Bangs in lieu of Botox?!?

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rancor3000@reddit

We need to stop this. Just be a human with a forehead. Those who mind don’t matter, those who matter don’t mind.

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I have become very Rage Against the Machine, Fuck You I Won't Do What You Tell Me, when it comes to current social-media dictated, filtered and curated beauty standards. I moisturize my skin daily (whatever is less than $20 at the grocery store). I have 95% sunscreen compliance (sometimes I forget...yes, perimenopause). I eat healthy, exercise, drink water, do not drink alcohol, and do not smoke. Mostly because I don't want to deal with (1) the doctor, (2) medical billing personnel, and (3) fucking bastard health insurance. This is all I am willing to do. So my skin is gonna look how it's gonna look. People call me ma'am. Except for when they are trying to kiss my ass (door--to-door sales people), or are possibly blind (83 year-old cashiers), in which case they laughably call me miss. Whatever dude. I have too much pride to go to desperate lengths to look 20. I am not spending hundreds of dollars on botox or 20-step Korean skincare, and I am not spending time to change out of sweatpants, get in the car, and drive to any aesthetician appointments. This ma'am has done enough hard work in life.

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Btt3r_blu3@reddit

Yes!! Same! I was watching Stranger Things and I LOVED seeing Linda Hamilton look like an awesome aging woman without ALL the botox/fillers/facelifts! It was refreshing to see something real in this world of filters and AI.

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Creepy-Floor-1745@reddit

Me too.

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ValancyNeverReadsit@reddit

That Rage song is my mantra in many things, and I was already a low maintenance human. I can’t remember to do most of these things. I’m lucky if I remember to brush my teeth (ADHD, also beginning to take care of my spouse’s aging parentals, so low on extra time to care for me). If people don’t like it they can eff right off. 🤷‍♀️

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VelocityGrrl39@reddit

See, for me, skincare is self care. I love my 10 step routine. It’s my favorite part of the night. When my skin feels good so do I. But also, I totally respect not giving a shit. Good for you. I’m so glad to be at the age where we stopped giving fucks.

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TheWildTofuHunter@reddit

Same. I’m 42 and dye my hair cause I love my red highlights (🤘🏻), but wear my makeup how I want, piercings how I want, and my skin is what it is. I ain’t 20 an if my husband wants that, the door is that way. I love who I am now and all that I’ve become.

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sugarturtle88@reddit

yes... I'd rather look healthy but my age than uncanny valley! also, i have a three-head instead of a forehead... bangs make me look super weird

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Hermit_Ogg@reddit

Pretty much same. I'm 45 (46 in a few weeks), and I don't look 20. I don't _need_ to look 20. Customer service people use the polite plural form of address - it's more convoluted than "ma'am" in my language - and I'm fine with that. If I dye my hair again, it won't be because I want to hide any grays. It'll be because I really like having green hair.

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yayoffbalance@reddit

Bangs are dope. I've had them off and on for years and I dont know why I partake in the "off" part. Bangs, shaggy/messy hair and face framing. No lie, these things do wonders for my face. Fits the shape and I have a stupid forehead, so yeah... heavy bangs.

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getdownmakelooove@reddit

I have curly hair and the worst hair mistake I have ever made was cutting bangs, but this was long ago. Took forever to grow them out. I also have a short forehead so not really suited for them. I am desperate for Botox, but I dont have the budget for it.

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photogypsy@reddit (OP)

https://preview.redd.it/efv066if9sbg1.jpeg?width=1645&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e740a1001358871082368c44fc842d39e5f39380 I did it. Dropped the nephews at school and walked in at a strip mall spot before I lost my courage.

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lizzledizzles@reddit

I’ve had a forehead wrinkle since I was legit 16. I’m pale with Irish/german ancestry and grew up in Florida and south tx without nearly enough sunscreen. I burn so fast. I got bangs to hide it and re-up my face childhood hairstyle. The trade off is frequent bang trims or haircuts.

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trustme1maDR@reddit

I believe the official term is "bangtox." 😆 A word of warning, my hair is somewhat thinner than it used to be so the last time I got bangs they ended up kinda thin and greasy.

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Bluevanonthestreet@reddit

Then your forehead starts breaking out from the greasy hair being on it. I also found with bangs I was messing around with my hair more which only contributed to the greasiness and subsequent breakouts.

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Celeste_Seasoned_14@reddit

Sounds like an endless feedback loop of bands cause acne, so you have bangs to cover the acne, which makes it worse….

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Vast-Juice-411@reddit

You can..

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HippieHighNoon@reddit

Ive stayed away from botox and do laser skin tightening. Id rather "iron my face" than inject botox. I find that laser skin tightening doesnt give me that botox look.

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Fabulous-South-9551@reddit

How often do you do sessions and how much roughly are you paying each time? Do you treat your neck as well? Gonna look into this.

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HippieHighNoon@reddit

Depends on my skin, last one i had was pre covid and it was 3 sessions. It lasted about 3.5 years (probably would've lasted longer if I took better care of my skin). Previously I had my face done and my butt and thighs for cellulite about 8.5 years ago and it lasted a good years. I cant remember exactly how much my last sessions were (maybe 1500 total?). The sessions before that I got them heavily discounted from my friend who owns a spa back where im originally from. Its interesting because previously I lived in the northeast and (maybe its just me) but I found people in the north east seemed to do more laser skin tightening. where I am now in the south everyone does botox and when I talk to people about it they seem to never have heard of it. Im due for another session. The one i get one HURTS. its like an iron ironing your skin. But it works!! And it lasts especially uf youre good about sun block and some retin-a cream

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curvycreative@reddit

The sweating makes me terrified of bangs. There's just so much fucking sweating.

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Kind-Mountain-61@reddit

Yup! It’s cheaper than Botox and it frames my face better.

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cheekiemunky13@reddit

I'm here now because of perimenopause sleep insomnia and just had my hair dresser cut me some fringe. Not bangs, but some fringe. It looks way better. I keep getting told I look younger. Not to brag but I'm already mistaken for late 30, so the fringe dropped about 5 yrs apparently. I'm 46 about to be 47.

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moissan2nite@reddit

Why not go all the way? Is she 18? Is she 80? No one can tell! https://preview.redd.it/5e46rthw7kbg1.jpeg?width=582&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f789eabbc28819600e0983c16e5a031f667b1c53

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bikeonychus@reddit

![gif](giphy|3ohhwkuTTfoS7ClrOw) Why stop there? We can go for the full body effect and skip the ozempic too.

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ThatGhoulAva@reddit

I'm afraid if I stop plucking these weird chin hairs, that is EXACTLY what I will look like.

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Sharon_Erclam@reddit

Me without plucking/waxing/laser... ![gif](giphy|5G34g3WLmhaZq) With how much it costs just to live, I'm about ready to go full werewolf 🤪

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bikeonychus@reddit

Fuck it, I'm in - let's do this ladies, we ain't aging, we're entering our werewolf era.

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ValancyNeverReadsit@reddit

Oh man, that bow gives me trypophobia or something adjacent. It’s not so much the “fear of holes” as the fact that it’s making my brain think “danger!” because of its size and specific (lack of) color.

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jadethebard@reddit

I've had bangs continuously since 1990 because I inherited my dad's big forehead and I hate it. Bangs forever for me.

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stilettopanda@reddit

I gave myself bangs about 4 years ago and never went back. People frequently comment that I look younger than I am. I then lift up my bangs and tell them the trick, hahaha!

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HereWeFuckingGooo@reddit

Here's some wisdom everyone who gets both should learn. Botox doesn't make you look younger. You look your age with a shiny, paralysed forehead. Nobody cares about forehead lines.

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SuperSlugSister@reddit

I cut bangs and I regret it. They look good, but so high-maintenance and my face looks wider.

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k80rose_@reddit

Love my bangs! I have a long face and long forehead. After 20 years of no bangs, my new style is perfect for me. https://preview.redd.it/ip716wsavnbg1.jpeg?width=2316&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=37ec46ac87496679fe4b18696e79f1eb2011e6f3

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AMugOfPeppermintTea@reddit

I genuinely do not understand why people are concerned about forehead lines. I am a woman, btw. I do not get what the issue is. I have never once thought they made anyone look older or haggard or whatever the supposed issue is. I mean, if you want bangs, go for it! Enjoy whatever hairstyle you want! But I will never understand botoxing foreheads. To be clear, I'm all for people doing what they want for themselves. I'm just perplexed about the forehead thing.

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Resistiane@reddit

I'm 45 and I've been getting Botox for a few years. It's honestly just depressing and disappointing to see your reflection being so marred and changed for the worse. It's awesome that you're not the judgemental type when it comes to lines/wrinkles. But, I absolutely hate how I look without Botox, I look so haggard and tired.

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MikeRoykosGhost@reddit

It's not for the worse

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Resistiane@reddit

Says who? Are you seriously saying that aging women aren't considered worse for the wear ? It's absolutely for the worse for me and many other women. My value is tied to my looks, whether I like it or not. It's not right or fair, but it is what it is. People are always preaching about how we're supposed to embrace wrinkles/gray hair/sagging bodies, when these things are universally considered unattractive. There's a reason you don't see normal aging women in media, it's because they're considered past their prime and unwanted . Men are allowed to age women are not.

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MikeRoykosGhost@reddit

Says me. And others. But others disagree. Like you. Funny how society works like that. "People are always preaching about how we're supposed to embrace wrinkles/gray hair/sagging bodies, when these things are universally considered unattractive." This simply isnt true. There is no universal standard for beauty. "There's a reason you don't see normal aging women in media, it's because they're considered past their prime and unwanted." Or is it because the media has a vested interest in selling you things and if youre made to feel bad for something that is 100% natural and out of ones control they can sell you infinite "solutions" these problems? You seem to dislike the idea of women's value being tied to their looks. If that's the case, may I suggest you consider not choosing to continue to fuel that fire?

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Resistiane@reddit

May I ask your gender? May I ask what society/culture finds sagging bodies/gray hair/wrinkles attractive moreso than youthfulness? Why should I hamstring myself by looking a way that is deemed valueless by the society that I *do* live in? Are you impervious to media? Do you not do things that improve your appearance?

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MikeRoykosGhost@reddit

I dont do things that improve my appearance because I dont think there is anything inherently wrong with my appearance and I refuse to tie my value to it because that just promises personal devaluation. If im lucky ill get old enough to be wrinkled and greyed. I do pick out cute outfits and hairstyles that reflect how I feel at the time or an aesthetic statement I'm trying to make. But I'm not immune to the media. But Im very skeptical about it and try my best to not let it manipulate me in ways that I have control over, like my feelings towards my body. I identify as non-binary when it comes to gender mostly for these very reasons. I'm opting out of the whole this whole thing because I want to do as little as possible to perpetuate a culture that I have issues with. And to your question about society... attractiveness in age isnt a zero sum. Its not an either/or. Its a spectrum. People are being sold that it isnt by those who have money to gain by people thinking that way

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Resistiane@reddit

So, you're not presenting as a woman/female (forgive me if I'm phrasing this in an unkind way, I don't know how to ask it)? If you're not then you absolutely do not have the same scrutiny as myself. Also you say that , if you're "lucky to get old enough to be wrinkled and grayed"...so you don't actually have a standing in this conversation. You don't present as a female, you're not old, grayed or wrinkled yet, but, you feel confident enough to tell someone who actually is all of those things how she should feel about herself? That's more than a little arrogant.

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MikeRoykosGhost@reddit

You've been pretty defensive and adversarial this whole time. Its kinda weird tbh. Im a person of color in my 40s, and folks from my ethnicity generally dont wrinkle or grey as quickly as some others. But thats not even what I'm talking about. I'm talking about appreciating not dying young and hoping I have the luck to live to be very wrinkled and grey. Because those are things that happen to everyone if they live long enough. I don't generally present as female because I choose not to present as female or as male or as anything in particular beyond myself and my self-expression. And sometimes i feel like presenting myself as female. Just as male. And in a way that plays with all these commercially sold cultural expectations. I also feel I have to point out that I never once said anything about how *you* should feel about yourself. I only expressed how *I* feel about myself and social norms in regards to aging. I'm confused how or why you took it as some kind of personal commentary or attack. I dont know you.

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Resistiane@reddit

Of course I'm on the defensive, you've told me how I should feel about aging. You've told me how I should feel about my aging appearance. You started that it's not worse. You're literally telling me how to feel about it.

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MikeRoykosGhost@reddit

Ok. Now you're acting really weird about this. All I did was reply with a statement. Nowhere at anytime did I say that you should feel a certain way. You disagree with my opinion and outlook. And that's totally fine. But let's be real, you took it personally and are now making shit up about me telling you how you should feel and playing the victim of some kind of personal affront. But since you're already of the mind that I'm telling you how you should feel I might as well go ahead and do so; you should feel embarrassed as a middle aged person for confusing disagreement with attack.

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Resistiane@reddit

Well, at least you're consistent in telling people how to feel!

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15pH@reddit

Everyone has different motivations, but some facts are: Older people have more/deeper forehead lines, so socialized humans observe forehead lines (among other things) to assess age. Societal/cultural beauty studies consistently find that less wrinkling correlates with higher perceived beauty scores in a wide range of test subjects. Adults who are perceived as younger and more beautiful benefit from systemic preferential treatment. Things like making friends, career advancement, and interactions with authorities have outcomes that correlate with perceived age and beauty. >I have never once thought they made anyone look older You may not have thought this consciously, but we all use various visual cues from facial skin and wrinkles to guess at a stranger's age. You would be an extremely rare outlier (and less accurate guesser) if your guess at someone's age was literally not affected by forehead wrinkles.

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draculasbloodtype@reddit

I've had bangs my entire life, I have never NOT had bangs.

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Alien_Nicole@reddit

I grew mine out a few times out of peer pressure (bangs are so controversial for some reason I don't understand) and hated it. It genuinely feels weird to me not having them.

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somenemophilist@reddit

Same here. Plus, my forehead is too big to not have them.

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Longjumping-Bell-762@reddit

I did the no bangs thing around 2000 - 2003 and then again 2015 - 2017. Otherwise bangs the rest of the time. Bangs till I die!

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MdmeAlbertine@reddit

I have not had bangs twice in my life, but I am growing them out now because that's where most of my grey/white is, and I'm going for the Rogue look.

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PrudentOwlet@reddit

Me too! My big sister cut them for me when I was 2 (so nice of her!) and I've had them ever since.

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playtheukulele@reddit

Nah no bangs. Im about to test out frownies though.

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Background_Title_922@reddit

I tried for about a month. In the morning my forehead looked great but for me the effect didn't last long, unfortunately. Hope you get good results.

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playtheukulele@reddit

Ive done the research and im 50/50 on it so far. We'll see thanks for the luck

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Glass-Marionberry321@reddit

Idk but I do love bangs and get them sometimes. I am afraid to ever get botox. It just seems wrong to use something with the word tox in it. What are the really long term effects? I like having expressions. I do buy korean skincare though and love doing all the steps. Therapeutic.

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aksnowraven@reddit

God no. I don’t want to look like a Gen Alpha, constantly blowing my bangs out of my face.

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Soggy_Porpoise@reddit

I know I m a guy and my opinion don't matter but skip the unnatural stuff. Healthy is beautiful. Botox is not.

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C_est_la_vie9707@reddit

I love my Botox. I love how much better Iook with it because I didn't earn my wrinkles; anxiety and depression earned those wrinkles. I earned the stretch marks and love handles, definitely, but not the wrinkles. I love that other people don't want to get Botox. I love that they love how they look without it. No sense in yucking other people's yum. Also I have curly hair and bangs look like shit on me. I know because I'm also blessed with a high forehead so believe me, I've tried.

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SBMoo24@reddit

No! Dont do it! Walk away from the phone, clippers, and salons!

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andiinAms@reddit

Bangs are the poor man’s botox.

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Dew_drop22@reddit

Try clip in bangs first before cutting

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Fabulous-South-9551@reddit

Yep this is exactly what I did! You can get them cheap on Amazon. I love my bangs - especially since I wear my hair up a lot, it still gives my hair a sense of style. Oh but also I still get Botox 😂

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Dew_drop22@reddit

I love Botox 😂

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AlwaysUseAFake@reddit

Any specific ones? Or are they all the same?

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Dew_drop22@reddit

I’d personally go with natural hair instead of synthetic. A good person to ask is your hair stylist because they can match and customize them for you. There are online sellers but I think the stylist is the safest choice. They know your hair.

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Boring_Energy_4817@reddit

I love the look of bangs on others, but I remember from elementary school that mine started to get greasy unreasonably quickly. When I start my wig collection, bangs will definitely be included though.

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VelocityGrrl39@reddit

I only wash most of my hair once a week, but I wash my bangs more often, plus use hair powder.

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qisfortaco@reddit

Dry shampoo.

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karebearjedi@reddit

I have ridiculously fine hair and dry shampoo wreaks absolute havoc on it. I've tried every brand, every type. It makes it look dull and gritty as well as oily and flat 5 minutes later 😭😭😭

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owlthebeer97@reddit

Yes this is the answer

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EBMille4@reddit

When I start my wig collection” ![gif](giphy|kFIfiwvzJjbUsNbIg5)

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Sufficient_Turn_9209@reddit

Just wanted to drop this for you. I'm 46 (yes perimenopause SUCKS) and a few month ago I got a front piece of my hair caught in a fan when I was leaning over it looking at something else. It got so wound up that my husband had to get the scissors! 😭 I called my hair stylist and she told me to come on it, and she cut some bangs. Not side bangs or curtain bangs, but real deal bangs all the way across. I was pretty upset, but when I got to work the next day, even though I tried to sneak in, people were gushing over them and I kept hearing how young it made me look. One of my co workers even went a got some too!

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kathatter75@reddit

I’m just aging naturally and being OK with it.

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Massive-Resort-8573@reddit

Same. Feels less stressful.

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Intelligent-Stage165@reddit

not a lady, but don't grow bangs, just makes you look like a boy if you're worried about wrinkles then put on a couple lbs (seriously, it'll make you look younger in person) works terribly with photogenics since the camera adds 10lbs, but in person it is a game changer

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Camandchat@reddit

I never look good in regular bangs I look good in the years when I rocked the heavy circle hairspray bangs from 1995-1997, sadly they have not come back I will say I'm just aging and not giving a fuck. Full disclosure I did get botox once and at the time I thought it looked good. When I look at pictures now, I looked INSANE! my eyebrows were nuts I just looked not like myself. I'm not going to do it again and I'm OK with that. I honestly think (and hope) people will start moving away from this trend. When I watch older movies I realize how much more beautiful women were that looked natural of all ages.

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shiny1988@reddit

I don’t need Botox because I’ve always had bangs. It’s like virgin baby skin under there.

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VelocityGrrl39@reddit

I literally said to my hairdresser 2 weeks ago “I am sick of looking at my 11s and I need either bangs or Botox and bangs are cheaper”

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IAm5toned@reddit

no https://i.redd.it/jvrxdkg5smbg1.gif

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rels83@reddit

I got bangs the day after I saw the Rilo kily reunion tour. Improved hair tools have made them much more manageable than they were the last time they were in fashion, despite front cowlicks

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alias007@reddit

Not a lady, but honestly, you do whatever makes you happy! Try it and see how you feel. I definitely agree with clipins first as another redditor said. And i agree with you, i do think they make people look younger. Personally, i have always thought bangs are a good look. I know I'm odd one out for that, but i never understood them going out of style. Shoulder pads on the other hand definitely should not come back though! lol I remember my mom going through her closet cutting out the stitched in shoulder pads in her entire wardrobe. Fun memory

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lushico@reddit

I have had bangs-tox for several years now

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Specialist_Action_85@reddit

I cut bangs 6 years ago because I wanted a new look and found I like the forehead hiding aspect so I've kept them. If you think it will look good, go for it. It'll grow back if you hate them

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zzz242zzz@reddit

Never Botox. Express your emotions.

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coconut101918@reddit

Try inositol for sleeping! Helped me more than magnesium, etc!

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body_by_monsanto@reddit

I have aggressive cowlicks, so bangs just turned out to be too much work for me. I do a little bit of Botox, but nothing crazy.

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jennybeaubenny@reddit

I say this with love, please don’t do it. When you decide you are sick of the bangs, and you will get sick of them, growing them out is BRUTAL. Everytime, I had up hating my decision to get bangs. 😂 Clip ins are your friend, my friend.

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_Asshole_Fuck_@reddit

It’s always been a thing to cover forehead wrinkles with bang and bangs are generally a more youthful look. Be sure you will commit to put effort into styling them every morning or ensure they are long enough to be pulled back if you think you won’t want to often. I recently cut my own bangs at home after watching probably 3 hours of YouTube videos. I love them. Everyone that told me not to get them for the last 15 years has said they were wrong.

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S7482@reddit

I usually assume if someone gets bangs they are having some kind of life crisis.

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MiniRems@reddit

I leaned the hard way I bigh school that my hair will curl into two sausage curls on my forehead if I get bangs. It will never happen a gain. It took forever to grow them out. I do not have the skill, patience, or give a shit to deal with straightening them every day. I prefer my nice long layers - I can use my drying brush if I want it mostly straight, I can use my hair dryer with diffuser if I want it very wavy, or, like most days I say screw it and it's up in a clip or pony tail. I decided I don't care about the signs of aging. Don't care about wrinkles, sagging boobs, or gray hairs. Every "flaw" brought on by aging means I didn't finish what I tried to do as a teenager.

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glyptodontown@reddit

I associate bangs with acne, so I just can't go there again.

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Famous_Election_2024@reddit

From age 26 to 35, I worked with a group of men who agreed that most women go through a bangs phase, usually in their 40s, and made me promise not to do that someday. 😅 If I wanted to do bangs, I’d probably still go for it, but their words stuck with me and it would probably haunt me while I made the decision. I think bangs can be flattering though. And hair is temporary. Once you start growing the bangs out out, it is a half a year of barrettes or whatever, keeping them out of your face while they grow.

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qbprincess@reddit

Meanwhile I've always rocked the bangs. This forehead is not made for public viewing.

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SmokinSweety@reddit

I got both and revealed them at the same time. Highy recommend!

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Nature_Hag@reddit

I always come back to bangs and my fivehead thanks me

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sweetbirthdaybaby333@reddit

Oh yeah, "Botox bangs" are definitely a thing! With my wavy hair, made even wavier by perimenopause, I don't think I'd be able to handle all the styling my bangs would need every day. But every time I'm at the hair salon, I do have That Moment during the haircut where I consider asking for bangs.

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photogypsy@reddit (OP)

I lost curl and it got extremely fine. I still have a lot of hair, the strands are just spiderweb thin now and very prone to breakage. I had beautiful curl. What I did keep is my hair’s incredible ability to take and hold shape. So now it’s neither straight nor wavy, it’s kinda just sort of rumpled dog blanket textured. So I either; look like the lead guitarist for a White Snake Tribute band, tie it into a ponytail/bun, or intervene and beat it into submission via product/heat/tools. For bangs it means adding a couple seconds on a straightener or throwing a Velcro roller in the front while I do skincare not a huge deal.

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manicpixiepuke@reddit

Are we separated at birth? You have just described my hair. I miss the full curls.

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oaksso7880@reddit

This is exactly what happened to my hair! I had beautiful curls that would take me hours to straighten. Now it's just wavy and sort of stringy and thin looking. Bangs do make my hair look thicker though. I love them

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daniellaroses1111@reddit

This happened to me too! I hit 40 and my naturally wavy hair with a tendency to form ringlets in humid weather, became straight and thin. So weird. Also considering bangs, but I’ve had bangs on and off for years. I think it’s time.

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seche314@reddit

I just wear a beanie. It’s winter, I’m cold anyway, and now I don’t have to care at all about my hair lol. Unsure what I’ll do come summer

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MetricJester@reddit

You reach a certain age, and you start thinking do I go with the Lulu Bob (Louise Brooks) or the Clara Bow.

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Jolly-Owl-7583@reddit

I live for my bangtox

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manicpixiepuke@reddit

My stylist said I’d never need Botox with bangs. Don’t need it anyways - yet - but a hot tip I had never considered. Bangs are a commitment within themself. And, they take getting used to. Try them with AI first. If you go for them and hate them, they’ll grow out!

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akr291@reddit

Considering I just got Botox yesterday and I have the misfortune of having two side cowlicks, I’m not doing bangs 🤣🤣🤣

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Significant-Rush-129@reddit

Two years ago I did bangs (for the exact reason you mention!) and it wasn’t a good look for me. My sister cut bangs and her hair texture works great with it, but not mine. Now I opt for botox! Worth every penny!

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Kinetic_Silverwolf@reddit

Out of curiosity, why is "injecting myself with botulism toxin to make my forehead look plastic" the preferred option?

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Ok-Boysenberry-719@reddit

Do you participate in any practice that modifies your appearance in ways that make you happy and/or produces positive societal reinforcement? Do you get haircuts? Do you choose clothes based on preference? We are the generation who largely normalized having ink needled under our skin to create pleasing images and putting holes in our bodies for the purpose of inserting a metal baubles. I'm sure it can't be that perplexing to understand why people want to make themselves look how they want to look.

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liftkitten@reddit

Botox looks better on me than bangs and makes me feel better about my appearance, so that’s my reason, but I don’t get so much that I can’t move my forehead at all.

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violetstrainj@reddit

I’ve always hated my forehead, so I’ve had bangs since I was in middle school.

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Sausage_Queen_of_Chi@reddit

I’ve had bangs since 2010. I like that they hide my forehead wrinkles and also hide where most of my gray/white hairs are coming from.

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Powerful_Leg8519@reddit

Clip in bangs are the way to go.

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twobootsranch@reddit

Wife has been talking about bangs lately. Something in y’all’s water lol

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Ok-Boysenberry-719@reddit

Bangs are contagious!

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B4SSF4C3@reddit

Yep. My wife tried bangs recently. It didn’t last and she went back to her usual style (which was for the best, IMO, not that I’d ever tell her that 😂).

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Ok-Boysenberry-719@reddit

You have more restraint than me, because I'd have found myself cutting my own bangs with kitchen shears at 3am. I last had bangs about 10 years ago and they always felt fussy, and revealed a cowlick I didn't have when I had bangs as a kid. I do like them on other people though.

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croissant_and_cafe@reddit

If you looked good on that app then you should do it. When I tried bangs on those apps I looked hideous!!!

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rockangelyogi@reddit

I get Botox for migraines for free so…I’ll just leave this here.

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LastCallKillIt@reddit

Injections suck. Stay away from that. Signed most dudes.

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Gia_Lavender@reddit

You guys would never in a million years be able to tell lol

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LastCallKillIt@reddit

Pffft. That's what all these chick's with fake ass lips like telling each other.

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Gia_Lavender@reddit

That’s exactly what I mean. you guys ALWAYS notice the lips but never the other work unless the woman also did her lips. Y’all have observational skills of a horned up slug

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Gia_Lavender@reddit

A half session of Botox a couple times a year keeps me able to emote but prevents deep wrinkling and it actually has really reduced my headaches.

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MyBestCuratedLife@reddit

I do bangs to avoid Botox lol!!

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NoContextCarl@reddit

This sorta works for us dudes too.

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BrilliantTop5012@reddit

Also my goodness, let’s tone down the judging. Are there unrealistic societal expectations on women and aging etc etc- yes! But if a woman chooses to get botox should we shame her - no! Is it a slippery slope to more and more procedures and not being happy with their appearance - for some yes, but for some it might just be Botox and if that’s what someone wants to feel more confident in their appearance we should not judge.

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Same-Text8718@reddit

I went that route for awhile. However, for me, as I moved into menopause my hair got thinner and the bangs were struggling For me, personally, having the longer bangs/no bangs seems to make the thinning less noticeable You may have a different experience, but just thought I’d share so you could be on the lookout

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BrilliantTop5012@reddit

I started Botox during Covid - noticed on all the zoom calls for work that I had two massive canyons carved across my forehead (aka deep wrinkles going across from one side to the other…not 11s). I’m fine with other wrinkles and such but those two deep wrinkles just get to me. However with inflation happening and everything for the house and family costing much more, I haven’t had any Botox in over a year and HATE it. Maybe bangs would be a good thing. Will consider!

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K2sX@reddit

I'm not hiding a thing. I'm focusing on a good skincare routine and making sure I stay hydrated. I'm 45. I expect to have a few developing wrinkles. I'm also vehemently against plastic surgery for vanities sake, for myself. I include Botox in that category.

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Soggy-Ad1129@reddit

I've had bangs for so long that this was not the intent, but let's just say that at this point I'm not getting rid of them.

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owlthebeer97@reddit

Bangs are great! I've had them for like a year, super cheap botox haha

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ladyliferules@reddit

I have had Dysport twice. But what I actually do is tretinoin, heavy moisturizer, and surgical tape on my forehead before I go to sleep. Like Frownies it smoothes the skin. Not perfect but better. And not expensive.

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Secret-Ice260@reddit

I’ve got a fivehead, so bangs balance me out, and I’ve noticed new growth since there’s less stress on the front when I pull my hair up.

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mom_bombadill@reddit

![gif](giphy|zbzNUbpFnlw8E) I’ve had bangs for almost 20 years, I love them so much! And just last week I got my very first botox—I’ve had horizontal lines in my forehead forever and I don’t mind them, but in the past few years I’ve been noticing the vertical line between my eyebrows and I hated it, so I got just the tiniest bit of botox and I LOVE it! It only cost about $150!

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Malicious_Tacos@reddit

Every 5-7 years I think bangs are a good idea… then once they’re cut I remember that I have a widow’s peak style cowlick right in the middle. And it’s hella work to get the bangs to actually lay flat on my forehead and not stick straight up in the air.

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lifeuncommon@reddit

I really hoped our generation would be the one that moved past hiding signs of aging. But that obviously is not the case. No one in my immediate circle is getting cosmetic surgery, injections, or trying to hide the fact that they are middle aged. Besides, getting Botox doesn’t make you look young. It makes you look like someone exactly your age who has had Botox. About to answer your question: No. This is not new. I remember reading in my grandmother’s Redbook magazine as a child the recommendation to cut bangs to hide wrinkles on your forehead.

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rainy-brain@reddit

i'm in between, i have long bangs that i can part in the middle if i want, or brush back across my eyes if i want a more mysterious, age ambiguous look. ahah. but really i don't care much what anyone things. it's all for me. what's fun for me today?! haha.

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randomwellwisher@reddit

I have a big fat face that I didn’t moisturize for a spell (depression!) but now I do. It has not occurred to me to care about my forehead. I was beautiful but now I am not. I also don’t have money. If I did, I would probably try to stay beautiful with Botox. But I don’t have a hope of being attractive now, and I actually haven’t thought about myself as someone who could be attractive for as long time. I’m fine with being perceived as interesting and cranky and compassionate and opinionated and on your side. Anyway, I’m team Bangs. If you have the discipline to style them, they look fierce and on trend, and definitely make Botox seem less necessary.

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Separate-Relative-83@reddit

I’ve mostly always had bangs. I feel it adds some visual interest. My hair is blonde and looks odd to me without them.

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FallingBackTogether@reddit

When I was little, my mom always gave me bangs when she cut my hair. She was not skilled at cutting hair, and on top of that, I have a cowlick in the very front on one side, so my bangs never lay flat anyway. There's no way I'll ever go back to bangs. But I also won't do Botox.

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Best_Comfortable5221@reddit

I associate bangs on me like " trauma bangs"! Look in the mirror. Don't like reflection. Cut bangs. I have curly hair. They never look good......

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WackZebra@reddit

I heard them called 'poor woman's botox' last time I had em.

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Eureka05@reddit

I just use moisturizer. I will never inject myself with botulism or get any other costmetic surgery, and make myself look like a marionette off of Team America

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Torka@reddit

Bangs dont really look good on anyone. Please dont

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OSCgal@reddit

I have bangs, because I have a pixie cut and a huge forehead. Man, wrinkles are whatever. I don't wear makeup. I don't dye my hair. I earned my age and I don't mind looking it.

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WeWander_@reddit

I recently considered bangs to cover my gigantic forehead 😆 that's not really an aging thing though and more of a *my face* thing. I'm embracing my giant round face, forehead and all

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krissym99@reddit

I have wavy hair and a cowlick so I can't pull off bangs anymore. They naturally did that poofy bang look back in the early 90s a la DJ Tanner, but it hasn't worked in quite some time. So people will just have to stand the sight of my forehead which is plagued by fine lines and acne and dry patches. Being in your 40s is fun.

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werdnurd@reddit

I have always maintained that bangs are cheaper than Botox and often have them. They suit me, but aren’t for everyone. I have never heard the term “tiara bangs,” but that is what I’m calling my early 90s attempts at mall hair. Thank goodness grunge came into fashion and my thick, stick-straight hair could just be!

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This_hoe_dumb@reddit

Nah, I’m proud of my lines. I earned them bitches.

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thesearemyfaults@reddit

Drop the app name so the rest of us can join in

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Unending-Flexionator@reddit

Don't do Botox. please just don't. it's the worst kind of attachment sickness. Just say no to weird shots, and especially surgery. hey, instead maybe you could exercise and eat well and just age healthily. A good quality of life is way more important.

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photogypsy@reddit (OP)

Can’t afford anything cosmetically except drinking water and quitting smoking. Lol. Which I have done.

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Unending-Flexionator@reddit

both good moves. keep on it.

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oaksso7880@reddit

I love my bangs. I have very thin hair and the bangs make my hair look thicker and makes me look younger! Plus they add this sort of natural smoky vibe to my eyes without needing eye shadow and really make the golden color in my normally boring brown eyes, pop.

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dogtor_howl@reddit

Girl, I been wearing bangs forever to trick people into thinking my tiny forehead is normal sized. Heed the crow inside you, and go for it! https://preview.redd.it/4psrgvldokbg1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c86a16da0d1a574550ff67ae509d8f777a7d6729

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Omgkimwtf@reddit

I don't care about hiding wrinkles, but if you want to try bangs, give them a shot. If they look bad, grow them out.

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liftkitten@reddit

My oily face cannot do bangs and every attempt has been a disaster, so I’m sticking with my Botox but do what works for you!

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Competitive-Tea-3517@reddit

I'm not hiding anything. I'm 43, I have some lines on my forehead and I earned those from life and raising 3 kids.

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bikeonychus@reddit

Same. I started going grey at 22, and now in my 40s I'm getting wrinkles, and you bet I'm keeping it all. This is my swamp witch era, I want to be slightly feared and respected.

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Inevitable_Tone3021@reddit

I tried botox a few times in my 30s but then shied away from it, I just don't want to risk any weird side effects. However the older I get the more I notice that keeping your hair as healthy and shiny as possible goes a long way, bangs or not. Some people let their hair go completely ungroomed and it gets that dry unkempt look which will age anyone. But a well-kept style makes anyone look better and a little more sophisticated as we age.

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Mmmhmmjk@reddit

Been doing bangs vs. Botox for years. I can’t physically use Botox (allergic to everything!) so it’s a nice solution. I also love my bangs and they’ve become my entire personality 😂

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civilSurvivorMum@reddit

I wanted to because peri has my hair falling out and receding, and am in danger of a five-head so I wanted to cover that up. But sadly it’s now also too thin and sparse to get them. The forehead lines trouble me a lot less than the growing real estate up there. Have been on minoxidil for two months now, and am hoping by the summer I’ll be able to get them. There is nothing about my body or my mental/emotional state that peri has not utterly destroyed. none of the sleep, all of the weight gain, bone loss in my jaw, receding gums, hair, random crying jags, back pain, brain fog… it’s like my warranty expired or i’m a three year old iphone after the latest version just dropped. Overheating all the time and no battery life.

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Inevitable_Phase_276@reddit

Bangs won’t work because when the heat flashes make my heat sweat they’ll go puffy.

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Intelligent-Camera90@reddit

I thought this was the migraine sub for a moment and was excited about a new treatment option! I’ve got curly hair - bangs have always made me look like a poodle. Or one of those kids with a broccoli haircut. I just let my wrinkles out for the world to see, along with my the greys.

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Dame_Ingenue@reddit

lol! I wish there was a better treatment to TMJ than Botox. It works wonders, but Wowzers $$$.

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Designer-Bid-3155@reddit

My hair grows at rapid speed, I'd need to cut them weekly. I'm not sure how quickly yours grows out, but if you hate it... just wait a few weeks. Wear a hat, wig, scarf until they grow out

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Dame_Ingenue@reddit

I had bangs for a few years in my late 30s, early 40s. It wasn’t to cover anything up though. I’d say bags are fun to try, and grow out easily enough if you don’t want them anymore. They *definitely* made me look a lot younger! One thing I will warn you on though is the maintenance. I had mine trimmed every 4 weeks, but my hairdresser did it for free. I also had to keep a mini flat iron at my desk, as I wear my hair fairly straight, but those bangs would get hit with humidity and look awful by the time I got to work. Mini flat iron was an easy fix. I’d also blow dry my bangs before the rest of my hair otherwise they’d turn out all crazy.

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RoxyLA95@reddit

No, I have fine oily hair with a permanent side part. Bangs will not work for me. I started Botox at 45 and it works for me.

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Groovychick1978@reddit

Getting my bangs and layers on the 15th. Also some color, but I'm leaning into the silver, instead of trying to cover it.

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Hermit_Ogg@reddit

I've got bangs, but it's not because of wrinkles, it's just because I've always liked them. I prefer to look like _me_, not "younger".

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snailslimeandbeespit@reddit

My naturally curly and frizzy hair can't handle bangs except the curled and teased 80s/early 90s bangs. I have clip-on bangs for a custom that look so good, but my hair stylist reminded me that wouldn't transfer over to my actual hair. If I wanted to have bangs I'd have to flat iron them every day, and I have no idea how that would look.

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Current_Midnight5294@reddit

Why are you directing this to “ladies”? Am I supposed to be ashamed of my wrinkles because of my gender???

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thelaceserpent@reddit

I did that for a while to hide my forehead wrinkles 😂 but they do grow fast, and if you’re like me, and get annoyed when they start getting in your eyes, you can purchase some nice trimming shears to keep them shorter between cuts

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Affectionate_Buy_776@reddit

I have forehead lines, dont get Botox and got bangs like a year ago. I am always raising my eyebrows- something I started doing when I was younger and I catch myself doing it constantly---driving, watching tv, working etc. Sooo my forehead lines are prominent. I tried the clip in bangs a few years ago and hated how they looked--- lemme tell ya the real bangs don't look the same somehow. They are kind of a pain to have to style them every morning and trim em every few weeks- but otherwise I think they make me look younger a bit (and I've been told the same) and I'm keeping em because I just don't want to go down the Botox / injectables/surgery route!

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bloomdecay@reddit

I never thought I could look good with bangs until I started cutting my own and it looked great. I just got lucky.

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Fabulous-South-9551@reddit

Bangs girl here. I love mine. As other people suggested, get some clip ins first. To style, when they’re still wet, blow dry them back and forth between right side and left side. I use a round brush and the end to give them a little volume. Get some dry shampoo. I spray some in mine after styling to give them a bit of texture and it keeps them from getting greasy during the day. You can also carry a travel size with you and give them a little spritz if you need to. I do still get Botox though 😂

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AshDenver@reddit

Except for a single unfortunate year about ten years ago, I’ve always had bangs. Mostly because o have a round face and a high forehead with super straight hair. I looked stupid AF without bangs.

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cloudydays2021@reddit

I’ve had bangs on and off for years; not to hide any lines on my forehead but just because I like having them sometimes. Do whatever you’d like to do.

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radioactiveXtoy@reddit

I've gone the opposite way - I had short bangs, but perimenopause has made my hair too thin at the front now and its made my bangs look stupid so I'm growing them out again :/

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daniellaroses1111@reddit

Dang, I’m worried about this!

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cloudshaper@reddit

That's a big heck no from me. I've made that mistake about once a decade, but never again with my fine wavy hair!

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saltybruise@reddit

I have curly hair so hard no. I also still play hockey 4 nights a week so I'm not figuring out how bangs work with a helmet.

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Automatic_Beat5808@reddit

Oh god. No Botox. It's a slippery slope.

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YoureABoneMachine@reddit

I have recent bangs. They are a bit of a pain in the ass and get oily. But boy do I look better with my hair pulled back. I may not keep them, but I am enjoying looking more put together when I have a bun. Also, tret costs about $12 on costplusdrugs and has done more for my skin than bangs could ever dream of.

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caramelpupcorn@reddit

My greasy forehead will not allow such a thing.

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scifithighs@reddit

I had to explain to my hairstylist that I'm *not* trying to hide my forehead when I asked for bangs. I only wish the skin around my eyes were as tight as my forehead has managed to remain...

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tessathemurdervilles@reddit

Oh my god I hadn’t thought about that- my mom always had bangs because she didn’t like her forehead wrinkles. She’d have had totally different hair my whole life if she’d had access to Botox! Anyhow I have bangs because they look cool, but my forehead still looks pretty good rn.

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CuriousRiver2558@reddit

No, not for me, I’m aging gracefully.

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Sallie_Ruby@reddit

I cut myself some bangs this morning…don’t do what I did.

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aliceinadreamyland@reddit

I cut bangs again for the first time in 15 years a month or two ago. I am already over them. LOL they do look better and fit my face very well and took a bunch of years off my face, but they’re work.

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-VoidAmethyst-@reddit

bangs are like magic anti-aging potions without the needle hassle, go for it if you're feeling adventurous

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vacayerin@reddit

They actually have some great “clip in” bangs that look very real…less commitment and styling that way!! I have used them in the past and everyone thought they were real.

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EBMille4@reddit

Thought about it but then I realized I don’t give a shit what people think about how I look. I like me.

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