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How easy would it be to live alone, outside of cities without a car?

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notthegoatseguy@reddit

In the core downtown of a major metro area, totally feasible. Anywhere besides that outside of a handful of metros like NY/NJ, Philly, DC, San Fran, Chicago? Probably not gonna be fun.
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albertnormandy@reddit

If you were alone, almost impossible unless you had a lot of money to pay for everything to be delivered and for Ubers/taxis to take you places.
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UpstairsCommittee894@reddit

Depending on the area ubers, taxis, public transport, same day delivery, etc doesn't exist.
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Quenzayne@reddit

Nearly impossible. Even in most cities you’d still need a car. Only 4 or 5 metropolitan areas in America are walkable, well-served by public transit, or otherwise non-car dependent. 
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skipperoniandcheese@reddit

i'm currently doing this, and it sucks. if i don't have a ride to work it's over a mile away, and i can get there either through a field that has a sinkhole problem or the longer route on the side of the road with no sidewalk. miserable.
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-hacks4pancakes-@reddit

For a rural or semi-rural area, I suppose if you were rich and agoraphobic and you never left home, we are in an era where you could get broadband and order pretty much anything delivery eventually, barring poor weather. The suburbs of major cities usually have some busses, but they are not well funded or reliable. I have family who depended on them out of necessity in the deep south and it was a pretty terrible life.
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Deep_Banana_6521@reddit (OP)

Rich and agoraphobic would be the dream
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-hacks4pancakes-@reddit

I could read melancholily on a balcony overlooking the terrace.
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Tron_35@reddit

Depends. Where im at, without a car, you'd have a damn hard time. You could bike, but theres nothing super close, itd definitely be over an hour bike ride to get to the nearest grocery store, and you'd have to bike along the highway, which has no bike lanes.
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that-Sarah-girl@reddit

Extremely difficult. How would you get to work? How would you buy food? How would you get to a pharmacy or a doctor? And if you want to see people they're going to have to come get you. I've known people without a car in rural areas. You know how there are outdoor dogs? These are my uncle's outdoor friends. They're unemployed, desperately poor, and living with other people in bad situations. They walk miles to visit. They know he'll at least give them a ride back home or drop them somewhere they want to go.
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river-running@reddit

Depends on where you are and how much you get out. For example, I live in a town of 23,000 surrounded by countryside. My apartment is in a residential area about a mile from downtown and there's a small local bus service. Between the bus, my bike, and my feet, I could get to all the places that I visit on a regular basis. Stores, services, medical, entertainment, etc. I would be limited in how much I could get at the grocery store and bulky purchases would be difficult, but you can have something like a bike trailer that increases your capacity. You would be limited in the places you could work. My job is 10 mi outside town in a very rural area with no bus service and roads that are too dangerous to ride a bike on. If you worked in or near the central business district, you could walk, bike, or bus there. You would also be limited in your ability to leave the town. We have a regional bus that connects my town with another similar sized town and a city of about 50,000 that's about 30 miles away. From that city you could catch a train or a plane. They also used to have a Greyhound station, but I don't think it's active now. So you could get around, but you would be beholden to the transportation schedules. That regional bus, for example, only runs maybe six times a day and not on Sundays. In addition to the planning required, it's also more expensive compared to a fairly reliable vehicle that only needs gas and regular maintenance most of the time. Just using my town as an example, you could definitely live here without a car, but you would have to not get out very much or be okay with limiting your travel outside the town to factors that are outside of your control. Aside from my job requiring it, the flexibility of having a personal vehicle is a big part of why I have one. I don't use my car for everything. I do as much walking and biking as possible, both for my own health, environmental reasons, and enjoyment, but I would absolutely feel restricted and a bit suffocated if I didn't have the option of a vehicle to go wherever I wanted, whenever I wanted.
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Hopeful_Pizza_2762@reddit

Impossible.
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GhostOfJamesStrang@reddit

It's not impossible. Not even close.  If you work from home, totally doable. 
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Hopeful_Pizza_2762@reddit

I jave to have access to doctors and food.
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GhostOfJamesStrang@reddit

Food can be delivered and if you've got the money or even access to various charity organizations, you can get to the doc. 
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CamelFeenger@reddit

There are so many places 30+ minutes away from a grocery store where food cannot be delivered.
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GhostOfJamesStrang@reddit

A. You don't have to live in one of those places to be outside of a city.  B. It won't be as inexpensive, but you can absolutely get food delivered anywhere in the US. 
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Cheap_Coffee@reddit

I think that's called "being a prepper."
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GhostOfJamesStrang@reddit

I grew up in the proper sticks.  We just called it having a larder.
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driver004@reddit

Not impossible, improbable. Maybe it’s the military brainwashing in me but never fucking quit nothing especially if it pisses off god himself
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vargemp@reddit

Just get a motorcycle lol
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Traditional_Entry183@reddit

Where I live, only about 20 miles outside of a small city, the only possible way would be if you have someone who does all of your shopping for you. Food delivery isn't possible. But then you'd essentially be on home confinement like you were in trouble with the law. Walking anywhere simply isn't viable.
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Nerisrath@reddit

depends on how good you are at farming, gardening, hunting, and canning food. and whether you like solitude or not. Assuming you are already setup with the necessities (jars, tools, seeds, starter herd/flock, etc) its quite easy and many people do it willingly. they have a car but only go i to town a handful of times a year. monthly at most. a ride share or good neighbors could replace a car used that infrequently.
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Alternative_Set_5814@reddit

Very difficult. I grew up in the country and there were some pockets of extreme poverty that I dont know how anyone overcomes. These houses were at least 6-7 miles to a grocery store and work would be inaccessible without a car. There was a church near this community that I imagine was a lifeline to many of its members. I know on occasion my dad would give someone a ride who was walking into town.
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driver004@reddit

Absolute hell with a disastrously high mortality rate of we’re talking alone alone.
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Deep_Banana_6521@reddit (OP)

Why such a high mortality rate?
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driver004@reddit

How do you presume to get water for starters
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procrastinatorsuprem@reddit

A well.
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driver004@reddit

Do you know how to dig one
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PreciousLoveAndTruth@reddit

I’m rolling my eyes so hard at the comments that say it’s impossible. I’m a single adult, living alone, big in a large metropolitan area, and it’s not that hard or that big a deal—and I’ve done it for a good long while, in multiple states! You make friends, you use ride shares, you walk if possible, and order groceries to be delivered.
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dangleicious13@reddit

Extremely difficult
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Big_Celery2725@reddit

Very difficult, if you mean rural areas. A hassle but doable, if you mean suburban areas.  Uber and Lyft would be your main transportation either way.
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CorrectCondition9458@reddit

I was without a car for about 5 years in a smallish area. I would rent a car for a day twice a month. Just coordinate all your shopping. Dr appt. Pharmacy runs. Grocery trips. Depending on size of area there may be li tied bus service but I’ve found for time sensitive things you just need a car. If you go with option meal planning is a must bc you can’t just run out to pu something. In terms of cost of you get a smaller car the price runs about the same as car insurance for a month. Check to see if rental co does pu and drop off at your house. It sounds a little complicated but it worked for me for years.
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emmasdad01@reddit

Depends on how much you want to use ride share. I am pretty sure it would suck.
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itsmyhotsauce@reddit

Ride share isn't really a valid option outside of populous areas
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emmasdad01@reddit

Depends on how far out you are. Other than being in the absolute sticks, I have never had a problem.
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procrastinatorsuprem@reddit

Very rare in my whole state outside of a few more populated areas.
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Sparkle_Rott@reddit

I had a problem even in Gettysburg, PA after a certain hour at night. Popped open my app and there were zero. On to plan B. Same with Union. Eventually a woman with a car saw that there was zero transportation and drove me back across the mountain after being taken to the hospital by ambulance (I had a reaction to my meds; I was fine) It can be very hit or miss outside of larger metropolitan areas.
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Cheap_Coffee@reddit

Also depends on where you live, no?
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sneezhousing@reddit

Very very very hard outside of a city. Harder further you get out from the city. There is nothing in walking distance. You'll spend a fortune on cabs, Ubers etc.
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CtForrestEye@reddit

I think in this area of the suburbs it's doable. There's a grocery store, a few restaurants and more in walking distance. The bus line is a few houses away.
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LeSkootch@reddit

Depends where. I'm in South Florida and make due with buses and ride share. Bus routes I use are frequent aside from Sundays but I'm off then so it doesn't matter. I also work at a grocery store and have another one less than a three minute walk from my house in a huge plaza so I'm not concerned about store access. It would be easier with a car but for me it would probably be more expansive factoring in fuel, insurance, and car payment. I pay less per month with my hybrid model of public transport and buses. Time is the thing I'd gain, not money.
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bears_vw@reddit

I have a friend who lives without a car. She invites me to drive an hour and a half to visit for the weekend so she has a ride to the swimming spot in the river, in her town. There’s no public transit in her town and so she needs rides to the nearest train station occasionally. She’s hugely dependent on friends with cars. But she figures it out. So, not easy, very hard, but possible.
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Cheap_Coffee@reddit

Outside of (most) cities, there is very little non-car transportation infrastructure.
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Return_Of_The_Whack@reddit

Basically impossible. Public transportation is non existent outside of cities, ride-sharing would be incredibly expensive, walking would be dangerous and take a very long time and most roadways are not safe for cycling.
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pastrymom@reddit

I live in the suburbs of a major city and it’s nearly impossible. The grocery stores are over an hour away. We don’t have many sidewalks and the cars drive very fast. They wouldn’t be watching for you.
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Zillajami-Fnaffan2@reddit

Very hard. We used to take a taxi to go to one specific place and my dad would grocery shop by going with a friend
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Bahnrokt-AK@reddit

Depends how alone you are. If you are trying to work a 9-5 job and have a life. Hard. But if you go way past the cities, skip the 9-5 and adopt a homesteader life style, it gets easier.
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DragonScrivner@reddit

If you live in an area with a decent non-car transportation infrastructure, it's doable
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Shop-S-Marts@reddit

Where? Pretty easy where I am, even the homeless can do it.
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upnflames@reddit

Depends on how you define city. There are definitely main streets in small towns where you could have enough groceries and businesses within walking/biking distance to be okay for food and work. Amazon/Walmart delivers most places for everything else you might need. It's doable. If you're in a rural area, it's next to impossible though. I have a house in a small town in upstate NY and it's about 10km before you get to the first business. There's farm stands, but you'd be pretty stranded without a car.
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sics2014@reddit

Our bus system goes into the suburbs here, not just the cities. You could definitely make it work.
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GhostOfJamesStrang@reddit

Living is easy.  Doing much worthwhile will be difficult. 
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