Being kicked out of my country. Extremely depressed.

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Gilgamesh-Enkidu@reddit

Bud you’re 26, with a degree, and moving to a country with a high standard of living/quality of life. You’re not getting sent to a third world country. Yeah, it sucks that you have to leave your life behind. But you are just starting your adult life, you can easily build a whole new one there. Ficus on the positives and new opportunities.

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DruidWonder@reddit

UK has gone downhill a lot in recent years. I don't think you realize. Anyone who can is coming to the US for employment, currently.

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Gilgamesh-Enkidu@reddit

UK has 4.8 percent unemployment, the US is 4.3. Do you know what Canada has? 7.8. That’s an increase that can be felt. Spain has 10.8. The US has 4 times the crime rate than the UK and that includes violent crime. Perspective is important. My goal isn’t to say the US is bad, but the UK, is objectively similar if not better which a stark contrast to the scenario you are trying to promote.

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DruidWonder@reddit

4 times the crime rate by what metric? US has 360 million people.

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Gilgamesh-Enkidu@reddit

Crime statistics, especially for countries, are always done per capita.

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Extension_Film_7997@reddit

Youre not wrong, why are you getting downvoted

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DruidWonder@reddit

This is Reddit... terminally left-wing and terminally online people who can't handle the slightest bit of divergent reality.

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Purple-Education-769@reddit

Weak ass Redditors.

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lucylemon@reddit

And they speak the language. Lots of people are going to have to move to countries they have never been and don’t speak the language.

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hater4life22@reddit

It’s a lot different moving somewhere of your own volition rather than being forced to leave because of circumstances out of your control. It’s perfectly fine and reasonable for this person to be upset having to leave the only home they’ve known and *want* to stay in.

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DubSket@reddit

It's amazing how many people on this sub seem to have no basic understanding of empathy. A lot of weird comments on this thread.

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hater4life22@reddit

I could go on a rant, but this is why this “America Bad™️” thinking a lot of people, especially Americans (abroad), have is not the “good” stance they think it is. It’s completely devoid of nuance and basic sense/understanding. I say this as someone that’s hypercritical of the U.S. as a state to the point I believe it needs a complete political and institutional overhaul. All people in here are showing is their level of self-absorbedness and lack of understanding of the lives of immigrants in the U.S.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

This!!!

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hater4life22@reddit

OP, I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I’m sure things will work out for you in the end, but yeah, this really fucking sucks. I’m also equally sorry people, other Americans especially, are not treating your situation with the care it deserves. Too many people in here are too self-absorbed to try to understand what it is you’re dealing with.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

I am all for focusing on the positives but as I mentioned in the post I have tried fighting against the negativity to no avail. I’m not sure why this has so many upvotes, are you saying it’s ok to lose 26 years of surroundings because the next 26 can be something else? Friends? Way of life? At least to me as of right now life feels irreplaceable and thats why I said in the post I see no point.

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Extension_Film_7997@reddit

I am from a developing country and I understand. I lived there for 4 years and had to leave as I got laid off. 26 years would drive me into a depression and a loss of identity - which most people seem to miss here. Reddit isn't a place for great empathy. Is there any way you can move to England, and find a transfer or something, to get in the green card line? I dont even have that option. Or maybe the canada route on a TN? Have you spoken to a lawyer about your options?

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Canada is a very strong contender for the future. Coming back to the US is something I have such little hope for. I mean, look up the options they aren’t exactly appealing

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CarliniFotograf@reddit

Canada might be a good option for you. Atleast you would be on the same continent and allot closer for your family to visit you and you visit them. It’s a place that’s very similar to daily life in the US and it’s not as far away as Australia for Example. People speak English, as long as you don’t move to Quebec which is primarily French speaking. If you have a British passport and lived in the US over 20 years, I wouldn’t think it would be super hard to get a visa to live in Canada. It would also be closer for you to work on going back to the US at some point if that’s what you want to do.. I don’t know where in the US you are. But I grew up in Detroit, 5 mins from Canadian border. So I use to go over to Ontario (London, Toronto) all the time when I was younger. When I was your age I went on tour all over Canada with several different music tours. So I’m very familiar with Canada. I’m in the EU now, but I’m here by choice and it has nothing to do with US politics at all..

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Extension_Film_7997@reddit

Im indian. Short of the EB1 or marriage (they might even block that who knows) theres little chance of getting in the green card line. Canada is a good country but they have a lot of problems too, and theres been increasing hostility toward Indians. Are you not willing to give England a shot? Also, if it helps - it took me a long time to adjust to life in a developing country and grieve the career I lost and the identity I had. People take this too lightly.

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Fuzzy_Albatrosss@reddit

Remember that you never really had any direct control on this. Let go of that illusion. The only real control you have is how you respond to these events. You could repeat the thoughts that you have in your head now. Or you could come up with better thoughts. Anyways I wish that you find happiness in England. Look at the bright side. You're American which makes you exotic. Luckily you speak the language sort of. 😉 And maybe you can find a job where you get to travel to or work with Americans. You could stand a better chance immigrating back to America too. See this step in your life as an adventure. Good luck!

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Is this how the Native Americans felt when they had their land taken 😭 I get what you are saying and I thank you for wishing me happiness. I think I’m just lost to be honest. Maybe I just see it so different because I’m the only person living my specific situation

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Suspicious-Wallaby12@reddit

"Are you saying it's ok to lose 26 years of surroundings" No one is saying it's ok! What everyone is saying is you can flip this from here. This is your story, the bigger the problems, the better bestseller it will become. I was in a similar position to you when I was 15 years old. I promised to myself, "I'll return back!" But then, I was only underestimating the new place. Very soon I had new friends and a life. Now I'm in a completely different from either of those origins and have a life here as well. Again, no one's saying this is a good problem to have, but how you deal with this will define the next phase of your life!

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Science_Matters_100@reddit

It’s natural that you’ll grieve. It’s helpful to find a way to wrap your head around it. [This may help.](https://youtu.be/vZu7lajK2Gk?si=De8rRF5nJs_FIwg_) Best to you and GL for the future

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MysteriousPanic4899@reddit

Just remember who did this to you - your “fellow” Americans.

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KartFacedThaoDien@reddit

Uuhhh He had an E2 and then switched to an F1 this most likely would've been the outcome no matter who was postus. The same for kids who grew with parents who had H1B visas. There really is no method for people who spent their entire life in the US to switch to an immigrant visa. They don't even get what the people who received daca got. This is how the system works and peope fall through the cracks.

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Jake_77@reddit

Can you explain what E2 and F1 are? I know about H1B

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KartFacedThaoDien@reddit

E2 is basically a visa for certain countries based on trade relationships. Actually a good example would be the recent raid on Hyundai. I'm not sure if Koreans qualify but it would be like how Korea is planning on building that factory in Georgia. And they sent someone from Korea who managed things at a factory in Busan to manage in Georgia. They could possibly work in the US on an E2 visa but its a non immigrants visa. And children /a spouse they have would also be on an E2 visa as a dependent. An F1 visa is for international students to study in America. Pretty much any international student studying at a community college or university sometimes a language center will be on an F1 visa. All of those visas I described are non immigrant visas. Meaning the op has grown up in the US has lived here more than long enough to get a green card. But they dont qualify because of they were always on nonimmigrant visas. A good amount of kids whose parents worked on H1B's for years or E2 visas are in this position when they get too old. For the op they really dont have any options left they stayed the max amount of time an international student can after graduation and courts don't care they grew up in America.

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Jake_77@reddit

Thanks, very interesting, and great explanation. So is there anything OP could have done to get a green card? Surely there is some way?

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KartFacedThaoDien@reddit

This is the best way to look at it. Ignore everything the op did before they went to college. The US government is essentially looking at them like any other international student. So maybe a Greencard through marriage would be possible. I'm not sure if Brits are eligible for the diversity visa lottery. There are also non immigrant visas they could also apply for that are for highly specialized roles. There are also probably options i don't know about. But after an international student graduates they can only stay so long.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

My parents did it to me

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DruidWonder@reddit

Ignorant comment. If you knew anything about the visas he has been juggling, it's not a product of the current politics.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Well aware

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Traditional_Chef861@reddit

Sad to see this in 🇺🇸- a country "established" by Dutch and British after overthrowing native Indian population

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23odyssey@reddit

Quit living in the past.

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GroupScared3981@reddit

you're the same people talking about 9/11 never forget lol shut up

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Traditional_Chef861@reddit

Some people like to bury themselves and assume there are no real world problems.

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23odyssey@reddit

Repeat that in English please.

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GroupScared3981@reddit

its in English "9/11 never forget" does that help your little American brain

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Traditional_Chef861@reddit

Odyssey means journey of life- self reflect (requires going in the past) and reflect on history of West. Story of west that started with the need for survival has become a story of global chaos, greed and lack of empathy. What goes around comes around. Karma is...

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23odyssey@reddit

Go to bed.

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Traditional_Chef861@reddit

Sure. Hope I am not dreaming with eyes wide open as in your case. Goodluck

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Traditional_Chef861@reddit

History shows history affects present and future. Present becomes history but seems West didn't learn from history and they are making their present worse than history and once this present becomes history in future, they will blame the present and cause more chaos for themselvss and others- both history and present confirms this 😉

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GroupScared3981@reddit

I'm sorry, but why is no one talking about "I'm white"?? hello? expats are never beating the allegations lol I'm glad they are enforcing immigration laws

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Extension_Film_7997@reddit

While I thought the race wasn't needed, I dont think the immigration laws differ. Technically his parents (are) expats if they didnt get the GC, and he is neither. I dont know why he posted it here rather than the immigration sub. I think this doesnt have to do with race as much as a general - post in whatever sub they came across. He can call himself a silver unicorn for all I care, he still has to leave or he will get deported - white or not. Its still a shitty situation, and this one doesnt merit the scrutiny of language.

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GroupScared3981@reddit

The race comment and the fact that hes posting this on the expat sub literally just proves he thinks "immigrant" is for people of colour only lol

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Extension_Film_7997@reddit

I still think his parents are expats, though not for the race superiority. They did not immigrate- as I can see, they were on visas? I won't assume things without knowing the facts.

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JeanParmesean70@reddit

Right? Not one comment about that, it’s wild

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unknowntoff@reddit

Bro posted this and then nuked his account because he sounded like a fucking twat. Love it 😂

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justreadingthat@reddit

On a positive note, it’s a great time to leave the US.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Why?

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henare@reddit

do you not read the news?

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unknowntoff@reddit

Do you watch the news? The Trump administration are fascists and things are going to get far worse in America before they get better. If you want a leg up on things when you go back to the UK come to Scotland. Things are much easier here, lower cost of living, free prescriptions, free tuition after three years, and much more welcoming.

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RobTypeWords@reddit

Sorry, I'm a little lost. From the sound of it you've lived here since childhood. Do you you not have dual citizenship?

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Delicious-Fee7960@reddit

Find a friend to marry ?

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DeliriousBookworm@reddit

You are going to England, not Afghanistan or Somalia or whatever. England is great. Also, you will be living in extremely close proximity to lots of other countries. You can travel by train and affordable plane rides to so many different places. Plus, as a citizen of the UK, you can also choose to live in Scotland, Wales, or Northern Ireland. It will all be fine. There are people being sent back to far worse countries.

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p3chapai@reddit

Not sure where in the US you're from but if you feel this way before the move, the depressing weather in the UK will kill you. Come to Asia for some time while you figure things out. Do some adventuring, in a place of your own choice. It's really nice here.

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JeanParmesean70@reddit

What does you being white have to do with anything?

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Western-Possible322@reddit

I’m just going to quote back to you because our experiences shape us, and you can only see positivity when you want to see it. But notion also has a negative connotation. It’s all the associations and in the history. Look into the history of ‘home’ and it will start making sense… I relate too cause I’m understanding this knowing from the universe forcing me to go ‘home’ when I have no ‘home’ historically the English ran, and ‘run’ has more than 645 meanings. There’s meaning if you listen. Read back what you wrote. It’s all connected- even that I got a notification for this. We know the laws of the universe but have written in black and white law, when they’re shades not colours. And we know we can’t see shades. Law is balance and justice and it’s not in the world in the way we allllllll seek

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FrauAmarylis@reddit

I live in London and they make hella sure our visa paperwork is proper. That’s how it is. And it’s good for everyone in this subreddit to know it happens to all, not the rumored only people from Mexico.

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formerlyfed@reddit

This is an issue that long long predates the Trump admin, although it’s really unusual for it to happen to a Brit because normally they’ll be eligible for green cards after a few years of waiting and so their kids will be able to permanently stay. It’s more common for Indians since their waiting period is years.

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missesthecrux@reddit

It’s a common situation unfortunately. I know a few E-2 people who have recently done the same as your parents and they’re not quite realising what’s going to happen in 10-15 years. Their kids will likely lose the only home they’ve ever known.

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Ok_Cress_56@reddit

I'm seeing the same on the other side of the pond. UK husband living in Switzerland with a Thai wife, two kids. They've been living there forever, could have gotten Swiss citizenship at this point. But he's running some bullshit "I am full British" line, which is fine for him I guess, but it means that because his wife and his kids are dependent on his visa, if he gets hit by a bus, they have to pack their bags and move to Thailand. It's super messed up.

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prooijtje@reddit

Can't his wife get citizenship?

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Defiant-Dare1223@reddit

That's really not true in Switzerland. She can get a C permit and naturalise without him. Further, if he died when she had a C permit, she wouldn't be kicked out. Heck, I'm British and my kids are getting naturalised in Switzerland without me. Not that they need to to avoid being kicked out if I died tomorrow.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

As a victim of this I find it cruel that the government allows it in the first place. America will gladly take the business of an E-2 but not the children who live and grow up here. I say remove it completely.

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ItalyExpat@reddit

The cruelty is the point. Make your case known, reach out to the media. At this point what do you have to lose.

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missesthecrux@reddit

It’s not really about cruelty. The E-2 visa has no path for permanent residency, and there is no path for dependents to move to another form of visa which would allow for permanent residency either. It’s very clear to applicants that this is the case. You even have to sign an intention to leave the country before you get granted one. But many parents make the choice without fully understanding the implications of that for their children.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

It’s not really “me” to be a headline. The only reason I posted on here was because I have been spiraling as it closes in, and I just wanted to stop crying for the night. There have been some really kind responses that helped me more than a media war would

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missesthecrux@reddit

Well… I’d rather they didn’t, but I do think parents need to consider this situation more than they currently do. Hell, if it’s cathartic for you maybe you could post on the e2visa subreddit about your experience. Parents might be interested to read it.

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Altomah@reddit

I can’t help but believe the UK is a much better life than the dumpster fire USA

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Full_Practice1177@reddit

Some of these comments are cold-hearted. Imagine growing up in a country with your parents and a country you’ve only known, (school, friends, dances, games, college, dates/partners, trips, employment, hanging out, school breaks, holidays, traditions, customs, American English, the weather, etc.), then you’re told that YOU have to get out of that country. In addition, your parents can stay. Imagine knowing another place but it not being your home, and YOU have to live there, not your parents. Imagine not having any desire to live in that country of origin, but you have to. Imagine if you are in a serious, long-term relationship. Most of you would die if you had to move back to your old country, small, rural, one-horse town in this same country and told that you can’t leave that town to even visit anywhere else in this country. Never-mind having to get out of the continent. It does not matter what the other country has to offer if it’s not a place you want to live, everyone and everything you’ve ever known is here, you’re young, and your parents aren’t being kicked out. I just hope he or his parents didn’t vote for the one who caused all this. If they did, then that’s where my compassion stops.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

See this person gets it. Cant and never have been allowed to vote.

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dmada88@reddit

America is not the place it was. You are losing something that no longer exists the way you experienced it. Get to the UK , regroup, figure out a plan. This sucks for sure but you are plenty young enough to start again.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

A plan for what? -Unfortunately my bachelors in CIS offers laughable salaries in the UK (less than half of the US entry) -I don’t even have as much as a NIS in England. Can’t rent, get a license for about 6 months, Im scared as all hell for whats going to happen - Its only my dad there in a small house. THANKFUL its not the streets don’t get me wrong. Thank you for your response.

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Shooppow@reddit

What about going to Germany for a Master’s? Or signing up for one in the UK? That will give you something to work on.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

I’m still pretty exhausted from my bachelors tbh. Also I don’t know if I would be able to afford that for a whiile. From what I understand other countries in Europe would have been great pre Brexit when there was freedom of movement for British citizens

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Shooppow@reddit

The UK has student finance. At least look into it. I’m working on a bachelor’s through the OU. So many people in the UK get student finance for their studies. I don’t, obviously, but the student groups I’m in are full of talk about it.

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vaskopopa@reddit

Sorry to be a bearer of more bad news for OP but UK also has residency requirements of 3 years before you can access student finance. Until then they will class op as an overseas despite them being a U.K. citizen. It sucks

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missesthecrux@reddit

OP might need to be resident in the UK for a few years before being eligible, in spite of being a citizen.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Thats very good advice and something I didn’t know about, thank you. See when I say I know nothing about how the UK functions… I really mean it so things like this are completely unknown to me

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Shooppow@reddit

I understand the feeling. My husband is Swiss but hasn’t lived here as an adult before we moved here in 2018. The learning curve was steep for all the administrative stuff. It took us probably 3 years to get everything figured out. Luckily, you have your dad so you have someone who knows how everything works.

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Zerr0Daay@reddit

I could help, dm me, just got my wife her visa recently, so u have a track record and understand of the system lol

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Resident_Maximum3127@reddit

It's totally OK and understandable to feel fear about this. Try to look at it as a stepping stone. Nothing in life is forever. What part of England will you be moving to ? North or South ? Do you have any interest in history ?

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Zerr0Daay@reddit

Cody of living is lower in the UK. And it’s cheaper to travel. I went to Poland to see my friend on a 5£ ticket. Can’t get that in North America

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Evilfck@reddit

You lost the country. But the whole planet is yours. You are home.

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Extension_Film_7997@reddit

Thats a privilege afforded to the rich bud.

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ikalwewe@reddit

Aww 😢 I'm not OP but thanks for this ill remember this everyday

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David_R_Martin_II@reddit

Yeah, this reminds me of the statement about alcoholism being giving up everything for one thing, and sobriety being giving up one thing for everything.

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synaptiferrene@reddit

This! 🤝

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palomadelmar@reddit

I really loved Scotland. Wish you the best.

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mcampbell42@reddit

Setup in Mexico City (obviously don’t transit via America ). Work remote great timezones and any American friends can meet you and your cost of living is nuts . And wait for another administration

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rugbysandman@reddit

Second this. I’m living in Mexico and contracting for a US company. Lots of Canadians and Mexicans down here.

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Some_Orange_8950@reddit

You’re not alone. But you should always remember that you are still young, you can always start again. Wish you the best of luck and happiness

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Thank you. Im hoping this is true.

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frackyou@reddit

Dude. Do you know what I would pay to be 26, have UK citizenship and be sent there? I know it’s scary but you’ll do so much better than everyone stuck here. America jumped the shark. You are young, educated and now you have free healthcare. Everyone in the US is about to wish they were you.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Grass is always greener on the other side

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genovianpearfarmer@reddit

OP, I'm so sorry. This is a really hard situation and I don't think there are words that can really help - it's just the kind of thing you have to get through. But you can and you will get through it. The grief is real, but it won't always be as painful. If you're not already familiar, it might be helpful for you to seek community with other adult "third culture kids." A lot of us can relate to the experience of being forced to return "home" to a passport country that you'd never lived in, all because of your parents' choices. A lot of people specifically use the language of "re-entry" to describe this situation - for example, I did a quick google search just now for "adult third culture kid re-entry" and found this blog post that might feel relevant: https://www.theupstreamcollective.org/post/helping-tcks-through-re-entry) None of this fixes your situation, but hopefully it at least gives you language to look for helpful resources and find people who can commiserate. For example, you might wanna check out r/ThirdCultureKids. And if you're ever in a position to seek out therapy or life coaching, you can find professionals who specialize in working with adult third culture kids. (It's not perfect but here is one online database of TCK-knowledgable therapists: https://internationaltherapistdirectory.com.) If I can think of any UK-specific resources I'll post them back here. Do you know where in the UK you're going, and do you know anyone (relatives, family friends)?

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FuzzySpring4673@reddit

I feel you when I was a kid I got deported from Oz back to the UK, I remember arriving and how grey and depressing it was, I had only lived in the UK a year of my childhood. 41 now and finally leaving the UK again! Have you got any european heritage? I'm waiting for my Irish passport. On the positive for you, many Americans are choosing to leave the US, a big influx to the UK as it's an easy one from a language perspective. As you're just 26, have you considered Oz? It's much easier at your age, either on a 2 year visa or a skilled visa. In Europe, there are many expat hotspots to Americans, too. You just either need a European passport, a passive income, freelance work, or a work offer.

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CurveAhead69@reddit

I’d be worried about the flying monkeys though.

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ThalonGauss@reddit

It could be a lot worse, you could be sent back to a poor war torn country where English isn't even spoken. All things considered you are extremely lucky, what happened isn't your fault, and it has not completely messed you up... Which was the other option!

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Extremely lucky is an interesting way to put it. Whether it’s luck, fate, or karma I suppose you’re right. I’m looking for the purpose in all of it

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ThalonGauss@reddit

Life doesn't have a purpose, we are all just riding the waves trying not to sink, your boat capsized because the captain didn't know how to steer, but you were immediately picked up by a nice big warm boat and are safe again. You get real wet and cold, a lot of your items went out to sea, but you are back on a roughly comparable boat already. It has shelter, food, and good crew. The facilitates are all there, maybe different, but each thing you had before, you have again. Imagine for instance being deported to Haiti, Syria, etc. I'm so sorry this happened to you, and I don't want to seem cavilier, I just want you to see another angle to this. Life tried to fuck you, but I couldn't really. You will survive this life changing cataclysm, where most people would not.

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DruidWonder@reddit

No offense but your parents really screwed you over with their poor choice. You should be a US citizen by now.

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jopa191@reddit

Well well time to go back home

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Roman_of_Ukraine@reddit

Brittan is not Bangladesh! You avoid tax slavery of US and as British citizen will be able to travel or live anywhere in the world. At your age all roads open so here is lemons eat and cry or do lemonade

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baby_budda@reddit

Brits can't even travel through Europe without a visa now that they passed brexit.

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appropriateye@reddit

No need for a visa for the uk. They may require an etias (eu esta) but that’s bevoming pretty universal

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baby_budda@reddit

Yes. I fixed my mistake.

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Roman_of_Ukraine@reddit

Visa wow tears running on my face. I have to Receive russian passport to live in my own house, have to receive their foreighn passport to travel where russians allowed like Türkiye and then go where Ukrainians allowed

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Georgie_Pillson1@reddit

Being a British citizen doesn't allow you just 'live anywhere in the world'. The guy's already in a shit situation, don't give him false hope that his passport will allow him to just waltz into any country of his choosing and start living there.

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Roman_of_Ukraine@reddit

Tell 7 of 8 billion world population! Who live in countries that earn less than $1000 month

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thisistestingme@reddit

I’m so sorry. This is really hard. Please hang in there. I’m about double your age, and so much can happen in life.

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KartFacedThaoDien@reddit

I've only seen two comments but they are fucking crazy. There isn't a damn thing I could say to the op. The only thing Id say is try and to connect with other people in your same situation in England. Because you moving there you'll essentially be a baby in terms of learning how things work. Nothing we can really say in terms of ways to comfort you. It sucks.

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howdoesketo@reddit

I agree :( I hope theres some options for OP with a immigration lawyer and maybe someone that can offer sponsorship through family thats maybe established there with their status :( or a company they can get sponsored through asap

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

No one in my family is a US citizen or green card holder. Sponsorship through a company is quite the controversial topic right now. I’m not sure people even realize its a lottery

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howdoesketo@reddit

We're aware, youre posting to reddit for help and we're suggesting the normal options recommended :/. Id recommend speaking to a professional to best assess your situation and try to offer solutions for you.

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Resident_Maximum3127@reddit

I am sorry that you are going through this and understand how it isn't your fault but unfortunately, you are the one that has to deal with it. I am just here to mention that the saying "this too, shall pass" is very true. I am an old person and have been uprooted several times in my life, sometimes by my own decisions and sometimes by terrible circumstances beyond my control. I hope that you will come to see the situation as an opportunity to grow and to rise to the challenge that you are facing. You will come out on the other side of this stronger. Good luck.

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Willem-Bed4317@reddit

How about just moving to another state?

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Georgie_Pillson1@reddit

Did you even read his question?

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Electronic_Jelly_318@reddit

Land of the free...

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baby_budda@reddit

You should have gotten married to a citizen while you had the chance.

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howdoesketo@reddit

Firstly, Im truly sorry this has happened to you. It seems in a lot of places worldwide we have to advocate ourselves vs relying on government help and it sucks. I dont know if its possible in this situation but I would speak to a few immigration lawyers and hire one to help. Theyre experts in these things and can offer way more than what any of us will know. I've hired them before too when it looked like I wasnt being helped either to get a fast resolution, although expensive. Take time to grieve this, we all are living in insane times without being able to understand what comes next for us... its truly scary. Wishing you the best, from another scared expat and american :(

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bourque890@reddit

It's understandable that you would feel angry, overwhelmed and grieving these losses. With everything going on for you now-- emotionally, legally, logistically-- it's likely that your perspective regarding your life and prospects is not going to be accurate. Approach this period of your life as if you were in a natural disaster or catastrophe (which is what it probably feels like). Focus on the basics - - taking care of yourself (sleeping, eating adequately, not harming yourself with substances or anything else). Take inventory of any resources you have--family and friends that could help you as you go through this transition, who might have info that could help you once in the UK. Get any documents or accounts in order, make arrangements. Maybe you won't have everything figured out as to what your next steps will be before you have to leave. Just focus on getting through today and the next day, day by day. It really sucks. I'm sorry this is happening to you. As someone else said, you are young. There is a life for you after this period of time, even if you're not sure what it will look like

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unknowntoff@reddit

Look on the bright side, you won't be living in a fascist hellhole where you might get shot whilst going grocery shopping. America is probably one of the worst western countries to live in on the planet right now. One day you'll look back on the challenges you've experienced now and be glad it happened.

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gowithflow192@reddit

Sounds like your parents messed up. This has been happening since the dawn of migration.

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TokyoLosAngeles@reddit

As an American, I’d much rather live in the UK than the US. I’m honestly jealous of you.

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callipygian0@reddit

We are brits and were in the U.S. on an L1 and my husband lost his job. We looked at getting an E2 but decided against it for this reason. It really sucks that kids who’ve been there legally their whole lives just have to get out because they age out. I appreciate it’s not your fault though! It’s just not meant to be a forever visa, even if it can work out that way for the primary holders.

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godsbyy@reddit (OP)

Most likely one of the best decisions you could have made

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callipygian0@reddit

We went back to the UK (still here now) but have an approved EB-2 NIW which would give the kids green cards. So we now need to decide which way to go! We didn’t want them to be in the situation you are in now.

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EnoughNumbersAlready@reddit

This is awful and I’m so very sorry that this has happened to you because of the current administration. It seems that you must leave the US…so the only thing I can offer is this advice on starting anew: Allow yourself to grieve what you once had; process it but don’t wallow in it. You have more to live for and so much to experience in your future on the other side of the Atlantic. Once you have given yourself time to grieve, please allow yourself to feel curiosity and joy in learning about the UK (where I assume you will be). On practical matters, I don’t know your financial situation but I would start looking for a job or a place to live that is within your budget asap because housing is tough everywhere these days. If your current job has an office in the UK then ask if you can move to the UK office. Start looking into what kind of documents you need to have to get a drivers license there and what you need to rent a flat or buy a property (if you are in that situation where you can afford it). Once you have a place to land, I would suggest getting involved in social clubs or sports to start building friendships there. Good luck and safe landing in the UK!

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