Anybody move back closer to home to be near family?
Posted by jtmann05@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 8 comments
I’m at a bit of a crossroads. 43, single, currently living in Seattle. Over the last couple years, I’ve been longing to be closer to family in conjunction with falling out of love with Seattle. I have a pretty decent friend group, but we don’t get together terribly often. Sometimes it’s just once every 2-3 weeks or so.
This all coincides with my dad being quite sick. He just had to move into home hospice a couple days ago. I’m going to go back (Michigan) to be near him and the rest of my family for an extended period and just overall thinking about moving there (probably different city in Michigan, but nearby) permanently at some point in the next 6 months or so.
Just wondering if anybody else hit this sort of chapter in their life? Did you have any regrets about making the move? Any advice?
CombatDeffective@reddit
Both my parents divorced, moved on, got new families, had new kids. I'm just the left behind remnants of a time everyone would be fine to soon forget. I don't live around any family or communicate much with them. Just started my own and keep to that.
Routine_Ask_7272@reddit
My wife and I (both Xennials) moved to Pennsylvania in 2007, then returned to our home state (also Michigan) in 2016.
We wanted our children to grow-up around family. We had many friends and family in our home state.
My wife's parents died in 2008 & 2014. It made us re-evaluate a few things. Both of my parents are still alive. I usually see them once per week now.
We haven't been back to Pennsylvania since we moved away. We want to take the kids to visit, someday.
Gwendolyn-NB@reddit
45, moved 2000+ miles away about 14 years ago for a job opportunity that was supposed to be 2-3 years. Both fathers are going to be 80 next year and our moms 70s. Moving back to within 1/2 day's driving difference to all 4 next summer.
usernames_suck_ok@reddit
Didn't move back for that reason, but have stayed for that reason. It has basically put the nail in the coffin of having any sort of personal life/finding the right person...but to be fair, I probably wasn't going to do either anyways. The only real reason I hate it is for political reasons, but all the "better" places politically are more expensive anyways. Basically a pro for every con.
SilverIsFreedom@reddit
Just turned 43. The older I get, the more I miss my family - mom/dad, brothers & their families… been contemplating the same thing for a couple of years now. I’d like to spend time with them while they’re in good health and be there to help care for my parents as they age.
home_rechre@reddit
I’m from Ireland and live in Qatar, but my sister and I will just move our mom in for six months each when she’s ready for that chapter.
Moving back home isn’t financially possible for me as my industry isn’t really a thing in Ireland.
ApatheistHeretic@reddit
Mine moved to me when his health became bad.
BurnerMcBurnfacer@reddit
If it feels right, then it is right. You will make it work.
I’m not in the same situation because my folks are a bit younger, but if your happy for the change, it’s the right move.