Anyone in a new-ish relationship (together <2 years) at our age?

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BlackLioConvoy@reddit

47m w/ 35w. Its been great. We met at a part time seasonal job last year.

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Sodamyte@reddit

48, been single by choice since 25.

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People on dating apps…can anyone tell me how they got over the fear of that? Because I’m 40 and haven’t been able to muster up the courage. I seem to pick the wrong guys every time and don’t see how an app would help!

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Curtainmachine@reddit

All I can say is this…I was resigned to be alone forever and all I heard was dating app horror stories online. I just got to the point where I felt like “I wish I could just see who is out there without having to make a profile”. One day I just said, hell with it, I’ll just make the profile, it’s not like anyone will talk to me anyhow so I’ll be like that invisible kid in the corner at a party. What I didn’t expect was that I (m41) would end up getting tons of attention from women, having lots of fun great conversations with lots of interesting people, going on some zero pressure dates with some nice gals, some once, some several times, and finding a couple people that seemed promising enough to date for a little while and see how things worked. Granted, one WAS a nightmare, but it was over pretty fast and took all the pressure off every conversation and date afterward because “nothing was gonna be THAT bad again”. A few other little short relationships that were fun and friendly and only ended because it just wasn’t the right match in the end, but we were mature and friendly and open and upfront and nobody got hurt and parted on the best of terms. A few people and I still say hi back and forth now and again just friendly. Almost a year ago, I started dating someone I met on the app that began just like everyone else: “friendly conversation, no expectations”. If I knew how in love we were going to end up, I’d sure have been a hack of a lot more nervous to begin with! She just turned 43, I’ll be 42 in a couple of months. She’s my best friend and we are totally in love. She’s the one I’ve been looking for my whole life. If I’d let myself give in to the fear of taking the risk to just put myself out there, staying alone could have been a self fulfilling prophecy. I’m so glad I just went ahead and did it cause I had no idea how amazing things could be… I don’t think my experience is necessarily typical from what I hear, but there’s really nothing to lose… you can try and maybe fail and maybe end up alone, or not try at all and definitely be alone. There’s everything to gain. You have no idea what incredible experience is out there waiting for you. It’s never too late. I don’t know you but I’ll be rooting for you! I hope you go for it! Just have fun with no expectations and the worst thing that happens is you have fun and nothing comes of it. Talk to some people that seem interesting. If you have an interesting conversation with someone for an hour and never talk to them again, you still win! That was a great hour! You got this! (I got so many good book recommendations I’d never have otherwise read, too!)

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

Which app did you both meet on?

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Curtainmachine@reddit

We met on Bumble. I used Hinge as well and had a lot of success there too. Way more matches and dates from there tbh. The one I ended up with just happened to be from Bumble. I’d recommend either/both.

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BayouLuLu@reddit

I tried them in my 30s. The first guy turned out to be a player. The next few guys had serious psychological issues, so I gave the dating apps up. My brother actually is the one who set me up with my now-husband. I know of some people locally who had great experiences with dating apps, but personally I’ll never try one again if something happens to my husband.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

The apps suck. I was on them for a year now I no longer go on them. There are lots of fake profiles, catphish, scammers, bots, old profiles of people who have not logged in for years, and people on there just for attention and they do not want to ever date or meet.

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Minute-Yogurt-2021@reddit

Oh, it's a jungle out there, but remember the correct person is also there , lost in said jungle just as you.

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misterlakatos@reddit

I was on the apps for a few months in 2022. I had the best luck with Hinge, while Bumble was mostly pen pals/women dropping off. It was also tricky with women having the power to message first, while with Hinge one could comment on a photo to initiate conversations. I will say with Hinge (unless this has changed) is the fact that users can unmatch or deactivate and they simply disappear from your inbox without a trace, while Bumble will notify users of someone unmatching or deactivating. If you decide to move forward with them, best of luck.

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AdditionalMustard@reddit

I went through a lot, but five years ago I matched with my now wife and I absolutely never would have met her otherwise. We lived in different parts of the state but clicked so perfectly that we rearranged our lives to be together. Absolutely no regrets.

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Sisselpud@reddit

The apps are awful. I went on like 30 first dates and was ghosted by probably that same number of people. Probably not the encouragement you need but sadly was my experience there

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misterlakatos@reddit

The apps are indeed awful. I was briefly on them in 2022 post-divorce. Getting ghosted is really awful and sorry that happened to you.

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HerebutNotreally9@reddit

It’s ok, I appreciate the honesty. I am a little more ok with my fate to be a single woman the rest of my life 😆

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

I’ll be honest, I haven’t used the apps (I met my last BF at an IRL meetup) and I’m in no way defending them- but it seems like an app would theoretically help as it filters certain traits for you? Age range, kids or no, maybe even political beliefs, idk. Maybe some even filter for other values, I’m not sure.

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Apprehensive_Hat8986@reddit

Stretching the definition of new, but we're long-distance (4000km) and have been since day 0. We met on reddit during covid (2021). We were both hunkered down after each surviving some horrible relationships (individually in therapy), isolating because of covid, and living in different countries. All together it made kind of a safe space for us to chat. We got into very long conversations over reddit chat, whatsapp, and eventually into video calls. Eventually I worked up the nerve to ask them on a video dinner date. Intimate texting also grew into being intimate over video. After a year and a half, we met up in person and travelled to a city neither of us had been to. We each sent out regular "I still have my kidneys" messages to folks back home, but had an absolutely wonderful week together. Since then, we're pretty much digitally inseparable (we're actually connected on video right now, and I'm telling them about this as I write it). We've travelled several times together, and last winter got to spend a month together, which was amazing. We've gone with slow introductions to our families, and all has been sweet and smooth. We're hoping to be able to live together sooner rather than later, but we both have familial obligations that keep us in our respective cities. I'm going to be in-place for longer, so they're moving here. That's difficult for me to not feel bad about, because we've both previously moved to be with someone and had it go _very_ badly. But the biggest thing for each of us, is that we communicate, and both want what's best for the other (hence my worry about their well-being in moving). What's helped us both as well, is learning more about [high conflict people](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=high+conflict+people) and we both care to check-in on each-other to see that we're not hurting each-other. If there's anything I would recommend for dating today, it would be to learn more about identifying high-conflict encounters. There are plenty of resources on such, and you can DM if you'd like any book recommendations. (It'd actually be a recommendation from a professional I know and respect. I've only skimmed it but it's on my 'read' list.) So yeah, TL;DR - It **is** a dumpster fire out there. Hell, I'd describe myself as one. But in wanting to be better, and in striving to do better, we can keep hoping. And then you too can meet [somebody else](). After all, all of us, including **you**

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slightlystatic92@reddit

*What relationships shouldn't require, is for you to do work as a result of your partner making problems for you to solve.* ...is something I really needed to hear. Thank you.

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Sisselpud@reddit

So much of this resonates with me. Thank you for sharing

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scaryclown148@reddit

All my relationships last less than 2 years lol

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Bubbly-Stretch8975@reddit

Met my man using IJL (dumb name but “it’s just lunch”). Got divorced in my 30s, met him after a few years of forced self care (pandemic), it’s been challenging since we both have teens, but he’s everything I never knew I needed. I had a LOT of fun dating. Tinder mostly sucked but I loved the matchmaking blind date situation I used!

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nooneyouknow89@reddit

43F dating a 44M, met on Hinge 6 months ago. It's been an amazing relationship (his ex is really the only problematic part), but gosh the connection and communication make me so happy!

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betterlucknexttime81@reddit

Yes! I’m 44 and he’s 42, together for 1 1/2 years, building a life together. We met on Reddit but quickly realized we’ve been in a lot of the same places over the years and have a ton of people in common. I definitely thought there was no one out there for me because I’m too much in a lot of ways, not enough in a lot of other ways. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think someone this great would want me. So have some hope, you never know what could happen!

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redditydothis@reddit

How did you meet on Reddit. And did you guys live near each other?

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betterlucknexttime81@reddit

I was sick of the apps so I posted an ad on my city’s personals board. It’s really meant for hookups but I took a chance and wrote a longer, more detailed ad about me and about what I was looking for. His mom asked which board we met on and he told her a board for people looking to meet others with common interests, which I thought was a very diplomatic way of putting it. I got a lot of responses and some were very friendly/polite but his content and tone stood out. Took a few weeks for us to finally meet up but when we did, we talked for about six hours straight and talked even more on our second date. Somehow we still haven’t run out of things to talk about!

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dabeeman@reddit

she was the hot milf in my area wanting to connect in all the ads.

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ShillinTheVillain@reddit

I went for one of those local cougar ads and got bit by an actual large cat. I should have known better

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Neither-Principle139@reddit

🤣

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smem80@reddit

I’m 45, he’s 59, been together 1.5 years. Met on Feeld. Happiest, healthiest relationship I’ve ever had. Biggest takeaway is that we don’t have to blend every part of our lives, we connect where we are compatible and give each other space in areas where we are different. We never plan to marry as we both had horrible marriages and don’t want the state involved in our relationship. It’s bliss.

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Sisselpud@reddit

I’m in a relationship and we are both still on Feeld. ENM after a shitty monogamous marriage has been so great for us!

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neonblackiscool@reddit

Ha I am on Feeld too still when we wanna expand the bedroom. I was never married tho.

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neonblackiscool@reddit

A lil over two years. We met IRL!!! Best relationship ever been in.

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aliceinadreamyland@reddit

Not super new-ish, five years… last year we rough. We had a few months of separation and were trying to reconnect now. Idk what’s going to happen. I’m just taking it one day at a time and enjoying him.

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Necessary-Duty-7952@reddit

Yep. Year and a half together. We're the same age. Met through a meetup group. And she's the most amazing woman I've ever met. Both of us put in the work through therapy, self-exploration, and all that before we met. So when we connected, it really felt like two puzzle pieces just slotting together. We go out and do fun things on the regular, but also spend plenty of time at home just doing domestic stuff at each others' places. And whenever all our kids are gone, we spend all day in bed together. Couldn't ask for better.

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

Love that for you! What was your shared interest for the meetup?

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Necessary-Duty-7952@reddit

Was a parenting support group! We ended up chatting because we were both single parents and then realized that we just really clicked. And despite the fact that she was a complete unicorn, for some reason, she persued \*me\*. To the point that it took me weeks to realize that's what was happening haha

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Down-In-The-Weeds@reddit

I’ve been with my guy for a little over 2 years! I’m so glad I found him. My last relationship was 14 years and was more like a good friendship but I’m so happy with my new guy.

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

How did you meet?

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Down-In-The-Weeds@reddit

Doing a theater show. Wasn’t even looking and had just been through a pretty traumatic few years. I truly just got lucky. I wish it for everyone as it can be so exhausting trying to meet someone.

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AgentWD409@reddit

I'm 43, and my wife is almost 42. We had both been previously married (with kids) and divorced. We met in January 2022, hit it off pretty much instantly, got engaged in October 2022, and got married in June 2023. (I realize that's more than two years, but it's still reasonably "newish") So how did we meet? I matched with a woman on a dating app and we decided to meet up for lunch. It was pleasant, but there were no fireworks. The next morning, she texted me and said, "I have good news and bad news, which do you want first?" I asked for the bad news, and she said I was a good guy but there wasn't really any chemistry. No big deal, I appreciated the honesty. "Okay," I texted back, "So what's the *good* news?" Surprisingly enough she responded, "I think you'd be perfect for my sister!" Weird. But I figured, *Why not? What do I have to lose?* She began telling me all about her sister, and meanwhile (unbeknownst to me) she was texting her sister as well, telling her all about me. I eventually got her phone number, and even though we both agreed the situation was super weird, we decided to meet for dinner that Friday night. And the rest is history. How's it going? It's going amazing! We have three boys between us (she has one and I have two), and they're all genuinely brothers now. I'm happier and more fulfilled than I've ever been, and this summer my wife and I will celebrate our third wedding anniversary. And yes, it absolutely is a "dumpster fire" out there, so both of us are overjoyed that we don't have to try and date anymore.

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Roy_G_Biv_87@reddit

This gives me hope!

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Appropriate-Neck-585@reddit

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dw617@reddit

45/M ~ I met someone awesome on Hinge right betore the holidays and things are going well. She’s also 45. Awesome people are out there.

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Canned_tapioca@reddit

That gives me hope.

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Appropriate-Neck-585@reddit

Me too

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pilates_mama@reddit

Yes I’m 39 he’s 36 and we have been together just over a year now. We were both post divorce from a 15 year relationship when we met. We met online both our first time doing that lol. We clicked over text and once we met both kinda fell fast. It’s going great we’re moving in together this summer. We’re both still working through our pasts, but such is life.

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pilates_mama@reddit

He’s not I guess so just call me a cougar lol OP asked for specific stories thought this fit the bill but ymmv

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magsli@reddit

36 is an Xennial?

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bassmansrc@reddit

I’m 48 and she’s 42. We started dating 3 and a half years ago and got married last October! Both of us were previously married and both have kids (though mine are adults now with babies of their own…yes, I married and had kids young, at 19). Couldn’t be happier!

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Appropriate-Neck-585@reddit

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Abidarthegreat@reddit

I got married (for the second time) two years ago. In that time, we bought a car, bought a house, and had a kid. Things are swell! We met at work about 5 years ago when we were both on 3rd shift in the lab. We started dating then got married after about a year and some change. She's 35, I'm 44 (45 next week).

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troncatmeer@reddit

I am! I was divorced at 39. Started online dating. It was a very new experience for me. Flash forward 3 months and I met my most realest best friend ever on earth. She is simply the my favorite human ever. I consider myself very lucky and an exception to the online dating statistics. Anyone out there struggling do know, if it can happen to me it can happen to anyone.

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YEMolly@reddit

46F. Been seeing my S.O. for about 4 years. We followed each other on Instagram but didn’t really know each other (had mutual interests & friends so randomly followed each other). We happened to sit next to each other at a concert & the rest is history. :) Don’t give up hope.

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Kinky-Bicycle-669@reddit

I'm 40 and he's 46. We used to be coworkers for a few years but never really talked. After he quit the job, we'd keep in touch on FB off and on but he was married and I was engaged. I always felt bad because his ex wife would put them in some bad situations. He'd usually delete FB and be gone for a year. Well, this year I saw him on fb again and added him back in October. His ex wife had finally left and I was needing to end the engagement I was in, it was a really toxic relationship that I should have ended a longggg time ago. To say the least we got to talking and found out how similar we are and now we live together. 😂 We both had sworn off dating after our last relationships but nooo, we both had to fall for each other. 🙄😂

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Surlyllama23@reddit

42/45. We've been friends for almost 20 years, but went on our first date 5 months ago. It feels so natural and comfortable. We're both very happy!

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ChaucersDuchess@reddit

My husband is 42 and I’m 43. We met on X/Twitter in 2023. We started dating later that year, and got married at the end of 2024. The wildest part of the story? We went to high school together from 1997-2000, but 1. He was in the class behind me and 2. We went to a school of 2000+ kids. He had moved back home right before we met, and we just happened to both follow an author that we chatted with over the weekend years. He saw a reaction tweet I made in one of the threads and sent me a DM. ☺️ Dating was hot garbage before, but we are proof that you can find your person in your 40’s!

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seche314@reddit

Met my now-husband while traveling abroad!

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Morriganx3@reddit

Sort of. I’ve only officially been with my fiancé for a year, but we fell in love when we were 19. It just took me a lot of mistakes, including two marriages and divorces (one not quite finished) before I realized he was actually the one I should have chosen right from the beginning. He was a lot smarter, but he had to wait for me to figure it out also.

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emacextrabrut80@reddit

I’m 45, he’s 49, 2 year anniversary this month and we are getting married via a small elopement this summer. Same last name as mine, no relation (kinda weird as it’s not a super common last name) and I met him when I started a new job - he was the decision maker at my first account stop. 😂 I’d been single for 5 years, and he had been for 3, and we’ve both been married before. It’s the healthiest, happiest relationship I’ve had. In every way. He said we heal relationship trauma through a healthy relationship and he is correct. ❤️ So many good single people out there.

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yowza_wowza@reddit

I met my husband when I was 38 and he was 40. We’re 44 and 46 now and just got married in November. We met on Tinder. The apps are the only place either of us were actually meeting people. It’s so hard to date as an adult with careers and mortgages and no interest in bars. Especially once all of my friends were married.

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MattBlasing@reddit

Nope. The missus and I are almost gonna hit fourteen years. Feels like it’s been thirty. LOL.

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Electronic-Ride-564@reddit

Question for anyone who actually has had any recent success: are there any apps/sites that are worth a darn at the moment? Specifically talking M4M where there might be guys who are NOT looking for hookups. Yeah, I know non-existent, right? lol

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

An app for gay men looking for monogamy/commitment seems to be an untapped market.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

Lmao it would not do well. The apps and sites are full of bots, catphish, scammers, and super sketchy people-No I am not going to drive to your house, a park, or empty parking lot at night to meet some random stranger. Most bi and gay men are very open, or have open relationships.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

I am bi M and the apps are garbage. Everyone just wants to hook up, married or partnered "monogamous" men just want to cheat, nobody really wants to date, people express interest but then flake or ghost when it comes time to date or meet, lots of unsafe sex and hard drugs guys getting gang banged or hooking up having unsafe sex with poz guys that claim to be "undetectable, or neg and on prep" they get pozzed this happened to my friend that was on truvada or prep he is now HIV+, and there are lots of guys that never got over their ex.

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BossPina420@reddit

I’m 41 she’s 42. We’ve been together now for 20 months. Madly in love. We’ve both got kids (5 total) and ex’s. She was single for 3 years before we met. I was single for 18 days. She was done with men and no longer looking actively for anything serious. I am still working through my divorce, a thing she said she’d never endure for a man. She is a 14/10. So smart, so funny, a great mom, a good person, and looks like a Disney princess. My kids (3,4,5) love her! Her kids (11,12) love me and are growing closer to the littles. We waited 6 months to introduce the kids to each other. We didn’t cohabitate until 15 months in. Things are blending nicely. As soon as I’m divorced, we begin phase two. Land, home, forever. Keep your hopes up. There is NO way this should have happened. I’m the luckiest man alive.

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Funkopedia@reddit

How's it going? She's already ghosted me 3 times in 1 year. How'd we meet? At work 9 years ago.

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Nosebluhd@reddit

I mean this without shade because I feel for you. Nobody can stop the first ghost, can’t be helped. And I understand giving her the chance for the second ghost, because people change. But three ghosts? That’s not just a bit of undigested beef. You done got Scrooged.

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Funkopedia@reddit

lmao thanks. I figure we have enough fun when she's responsive, that I can just enjoy those nights—I'm not cancelling any plans anyway. And if she doesn't respond for the next few weeks, oh well, I'll just do something else.

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

Three Ghosts = a Scrooge. I think you’ve found a new measurement system 😂

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GeetarEnthusiast85@reddit

40M. November 2024 I met an amazing woman on Hinge and we quickly fell in love. Hard. Everything seemed to be clicking, we hated being away from each other. My sister told me she thought the two of us were soulmates when she met my girlfriend and saw us together. However, the relationship wasn't perfect. She is under a lot of stress in her personal life and still unpacking childhood trauma. It's funny this thread was made today because we broke up yesterday. She was having emotional episodes that were very intense and I was her main support. Handling these episodes always left me feeling emotionally drained. We had a very difficult discussion about our needs and admitted we couldn't be what the other person needs right now. There were a lot of tears on both ends and we didn't know how to say goodbye to each other. I still think of her as the love of my life but we're just not good for each other right now. I believe in her though. She's fighting to get better and is in therapy in addition to making positive changes in her life. I wonder if we'll meet again when we're both ready.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

Just stay friends with her. Is she in therapy? I personally would not want to deal with someone with major trauma and drama like that. I was friends with people like this and you wind up feeling drained and it is or winds up being a one sided friendship with their trauma and issues always taking a priority over everything. I am super independent and do not want to be a caretaker or someone's therapist/emotional suport person.

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cranberries87@reddit

I wouldn’t either, as someone who’s been there. It *really* weighs on you after a few years, and in situations like this, the person never seems to get any better in my experience.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

That was my experience exactly. The ex friends I had would quit therapy, go off meds, get into manipulation or scamming or run up massive debt and expect everyone else to pay for it, did not want to change or get help, blamed everyone else for their own problems, just randomly quit high paying jobs, etc.

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Apprehensive_Hat8986@reddit

Just want to point out that a person can experience major life trauma, and not become a source of major drama. As well, there are those who don't have major life trauma, but just love being shit disturbers. Trauma _may_ be an instigating factor for drama in some people's lives, but it's neither a guarantee of it, nor an excuse for it.

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GeetarEnthusiast85@reddit

We've agreed to not be in contact but I still have her number and she has mine. Your second paragraph is exactly what our relationship became. The majority of it was amazing but the difficulties were too big to ignore. I became her emotional support person. She recognized this, though and profusely apologized even though I don't blame her. She admitted it wasn't a healthy dynamic and that she shouldn't be in a relationship right now. So we parted. I feel like our story isn't done yet but that could just be because this is still fresh. Time will tell.

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Mapper9@reddit

I’m 46 and she’s 52. I figured out I was a lesbian about few years ago and she’s my first relationship, we’ve been together about a year and a half. It’s pretty great. Life is a dumpster fire, and sometimes that comes home. We’re both disabled, it’s messy. But this is really real, and really good.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

How did you meet? I am a 42 bi M and lesbian and bi F friends said that it is extremely difficult to find women to date or partner with. Sex is easy but they're over hook ups.

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Mapper9@reddit

We met online. It’s really hard to meet other lesbians! We feel so lucky to have found each other.

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DashboredPro@reddit

40f, met my bf through friends. It’s amazing and very different from what I’m used to

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BugEquivalents@reddit

I’m 45 and he’s 43, we actually met on bumble and were engaged in October. First marriage for both of us and neither of us have or want kids. We each have a doodle

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Karmamile@reddit

I’m 47 and she’s 42. We met on Tinder. Way too many things in common to ignore and she’s an absolute delight. In fact, she’s on her way over right now. I can’t wait to see her! 🥰

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

That’s delightful! Love that for you.

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KarisPurr@reddit

41 (me), 44 (him). Met at work almost 4 years ago, we work remotely for the same company in the same area. He was married, I was in a LTR. Nothing nefarious at all- we connected as friends and had a great co-worker relationship during this time. Last summer his divorce was finalized and my relationship ended in late 2024. We started talking about his divorce. Moved to texting personal phones so we weren’t on Slack talking about personal stuff. Realized how TRULY similar we are. We already liked each other immensely so we skipped the getting to know you period. It’s the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. We’re both older, both know what we want and don’t want. There’s no drama. Not saying we don’t have our difficulties, but we attached quickly and find it easy to be completely open and honest with each other. I feel like I loved him before I knew him.

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Sisselpud@reddit

I’m at 2 1/2 years so a little over but worth telling the story. We met in jazz band in high school and dated for 9 months until she left for college. We took a brief 29 year break and got back together in 2023.

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

A brief break! Lol.

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oaksso7880@reddit

I'm 44, he's 45. Met on Facebook dating about 4 months ago. I've never been so sure of anyone in my life and as someone who doesn't do Facebook, I'm so grateful I listened to a friend and tried fb dating. Otherwise I may have never met my guy. I've been in many long term relationships that I knew weren't right but tried to convince myself otherwise. With him I just know it's right.

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YoNewStepPopzNW@reddit

Relationship? What's that 🤔

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cranberries87@reddit

I know, right? 🤣

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guidevocal82@reddit

I agree. I've learned that most women don't like me except as a friend. Some of us are too ugly for relationships.

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javaper@reddit

42/39, met on Facebook strangely enough. Been together a year and just got married. Doing very good.

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agentmkultra666@reddit

My partner and I have been together 2 years as of this week. They’re 33 and I’m 41, we met through mutual friends and have similar lifestyles and a lot of shared interests.

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monsterdaddy4@reddit

I'm 43, she's 40. We knew each other through my sisters for the last... 15? 20? years. We've been together for just a little over 2 years, and it's bliss. Wonderful after three 20+ years of toxic marriage

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Original_Ad8991@reddit

Just under 2.5 years here. Me 45(m) and her 38. Met in Tinder and I knew on the first date. We got married this past October.

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Gh0sts0fBeverlyDrive@reddit

Met in-person, randomly in the community, at 45F, 48M. Been together just shy of 2 years. I think it’s wonderfully refreshing to be in a new relationship at this point in life. So much less drama. So much better communication and directness about wants and needs.

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punkprincez@reddit

Met my partner at a dog park, dogs sniffing each other kicked off our love story. Hope's alive, y'all!

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odin_the_wiggler@reddit

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hamburgler26@reddit

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PhoneJazz@reddit (OP)

What a meet cute! 🐶

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Neither-Principle139@reddit

Kind of… I’m 50, she’s 42. We have a 3 yr old child. Been together almost 4 years, friends for 6 years prior.

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Icy_Pomegranate7506@reddit

Elder millennial here. I've been with my partner since April. New relationships are difficult, but I think this is the best one. We're both ready to have something real and genuine. This is definitely the healthiest relationship I've ever had. You create the space for people to behave the way you want. If the person was meant to be there, they will respond to the space you provide.

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Jovial_Candidate_508@reddit

Yup every 4 years been in a new relationship since I was in my 20’s. Figured I’d date around till I was 50 then get married .

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dabeeman@reddit

gross

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Jovial_Candidate_508@reddit

There’s been a few years gap here and there but yeah you get the picture . Belive it or not , lots of people like to hate on the successful bachelor .

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FemaleMishap@reddit

Met my girlfriend at a TDOR Vigil, became friends and then we started dating. We've had a few ups and downs, but we're doing well together. She's a couple years older than me, we've been a couple... 10 months now?

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No-Championship-8677@reddit

I’m polyamorous and am currently in a long distance relationship with someone I met on Tinder in August — right before I moved across the country, lol. He’s great though. The distance is really hard but it’s worth it for him. He’s 11 years younger than me but is the only guy I’ve ever dated who actually has his shit together, so there’s that.

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Hammerhandle@reddit

Been divorced for a bit over a year. Been talking to a wonderful lady online for most of that time. We've had a few great weekends together, but she lives 1500 miles away and neither of us has enough $$ to afford frequent airfare. I just bought a ticket to go see her this spring. It's shitty she lives so far away because we really resonate. We chat pretty much all day every day.

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