Is it normal for 'work banter' to include older men making fun of the younger men's soft hands and calling them 'gorgeous'?

I'm not a person who is keen on policing peoples language. However this thread is a perfect example of how people react depending on whether the subject of the language is male or female. Because you're male, this is some of the comments so far in this thread: * "who's a pretty boy then?" * "It's banter, that's all" * "I guess it's not only the hands that are soft." * "Don't get your knickers in a twist my love" * "you're getting off fairly lightly" * "start calling him a big gay boy or something?" This is one of the reasons women experience so much shit. Because men grow up in environments where dishing out banter like this is so normal, and being able to give it back is normalised. So all of a sudden when they continue that behaviour with women, it's not clear to them why it's a problem when through their lived experience, it's practically an expectation. Having been through it before as a young man, I'm not really sure what to say. In some sense it did build character, and I can stand up for myself. But none of this should be happening in the first place. Anyone with intelligence can realise that you can still spar with words, and have playful trash talking without resorting to what you're putting up with. It should be an eye opener to women too: this is what men have to grow up around. It's a constant battle.