, and make sure she sees that you believe she deserves to be cared for.
That’s all a woman really wants.
KaleidoscopeDry3608@reddit
Diamond or favorite gemstone/birthstone tennis bracelet; I’d say a quality automatic watch like Omega Aquaterra or Rolex OP or Cartier but I’d if the time thing would go over well? A fat cocktail stone ring for dates/special occasions A a bottle of wine with a bonus surprise trip to that wine region
FloppyFerrett1@reddit
l like it, but OP said she doesn't really wear bracelets.
KaleidoscopeDry3608@reddit
Ooph no wrist candy?!! 🤔 diamond choker 🥰
puzzlermuzzler@reddit
Diamond stud earrings. Simple, special, and infinitely wearable always. Got to be not tiny but not huge. Got mine for my 50th and wear them every single day.
char_star_cum_jar@reddit
I wear my diamond earrings everyday. They go with everything. Currently sporting them with my Nintendo t shirt on my way to see the new Mario movie.
Just make sure she ACTUALLY HAS PIERCED EARS
QuirkyForever@reddit
Give her all the fun things (in a box with the kids), and then just you and her go do something she would love, like a spa (if she's into that), amazing fancy meal (if she's a foodie), a shopping spree at a store she loves, etc. Show her you know what she likes. If she's not happy about turning 50, a lot of that probably has to do with her worrying about losing her looks, etc. So something that shows her that you think she's beautiful and sexy.
Awkward_Stuff5516@reddit
Something she'll like and wear. Most of us don't have the lifestyle for big flashy fancy pieces of jewelry, but rock some everyday bling everyday.
flat-flat-flatlander@reddit
If she has pierced ears, a really nice set of “sleeper” earrings would be my pick.
(Sleeper just means earrings with comfortable backs that won’t poke her head if she wears them at night)
Little diamond earrings or pearls or whatever gemstone she likes. Check her other frequently-worn items (bracelets, necklaces, purses, jackets) to see whether it will match. You’ll likely have to pick from white gold, yellow gold or silver.
If she’s not an earring gal, pay close attention to whatever she does wear for jewellery. Get something similar to that.
I’m a young Gen Xer, but broaches remind me of my grandma. Not really my style.
FloppyFerrett1@reddit
Yeah, they kinda went out in the 90s. I have several nice ones just sitting l never know what to put them with.
Low-Cod-4712@reddit
We went to Croatia for my 50th. She doesn't sound like a big jewelry girl. Ask her if she would like to go on a special trip. Even NYC to see Broadway shows. Or a river cruise. If she doesn't like travel or jewelry, maybe a spa day, or massages?
Coffeetimewithcats@reddit
Rolex
ConcertinaTerpsichor@reddit
I recommend talking to her about it.
SushiGirlRC@reddit
Trip to Hawaii, 5-0.
Only_Presentation758@reddit
Oh god not a brooch. Your heart is in the right place but you’re not listening to yourself or her. She doesn’t want to commemorate the milestone; it’s making her feel bad. So I would definitely go with the small jewelry she would wear for everyday and not get decorations/cards/cake that say “50.” Then, after she’s opened her gift, you can say you wanted to do more but you know she didn’t want a big deal made about this birthday, and for her to let you know if there’s anything else special she would like: a trip, dinner at a restaurant she’s been wanting to try, a ring or earrings to match what you gave her, etc. In fact that could be on a little handwritten card along with the gift. TRUST ME she will appreciate that. Instead of an expensive piece she will have to pretend to like and feel old everytime she looks at it.
wgnorcal@reddit
Diamond tennis bracelet! That’s what my husband got me and it’s a very special keepsake! ✨
patbagger@reddit
Pearl necklace
SheShouldGo@reddit
From my POV, as a woman swiftly approaching 50, I would be happy if my husband got me something that showed he knew me and my taste/comfort. I would be very happy with something I would use/wear and enjoy. While it is tempting to get a big flashy gift, to mark the milestone, it would be risking her feeling unseen if it was something too outside her taste.
If she has everyday jewelry, or things that she wears often, you cold look into getting her a complementary piece. Simple earrings to match a favorite necklace, or an upgrade on her chain.
Brooches are definitely old lady adjacent, so unless you see something that screams to be for your wife, I would avoid them.
As other options, does she like to travel? Maybe she would like a weekend away, spa trip, cruise, or other kind of getaway? Does she like purses or fancy bags?
Ordinary_Fix3199@reddit
If she’s not into jewelry, maybe plan a meaningful experience or trip for her. What brings her joy in life? I just turned 54 two weeks ago, and I actually regret spending money on jewelry. Not only does it seem….frivolous…right now with all the the global economic uncertainty, but I have inherited quite a bit of jewelry in recent years from family members and that is the jewelry that I wear the most. I have a pair of diamond earrings in my safe that my husband gave me years ago, and I don’t wear them because I wear my grandma’s diamond earrings, or my mom’s pearls.
My mother in law turned 80 a few days ago, and the family got together, pooled photos, and my sister in law put a memory book together on Shutterfly or something. And we all got to order them! I think that’s really special, and if she’s already feeling sentimental I bet she would love it
AbleBodied2020@reddit
Tiffany boxes are so pretty
LayerNo3634@reddit
I would much rather have a nice vacation than jewelry. That's just me, but have you considered a cruise or all-inclusive getaway?
Forward_Base_615@reddit
Ask her close friends about the jewelry. Esp anyone whose style she admires
ILoveLipGloss@reddit
for my best friend's 50th, her H contacted me to pick out a Cartier bracelet for her.
bigredroyaloak@reddit
If she’s not into jewelry, what is she into? What about a trip or experience to share just with her?
coldbrewedsunshine@reddit
maybe stop thinking bigger/nicer and start thinking smaller/personal.
for example. my bestie turned 50 in march. her husband and i decided to surprise her with a visit from me(i live in a different state). somehow both of us managed to keep our mouths shut, and i showed up with gaudy giant 50 balloons on her porch to her utter amazement.
i started thinking, what made 50 awesome for me? and cobbled together a present of bad ass grandma shit. individually wrapped everything. had a grandma sweater, homemade cbd salve, glasses holders with daggers on them, marzipan (which she mentioned as a secret fave years ago), a jar of beautiful marbles, a map of her state in case she forgets how to get home… you get the idea. best birthday ever.
amoodymermaid@reddit
I would love to have a pair of small diamond earrings with French backs.
Other than that, a fun experience. Art class, long weekend some place fun.
Traditional_Fan_2655@reddit
No broaches. Just no. Does she wear bracelets regularly? If not, don't buy a bracelet. Consider diamond solitaire earrings.
Or Consider a major trip. Make it a stsrt to exploring the world.
SKULLDIVERGURL@reddit
I love my solitaire earrings. 10th anniversary gift. I wear them almost exclusively. That being said, I would rather have experiences than expensive jewelry. Now when we travel, I get a small piece of unique jewelry as a souvenir. Something that is a reminder of the trip… silver stingray bracelet from Cayman Islands, Opal from Australia, Pearl from Japan….
Conscious-Mulberry17@reddit
Take her out for a nice meal and let her pick the jewelry. She might have something in mind. My own wife likes the occasional piece of jewelry, and her taste runs from the rare heirloom piece to fun and affordable stuff from places like catbird.
ComplexTomatillo6278@reddit
Small jewelry (in her style) and big experience (spa day, hot air balloon ride, weekend cruise, etc).
whirlydad@reddit
Tiffany's. Stupid premium on jewelry, but once she sees the box you'll see why. Breakfast at Tiffany's is like a core memory and every Woman wants to be Audrey Hepburn once in their lives. Bonus points if you buy her a ring and it has to be resized so she gets that Tiffany's Customer Service experience!
FlamingWhisk@reddit
Budget? You could get her an experience. A day or two at a spa. For jewelry earrings are always a safe bet
TransportationDue856@reddit
I turned 50 in October. Never been much of a jewelry person. I got a small pair of Diamond stud earrings. They never go out of style. I think they were 1200, didn’t break the bank. We also took a vacation which was absolutely perfect. We don’t have kids. Different lifestyle.
Capital-Earth-5945@reddit
Maybe take her on a trip instead.
Hepkat98@reddit
That's what I was thinking. At our age, experiences are much more meaningful than things, at least to me.
Achin_2B@reddit
My husband gave me a diamond tennis bracelet and I LOVE it! If bracelets aren’t her thing, then a pair of diamond stud earrings with screw-on backs. Simple. Elegant. Timeless.
No-Country6348@reddit
I personally don’t like jewelry and don’t like when my husband buys it for me.
Lickford@reddit
Vacuum cleaner not a good gift anymore?
moxiemoon@reddit
What the af
Lickford@reddit
Lighten up Francis.
ValuableGrowth8528@reddit
I’m not a jewelry person but I love the plain band with small diamonds that my husband got me for a milestone occasion. The diamonds don’t go all the way around, which is fine for me because I wouldn’t have wanted him to spend more money on it than he already did. But it’s classy without being flashy. I wear it on the ring finger of my right hand.
JanaT2@reddit
Plan a trip
hawksmarinerz@reddit
I did a trip to the Caribbean for my 50th. It was perfect
Boosba@reddit
Go soak in nature. Fly into Denver/COS or Portland or Albuquerque and go snooping together.
Cute-Post3231@reddit
Don’t assume that jewelry is universally good for gifts; I find it lazy “see I spent a lot!!!” And perpetuated by jewelry sellers.
Jewelry is not a means to avoid thinking for yourself!!! Show her you see her! What small things does she use/do frequently that you could make easier, more fun, watch her to see when she smiles what is she doing/looking at? Consider who she is. Surprise her by showing you know HER!
Bhulaskatah@reddit
I would ask her. I personally preferred to plan for my 50th because I don't like surprises. We ended up going to a hotel at the beach nearby. It was low key and perfect. Good luck.
Deedoodleday@reddit
We did trips for each other when we turned 50. Much more meaningful than a bauble.
hurry-and-wait@reddit
Maybe this would be a good year to focus on what lies ahead - experiences, the love that exists after all this time, your children. Maybe you could buy her a lovely flowering tree? Or with your 50 boxes, include 50 ideas of things she might like as a present, so that she can choose?
twolephants@reddit
Dude. Talk to your wife about it.
You're planning to get 50 things and put them in a box for someone who isn't excited about turning 50, didn't want a party, and sounds like a pretty down to earth person who might consider the money that cost wasted on her. And then getting something larger or nicer to which all the same facts apply.
Don't do that. You don't have to surprise her to do something nice for her birthday.
Chat to her and tell her you want to mark the occasion, even if she's not exactly thrilled about it. Ask her what she wants - a family holiday / event / meal out? Something just involving the two of you? Something just for her? A surprise?
It'll make your life a lot easier.
Godspeed, good man 👍
Hungry_Spring_9079@reddit
I would try diamond stud earrings or a locket with your wedding picture or grand baby pictures or pictures your kids.
therealgookachu@reddit
As someone that never wears jewelry, I echo what other ppl said about dinner, or spa treatment, or something like that. Wonderful memories are far better than trinkets.
smylegirl71@reddit
I'm not much of a flashy jewelry person myself. For my 50th birthday, one of the presents my husband got me was a necklace with a pendant depicting the phase of the moon on the actual day I was born. I love the moon, and I thought this was an excellent gift. The company that makes them is called Moonglow.
InformationSerious27@reddit
Diamond stud earrings are classics.
ItsCatCat@reddit
THIS. She’s 50. Get her diamonds. Brooches are for old ladies. DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT get her old lady jewelry!
Professional_Use6852@reddit
I second this. No brooches
BG3restart@reddit
A lot of women don't like diamonds. I'd rather have an opal, it's my birthstone. Diamond studs are for footballers and boxers.
Street_Giraffe5772@reddit
I’m a granola person and my spouse has really tried to get me jewelry and I never wear it. I’m pretty dedicated to my regular earrings, but I do like those for occasional events. We’ve been married 20 years and even though I don’t wear rings often I picked out an anniversary band that I love. Really zone in on what she wears and enjoys and skip things you think you are supposed to get. I like tiny things and really only certain stones or metals. Definitely not a broach! That will definitely make her fell in the old category. Keep it simple and meaningful and you can’t go wrong.
KMack666@reddit
Maybe book a VERY nice dinner and hotel, room service, bathrobes, spa, the whole shebang! Potatoes in there somewhere!
bluntpointsharpie@reddit
Take her on a nice trip she's always wanted. Do something for her that will make her feel beautiful and desired.
1043b@reddit
If your thinking jewelry and and she has more of a granola past there are a number of things that come to mind that you can find on etsy. Some you'll have to have strung locally or if she might like it, give her a class with the stones and a gift certificate for tools of her choice, or buy one a that can be exchanged, etc.
Here are some that fit the profile but are perhaps type friendly( personally I love them, check different shops and shipping rates, lengths and sales, sizes and possible return opportunities too) Faceted 3-4mm rondelle sapphires, multicolor, natural, tundra, or yellow, blue, orange, green, red, pink
sapphires 3-4mm
https://www.etsy.com/listing/1812054496/16-aaa-natural-blue-sapphire-rondellehttps://www.etsy.com/listing/1016215491/super-quality-multi-sapphire-tyre-beads
Lapis Lazuli beadshttps://www.etsy.com/listing/1877783466/aaa-lapis-quartz-gemstone-beaded
Moonstone https://www.etsy.com/listing/1804344692/aaa-chatoyant-natural-black-moonstone
Just lots of fun choices. Or ebay or etsy for antique or vintage jewelry as well. For antique or vintage pieces when I shop for real sterling, 10k, 14k, etc I typically will only pay the current going 'melt value' by today's calculation online plus about 20% if it's a good quality made piece without lots of stones or enamel work. Much less if stones or enamel add weight. Semi precious and even precious gems don't seem to sell for much theese days if your choosey and it's not a known designer and highly desirable.
If you buy designer pieces you have to check comparables as my math goes out the window. Best wishes
BasketBackground5569@reddit
No more jewelry. There's always a thing or 2 a woman wants but would never spend the money on, so do that for her. A bag. A new appliance. Get her car detailed. A one time professional house cleaning.
shypeteite@reddit
A great holiday ?
Beginning_Lunch_9113@reddit
Travel somewhere she has always wanted to go.
ClairePike@reddit
Take her to a vintage jewelry store and let her pick out something pretty. (That’s what I would want)
gambitgrl@reddit
Why the fuck did you wait until the day of her birthday to start thinking about her gift? Way to make a woman feel special when she's already struggling with turning 50.
Big-Account3498@reddit
Where does it say that today is her birthday?
AnxiousAd8160@reddit
I nice solid weighted gold necklace, maybe with a pendant or two that can be worn with or without. I also like the diamond studs idea or maybe baby hoops gold or gold with diamonds
latte1963@reddit
Diamond stud earrings if her ears are pierced!
TheNightCheeze@reddit
Can't go wrong with these. I wear mine exclusively, and only change them out when I am going to an event or special occasion
LadySiren@reddit
Go for an experience, as others have suggested. New era, new adventure, I say.
Kattzoo@reddit
I also like the idea of an experience such as a trip. It doesn't have to be framed as a 50th birthday trip but as you wanted to spend some time with her making memories. Like you said, the world is on fire. Who wouldn't want a nice escape with someone they loved?
TallnStrikin@reddit
As someone turning 50 this month, I also vote for gifting an experience. Something off her bucket list if she has one. For my 40th, my then husband took me to Venice and Florence. We're divorced now but I still hold those great memories. Also think of the things she enjoyed in her childhood, assuming she's mentioned them. Something nostalgic, even a small thought is always nice.
FlowersNSunshine75@reddit
I went on a cruise with my husband for my 50th. Is it possible to plan an experience instead of jewelry?
thingonething@reddit
Yes, a European river cruise is so nice. We've done the Danube River and the Rhine River. Between the two, we agree that the Danube River was better. So relaxing and enjoyable.
InaccessibleRail70@reddit
Another vote for experience vs jewelry. If she’s a ‘simple jewelry’ person she prolly already has her faves and anything fancy would just sit in a drawer. Maybe a trip you’ve been planning but splurge on whatever that mean for you to make it more special - fly first class, take care of the stuff unusually has to take care of so she can really enjoy, stay at a nicer hotel or tack on a cool tour/experience. I turned 50 during covid and our plan was a safari and I ended up with a fancy handbag. Still haven’t gotten around to the safari.
FlowersNSunshine75@reddit
It’s true. I have 4-5 pieces I wear that are meaningful to me. Unless it was a distinctly different piece (say a ruby that I would only wear with a red dress when I mainly have topaz and blue sapphires), I probably wouldn’t wear it.
AcanthaceaeIll7278@reddit
I wasn’t happy about turning 50 and didn’t want a fuss. So, we went to our favorite restaurant. Had an amazing meal. Went to a new cocktail bar. Came home. Went to bed.
My best birthday ever!!!
ScheanaShaylover@reddit
A nice watch is timeless (pun intended)
Strong_Molasses_6679@reddit
Experiences > shiny things.
fridaycat@reddit
Especially if she is not a jewelry person.
My3rdTesticle@reddit
Give her an experience, not just a thing. Show her you put thought into whatever it is.
For my wife's 50th we took a trip to NYC. Weeks before going, I pre-ordered an engraved locket from Tiffany. As we were strolling down 5th Ave I said, "wanna go in?" as we passed the store. (She had a few pieces from them and obviously wanted to browse). Needless to say, she was pretty surprised to walk out with a custom engraved necklace. She wore it all the time.
If you're going to get jewelry (or anything for that matter), make it something meaningful and personal instead of just grabbing a random thing from the store. It'll have a much bigger impact.
Anek70@reddit
Lovely!
daniegirl21@reddit
I agree with this, since she isn’t a big jewelry person.
Instead, really think about what makes her smile the most in life. Does she like to take trips? Does she enjoy getting together with family for outings like shows, sporting events, weekend trips to places in your state? Maybe she would like to update her wardrobe and needs a shopping spree and/or spa day.
ThisLoaf-@reddit
Just my opinion, the best gift is a gift she truly wants, especially if it’s an expensive piece of jewelry. I’d suggest you “stop by” a jewelry store to kill time while you’re out for lunch or otherwise running around town and find out what she goes crazy over. Buy it in the spot.
DogMomofGary@reddit
My husband got me a fire opal ring. He said he wanted me to remember how hot I am at 50. What a guy. ❤️
Anek70@reddit
Keeper!
Anek70@reddit
I did like my mother in law, and wished for an update of my wedding ring.
filledoux@reddit
Floating bezel diamond necklace!!
Dear_Treat2592@reddit
If jewelry doesn’t suit her, please don’t buy her jewelry. My ex bought me a big diamond ring and it made me feel like he didn’t know me anymore. I didn’t really like it (and felt guilty!) but felt I had to wear it.
If she’s not materialistic, consider an experience. Plan everything and try to make it something she’s always wanted to do. Think carefully about her values and what she enjoys.
ozymandiuspedestal@reddit
Budget.? Van Kleef Alahambra series necklace and bracelet.
Anotherams@reddit
Willing to bet his wife would rather go to Alhambra than recieve an over priced trendy necklace bracelet set.
Apprehensive_Net_829@reddit
I would not call a Van Cleef & Arpels moitf that's been sold since 1968 "trendy".
Mentalcomposer@reddit
I love the idea of 50 presents. I had a week of presents leading up to my 60th and it was awesome! So maybe do that and spread out the joy for the week.
Have the big present a trip for the two of you. Somewhere she always wanted to go, or something she always talked about doing.
smith564@reddit
This is a great idea. Even better if OP could incorporate small items that represent fun memories and little things she enjoys (favorite candy bar, chips, etc).
Skye2055@reddit
My husband got me a diamond ring with a diamond to represent each of our children. I love it and I am not a jewelry person either but the deep meaning of the ring always makes me thankful to have it.
Head_Trick_9932@reddit
I’m that 50 (1 year) year old wife that does not want jewelry. My husband of 20 years knows from the past. I don’t wear it. Not my thing.
If you insist on jewelry, maybe take her out to pick it out or make it something like a mother’s ring.
I’d prefer a nice, relaxing vacation that my husband planned (which he has never lol).
k8username@reddit
This!! Talk to her about the gift
Head_Trick_9932@reddit
Right. It feels almost as bad when we get something we’ve expressed no interest in. It shows they’re not listening.:(
My husband is not the gifting type or romantic, really. That’s ok…it works for us because neither am I LOL. We kinda just buy what we want and say “this is my bday present”.😂
I assume next year for my 50th, he will plan nothing. I’ll probably plan my own beach getaway and tell him to show up…he paid for it.😆
k8username@reddit
This is the secret of our 48 yo marriage: no gifts expected!
Melissaschwart@reddit
Same I’m not into jewelry or flowers.i told my husband not to waste money on it.I would rather get a new pair of sneakers like Nike or ASICS.i turned 50 last year and it wasn’t a big deal.I bought me a tanning package got my hair colored and called it a day
3-kids-no-money@reddit
For 50 I asked for art. Also a fan of diamond studs for daily wear.
StereotypicallBarbie@reddit
Personally I really love some vintage jewellery..
But without knowing your wives taste it’s hard to judge.. some people love their jewellery really understated and I think it’s better to her a piece she could wear more than once.. and that she’d love! I’d go with what she’s always liked.. just a more upscale and expensive version.
_frank_tank@reddit
A necklace that is both practical and modern
decodogs@reddit
I’m buying myself a nice vintage gold and emerald ring for my 50th, so of course I think it’s a lovely idea. I don’t know her taste, but if vintage jewels are her thing, this is where I have picked up several pieces:
https://www.etsy.com/shop/JanPalmerAntiques?ref=usf_2020
mrdudsir@reddit
You could get her a short course on jewellery making. My wife took to it and now makes all her own rings and necklaces! It's costing me a fortune in bullion!
No-County7603@reddit
Woman here, 54...Buy her a luxury bag if she likes purses! I love them.
catregy@reddit
I was going this path and looking through comments and there you said it!
circa74@reddit
I thought I wanted a tennis bracelet for my 50th birthday and told my husband as much. He was supportive of my gift idea, but after we mulled it over, I decided I wanted to travel instead - and it was a great trip!
ally_kr@reddit
This guys stuff is the best and he probably has something more unique which will match your wife personality
Alan Ardiff jewelry
LetThem_1972@reddit
Ruby or emerald necklace. Whatever she would like best. Include a card that describes what the precious stone represents about her as a person. My wife isn't overly emotional, but when I gave her this package, she started crying and tells me to this day how much it meant to her.
Interesting_Cut_7591@reddit
Give her an experience. Plan a trip or experience, it doesn't have to be huge, but something thoughtful. For mine, my husband knew I loved otters, he found a place I could swim and play with them. He paid for me and a girlfriend to have lunch/ cocktails and the otter experience. Then took me out to dinner with our closest friends. It was exactly what I would have picked for myself. And it was something I got to look forward to instead of dreading.
OtterMumzy@reddit
You must tell me where you did this!! Tysm!
Interesting_Cut_7591@reddit
Oakmeadowranch.com, they are north of Denton, TX. They have a lot of different animals and offer Air BnBs to stay and even have an RV park with amazing facilities. Check them out on IG.
Love your username!
crowislanddive@reddit
Go on a trip!
Glittershitz37@reddit
Spend the jewelry money on an amazing trip to somewhere she's always wanted to go.
Agreeable-You-8223@reddit
I love my eternity diamond band that I wear with my wedding set (wore). I wear it on its own or stack it with my claddagh ring. You can get big, small, gold silver, real diamonds, lab grown etc.
HeftyDesign7349@reddit
Does she have an Apple Watch yet? Maybe upgrade it.
Anotherams@reddit
I’d be so let down to get a disposable watch for my birthday. Apple products are not buy it for life as they stop supporting after a few years. Milestones call for a lifetime experience or item.
SoUpInYa@reddit
She would appreciate a nice, fancy cane /s
Odd_Policy_3009@reddit
Take her on a surprise trip that she doesn’t have to plan and you take care of every little detail.
Anotherams@reddit
I went to Portugal for my 50th bday / 20th anniversary. Best gift ever. jewelry would have been a waste, and would likely gone to the safety deposit box later that week, and would still be there.
ELB74@reddit
What about an experience? Weekend trip somewhere etc?
LizWaits410@reddit
This is my vote and also what I'm doing for my upcoming 50th. I love the 50 gifts idea from you and the kids, but instead of jewelry, maybe find a sitter for the weekend and take her on a romantic road trip?
older_than_i_feel@reddit
we, too, have been married for 27 years. I am not yet 50, but for our 25th, he surprised me by taking me to Coronado (san diego). Paid for a suite, we got a couples massage, and ate tacos on the beach for three days.
I think about that trip daily. Mostly because all I was told was to pack for the beach and be ready to eat tacos and have margaritas. :-) Not having to think was the best gift ever.
theinvisablewoman@reddit
Also grab her butt, wrap your arms around her and really kiss her today and remind her you still think shes a fox
Acceptable_Car_1833@reddit
What hobbies does she enjoy? Is there a trip she always wanted to take?
OCbrunetteesq@reddit
I’m buying my husband a Rolex for his 50th next year. Maybe a nice watch?
WitnessEntire@reddit
Cartier tank watch
go-ahead-fafo@reddit
This gets my vote, too!
WitnessEntire@reddit
Citizens Bianca is a nice dupe for $300 in sale
go-ahead-fafo@reddit
My ex husband bought me a Cartier Panthere in 1999 and I sold it about 10 years ago 😩
1_dreamr@reddit
Yes. 🙌 Cartier tank watch is a timeless, beautiful, practical, versatile piece. Definitely special. Perfect.
Scimmia_bianca@reddit
I’m turning 50 this year and am not a jewelry person. I’m an experience person. My husband planned and booked a nice week trip to a nearby spot that’s beautiful (I love nature) with just him and my son. We will enjoy some hiking, have a nice dinner and do some special activities around that part of the country. I’m excited and it’s exactly what I want. I am always the planner and having him take that on as well as the trip is the perfect gift for me. Easy peasy. That’s worth more to me than a piece of jewelry that costs what the trip will cost.
Camaschrist@reddit
I am not into jewelry and don’t wear much. My wedding ring is a band because I don’t want stones sticking out. My husband of 27 years got me 1/4 carat diamond studs when we were first married. He’s upgraded them until they got to 1 carat each. I only wear them and sapphire studs my jeweler son made me.
MundaneHuckleberry58@reddit
That’s so nice OP. I’ve been married 23 years.
I turned 50 a couple weeks ago. Nobody got me a thing. Not a single plant, trip, card, necklace, meal. I felt completely overlooked & forgotten about, which I guess is an apt introduction for a woman in her 50s.
Wren65@reddit
Happy Birthday! I hope you have the best decade! Make the most of it!!
MundaneHuckleberry58@reddit
Thank you Wren65!
NotEasilyConfused@reddit
🎂Happy Birthday!
MundaneHuckleberry58@reddit
Thank you NotEasilyConfused!
FranqiT@reddit
My hubby got me a diamond tennis bracelet, had my sisters fly in and threw me an intimate surprise party. Then had theatre tix for the weekend they were in town. It was a three day celebration of small gestures and soft moments. Amazing.
For his, I already have something pretty grand planned. I have a couple years to plan, so hope it works out!
Sensitive-Issue84@reddit
I just saw a necklace that I loved. I'm not into necklaces usually but I would wear this. Check out Leslie Jones wears on SNL. It's beautiful and comes in silver and gold.
PositiveAd823@reddit
When we got engaged, my husband gave me a beautiful diamond ring. For our 10th anniversary, my husband bought me a three-diamond wedding band—each diamond was the same size, cut, and carat to represent our three children. On our 25th anniversary, he bought a halo diamond ring, which I had no inkling of and which he secretly picked out—it was also the same year I turned 50 (a few months after). One year later, when we sold our business (one we built together), he treated me to a 3-carat diamond ring. Apparently, I love diamonds—which, looking back, I now realize! 😆
Anxious-One-2365@reddit
Out of curiosity- what gifts did you give your husband for these milestone events?
PositiveAd823@reddit
He has gotten A LOT of gifts that make up for these diamonds. Golf clubs/sets, trips, and he loves vehicles--two BMW X5, two Toyota Sequoias, three Toyota 4 Runners, two Audi Q7 and Q8, while I drove a minivan.
no-curtains2020@reddit
Take her on a trip. We went to Vegas for my 50th
Regular_or_BQ@reddit
53, married to a deadhead and I am not especially into jewelry, in that I don't wear my wedding ring half the time.
He's bought me more crap from Tiffany than I can count and it gets worn maybe once a year. I know he means well and I always make over it and thank him profusely but he's hit the mark with jewelry exactly one time, and at that, he spent 400% more than I wish he had.
Experience. Give her a trip with you and leave the kids home. If you can't afford that, do a staycation nearby at a nice hotel for two nights. Spend time with her and without phones. Take a pic when you go to dinner and frame it for her office or the wall or whatever. Hope this helps! And happy bday to her - my 50s have been kind to me so far and I hope they are for her too - but lord, get out there and exercise!!!
Do not get her a gym membership, that is NOT what I said! haha
SunshineLoveKindness@reddit
Maybe she would like an experience more than jewelry? Like an extra special date night with just you and you find a sitter for the kids?
East_Vivian@reddit
If she’s not into jewelry don’t get her jewelry. I’m a 52 yo woman and some fancy jewelry is the last thing I’d want. What is she really into?
BoldBoimlerIsMyHero@reddit
I dreaded 50 then on my actual birthday I was happy. I think a trip to some place she’s always wanted to go but couldn’t because you were raising little kids would be the best gift. If she’s super into jewelry that’s great too. Or get her something she enjoyed in her youth but gave up because she isn’t have time like a guitar or piano. Give a gift of dance lessons for the two of you.
RandomBeverly@reddit
Diamond earrings. Nice ones. Not tiny ones!
quiltsohard@reddit
My husband got me this for my 40th bday and I have worn them everyday for the last 15 years. I only take them off to clean them.
Fantastic-Sun1669@reddit
Can you plan and book amazing trip for her - either with the family or just the two of you? Do you like to cruise? If yes, there is someplace that she has always wanted to go like maybe the Mediterranean or Hawaii or whatever… It’s really easy to grab a travel agent and book a cruise somewhere. You can even book flights and hotels before and after the cruise with the actual cruise company itself so most of the planning is taken care of for you. I’m not a flashy person either and I really would rather pick out my own jewelry. But I’ve been begging for my husband of 30 years to please just plan a trip for us and surprise me with it. Alas, that has not happened, but one can always hope.
raginghappy@reddit
You say you have kids and have been married 27 yrs - a ring with all your kids’ birthstones maybe in a wedding band with amateur stone is on your engagement ring? So she can slide it on the same finger as her rings already? It’s a gift that says you’ve thought about how much she means to you ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I’ve stopped wearing necklaces, turkey neck, and many rings, get in the way, old lady hands I’m still getting used to, earrings are still good though, so maybe earrings with meaning. OR you plan a weekend with the reservations etc and she just gets to come along and relax
mrskamran@reddit
For mine, I didn’t want anything. I didn’t want to really be around anyone so my husband and I took a nice long weekend trip instead. We went to the lake. Had dinner walked around and shopped and whatever we got into and it was just perfect. Maybe take her away somewhere instead?
Puzzleheaded_Fig7807@reddit
ITA memories made are priceless and if I don’t have to plan the trip, it’s a double win!!
mrskamran@reddit
Exactly. 💯
LadyNorbert@reddit
I think this is the answer. Creating memories together is always a win with me.
mrskamran@reddit
Yes, especially when most of us barely wear the jewelry we have and don’t see our husbands as much as we would like. It was just delightful. Highly recommend! ☺️
Dry-Aside4526@reddit
Diamond solitaire necklace.
Clear_Session8683@reddit
I'm with everyone else for experiences. My husband is turning 80 this year and I'm surprising him with a trip to Mackinaw Island, then over to Sault St Marie with a fancy train ride on the Agawa Canyon. We both have every material thing we ever wanted. Just getting to spend these last years together is everything. Memories are all you will have at the end. Make 'em good!
old_motters@reddit
Does she have an eternity ring?
No-Jicama3012@reddit
I’m a decade plus a little, so older than your wife.
I love pearls but honestly, if you don’t go out often to “fancy” places, why bother?
So I have a really pretty vintage fake pearl necklace. I get so many compliments on them because they are a beautiful color and don’t mind that they aren’t real.
My husband gave me an 18 inch “paper clip” necklace in yellow gold that he bought from a reputable jeweler in our town. They are pretty, goes with anything you wear including t-shirts, catch the light when you move, and I ADORE it. I wear it 24/7. I’ve also seen them in the case at Costco and I’m fairly certain they are less expensive there, but still fantastic quality.
I’d highly recommend something like this simply because HEY, your wife is STILL YOUNG. (But man, those milestone bdays are HARD on a woman!)
I only wish I’d gotten it ten years ago before my neck started to look “old”. Ten years ago my neck was still great. lol.
Something to consider.
mamapeacelovebliss@reddit
Think experience, not material things. Do you like to travel? Are you near a big city? I always appreciate experiences. Take her to Hawaii or a nice bed and breakfast or do something she’d love. What is she into?
Excellent_Fig5525@reddit
Don't do jewelry. Plan a meaningful "experience" like a weekend getaway where she can relax and enjoy herself.
Devildog_627@reddit
My wife turned 50 last year and I’d planned for a year prior as to what to do. I fretted big-time.
Ultimately I settled on a certain watch with a platinum bezel and face, in 29mm.
She loved it, didn’t expect it, and will keep it forever.
Own-Fox-7792@reddit
Take a trip. Make memories.
Then_Discussion8809@reddit
Came here to say that. As a dude in his 60's, you could take just about any physical thing out of my life and it would not move the needle. Taking a trip and making memories is the best option.
Own-Fox-7792@reddit
I"m so glad you said that. I'm early 50s and feel the same way about physical things. I'm actively trying to downsize now.
Chance-Work4911@reddit
Make it 50 outings (they can be quick overnights, camping, an overseas vacation, or a dinner out somewhere you’ve never been) to mark the 50th year.
Reasonable-Chair4791@reddit
For my 50th my husband had all my friends and family send him a video of their sending me good wishes and telling a cute story from our past. In between he filmed himself talking about different moments he valued from our lives together.
It was amazing and I cried! He then took me on a weekend trip and we had so much fun.
NotEasilyConfused@reddit
This is one of the most fun things I've ever heard of!
digawina@reddit
First, if you want to make a woman feel old, get her a brooch.
It sounds like she's not very into jewelry. I think you'd just be getting her something she's not super stoked about, AND would be an ever-present symbol of "TURNING 50."
What about organizing a family vacation instead? I booked our family a vacation to Jamaica for my 50th because all I wanted was to turn 50 on a Caribbean beach. My "present" was my husband giving me zero guff about the trip or the expense.
Performer5309@reddit
Pearls....even if pearl earrings from Tiffany's.
But why not a trip that would fill her cup? For me, it would be a girls wknd at a place w a pool where we are pampered for a long weekend. What would help fill her cup?
MortadellaBarbie@reddit
At this age, I find that I want experiences more than things. If your wife isn’t super into jewelry, it’s unlikely to take the edge off the landmark birthday. Is there somewhere she’s always wanted to go, a show she wants to see, an activity she’d like to try?
Boo-erman@reddit
Hi u/HTLM22 - I think if the jewelry is representative of something specific about her that you recognize and admire, it will work. Don't make it flashy if it's not her, make it earthy to meet her and her lifestyle and have it represent her resilience, accomplishments, and continued strength. Metals and stones are symbols and carry energy - if you pay attention to these elements of the gift (and explain it to her) it will help make it meaningful.
Each of the 50 gifts should be specific to her - snacks she LOVES and stuff she's never tried but would be weird/fun, gift certs for massage/spa, a boombox and some cassettes to relive the past, an old edition of a beloved book, tchotchkes that represent her favorite things - key chain for the Overlook Hotel or Barbie's Mansion (whatever her brand of joy). Don't just make it 50 random things - make it 50 joyful pieces of her life.
Lastly, wallow with her. If she wants to stay in pjs eating pizza and watching 30 Rock and Muppet movies all day, join her (I may be projecting my own desires here...) Allow her space and acknowledge the grief (and anticipatory grief) she's deeply feeling right now. Life has a way of sneaking away from us and it can be terribly sad, but it only makes everything that much more precious. Also play her this song.
Best of luck! Let us know how it turns out.
nygrl811@reddit
Give her what she likes. Do not try to "pick something better". She likes what she likes - if that's simple jewelry then stick to that.
Speaking as a 50yo woman: she knows what she wants at this age and creativity, even with the best of intentions, can be disappointing.
FuzzyArgument4636@reddit
I'm with the experience over things crowd... however, I did receive for my 50th a well-made but not overly expensive necklace that has five intertwined rings on it each unique, and representing five decades. It's subtle, and I wear it most every day.
Roseliberry@reddit
Tell her that if she believes that life begins at conception she’s already passed 50 and almost 51. Christ on a crutch who cares about 50? Oh, and don’t tell her I said she’s almost 51. One of my coworkers got a face lift because she turned 50. Her face was fine. She just turned 53 and stated that she doesn’t care anymore and feels that she overreacted to turning 50. But DO get your wife a big gift. You are less likely to go wrong doing that. She needs to feel beautiful and loved.
Naive-Specialist7727@reddit
For our 10th anniversary my husband bought me a calendar. It was a calendar of various places on the Oregon coast (we live on the central Oregon coast). Then he told me that we were going to take a trip every month to the place where the photo in the calendar was taken. It was so much fun, creative, and thoughtful. The memories we made on those trips will be with me forever. It’s also fun to tell people that he got me a calendar for our anniversary, then watch their expressions change from horror to “awwwwww” when I tell them why.
SRF1987@reddit
Pearl necklace
CheesyRomantic@reddit
I echo people saying to make a memory together as a family.
Take a weekend getaway (or more if possible). Snap tons of pictures and turn them into a memory book.
AnnieFlagstaff@reddit
As I get older, I much prefer “experience” gifts over jewelry or other physical stuff. I love going with my family to a concert or football game or something along those lines. Maybe your wife would like something like that?
Aernak@reddit
I’m almost 50 but I’m not a jewelry person. I’d rather wear a homemade beaded necklace that my daughter made than diamond. I would personally want a nice weekend away with my hubby, a room with a jacuzzi, a couples massage, and a nice dinner out.
Woodmom-2262@reddit
Lab grown diamond stud earrings.
CrazyCatLadyNL@reddit
Tell her that 50 is the new 30!
I'm 60 now and I don't give a sh!t 😉
Saffiana@reddit
Does she have any hobbies or crafts that she likes to do? A gift card or trip to her favorite craft store might be a good idea. I knit and do cross stitch. My husband got me a really nice floor stand to hold my embroidery hoop while working. Best gift ever.
If she likes to read or listen to audio books you could take her to the bookstore, or get her a kindle e-reader and pre-pay for the kindle unlimited subscription or an Audible Subscription.
Does she play video games? That is another avenue to look into.
If she likes to cook or bake maybe look and see if there is a class that you can sign her up for. Even better if you can combine it with a trip out of town.
NotEasilyConfused@reddit
Do not get her jewelry!!
You already know she doesn't want it. Spending extra money on something she's told you she doesn't want just shows her that you aren't listening and it will feel like you are taking the easy way out. That definitely will not make her feel better. You want her to feel seen and understood.
Being "granola" was important enough to mention, and it seems like it describes your younger selves. Do something with that, especially if she misses it. Getting into that mindset for a weekend or a vacation will certainly feel Not-50 to her ... like the "me" she remembers.
Take her somewhere to do the kinds of things you used to do, so she can see she is not too old to do them. (Be sure to avoid anything she truly cannot do, if she has any limitations.) Plan everything yourself, unless you need collaboration (passports, clothing/gear purchases, the dates of she can't just leave whenever). If you can't make reservations for restaurants, make a card with choices and give that to her when you get there (that way she isn't having to figure out what is available). Just be careful that it doesn't come off as here is one last chance to remember who you used to be!! You want to frame it as this is how I'll always see you, and you should, too.
These things will make her feel loved, seen, and heard. The reason many women don't like milestone birthdays is because older women are, by-and-large, ignored by society ... which is why buying big, fancy jewelry for a lady who doesn't like big, fancy jewelry is a bad idea. The last person who should be dismissing her thoughts and desires is YOU.
Informal_Phrase4589@reddit
This is the answer here. Very thoughtful considerations.
introvertednurse75@reddit
I think anything, especially some nice jewelry, would be appreciated. My husband didn't get me anything this past October fir my 50th and I cried. I wanted to feel like my 50th was special but it was just another day. Just make her feel special and seen. I am still sad about my 50th.
Boo-erman@reddit
I'm so sorry, friend. That totally fucking sucks.
Flat_6_Theory@reddit
If she’s down with the jewelry idea, then maybe take her places where she can select the setting and the stone. Could involve a trip to LA or NY to get into a good large jewelry district. Then you add in nice dinner, drinks or whatever, night out on the town.
kvoneerie@reddit
I’m turning 50 in October and I have a particular taste in jewelry - having said that, I let my partner know that I will be acquiring a Tiffany Elsa Perretti sterling silver cuff for this specific birthday. Not a big deal for some people or couples but it’s an expensive piece of jewelry for me and something that I’ve drooled over for awhile.
My take is this, she’s not excited for the birthday — but it’s happening regardless. Make it meaningful and definitely put some thought into whatever you do so that it will help take her mind off of the number while reminding her how special she still is to you.
Few_Comfortable7373@reddit
In terms of jewelry, maybe something very classic. Like some nice diamond (lab diamonds!!!) earrings. Alternatively, I would talk to her best friends and see what they say. Or, I would plan a delightful long weekend to a spa or something like that. I would die with joy if my husband did something like that for me. I'm tired of planning all the trips. 😁
petuniabuggis@reddit
I just turned fifty v recently! tell your wife I think she’s fucking rad.
craftygardening@reddit
Does she wear jewelry? If she doesn’t wear it regularly I’d go for something else. I’d be so annoyed as a fellow non flashy person if my husband bought jewelry.
diaperpop@reddit
My husband did shit for my 50th, I have always wanted to visit the Grand Canyon but never been, and wanted to plan a trip for that occasion, but he talked me out of it. (I threw him a party with all our family & friends for his 50th.) You’re a good partner to care what your wife thinks.
StrawberryKiss2559@reddit
Could you get her something simple and a trip somewhere she really wants to go?
SquirrelBowl@reddit
Talk to her bestie
ancientastronaut2@reddit
Is she into jewelry? If so, go for it. If not, maybe she'd rather go for a massage or something like that.
Dismal-Vacation-5877@reddit
If she's not excited about turning 50 I cannot imagine the pain of opening 50 gifts. Source: 50 ish woman who went thru same.
Tess47@reddit
I also agree with a trip. I love diamonds and have quite a bit of jewelry but the truth is that the market is saturated with lab fake stones. 50% of the young people I know have lab stones for wedding rings. I have no idea what it am going to do with my stones.
I am 60 now. 50th deserves a nice trip. You still got it, use it.
Training_Let_8645@reddit
I like your reply and explanation! I'm 53 and want experiences too. OP, I'm not a flashy girl either. Memories for decades and beyond if your kids join in.
Due-Consequence6321@reddit
Unless she is really into jewelry or more "stuff," skip the gifts and go for experience with the family and with just the two of you.
Tell her, from someone turning 60, that 50s are fabulous and liberating. Loss is part of life and will be more frequent as we age. And stuff becomes a burden.
Phobos1982@reddit
Material things are meaningless. Experiences matter.
eejm@reddit
It depends on what a person values. I prefer trips and experiences, but my husband really loves certain possessions. He was absolutely delighted when I bought him a pair of discontinued, limited edition Star Wars crocs that he loves. He wasn’t able to find them in his size for years. I think they’re ridiculous, but he was thrilled to get them. Who am I to say they don’t matter in his world?
jeon2595@reddit
Disagree. If you have experiences giving material things adds to it. Gave my wife a diamond tennis bracelet while on our 30th anniversary trip. The bracelet was, and isn’t, meaningless to her.
CartographerTop6447@reddit
Buy her a walker. She will love it!
GalianoGirl@reddit
I cannot imagine how tedious it would be to unwrap 50 gifts. For me it would be a terrible reminder of something I was dreading.
When was the last time she had time alone at home? No husband, kids or pets to deal with?
When was her last solo holiday?
When was the last quality time she spent with the loved ones who are likely to die in the next decade?
When was the last family event that she did not have to plan, shop for, prepare the meal and clean up after?
When was the last time you hired someone to deep clean the house?
When is the last time the kids did their laundry, prepared their breakfast, lunch and clean up afterwards?
When did you last ask her what do you want? What can I do for you?
flyfishfem@reddit
Check out the antler necklace or the Teton stacked rings from Jackson Hole Jewelry
MaleficentMousse7473@reddit
I love the trip idea but definitely get her buy in. I’d suggest a trip for just the two of you and get someone to take care of the kids while you’re away. National Geographic has a trip to the Galápagos Islands next year that looks amazing. It’s pricey but so are 💎
Finding_Way_@reddit
Since you used to be granola types, what about something that celebrates that history? Heading off to a cool concert? Taking her to him You know what city like San Francisco or (I think) parts of San Diego? Heading to New York to the many Cool granola areas?
If jewelry? I've never been a jewelry person but at 60 I'd a decent true set of pearls (earrings and choker necklace). I will have few occasions to wear them but I have noticed that they seem to be a go-to , when small and understated, of women 50+ as they age with their black dresses at weddings and, (sadly) funerals we start attending (Of course DO NOT tell her that!).
It's very kind that you're considering her feelings with all of this!
BraveRefrigerator552@reddit
Broaches are old.
If she doesn’t own diamond earrings…
syzygialchaos@reddit
Travel. Go somewhere epic.
Girl_with_no_Swag@reddit
Nothing will make her feel more 50 then having to open 50 trinket gifts. I get it that that’s fun for the kids, but since you said the she hates the idea of turning 50, my suggestion is to not highlight the number in any way. If can be a special birthday, without highlighting the significance of the number itself.
You’ve said she’s not a flashy person, so don’t get a flashy gift that she won’t want simply because you think you should.
You’ve mentioned that she has anxiety about losing loved ones this year. What she wants is to feel connected to the people she loves. Given her that connection!
I am absolutely on board with an experience gift. A trip, a vacation. Focus on connection and her interests.
I don’t know what your budget is, so let that guide you.
If you do have a significant budget, and she has the time, consider curating a “Trip of the Month Club.”
Keep in mind that one thing most women her age want is a reduction in mental load.
Let’s imagine that you have an unlimited budget, since you mentioned extravagant jewelry.
May: Long Weekend or week long trip away with you and the kids. You must do the planning and booking of the transportation, accommodation, reservation for 1 nice restaurant and 1 activity. Maybe even add in a photographer for a photo session.
June: Weekend girls trip for wife and a friend of hers.
July: weekend trip with her mother
August: weekend away one on one with only 1 of her children. (Choose a different month for each child)
Another month: trip with a sibling.
Based on your budget you could do 1 trip, quarterly, every 2 months etc.
But it sounds like what she wants is time and memories.
FruitOfTheVineFruit@reddit
If there's one thing my marriage has taught me, it's to ask my wife what she wants, not try to guess.
WalnutTree80@reddit
I wanted an upgrade on my original engagement ring around that time. I'm simple with jewelry as far as liking classic styles, so I still wanted a traditional round brilliant solitaire on a plain band. But it's twice the size of the one I had before and I love it.
However, I specifically said that's what I wanted for my 50th, plus we'd just had our 25th wedding anniversary a few months before, so it made sense to us as a gift.
Before spending a lot of money, I'd recommend just asking her, even though that means it won't be a surprise.
Glittering_Sugar4829@reddit
Take a trip with the family. Or just the two of you. Jewelry is nice but spending time together is priceless and will become harder as you both age. You are on the downswing of life now, so grab those experiences while you still can.
BusterBus75@reddit
Take her on a weekend trip to a B&B.
Princessferfs@reddit
My husband was so happy when I got a Pandora bracelet. Now he can buy me charms for gifts and he doesn’t pull a brain muscle trying to figure out what to get me.
LHCThor@reddit
If she hates 50, wait until she gets to 60.
Turning 50 is a big deal, get her the most expensive present you can afford. Something that she has always wanted, but never wanted to spend the money on.
OtterMumzy@reddit
It’s nice of you to put this effort in! I’d be grateful for this alone. As a woman her age, I have never liked the jewelry bought for me (from husband married 30yrs) as it has never been my taste. I end up feeling guilty (and disappointed) bc I won’t wear it. If you don’t know for sure what/if she wants, I’d suggest a different idea altogether. If you have a daughter, ask her opinion. My daughter gets me and my taste. What about a trip or experience? Somewhere she’s wanted to go. Or kickstart a hobby together by doing an experiential trip: wine/cooking, cycling, birding, art, gardens, anything like that.
PinkyLeopard2922@reddit
I feel seen. My husband loves to buy me jewelry but generally goes for very matchy matchy sets that are pretty but not really my style. I try to wear them occasionally but it is for him, not me. The big exception is a pair of stupidly large and expensive diamond stud earrings that I absolutely love.
I have a beautiful massive sand cast Navajo sterling turquoise cuff bracelet a high school boyfriend gave me decades ago that I still wear. I have never disclosed the origin of that item and probably never will.
NotEasilyConfused@reddit
My husband doesn't buy me jewelry anymore. I had to ask him not to. He didn't get my style at all. I tried many times to show him what I like and I described why (and, hello, I wear the things I like. It can't be that hard!). I didn't want him spending all that money on things I won't use even once. Every piece was a reminder that he didn't listen to what I told him, even when he asked the questions.
I feel doubly seen after your comment (thank you!) ... I also have gifts from the past that I wear. I like the jewelry, why would I discard it?
Artios-Claw@reddit
50 can be tough. Give her something to look forward to, plan a trip together. Just the 2 of you, and arrange all the details including care for kids and animals. It can be a simple weekend away or an extravaganza. She needs to see the other end of wrapping up the 24/7 parenting, not just loss but regaining a sense of self.
dubbydubs012@reddit
I am not flashy and do not like attention. We went to Europe and did a river cruise to celebrate my 50th last year.
I found out my husband was going to throw me a surprise party on the actual day, which I would absolutely hate. I told him I would not like that. Instead he made me a book with all kinds of gift cards to places I like to shop for my hobby, a monthly body and massage, and things I would enjoy. I was very touched, it showed he listens when I ramble about things.
Cute_Professional703@reddit
Hi OP, I really think you should have a conversation with her about what type of big present she’d like…jewelry or a trip or whatever. Let her know you will be getting her something big regardless, but you’d like a little input. It can still be a surprise. She’s lucky to have you! 🩷
Difficult_Cake_7460@reddit
I would get classics - like diamond stud earrings or a tennis bracelet and/or necklace. That’s the kind of stuff I like as a 52 year old suburban mom who isn’t into jewelry but kind of is lol.
temerairevm@reddit
I don’t know about jewelry, but getting a Porsche convertible sure made me feel better about turning 50.
A 10 year old Boxter isn’t THAT obscenely expensive. And it’s more fun than jewelry.
tonna33@reddit
Hell, I'd be happy with a Mini I could just zoom around in.
One-Pepper-2654@reddit
Cool idea if you can afford it. Women like sexy little convertibles. Imagine her showing that off to her friends or picking them up for a girl's day!
Fight_Tyrnny@reddit
Im so happy my wife isn't into Gems and Jewels. They are the most absolute con-artist level grabage in our society. Diamonds are so common they say the entire earths mantle is covered in them (and planets litterally rain diamonds) and are just an extreme monopoly.
Give her an experience, we went to Europe.
Jane-The_Obscure@reddit
Get her an experience. I swam with whale sharks on my 40th, planned to go to Hawaii on my 50th (COVID got in the way). Experiences are always better than stuff.
BeeBusyB@reddit
Depends on her personality, I always prefer jewelry,…😃
Jane-The_Obscure@reddit
Yes, and I am curious about why a husband married to a wife for 27 years doesn't know what to get her.
BeeBusyB@reddit
Maybe she doesn’t care about travelling and jewelry, who knows? Guess you’re right and husband is also lost 😃
jetwra@reddit
I’ve been married 37 years and my husband wouldn’t know what I would really want. We don’t have the same taste at all!
Mockingbird_1234@reddit
Aaargh!! COVID f-ed up my 50th, too. And I love celebrating my birthday. Justice for the 1970 babies!!!
RadioactiveLily@reddit
Personally, I'm really wanting a pair of simple Channel earrings so I can be bougie. lol
Substantial_Layer_79@reddit
I remember when my grandfather took my grandmother to another country for her 50th birthday. They watched the pearl divers, and he gifted her a pearl necklace with one of the pearls she saw emerge from the sea. She LOVED it. That was the 70s, and I couldn't tell you where they went, but it was a very big deal. I got nothing for my 50th birthday. She's lucky to have you.
Icy-Tomorrow-576@reddit
At 50 we are looking more towards experiences and memories than flashy gifts. A day trip to a big city or out door family portraits. We did a day trip to San Francisco and had a blast. We drove to the ferry then took that across the bay over to the pier and took Uber around the city.
HalfwaydonewithEarth@reddit
Tiffanys
Pale-Way-8731@reddit
For 50, I would take her and on a relaxing trip and give her a piece of jewelry that is simple, but a little flashier than she would normally pick. Just a little. Slightly larger stone, or everyday small hoop earrings (huggies) with or without small diamonds.
I wanted some small hoops and found them. My husband thought they were too small, but fully understood their everyday value and simple attractiveness after I started wearing them.
Maga_eats_dick@reddit
Make memories not give things.
GrapesandGrainsNY@reddit
I would do a trip and then make a photo album from it afterwards.
camusclues@reddit
Friendship bracelet
Even_Economics5982@reddit
Get her something from Tiffany’s. Everything is so classic and beautiful
Fritz5678@reddit
If she's not really a jewerly person then don't buy it. Only if she specifically asks for something a little fancier. I would ask her if she wants anything special for her birthday.
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
A vacation is the answer. Always a vacation. Even if it’s just a couple days, every middle aged woman wants them. Trust me.
DubiousPinkUnicorn@reddit
No we don’t.
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
Ok, everyone but you then. Honestly. You could just scroll by. 🙄
DubiousPinkUnicorn@reddit
I could, but I can’t stand when groups of people are broad-brushed. 🙄
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
It’s not that deep. I think you know that it’s not truly “everyone.” Maybe touch grass instead of getting your panties in a bundle over a Reddit comment that was clearly not directed at you. 🙄
DubiousPinkUnicorn@reddit
You said every middle aged woman. 🤷🏻♀️ I think you’re the one with your “panties in a bundle”. 🙄
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
Stay blessed.
LynnBarr123@reddit
THIS!! And as a 53F myself, please let her choose the destination! More than likely, she has spent the past 20+ years planning trips that make everyone else happy (kids, husband) and she does not want a surprise trip to a theme park or a road trip revolving around Civil War battle sites.
Make up a "gift certificate" for a trip of her choice. She will know what kind of constraints to work with (budget, length, etc.) and she just needs the husband and kids to not try and influence her.
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
Also 53 year old woman! More trips, please.
Clean_Ad_1556@reddit
I was pissed my husband didnt throw me a surprise party! Haha!
jetwra@reddit
I would love a trip (a single-diamond necklace would be awesome for MY taste!). I would not want a brooch or pearls- they scream fancy and elderly in my opinion, but that just isn’t my taste. I will say that the fact that you care this much to research it is awesome! Good luck!
Sufficient_Stop8381@reddit
A necklace made of teeth? They would be cool.
esk_209@reddit
Don't get her something she doesn't want -- the big, fancy jewelry is a LOVELY thought, but if she's not going to wear it, don't get it for her. Focus on what she does like -- that's what shows her that you know her, you love her, and you pay attention to her.
However, instead of a physical gift, what about a weekend trip? A weekend together at a spa retreat or doing something she likes -- is there a skill or hobby she wants to learn? Does she bake (and are you in the US)? Then maybe a weekend at King Arthur Flour for their cooking classes (either in Vermont or Washington, depending on which coast you're closer to). Does she want to learn something new? Find a workshop for beginners (or a more advanced workshop if there's a skill she already has).
The key is, I think, finding something that is about her -- not about her age.
drcrambone@reddit
Get her some pearls. They never go out of style and they always look nice. Plus they're a little dressy without being gaudy diamonds or gold. My wife, who turned 51 in Feb., started getting silver stuff a few years back and go so into it, she wears multiple bracelets and chains to nice effect. She was/is also not flashy, a black tanktop and her green Vans is dressing up for work sometimes.
And, if you go with pearls, you can go with different colors as some people would be too iffy with just bright white too.
I don't think broaches are a thing incidentally. I know my tomboy wife wouldn't wear one.
If you don't want to go with pearls, I've found a nice scarf works too; also not too flashy but functional.
jitterbugperfume99@reddit
I have to agree, brooches seem to be something my mother wears.
mis_1022@reddit
As a 50 year old without a string of pearls I agree with this. She might wear them when the kids get married etc. very classy
BravestBlossom@reddit
Ask her? I mean if you're going to spend money on a nice gift, please spend it wisely on something she really likes and wants!!! Which means ASK HER. Maybe she wants an experience, maybe she's like to upgrade her wedding ring or her daily type earrings to diamond studs, for example. Maybe she secretly has her heart set on something you know nothing about. Please talk to gift recipients and let them pick big, important, or expensive presents.
DubiousPinkUnicorn@reddit
Jewelry is a personal decision. We don’t know her style. You do. So this could end in a disaster for you. I love classic but a lot of women would not want a strand of pearls. Best bet is to ask her friends.
RealCrazySwordGirl@reddit
I wouldn't want a strand of pearls OR a diamond anything, but i absolutely agree with your second paragraph!!
If someone is upset about getting older please remind them that it's a lot better than the alternative.
And then remind them that just because the number gets bigger, they don't have to act any older 😄👍🏼
I was born when the pterodactyl were still filling the skies and i still swordfight twice a week, hike a couple times a week, play video games every night, play an occasional open mic night, and most of my friends are 20+ years younger than me
It always surprises me to see a bunch of genxers whining about getting old; hey guys wtf is this really what you've come down to, you who were so badass punk rock back in the day? You sound like a bunch of boomers! 😝😆
jetwra@reddit
I think it’s more that things don’t get “better” from here, and it happened way too fast, not that they prefer the alternative.
Status-Effort-9380@reddit
I was friends with an amazing jeweler when I was young. He made some beautiful custom pieces for me that my then husband purchased. Those were very special to me. If she is artistic, being involved and working with a creative jeweler can help you to make a unique custom piece that no one else will have.
Clean_Ad_1556@reddit
I agree! Get her a gift certificate to a custom jewelry store. She can design the ring/necklace/etc.
I lost my wedding ring, and the next Christmas, my husband got me a certificate for a jewelry store and I designed my own ring. I actually love it more than my original!
I love my husband but he has always sucked at buying jewelry. He has bought yellow gold-always. I wear silver and white gold. Married 27 years this coming July.
Candleforce-9728@reddit
Honestly if she’s not happy about 50 she sooooo does not want to open 50 little things. That is a chore and most such gifts are kind of small and unnecessary.
I get you and the kids want to show some effort. Plan somewhere cool to go but with your wife’s input. No need to surprise her with something she now has to pretend to enjoy when she’s already bummed.
mldyfox@reddit
Have you gotten her a mother's ring or pendant yet? You said you have kids, plural, so you'd have multiple birthstones to work with. Popular for mother's day gifts, but could work any time.
If you've also got grandchildren already, too, you could put theirs in as well.
The designs are still pretty classic, but it's meaningful.
I know you said you're comfortable enough where money isn't a worry, but you could make her a mixed tape (or Playlist nowadays). Songs popular when you were dating, the song you danced to at your wedding, songs popular when each of your kids was born, any that you played in the car driving your babies around at night to get them to sleep. You get the idea. Pieces that when you play the music, you get transported back to the moments that build your life.
It's got to be tough to come up with 50 ideas for the same occasion.
upsidedown-funnel@reddit
I run my own small business. I’m not big on jewelry and hate unnecessary $ being spent. As I’m a creator/artist, tools that would make my work easier. Something useful that I wouldn’t typically buy for myself. You mentioned you both had a small business, so I’d suggest looking there. Something like A new Apple Neo laptop. Just over $500 at Costco. Way better than jewelry. Books are also good gifts. Whether audio or hardback.
Candlemom@reddit
I’ve got jewelry so at this point I’m more of an experience person. We have started doing premium cruises for things like birthdays and anniversaries.
SorryBooBoo@reddit
Don’t know your budget but maybe custom piece with kids’ birthstones
IntelligentAge211@reddit
Honestly this doesnt sound like a great idea. Why not make a memory, a big trip with the kids..
tahiticondo@reddit
Tahitian pearls. Source: I’m a woman who just turned 50.
MariaInconnu@reddit
Ask her if she would prefer her usual jewelry, expensive jewelry, or - wait for it! - something experiential like going on a trip and doing cool things in line with her or both of your interests.
Mockingbird_1234@reddit
What about a cool trip to somewhere she has always wanted to go? In my 50s, I don’t want any thing, really, I want experiences with people I love. That’s priceless.
rebeccavotex@reddit
Woman here, almost 50. The older I get, the less I care about material things and the more I value experiences with the people I love. A completely planned special trip with my husband and if possible children too would be one of the most special gifts I can imagine. If you wanted to add a small item, perhaps a mini photo session during the trip and lovely frame.
Jane-The_Obscure@reddit
This is the answer.
Equivalent_Win8966@reddit
I recently turned 50. I felt/feel like your wife. I disliked the thought of turning 50 and I dislike being 50. I did throw myself a huge party. It was fun, but I was still 50 when it was over. Is there some activity, hobby, or travel your wife has always wanted to pursue or do? Something that has been deferred because life got in the way? Don’t get me wrong, I’m a jewelry person. My husband has given me stunning jewelry during our years together (mostly for our anniversaries). I didn’t want jewelry for my 50th. A few days after my party I left on a two week trip with a friend to go somewhere I had always wanted to. It wasn’t a trip my husband had an interest in taking but he facilitated me going. He also arranged an activity for me that sparked my interest to complete a certification that I started in my 20s but had put on hold due to career and kids.
Pretend-Term7124@reddit
What is her typical style? Casual, put together, bohemian?? Do you have cultural connection with her family history? Ie. Irish history may like something emerald, more formal life then maybe pearls or more classic lab grown diamond and pearl earrings.
Does she typically wear gold vs silver then stay in the same lane. If she wears silver maybe choose white gold.
I am 55 and would appreciate something special but that I can wear regularly. IE
BuildingMaleficent11@reddit
You’ve been married for 27 years - is jewelry really her thing? If it is? Definitely go for it!
If not? Get her something that she will be over the moon about, not something that she’ll keep in a box and not wear.
CampVictorian@reddit
Talk to her very openly about this, and Listen to her input. She may appreciate a trip, a good meal, jewelry, time with you, anything… but it needs to be about her. This is a big landmark for her, but please don’t stress over it to the point of dropping the ball. Trust me, it sucks.
misshelly888@reddit
There is a really nice Georg Jensen collection called “Offspring” - very simple but also perhaps meaningful if you have kids or even grandkids.
Schradykat@reddit
Is that what you think she really wants or might she benefit from a fun experience? For me, stuff never really lifted me out of depression but travel and special events did. (I was sad about turning 40 so we went to Vegas to see my favorite band.) For my 50th, my husband bought me a Storz & Bickel volcano. IYKYK. Best tangible gift ever🌋
caryn1477@reddit
Please consider a trip. Somewhere special to take her. I would like this so much more than another piece of jewelry
SuziQster@reddit
Totally agree with one. Take her on a trip to an awesome place that you’ve always wanted to go, just the two,of you, no kids.
Cat2370@reddit
55F so 5 years past 50–lol. And I’m definitely not old. Let her know it’s fine over here—really. Aging is a privilege. In terms of the bday: hard to say without knowing her. Also married 27 years and not into flashy at all. For my 50th my husband got me a large box of assorted things—gift cards, bath and body care products that my mom helped him pick out. It marked the occasion as special and different but without going overboard. We also went out to eat for my favorite foods—sushi and then tiramisu for dessert.
Mangolandia@reddit
I’m not a fancy jewelry gal myself and in my early fifties. If my husband of decades got me something in a style I don’t already wear, I’d be disappointed because one perk of hitting middle age is that you can be reasonably confident of what you like. It would be different if she was drawn to things that she felt she couldn’t pull off, though. Then it would be okay. Can you find something that has some meaning she’d be drawn to? For instance, if you were granola does she value sustainability, ethnic, or something from ethnic communities? Reclaimed gold might be good, or something from a women’s coop, things like that. Buy something she will wear.
philly-buck@reddit
A pearl necklace.
natedogjulian@reddit
Several times.
ImportantArgument888@reddit
Take her somewhere on her bucket list. I was depressed when i turned 50 (and have been ever since) but a happy experience will make her forget about it for a bit.
beneficialmirror13@reddit
Ask her what she wants. Don't just assume. (And if she doesn't like fancy pieces and prefers simple, don't buy her something she won't wear.)
voteblue18@reddit
Woman here. I’m turning 50 in June. I’m not a jewelry person so can’t help you there. We are going on a dream trip to Amsterdam/Bruges/Brussels so that is where I will be celebrating. My husband and I are way more into new experiences than things, but YMMV.
1234RedditReddit@reddit
Lab.Grown.Diamonds.
CaChica@reddit
I would actually just ask her. My most gifts were when my spouse and I selected them together for an important occasion. It’s a lot of money, so you don’t wanna spend it on shit she’s not gonna want. Plus, she might find joy in the selection process, and that he threw something special that she really wants.
There’s such a range of jewelry brands and then types within those jewelry.
For example, I would not want to touch anything that is Kendra Scott but most would love it including many of my friends. I’ll take Chan Luu, Gorjana is also nice affordable. And I like Keane lately. She will have her list of brands and subset of jewelry within those.
Smoknashes2609@reddit
Pair it with a luxurios spa day. That way she can feel and look her best.
NoRestForTheWitty@reddit
Since we’ve determined my husband‘s not great at this, he takes me shopping, and I pick out my own gift. It works for us.
Myfreakinglyfe@reddit
We’ve done that too. I don’t mind that at all either.
infinite_awkward@reddit
I’m a woman of a certain age and I am gonna say this: be careful to link the jewelry to her being amazing (ie you sparkle every day!) and not her being ::sigh:: 50.
Maybe include activities/gift certificates for things that remind her she is vibrant and full of life. Does she love to hike? Maybe new boots, poles, camelbak… you see where I’m going.
… and a new convertible in her favorite color is always an option!
ramblingamblinamblin@reddit
Book a trip where there's a desirable kind of local jewelry (I love exotic wood jewelry commonly available in Costa Rica) - and make sure she gets something she loves.
Ingie-Poo@reddit
NEVER a broach- yes it is the jewelry equivalent of an AARP card! Hubby got me a simple but lovely necklace similar to an eternity circle but smaller & subtler with 3 diamonds - 1 for him, 1 for each of our kids. I love & wear it almost everyday. I was cool with 50, but 55 hurt! Does she ever treat herself? Does she have a bestie? I would have loved a long spa day with my closest friend…..
Scuh@reddit
Does she have any close friends that she likes to spend time with. If so arrange for a car to pick her and her friends up and drive them around for the day. They could stop to get facials and massages along the way.
Arrange for the children to go in the car for the day, the children then stay at a relative's with you two going out
Get some small gems that could represent the children and get them put together to make jewellery from.
Write down a list of memories on small pieces of paper then place them in an envelope or box.
mari815@reddit
Do not get a broach. Id get something she likes. Id almost always pick a vacation over jewelry. For jewelry diamond earrings never hurt. A nice ring. Not sure hard to say w/o knowing her. If she has a dream vacation spot and you all can take time off in that way as small biz owners I say do that
istara@reddit
How about an antique brooch? Gold if she wears gold, otherwise silver or white gold.
Providence451@reddit
Travel, and buy her something nice from wherever it is - a beautiful wool sweater in Scotland, a niche perfume in France, an exclusive necklace in Austria - a thing that has memories attached is more than the thing itself.
Spiritual_Ad8626@reddit
First of all, does she want jewelry?
I say that because not all women want jewelry and it’s a frequent suggested gift that isn’t necessarily what they want.
Talk to her. Let her know you see that turning 50 might feel challenging for her and let her know you’d like to do something for her that would let her have some joy. Maybe for her that’s a trip somewhere. Maybe it’s going to an event or a concert that she would enjoy. Maybe it’s some new clothes. Maybe it’s a special piece of jewelry.
No one on the internet can tell you what your wife wants. It is awesome that you want to do something special for her when she’s experiencing some emotional turmoil about aging. But talk to her about it.
Best wishes to you both.
biscuitsmomma@reddit
I really hope gifts are her love language if she's being given 50 of them. I can't imagine. My husband and I have virtually stopped giving each other gifts in favor of experiences. If we want "stuff," we buy it without waiting for an occasion. But we'd much rather mark special occasions with quality time experiences (usually involving travel). I'm sorry she's unhappy about turning 50, but as my 83-y-o dad would say, it's better than the alternative!
Moonsmom181@reddit
A small necklace with diamond is the way to go. Not flashy, something she can dress up or down. Every time she wears it maybe she’ll feel better about turning 50.
Getting older is difficult, but I’m 56 and still hanging in there. Feel like a teenager in my head. It hurts losing loved ones and it hurts having your own body change, but 50’s also brings wisdom and peace. Remind her to celebrate the good things.
The world might be a shit show, but we can still be proud of who we are in our 50’s and beyond.
MistressPaine666@reddit
I have a minimalist esthetic but appreciate quality. For my 50th, my husband gave me a really nice black pearl necklace. I adore it!
Also, a nice piece from Tiffany’s would be great. They have a lot of simple pieces, but she would know it is hot sh!t as soon as she sees that beautiful little blue box.
Mental-Artist-6157@reddit
Black pearls!!! So classy. I agree, get her the blue box. It doesn't have to be an over the top thing.
One-Pepper-2654@reddit
Yep, it's the box and bag almost more than the gift. Maybe take her to brunch first and surprise her by going to the storre. It's a cool experience.
Mental-Artist-6157@reddit
Oh I loooovvve this advice!
One-Pepper-2654@reddit
My wife donated her kidney. My 25 year old son needed one, but we did the match program so he could get a younger one. Hers went to a famous concert pianist we are still friends with. He got a 26 year old live donor kidney.
We got her a silver necklace from TIffany with a little silver kidney bean on it.
MistressPaine666@reddit
What an amazing story! I’m sorry your family experienced illness, & I hope everyone is well. Perfect gifts all around!
Techchick_Somewhere@reddit
No to the broach. Some of these ideas as a 56 year old make me think “Barbara Bush”. 😬. It just shows we are not all the same. An experience trip to somewhere she has always wanted to go would be perfect, and a momento jewelry gift. Does she have a best friend you could talk to for jewelry ideas? Jewelry is very personal. I have a fabulous pair of diamond studs that I wear every day. Good luck. Let us know what you end up doing!!
Ok_Cow_9933@reddit
For the love of all that is holy, do not buy her a brooch!
Techchick_Somewhere@reddit
I also think the same about pearls, but I’m sure I’ll get downvoted to hell for that. 😆
Ok_Cow_9933@reddit
Both brooches and pearls are ok if you're the type of person who liked wearing those things before you're fifty. Giving them to someone who's never worn them before after (or when) they turn 50 is essentially saying "You're old now. Here is some old lady jewellery to mark the fact that you're old."
Techchick_Somewhere@reddit
Agreed.
Similar_Zone7938@reddit
Gift my music ... trust me.
You send them your memories - how you met, where you are now, how you got there. Things that bring her joy.
They not only write an amazing song but also put it to music. *** I chose a male country singer.
My husband cried ... and its in our Playlist on repeat 🥰
No_Associate_4878@reddit
This all depends on her taste, so none of the specific recommendations are likely to be helpful. To me, brooches scream old lady but that might be because of where I live. It seems that you want to spend more than usual and get something special enough to be appropriate for a milestone birthday, but you don't know her taste well enough to know what she'd like. I think you'd be better off talking to women in her life who might have a better sense of what would fit her style.
Have you considered an experience instead of an item? Maybe a romantic weekend away?
If your wife is feeling bad about turning 50, it might be best to treat this like any other birthday. The idea of 50 little gifts in a box is adorable for someone who feels comfortable turning 50 and would appreciate jokes about how old she is, such as having a fire extinguisher ready in case all the birthday candles cause a real fire. I suggest really thinking about how your wife is going to feel with the physical reminder of just how many years old she is. Just seeing 50 gifts is a big reminder. All the time involved in opening 50 gifts is an even bigger reminder.
Slorgadelic@reddit
I thought the same about the 50 little gifts but wondered if I was being a downer. It's an awful lot, I feel like this is something you do for someone younger, less stuff and less weight in the meaning. It doesn't sound fun at all.
Jinglemoon@reddit
As a 57 year old woman what makes me happy is going on a holiday somewhere I’ve always wanted to visit.
I would regard a box of 50 gifts with utter horror. Sorry, it just sounds like a massive hassle of hours of unwrapping with a frozen smile.
JulesSherlock@reddit
I’m a Ring fanatic. But my husband doesn’t buy jewelry. So I buy my own and he’s all for that - I think he doesn’t want to pick it out which I can understand. I suggest an adventure, a trip if there is a place or interest she has mentioned in the past and leave kids behind if they are still in picture.
My SIL was checking out at a grocery store when the lady behind her admired her diamond ring. My SIL said her default line about it being fake (it’s a beautiful 5 carat ring). The lady said listen here, I’m Mrs. Insert-name -of-large-jewelry-store and I know that is NOT fake and absolutely gorgeous. (It didn’t come from their store.) So SIL got caught. 😄 But all I could think when I hear that story is it’s a shame she feels like she has to downplay her jewelry. I hope she secretly really enjoys it.
Total_Diet_5274@reddit
Take her to the store and let her choose.
GrowlingAtTheWorld@reddit
What is she excited about? A hobby? travel? Art? Animals? Something she collects?
sweetassassin@reddit
What about a wellness gift that she can use forever until it breaks down?
An infrared sauna box, one of those really nice wood ones that tuck nicely into the corner of the basement. Hard day? Melt in the sauna. Chilly day? Warm up in the sauna. Need to escape the noise in the world? Jump in the sauna.
Can you tell I wish I’d be gifted a sauna?
Cold-Cheesecake85@reddit
My husband and I got matching watches for my daughter’s wedding. The brooch would have to be super funky and unique to be age appropriate, not sure that’s her vibe.
ClaireHux@reddit
Why not plan a weekend somewhere?
KingJJoffer@reddit
What about a vacation?
LolaAucoin@reddit
Diamond studs are always the way to go.
MariMotogirl@reddit
This! Or a lab diamond solitaire pendant. Lab diamonds are chemically identical to mined diamonds but without the ethical issues. Something simple and timeless
codenameZora@reddit
I’m a simple jewelry person, got these as a gift from my husband and love them. Simple but special.
chicagokp8@reddit
Ever consider finding a local jeweler that makes custom pieces? That might be more meaningful?
nursingintheshadows@reddit
Create memories. Take her somewhere. Plan it all including managing the house and kids while you’re gone.
skspoppa733@reddit
A trip to somewhere she’s always wanted to go but never asked. And make sure all the things she’s worried about back home are already taken care of.
JulesSherlock@reddit
Excellent idea. A trip, an adventure would be wonderful.
orangepinkroses@reddit
Best gift I’ve ever gotten was a paddleboard from my best friends. We started going to different lakes every couple of weeks.
Affectionate-Map2583@reddit
I'm thinking you need to go with something that's not jewelry. It sounds like that's your default go-to and she says she likes it but maybe she doesn't, or she wishes you'd put more effort into finding something she really wants.
I think a special getaway to include dinner at a fancy restaurant and an activity she likes to do would be more thoughtful than jewelry.
Whatever you do, do not buy her a brooch.
One-Pepper-2654@reddit
Yep, my wife still talks about our surprise weekend in NYC. I picked the hotel, the restaurant and the show, it was all a surprise.
forgeblast@reddit
Melinda maria https://www.melindamaria.com They layer necklaces etc. my wife gave me a list of ones she wants after I got her an opal one as a Christmas gift.
WolfPacker01@reddit
Does she have any hobbies? In the past my husband had given me jewelry and I’ve always loved it, but since the pandemic I don’t dress up as much so I don’t wear jewelry very much. At this point I’d rather he give me something related to my hobbies.
One-Pepper-2654@reddit
Yes something that will help her enjpy her hobby more.
dontflexthat@reddit
Invest in experiences rather than things.. that’s what I recommend if you want to make her happy
Ok-Current-4167@reddit
Thirding! Part of what makes turning 50 feel like a mixed bag (to me) is that it’s becoming more apparent that my time is getting shorter - and there’s not a lot of major stuff to look forward to.
Consider a destination she’s always wanted to see, a place she loved in the past, or somewhere to gather with friends she doesn’t get to see much and misses. Unless she loves surprises, I wouldn’t make it a surprise, but I also wouldn’t leave all the planning work to her.
TheTrueGoatMom@reddit
I agree. I'm 52 and all I really want is to go on adventures. See more of this world. I love themed vacations. I've done waterfalls and lighthouses.
Agreeable_Switch_494@reddit
Cartier tank watch
DefiantHumanist@reddit
My vote is for a car or a big trip.
SnooDoughnuts6242@reddit
What does she like? What does she want? Get her that.
buddytheelf2023@reddit
I turn 50 this year and i feel what your wife is feeling.
Given_To_Fly90210@reddit
For my 50th this year my hubs got me an Elsa Peretti silver initial necklace from Tiffany. Less than $300. Blue box. Thoughtful. Not over the top or ostentatious. Simple and elegant. It was his thought that made this huge for me. And tell her 50 is amazing! Nothing to be afraid of.
Dear_Win_9504@reddit
I personally love brooches. I like to wear them on my coats. A simple circle brooch is what I’d recommend. You can get very simple plain gold or silver ones, or ones with designs or with stones. If you don’t think she’d like that, then I’d recommend a simple eternity band ring with either tiny diamonds or her birthstone.
-Odi-Et-Amo-@reddit
Diamond stud earrings. You can decide what size she would like but they are simple and elegant.
littlebritches77@reddit
I'm 49 and would not want those. There's not much thought or meaning behind that gift
-Odi-Et-Amo-@reddit
I gave the suggestion based on how he described his wife, not you. If you like to tell me about yourself, I can suggest something for you as well!
No-Hospital559@reddit
Depending on the person, my wife would like them.
Charliewhiskers@reddit
This is my suggestion as well. My husband gave me beautiful Asscher cut studs for my 50th birthday. I’m also not a flashy jewelry wearer but they are so elegant.
WolfPacker01@reddit
Does she like cars or is there a particular car shes always loved and is her “dream” car? I know it sounds extravagant, but that would make an awesome gift. There’s a lot of great pre-owned cars out there.
TracyVegas@reddit
Ask her what she wants.
Unlucky_Profit_776@reddit
I suggest Swarovski. They have gorgeous affordable jewelry and it's very sparkly.
WolfPacker01@reddit
My husband also bought me a Breitling watch one year. Before that I was going through watches every couple of years and trying to get batteries changed was a nightmare. I love my watch and have never had a problem with it.
idrathern0tsay@reddit
I don't know about jewelry but giving your wife the best day she's ever had is a sure fire win. Whatever that may be.
NoH8Kate@reddit
One of my favorite things I’ve ever gotten was one of the past, present and future necklaces. Mine was a series of rings, but they make different designs.
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
Now that I am researching, I think this is exactly what I am looking for! Doesn't have to be crazy showy, but is meaningful. Thanks!
NoH8Kate@reddit
Of course. I hope she loves it!
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
That's cool. I hadn't heard of that.
Pretend-Excuse-8368@reddit
I’m thinking you talk to her about it first - no surprises on big expenditures (gift or not) is usually the best choice.
Ms_Anne-Thrope@reddit
Rolex.
JISurfer@reddit
Gave my wife diamond earrings she always wanted.
Dangerous_Prize_4545@reddit
Is gifts something she likes?
For me, I love it best when my partner takes me out for my birthday and spends time with me. Something he did once that I really appreciated (bc he is a terrible gift giver) is he took me shopping on my birthday and when I went to purchase a purse he paid for it instead.
A piece of jewelry can be flashy but if its not what she likes or will wear it becomes a dust collector.
And if she's upset about 50, maybe a weekend away for a "no birthday" retreat with you and her or her, you and kids.
AtomicHurricaneBob@reddit
Budget? Favorite stone? Favorite color (if you dont know the stone question)? Birth month stone (if you dont know her favorite color)?
Diamond wedding band to match engagement ring.
Or, matching wedding band to double up
Nice mechanical watch
Budget is key
AnyCurves@reddit
Recommend you look at Mikimoto Pearls in Motion necklace. Modern, timeless, understated, classy.
Potential_Ad1416@reddit
Don't know how this would go over but, how about an antique piece? You don't have to say it, but it can signify the beauty of age. Maybe coupled with a nice bottle of vintage wine. (See the theme here) I will be 52 this year. The 50th is tough mentally when you're on your way to it. But once I got over the idea, I realized I am better, smarter, & stronger than I have ever been in my life. That can happen for your wife as well. Your gift should nudge her to believe it. Hope this helps. Happy birthday to your wife & welcome to the club. 🙂
Able_Performer1638@reddit
Can you take her on a trip instead? When I am feeling disheartened with the world etc, traveling tends to help a lot. Anywhere she's always wanted to go?
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
She loves to travel. We are going to Germany this summer to visit our daughter who will be studying aboard. So while it will be a trip, it is not really a trip about her. Between that and visiting my new nephew, we don't have extra time to travel. But it is a good thought.
RustbeltMaven@reddit
What about a weekend getaway more local? We are in a different city right now shopping and seeing sights and it’s fun to be away from the daily grind.
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
Actually, we are doing that, too. A hotel near the beach. They accept dogs. Just one night, but it should be cool.
drbethaney@reddit
Brooch screams old lady unless she loves them.
Blue_Henri@reddit
Ok, no to brooch if you don’t want her to feel 135. While yes, chunky pendants are en vogue right now, I fear a gal reticent to turn 50 will see a brooch as a walker, like Sylvester in Looney toons imagining Tweety as a cooked turkey.
Jewelry is so hard, so don’t feel badly. I cringe when I think of my husband picking out something that I’m going to have to wear because it is expensive and significant of a birthday. When I turned 50 two years ago I told him not to consider it unless he consulted my mother first. When he did, he settled on a two week vacation to Vienna and Salzburg because I think he saw the value of a memory rather than a bauble (not that I don’t enjoy a good bauble, but I’d rather pick my own or get them from my mom).
Good luck and if you MUST pursue this jewelry quest, I’d suggest an eternity band with her birthstone that she can wear on her right hand for special occasions…all the way around; don’t just do the top. The caveat here is you must know her ring size for the finger she’ll wear it on because they can’t be resized.
I hope at the very least I’ve given you some idea of how difficult jewelry is without a history of gifting it to her. If she’s really having a hard time with the number, try to aim for a gift that makes her excited about your future together in this awesome new time period of life. Show her she’s still rock and roll to you and always will be AND that you are excited as well to be in this time of life with her. We’re not breaking out our rocking chairs and afghans. We travel and go to concerts, we golf and spend kid-free time together because we’re best friends first.
Goldenday71@reddit
My husband completely surprised me on our cruise and gave me a pearl necklace during dinner. It is so beautiful and goes with everything I wear. 10/10 recommend.
Slorgadelic@reddit
I'd save the pearls for the 30th wedding anniversary coming up in 3 years.
Dependent_Escape2513@reddit
Turning 50 was hard. Once I realized I have my best years in front of me- successful children, savings, a spouse of 35 years, I live my best life. My husband gifted me with a high end ($$$$) luxury bag that I use and not save for special occasions because every day is special. My parents gifted me a necklace that again I wear all the time. My point is, the gifts were not something that would be an ordinary birthday or Christmas gift, but something I use. Does she comment on a certain brand or object? Im all for statement gifts, but it's like fine china, why have it if it's not going to be used. Happy Birthday to your wife, I'm sure you will make it memorable.
HTLM22@reddit (OP)
She is not really a brand person. But on the China. We have a whole cabinet going to waste. Last year I decided we were going to start using it daily instead of the Ikea stuff we were using. It is great!
Dependent_Escape2513@reddit
Is there a place she always dreamed of going? Make a memory. My husband took me on vacation for my birthday for the first time last year. We are big concert gen xers. We saw 3 in a week. Best birthday ever.
Fried_Taro@reddit
Instead of something ‘big’ or flashy, get something understated and actually valuable. Like sterling silver or pure silver (I have a bracelet and necklace that are pure silver .999; these were made by a cottage maker). Precious metals are expensive right now due to all the world economy stuff. Get at least 18k gold. You could get earring huggers that are solid gold (usually the hugger is hollow but it is not gold plated). You would have to go to a real local jeweler and ask for the metal and quality you want. Also, don’t do a surprise party. My hubs did that for me at 40 (only mildly annoyed) but I was quite ambivalent about and adverse to 50 and had to spell it out in clear and simple terms no surprises
ShellyForNow@reddit
Take her on a trip. I just turned 50 and my husband to me and the kids to the Dominican. It was perfect.
heather3113@reddit
Massage, facial, etc. All day long pampering by someone that is solely focused on her. As a mom, maybe she doesn't make herself a priority, do that for her.
lsp2005@reddit
I would ask her. Does she want a trip or jewelry or something else. I personally like rings. I have received new ones for our anniversary’s 5, 10, 15. For 20 we went to Japan for 16 days.
littlebritches77@reddit
For the win!!!
bitchywoman_1973@reddit
No on the brooch!
Personally, I’m a bit granola, wrapped up in a pretty vanilla/white woman classic boring wardrobe. But I LOVE jewelry from Awe Inspired. Their shipping and customer service is iffy. But their style is bad ass. They have some fine jewelry options now.
Or a pair of diamond stud earrings go with anything!
SplodeyDope@reddit
Hacksilver arm rings. When the country goes completely tits-up, they'll help you pay to flee across the border.
Left_Guess@reddit
My ex took me to Bangkok and Dubai. I love to travel.
Cigarrauuul@reddit
Bought the wife a Rolex. I think thats a pretty good grown up gift. It’s kind of flashy but is also usefull.
cgiuls1223@reddit
THIS PLZ
Physical_Ad5135@reddit
I vote for a trip.
JoeyTribianisGoyter@reddit
Pearl necklace? 😉
Defiant-Win-7859@reddit
Im not a jewelry person either. I have a few pieces that were given to me when I was younger that I love but I won’t add to what I have. If it were me, I’d prefer an experience of one of my favorite things. For me it would be an opera at a house that’s on my bucket list. Is there something she loves to do that you could make special? maybe a massage and a facial at a fancy spa/resort if she likes that type of thing?
Slorgadelic@reddit
Do not buy a brooch, they are a particular aesthetic that she either is or isn't. She'd already wear them if they were her style, personally I associate them with women a generation or two older than us.
The diamond pendant sounds lovely. Is a gemstone ring in your budget?
Sufficient-Poet-2582@reddit
The wife likes to build her jewelry on big dates, 30, 35,40,45. We have a really good relationship with our jewelers and have bought multiple pieces from them. Take her to pick a stone and build something, a ring, a necklace, or a brooch.
Embarrassed_Rule_269@reddit
Pearls. I gave my wife pearls a couple of years ago and she loves them. She can wear them with casual outfits or dressier stuff.
GingerA0712@reddit
Diamonds are always great! Perhaps a vacation? Spa package?
Top_Tea3530@reddit
What about a trip or a special experience? Tickets to something in your area that she wouldn’t normally indulge in. Concert, show or à spa day??