Signs of the holidays for anyone else growing up?

yep my mum and her useless brother have talked my grandad into "everything gets sold and the proceeds divided between them and their other dead brother's kids" vs leaving someone the house, I know this has happened as my gran dropped way too many hints before the dementia hit. I was asked to be the executor of the will but I demurred for time to think and reset relations between him and my mum (big mistake) - like a week later I call him to say "ok I can do this executor thing" and get the reply "Your mum and uncle are sorting it, the lawyer said its the law that it has to be them" (the lawyer you got from the back of the newspaper??? - ugh) Recently "well I have 14 grandkids and if I make provision for one I'd have to do it for everyone of them" - which very much sounds like my mum's way of thinking. (I did a fuck ton for my grandparents over the decades, never ever took anything **willingly** in return (my gran was adamant I would take something as "I'd have to pay someone to do it and it might as well be you" and then telling my grandad to make sure I take something and to let the moths out of his wallet), yet my mum was ALWAYS "Don't you dare take advantage of them, they're just poor pensioners" - like I ever did or would?? To the point my grandad said "Its not like any of the rest of them have ever done anything for me and your gran willingly or otherwise" and my gran even after the dementia hit "you'll get what's rightfully yours one day" - So I'm kinda pissed as I KNOW my mum, her golddigger brother and my Xtian fundy cult member cousin have been at work playing "games")