6 days sober and relapsed. Oh well this was tasty.🐸🥚🥖

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Overall_Consequence2@reddit

What is everyone talking about when referring to being sober?

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ifuckedmodsdads@reddit

I was almost a year sober and relapsed recently. Sucks but there's always tomorrow. Hang in there.

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MysticMarauder69@reddit

Just like with weight loss, one cheat day doesn't erase all your progress. Just keep going where you left off.

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Getting sober is legitimately the hardest thing I have ever done. Support is huge. And it does get better, it may feel like progress is slow and taxing but youll feel so fucking proud of yourself someday. Good luck out there

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Bigger_Moist@reddit

My brother is in the process of quitting alcohol and i can tell how tough of a time he is having. I think its been 15 days now and his goal is to hit a month. My parents and i are doing everything we can to help encourage him to continue. Hopefully he can succeed in the long run. Its taken a heavy toll on him already and he isnt even 30

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derpicface@reddit

“The most important step a man can take. It’s not the first one, is it? It’s the next one. Always the next the step…”

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Professional_Call516@reddit

I like that!!!

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iloveplant420@reddit

You got this. I went to a meeting LITERALLY every day for 2 years, and relapsed at least 20 times in that period. More depending on your definition of the word relapse.

Then it clicked and now I have 5 years. You can do this and my advice is don't let a relapse set you back.

Yesterday is history and tomorrow is a mystery. Just try to focus on the present. That's all we really have. Every moment you're not drinking/using is a victory and past failure does not have to hinder future success.

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AspieAsshole@reddit

Question of semantics: if he only drinks the once and then continues being sober, isn't that a lapse, not a relapse?

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iloveplant420@reddit

Maybe I've never really heard anyone say lapse in my recovery circles, but some may use it that way. I just know some of the old timers in my group would say you can't relapse if you haven't even really gotten sobriety. Like if I only managed 48hrs then went back to drinking they would say that's not a relapse cuz i hadn't really stopped. I disagree with that though because every time I picked up after a day or a month, the kids still hurt just as bad and it took the same amount of strength to continue trying. I don't like how old timers kinda shit on new people in some groups but I had a good sponsor tasty would just say fuck those guys.

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Gtraz68@reddit

You got this!

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MysticMarauder69@reddit

You're welcome! It's taken me 30 years to finally internalize that when it comes to my health and weight-loss. I've always felt like if I fall off the wagon, it's game over. Streak broken. But that's not the case, and deviating from your goal for a day shouldn't be a reason to feel discouraged. It's all about positive trends and incremental progress.

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traumaqueen1128@reddit

My therapist recently told me that baby steps are great for changing your life. "Progress, not perfection" was the phrase that she used and I've been using that phrase with some kids in the shelter I work. Keep going, you can do this. You have done 6 days and that is amazing progress. Good luck to you and have a wonderful day.

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mensfrightsactivists@reddit

yeah i’ve never been a fan of the all or nothing, 12 step mentality. it works for some, but relapse is a normal part of recovery, and beating yourself up for something completely normal only hurts most people. anyway if you see this OP, congrats on the 6 days, and your plate doesn’t fit here because it looks awesome!

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Professional_Call516@reddit

Amen!!!

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pointlesslyDisagrees@reddit

At least in my group, they also say "relapse is a part of recovery" and "progress, not perfection" in AA. But also, it's good not to use it as an excuse to drink and not hold yourself accountable.

I've also heard from someone with over a decade sober "relapse does not have to be a part of your story."

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Baxbane@reddit

That is true.

Not ALL or even most, but I do think at least some ‘addicts’ are truly capable of building a healthy relationship with substances. But that is very hard to do if you are surrounded by people firm on convincing you otherwise.

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mensfrightsactivists@reddit

ah yeah my mom basically grew up in the program (since the late 70s) so i may have an outdated perspective. i’m sure the meetings i attended with her were more in a traditional kinda style.

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Professional_Call516@reddit

Yes!!! I think we forget that part ! Keep going your not the first one to stumble!

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Zealousideal-Log90@reddit

Treat* day not a Cheat* day. Be positive!!! Keep trying.

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0neHumanPeolple@reddit

Great user name ya got there, friend.

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trinityhealz@reddit

Me thinking you're talking about a drug addiction but it's a food addiction.

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Professional_Call516@reddit

We call that eggs in a basket down south! Whatever you call it, it looks delicious! Enjoy your time off !

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Dedsvi@reddit

I hope it was due to your own choices I feel like a pos when I forget my friends are dieting and offer to take them out TEMPTATION IS STRONGER THAN GOKU 😭😂

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lvlnsy@reddit

I just made it to one year after several tries and slips. It gets easier after each week, each time you choose not to. Cheering you on!

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lego_not_legos@reddit

Toad in the hole is sausages in Yorkshire pudding. That's egg in a basket.

Imagine if British people started calling baked beans and mash or something ‘sloppy joes’, you'd be thinking wtf.

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AssumptionEasy8992@reddit

Thanks. I was super confused trying to work out where the sausages are 😂

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KronikKat420@reddit (OP)

Fuck...

Im very embarrassed i am actuallyvery sorry!

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mensfrightsactivists@reddit

okay but toad in the hole is a legitimate name for this dish and has been for decades (at least). it’s regional. there are a lot of foods that british people have named weird and we don’t bat an eye. like biscuits. or pudding. neither one of those words means the same thing in the US as it does in the UK.

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Jarbasaur@reddit

So you went from using 7/7 days and this time you got to using only 1/7? That's a 6/7ths reduction. Those are great numbers. Now let's see if you can reduce that even more for the next run

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MyUserNameLeft@reddit

What is he coming off? I’m confused

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Jarbasaur@reddit

No idea but doesn't really matter as far as best mindset on how to handle a slip-up

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MyUserNameLeft@reddit

Definitely! 6 days is still 6 more than nothing, besides once you’ve done 1 amount of time once doing it a second time feels so much quicker!, best of luck to OP on his recovery journey

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KronikKat420@reddit (OP)

You guys rock.

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Lanky_Hand_4929@reddit

Success nor sobriety are always a linear process, just keep trying. I'm on 32 days, longest in my life! You so got this dude 👌

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imalreadyasleep@reddit

If you’re driving from California to New York and you get a flat tire in Nebraska, you don’t drive all the way back to California. You fix the tire and keep going. Hang in there! 💕

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Agent_Aye11@reddit

You've got this, mate. I believe in you.

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Dennma@reddit

6 days is 6 days, dude. Still something to be proud of. Just go for 7 this time, all you can do

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KronikKat420@reddit (OP)

I have been extra fortunate to be able to record and work on my little youtube channel I have tried to get up off the ground for YEARS!... All this clarity I finally have started to get some serious motivation 💖🖤 Thank you all! I hope to encourage and be encouraged by other on this long journey. WE. ALL. GOT. THIS.

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KronikKat420@reddit (OP)

Holy fuck.

You all are amazing amazing souls.

I have been overwhelmed with hope and just genuine goodness for once here... Guys I actually feel like I want to be and STAY alive. Its a very odd feeling but I do enjoy it more than the drugs.

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False_Jackfruit_6576@reddit

You did 6 whole days. You can do it again. I believe in you.

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LeGraoully@reddit

That dowsn’t look even remotely like toad in the hole

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Lazy_Network8050@reddit

Nobody is "almost sober" you either have the willpower or you dont its that simple

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shittyfoodporn-ModTeam@reddit

Insults towards posters and other commenters will be removed, and you may be banned.

Racism, bigotry and hate of any sort will result in an immediate ban. Bans may be over turned upon appeal.

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Zealousideal-Log90@reddit

Food actually looks bomb IMO. Keep focusing on your sobriety. Relapsing can be part of the process... It does get better. Keep telling yourself NO. It gets easier.

Good job dude.

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Heuristicrat@reddit

Stopping is your best move and you did it. Feel good about that. Take it an hour at a time when you need to. You can do this.

My motivation is my mother. She has cirrhosis and dementia from starting young and never stopping. Scares the shit out of me. I'm not stupid enough to say I won't relapse, but I'm frequently reminded of the awful consequences.

I also have recovering addicts in my life who have come back from the brink and are amazing supports. So, I have the good parts of recovery, too. Connection is key.

So many days felt like climbing Everest (with fewer corpses or poop). Having a baby was easier. You can do this.

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National_Frame2917@reddit

If you fall down once in awhile it doesn't matter. It just matters that you get back up and move forward.

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elasticpweebpuller@reddit

Healing isn't linear

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Sausage666King@reddit

Is that an actual toad?!

Also- 2 weeks sober today. Not for any reason, I just try not to drink anymore for health reasons and because I get 36 hour hangovers. I have a few every now and again though. The hardest part, having been forced to go to AA as a teenager, is separating from all the guilt and self loathing they teach you you should feel

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127Heathen127@reddit

Hey man. I’m three months sober myself. It happens. You’ll get there. Better to only have to redo six days than six months or six years. You’re not a failure for relapsing, just make sure you get up and try again. You can do it! ❤️🫂

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Helpful-Fisherman659@reddit

Let's rephrase that for you: you made it to 6 DAYS sober! You'll beat your sobriety high score next time. And even if you don't, hell, you're worth another shot at it ;)

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PrettyCreature1010@reddit

I was also 6 days sober from alcohol and relapsed too. I woke up feeling disappointed and sad.

Thank you for your post and most of the commenters on here!

For those asking what OP relapsed from, it’s none of your fucking business :)

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Substantial-Syrup101@reddit

Don’t be too hard on yourself. Just imagine how proud you’ll feel when you make it to day 7 next time!

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PrettyCreature1010@reddit

Thank you!! I look forward to it

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TahiniInMyVeins@reddit

Six days is gr8 m8. Today is a new day and knowing you can do six means you can do seven/eight/nine etc.

This isn’t failure. Sounds like you’ve made a decision to get sober and that’s a huge win. Best of luck on your journey.

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PRIS0N-MIKE@reddit

It's all good man. Everyone has a set back. I had too many to count and now I'm finally coming up on five years sober. You got this brothaman

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Fuck_on_tatami@reddit

Gr8 m8

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Gazman_123@reddit

M8

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TahiniInMyVeins@reddit

8

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blepnir_pogo@reddit

Gr8 b8 m8 i r8 8/8

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NonReality@reddit

Classic 👍

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Blacklight099@reddit

Yep, not a failure, six days of success!

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hurricanedorma@reddit

Keep going, you’ve got this. Also, looks delicious! Do you do any condiments with your toad in a hole?

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MaceZilla@reddit

6 days is a big deal. You can do it again.

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Svihelen@reddit

OP

Life is not a single easy route. It's rough and bumpy and stressful.

Remember what Michael Caine as Alfred said "Why do we fall Master Bruce? So that we can learns to pick ourselves up again."

A setback is only the end if you make it the end. Tommorow is a new day. Start over, try again. Keep at it until you get where you want. What matters most is you keep trying and you don't give up on yourself. Every day is a tiny victory. It doesn't matter if it takes you 4 attempts or 47 attempts, all that matters if you are doing your damndest to get to your goal.

Sobriety is a different journey for everyone and you'll figure out your goal and get to it as long as you keep trying.

I know I'm just an internet stranger and I'll likely never see or interact with you again in this big wide internet but I know you can do it. I have complete faith in your ability to get to your goal. I don't know when you'll get there or how many tries it will take, but I know you can do it.

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D1B2S3@reddit

Relapsing is just a part of the process for people sometimes, friend.

Keep going. You're trying and that is leagues better than giving up.✨

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Substantial-Syrup101@reddit

Well you’ve proven to yourself you can do 6 days; next you’ll prove to yourself you can do 7.

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TurtleSandwich8@reddit

The only reason this is shitty food porn is you're eating it with a fork lol. Toad in a hole is super tasty, especially when you fix it up special. Congrats on your progress so far, keep going!

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Bigfoots_Mailman@reddit

It happens man. I threw away months for a cheap bottle of rum. I regret it but won't let that hold me down. Tomorrow is another day to try and be better

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Stinkygoblingooner@reddit

“What happens if i relapse again?”, “Then you’ll get sober again”

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frog_admirer@reddit

Six days is incredible. You'll do it again.

Today didn't undo that progress, all the willpower and effort still gave you six days. Rome wasn't built in a day, give yourself grace to need more than one try.

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stead10@reddit

This is what toad in the hole is in America? Very different to British toad in the whole lol

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CreamyNuttJuice@reddit

Im about 4 days sober and i relapsed next friday

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Basic-Magazine-9832@reddit

sober from what?

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floweryreign@reddit

You got this!

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clevernamesarehard@reddit

I quit doing pills and meth years ago but the last 8 months I’ve been drinking to excess after work almost every shift, so much so my wife is telling me I’m throwing up almost every night. We just have to try again brother 💪

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Other-Caregiver5172@reddit

I've recently relapsed too and about to make some shitty ramen. We'll get sober again, it happens.

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Cocieto123@reddit

I wish you all the best, I'm familiar with the struggle AND YOU KNOW WHAT?? This food looks great, i hope you enjoyed it! You got this 😎

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spudgun81@reddit

Stay strong buddy. Food is food, do the gourmet Instagram stuff later. I'm routing for you.

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novollife@reddit

I was for 6 months and then relapsed recently. Best of luck to your sobriety, I'm working towards it again.

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Quijiin@reddit

Just think man, one day you’ll be able to have a quiet evening without even thinking about Toad in the Hole

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VelvetBoneyard@reddit

As someone clean from both alcohol and cigarettes, you've got this. Sobriety isn't easy but six days is progress, and the fact that you made it six days means you can make it seven, eight and so forth. You do not have to be perfect about getting sober. You got this.

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torayx@reddit

This isn’t toad in the hole

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New-Load-651@reddit

Id relapse if I had that as well

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IZZO79@reddit

Sober from what?

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LeBneg@reddit

Toad-in-a-holes.

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drake22@reddit

💀

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Old-Law-7395@reddit

Where toad? Where hole?

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Annotate_Diagram@reddit

Whenever my sober friends say that phrase "I got this", I know they're fucked.

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chunky-kat@reddit

Not a toad in the hole.

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ThisBadDogXB@reddit

You'll often hear that people get sober once they've hit "rock bottom" but you'll very rarely hear about the place below that. It's like a living nightmare. Try not to end up there.

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Soaring_Gull655@reddit

I'm on day 4. You can do it for you whenever you're ready. I am. Sick and tired of being sick and tired.

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shatsandsplats@reddit

Day 4 here also. Here with you fam.

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queefersutherland1@reddit

Cheering you on. That’s the exact reason I stopped drinking. Waking up hungover and going to bed drunk as a constant is no way to live.

20 months come Friday. IWNDWYT ❤️

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AdmirableWrangler199@reddit

Seven years here. There is only up from where you are. No one and nothing can make you continue to put what you struggle with into your body. I believe in you

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Voltairethereal@reddit

Keep trying. We all stumble, but no one is perfect. Don’t beat yourself up.

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Zealousideal-Fly9531@reddit

This isn't stupid food

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KronikKat420@reddit (OP)

Oh my gosh ! I just zoned out to some King of Hill's newest season (great job on the reboot)! I am just trying to keep off my phone for a bit so I promise I will be sitting down and reading everyone's individual comments. I really didn't expect anything or want any attention. But it feels really amazing after just reading the first few I saw 🥺. You all are great internet strangers. 🖤 Touch base soon !

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madmaxturbator@reddit

Very very proud of you for getting that first week done! It’s ok if you relapsed, we all do - it’s part of recovery :)

You now know, as a simple fact: you can do 1 full week sober, starting with addiction. That’s amazing! In time you will extend that week - eventually into forever.

I’m 7 years sober. Reddit was incredibly helpful for me (I was an alcoholic so I am on stopdrinking). Feel free to message me any time.

Rooting for ya!! And I’m telling you, hang out on Reddit as much as you can - people are really supportive and understanding of people trying to get sober!! You got this.

Also th food looks yummy :) cheers mate

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Born-Statistician268@reddit

Day by day, not year by year, progress is a slow outcome, hang in there!

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Anex4@reddit

A relapse doesn’t negate the progress you made! Take one day at a time, you got this shit! Also that toad n the hole looks so good

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Severe_Most_2320@reddit

Hey, it takes a bunch of times to do it, don’t sweat it. Just keep at it and whatever the heck that is looks friggin amazing.

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FiveYardFaded@reddit

If you can do 6, you can do 60, and 600

You’ve got this.

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0neHumanPeolple@reddit

Keep coming back. It works if you work it.

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Jazzybbiguess@reddit

An addiction counselor who came into my job once told me that the worst thing you can do when trying to quit, is giving yourself a hard time for failing. It will never be easy, and you may go backwards in progress. That’s okay, all progress is good progress. Keep trying, get back on the horse. You can do this!

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DuckIntelligent737@reddit

79 days. Face timing a friend or sponsor is amazingly helpful when the urge is there. Log onto a zoom meeting if nobody picks up. Don't let this hiccup throw your momentum off, dump whatever you bought out and hit restart. Especially never do hair of the dog. You got it.

Food looks tasty :)

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