I just had my realty blown

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Echterspieler@reddit

I was born in 80 and I don't feel comfortable being labeled gen x. Gen x to me means you had to be a teenager in the 80s. I remember the 80s but my age was in the single digits so I was on the sidelines of 80s culture.

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amopdx@reddit

100% agree, I’ve always known Gen X to be the generation before us. They were the teenagers when we were kids.. I remember being called Gen Y as a kid for years then when they eventually coined Millenials they shoved our age group in with gen x.. annoys me so much. (Im 1979)

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injektileur@reddit

Not an American but in my eyes Gen X = Kurt Cobain. So I couldn't really feel Gen X.

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Bat2121@reddit

Am American, also 81, and grunge was my first real music. I liked pearl jam way more than nirvana but Kurt's death was a huge event even though I was only 13.

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Fun-Bunch-4073@reddit

Gen X waa Heathers and 90210, not me.

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andiinAms@reddit

‘77 here and I feel too young for it as well. I was still a kid in the eighties.

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DigitalMunkey@reddit

Way too young. Our awareness really kicked in end of the 80's, early 90's.

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

Exactly my feeling

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bonedoc59@reddit

We are the Oregon trail gen. A little snippet betwixt gen x and millennials. I still identify as x though

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StillhasaWiiU@reddit

There is a reason some of us only come to this sub,

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Darkest_Rahl@reddit

Yup. I don't identify with millennials at all. I feel closer to gen x because of my upbringing. This group is perfect

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

My parents were yard salers so all of my toys and styles were X 🤣

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BananasPineapple05@reddit

My parents weren't super poor but not super rich either. All my toys and clothes growing up came straight from my older cousins who were, respectively, 11 and 14 years older than me. The music I grew up with was their music. The TV shows I watched were their shows.

I was born in 1979, but my "culture" is, like, 10 years older. At least.

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DeltaFlyer0525@reddit

You belong here for sure! All I had as a kid were my older cousins hand me downs. Almost everything I remember fondly from my childhood is Gen x stuff and I grew up around older kids so that was what I liked. This sub is a nice place to be for us inbetweeners.

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Sufficient_Turn_9209@reddit

Me three. I was the baby of the family and the sibling closest to me in age was 6 years older. I can identify hard with gen x, from sharing with my siblings and tagging asking with then and their friends. Then by the time I was 11 I was basically an only child and all my peer interactions were friends my age through the 90s, so I can also identify as millennial. I wonder what you'd call us in betweeners? 😆 obvs jk

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

I had a convo with my mum recently about wordle. It was on the Speak and Spell of yesteryear

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NextPrize5863@reddit

And that is why we still love Limp Bizcuit!

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greenmky@reddit

I think some of it is social status.

My family was poor, we lived in a trailer in a rural area.

So I played old Atari when my friends had NES. I didn't get a Nintendo to play with until my parents got divorced, my stepdad had one, so, like, 91, 92 maybe?

Ditto with TV, we didn't have cable until I was a teen, so I watched a lot of reruns and loved stuff like Knight Rider and He-Man.

Along with rummage sale LED sports videofands and crap like that.

So I have that stuff in common with the X-ers. Kids with probably had NES as their first console.

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iputmytrustinyou@reddit

Where I grew up for part of my childhood, no one had cable. I am not even sure if cable existed in the manner that it does now - coverage in rural areas. I know many people just lived too far away to get anything but whatever the antenna picked up. And I don’t mean the little antenna at the top of the tv - No no no. This giant antenna went up the side of the house and someone had to climb up it and move it, while a train of other people called out if the picture was coming in or not.

I have no idea how he could afford that beastly thing. Maybe it wasn’t expensive back then, or maybe he had connections - the family owned a tv repair shop, back when you could actually repair tvs.

Everything my dad got his hands on was…not exactly illegal, but not necessarily obtained in the most socially acceptable manner. Like, I wouldn’t say he broke the law, but he knew the person selling him whatever very likely acquired the items in a sketchy manner. I often heard “it fell off a truck and they were just going to throw it away, so I bought it from (insert the name of a guy he just met at the auction/flea market/junk yard/ checkout line at Kmart).

My dad was poor, not well-educated, but he knew people and people knew him. My grandmother must have rolled d20 to charisma as she was creating him. He knew exactly how to get what he wanted via “alternative methods.” No one who knew him didn’t end up loving him, even if it took a minute for the person to come around.

It is wild to find out some people even had access to cable tv, whether it was from having the money or just actually living in an area that had a cable service available. I remember while we had access to cable in the early 90’s, not all the channels were available. We had to wait until 1994 to get MTV. I don’t Ben know how I knew about MTV, but once I got it, it was playing on my hand me down tv all the time.

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InternationalRow1653@reddit

I was poor growing up but still had some nicer things. I'm a trailer park kid, my husband was not. He mentioned one day something about there not being colored TV when we were younger, I was like, huh? He really thought colored TV didn't come out until he was a teen bc they never had it at home...dumb sheltered child, not poor lol His grandfather was a preacher so he didn't like TV at all besides the news. Having money and cable wasn't all it was hyped up to be for some kids. That poor thing really thought the colored TV thing was true until I told him a few months ago. Colored TV was out before you were ever born sweetheart.

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InternationalRow1653@reddit

My reasoning to him that I knew I was right, was that color tv definitely existed when he was child bc I'm older and I used to watch he man when I was 3, and I watched it in color. I loved he-man!

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emilybg78@reddit

This is such a great point that I’ve never considered before! I agree it plays a part in which generation we identify.

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NotYourSexyNurse@reddit

I had a Caleco, Atari and Nintendo in 1995. Growing up in the Midwest we were always the last to get trends. Being poor in a rural area we definitely got trends last.

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Cinderhazed15@reddit

We got hand me down consoles when my god parents kid wanted to upgrade… got my NES when he got a sega, etc… was always a few years behind, so I related more to that era. Also being rural meant less helicopter parenting and less modern trends, but we were one of the earlier places with a computer

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KudosOfTheFroond@reddit

My first gaming experience was playing Conan the Barbarian on our Apple ][e. We also had a “game” called Denby The Robot, but the game was just a huge book filled with computer code. Each chapter was a different game, but to play it you had to type in the code, then run the code.

Folks today with their PS5’s don’t know how good they got it.

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drainbamage1011@reddit

I think some of it is social status.

That, and both of my parents were the youngest of their families, so all my cousins were solidly GenX. I got exposed to a lot of music, movies, and stuff from them.

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zhaddycool@reddit

lol same

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pinelands1901@reddit

Wife's older brother was born in 1977, and her mother is a pack rate. She kept all of the sewing patterns and even bolts of fabric from the 70s, so our kids had "new vintage" clothes made for them lol.

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NotYourSexyNurse@reddit

My parents were hoarders. I was able to wear the platform shoes my mom wore in high school when I went to high school.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

Thankfully my parents, grandmothers, etc. were not hoarders. I have been to visit Asian friend's parents and they all hoard.

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ListeningForAnswers@reddit

That’s really cool!!

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Reasonable-Wave8093@reddit

hand me downs! did u get chuck roast for xmas?

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NotYourSexyNurse@reddit

My oldest sister was 10 years older than me. By the time I got the 1970s hand me downs they were back in style.

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Cinderhazed15@reddit

Lots of handmedowns, similar feeling!

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NotYourSexyNurse@reddit

I didn’t get a Nintendo until 1995. The only reason I got it is because my mom got it at a garage sale. Nintendo with the Mario Bros game came out when I was born.

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FabiusBill@reddit

I stopped identifying with Millenials when I realized that they weren't feral.

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eSTARr35@reddit

This sub really is perfect. I feel too old to be a millennial, but feel way younger than my older cousins who are straight up gen x

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GreyTigerFox@reddit

Yep. Exactly. I’m super straddling the border but I fit in much more with Xennials. 1984.

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ThisIsADaydream@reddit

Same, but 1985. I'm the youngest of 15 solidly X cousins.

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PersianCatLover419@reddit

I am 1983 and always heard I was the end of Gen X. A sociology professor in college would yell this at our class for an hour three times per week and blamed all of the world's problems on us.

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pinelands1901@reddit

1984 here also. The small town I grew up in was 5-10 years behind the times, so "Gen X culture" lasted until the late 90s. Meeting real millennials at college was... interesting.

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FormidableMistress@reddit

Yep that's where I'm at. I didn't have a grandma but had a great aunt that adopted my mom. She babysat my brother and I after school and during the summers. She grew up in poverty during the Great Depression, so all her ways were the old ways. My parents are Generation Jones. Everyone around me and even my "peers" were always older. Then when everyone was partying in their 20's I was already a parent. I really feel like I'm Gen X, I was just late to the party.

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cheltsie@reddit

Also 84, but I post in and am more accepted by the Gen X forum than the Millennial one. I know I'm not technically Gen X, but relate to the younger of them a loooot more than I do even some (not all) of the elder Millennials. Xennial is where it's at. I love this forum.

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BloodyPaleMoonlight@reddit

I have the cultural references of Gen Xers but the financial status of Gen Alphas.

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elmoosh@reddit

I feel this in my bones!

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GoodMourning81@reddit

Exactly, my sister is 5 years older than me so I looked up to her and her friends and was given all her hand me downs. I strongly identify with gen x not millennials.

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AquariusRising1983@reddit

Same. I considered myself Gen X until I was in my 20s and people started telling me I was a millennial. I was pissed about it until I discovered other Xennials. You all are my people.

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greenhaaron@reddit

This. It’s more how you were raised during this time not just what year you were born.

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BloodyEyeGames@reddit

My flair

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DrButtgerms@reddit

I'm the opposite because I took some time before college, but like you I think this group is perfect

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Pleasant_girl90@reddit

Sounds like they don’t get it, just ignore them

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Illustrious-Lead-960@reddit

I go to all of them. Here, Millennials, Older Millennials, GenX and Real GenX. There’s something identifiable to me in each.

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IdaDuck@reddit

78 here, and there’s a legit gap between X and millennials. I share common ground with both but not on everything.

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frequent_flying@reddit

Same and same, that small window of about 5-6 years being born in the late 70s and early 80s really made for an eclectic experience melding the two generations.

I truly feel like we are unique, that we have had an experience unprecedented in all of human history and one not likely to be matched by any subsequent generations that will ever exist in the future - a bridge between the entire history of human civilization leading up to that point and the new digital age that will drive human civilization for the rest of its existence, until we either go extinct or evolve into a new species augmented by some kind of living technology that encodes into our dna somehow.

We are the only ones that lived an analog and digital experience, both during our prime developmental years, giving us a perspective and understanding that neither the Gen X, who only lived an analog experience during those developmental years, nor the Millenials, who only lived a digital experience during those developmental years, could ever fully appreciate. It’s wild when you take a step back and really think about it.

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djp193@reddit

I agree with everything you have said and that’s why i have always said that this group from 78-85 needs its own smaller group . We are like half of each with how our timing of growing up with the tech . We don’t really fit in either group .

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eSTARr35@reddit

Omg I just commented something similar before I saw your reply. I totally agree! I feel like it’s more like ‘78 - ‘81 at the most, and ‘81 is already pushing it lol

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eSTARr35@reddit

Honestly sometimes I feel like even 5-6 years is a big window for Xennials. To me it’s more like ‘78 - 81’

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whorledstar@reddit

Amen. Growing up watching the first seasons of Real World on MTV we totally worshipped Gen X’ers.

Being an adult for 9/11 is a huge one. Dial up AOL 2.5, Encarta for Windows and the early 90s commercials for the real encyclopedias. Actual encyclopedias, what a concept.

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idio242@reddit

They’ll be some other thing that has a divide as significant. But… yeah.

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supernaturjill@reddit

I’m 79 and the whole thing has made me just feel immune to the whole generational thing—it just seems like a marketing ploy or a way to further divide people. I’m more like someone who’s 20 years older to me than someone who’s four months younger? Maybe? I had early access to computers but also was left to my own a lot.

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JudgeJuryEx78@reddit

78 here too. I generally share more with Gen X except they're so grumpy and full of demise (on the subreddit anyway), but also sorta just feel like their kid sister.

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Persis-@reddit

Same. Also 78. My older siblings are older Gen Xers, whatever their version is with a blend of X and Boomers. Xoomers? BooXers?

Our childhoods had many similarities, but were also very different. I definitely have more in common with Millennials than they do. But I am definitely not one of them.

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amberlicious35@reddit

My husband is 78 and I am 82. He is the youngest of 5 (full X) and I am the oldest of…me. My aunt is 77 and we were raised as sisters, so I am also far more X in many things.

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Vintage-Injun@reddit

77 here, I agree with your sentiment. I agree a lot with the millennials but there’s something sweeter about being with other gen Xers.

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MotorbikeNick@reddit

Agreed.

Millennials are my brothers ages 9 years younger than me and GenX subreddit had a cow about anything younger than 1980 is a millennial which was pretty ironic because they normally care about nothing.

Xennial is the Goldilocks micro-generation for me

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Mail_Order_Lutefisk@reddit

I got banned from the GenX sub for the use of sarcasm.

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pinelands1901@reddit

Stuff like this is why I don't fully identify with Gen X. I like the music, TV shows and movies of their era, but the cynicism is tiring.

Xennials have the Millennial earnestness and optimism, but with a healthy does of reality.

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Enxer@reddit

I vote we tack this to our "analogy childhood and digital life" mantra:

Xennials have the Millennial earnestness and optimism, but with a healthy does of reality.

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Porcupine__Racetrack@reddit

What. I only speak in sarcasm

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Persis-@reddit

I thought that was a GenX hallmark. How do you know someone is GenX? I don’t know, Jan, how DO you know?

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skeptical_hope@reddit

Banned.....from a GenX sub...... for SARCASM???

Daria wept.

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rkrismcneely@reddit

That’s the most ironic thing I’ve ever heard

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Sisselpud@reddit

Have you ever heard of rain on your wedding day because that’s maybe a little too ironic

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tronassembled@reddit

Don't you think

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FoppyRETURNS@reddit

Gen X sub is Boomer II

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imhereforthevotes@reddit

That... that is a terrible irony.

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ladyeclectic79@reddit

Yup, this. Nothing wrong w the GX and Mil subs but much of what they talk about there I just didn’t experience.

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whorledstar@reddit

They’re also super depressing? It’s less about nostalgia and more about colonoscopies.

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squish059@reddit

Only come to this sub? You should try pormhub my dude

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Shortbus_Playboy@reddit

Yup.

I’m not flaky enough to be a millennial, not morose enough to claim X, never really fit into either my entire life.

But I’m so glad I found this sub; our micro-generation is truly unique and I enjoy associating with kindred spirits here, if only virtually.

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itadapeezas@reddit

I'm one of them. I don't understand half of Gen X stuff they post and I'm just not really in the loop with millennials. I fit in perfectly here.

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badchefrazzy@reddit

It's usually a lot more chill and comfy here. We just wanna exist. \^\^

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elusive_won@reddit

79 here and although i might lurk millennial stuff occasionally, I certainly won't comment or post there. Same thing for the X sub. Now, this one? Right at home

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amopdx@reddit

Agree, I’ve accidentally commented in both before but always delete my comment when I realize my mistake (usually right after I post)

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holymole1234@reddit

We seriously need to change our generation’s name from Xennials to something else since so many of us don’t feel we are part of the Gen-X or Millennial generations at all.

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Revolutionary-Yak-47@reddit

The Hobbit generation. Born between the animated movie and of age before the Peter Jackson trilogy. Promised fortune and glory, got dragons and desolation.

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cheerful_cynic@reddit

I liked Oregon Trail Generation because it speaks to how we got the absolute peak of public education before NCLB fucked it - we got those donated apple ii computers to play monochrome DOS number munchers & oregon trail

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Just_Me_79@reddit

Don’t forget Carmen Sandiego!!

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akela9@reddit

SPELLEVATOR!

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EntertainmentTop2019@reddit

I lost so many companions to dysentery. Or to drowning when trying to ford the river to save time.

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orangepaperlantern@reddit

Or giving too ”meager” of rations and they all starved!

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orangepaperlantern@reddit

Number munchers! Remember the Turbo Tom math racing game?

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savingeverybody@reddit

We are replaying this now with our 7&9 yo kids on an emulator. They love it! They always get a deer.

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okfine79@reddit

Omg number munchers. Memory unlocked

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BittenBeads@reddit

And Kings Quest and The Black Cauldron! I loved those games so much.

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middlepathways@reddit

I always resonated most with calling us the Oregon Trail generation. A specific reference, mostly for us to understand

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pennyflowerrose@reddit

Talk to your doctor to find out if Xenex is right for you.

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DrJJStroganoff@reddit

I think they tried to call us gen y and it didnt stick

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Country_Gravy420@reddit

Xanax?

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po0rBastard@reddit

Ive heard the term "Cusper" before. Not much better.

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andiinAms@reddit

That just sounds pervy.

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Church_of_Cheri@reddit

Custer applies to people on the cusp of any generational group thought. My therapist is a Boomer/GenX cusper, and my little sister is a Millennial/GenZ cusper. It’s almost as if this generation labeling isn’t really all that clear cut… or fact based, lol.

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Misfit_Aquaintance@reddit

Boomer/ Gen X cusp is r/GenerationJones . Millennial/ Gen Z cusp is r/Zennial

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Church_of_Cheri@reddit

Yes, and we’re xennials. But they can’t change our name to cuspers because we’re not the only ones.

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XPav@reddit

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WV_Wylde@reddit

Considering how many of us are probably on Xanax from all the bullshit we’ve experienced seems about right….

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

Haha..Xanaxers

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URfwend@reddit

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badchefrazzy@reddit

If I could afford it I would be.. -_- I've got GAD out the wazoo not to mention other crap.

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MiniRems@reddit

Live. Laugh. Lexapro!

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andiinAms@reddit

‘77 here and same. I just feel way too young for the Xers. Also some of them are in their sixties now?? Like excuse me that is OLD and I am not proper old yet. So there.

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DrJJStroganoff@reddit

Really? my sister is April of 77, I'm Feb of 80... she's 100% an x'er compared to me. And she owns up to it.

But this ofcourse an isolated experience. Im sure it depends on the upbringing.

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andiinAms@reddit

Hence why I’m in this sub :)

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illwill79@reddit

Same same, all around.

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Historical-Piglet-86@reddit

Me too. We are technically baby Gen x. But I don’t identify that way at all.

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anakusis@reddit

I tend to like my gen z coworkers the most for some reason.

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Philhughes_85@reddit

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eSTARr35@reddit

No shade but I was born in the same year as OP, and you were born the same year as my little sister. I’m not sure i would consider her an Xennial. When I was 18, she was barely 12. The toys she had and the shows she watched were totally different from what I watched and played with

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graveybrains@reddit

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GiraffeParking7730@reddit

I was born in ‘80 and I consider myself a millennial. 95% of the cutoffs out there list it as ‘81, but there are a few that list it as ‘80 and I take it. I identify more with millenials anyway.

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barredowl123@reddit

I’m ‘79 also. I feel this so much.

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croissant_and_cafe@reddit

Bro you are 46 you should definitely have retirement planning under way.

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owlmissyou@reddit

My Bf was born in 79, and had more of a millennial experience. I was born in 81, and had more of a Gen X experience. Age is just a number, maaaaan

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qtjedigrl@reddit

That's because you're a Xennial, not a millennial. Welcome to superiority 😎

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Nipplasia2@reddit

Being born in 78 I have always firmly felt GenX, never millenial

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karenobus@reddit

That's because you are gen x and not a millennial

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Nipplasia2@reddit

Well yes, exactly

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Just_Me_79@reddit

Mid 79 here, parents were silent, aunts were boomers, siblings and cousins are a mix of boomer & Gen x, I’m a mess lol, but I love the Xennial label, it fits.

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More_Programmer5053@reddit

I was born in 1980 and have a friend who was too; three months later. I identify with Gen x and she with Millennials; we chalked it up to growing up in different parts of the country that made some of the difference. What do you guys think about how that plays in? I grew up in rural New England, which seemed way behind the times.

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Pixiefairy2525@reddit

Im 78 and feel much more at home with gen X than millennials and their phones. I went to high school outside of Boston.

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

So did I, south shore. What a place to grow up

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Pixiefairy2525@reddit

I guess we really were behind the times?

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jimmyandrews@reddit

Nah, that's hogwash. CT here and I think it was more cultural. New England is filled with "old money" all around us and had a lot of WWII immigrants at their prime in the 80s that lived through and witnessed some real messed up stuff. And we were the epicenter for a ton of things. Towards the end of the 80s the West Coast was well into their second gold rush with tech.

(Insert various political leaning ideologies here as you see fit)

But we weren't really behind the times, we had more lingering cultural heritage and traditions versus newer cities and population centers which started to build their own.

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More_Programmer5053@reddit

But CT is very different from rural NH

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jimmyandrews@reddit

Right, but I'm speaking about New England as a whole, we really weren't behind the times when we were growing up. I mean, pockets of CT or anywhere really have their extremes, rural to city. Rural NH is different from rural Montana I bet, but I'm sure there are similarities too. But NH oldies station played the same oldies music the CT stations did, same top 100 music, etc. Same weather, same seasons, same landscape, all of that.

And within reasonable driving distance to the ocean, the great lakes, another country, and a dozen+ states. That is culturally huge, and we all share that.

If you think rural NH was behind the times when we were growing up vs. just a different approach to the day to day, ok, I certainly can't argue that. I just had a different experience in rural CT running through cow pastures, eating fruits and berries off the neighbors plants, but also playing the NES, watching The Simpsons and listening to...Boyz 2 Men, ABC, BBD, the East Coast Family :-)

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karenobus@reddit

That's because you are gen x and not a millenial

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Lethave@reddit

I think that whether or not you have an older sibling can also play it role. 1979, and I was the only child for the longest, so X were the big kids, not contemporaries. I have friends who were the youngest and see nearly nothing of themselves in millennials.

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lagomorphed@reddit

Well that can depend, too. 81 and oldest, but oldest by 10 years. So as the eldest daughter, I was raising those millennial babies. I definitely ended up relating more to people older than me cuz I apparently entered parenthood at age ten.

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draperyfallz@reddit

That's definitely it for me- I have two older gen X siblings and identity more X but my best friend also born in 81 has a younger sibling and is millennial.

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More_Programmer5053@reddit

Good point; I had an older sibling

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Seraphynas@reddit

I was also born in 1980 and grew up in rural Kentucky. Which felt like growing up in the 1960’s.

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More_Programmer5053@reddit

I always say that about NH; except felt like the 70s.

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MadameTree@reddit

Hence xennial. I’m a year older than you and probably am more Millennial than X in a number of ways but I’m sticking with X. That group just isn’t as cool.

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Truemeathead@reddit

Sounds like me kicking and screaming when they tell me 1981 is a millennial. Don’t think if you used microfiche in the library in school you qualify as a millennial.

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Zelexis@reddit

We lived in the wildest of times and basically got screwed on borh ends.

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Sidetrackbob@reddit

There's a lot of judgemental assbags out there and a lot of them are under 35.

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OMEGA5_@reddit

This is definitely where I belong. Definitely don't identify with millennials. I used to be in the x sub, but it has gotten really boomery over there the last few years so I left some time ago. This place hits the sweet spot for sure.

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akela9@reddit

It's nuts how we all grew up so differently within just a few years timespan. I know that always happens to some extent, but I mean even with folks living in the same demographic it feels like there's a ton of variety with us. I was born in '81 and I hand to god thought I was Gen x until embarrassingly recently. I feel like I can't relate to Mellinials AT ALL and actually had a weird bit of a meltdown about it until I found out I wasn't alone in that. Thankful to everyone here. I felt like I was taking crazy pills until I found this place.

You're older than me, but relate more to the younger folks. Strike that and reverse it for me. I get on so smashingly with Gen X I thought I was one. 😂

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Diligent-Resist8271@reddit

Yup. End of December 1979 birthday. Don't feel a part of either group. Definitely feel at home here.

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holtyrd@reddit

Sorry to hear about your business. How many transactions did you close this year?

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hbi2k@reddit

No, silly, it's a typo. They obviously meant they had their realtor blown. Hopefully everyone involved was consenting and had a good time.

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holtyrd@reddit

I figured…but I’m a Xennial so it’s not like I was going to let you get away with it either.

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the-cookie-momster@reddit

79 here too, and born in the last part of December. For a while people said 80 and higher was millennial but if you think about it even for a split second, I was in the same class as people who are a different generation? Uhh no. I had a friend born in the first week of January in 1980. But they are a different generation? Lol, no. I had a friend born in 84 and raised in Ukraine who came to the US in the mid 90s and her experience as a millennial is nothing like the standard millennial.

The generational labels have become pseudoscience horoscopes that could change tomorrow and they'd all have to scramble to decide again who is in the club or not. These generational labels are just a collection of shared events, experiences, cultural milestones that the majority within a group share at key points in their lives. But these shared traits are not universal and there is certainly overlap because the very collection of these traits must be recognized as nationalistic/ethnocentric and classist and so they cannot be precise measurements on the individual scale. They are meant to define large group trends and not an individual's identity.

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thisolddog1@reddit

At some point a while back I started hearing 1981 to 1996 as the Millennial age range.

As someone born in 81, I relate more to the Xennial range that those born in the 90s

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imhereforthevotes@reddit

Wikipedia shows Gen X as through 1980, and Millennial at 1981, while Xennial is 1978-1983 (and google AI was saying 1985!). There's overlap, and I think that's part of the point.

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HappyChilmore@reddit

Naw, it's simply that those names are from statistical studies and there's no real standard. Some studies take a range of 20 years, while others go for 15 years.

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imhereforthevotes@reddit

? For the major generations, sure. But Xennial has always overlapped with the end of Gen X and the beginning of Millennials.

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HappyChilmore@reddit

Because xennials isn't part of sociological cohorts.

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Kaethor@reddit

I am an '81er as well, and I don't feel like a fit anywhere else than here

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orangepaperlantern@reddit

83 and same

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RobotBearArms@reddit

I think it more accurately starts at 84/85. I'm and 84 and consider myself an elder millennial and I tend to identify with the millennial sub more than here, but both places have good things

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magsli@reddit

I’m 1981 as well, and we were told growing up that we were Gen X. The all of a sudden we are this Millennial generation. I’m sorry- those are the kids I babysat for.

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Porcupine__Racetrack@reddit

I think that tracks. I’m ‘78, but my brother is ‘81 and he’s definitely not a millennial

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cosnierozumiem@reddit

I'm an 83 and dont relate to the bulk of millennials at all.

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ElleAnn42@reddit

I have a 2012 kid and I think she will probably have the same experience. The oldest Gen Z are out of college and she’s still in middle school. The youngest Gen Alpha are in diapers. It’s a weird experience being on the cusp between two generations.

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ebzees@reddit

Xennials is really the generation that makes the most sense

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TheDevil-YouKnow@reddit

The Millennial subreddit is chock full of the full swing emo gen, y'know.. the bulk of the generation. If you're not about that Hoobastank emo shit with the weird low rise pants and all that shit, you're just some fossilized cretin that's out of touch.

Someone said that Linkin Park was the definitive band for the Millennial generation, and I said yeah.. no they're not. If we're talking bands like that being the mascot for our generation, I'd vote Blink 182. And they came for me something hard.

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orangepaperlantern@reddit

Ugh Hoobastank isn’t emo :(

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skeptical_hope@reddit

My dividing line between Xennials and trule Millennial is: Skinny pants.

I am committed to my wide leg and occasional bootleg silhouettes. Skinny jeans kicked in JUST as I got out of college, so for me, they always looked like pants for twee high schoolers.

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SnooSprouts3921@reddit

The whole low rise/thong combo. I worked at express men and then a jewelry store and if I had a nickel for every time I saw my co worker’s undies I could have retired. Got caught once and that woman was super aggressive about getting me to go on a date. Good times.

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tyedyehippy@reddit

I'll stand ten toes down on this one. I loathe skinny pants. It was something like 20 years before I could finally start buying pants again because I could never find jeans wide enough at the bottom for me to be happy.

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TheDevil-YouKnow@reddit

Yeaaaah skinny jeans those are the fucking things. I'm with you, never understood them. Seemed like a thing preteens were wearing, and I was just like what the fuck. We went from JNCOS to skinny jeans. What a ride.

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FoppyRETURNS@reddit

Millennial sub is AOL culture vs Xennial sub being MTV culture.

Since Nirvana was the definitive band of my life, I knew I belonged here.

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

IDK I’m biased towards Nirvana, Smells like Teen Spirit for my own personal generational anthem

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TheDevil-YouKnow@reddit

Oh, I agree with you. But they're staunchly Gen X & Xennial. Just like how Evanescence and Hoobastank are the true 'pure Millennial' bands. But Blink 182 is in that perfect in between. Their first albums weren't Millennial bangers, they were Xennial bangers. But the pure Millennial crowd started picking up what they were laying down in Adams Song because emo was really rocking out for them, and Take Off Your Pants and Jacket was the BRIDGE! Between Xennial and Millennial.

For me I'd pick Alice in Chains, cause by golly they're magical. But they are also a Gen X/Xennial thing.

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Budget_Assistant1425@reddit

Xennials should be more widely considered a valid generation block and should end at 1984 with Millennials beginning officially in 1985. If someone was born in 1983, they turned 18 in 2001- a completely normal year that still felt like the nineties for the most part. Until September, that is. I extend to 1984 because it really took until the next year for the aftermath of the attacks to really set in and for the repercussions to begin. People born in 1986 entered adulthood two years after a huge cultural shift, so were already adjusting in adolescence. There are other factors at play, especially the rapid increase in tech, but I’d say that’s where it changes over to Millennials.

As for where it begins, I’m 1983, so I feel as though someone older would be better equipped to decide.

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jackytheripper1@reddit

There is so much "can't relate" in millennial content and subs

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gorgeousf-edupmind@reddit

I'm a 1980 baby. OP what you describe is why I'm here.

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No_Butterscotch_8252@reddit

Gen Y, let’s bring this term back, it’s fitting!

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carriethelibrarian@reddit

You might also be in perimenopause, which can deeply affect your emotions and energy levels on top of everything else it can do. This isn't talked about enough.

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Sofagirrl79@reddit

Can't speak for OP but thanks to the "magic" of having PCOS I won't enter peri till my early or mid 50s, I could still have periods well in to my 50s or early 60s 🙄 Oh and I started at age 12 in '92 so not like I didn't get my period in my later teens 😡

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MisRandomness@reddit

That is a reason I left the millennial sub. It seems to be filled with the very young ones that are the generation known to be offended and scared of everything. I couldn’t stand the topics or the way they reacted to comments. I LOVE this sub, I feel like we are a big group of besties shootin the shit all the time.

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zhaddycool@reddit

We’re like the Gen X of Gen X.

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No-Cartographer-476@reddit

Im 44 and I feel I have more common with X than Millenials.

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Jmbjr@reddit

My personal Xennial theory is that the birth years don't matter as much as the company you kept.

I (Dec 1979) had many older genX cousins but I was the oldest of 5 kids and all of the cousins and neighbor kids we hung out with were all younger, so my mindset is firmly Millenial.

I had an extremely analog childhood. We didn't have a computer growing up in rural Ohio, just a Nes, snes, and N64, but I always wanted one. I devoured technology and was often made fun of by my peers, many of which seemed to have older siblings/friends who reinforced the "it's not cool to be into computers and tech" and video games were only cool if they were sports games.

So while Millenials grew up with tech more than I did, I did my best to catch up in high school (learning programming via my Ti-83) and college (when I finally got a computer in 98). Many of my peers maintained a pretty healthy skepticism and after I moved 2000 miles away its been tough to keep in touch since they didn't adopt digital communication beyond Facebook 20 years ago.

But I'm older than my Millenial coworkers so I've had longer to "build my career" and was fortunate enough to just barely be able to squeak by to buy a house in the area I wanted around here (pacNW) whereas many of them are basically still stuck renting.

So I sometimes don't feel like I fit very well in either camp since I don't feel like I've been screwed over as much as "normal" Milleniels, but I have zero affinity or camaraderie with anything GenX.

So Xennial it is.

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mondo636@reddit

If you can remember at least than 3-5 years of the 80’s or more, your nostalgia is going to track closer to Gen X than Millennial. I remember watching the Challenger explosion in school. Most millennials I talk to watched the towers fall in school. I was a working adult when 9/11 happened. It’s almost like a 10 year lift and shift.

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Olelander@reddit

I’m 1978 and I definitely identify (culturally) more with Gen X than I do millennials. Many my friends in my formative years were a few years older/deeper into true Gen X territory so that might be part of it.

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Coderado@reddit

I'm technically too old for this sub by a couple weeks, born just before Xmas in '76. Don't boo me!

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nirreskeya@reddit

Same. Happy upcoming birthday!

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SatoshiBlockamoto@reddit

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mvl0505@reddit

It’s funny because I’m X but my husband is Millennial so I relate to both to a degree. I think older Gen X is closer to Boomer mentality now in my opinion.

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Upset_Culture_83@reddit

79 is Gen X. Its generally 15 years 64 to 79. Millennial 80 to 95.

Problem is earliest members of a generation dont have as much in common with the youngest. So they creat micro generations like Xennials to show you're in-between Gen X and millennial.

I'm 74. So we would have a lot of the same memories with me simply remembering more of the 80s than you as my sister is 70 and she remembers more of the 70s than I do.

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karenobus@reddit

74? Bro...

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Spirited-Gold117@reddit

I’m curious, are you the oldest of your siblings/cousins?

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

Nope, younger

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Sofagirrl79@reddit

I'm the oldest born in '79 like you but my dad has 5 kids (3 with my mom and 2 with my stepmom) Me born that year and my half brother born in '99 so I definitely felt a bit more Gen X than millennial cause I was the first and my sister wasn't born till '84 and brother born in '88 My half sister and brother are early Gen Z being born in the late 90s

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TheConcreteGhost@reddit

No cap…. End of life planning is important no matter your age. I’m just a year older than you and this year my husband passed. Since then, I’m making sure my affairs are closer to being in order for whoever will be left behind. Sending hugs from Texas 🫂

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kthanxtho@reddit

I was also born in 1979 and agree with your sentiments. I feel more aligned with millennials than I do with a lot of Gen X.

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stlredbird@reddit

When Millennials are too whiney and GenXers get too crotchety, you come here.

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rinsed_avocado@reddit

I’m a 1979 kid, early in the year to boot. So I’ve always lived in that weird space between Gen X and Millennials… usually falling between the cracks but somehow falling upward.

In the last few years, I’ve made friends who are solidly millennial. And listen, I’d rather walk on my lips than criticize anyone… but there really does seem to be an overwhelming number who fall into a different category. I call it “narcissistic solitarianism”.
By that I mean: “Right, yeahhhhhhhh, well for me thoughhhhhh…”
And then they reword whatever you just said, crank it up by ten, and center themselves as the, well… apotheosis of the victim.

You are good. I gotchu! ;)

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civilSurvivorMum@reddit

late ‘79er with older sibs and a 30-something niece. While I feel easily conversant with Xers and Millennials, I never felt a part of either. Figured I was just generationally homeless. Took a few rebrands, but for me Xennial was the perfect fit for our little micro generation. We’re not i visuals, we’re chameleons. We can write in cursive and can vibe code. We’re the family IT department but took shop and home ec. We’re the best!

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Sofagirrl79@reddit

Late 79 here too but I never learned or did coding but I know how to write cursive lol

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TrustAffectionate966@reddit

Don’t flatter yourself. You’re old as shit.

🧉🦄

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wiserTyou@reddit

'83 here. I agree the 79ers are old. Not me, not yet.

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elmoosh@reddit

My sister was ‘79, I was ‘77. Xennials are your people. Every post in this sub fits like a glove and it’s a great comfort to me. Life is tough right now, for people of every age, but you aren’t alone in feeling specifically how you’re feeling. Not that that helps, really, but sometimes knowing you’re not the only one feeling like shit is the only solace there is. I hope you, and I, and everyone else, feels better soon. xo

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mjh8212@reddit

I usually am more close to GenX being born in 79 but I came here out of curiosity and I think I fit in better. My husband is 9 years older than me and he’s more GenX. I see the difference between younger and older GenX when it comes to my husband we have different movie and tv show quotes when we’re talking and sometimes neither of us knows what the other is talking about.

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Sofagirrl79@reddit

Same per my flair but my boyfriend was born in '65 the first year of Gen X, he's an awesome sweet guy but occasionally his boomer comes out lol

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jelloslug@reddit

Welcome. None of the real people will judge you here because this is where you belong.

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gonzo_attorney@reddit

I'm 1982. I can go both ways. :) I spent most of my 20s and early 30s in cities so I felt younger in a way than the people who never left my hometown.

My husband is 1980 and will hurt you if you call him a millennial. He's all about Gen X. Two measly years apart. It's kind of true though.

That said, I know a younger millennial who goes to "MySpace parties." WTAF?

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Accurate-Force3054@reddit

Also born in 1979--funny to see everyone just type "79" because that is how old I feel sometimes.

it's probably referenced here a lot but I felt seen when Nate Bargatze did a bit about the forgotten kids between millennials and Gen X and if he knows one thing it's that those two generations hate each other.

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Sofagirrl79@reddit

I thought it was more the boomers who have a feud with millennials and Gen X who has the feud with Gen Z? That's just my interpretation though

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FriendshipWithTheSun@reddit

Do you have a link for that specific part? I found a few YouTube clips but they only seem to have small clips from that bit.

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Accurate-Force3054@reddit

Amazingly I found it! I’m not like a Bargatze superfan but this was the first time I heard someone articulate what I’ve always thought about our gen (I used to just say “we’re the kids of baby boomers” before I learned xennial or cuspie—

https://youtu.be/jYB42QqJpHg

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FriendshipWithTheSun@reddit

Thank you!

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special-k-flo@reddit

You're among friends here. I think I speak for most of us when I say, we totally get it.

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Puzzleheaded_Ant6653@reddit

I do not belong with millineals

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SciFi_MuffinMan@reddit

For seasonal affective issues, please do look up the research available on bright light therapy, particularly blue wave length, and discuss options with a suitable healthcare provider in your area.

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Initial-Ad8009@reddit

Millennial starts at 81

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absyrtus@reddit

My peoples

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braywarshawsky@reddit

This is the only sub I really let loose... Everything else is mostly bullcrap. But you guys are my people... you know stuff. We know stuff. We've seen some shit.

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mysecretissafe@reddit

Oh, the shit we have seen.

/thousand yard stare/

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bitsy88@reddit

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mysecretissafe@reddit

We’ve seen things those millennials wouldn’t believe.

We’ve seen hamster dance. We saw Nyan Cat’s rainbow glittering on the shores of Orion. We saw the birth of rotten.com.

All those… memories… lost. Like… chocolate rain.

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imhereforthevotes@reddit

We installed that light switch so you could turn the lights ON, or OFF, not so you could throw light-switch raves.

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DJmagikMIKE@reddit

Doo doo doo doo doo the system is down, the system is down. Doo doo doo doo doo

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dimesinger@reddit

Some stay dry and others feel the pain.

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Porcupine__Racetrack@reddit

The memes of Ben Affleck looking miserable… my spirit animal

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Virtual-Barnacle-150@reddit (OP)

Yeah…I know it.

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Candelpins1897@reddit

79 here too. Confused. Old

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jamgirl78@reddit

Star wars generation ✌️ it's the best but very understood

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graveybrains@reddit

my realty blown.

Was anybody hurt? Is your homeowner's gonna cover it?

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HedyHarlowe@reddit

We are that little micro gen, the whatever generation. Eddie Vedder for president! :)

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JudgeJuryEx78@reddit

Welcome. You have found your people.

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Rammspieler@reddit

Yeah, I always felt like I could never vibe with Gen X, yet some of the stuff proper Millennials are known for annoy me as much as they do to Boomers and Zoomers. Funny thing is I get along better with Zoomers than Gen X.

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DrMcJedi@reddit

I’m an ‘80 kid. I’ve never considered myself a Millenial because of the huge difference a few years made in life experience my entire life post high school. I’m smack dab in the middle of both generations and never felt right with either.

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Separate-Relative-83@reddit

Me Too

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Soggy-Ad1129@reddit

1980 here too and I feel the same way!

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unik1ne@reddit

I was born in 81 and I also think 79 is too old to be a millennial lol

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TheLastBoat@reddit

I get deeply offended if someone considers me a Millennial. We’ve got our own micro generation here. The youngest of the Millennial age range were watching Barney when I was in High School.

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Cali_Anne@reddit

Do you prefer Barney, Elmo, or Grover?

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TheLastBoat@reddit

The OG Grover.

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Cali_Anne@reddit

💯That is the only answer.

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sweetassassin@reddit

This sub alwaaaaaays understands my tone whenever I post, even when I skirting the line of being twat.

Never someone saying that I’m being insensitive, nor threats of being banned.

I love it here.

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Tasty-Permission2205@reddit

83 here, my sister is 88. Our worldviews and outlook on life is wildly different. Like parallel universe different lol

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RaccoonObjective5674@reddit

‘79 here too. Relate more to millennial than GenX, but Xennial feels just right. Got the original NES in 1987, watched the first season of The Simpsons on my 13” tv in my room, first computer was a Commodore, can sing My Buddy/Kid Sister without missing a beat, played original Oregon Trail unironically…and on and on!

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canoegal4@reddit

I was down voted in Gen x reddit and found welcome here

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brucecampbellschins@reddit

Does anyone else remember "millennial" being used to describe what we call xennial now? The first time I remember hearing the term millennial it was a news talk show or something, and it was used as a nickname for the first gen-Y kids (before they expanded gen-x age range). The context was talking about the kids who would be reaching "adulthood" at the turn of the millennium, specifically people between the ages of high school and college graduation in 2000. Maybe that was just a fever dream.

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Frosty_Cloud_2888@reddit

Welcome to the party pal!

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IYFS88@reddit

Same, I’m a 1980 baby and relate much more to millennial culture than to Gen X - they were the ‘cool’ older teens and young adults growing up. It’s silly of people to roast you like that! You know your experience, and the small range of time that they’re quibbling about us completely arbitrary.

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Fun-Bunch-4073@reddit

Not a millenial, not Gen X.

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MonkeyBred@reddit

Early 1980, Xennial and proud. I wouldn't stand for being lumped in with those other Martians.

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Lcky22@reddit

My partner is a millennial (88) and the contrast makes me firmly baby X. They’re so soft and idealistic!

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DBPanterA@reddit

I am a chameleon. I was born in late 80, making me one of very youngest in Gen X. I like to talk shit to Gen X because they are boomer lite. The vast majority of them had analog childhood and started their professional careers before e-mail (they will fight and say e-mail existed, but the majority of folks did not have an e-mail. In fact, the majority of the U.S. population did not have e-mail until 2002 to 2003).

But the Millennials, especially those firmly Millennial, are when the social awkwardness begins to appear because they grew up with the internet, they were the ones first on Facebook. I have more in common with my uncles born in 1970 than I do with my brother born in 1989.

But to play devil’s advocate, now is a great time to start having those hard discussions. As someone whom physicians said “you shouldn’t be here,” you truly have no idea what life will throw at you, no matter how many right things you do. Heck, went to my 25th High School Reunion last year. Graduated with 250, 25 are no longer alive.

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HappyChilmore@reddit

I'm a 79 xennial and I had dial-up net in 96. I opened my hotmail account in that autumn. It has two names in it and no numbers. I still use it everyday. I can assure you, many people had emails well before the turn of the millenium.

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DBPanterA@reddit

Yes, people had them. The majority did not.

Just like HDTV. They began to appear in the mid-aughts, but it was the digital television transition in 2009 when the majority of households made their first HDTV purchase. Same with smartphones. Appeared in the late aughts, 50% threshold crossed 2015/2016.

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sweetassassin@reddit

I made an allusion today’s gloomy rain is perfect for putting on the Quiet Storm CD, and relax with some Kenny G.

No one reacted. I feel so alone in this world.

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Officialfish_hole@reddit

As someone the same age I've always felt firmly gen x and don't feel anything like a millennial even though a good portion of my friends and those I interact with are Milennials. I get along with them great but I don't relate to them at all. When I meet a fellow Gen X-er I definitely relate more to them and interact with them a lot more comfortably...like even someone born in the late 60s. Don't feel too young to be Gen X. 1965-1980 is pretty accurate and actually seems like a pretty narrow window considering the generations prior were usually about 20 years or so.

Also, basing generations on what a reddit board thinks is kind of silly. The Gen X sub seems like it's full of a lot of lonely people with lots of regrets in life. It's kind of depressing and I haven't found that indicative of the real life Gen Xers

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Cali_Anne@reddit

Reddit may skew lonely. (I love Reddit, but still . . . )

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cyberdude419@reddit

Yeah I feel like I’m both the youngest Gen X’s and the oldest Millennials with no real clear definition and it sucks but looking back we probably have the best of both worlds

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1quirky1@reddit

I feel like I do not identify solidly with any single generational label.

I'm the youngest of five siblings, most of which are boomers. I grew up listening to music from the late 60s to mid 80s. My siblings constantly berated me for being immature. They never "got" me. They never tried. I succeeded on my own path with just enough maturity to make it work.

I have distanced myself from boomers so much that I have only superficial relationships with my siblings.

I'm in the middle of GenX but identify more with Millennials when it comes to media/entertainment. There are some old boomers in the GenX sub.

I am convinced that every generation since the boomers have had more struggle to get ahead and stay ahead. GenX had it easier than Millennials. It is the worst for my kids in undergrad.

I know that I'm far from the Millennial age range. I find it easier to blend in by maintaining perspective and empathy. I know the path I took to get ahead is no longer relevant or viable so I offer sympathy instead of advice.

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Traveler095@reddit

I’m ‘78 and feel myself to be more millennial than X, especially as I get older. Probably comes from dating a mid-millennial (‘87) and having more younger coworkers. I was also the oldest, so I didn’t have many Gen X influences growing up. Of course, Xennial feels like the best category!

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Misfit_77@reddit

So millennial started is 80 and that means you’re less than a year older than the millennial generation. Sounds like you posted on the sub on a day it was populated by only people whose name is Sandy Gene!

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AMugOfPeppermintTea@reddit

I think the rise of when people first started having regular access to the internet is a major reason when we xennials fall where we are. Gen Xers generally didn't have internet access until adulthood and many Millennials had the internet as children. Many of us though, didn't have access until our teenage years. So we're old enough to remember a childhood that was internet-free but young enough to have had it have some impact on our teen/young adult years. We really are a micro generation

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Serious_Lettuce6716@reddit

As a ‘78 baby, I’ve always fit in better with millennials than Xer’s. With few exceptions my friends have always been at least a couple years younger than me.

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NeverEndingCoralMaze@reddit

I think xennial is the perfect place to be. For the record, my phone autocorrected xennial to denial. Both work.

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InsideBase9235@reddit

Effin Millennials. LOL This subreddit is better anyway!

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spikelike@reddit

If you had a pager in high school we are peers 💪🏻

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OneHumanBill@reddit

I'm two years older than you and actively trying to find ways to retire, and doing my death planning. I've busted my ass my whole career and I feel like I'm at the very end of what I want to deal with for the remainder of my life.

It's all perspective.

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carlitospig@reddit

Welcome to the club. Nobody wants us, but the good news is that we aren’t blamed for anything because they don’t know we exist. 😎

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sncrdn@reddit

The depression is real, and I feel you OP! While I'm sure we had our fair share of disrespecting our elders and assuming they didn't know anything (well, except our older Gen-X siblings and cousins or younger aunts and uncles, they were cool!) We didn't have the group-think pile-on and the internet to amplify those sentiments and that really to be the big differentiator for most of the generation warfare today. I think this is why there is the distinction between us and "young millennials" too; I used to just shrug off the "old" jokes at work or the generational differences video clips that people constantly played (I'm one of the oldest people there and it's a tech start-up); but it got tiring really quick and so I took to politely reminding people that it's easy to get ensnared in legal action if you a perceived as discriminating against a protected class. I didn't really want to play that card, since it killed to mood real quick.

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Dristig@reddit

I’m ‘75 and even I vibe more with Xennials than Gen X. I think it’s because I was an early internet adopter and anyone older wasn’t/couldn’t have been.

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ZeldaHylia@reddit

77 here. I feel the same. Xennial fits me because Gen X and millennial do not quite fit.

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jamescockroft@reddit

‘78 here and always argued GenX even back when Mom claimed I was millennial. She’s come around d to the truth, and is Carter babies are a bit of a special breed: sorta too young to be proper GenX, and definitely too old to be millennial.

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realdevtest@reddit

I mean, did you wear skinny jeans?

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geekdeevah@reddit

We are the inbetweeners. Welcome!

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LineImpossible3958@reddit

Born in 79 here too. Never once associated myself as a millennial. Always Gen X, but later X.

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magsli@reddit

I’m in the same boat.

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yeahipostedthat@reddit

Do you have younger or older siblings? I'm 79 and definitely did not feel like a millennial, I've always thought of them as younger than me. I felt a little too young for gen x tho.

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photoelf3@reddit

I am firmly Gen X, with Boomer parents and boomer older siblings. But I have never felt fully Gen X, all of my friends are 5-10 years younger than I am. I hated my teen years and didn't really bloom until they were over. So my experiences are primarily an elder millennial. It's comfortable here, welcoming, less cynical

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critic2029@reddit

If you’re old enough to remember the 80’s there is a significant cultural gap with the millenals who only knew the 90’s. That said as a complete generation because of 9/11 and the 08 recession we definitely belong “together” and are distinct from the Zoomers.

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Nightstands@reddit

My wife and I bookend the xennials, 77-83, you are in the middle-ish, definitely one of us. We both relate to X and millennials, but not completely like we do here

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CokBlockinWinger@reddit

You should get a better agent

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Neat-Gift-3624@reddit

My Gen X boss referred to me as a Millennial the other day, I didn’t even bother saying anything that time, cus I had already done so before. Gen X always thinks they are teaching people something lol.

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FoppyRETURNS@reddit

I know, they taught me 💀

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Smokeythemagickamodo@reddit

I think it happens every generation. I barely identify with Gen X, but can only relate to mid-late Mills.

Usually the younger of the same generation is 10+ years younger than the rest and trying to form their own identity.

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badmongo666@reddit

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hevnztrash@reddit

Welcome, dear sweet child. Here’s a Power Rangers pog and a Jolt cola to ease your entry.

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Feisty-Bluebird-5277@reddit

I’m the exact same way, and 79 as well, this sub is perfecto!

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MydniteSon@reddit

I'm a later '78er. Who gives a shit what those Little Pishers think? (This is my X side coming out).

My brother, we are like the generational Daywalkers. We have one foot in both worlds but neither to we completely belong to either.

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DigitalMunkey@reddit

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Holiday-Tradition343@reddit

I’m January ‘80. I do not feel as if I’m in the same generation as my uncles and aunts born in the late sixties through very early seventies. We experienced extremely different childhoods. While I was living through a childhood containing Snuffleupagus being visible to the rest of the denizens of The Street, the Challenger explosion, and the extreme paranoia following Chernobyl, they were experiencing trends in new-wave, losing their virginity, or buying their first cars.

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MrsMoonpoon@reddit

Jokes on them since we were referred to as Millennials before they were born. When or why did it change? No idea, but we're still the OG millennials.

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GoodStuffOnly62@reddit

‘82 baby here! The Xennial microgeneration is the only one that truly feels fitting for me even though I am technically a Elder Millennial.

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ParticularYak4401@reddit

I was born in ‘79 too. Definitely feel more gen X (hence our sub generation) then millennial.

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Physical-Name4836@reddit

You are too old to be a millennial. That’s just the way it be

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killer_sheltie@reddit

The young millennials and generations after don’t understand that people our age spend our childhood being told we weren’t Xers. The definition of Millennial didn’t really solidify until I was in grad school. So why the hell would I now ID as a generation I was told I wasn’t for my formative years?

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HorseWorking@reddit

I was born in ‘80. I grew up a Gen X. Sometime in high school this new term “millennial” came around but it was only referring to the little kids at the time. Kids 10-15 years younger then me. At this point I’m still Gen X. Then around the time I’m thirty I find that I’M now being referred to as a millennial. Then also somewhere around that time I read an article in Rolling Stone talking about this micro generation known as Xennials, a portmanteau of Gen X and millennial, born between 1977 and 1983. These people grew up in an analog world and entered adulthood in a fully digital world. So I guess I’m a xennial. But at the end of the day I also couldn’t care less. Nobody ever used to really talk about generations until social media felt the need to divide us all.

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ILikeBeans86@reddit

I was born in 83 but my brother was born in 79 so I was exposed to a lot of stuff probably meant for older people when I was young

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but_does_she_reddit@reddit

79 too and I feel this!

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Astrazigniferi@reddit

Welcome welcome. I’m 1981 and definitely identify more with millennial than X, but my true people are in here.

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munchonsomegrindage@reddit

In early 2010s I remember my boss brushing off something his younger daughters did as "oh you know those millennials" and I was like yeah I guess I am one too, but definitely wasn't relating to the context of what he was talking about.

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MrDooderDood@reddit

81 here, I didn't even know I was a millennial until I was in my late 20's. Always had been told I was Gen X until the internet told me otherwise.

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Midnight-Sauce@reddit

I feel like you too young to talk about retirement but I don’t feel like a millennial.

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mossytangle@reddit

Do you have older sibs? My sibs are younger than me, so I feel more millennial.

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Ive_seen_things_that@reddit

Same... Born in 80. Retirement feels so far away.

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Appropriate-Food1757@reddit

It’s an arbitrary cutoff, but these are our people here. Millennials are weird Pokémon enjoyers. Us cusoers can relate to both. In my neighborhood millennials clump up with other millenials, then there’s GenX contingent. I get along well with both.

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Such_Victory4589@reddit

bloody millenial kids with their avocado toast. calling us Xennials "old"

GET OFF MY LAWN!

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Lodray2477@reddit

Shakes cane in their general direction

I am also from 1983! How do you add the year you were born to your comment?

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Lodray2477@reddit

I just realized how this comment is making me sound even older. Yeesh.

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Such_Victory4589@reddit

its a user flair. on desktop its on the right hand side. to add in the year, or which "group" you fall in.

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raven_quote@reddit

And this is why we are a micro-generation 😊

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ifallallthetime@reddit

I’m born a year after you and I’ve never felt millennial in the slightest. I can tell the difference with people born in like 83-84 really easily

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Ornery_House_8709@reddit

Yes. Exactly.

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imhereforthevotes@reddit

What? I'm '78. Definitely feel like a Xennial. How would you be different? '77-'83 (or so). We all got the Millennial blaming as much as anyone. It sucks they didn't want you.

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djoddible@reddit

Welcome home partner.

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_TheWolfOfWalmart_@reddit

Welcome home, Xennial friend. 🤗

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ODB247@reddit

Neither the Xers nor the Millennials want me. I don’t care, I don’t want to be in their stupid club anyway.

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ThisIsACompanyCar@reddit

I’m late 78 and feel the same. I fit in better here.

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onions-make-me-cry@reddit

Yeah, it's so weird to be a cusper.

For me it's striking when young gen Z'ers talk about how in OUR day we could support ourselves out on our own. They vastly romanticize what it was like. Do they think it was fun graduating just post-9/11 and into the War on Terror and the first dot com bust? It wasn't.

Not to say Gen Z'ers don't have it rough, they do. But it wasn't easy for us like they think it was.

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Comfortable-Sky-9569@reddit

If you ever played and I didn’t we are also referred as the Oregon Trail generation. A game played on the Apple 2E where everything was lime green. Born in 77.

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FriendshipWithTheSun@reddit

I was also born in ’79. Always identified with younger Gen X to an extent, but not Millenials at all. Honestly, while I love many of them, I don’t care for Millennials as a generation overall. I think it has a lot to do with becoming a parent in my late 30s - I have to be around Millennial parents a lot, and that’s really a whole separate rant in itself.

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caramelpupcorn@reddit

I remember talking to someone years ago and them telling me that I don't seem like a millennial even though I insisted that I am. I am simply elder millennial. Who knew that dingleberry was correct all this time? Perhaps it is I who is the dingleberry.

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Wife_Trash@reddit

No it is the children who are dingleberries.

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call-me-the-seeker@reddit

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They are the ones who are the dingleberries!!

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mcfetrja@reddit

Then Whitney was wrong. Dingleberries are not the future nor should we teach them well / let them lead the way.

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roostorx@reddit

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GeetarEnthusiast85@reddit

1985 here and the majority of what gets mentioned in this sub was my childhood and young adulthood.

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VegetableReturn643@reddit

I was just talking to my 19yo son about this last night! He was actually mentioning that we (his day and I, both '79) don't seem Gen X but we're too old to be millennials 😅. I do feel like I have a lot more in common with older millennials.

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badchefrazzy@reddit

I think I saw that post in passing, I'm sorry they were rude to you. :( My flair has my year so I know your struggle.

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Haisha4sale@reddit

Its wild to me (born in 77) that you were able to believe all this time that you were a millennial.

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OkGeologist2229@reddit

Being 46 is not early career as much as I want that to be true.

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roadrunner00@reddit

Welcome home old fart! It's always cool that though we all have different backgrounds, we lived through the same trends, popular songs, culture, shows, etc. the bush gore election was the first time we voted. It's just really cool to share that with other people.

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Salty_Sundae_2925@reddit

79 here, too, and I also feel a distant kinship to both X & Millennials but perfectly at home here in Xennial country

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SadAcanthocephala521@reddit

I'm 78 and I've never identified with Millennials, maybe a little with GenX. That's why I'm here I guess.

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mysecretissafe@reddit

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platypus_farmer42@reddit

82 and the midlife crisis is hitting me hard

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litchick@reddit

One of us! One of us!

And yeah, these dark days combined with mid-life frivolity are really something, eh?

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sweetspetites@reddit

This is the best sun for our age imo. GenX seems to love talking about how their bodies are falling apart (hey - I can get that too, but…), getting ready to retire, get off my lawn and so on. This group feels like my college friends lol.

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Global-Jury8810@reddit

Don’t listen to those post 2000 borns in generationology. They’re trying to call Generation Jones “Xoomers” The reality is, realty is blown these days. Nobody wants to pay the high prices of real estate unless they have to anymore. Commercial retail in downtown metropolitan areas is absolute bullshit these days. There’s a reason there’s a shit ton of “for lease” signs where there used to be businesses. 🙂‍↔️

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chetmanley56@reddit

Please enlighten us what the post in the Millennial sub was? You’ll probably get a much warmer reaction here