Single Xennials | TheaterFire

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MeButSecret@reddit

I'm waiting for the rest of our late bloomer lesbians to hit the garden

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bRKcRE@reddit

A path they can only follow due to our late boomer lesbians!

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TheSentientSnail@reddit

Girl, for real. I was a lesbian crocus (out since 1997) but I'm all about adding some guppies to this shallow pool.

Come and sit. I found a bench!

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terriblystupidjoke@reddit

After my divorce finalized this past summer, I made a Facebook dating account.

I did not set an age range for potential matches. The volume of 55+yo women who hit me up is uncanny. The amount from that group who are looking for nothing more than casual sex also caught me off guard.

I ended up dating someone I already knew (and was my age), but it’s definitely interesting to know there’s a decent population of horny old ladies nearby if ever I wanted to bingo and chill.

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APFernweh@reddit

Reasons why this billboard exists.

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cholman97@reddit

Risky click of the day. Worth it! Lol

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1800_Mustache_Rides@reddit

Same but as a woman in my early 40s the number of 20 something guys was mind blowing and overwhelming. I got scared and aborted mission

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ridelikeagurl@reddit

Bingo, bong ripes, hot tub, and chill! Sounds kind of perfect!

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

“Bingo and chill” literally made me LOL! Great work, on both accounts! 😂🤣😂

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relikter@reddit

Wait, there really are cougars in my area looking to hook up? I was certain those ads were BS!

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FollowingNo4648@reddit

Im still trying to get to the marriage part. I've been single for the majority of the last 25 years. Got a new boyfriend though so hoping there is a chance for me.

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WarmOpening9331@reddit

Yep, I'm in the pool, but not actively looking. Been there, done that. Actively working on myself, and when it's the right time, I'll be ready 😎

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Live-Education6697@reddit

Honestly not worth it - had the kid, had the divorce, dating pool sucks, so now just enjoying time on my own. Too many people i know are on second and third divorces. Dont want to end up with even less retirement savings then i have now because of lawyers and settlements.

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1800_Mustache_Rides@reddit

Same haha I closed those apps down quickly, my dog is my life partner now

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LiquidSnakeLi@reddit

Wow. I thought I was the only one with friends onto their second marriages. I’d like to think by now I’ve skipped my first divorce lol

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Wild_Manufacturer555@reddit

Haha nope. I know someone who has been married 3 times and she’s my age.

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zombie_overlord@reddit

I was divorced 3 times at age 40. 48 now and kids are on the final stretch to adulthood. Haven't even thought about dating this whole time since the last one.

A brief explanation so people don't think I'm some psycho. First one we were 19. Those rarely last. We just argued all the time and the divorce was mutual. The second one cheated so I left. The third one told me that she didn't want to be a wife or mother anymore, and her actions convinced me she was telling the truth. The kids stayed with me, including one of hers from a previous relationship.

So I've been doing the single dad thing for almost a decade now and I have no desire to complicate my life any further. If I want a complicated relationship, I'll buy an old Jeep or something.

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Morriganx3@reddit

LoL, I’m ending my second and getting ready to marry for a third time. I started early, though - I was 20 when I first got married, and it lasted less than a year.

What’s really ironic is that I’m about to marry a man I fell in love with at age 19, but for some reason I chose to marry my brief first husband instead of breaking up with him for this guy.. 27 years later, I finally figured it out.

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OkGene2@reddit

I just skipped all of those steps. No idea how much money I saved or if it’s worth dying alone

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Morriganx3@reddit

Divorce is actually pretty cheap if it’s uncontested and you don’t have minor children or complex joint property.

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Few_Lingonberry_7028@reddit

I bought motorcycles instead of all that

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poopy_poophead@reddit

I havent gotten to the first kid and divorce...

I have a sister and brother who both have happy mariages and kids graduating highschool, and i kinda regret not having a family of my own... I just never had the sort of stable situation they did.

They both had successful careers and college degrees and i had to quit college after a year because i lost my job and couldn't afford to keep living there... After that it was just one disaster after another.

Im currently out of work for the last couple months and trying to find another job before my savings run out. Im about to just give up. Shit sucks. I regret basically everything, and i wish i could go back to like 1999 and fix my shitty life...

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

I get that, and I’m sorry about your divorce. I’ve hope at least a few of us have grown with age, time, and life experiences.

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Bird_Herder@reddit

Never married, no kids, no relationships and have been pretty content. If by some chance I just happen to fall into a relationship (because I'm definitely not hunting for one) I think it would have to be a LAT situation, because I don't think I can give up the peace that comes with living alone.

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

I think that’s what makes this second half of life more geared to people like you. The people we will date will more often than not have already lived a whole ass life. They may have a house, so, for someone like you it works out. They have their own, you have yours. You just get together to enjoy each others company when you have free time.

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ManiacRichX@reddit

Never married, child free. Don't date cause I'm antisocial as fuck

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lessthanpi79@reddit

There's plenty of reasons they're all divorced and most of them are red flags.

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cbih@reddit

I can fix her though

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lessthanpi79@reddit

Good point. Go get em champ.

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PhoneJazz@reddit

There are plenty of us who just ended up unlucky in an ultimately incompatible situation and didn’t want to spend the rest of our lives unhappy. Don’t paint us all with the same brush.

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APFernweh@reddit

Seriously. I was young and dumb and married by high school sweetheart. We’re still kind to each other and each gained a bunch of wisdom and life experience from the whole thing. No regrets.

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moonbunnychan@reddit

I don't want to date anyone with kids of ANY age, adult or not...and I'm not HUGE on the idea of dating someone who's been divorced so...my pool is a few drops at most lol.

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

Plenty of people in the demo if you’re in a major city. Literally thousands out millions of people. 👍

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i_drink_wd40@reddit

Yeah, I'm not interested in dating anymore. I've grown so accustomed to my lifestyle. It does, unfortunately, mean that I don't get a chance to live out the DINK lifestyle, but I make enough to get by on my own.

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FamousOrphan@reddit

No this is 100% true actually.

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TestDZnutz@reddit

It is rough out here. Basically a walking tour of the DSM 5.

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smthngsmthngdarkside@reddit

New favourite line. Am stealing this.

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IndubitableMatt@reddit

It’s like shopping at Goodwill - you’re just trying to find the least broken item.

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aweedl@reddit

I was married for 16 years and coming to the end (hopefully) of a lengthy divorce process. Couple of teenage kids.

I’ve managed to avoid dating apps my entire life so far and hope to continue that. If that means having some extended periods on my own, I’m completely OK with it. The whole concept of the apps just creeps me out (no offence to those who use them).

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throwawayfromPA1701@reddit

The dating pool is terrible at our age, no matter what gender you prefer. I occasionally wonder if I should have stayed unhappy in my relationship lol. At least he found someone to marry.

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MzMmmegz@reddit

I've been single/childless this whole time and honestly, I'm good. This is all I've really known and trying to switch all that up now just sounds wrong. I just got used to doing whatever I want,whenever I want, on my own terms and I'm not in any hurry to compromise.

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jelloshot@reddit

I have been told by quite a few co-workers and friends that they are jealous of my freedom. They regret getting married and having kids.

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SuperDoubleDecker@reddit

Ya, at this point it's like why would I settle now? If it happens it happens but I'm not looking for it.

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jessek@reddit

It’s slim pickings where I live, maybe it’s better elsewhere

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jelloshot@reddit

My city is always listed as one of the worst for dating. I see a lot of horrible relationships between my co-workers and the patients I work with daily. I am good enjoying my peace and independence.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

I was on dating apps for about a year, they are a waste of time. There are lots of bots and scammers or people trying to sell you something, very few people want to meet for coffee or tea, and people will match and then never reply to a message or go silent and ghost when you try to set up plans for a date.

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ridelikeagurl@reddit

Or are your married co-worker! Found 3 of them on the apps.

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actualelainebenes@reddit

This is a huge reason why I won’t do dating apps

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RjIvan52@reddit

So, it's like high school but on the Internet? Lol

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someguyfromsk@reddit

It's no good here either.

The pool of quality single women is so shallow that if it were a puddle, you wouldn't get your toenails wet if you stepped in it.

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

It is. If you’re ever in NYC, or any of the surrounding states, dm me and I’ll show you around.

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lsp2005@reddit

Oh there is a guy on r/newjersey who just posted he is looking for someone. If you and he match up it would be my third couple I set up.

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ryhoyarbie@reddit

43 year old guy. Never been married, no kids, barely dated. For all those who have been divorced once or twice, I’ve never had a long term relationship before………..Meh, whatever. I’ll just stick to running.

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magsli@reddit

No kids, haven’t married yet. 44F. Brooklyn. Come hither.

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elcheapodeluxe@reddit

I tell any potentials up front that I am on team vasectomy just in case they aren't clear where I stand.

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pupperdogger@reddit

So you guys doin this or what?

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Wild_Manufacturer555@reddit

I mean… I’m a single xennial and I’ve never been married or engaged. It’s taken me a long time To realize that I’m okay with that and I kinda enjoy my independence.

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

Yes, but it’s the second half, and never married means you’re a hot commodity. Trust me.

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Wild_Manufacturer555@reddit

I just haven’t ever found my person. It’s okay.

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

Maybe take a trip? Life has taken me to Israel, and Ukraine. In the former I found the love of my life. We didn’t end up together but the story is so magical and beautiful people can’t believe it when I told them. Never in a million years would we thought I would’ve found love in Israel.

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Wild_Manufacturer555@reddit

Hehe. It’s okay.

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Cloud_Disconnected@reddit

I just watch streaming shows and play video games now. I'm lonely, but I've given up at this point. I thought I'd meet someone after my ex-wife left, but it just didn't happen.

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

There’s no reason to give up. It’s important to give yourself time to grieve, and I’m sorry your divorce happened, but life is not over for you. It really isn’t. 🙂

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actualelainebenes@reddit

Ehhhh…I think I’m good. As Whoopi Goldberg said not long ago, I don’t want somebody in my house

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Nerdmitage@reddit

Exactly. I don't need any opinions on my decor, or how I load the dishwasher, or how I drive which isn't bad but just not "his" way. My favorite new cringe is having to listen to couples bicker at stores, especially home goods style stores. You've either got the controlling guy berating her that she doesn't "need that" every time she stops to look at something, or the gal chattering at the guy about the stuff and getting mad that he doesn't care. I just can't, it's so not worth it to me to have an outside opinion that's usually unsupportive in my house all day. D*ck just never can be good enough to justify that utter nonsense.

But to the 10-20% of straight women out there who will tell me how supportive and wonderful their hubby is, good for you girl. You found a unicorn now stop trying to give me hope about all these here horses and donkeys.

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actualelainebenes@reddit

I always say, anyone who comes along and changes my forever alone status would have to be amazing

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Important_silence@reddit

💯

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MrsAshleyStark@reddit

These comments are depressing to me 😔 As long as you’re all happy then kudos

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OrangeAugust@reddit

I thought divorce rates among millennials (including xennials) were lower than that of boomers?

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Adventurous-Ice6109@reddit

Umm my kids are 9 and 11.

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_R_A_@reddit

our fellow cohorts kids are off to college

Or getting ready for kindergarten in a couple years..one or the other

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whistleridge@reddit

Yep. Mine is 2. My nephew from my younger sister is 26, and about 3/4 of my high school class are about to send their youngest off to college.

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Expensive-Candidate4@reddit

Same!

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buppiejc@reddit (OP)

Whoa. You waited. That’s great! More wisdom to teach your kids. This is the way I would’ve wanted to do it.

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_R_A_@reddit

Or working on the ~~accident~~ bonus babies right now.

Not me, I definitely waited, but I know some new-again parents in our cohort with ~20 year age gaps with their kids.

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Hippyboots@reddit

This is where I’m at. Had my last kid at 41; pregnant the same time as my hs best friend’s 22 yr old daughter.

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Fraggle_Rockers@reddit

Love that you have hope

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Scoginsbitch@reddit

In college?! Mine hasn’t even start preschool!

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DocWednesday@reddit

I got divorced a long time ago. I don’t want to get married again. I just want a best friend of the opposite sex that I can have sex with and spend time with. The dating apps suck. If you even get a match that texts you back it’s someone trying to scam you or someone who ghosts you/gets cold feet before the meet up.

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Accurate-Force3054@reddit

some of us are widows already too! very crowded funerals.

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Dramatic-Yam1984@reddit

Can’t even imagine 😔 huge hugs. Sucks that my friends who have lost spouses had such fabulous marriages. Doesn’t seem just

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Accurate-Force3054@reddit

aw thanks--i realized my post was probably misleading. I'm not a widow (yet, ha). But some of my friends are and some of my kids' friends have lost a parents already :(

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Dramatic-Yam1984@reddit

All good lol. I consider myself to be extremely lucky. 50 yrs old, I have both parents and my last grandparent passed away 5 yrs ago. Many of my friends have no parents, let alone grandparents

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On_my_last_spoon@reddit

You’re too late! I got my divorce over with in my 30s and snagged the last of the good guys! I win!

(All in good fun y’all! Happy dating in your 40s!)

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