I think there is a subgroup of men who still think that way and approach women accordingly. For context I am 15 years into a good second marriage after finally getting enough courage to leave my abusive narcissistic first wife after 16 years. So my perspective is based more on what I’m seeing online rather than personal experience. When I was single again at 42 in 2008, I met the majority of women I dated between marriages online, including my lovely wife. Wining and dining was still appreciated and I found that once an online meeting transitioned into dating irl, many of the old rules still applied. Nowadays I don’t know. One factor I’ve noticed is that age gap relationships seem to be becoming more frequent as many younger women become frustrated with the perceived shortcomings of men their own age and are deciding they prefer the relative stability of an older man who more or less has already figured out who they are. The same thing is happening in reverse as well as age gap relationships between younger men and older women are also increasing. I don’t think age gap relationships in either direction are necessarily the majority. But it is a trend worth noting I think. In summary I think that while there are still some traditional guys who will pursue, I think women today are more assertive in general and more likely to pursue someone they see as a potential partner. So I would advise you to think of yourself as a pursuer as well as a pursuee. Even when I met the woman who has now been my wife of 15 years, looking back to when we began dating, she was definitely pursuing me as much if not more than I was pursuing her. The rules and norms are different now.