Shall I just take the plunge and move?

Posted by Likelyinthegym@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 52 comments

(29f) I currently live in Essex and have been my whole life. I have a very clear dream of moving somewhere near the mountains and away from here but something always comes up that gets in the way or I talk myself out of it, but the dream always comes back. I have found a beautiful property to rent there that is affordable and fits everything I am looking for, I called the agents today who confirmed it is still available. Part of me wants to just do it scared and whilst not being ready, because the truth is I don’t think I’ll ever be ready. I currently rent privately so I would need to give a months notice and I am going to ask work if I can work remotely full time (if the answer is no I will look at other options). Shall I just fucking go for it? I get a bonus at the end of this month that will cover the deposit. In terms of the move itself, I plan on leaving everything behind and starting fresh. I would sell/donate my current furniture so the move wouldn’t be difficult. I am single, no kids and a little heartbroken which sounds like the perfect recipe for a new start. What shall I consider before doing this?

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DisastrousLawyer6782@reddit

If you don't you might regret it 🤷

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AJAttard@reddit

Do it!!!

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seafarthing@reddit

Yes, do it, BUT before you go, research what's available nearby then if you have any emergencies (plumbing, electricity, need to see a doctor or dentist, need a hospital, etc) you'll instantly know what's there and where it is. I wish I'd done that before I moved here (I lived in a city and moved to the country, also in the UK) because it would have saved me a hell of a lot of stress.

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PleasedNacho@reddit

I've moved a few times as an adult, what I always do is find a job first and then move, some companies even help with relocation costs depending what you do

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Fine_Cress_649@reddit

I grew up in a city and moved to the mountains when I was 35. Wish I'd gone sooner. Just go already

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Fun_Cheesecake_7684@reddit

Make sure you can work and travel to get groceries and things; otherwise why not? What are you going to lose? "A life which is lived in fear is a life which is only truly half lived"

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RecentTwo544@reddit

Just to provide some balance to everyone saying "just do it" (which is my gut feeling too) - When you say "near the mountains" where exactly? Bear in mind places that are often great to visit aren't quite the same when you live there. I'm obsessively in love with Ibiza and never get tired of going, for work or pleasure, but I'm well aware living there would be a living hell unless my income was *much* higher than it is. Loads of people move to Japan having fallen in love with the place when travelling, then find the work/life balance to be insane and they always feel like a total outsider even if totally fluent in Japanese. Lots of people who move to Australia love it at first, then find it isn't actually a great place to live long-term but cannot afford to move back to the UK. You need to really consider the potentials cons as well as the pros. What are transport links like? Is it a friendly area? What about the work situation? Plenty to do in terms of recreation? Is is easy to get to shops or get anything you might need? Do you have family or friends you might miss? Really consider worse worst case scenarios and how you'd go about navigating them. If it's a "yes, I could definitely do x, y, and z and it would be fine" then go for it.

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Likelyinthegym@reddit (OP)

Thank you so much for this! I am thinking the Brecon Beacons to ease me in with a view to move to North Wales (Llanberis/Snowdonia) after a year :)

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RecentTwo544@reddit

As long as you can live with the fact both are pretty remote then you're laughing.

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andytdj@reddit

Essex isn't going anywhere, but this opportunity won't be available for ever. I moved from a home where I was my whole life 6 years ago, also at age 29. Best decision I ever made, and your home will always be there if you ever want to go back.

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alamoman4sure@reddit

Make sure they have a gym and say fuck it time to for adventure!

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pickledperceptions@reddit

Hell yea! Which mountains? Word of warning if your moving from a fairly well connected place in Essex to a more remote rural part to get more access to mountains (not nesseciarily something you have to do) it will come with other side effects too. have a think about your day to day, your non-mountain hobbies, your support network, Your must have creature comforts. Do you have a car? Working remotely is great but if your alone at home and then 30 mins drive to nearest pub. Or an hr away from nearest supermarket. It can really effect you and some rural communties are well underserviced, have a different demographic and an be hard to "break into" socially. I've lived in rural areas most of my life but recently moved to the city and there's a lot i now do day to day i couldn't do before.

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Likelyinthegym@reddit (OP)

I was thinking the Brecon Beacons to start as it will ease me in for a year and then North Wales ☺️ The place I’m looking at is right near a pub and not far from supermarkets, I also want to get a dog :) Thank you so much :)

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pickledperceptions@reddit

Ah ideal. I live in cardiff and i regularly get up to the hills. Its 30-45 min drive. I'm originally from Bangor direction. And i kinda struggled up there to find a job but it's great. A lot of outdoor minded communities. i struggled most in Pembrokeshire. There was just no young people about! Top tip learn a bit of welsh if your going up north. You won't nesecarily need it around Brecon/Methyr T but it'll be appreciated and It'll open a lot of doors once you do move. especially to those more close minded about Essex/London people moving up :p

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bobboo21@reddit

Do it!

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dookie117@reddit

Fuckin do ittttt. Where are you thinking of moving to? If it's somewhere fairly remote I'd consider job prospects there.

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Likelyinthegym@reddit (OP)

Thank you so much! I want to start in the Brecon Beacons for a year and eventually head to North Wales. Edinburgh looks gorgeous! I hope you can 🤞

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dookie117@reddit

Fair enough. If you're into mountains personally I'd recommend somewhere other than Brecon Beacons. It's just a handful of big ish hills, not much at all. North Wales poor job prospects but if you don't need that then great. Maybe Manchester could be good for you tho. Close ish to the Lakes and Peaks District.

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MattWillGrant@reddit

Yeah, gtfo of Essex. I've never looked back.

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Tattycakes@reddit

How are your parents? I moved out of Essex in my mid 20s when they were youngish and healthy, and caring for them was never even on my radar. Just over decade later I’ve settled down with a partner and a job, and they’ve now entered the age bracket where health problems really start to accumulate, and I’m not there to care for them. My mum in particular got hit by a lot of unlucky issues which have left her quite disabled, and I kick myself on a regular basis that I’m not within a practical distance to pop round and help with chores, doctors visits, or even just face to face time. Definitely travel and have good experiences at your age, but it’s something to bear in mind before you get too settled down

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chipsandgravyinyerma@reddit

Do it. Especially if it's to rent - if you hate it, it doesn't have to be forever :). We moved to the arse end of nowhere about 8 years ago because like you we'd always wanted that kind of life for ourselves but never really been brave enough. But our landlord was selling and we can work remotely so we thought sod it let's give it a try. We managed to scrape enough together for the deposit to buy a small fixer upper cottage. It's not finished yet, but its fine, we'll get to it lol. It took a little while to adjust, but waking up every morning to a pretty view and the birds, having lovely hikes right on the doorstep etc has made it so worth it. I can't really explain it, but getting to live somewhere I actually want to be has been so good for my soul lol. Like my job is still really, stressful but I don't feel it weighing on me like I used to. If you don't drive I'd recommend checking transport links first. My husband didn't drive when we moved here and it drove him crazy pretty fast lol. But it got him to learn so that's a plus.

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Ok_Inflation4320@reddit

Yes, just do it. When I was 29 I moved to Asia for a few years, and ended up there for 12 years - loved every minute. Life is too short to not take risks and try things out especially when you are young and you still are in good health.

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Grumpyoldgit1958@reddit

It’s easy for us to say just do ( and you should)! But sometimes it’s nice to bounce life decisions off of others. Trust me, thinking about it is more scary than simply doing it ! Don’t let this become a if only opportunity in a year’s time. Today is the first day of your new life. Have fun and don’t forget to post more as you progress !

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rapidbunny4404@reddit

You will regret it for your whole life if you don't try. Even if you try to then come back to Essex. You will live a more peaceful fulfilled life knowing you gave it your best shot. And that's only if it didn't work. Imagine how you'd feel when it does work out. Do it.

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rocketsheep-me@reddit

Do it!! Life can be surprisingly good when you just give some things a chance. It’s your dream and there’s nothing holding you back. Please go and get back to this post a year from now and tell us all about it.

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GrimQuim@reddit

Move to the mountains, start fell running, never look back.

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Cassie8841@reddit

Absolutely do it- it’s now or never. I travelled/worked and lived in 5 different countries from ages 18-28 and I’m so glad i stepped out and went somewhere new. I am from the us but I live in Manchester now with my British husband. Take the leap while you have no attachments! Make sure you have a job lined up if you can’t keep your remote one, have some savings + download bumble BFF to find friends or events local to your new place. I’d also have a little savings in case of emergency. Best of luck !! You only get one life- live it!

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ineedathrowaway694@reddit

Do it. I have uprooted my life for a fresh start twice now and I have no regrets. Finally found somewhere that feels like home and starting to make more permanent roots here. You won’t know until you try. Good luck!!!

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Densterevo@reddit

Go for it! If it doesn't work out, you can always move back. Update us all in 6 months. Good luck!

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bigfanofmagicstars@reddit

at 29 you're more than ready, this is your time!!

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kipha01@reddit

Do it if you can get fast reliable internet there. I would.

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rich_hr@reddit

If not I bet starlink would be a good option

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Sc4rl3ttD@reddit

Yesssss! Do it! I wish I could 😖 (31f)

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rich_hr@reddit

What do you have to lose. Do it and see what happens

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mrfluffypants1504@reddit

Go for it! If it doesn't work out, you can always move back.

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lss90@reddit

I've been debating the same - the itch doesn't go so might as well scratch it! Good luck.

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bahumat42@reddit

If I were in your shoes I would do it.

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Equivalent_Word3952@reddit

Totally do it, you only get one life

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GoldBear79@reddit

Fucking go for it

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HonkyBoo@reddit

RemindMe! 12 hours

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HonkyBoo@reddit

None of chose to be here Do whatever you want and don’t wait for permission If it feels right, it is right Be free

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ViscountGris@reddit

What advice would you give your best friend if they asked the same question to you? I’d be all up for that but dipping a toe in is usually more sensible than a full on divebomb so be sure before you give everything away.

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Dry_Negotiation_6762@reddit

Do it! You're right, you'll always find reasons to not be ready. I did the same a couple of years ago, just took the plunge and moved away and told myself if I hated it I could always move back, and it turned out to be the best thing I've ever done. If you don't try, you'll never know! This is what life's about, it's exciting. Good luck!!

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ReditMcGogg@reddit

I truly believe there are not bad decisions in life when it comes to stuff like this. Just do it. Make it work. Make it happen.

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billhelm01@reddit

do it now

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flaninacupboard2@reddit

Sure, if you don’t like it you can just move somewhere else in 12 months time.

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ceciem2100@reddit

Absolutely do it! You'll regret it if you don't! You're at a great age for relocating, and what a great opportunity! Getting rid of most of your stuff and starting again feels awesome!

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semaj420@reddit

you should definitely do it!

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wallpapermate@reddit

JFDI. Classic case. All the best!!

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mrdibby@reddit

Yes! Do it! When your life is flexible take advantage of it.

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cleo_at_giftwhale@reddit

Do it. 29, no kids, renting anyway - you literally have nothing tying you down. I moved from the south east to Wales a few years back and the only regret was not doing it sooner. Worst case you hate it and move back in six months. Best case you build a whole new life.

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