ULPT Request: How To Make A Cheating Ex Seem Like They're Still Cheating?
Posted by TeachMePersuasion@reddit | UnethicalLifeProTips | View on Reddit | 169 comments
Long story short, my ex cheated on me, and now he's in a live-in relationship with the person he cheated on me with.
I don't know if he's cheating/cheated on his current partner, but I want to make it certainly seem so.
How can I do this?
OdinThePoodle@reddit
Maybe just move on with your life and forget about him? If you fuck up his current relationship you’re no better than he is/was.
TeachMePersuasion@reddit (OP)
Nah. He cheated. I didn't.
Me > Him and the skank he cheated with
OdinThePoodle@reddit
He did something that ruined your relationship. Now you want to do something to ruin his relationship. Not sure either of you wins a battle of moral superiority.
TeachMePersuasion@reddit (OP)
He cheated. I didn't.
Infinite difference there.
That's not an apples and oranges situation. That's an apple and a horse apple.
blueberryraspy@reddit
Hey OP did you ever end up fucking this guy over? If not hmu let’s get him
UntestedMethod@reddit
Make some orders from Victoria's Secret or similar for lingerie that is definitely not his new woman's size. The idea is that she sees the package and thinks it will be a gift for herself, but then he never gives it to her because it's not her size so she becomes suspicious about who he gave the mystery package too.
I'd suggest using a prepaid credit card so you don't need to provide your own name anywhere when you make the order.
Gregorofthehillpeopl@reddit
Order something smaller. If she assumes it's for her then she gets to be upset because he thinks she's fat.
SpecialistMattress21@reddit
Nar, go for XXXXL that way she gets to be upset that he thinks she's that fat OR that hes' cheating on her with a much larger woman.
goosmane@reddit
watch it be her size tho
blueberryraspy@reddit
I think her man knows what size she is 🫠
Deny-Degrade-Disrupt@reddit
A folded up Victoria secret bag or condom wrapper in the right place can do wonders
Good_Community_6975@reddit
Move on. People are shitty and it's best to just be happy they're out of your life.
Final_Rest7842@reddit
Make a fake social media profile with a photo of a hot girl, friend him, and then start liking his selfies (never couple pictures).
Substantial_One5369@reddit
Not too attractive though depending on how goodlooking the guy is otherwise then it'll just look like a bot or a woman trying to interact with men to get them interested in their OF/increase their folllowing.
CharlesAvlnchGreen@reddit
Exactly. Find a pic of a woman that's his "type" and just *slightly* more attractive than the women he normally dates. Age appropriate, similar socioeconomic level, similar lifestyle.
In other words, a girl who he could reasonably be IRL cheating with, not some fantasy babe. Guys get these types of friend requests all the time and usually they have ulterior motives.
OkEnvironment3961@reddit
Weqponize "if he cheats with you, he will cheat on you".
Vortex_Analyst@reddit
My brother really hated this guy from work, I mean really really hated him. He started ordering Amazon items like lube and few other sex toys to his house addressed to him, with notes you can add like "Thanks for last night" etc. He would do this, knowing when this person was traveling. So his live in girlfriend would see the packages.
Long story short, he got them to break up. Laughed, and moved on.
I am kinda scared of him.
Slutty_McSlut_Face_@reddit
Start him a dating profile with his pic
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
send flowers / small gifts
SugarInvestigator@reddit
Underwear with a note saying "you enjoyed these so much I thought youd like a momento"
jaxxon@reddit
Si... ¡Una momento!
UntestedMethod@reddit
I think sending flowers works better when it's the woman doing the cheating...
OkEnvironment3961@reddit
Send flowers to the girl he cheated with. Cheaters going to assume his partner is cheating real quick.
Delicious-Image-3082@reddit
He probably already is. Literally every cheater I know has done that shit.
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
Read the original post he’s living with the person he cheated on op with
riverscreeks@reddit
I think you’re misinterpreting their comment.
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
Yes I am
Dick_Lazer@reddit
You could maybe send flowers to the house but leave the name off the address, and then make the pack-in gift card look like it's from him but addressed to another woman.
Cuneus-Maximus@reddit
Sure but it will still cause suspicion on the man.
Vandersveldt@reddit
Or just fuck him, jesus
IAmTheLizardQueen666@reddit
Here’s the real advice
dnooup@reddit
Catfish the new girlfriend
UntestedMethod@reddit
If you can get access to his car, leave remnants of a woman in there... Spray some perfume, random hair ties/scrunchy, panties, etc
sluttysprinklemuffin@reddit
Body glitter. Strands of hair a different color/length than either of theirs.
I have long, red hair, and I shed 🤷♀️ A friend I had never been lewd with drove me home once, and transfer transfer transfer, somehow my hair made it from his car seats to his underwear, despite me never having seen nor touched his underwear or their contents. But his super hot gf definitely didn’t believe him. I had to explain I’m poly, but I don’t do cheating, I would not ever have been with him. Hard limit. I don’t want to be “the other woman.” She was cool about it after that, I think I got some hair on her too and she laughed it off.
But I can confirm that you can cause strife with some really long, red hairs.
cheesenachos12@reddit
I originally interpreted "remnants of a woman" to include a woman's limbs. Which would achieve a different goal certainly
OkEnvironment3961@reddit
LOL had a girlfriend loose her shit when she found a long blond hair in my car. She was a brunette but her sister was blond. She used my car to drive her sister to the airport.
Emergency_Mistake_44@reddit
Classic. An ex of mine 10 years ago lost her shit about a strand of red hair in my hoodie I hadn't worn for a few months.
Guess who last wore it whilst having their head dyed red?
OkEnvironment3961@reddit
Wouldn't it be better to make him think that she is cheating? Send her flowers/gifts with notes like "can't wait to see you again"
12_leon_12@reddit
Send HIM Flowers saying “thanks for listening and sorry for chipping your cup. Love, Maddie sign with a heart” Don’t put his name. She’ll go into a frenzy trying to find out who Maddie is, looking for a chipped glass and best of all she’ll assume he had someone over.
Shell-Fire@reddit
Use a Gender Neutral name. Pat. Chris. Etc.
EdLeedskalnin@reddit
I was kind of annoyed by this request... but this is the answer, and just
Apptubrutae@reddit
/r/redditsniper
1nquiringMinds@reddit
I miss the days when we all referenced candlej
krysztov@reddit
If you make it ambiguous enough they'll both suspect each other!
bl0ndiesaurus@reddit
This is the answer OP!
fidelesetaudax@reddit
That’s the perfect UNethical answer.
mtn-cat@reddit
Grow up and move on
mayoboyyo@reddit
Whats unethical about that?
Best-Jackfruit5593@reddit
I feel like people forget what this sub is all about…
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
There’s a huge difference between being unethical for personal gain and being unethical purely to harm others because you’re a salty bitch who can’t move on. It’s not good for the psyche and OP would honestly be better to just move on.
mayoboyyo@reddit
Just say you hate women
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
I’ll be honest with you, I don’t see OP mentioning their gender anywhere. Do you? Or are you assuming sexual orientation?
PM_ME_UR_REPTILES1@reddit
Great come back lmao including the rest of the responses you had
mayoboyyo@reddit
No im assuming they hate women because they used a slur for them.
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
You think bitch is gender specific? That’s funny.
mayoboyyo@reddit
When you use it, it is.
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
Because that makes perfect sense. Thanks for clarifying that 🤣
JustAnotherBuilder@reddit
If this were a guy the comments would roast OP regardless.
lwokeupinbeastmode@reddit
This.
mtn-cat@reddit
Hi friend! If you agree with a comment, that's what the handy dandy upvote button is for!
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
And if you agree so much so you feel inclined to express your agreement through a reply, that’s cool too!
lwokeupinbeastmode@reddit
Yeah I don’t see what’s wrong with my comment, but all good! Love me some downvotes for no reason. 🤪
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
Redditors are a special breed who think every reply must bring something inherently constructive to the conversation. They forget we’re humans who simply like to exclaim sometimes.
lwokeupinbeastmode@reddit
Couldn’t have said it better Mr Hopkins. Have a happy new year.
JhonnyHopkins@reddit
Thank you! You as well, never leave beast mode.
CrowbarDepot@reddit
This.
Arlune890@reddit
Actually, no, the upvote button is for things that contribute to the conversation, and the downvote button is for things that do not contribute. Just because everyone uses it as a like button does not mean thats its primary function. Ironically the downvote button is being used properly (even if not intentional) against the person you were responding to
mtn-cat@reddit
Thanks for the pretentious mansplaining. I got it.
Arlune890@reddit
Np, and yw for correcting your condescending misinformation :)
CharlesBronsonsHair@reddit
You seem to be lost, r/sensibleadvice is that way
rizzo1717@reddit
Somebody did some abhorrent shit to me at work and then filed a disability claim to avoid accountability. A friend offered to post this persons husband in the are “we dating the same guy” groups local to her, even if she doesn’t see it, a mutual is bound to.
I told the person who suggested this that I don’t want to know about any nuclear revenge options they take 😂
theunquietloop@reddit
Will it help your work?
rizzo1717@reddit
No idea, I’m off work indefinitely for the injury this person caused me. Might be career ending.
lostandfinding_@reddit
post him on your local are we dating the same guy and use chatgpt to fake his dating profile, find his new girlfriends number and have ur guy friends give girls they are trying to pick up her number w ur exs name, send her a free anonymous std test text, condom wrappers in the car
throwawayaway2wind@reddit
Wait it out. Because your ex's partner will eventually get cheated on. Or some other kind of karmic bitch slap will happen.
My partner not only cheated, he is playing house with her currently and apparently she is psychotically abusive and he can't get her to leave. All I can think is how it seems like a him problem. Don't cheat and then don't have consequences of cheating.
Capital_Specific3389@reddit
Agree. My ex left me for another woman. He later went on to cheat on her with a string of prostitutes. Super gross
throwawayaway2wind@reddit
My personal favorite part is how she's violent and abusive and controlling and has trackers on his vehicles and stuff and the whole time I'm like "yeah, because she knows you cheated on me with her so now she's going to be super controlling because she knows you're a cheat. Enjoy your karmic consequences."
TheDreadGazeebo@reddit
Once a cheater, always a cheater. Fuck him again and send her the video
theunquietloop@reddit
Cry me a river
TheDreadGazeebo@reddit
Careful or ill fuck your boyfriend too
theunquietloop@reddit
Come for it then
Personal_Reveal1653@reddit
Catfish them and have an emotional affair.
enwongeegeefor@reddit
I mean...just wait? Ladder climbers are always looking for the next rung so......
koudodo@reddit
try sending him anonymous messages from a fake account, dropping hints that you know more than he thinks about his current relationship.
FierceFun416@reddit
If your community has a “are we dating the same guy group” submit him anonymously and ask if anyone else is seeing him because you are starting to develop feelings or have been intimate etc
Iam-doriangray@reddit
You should move on
Woodstuffs@reddit
That seems like a lot of wasted energy.
jlux5150@reddit
Post him in a local are “we dating the same guy” group and make it seem like you’ve been talking for a while. Make sure to use the anonymous feature
ThatThingInTheWoods@reddit
Oooooo yas.
raining01@reddit
How pathetic can you be? Know the saying, do better?
AdFamiliar350@reddit
Here is a life pro tip… The power lies in the person who cares the least
Deny-Degrade-Disrupt@reddit
You need to add the word piss disc or youre violating ruleone
Minimum_Pen_8452@reddit
The power lies in taking your power back.
AdFamiliar350@reddit
Okay, but you would be the only one would have a shit taking it back. Let said person live their life, they don’t care about you
assignpseudonym@reddit
You forgot the "U" in ULPT. Great advice, but wrong subreddit, my guy.
AdFamiliar350@reddit
Touché !
simdoll@reddit
He’ll probably do it again anyway. No effort needed on your part.
mrclean543211@reddit
Personally I think the healthiest thing to do here is to not continue messing with your ex now that you’ve broken up. It sucks getting cheated on, I know, but what you’re planning would come across as a red flag to me. Like if I started seeing a chick and found out she was actively messing with her ex’s life I would think “ok she’s clearly not over him, I should probably find someone who’s ready for a relationship”
yourmombiggaye@reddit
leave a condom wrapper next to his car like once or twice a week for a month. maybe on the passenger side. first time seems weird, second, third, fourth time creates suspicion. bonus points if you get the kind he normally uses.
TXbuckeye70@reddit
Definitely send lingerie to the woman he's with
ArmThePhotonicCannon@reddit
Did what I did. Have sex with him and show her the proof 😂 yes he’s an idiot
BMP7777@reddit
Have sex with his partner and send him the pics.
Strandkorbdestotes@reddit
And leave a piss disc in their bed
_muck_@reddit
Spluge disc.
Strandkorbdestotes@reddit
Ground breaking
BBorNot@reddit
A new invention. And we were here for it.
What a time to be alive!
Lapidariest@reddit
Assertive, I approve
saranowitz@reddit
Easiest way? Go hit him up pretending to be drunk and fuck him.
Comprehensive_Cut179@reddit
You need to move on
xTony_Tony_Chopper@reddit
Fake dating profiles. Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, etc.
Her friends will find it and do the rest.
AvoirReves@reddit
Oh and be sure to use couple pictures of them where she is obviously cut of the photo.
yaourted@reddit
this is delicious
SwassAttack@reddit
Lmao, move on. No need to be the crazy ex.
No_Nick89@reddit
Pissdiscs
Global-Nothing5754@reddit
on a real note i’ve been considering this, any way the law could get involved??
No_Nick89@reddit
I am sure you can find a cop who would give you his piss to make pissdiscs
goosmane@reddit
disc of the law
like a holy water piss disc
Global-Nothing5754@reddit
bru🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Newkular_Balm@reddit
It's crazy, ITS NEVER WRONG
thisremindsmeofbacon@reddit
I mean you could always catfish him
Atworkwasalreadytake@reddit
And then send an anonymous message to the new girl about where she will find him.
UntestedMethod@reddit
Have one of your friends whom he doesn't know (or hire someone) to confront him and make a scene when he's out on a date with her.
The classic "who the hell is she?! You said I was the only one!" etc etc
TeachMePersuasion@reddit (OP)
Hire someone? Where do you find someone to do that? Lmao
M00s3_B1t_my_Sister@reddit
Look for actors on Craigslist.
Doubledown212@reddit
Is there a 2026 equivalent to Craigslist? It’s basically dead in my city
Atworkwasalreadytake@reddit
Facebook marketplace?
Pizza-sauceage@reddit
Please share the video if you do it.
Final_Rest7842@reddit
Craigslist
Justadropinthesea@reddit
Send anonymous greeting cards signed with x’s and hearts. Get someone else to address them so he won’t recognize the handwriting or leave them on the windshield of his car at a time when you know they are together
GoodGoodGoody@reddit
Here’s the thing.
Your ex has already told their new partner you’re not worth it and likely batshit crazy.
Now your goal is to spend time and money to prove it.
SurrealSoulSara@reddit
This is one where you can just sit back and watch the story unfold.
Sounds like he's that 'once a cheater. Always a cheater" person
_muck_@reddit
Have several friends post on are we dating the same guy.
Create a reddit account with a scenario in which his identity is barely concealed. Maybe how to get him to leave his gf because they have a dead bedroom and you want more time with him. Use something you know like that he plays tennis weekly and say “his Gf thinks he’s playing tennis, but he gave it up over a year ago.
Intelligent_Craft_31@reddit
This is insane. Mind your own business and move on with your life. If they’re an ex and you’re not in contact then what they do is actually none of your business. The shit being talked about is borderline stalking. The effort put in to do any of that is just insane to me. Touch grass fr.
harveytent@reddit
Find out if she has a car, if so leave a note u see it pretending it’s for him. “I know you said never to come over because of your crazy roommate but the other right was amazing and I couldn’t resist leaving you this note!”
Start texting his gf that she’s not good enough and should leave because he can do better.
Find one of those “is my man cheating” Facebook posts and have a friend post a picture saying just hooked up with this guy but he acted suspicious about not being able to talk often and can’t tell me where he lives.
_tater_thot@reddit
There is an anonymous STD notification texting site.
PedanticPolymath@reddit
Oh man, with AI these days, itshould be TRIVIAL to fake images of him with some other girl, fake text conversation screenshots etc. Make a social media profile of his fake side-piece, post some pictures of the two of them together, like all of HIS selfie images online (not any pics of him and his new partner). Have fun with it!
K_Click_D@reddit
Move forward with your life, however hard it may be, forget him, become a better person, and don’t waste your time on asinine activities like this.
P-E-DeedleDoo@reddit
Mail a positive pregnancy test to her with a note saying, "did you know if (guy's name) wants kids?"
TuckerDaGreat@reddit
Have any intimate photos left of the two of you together?
Have AI make it look like someone else. Then make a fake social media profile for the AI person and reach out to your ex's partner with the picture.
911freeze@reddit
Lol im all for the unethical but this sounds like you could get into legal trouble real quick
assignpseudonym@reddit
This one could backfire if the ex has these pics or proof that the original was with OP.
straightVI@reddit
Perfect. Why does he still have those?
viciousxvee@reddit
Oooooo exactly lol
Murky_Macropod@reddit
Beware of local laws
Active-Mission7326@reddit
Fuck his father
viciousxvee@reddit
And make him your stepson. Then, divorce the dad and take half of your exes future inheritance
theunquietloop@reddit
Love this malefic plan
Goodlucklol_TC@reddit
Just cheat with him and keep receipts. Not like it would be hard to do.
free_billstickers@reddit
Just move on with your life
KudaMuda@reddit
Why do you care? They're an ex. Just lick your wounds and move on. If they've changed, fine. If not, well that's fine too and their decisions will eventually catch up with them.
Rise above.
TMJ848@reddit
You got cheated on. Take the L and move on already before you end up in jail for some dumb shit
sysop420@reddit
Move on with your life. Yikes.
All_Bonered_UP@reddit
Yeah just go.be happy or something. Best revenge.
Sure_Comfort_7031@reddit
How far you willing to take this?
….Call him up, hook up with him. I will bet you 50$ he’ll take you up on the offer.
dunayevsky99@reddit
Leave him alone and move on with your life. You already sound miserable. This will only make you more miserable.
Tsundere5@reddit
Can’t help with framing or sabotaging someone, it can turn into harassment and backfire on you. The most effective revenge is going no contact and moving on, relationships that start with cheating usually self destruct without any help
Torminalis@reddit
Just live your best life, move on. Forget him. That's the best revenge.
Then have him killed when you are beyond suspicion.
Mister_Silk@reddit
Seems to me the current partner already knows he's a cheater and is okay with that so I don't know what you'd be accomplishing exactly.
SmallPeederWacker@reddit
You gotta find her number and do a “Hey girl” call. Have one of your friends do the call and pretend like she’s the current other woman and wants her to know that she didn’t realize he was cheating. Something along those lines
Electronic-Insect771@reddit
why?
Whoredonramsay@reddit
Don’t even give that relationship your energy you want some unethical life advice? Blow his opp. Like the guy he hates the most and don’t even fully hookup with him just blow him idk why to guys thats somehow worse.
guerillamindfare@reddit
You need to move on. You think you are getting one over on him, but all you are doing is actively hurting yourself and others. The more you think about and dwell over him, the more he wins. You need to suck it up and carry on with your life. The perfect revenge is honestly moving on and becoming successful in life. Workout if you don't already and sculpt a killer body. Make sure your skincare and makeup is on point. Dress in a way that will show off your new body. Elevate yourself in every way and he will be just an after thought. One day he will run into you or search you up on social media, and regret ever cheating on you and letting you go.
I know this is ULPT, but I just can't get behind actively harming others.
Racoon_Soup@reddit
Catfish him with a fake account and go from there
Foreign_Contract_622@reddit
This happened to a friend of mine. He started dating the girl he cheated with. With time it got in her head that it could happen to her at any time, she would question every interaction with the opposite sex. But if you wanna be have some petty fun. Make a google number start texting them. Find someone on their ig, some girl that he thinks he has their number. Start textinf at later times. Full long con romance scam
JustAnotherBuilder@reddit
This is sad. You’re a stalker. Grow up and move on with your life.
Electrical_Camel3953@reddit
make it seem like he's cheating with you!
post an old pic of the two of you together as if it's current
spacedragon421@reddit
Move on with your life and mind your business
cybersynn@reddit
Here is an unethical life pro tip. Just dump them. You don't need a reason. Just let them go. Say anything you want. Say you can't stand the way the say the word 'manifest'. Just make any reason. No point in wasting time on them if you want to end it. Just walk away. Better yet. Don't say anything. Just get up and leave. Just walk out the door and never come back.
mtn-cat@reddit
Great advice but definitely not unethical. Did you read the post? They've already broken up.