Xennials who had dancing, drinking, and sex parties in Middle School…How are you doing now?
Posted by SecondSaintsSonInLaw@reddit | Xennials | View on Reddit | 335 comments
I was a runty, goody kid in the mid 90’s, so I damn sure wasn’t getting invited to any parties.
But I remember 7th and 8th graders bragging about having parties at their house and having malt liquor and wine coolers at their parties and hooking up. And I’m never quite sure if they were real stories. But if they were…
WTH? How did growing up like that affect you as adults? What did you parents think or say about those parties?
I seriously could not imagine having that kind of middle school life. I was a latch key kid, if I wasn’t at wrestling practice, I was at home, heating up a banquet potpie for dinner and doing homework.
How did you all turn out???
Feralest_Baby@reddit
I started that the summer between middle and high school, so I'll play:
I partied pretty hard until I was about 30, didn't finish college and waited tables for too long. I started taking things seriously in my early 30s, got a 9-5 (somehow, without a degree) got married and started having kids at 35. Now in my late 40s I barely drink, but I do like cannabis.
I kind of wish I'd settled down a little sooner, but I also squeezed every last drop out of my 20s back before the cost of living made that damn near impossible, so I'm glad for those experiences. I could have done without the blackout drinking multiple times a week, though.
eat_like_snake@reddit
"middle school"
Bro, what kind of trashy-ass middleschools did you go to?
Highschool, maybe, even though I wasn't part of those things. Middleschool? Those kids are like 12.
nwbrown@reddit
My middle school hasn't had a year without a girl getting pregnant for a few decades.
scruffigan@reddit
Stats on teen pregnancy is that the father is usually 3-8yrs older than the mother-to-be. Pretty fucked up, and suggests that conceptions weren't really dominated by middle school party hookups unless there was an older guy there.
Icy-Finance5042@reddit
I always dated older. The guys in my grade were still making fart noises in the hallway. Im still friends with some of them still to this day. I can't now because they look like they could be my dad now. Even ones I graduated with. It's been hard dating because of that. I have a hard time going younger or my age.
againandagain22@reddit
Ummmm. You’re in your 40’s? How come you don’t want to date guys in their 30s, if they’re interested?
Icy-Finance5042@reddit
Im 43 and feel too old for guys in their 30s.
illinoishokie@reddit
A girl in my class got pregnant in elementary school.
TheConcreteGhost@reddit
Yup, here too. We were in 5th grade and I didn’t know what being pregnant was really. The teachers told us she was very sick in the hospital. I made her a card.
firesticks@reddit
What grade do elementary schools go to in the US?
InternationalRow1653@reddit
When I was a kid it was up until 4th grade but it's different now. We also had jr high and intermediate schools back then. Those are both gone and we have middle school. Now elementary is 4k-5 middle 6,7,8 and high school for the rest
illinoishokie@reddit
It varies. My elementary school went to 6th grade, and that was the year it happened. I know a lot of the time, 6th grade is considered middle school.
firesticks@reddit
Thas devastating.
illinoishokie@reddit
Yeah it was a pretty big scandal and a wildly fucked up situation. The guy was in his 20s. Law enforcement was involved.
firesticks@reddit
That poor little girl.
Glad he was treated accordingly.
General-Winter547@reddit
Usually 6th.
Cute-Significance351@reddit
5th grade here
three-sense@reddit
Same. Freaking Arizona public school students, if it wasn’t the gangs it was drugs or teen pregnancy.
Deep-Interest9947@reddit
My freshman year of high school I knew several girls with kids and many others who had abortions
Illustrious-Tap8069@reddit
I wasn't partying in middle school but, even in the suburbs there were a ton of kids smoking a block from the school each morning. A non-zero number of those kids were pregnant before high school so I assume this was happening everywhere. Apparently a party can exist, even if I'm not there.
Impossible-Will-8414@reddit
Middle school is like age 11 to 14. And you sound very sheltered.
-Bk7@reddit
I grew up in an uppermiddle class suburb within close proximity to a big city(90s middle schooler). The "cool" seventh and eight graders absolutely hooked up and partied hard(mostly alcohol and weed - obtained by older siblings). I was never cool but these dudes were the kids in my neighborhood that I grew up with playing sports and shit so even though I didnt partake, i got a pass and could attend. I strayed in hs for a bit, peer pressure is a mothafucka. But when I went to college(far away from home) and came back every holiday, the spiral was obvious as I wasn't there to witness in real time and be numbed by it. Sadly(and by choice) lost contact with most of them. But many ended up dead or in jail, or working shit jobs.
SecondSaintsSonInLaw@reddit (OP)
Chicago, my guy 😌
LadyStardust79@reddit
I grew up in rural Maine and we also did all of those things in middle school. Not everyone had parents that kept them away from all that.
SenSw0rd@reddit
I'm glad I got that out of the way and can be normal now.
Had an ex, 8 years younger when I was 29, and she was repressed, never partied, and ended up going to raves and spreading chlamydia.
I think genZ/A are repressed asf because NO ONE socializes anymore.
A society of smegal and their precious smart.phones...
Adgvyb3456@reddit
Not much sex but plenty of drinking, weed and cigarettes. Making out with girls. Stealing our parents liquor. Usually crap like Crème de menth and Triple sec because they wouldn’t notice. Most of my group ended up with severe substance abuse issues. Most as far as I know now have jobs and many have families of their own. I don’t know if they’re doing well because outside of social media I cut ties. A few died. A few went to jail.
cartoonchris1@reddit
We were MSers tagging along with older HSers to said parties. MS parties weren’t crazy but the HS parties were wild. A LOT of those hard party people are already gone now.
NativePA@reddit
No ‘sex parties’ but 12-14 were doing everything but, some were. Drinking drugs was a typical weekend. Had one pregnant 14 yo and a few by 16 every year. It was rural and we were wild but most of us turned out ok- those that stayed generally had a worse future.
Impossible_Stomach26@reddit
Did most people leave or stay?
NativePA@reddit
Most left.
GhostKingHoney@reddit
I grew up in a bad area.
Our group at 12-14 was already smoking cigs, drinking, smoking weed and having sex. I thought it was totally normal.
It wasn't until we were about 15/16 and other teens at school started drinking at parties I realized how fucked we were. The other kids would bring maybe a 6 pack of beer to a party and be wasted.... We had a bottle of whiskey each and a lot of weed.
Even as adults, all of our tolerance levels are insanely high.... But more surprisingly, all but one, has turned out completely fine. All of us have decent jobs, most have families and doing well. One is a 40+ year old stoner.
It's interesting when we all catch up though, doesn't take long until we switch from beer to whiskey and someone suggests a bag lol
smuckola@reddit
I'm just blown away by the amount of cash expenditure, and imagining what else a kid could do with all that money. No candy and video games and collections and other major hobbies? Or were you so rich you already had that too and all this adult debauchery is on the side?
I'm honestly wondering, and darkly jealous of, how this Lost Boys lifestyle was possible!
GhostKingHoney@reddit
We stole... A lot.
We were only in primary school (12) but all we thought about was smoking and getting drunk. We stole money, we stole from stores, stole from people, whatever we could to get it.
Probably the strangest part about it, is that as soon as we could get part time jobs, we all did. We all wanted money to pay for the stuff we wanted because it was just easier... And wasted it all.
Impossible_Stomach26@reddit
You think it's strange that you guys got jobs instead of continuing as career criminals? lol
smuckola@reddit
How could you afford all that consumption? Especially with few jobs for rural kids.
Illustrious-Tap8069@reddit
I would assume they weren't always paying.
However, even in college alcohol used to be pretty cheap in a lot of the US. We used to buy 3 dollar plastic jugs of vodka, I don't think I've ever been sicker than the time we decided to go outside and chug them. A 12 pack was only about 5 dollars if you were ok with Busch, Keystone, High Life or something similar.
smuckola@reddit
holy crap! Yeah I remember seeing an infographic PSA poster at my university, showing how many olympic sized swimming pools of alcohol are consumed on the average American campus and I realized the species was doomed!
Illustrious-Tap8069@reddit
I did my part.
Most_Present_6577@reddit
In the marine corps all the rural kids were drinking and sleeping together way earlier than the suburban or urban kids.
You reminded me of this observation.
Message_10@reddit
Same--that was my experience as well (not in the armed forces, but in college). Rural kids did all that from an early age; suburban kids mostly drank and did drugs; urban kids went to all the parties but kind of had a better sense not to get too "loose," like they knew they needed to take care of themselves and didn't trust doign so around strangers at a big party. The urban kids also had a sort, like, they'd seen it all and didn't need to get involved to have a good time.
walkabout16@reddit
I randomly went to college with 4 ex marines on the GI bill. They thought I was funny so they let me hang out despite being so much younger.
All 4 were former rural kids who enlisted and the stories they told of their childhood upbringing were more intense than most of their marine stories.
caddy45@reddit
As a rural kid, what else was there to do?
Not that I attended any parties anyway…..my Friday night in middle school was ordering pizza and watching Law and Order.
MrMephistoX@reddit
Pizza and X-Files on a Friday was the best.
farmley0223@reddit
This is me in a nutshell!
HabaneroPopper@reddit
Dicky_Penisburg@reddit
Hell yeah
Oceanbreeze871@reddit
Sounds like a wild boot camp.
MysteriousFee2873@reddit
City girl here but we had the make out/hangout/drinking/poking smot house. By my 20s I was only working. I think I’ve been to the bar a dozen times legally. By 30 burnt out from work but was able to realize when I was drinking too much. At 40 I don’t drink. Met my so in my 20s. No kids only fur babies
Elle3786@reddit
Honestly, similar rural experience. I definitely had my first drink at 12. I was not so interested in sex for quite a while, but those who were, they were doing that too. We were bored and unsupervised. I’m pretty okay, no drug or alcohol issues, happy with my husband. Also had some people who never left, and they’re also less good
Separate-Relative-83@reddit
Same.
Dasha3090@reddit
i was the same,the nerdy kid who alwyas overheard the "cool kids" talking about their parties kn the weekend where they got smashed n hooked up n gave BJs n stuff at 12!!shocked me a bit..
SecondSaintsSonInLaw@reddit (OP)
🫂
HillBillyMadman@reddit
Grew up just outside Philly, went to Catholic school until high school. The parties from 6th to 8th grade were wild.
Pretty much was the same in high school. 41 now. Still friends with the kids from back then. Been mostly well-adjusted, have had the same job almost twenty years, still go out most nights and see my older friends on weekends. Think I turned out ok.
JumboThornton@reddit
I went to Catholic school too and also experienced these middle school parties. My neighbor friends that went to public school didn’t get started that young but those Catholic kids were wild. Waaaaay more drugs and alcohol in Catholic high school than public, too.
HillBillyMadman@reddit
My whole 8th grade class got detention for two weeks cause of some partying during a weekend trip to D.C. that some cops had to show up for and the teacher was pissed. I didn't go on that trip cause my grandfather was visiting from Florida and I wanted to spend time with him. I called home from school to tell my mom and she showed up, yelled at the teacher for 45 minutes. Now, I would've had fun, but since I wasn't there, I shouldn't have detention.
when I went to high school and my first party, it was super tame. Kids playing Yatzee and watching A Nightmare on Elm Street and I'm just like "Where's the girls? Is there anything fun coming up? Beer?" And they looked at me like I was a serial killer. Took time to adjust.
JumboThornton@reddit
I will say the silver lining of partying young is every time we got busted as teens it was just juvy- not real jail. lol. And by the time I started college I was smart and stayed out of trouble while people around me all got arrested.
HillBillyMadman@reddit
That's true. Best part of all that. I wouldn't trade that time of my life for anything.
pianotherms@reddit
I never did any of that stuff. I like all of those things now though!
susieallen@reddit
Most of my friends are dead. What's left, including myself, is ok. Some of us are mentally effed up from drugs and drinking everclear in the woods. Lost my virginity at 11, but it wasn't by choice. I was far too drunk to even understand what happened till the next morning. Had my first two sons at 17 and 18, then finally settled down. I've been mom and wife since then. Most of us had absolutely no supervision, so we just did whatever we wanted. My sisters were worse. My first niece was born when my sister was 12, and my other sister had my nephew at 15.
meateatingmama@reddit
Do you mind me asking what area you grew up near?
susieallen@reddit
In my younger years, I lived in Blythe CA and then moved to West Texas when I was 13.
mutantbabysnort@reddit
I’m sorry that happened to you, and also glad you turned out ok. Thank you for sharing. Good luck to you.
susieallen@reddit
Thank you. I'm hope it made me a stronger person than I used to be.
againandagain22@reddit
Hey. Super proud of you for making it out of that. Some fairly sad stories of death in this thread.
You did good.
susieallen@reddit
That means a lot. Thank you.
Deep-Interest9947@reddit
Yikes
susieallen@reddit
Indeed
WullaJean@reddit
I remember being at a friend's birthday party in 8th grade and having sex with my then-boyfriend on a toilet in the bathroom. I know it didn't last long and we had the intelligence at least to use a condom and that wasn't the first time we'd had sex.
Today, I'm 43, divorced a year, very happily childfree, highly ADHD, in therapy, in a total slut era, with some debt, and fighting bouts of depression through hits off a joint.
All in all, I'm doing ok.
InternationalRow1653@reddit
Holy sh!t, you just now hit the slut era? Those days are long gone for me. I'm 6 years married now, starting my divorce soon though. But I don't have the energy or want for nasty time anymore. Maybe after I get out of my marriage I'll get my groove back haha
MechanicalGodzilla@reddit
Meanwhile, I'm 45 and I've been married for 21 years and have 3 kids and life is great!
nuskit@reddit
Ohhh, 43 is prime slut era! Just hitting into that perimenopause. We have all the hormones, none of the inhibition, adult money, our own place, and critically -- knowledge of how to achieve orgasm.
Been married for 25 years to a man 12 years my senior and the poor man is exhausted. He is not at an age where he can keep up at all, so he just takes his Cialis and does his best with my raging libido! Lol!
Ch4rlie_G@reddit
It’s funny but my household is getting near this. I could go all day every day for 20 years and then something just changed in my forties (guy here) and suddenly my wife had more libido than me and I need a mental work up to be in the mood.
It’s like a slow role reversal.
WullaJean@reddit
I was sort of a slut in my 20s before i got married, but I didn't know anything about boundaries and how to play the game. I've got more wisdom in my 40s and have been enjoying this new journey. There were so many things I hadn't tried and would never get to while married and I'm learning many things about myself. Feel free to read some of my past threads under my profile on r/sexstories.
I'm sorry about your marriage. I was married for 13 years and got divorced last year. I've been allowing myself time to indulge and travel and be bored and sad and happy all at the same time. I hope you find peace. It's such a process and I'm still in it but peace is there in little ways if you look for it.
InternationalRow1653@reddit
I was an idiot, should have never done it, now just getting out is a pain. But I've been single many times in my adulthood and every time I break up with someone I always find myself again, find a set of new temporary friends(can't find solid friends as an adult anymore) and then I tend to have the time of my life and bring new people along for the ride. I'll be ok again though. He can't ruin my whole life, just the part I let him in....
againandagain22@reddit
“Hey! How you doing?”
:)
Designer-Bid-3155@reddit
Not in middle school. That was high school shit.
MechanicalGodzilla@reddit
Yeah, my HS experience was parties after football games and wrestling matches at some team parent's house. Some of the "cool" parents would even supply the beer under the theory that it's better for the kids to drink and crash in our basement than drive off to the woods like in Dazed and Confused.
Zabroccoli@reddit
Yup. Go to Derek’s. Steal his parents triple sec. Pretend to be drunk. Make out with girls in the closet.
ScreenTricky4257@reddit
Wish I had done stuff like that.
livefreediehard99@reddit
Triple Sec?!? Ugh… Almost as bad as Blue Curaçao.
Top-Contribution-376@reddit
it was always Derek's!
vibrantlightsaber@reddit
That was me in junior high and high school. Own a business and doing fine. Just got through that stage a bit earlier. Have plenty of friends doing well. And one or 2 that kept going down that path and are now non functioning alcoholics or got into heavier drugs and passed away. Most turned out fine.
gigermuse@reddit
SAME on all accounts. By the time i hit 25 i felt like I'd been there done that because i had so it was onto the next phase.
zt3777693@reddit
I knew people getting laid in middle school
LeRoyShow@reddit
Mostly the same. I definitely knew folks who were hooking up in like 7th and 8th grade. By Freshman year I was into that game a bit, but my folks had me terrified of getting a girl pregnant. So I was far deeper into the alcohol. By the time I got to college I could drink to an obscene level. When I joined my fraternity, they tried to see how much I could drink before I puked. When I was the last one standing they never tested me again. It was nothing for me to drink a bottle or two of vodka a night and be "fine" to the point people accused me of it not being vodka. Mostly quit drinking around 25.
Now I feel old as shit and all my joints hurt
CitizenCue@reddit
For me mostly yeah, but I was vaguely friends with the kids who did that shit at that age. It existed.
NextPrize5863@reddit
Yes that’s me as well. Weekends in high school where who’s house this weekend or what spot?
Laughing_Allegra@reddit
I was invited to a few of those parties in 8th grade but was too nerdy to kiss anyone and too scared of alcohol to drink anything. Watched some raunchy AF movies though!
FOOLS_GOLD@reddit
I was part of that crowd. Most of us are sober these days. A lot more than I care to admit are dead. A few of us can still moderate.
Economy-Camp-7339@reddit
I remember, I moved during middle school and went back to my old town and met up with some friends.
A friend of mine gave me a note that included inviting me to a party that was going to have drugs, but then went on to say, it’s probably not your scene but you’re in town and wanted to know we still think about you.
My mom found that note while doing my laundry and I over heard her telling my dad “well it’s a good thing we moved!”
We were military, so we didnt move to be away from any “bad” influences.
Needless to say the new place we lived was just as bad or worse.
And I was the goody two shoes who simply never partook.
CherryHopeful9864@reddit
Own a business, have a great family, and still drinking beer and having sex
SadAcanthocephala521@reddit
High school and they would have been making it sound way cooler than it was. Sex party? ahahaha.
Dense-Wing-4398@reddit
Great. Not much memory between 16 and 26 but turned out ok.
Separate_Counter9427@reddit
Started drinking/partying in Middle School (1996). Lots of fun.
That being said, I'm a recovering Alcoholic; 3 and half years sober.
I managed to function throughout my 20s into my early 30s until shit hit the fan. It was fun until it wasn't.
Professionally I turned out ok. I'm accountant that's ahead of retirement schedule.
Getting sober was fucking tough but I still wouldn't change a thing.
Life is good.
ashleysaress@reddit
Meh- I prolly started in 8th grade- by the time college came around - I was partied out and became the “den mother” for the kids still working thru their shit. I dunno- kinda just feel like i got to get it outta the way early and focus on other stuff later.
That being said— only about 50% of my friends from then (maybe less) survived past 30.
Platt_Mallar@reddit
Woah. That's one hell of a mortality rate.
ashleysaress@reddit
Yea- I mean, starting young isnt a good story for most, I would bet. a lot of them were traffic accidents or drunk driving as we got older- several motorcycle incidents . But also cancer sucks and so does a world that doesn’t care about mental health.
I got lucky- there were some folx along the way that really helped me get/keep my head on straight. Largely- I ran a bit of a double life at that time- a group of friends that really didnt party (we made movies and did wholesome things) and then of course the party group. I’m sure you get a sense of which group has the higher mortality rate.
It feels a bit odd when I realize not everyone has buried as many friends.
ManInTheMorning@reddit
1985 here too...
I've buried friends from boating accidents, car wrecks, cancer, aneurisms, drunken antics gone wrong.... Too many to count.
But the ones that seem to both slip the memory, and hit you like a ton of bricks at the same time? Its the opioid kids.
When I was coming up, all of my friends played as many sports as possible... And inevitably we got hurt. My first oxy prescription came when I was probably 12?
Lucky for me my brain doesn't particularly love opiates. But looking back at how many of my peers have since died from obvious opioid addiction is beyond unsettling.
I would say the accidents/medical/freak of nature type deaths are probably outnumbered by the ODs.
We just came up in a time where it was totally acceptable to sell hardcore drugs to underaged kids for big-pharma profit, and our generation paid for it.
TheSwissdictator@reddit
I’m lucky when I had Pectus repair Ravitch procedure in my 20s, and was given prescription pain killers (in addition to fentanyl patches for the first couple months). They told me that the prescription pain killers were, every 6 hours or something, but I could take this over the counter pain killer alongside it if I needed even more pain killer effect (it’s a very invasive surgery). My thought process was “well I could take the prescription stuff every 8 hours instead of every 6 and use the non-narcotics at the half way point as a mild boost so I’m using the narcotics less”
Then_Increase7445@reddit
Was the procedure worth it? One of my kids has Pectus excavatum, but it hasn't had any effect on his life so far (only 8 years old).
TheSwissdictator@reddit
Depends on severity. Mine was significant. It was impacting me so it has helped.
Younger kids can have a less invasive procedure called the Nessus procedure which has the best in them for longer, as it uses their growing to reshape things (which is why it’s less invasive)
They did tests on me to verify it was effecting me enough to warrant the procedure, I suspect they’ll likely do the same for your kid if you look into it and I wouldn’t be surprised if they wait until their early teens.
Then_Increase7445@reddit
I hadn't heard of the Nessus (Nuss?) procedure, thanks for the response.
Nomadzord@reddit
I’m 45 and three of my four buddies who stood next to me at my wedding are dead from opiates. I was on them for 11 years then went to a detox clinic for 5 days and haven’t touched them in 8 years. Scary shit.
Platt_Mallar@reddit
I broke a toe chasing a burglar out of my apartment. The doctor gave me oxycodone for the pain since it hurt so much when I put any weight on my foot.
I took 1 and it fucked me up so bad I didn't take any more. Then all of the opioid addiction stories started cropping up a few years later. I dodged a massive bullet.
Thanks for sharing your story.
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Bajovane@reddit
Yes, I know a kid who hurt his knee in track and field. Was given OxyContin and promptly got hooked. He’s ok now, but he cycled through addictions with several different things (drinking, gambling, marijuana.) throughout the years but he’s beyond that now, thank goodness.
cmotdibblersdelights@reddit
You sound like me. Also 1985. Had the social reject geeky nerdy friends, and the artsy fartsy theater/ music, drug and party friends.
Way too many old friends are dead. I'm 40.
InternationalRow1653@reddit
Me too I'm almost 43. I've lost many friends from my earlier years. Also 2 of the guys I had 3+ year relationships with and 2 others that werent as serious, all dead before they turned 30. Makes me feel horrible, now I didn't do it, it just still seems like I'm a plaque for them but I wasnt with any of them anymore when it happened. It is always after me, maybe not long after, but always after!
Petraaki@reddit
I know you probably know this on the surface, but it never can be said enough because it often doesn't sink in: it's not your fault.
InternationalRow1653@reddit
Yes but some of it is. I stayed knowing I shouldn't. I let him get away with treating me certain ways and not asserting that my feelings were valid. I let him just keep making me shut up. I gotta take some accountability. Now how he choose to treat me, and to not listen when I told him things that hurt/bothered me, that's on him. But it's not all his fault that I didn't hold him up to what I expected of my husband. That's all on me. Now the fact that we can't work through it is because he refuses to still take accountability for anything ever. And I'm done being the one to blame. But in the end, it's not all my fault.
DrewZouk@reddit
I think it might be worse for my class, like a forty percent mortality rate on a group that hadn't really reached 40 yet.
Platt_Mallar@reddit
I've only lost 4 friends. 2 to suicide from military ptsd, 1 to a drunk driver, and 1 to a heart attack. Each funeral was surreal. We were still in our 20s. Tragic.
gcjager@reddit
Maybe they only had one friend and she’s paralyzed from the waist down?
JunketAccurate9323@reddit
Same. No sex in middle school (or most of high school for me). I partied a lot though and it wasn't weird since my community partied (military brat). My friends and I were all insanely driven, good students who did extracurriculars, which helped because the partying didn't feel like our entire existence. It was just something else to do. There were some in our crew who got addicted to alcohol and drugs early though. Many of them are not dead but they have shitty lives. Many of them washed out of the military with dishonorables, have served time or are in jail now. Many, many more are extremely poor because they have records, can't stay clean and therefore can't get decent jobs.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
I started as a freshman in high school just sometimes smoking pot, drinking, at 16 I took LSD and it was super strong dosed high so I didn't take it again until I was an adult at 19 and had taken shrooms twice. I quit tripping at 20 unless you count smoking so much Sativa pot and hashish that you trip. I quit smoking pot at 22 when I graduated from a university. I did drink for a semester in college and after college in my 20s on weekends with friends in Philadelphia. I stopped drinking at 28.
The kids I knew who were into hard drugs in high school and college most of them are dead, ruined their lives, got arrested for selling hard drugs, etc.
I knew two gay men in college that had AIDS, they are in meds now.
nudgedfudge@reddit
I also started way too young, in a border city, and partied out before high school ended. Also have too many dead friends from that time, but you’d never know from seeing me now. My kids think I’m so boring.
bwnsjajd@reddit
That sounds very much about right to me. Just found out about one of very few friends I had in highschool the other day.
ModernDayMusetta@reddit
Same. By the time I hit the generally accepted party years, I was already done. That said, I also had a kid by then, so maybe that straightened me up more so than being partied out.
Also same, for the survival rate. A few of us got out, but there's quite a few of my friends from that time that are dead. The memorial table at the reunion has far too many photos of what I would now think of as children.
damndolly@reddit
Me too, on all parts and the kid as well. Had my first at 16/17, and I feel like she chilled me out quite a bit.
Yrch1@reddit
Same. The free money give away a few years back took the rest out for me. Last man standing.
livefreediehard99@reddit
It was more in high school than middle school. In my experience, it wasn’t a “sex party” where people were swinging or having public sex. It was more a house party where people, often couples who came together, would hook up in a bedroom or any room that was available.
Yes, I had sex with my girlfriend, or a girl who was a friend, in some closets on top of a few coats and a box of Christmas decorations. No regerts four live!
pmmlordraven@reddit
My parents were gone. Father at work, my mother partying and relapsing. So I was alone with a liquor cabinet she wouldn't have the foggiest how much was in. This was in addition to very easy access to weed.
They were sex parties per day. But parties where a lot of sex happened. Being the middle school kid that high schoolers wanted around for access had perks.
Definitely did my share and enjoyed it at the time. Between the this and what I didn't recognize as grooming from my mother's friends, I had way more sex than I really should have especially as middle schooler.
I'm doing ok. I didn't stay with drugs/liquor long. And somehow I'm decently well adjusted. Not sure what that says about me haha.
againandagain22@reddit
Glad that you made it out of that. You should write a Freeform journal of your memories over the next couple of years. Don’t give it much thought. Just write
Then feed the notes into an AI in a couple of years time and get a memoir out of it.
pmmlordraven@reddit
Yeah? Never really thought much of it honestly. But I might try.
againandagain22@reddit
Worth a try. All it’ll cost you is 10 mins a day of speaking into your dictation app (Notes, etc) and saving all the written entries into one folder. Then in two years you can dump the hundreds of entries into the AI and say “work your magic, magic man!”
Top-Contribution-376@reddit
I grew up in a small(ish) town. There were a few who were into that, but they were the ones with absent parents and such. Later in high school it was more common.
Now I live very rural and it's blowing my mind to hear about last year's 8th grade class being drunk, having sex by the river, etc. My kids are in 5th and 6th grade and I am nowhere near ready for any of that!
kshizzlenizzle@reddit
Oof, I was probably a ‘bad kid’, not so much middle school, but definitely high school. Hung out with/dated much older people, always down for a party, probably given a bit too much freedom, lol. I think most people in HS would have voted me ‘most likely to be a stripper’.
I’m a stay at home mom, homeschool, raise chickens, garden, rescue dogs and cats - so I think I’m doing pretty OK! I mean, I’m hella tired, but it’s all self imposed.
But I turned into the exact opposite of what I was when I was younger. Most of the people I knew who were ‘goody two shoes’ types in HS (whether self imposed or parent dictated) had MUCH rougher lives than I ended up having. Like drinking themselves to death by their 30’s, ODs, never leaving our small hometown. I dunno, I feel like I packed a TON of living into my late teens/early 20s, going to college, lots of questionable decisions, traveling abroad solo, getting into (and out of) trouble, doing whatever I wanted, that by the time I settled down and got married, then had kids, I threw myself into being an awesome wife and mom with the same enthusiasm I had for living life ‘on my own terms’.
I think, ultimately, it worked out for pretty well for me. I went from wild party girl to devoted wife/mother, and have never felt any of the discontent or restlessness I’ve seen other friends have.
Bored_Acolyte_44@reddit
I am sure most of them are dead.
Everyone I have known that is our age that has a story like this hasn't made it past 40, many not past 30.
So many of the people I knew who were like this are gone. They just didn't make it. That behavior was already a sign that our society was fucked up.
Suitable-Peanut@reddit
That's a ridiculous over exaggeration. Myself and most of my friends started drinking and smoking weed in 8th-9th grade and pretty much haven't stopped in 30 years.
I learned my limits at an early age and didn't feel the need to go nuts when I got to college like most people who were getting their first taste of party life. I've managed my unhealthy habits and never crossed the line into alcoholism while maintaining a job, healthy relationships and a wife.
Most of us are not actually dead
willitplay2019@reddit
Totally agree. The kids that hadn’t been drinking all through high school were the most out of control in college, usually dangerously so (vomiting constantly, passing out anywhere, etc) - I remember being horrified as I felt like I was pretty aware of my limits by that point.
Illustrious-Tap8069@reddit
True. I didn't start until college and then made up for lost time the first two years. Mostly got it out of my system by 21.
Suitable-Peanut@reddit
Absolutely! Thank you for the confirmation. My friends and I always felt like we were a step ahead of everyone else 😆
Bored_Acolyte_44@reddit
Hey, I am glad you're not dead. But my anecdote still holds true in my own experience.
againandagain22@reddit
As a non-‘merican, I watch all the 80s high-school movies and think “yea, we know where that country was heading.”
At times we’re tempted to think that there was exaggeration but this thread is showing that tonnes of people live a fuckin middle school life that was WAY wilder than all those crazy high-school movies
JJosephmichaels@reddit
Middle school in Somerville MA around 94-95. A pack of Newport’s was $2.15 and a 40 of St Ides was $1.99. I seriously just shuddered thinking about it. Walking the train tracks with the crew drinking that on the way to a Friday night school dance in the cafeteria was a glorious time. Got to the dance and all us boys just stood along the wall, no amount of St Ides was enough to build the courage to ask a girl to dance.
I guess it was just the time and most of the other kids were all like this too. We’d find a house party, more like a gathering of people in someone’s basement, sneak some booze in, smoke butts and act cool. We were in fact not cool.
iwouldratherhavemy@reddit
Marboro reds were $1.25 a pack and a twelve pack of old Milwaukee was $5. The life of a trailer trash kid was pretty cheap back then.
Illustrious-Tap8069@reddit
Marlboro seems kind of fancy what about Basics or GPC?
iwouldratherhavemy@reddit
Winstons when you were almost broke, or in a pinch steal some menthols from my mom.
HijackedMyAccount@reddit
This is one of the few times you can believe every word of a comment someone made on the internet. This guy keeps it real.
InternationalRow1653@reddit
A pack of Newport 120s! We would get our mad dog and st ides by the cases every time. We did have a larger group of friends and we also had friends who were way too old to be hanging out with us.
Yogi_LV@reddit
Laughing about how (thankfully) strait laced my teenager is! 🤣
C_est_la_vie9707@reddit
This thread makes me sad. Childhood is so incredibly brief and adulthood is so long.
My fellow non-partying friends are not current nor former addicts, all have degrees most with Masters and some Doctorates, good careers, long-term relationships, kids, still see their extended families...
User_Says_What@reddit
Mine, too, but we're all boring as shit and have no stories to tell.
On the other hand, I've only buried one friend.
C_est_la_vie9707@reddit
We have lots of stories. They just don't involve drinking and having sex as a child. Don't get me wrong, I did stupid shit when I was in college and beyond, but I never look back at middle and high school as boring.
User_Says_What@reddit
I have no memories of middle school. Couldn't tell you anything I did or anything that happened, except for my 7th grade science teacher's last name and the fact that he wore white socks with Birkenstocks.
happyharrell@reddit
“Sex party?” Oh lord. Could you be any dorkier?
Sk8-BRDR@reddit
Definitely lived this life in middle School and am 48 now. The peoples houses we partied at are mostly meth heads now or in prison.
I got my GED at 16 and failed at college but am doing pretty good. Partying that hard at a young age either burns you out of that lifestyle Or you try and stay in it and end up under a bridge.
JennXL@reddit
Come to think of it, I did actually attend a sex party, but it wasn’t explicitly a sex party. It was just that they were all couples and there were no parents home.
I wasn’t particular popular, but was well liked. I was also a nerd who hung out on local BBSes and had a (cringe) internet boyfriend - who was 25. I was 16. He showed up at the house and he clearly gave everyone the ick. All the couples left for the bedrooms and we made out on the couch for most of the night. Ugh. I didn’t have the self-esteem to realize I never even liked the guy, I just liked the attention.
Anyway. I’m fine. Everything’s fine.
birdbandb@reddit
I ended up with some felonies. 🤷♀️
Ok_Education_5095@reddit
Started smoking and drinking in 8th grade. Just enjoyed being a fast kid. Still got good grades, went to a good university and am a productive member of society. Chose not to reproduce though. I could never handle a kid like me. Also, who would subject a human to life as an adolescent these days?
Ch4rlie_G@reddit
Similar story for me, but we had three kids in our 20s.
Two out of three avoided the addiction and party gene. The third is now threatening to turn me grey.
The biggest issue in current times is the consequences are so much worse. Especially when driving is involved. If you got pulled over 16 and drunk in my community when I was a kid the cop would just follow you home or tell you to walk home.
These days mistakes can be permanent
ketchupbear@reddit
Basically the same thing here except didn’t have great grades. Still turned out pretty alright though.
ManyDragonfly9637@reddit
I can say that the girl who was talking about these things in early middle school and was pregnant by 15 is now in a seemingly good marriage and just opened a restaurant. She seems to have a good relationship with her daughter. I’m basing this on social media so I could definitely be wrong.
She was a really sweet girl and her family was very nice but there was obviously a lot of dysfunction. Mom was single, overworked, and relied a lot on her looks. There was no supervision. They were all exposed to too many boyfriends and partying at a young age.
Witty-Ad-7477@reddit
I think I turned out fine but it definitely shapes who I am as a parent!
Unlikely_Stomach_748@reddit
I both fell behind in life and was forced to grow up quickly. I dropped out and had my first apartment at 17. Luckily I was smart and didn’t get married and have a kid until my 30s though.
I just finished college and am where I should be now, but doing such grown up stuff when I was 13 really stunted me. I put myself in a lot of situations where I was hurt and taken advantage of by older men. I also missed out on a lot of common milestones and it hurts a little to think about.
LastCallKillIt@reddit
Fuck, middle school? I was just riding my bmx bike around or playing my Sega Saturn lol. That shit was not on the radar lol
cranberries87@reddit
One of the wildest middle school classmates (was having sex, knew all about gangs and gang life in 7th grade) ended up becoming a big time attorney up in DC. She is also a world traveller, would constantly go on amazing trips around the world. Everybody wasn’t such a success story, but she’s the one I knew the best and remember the most.
I was Little Miss Good Clean Church Girl. I wouldn’t change anything per se - wouldn’t use drugs or become sexually active if I had it to do over again - but I think my mindset, judgmentalness and black and white thinking didn’t really take me that far.
desnuts_00@reddit
It took me about 8 years to get a degree because I didn’t stop partying after HS. It took most of my friends a long time too but we all got our shit together, got married, have careers and own houses. My HS friends and I still drink and smoke too much (weed and cigarettes) but the crazy sex has definitely died down 😉
JeffTS@reddit
We had parties with booze and weed but not until high school. But dancing wasn't much of a thing. And sex parties? I wish!
SidFinch99@reddit
Sex party's in middle school?? WTF?? I didn't even hear about any sex parties in college, and had no trouble hooking up.
Did you grow up in some small town in the south with mostly evangelicals or something?
If sex parties were in middle school, what was high school, Crystal Meth?
InternationalRow1653@reddit
If you are in a small town in the South, then you my friend, were probably a sheltered child. Cause some of your middle school friends were doing exactly as this post describes. We just didn't blast our business as much then. If people knew, then they would probably tell on us or wanna join and we didn't need more heads on whatever we had
SidFinch99@reddit
I'm definitely not from a small town in the south. I always lived in and around major metro areas, but when I went to college, it was always the kids from small southern towns that were getting fucked up. Most, but certainly not all, had a much harder time adapting, and a lot didn't make it past their Sophomore year before dropping out.
Where I went to Jr. High and High School, everything from academics, to sports, to even what type of part time job you were working was incredibly competitive. That comes with its own set of challenges. We definitely had parties, kids definitely did drugs, but it wasn't our weekend lifestyle and certainly not "sex parties" in middle school. We were all way to busy between school, extracurricular activities, and work.
VampireOnHoyt@reddit
Suburban Dallas. I was aware of this stuff happening but didn't participate on account of having super-religious parents who actually paid attention to what I was doing. It often felt like I was the only person who actually had parental supervision.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
I was in Philadelphia and my parents knew I was sometimes smoking pot, drinking, and had taken LSD but I was tame and experimental compared to classmates, friend's older siblings, etc. My dad's niece from Generation Jones was a hippie and smoked pot daily in the 1960s and 1970s, took uppers or describe, downers like reds (seconal), quaaludes, LSD, and shrooms, etc. she stopped by the time she was in her 30s, working, divorced and in grad school.
LastMonitor4274@reddit
Rural and city schools and the rumored situations weren’t just rumors in the city school. One group had access to an area in the school backrooms and used that. They got caught and the rumors were quickly squashed. We had a school for pregnant teens which included at least one 12 year most years. (We had an bad sex ed program)
One really random situation was in high school. We had a vampire cult. It was really just a creepy older dude who did vampire roll play and push out all the guys leaving only teenage/younger women. Supposedly they had orgies and tried to rob some parent’s business and got caught.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
In the class ahead of me in high school a girl I knew used some classroom after school to have sex with her boyfriend, she did not get pregnant and a janitor caught them. Her friend was 15-16 and started "dating" this much older black guy in his early or mid 20s, smoking blunts with him, got pregnant and dropped out of school.
drunkpickle726@reddit
maryland too. high school was heroin
Cute-Significance351@reddit
Can confirm this! But with coke.
PersianCatLover419@reddit
I was in Philadelphia there was lots of coke/crack, heroin, PCP or angel dust, LSD, MDA, opiate pills, pot, shrooms, MDA/MDMA, etc. it was much easier to get any illegal drug you wanted than it was to get tobacco and alcohol under age. Thankfully I never liked or really used hard drugs.
All of the kids I knew that got into using cocaine at parties on weekends all became addicted to it, moved onto heroin, and we had 11 people in our high school class die from overdoses. Kids would go to nearby areas of the city and buy hard drugs. There was a kid in my class that smoked crack and I was shocked he is still alive. One guy I knew took MDA/MDMA daily for at the most 2-3 years, or at least for an entire year. I had friends that had tried coke at parties sophomore, junior, or our senior year and they were addicted by the time we graduated. I was not into hard drugs, never took MDA/MDMA, ketamine, etc. I cut all ties with them as they all became poly drug addicts.
Easy_Independent_313@reddit
New England.
SecondSaintsSonInLaw@reddit (OP)
Chicago
LazerShark1313@reddit
I was a late bloomer as far as sex, drugs, and parties. When I was 12 or 13 I’d still be hanging out at a friends house playing Final Fantasy 3. Good times. Prison was much, much later
me-1985@reddit
You talking about the skating rink? We turned out fine mostly. Lol
Appropriate-Food1757@reddit
Doing well. I didn’t get any ass in middle school but we partied a little. Many of my friends from back in the day kinda turned out to be losers, a few full blown alcoholics.
New_Needleworker_473@reddit
In middle school we would have sleepovers at this girl's house and the guys would have sleepover at the guys house next door. Always coordinated. The girl's parents were really lax so we got away with a lot of crazy stuff. No alcohol that I remember. No sex but lots of making out and pranking each other. I do remember one kid in 7th grade who almost died from huffing but he was alone in his garage not having a party at the time. He ended up with permanent brain damage. Totally sad.
mix0logist@reddit
I'm 44 now and I still haven't been invited to any of those parties!
Oh well, instead of playing Magic: The Gathering with my buds, now I'm teaching it to my 6-year-old. The circle of life continues.
User_Says_What@reddit
I'm teaching my daughter and her friends. All they want to do is play 7mv beaters and attack each other. It's amusing to watch and referee their games.
Jwilcox418@reddit
Yea. I’m sober now and happy I’m still kicking. I have an 11 year old and looking at him and thinking about how I was smoking weed and drinking just a year older than him blows my mind. I have a lot of friends who either didn’t make it out of their 20s or made it with serious substance abuse problems. It was definitely a “different time” compared to today. No sex though. That didn’t come till high school lol.
BigDaddyUKW@reddit
Hell yeah we were drinking, smoking weed and cigs at middle school parties, and kids were making out! Only a few kids got laid before high school, mostly it was just first & second base. The 90's were wild bruh.
aRealPanaphonics@reddit
I was a, to quote Homer Goes to College, NERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRD.
None of that happened with me until college, and even then, only barely.
Antique-Sun-6766@reddit
I’m still dancing, drinking, and having sex :)
FALSE_PROTAGONIST@reddit
Feeling my age lol
YoureABoneMachine@reddit
I partied very hard in high school and after. I'm a mid level exec who's never missed a mortgage payment in 19 years and have numerous other markers of success. I still like to throw down 1-2 times a year. It's called balance 😂
aenflex@reddit
I didn’t start doing any of that until 9th grade. I wasn’t huge on drinking until my late 20s. But I smoked a lot of pot and went to parties and had sex.
A_lunch_lady@reddit
I survived! Totally sober for over two years. I did battle some alcohol and weed issues in recent years. Some of my friends are still battling addiction, some died, and some are doing ok.
SpilldaBeanz@reddit
Yeah, this was high school somebody’s parents would be out of town and it was game on
DrMushroomStamp@reddit
More in highschool. My mother or my best friends mother would once in a while allow us to have parties. We would go to school tell a few people. Collect money. And one of our mothers or another friends grandmother would buy a case of super sugary bullshit booze like mad dog or boonse farm. We would get plastered playing kings or waterfalls and watch movies like Friday or labyrinth until everyone passed out. Rule was, if you came over, you didn’t leave that night. Parents knew we were going to go out and drink in a ditch at best, so they allowed a few of us a “safer” alternative. Yes we were pretty sexually active, but not everyone in some orgy sense. Somebody might get head on a couch while somebody else was playing in a chair at the other end of the room. Someone was in a closet - literally. My buddy really liked to smash in the shower. Everyone fought over the extra bed or pullout sofa. We also had one of those cheap collapsible chairs, aka the flip and fuck. Now days we laugh our asses off at y’all with social media and camera phones… bc if we had that shit back then our parents would be locked up. Most of us that I still keep up with are pretty well adjusted IMO. Personally I needed that out my system at a young age, I probably would have screwed myself in college partying otherwise.
RedditModsSuckTaints@reddit
Professor at a large west coast university. Out of my friend group from back then 6/7 have at least a bachelors, 3 have a PhD and the one who doesn’t is a high school dropout who easily makes more than the rest of us.
CatBoyTrip@reddit
i didn’t go to any wild parties in middle school but did do the late night sneaking out, drinking and hooking up stuff.
elonmusktheturd22@reddit
I was a social outcast. I heard about stuff like that by overhearing conversations at the next table over but had no first hand experience
BoredPandemicPanda@reddit
Ooo the St. Ides era. Gangsta and still alive!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYEZQ9S6DXk
YANIWOX@reddit
I was at a party where a guy did this and of course had to pee. He wanted his friends to help him, they wouldn’t. So he smashed the 40s together. Awful situation that resulted in the ER. Could have been much worse.
He still ended up pissing himself.
ApplePie_1999@reddit
The game of kings
glamb70@reddit
Kings cup was crazy! All the alcohol in 1 cup! Loser chugs.
Wasn’t ’waterfalls’ part of this game also?! No wonder we were throwing up every weekend. 🤣
Reasonable_Leg_4664@reddit
I’m 42 and just played Kings cup with my buddy, his wife and their college age kids. They thought they were teaching us a cool game they learned in the dorms. We even had to door dash more alcohol. Couldn’t do that in the 90’s!
ApplePie_1999@reddit
A new era, but OG is OG. I vividly remember not remembering playing these games more than classes in college.
Dustteas@reddit
Peeing was the worst!!
No-Box-1362@reddit
That’s why the pros wore sweatpants
Cloud_Disconnected@reddit
I learned about St. Ides from a bu--unhoused individual. We were in line with 30 'Stones but figured, hey, this guy probably knows what he's talking about. He did.
RabbitNumber8@reddit
We did this in college! 🤣
glamb70@reddit
Did that in college! OMG! All laughs and wet pants within an hour. 🤣
Amamboking2@reddit
I came here to say. MD2020 = regret.
Acceptable-Double-98@reddit
Dang I was a saint lol
A_Stones_throw@reddit
I was a straight arrow up until college really, felt like a loser since I had to be home to help out my siblings esp the youngest with special needs all the time. My best friend in HS tho, his brother was 5 years older than him and exposed him to a lot of stuff pretty early on. Drinking, weed, even some of the harder stuff. Wasn't until his parents split up in HS that I think he dialed it back a bit and focused on playing football which he loved , and even then that was taken away as he blew out his knee and his grades weren't quite good enough to get a scholarship.
Went to college and came back every summer and winter break to hang, he's still living and bumming around our beachside resort hometown, just trying to get by. Was making ends meet selling cars and selling weed, with really nothing to show for it. When I graduated from college, think he had a "WTF am a doing with my life moment" as he joined thr Navy and became a nuclear technician. I cant think of a reason he would have done that on his own without the wakeup call of what his peers are doing at 22. Now, his wife is an officer and I believe hes either still in or about yo be out and thry havr 2 daughters together.
JJtheQ@reddit
This was more 16-17 college years for us. Me? Lol I'm a mess 😂
HoyAIAG@reddit
I started drinking at 14. I was an alcoholic for 16 years. I am 13 years sober now. I lost some of my friends along the way, but my life now is doing very well.
TopicRealistic7634@reddit
Considering it was my dysfuntional unsafe parent buying the booze, cigarettes and cough medicine so she could party with 8th and 9th graders. She would force me into kissing games and Seven Minutes in Heaven in the closet and I hated it. She bought my Youth group booze and had mixed gender sleepovers when my Dad was out of town. I spent a long time battling alcoholism but I am 5 years sober now thanks to almost a decade of therapy.
Life got better and healthier for me when I went no contact with my family of origin after I spent a decade in therapy trying to make the relationship work and not be so harmful to me.
My mom has a personality disorder and my dad is her enabler.
heykatja@reddit
I didn’t even figure out how to get alcohol until like a month before my 21st. So I’m obviously not here to answer. 😂
Ughinvalidusername@reddit
We stole it.
Basic-Pair8908@reddit
Had the odd house party, mostly we were breaking into abandoned warehouses and having techno raves with plenty of drink and (not personally) drugs. Now in my 40s i still go to sex parties with the gf. But drinking not so much, mainly on the zero % stuff these days.
SaveusJebus@reddit
Well, I knew a pregnant girl in 7th grade. Yes, really fucked up but child me didn't really understand how messed up it was. I think I was one of her only friends. She was super nice and would tell me about her pregnancy until one day she wasn't in school anymore. I think about her from time to time. I hope she's doing ok.
naamingebruik@reddit
Married with a daughter and a foster son. And stay at home disabled (genetic condition) dad
May or may not get divorced. My wife wants to save the marriage, but as I am now I'm done with it. nobody cheated or something like that, it's just build up of annoyances, and during the vacation when we were together 24 hours for 14 days realizing I'm actually miserable when I have to put up with her and her voice, and her annoyed look and her annoyed sighs all the time and so many fights over our boy... (he has adhd and autism) and differences in dealing with his behaviour and her unwillingness to put her fucking phone aside, get up and either remove him from the situation or discipline him when he's misbehaving. Until I get mad at him and raise my voice and then all of a sudden I'm doing things wrong...
I'm not easy to live with either as I mostly just want to be left alone and am behind my pc way too much, and I don't like when she speaks to me about trivial stuff and I visibly don't care at all about whatever annoyed her at work this or that day, so I know where the sighing comes from. But yeah
Skywren7@reddit
I never did that. But when I was 16, I was at college parties all the time. Not frat crap. We went to parties where dead heads lived because the beer was always fancy and there was acid and weed. 😂
ImprovementThat2403@reddit
I’m from the UK and ages 14-18 were like this for me, it was wild. I’m doing okay now, I’m an in house lawyer for a large organisation.
I had a girlfriend from 13-16 so the sex was monogamous, but when that ended it was just raves, drugs and one night stands. Sounds like fun but honestly a lot of crappy drug sex.
How it affected me is that I battled some addictions for my 20s, lots some people close to me who were part of that scene to drug overdoses and I recognise now the tremendous risks we all took back then.
I can’t change any of it so I accept it and have moved on.
Sudden-Shock3295@reddit
I grew up in MYC started my drinking journey in 8th grade (malt liquor => box red wine => scotch) and I think I first smoked weed and went to a party where everyone spent the night and hooked up - I want to say ninth or tenth grade, probably tenth? Didn’t start hard drugs till college: opium, ketamine, ecstasy, mushrooms, methamphetamine, and then in grad school: coke. No desire to ever do any hard drugs ever again - they got extremely tedious and not fun lol.
Still will happily smoke or eat an edible with a glass of wine or whatever to relax.
Turned out fine I think: happy marriage, excellent career, great friends and family.
smallboxofcrayons@reddit
I had a older girlfriend(17 to my 14) who took me to some of these parties so we could hang out, hookup and get stoned/drunk. She kept getting into harder stuff which I stupidly followed. I overdosed which caused both our families to find out and her parents blamed me for this. The whole experience actually caused me to be fairly straight edge through college, joked a lot that it was better to get this out of my system as teen so i didn’t fuck to more as an adult.
101violations@reddit
Became a teen mom. Married & divorced 2x. Lots of self-destructive behavior as I raised my kid, worked three jobs and slowly pursued higher education.
Kid is grown. I'm currently halfway through my Masters program. Sober for almost 2yrs. Enjoy my career and quiet life with my 2 cats as I save and plan for retirement in about 15ish yrs or so.
When I think back, I'm seriously shocked I'm not only still alive but thriving.
AssignmentPublic@reddit
I'm definitely way better suited for the dating world - that we ALL are in nowadays after people's divorces - than the people who didn't sneak out to party back then. I used to be a little envious of the ones who married young, but they are sruggling in these streets.
skipearth@reddit
Listen I grew up in NY and yes we had parties, malt liquor etc. All the time. In 7th grade we would smoke a blunt and drink a 40 at lunch. Some of my friends from back then are doing great and others dead or in jail. I made a good life for myself and after just casual drinking in my 30s no longer drink at all. I have been maries for 15 years and everything is good.
Danfromvan@reddit
Same!
Careless_Lion_3817@reddit
Idk. I was born in a hippie college town, moved and grew up in regular suburbs until age 12…then moved to rural mountains…I’ve been shy and introverted and a class clown popular kid all at once sometimes…went through dark, goth, anti everything eras….been all kinds of prude to loose (in adult years)….clean to addict to sober to addict to just struggling….dont judge someone bc of how they appear on the outside. I don’t think I’ve ever been conventionally attractive but I had a vibe at times that drew a lot in to the point it scared me…I didn’t like having that kind of lure/draw…some people do…be wary of those who revel in that or secretly wish they could
a-ha_partridge@reddit
Those were real stories. They were definitely doing that.
I don’t know that we ever called them sex parties, but my friends and I did a lot of partying in Junior high. Certainly we were drinking whatever we could get ahold of and some of us were hooking up.
How am I doing? In a word, fine. I’m a dad, I’m gainfully employed, I live in a house in the city and almost always have clean laundry. My wife and I won the pub trivia tonight.
I still drink beer and listen to music, but I rarely have the occasion to party these days as my friend group thinned when I moved to Seattle.
It was a time and a place - a magical one really, but it has no bearing on my life nowadays except some fun memories and a strong sense of gratitude that nothing too terrible happened to me along the way.
Careless_Lion_3817@reddit
If your life is great now, why do u care?
doorman666@reddit
Doing great. Own a couple properties, a successful business, married. One kid, who's awesome. Partying was a lot of fun, but I eventually put it aside to grow up.
fozzyfozzburn@reddit
I had a party when I was 16 that ended with an ambulance and 11 cop cars attending.
pivoslav@reddit
I was in the highschool basketball team, there were a lot of invitations. Nowadays I still like to go to parties.
IceCoughy@reddit
I'm in a wheelchair due to all the sex
Man_Bear_Beaver@reddit
I don’t know, I guess normal, married, no kids though, couldn’t imagine having to deal with a kid like me. OE was terrible warm.
glamb70@reddit
OE is terrible period. Warm, cold, hot, frozen. 😆
I remember thinking, how do people drink this stuff?! Then the buzz hit. 🤣
Man_Bear_Beaver@reddit
Definitely about the buzz, giant bottle could get you fucked up for very little money lol
PersianCatLover419@reddit
Did you ever play Edward 40 hands? I got drunk on beer and saint Ides at 19 or 20, never again.
spykedaddy@reddit
Hosted a lot of these parties at that age. Turned out fine I guess. Most of my depression issues stemmed from adult trauma. Surely doesn’t have anything to do with what I became attracted to in my developmental years.
GuttedFlower@reddit
There's a reason party kids become that way. We were all looking for something more, imo. Some of us found it. Some of us keep finding it. Some of us got left behind. Some of us are already dead. I'm doing alright, but I live with a certain amount of chaos in my personal life that I'm partly to blame for bringing it upon myself. I don't think I was ever destined to live a normal life, but gd I didn't expect this.
Conscious_Home_4253@reddit
We went to Roller Palace on Friday nights, watched scary movies after school and made prank phone calls. Spin the bottle (of soda) was about as risky as it got in middle school.
ryanbrownstar@reddit
Having dancing drinking sex parties in middle age fuck yeah
Basic-Ad-8679@reddit
I’m still doin that, I’m still alive
Clevergirlphysicist@reddit
Damn. I still had my Barbies in 7th grade (but wouldn’t admit it). I still had a kid brain at that age, and looking back, I’m grateful for that
VIPreality@reddit
I was going to say! I was still playing with my Bryer horses when I was 12!
pseudonymmed@reddit
I wasn’t getting invited to big parties and I rarely heard about any big teen parties. I did however drink now and then (from age 15) in smaller gatherings of my friends and sometimes we might meet up with some small group that had at least one connection with someone in ours. We either met outdoors somewhere or at the house of someone who had lax parents who weren’t around, or at one friend’s place whose Dad let her get her own place at 16. Same with weed and shrooms. Some of us were sexually active but mostly in relationships and there was no sex at these events. I heard there were keg parties but in our small town that was for rednecks and us alternative kids avoided them. We started going to raves though.
Reasonable_Leg_4664@reddit
Bon fires by the lake, 4x4 in the mud, sneaking out of the house to chase girls, definitely some messing around in the theater and parties in middle to high school. Now I’m upper middle class and running a company. lol. Married and no kids. Life is awesome
jp112078@reddit
Middle school? Nope. High school we were drinking wine coolers and everything we could get our hands on. Maybe people made out and did other innocuous shit, but there was no “sex party”. I’m doing pretty well by all accounts. I do need to cut back on drinking a little more in my older age though TBH.
inghostlyjapan@reddit
I don't know what middle school is, it goes straight from primary school to highschool here, but sleepovers seamlessly transitioned from a few people watching movies all night to 5-10 of us hanging out and drinking and stuff when my cohort reached about 14.
Some of those (when parents were away) became sausage fest "parties" with maybe 25 people max.
The first real house parties with 50+ people and equal gender representation and more than weed didn't really start until around when I was 15.
I'm going great BTW travelled the world, paid off my house last year and have decent retirement savings going.
Signal-Philosophy271@reddit
Oooohh. I ran with bad girlies, but I was too scared to have sex, but hung with the crowd that did, drank, did drugs, dated older dudes, etc. I’m doing pretty well! Got into a cool industry, lived in some great cities and had some wonderful life experiences. Can’t complain, but I also ran far, far away from that city to bigger and better things after college.
anOvenofWitches@reddit
There were other factors at play, but hearing about stuff like this motivated me to get out there and slut/drug it up as soon as I got out of my ugly duckling phase. How am I doing now? I survived.
flamingknifepenis@reddit
Same. I grew out of my ugly duckling phase all at once in college, and proceeded to … uh … make up for lost time.
Survived by the skin of my teeth, with no baby mamas and only minor drug habits that I don’t need to go to support groups for, but I go back and forth between a certain amount of shame and quite a bit of pride. Not pride because I did it in some macho “Yea look at how cool I am” thing but pride because I survived it when a few people I knew didn’t.
I kind of wished I didn’t had to carry some of the emotional baggage around with me of feeling like I fucked up, but as someone who just presents as fairly mundane I do love being able to drop crazy stories that start with hanging out on an anarchist commune and deciding to ride my bike 25 miles back through the woods on acid so I could rescue a friend from a shitty frat party, etc. I guess that’s the silver lining.
GrimMatsuri@reddit
Probably the most dull person you’d ever know now.
I look at it like I got all of the partying out my system and by my early 20s I was done and damaged lol.
Became an absolute bore after but I’m fine with that now.
leicanthrope@reddit
We had a handful of the Less Than Zero parties, fewer than the wealthiest schools in the district though. Not that anyone invited me to any…
cigarandcreamsoda@reddit
Does watching Sixteen Candles and Can’t Hardly Wait count?
HicJacetMelilla@reddit
The beer has gone bad!
picklepuss13@reddit
Mine was much like yours... so I dunno, but I heard bout that stuff and remember kids talking about that or having like anal sex at somewhat early ages (14/15?)... I was like, wtf, I've never even had a gf or kissed anybody. I didn't go to a party or have a sip of alcohol until my junior year of high school.
phishin165@reddit
It was a long journey to the middle.
Character_Bend_5824@reddit
I definitely remember middle school as being more like high school than high school turned out to be. This is because I went to a magnet high school where I could barely keep up and spent all my time doing homework. The "cool kid" days were in middle school. I remember a popular 7th grader talking about always needing to be in a relationship and being addicted to women. At the time, I thought he must be so grown up. Now, I wonder if maybe he was just repeating the type of tropes his absent father would say. I do recall one 6th grade James Dean type who drank at a bar and was probably screwing older women from the bar. In hindsight, there is no way his brain was ready for that at such a young age and it would almost certainly be considered grooming. I heard he dropped out and died in a knife fight around 17.
tweedchemtrailblazer@reddit
I was smart enough when I was young to know that I was young and I could get away with that then but I’d have to change eventually. I always planned to get out of my town and go to college. I left my dirtbag friends behind, moved to the biggest city the next state over, got a degree, and eventually moved out west. I make well over 6 figures and spend my winters skiing and summers whitewater rafting. I’d say it turned out ok.
Oceanbreeze871@reddit
I must have been a late bloomer, I was still watching cartoons and playing Nintendo in middle school. Girls were scary. Still are. lol
Charles_Mendel@reddit
Adrift in a sea of decadent luxury and meaningless sex.
ManWhoTalksToHisHand@reddit
My friends and I started partying like that after 8th grade during that summer vacation before 9th, so we were basically innocent wee babes during middle school. I remember the 7th graders when I was in 8th were already partying.
TheMysteriousSalami@reddit
Great!
Stunning_Radio3160@reddit
What kind of dork was I ?? This sounds insane to me. I never even had a first kiss til after high school ended.
RonWill79@reddit
quiet_coquette@reddit
Right? I was too busy trying to beat Super Mario World.
Gonna_do_this_again@reddit
My teeth are shit and I've completely destroyed my pancreas, but otherwise I can't complain
RaygunMarksman@reddit
Ohh, yeah the malt liquor we thought was so cool. Old English. 8-ball. Like a lot of folks here, a good chunk of friends I had who would party in middle school are dead now. The ones that stayed in our hometown all had major drug issues.
My life has been messy, especially my 20's, but I have surprisingly sometimes not done bad for being a total slacker who started partying too young. Decent career, two young adult children that are awesome, and a lovely little divorce and heavy weed dependency behind me.
butterednoodlelovers@reddit
Any Xennials reading through the answers going, meh I never wanted to do the dancing, drinking or sex parties at any age?
I went to a few high school alcohol drug and sex type parties and was bored silly. Tried partaking hated it even more. Tried again at university and went this sucks why are people so into it?
It actually made me feel like such a misfit, and I couldn't find others like me, that it fucked with my mental health big time. I thought I was "supposed to fit in" and enjoy the "age appropriate tasks" but I just hated making myself fit in.
I was happiest chilling by myself in my bedroom doing my crafts and occasionally talking with strangers in chat rooms. Basically the same way as a mid 40 year old except I lost the ability or talent of finding cool strangers to talk too. I actually still have only know them online friends that still email, 30 years later.
8last@reddit
From my friends who had a2 home life where 'as long as its under my roof' Some turned out alright. Two are dead. 1 is a vegetable.
judeiscariot@reddit
I am doing great. Well, other than society right now. But personally, I am doing well.
Accomplished_Ad_4216@reddit
I'm doing alright! Never had a "sex party" but people for sure hooked up over a bottle of sour apple pucker. Now I have young kids and hope they get into much less serious shenanigans.
barters81@reddit
My 15 year old son is just starting all of this. I must have a very different relationship with him compared to me and my parents because he asked me to buy him a 6 pack for a recent party. :)
DerelicteConQueso@reddit
Ah, the lightweight traveler size...
ihatecleaningtoilets@reddit
I never did these and never heard about them either Some Kids were drinking in pastures but didn’t hear about hard liquor, drugs or sex
Eaglepursuit@reddit
We didn't have sex or drugs or booze that I knew of, but there were definitely folks getting to 3rd base in the basement closet at my 8th grade graduation party. And it wasn't me.
lurkermurphy@reddit
they weren't really doing all that mostly, just lying to you about it because middle school kids are gullible
Cute-Significance351@reddit
Speak for yourself dude
lurkermurphy@reddit
i found out when i started having sex with all those girls in high school and they were still virgins
Thisley@reddit
Nope. Total nerd before being a nerd was cool. I didn’t do any partying until college
YNABDisciple@reddit
I’m doing well but half my friends are dead. I have plenty of mental baggage but I got lucky in 100x ways while making some good choices and working hard and sacrificing at times. A lot of people helped along the way. I was drinking at 12 and smoking weed at 13. We were getting blowjobs and fingering our girls and causing mayhem. It lead to zero production in high school and stunted growth. I graduated from college at 27 and have spent 20 years battling the first 27 years of bad habits. That being said for the most part I have been partying and having a blast and generally doing what I wanted for 35 years. Would make a few changes but don’t feel like I’d completely change it. Now that I think about it in some ways I’m living a similar way to when I was 13 but with way more money and nicer places and going to cool destinations and shows and crazy parties. Actually…fuck yea! Haha
mister2021@reddit
Hello darkness my old friend
unlovelyladybartleby@reddit
I started drinking at 11. Dancing and sex came some years later. Actually sex came a fair bit before dancing, but there was a solid decade of raving in there
I'm okay. Finally in treatment for PTSD and that helps. My kid has been forced into therapy and is welcome to waste money and time by just chit chatting if he so chooses, I'm just building therapy as a habit and a normative act so when he needs it he knows what to do.
Designer_Emu_6518@reddit
My life became a party. Then I got tired. Still fun and party but like not that much
gomeitsmybirthday@reddit
Drinking parties yeah. Definitely didn't even hear about sex parties in middle school.
Sex came (no pun intended, truly.) in high school but what I really miss are the genuine romances I had around that period of my life. I have a wonderful memory of girl I was dating in a park one time that plays now in my mind like a scene from a movie. Many others memories too but that one sticks out.
Still drink maybe once or twice a month at most but I definitely partied too hard for too long. I think I'm doing okay though.
DarthMech@reddit
It was fun to meet the most beautiful girl and love of your life every other week. Literally the only downside to actually finding the right one in adulthood is that you give up that excitement. The trade-off is 100% worth it, but still a bit sad.
ElectrumDragon28@reddit
It was fine ffs
particularswamp@reddit
I’m doing good but if I took school more seriously I’d be a lot better. Most of the people I came up with are total fuck ups or dead.
MrNice1983@reddit
I can tell you for that 7th and 8th graders are getting into some insane shit. One of my 8th grade students is wearing an ankle monitor for shooting at a rival’s family home and parked car. Insane
After_Preference_885@reddit
One of my friends that was partying in middle school was doing meth at 11, stealing credit cards, selling stolen goods, selling her body when we were fresh out of hs. She got pregnant, ditched her abusive ex, got clean, and got into the pet industry. She's doing well. Kid is all grown up.
Another friend that started drinking in middle school was doing heroin in high school, got married and divorced right out of high school, got busted for fraud and a meth lab. She went to prison, lost custody of her first kid. She's also doing really good, got clean, got married, had another kid and went into business with her mom.
My mom was strict and I hated it at the time but those were my two best friends so I could have taken a much crazier path if she hadn't been so "mean" making me stay home.
keefkola@reddit
I did all that as I had way too much freedom and no discipline from home really. I developed a lack of of respect, a dependence on instant gratification, and many other messy characteristics. I would bet you turned out just fine and have a nice healthy life. There’s nothing wrong with growing up the way you did, your way would be my one do over.
BibFortunaCookie@reddit
I was a late bloomer, didnt do anything until HS.
Impossible-Will-8414@reddit
Late bloomer is more like not doing anything until after college.
mclargehuuge@reddit
Drank a few times in middle school. Smoked a joint or two. High school it really picked up. Then one day in my late twenties, I just quit. I couldnt handle the sunday shame that always came after I drank a ton. As far as sex parties, those didn’t happen. If people were banging in middle school we didn’t know about it.
s-multicellular@reddit
I got all the excessive of that type of thing out of my system before I graduated high school. While a lot of people were partying hard in college, I was focused. I am doing great. Attorney, good interesting job, wife, kid, dog. I still party in a sense, playing music. But I basically haven’t been drinking or used drugs in ages. I never really had problem behavior with them. That all just became rather underwhelming to me.
grummanae@reddit
I was the awkward loner
Voted most likely to change the world ... by going columbine and that happened in 98 I graduated in 99
I had 2 siblings 12 years younger ... I didn't party living at home but did after at my first attempt at college
Made bad choices ... or ones tgat wouldn't get me far
Realized one morning after working graveyard at a meat processing plant that I wanted more and that staying in the town I was at was just going to lead me to getting on a path ... then self destructing ... It only took 2 times around that wheel for me but ...
So I did what every normal 20 year old pre 9/11 kid with a dead end job and no chances at college I walked my happy ass into a recruiters office
Had a really awkward interview were an 80 year old doctor needed to see my butthole and I duck walked in briefs with 40 other guys but got the job ...
Id say out of my class we graduated at 230 and we've.. that I know of lost about 10 so far Im not sure I dont keep up with that stuff
1 due to a heart attack before he was 30 And at least 3 due to drugs And then there are car accidents and the like Then there was 20 years of war .... so
DarthMech@reddit
This seems like a bit more hardcore than what most people were actually experiencing. It was more like somebody’s parents would be out of the house, we’d steal some Zima, hang out for a bit drinking and smoking, then sneak off to the bedrooms to do our thing. I grew up beach white trash, so it was a pretty normal thing at 12-13.
SecondSaintsSonInLaw@reddit (OP)
I dunno, check these replies. Some folks were definitely about that life
DarthMech@reddit
I’m just saying “sex party” sounds more like an orgy than what most people are describing here. Sure, people drank and hooked up, but I don’t think a lot of Eyes Wide Shut stuff was going on. I lost my virginity at 12, but I never found myself at an orgy. Sure, I had a threesome at 13 when I went to my girlfriend’s besty’s house to enjoy the hottub while here mom was at work. I even remember one rager party when I was like 14 where it started raining and two of the hottest seniors in the school stripped down to their bra and panties and started mud wrestling in the backyard. Still, I wouldn’t call any of these “sex parties” even if sex did happen…cause that is what results when you combine booze and teenage hormones.
DarthMech@reddit
I’m just saying “sex party” sounds more like an orgy than what most people are describing here. Sure, people drank and hooked up, but I don’t think a lot of Eyes Wide Shut stuff was going on. I lost my virginity at 12, but I never found myself at an orgy. Sure, I had a threesome at 13 when I went to my girlfriend’s besty’s house to enjoy the hottub while her mom was at work. I even remember one rager party when I was like 14 where it started raining and two of the hottest seniors in the school stripped down to their bra and panties and started mud wrestling in the backyard. Still, I wouldn’t call any of these “sex parties” even if sex did happen…cause that is what results when you combine booze and teenage hormones.
Edit: I just want to add this embarrassing story. When I lost my virginity at 12, the girl was 14 and decided it would be a great idea to talk to her aunt about it. Her aunt then told her mother. I ended up having to sit down with her and her mom and dad to basically discuss why I shouldn’t be fucking their daughter. Furthermore, I was told that I had to tell my single father what I had done. So, I wrote him a letter and left it on the table explaining, “I had sex with Jenny. I hope you aren’t mad.” He called me into the dining room and was like, “Did you use protection?” I said, “Yes.” He responded, “Ok, that’s smart. Just keep doing that, but this is your personal life. I don’t really need to be involved unless you want to talk to me about it.” I said, “No, thanks….but…ummm…Jenny’s parents would like to talk to you about it.” To which he said, “Yeah, I’m not going to do that.”
JaredUnzipped@reddit
Wait, you guys had sex parties?
Lcky22@reddit
The worst I did in middle school was smoke cigarettes.
There was a girl in our class who wasn’t allowed to take sex Ed who got pregnant in 8th grade but her boyfriend was older.
QuietNene@reddit
99% of the guys who told you they were having sex at house parties were lying to you. The others are probably rapists.
fairlyaveragetrader@reddit
Not that many people were doing drugs but everyone was having sex or some type of sexual activity where I was. It made me really relaxed about everything. Underage driving was also a thing, taking the car keys when your parents went to sleep. Did it have some type of impact on how I view life? Probably, like I see social conservatives as weirdos and strict sexual outlooks as odd. I don't even feel like I really had that many partners, I'd only been with three girls/women by the time I turned 18 but no one really counted making out or touchy hugging which happened on a weekly basis
The other one I remember which is looked at very differently today is the college high school across. I remember when I was 14 messing around with a girl who just started college that was 19. I remember guys that were in their twenties that were hooking up with girls I went to high school with that were anywhere between 14 and 17. No one really cared and today, at least internet people really care. Granted a lot of them are probably incels. I'm not sure what it's actually like in the social circles anymore since I'm not in one. back then people would absolutely lose it if someone wasn't willing, like that was the giant red line that you would get beat up for or reported or you know generally not accepted. But 23 and 15, no one cared if they were friends and both people were willing
Roaminsooner@reddit
Middle school?? 🫨
jessek@reddit
I never got invited to those. I was at home watching Doctor Who and working on drawing a comic book on Friday nights.
Impossible-Will-8414@reddit
There was a whole HBO series about this in the early 2000s called "Middle School Confessions," and it was honestly a bit disturbing.
theRestisConfettii@reddit
Wait…
This was a thing?
Deep-Interest9947@reddit
It wasn’t constant, but I drank and smoked weed for the first time in middle school. My two best friends both had sex in middle school. I recently found my middle school diary that had a disturbing entry about me handling a gun and talking down the person who brought said gun to the party.
But overall I was a good girl. High school cheerleader. Honor society. College scholarships. Didn’t personally lose my virginity until my 20s.
DarthMech@reddit
The metal kid across the street from me when I was a teenager would hang out with other metalheads in his garage blasting music pretty much all the time cause his parents were never home. One day the music stopped and there was banging on my front door. I answered and the kid told me his friend shot himself. My dad was home so I grabbed him and we rushed over. Metal kid across the street was playing with a gun and managed to shoot himself right through the cheek. My dad had his finger in this kids cheek until the paramedics arrived. Thankfully, the kid survived, but that whole situation was fucked. Moral of the story is, if you have kids, keep your guns properly secured or don’t own one at all.
Deep-Interest9947@reddit
That’s terrible. I’m glad the kid made it.
That one night was the one and only time I handled a handgun. The boy who brought it was a good friend of mine in 7-8th grade. He moved after 8th grade. I googled him recently and he’s dead. 3 more of his siblings/half siblings died before 45. It’s sad.
SinchyOne@reddit
We were getting black out drunk and smoking P Dogs in junior high. I'm good though, got a job and worked my way up. Some of my "classmates" are dead or in jail. Some of them are doing ok. The girls are obese losers or grandma's already lol
NighthawkCP@reddit
Haha I didn't do any of that but you story is true for me growing up in small town eastern NC. A decent number of the guys who started partying, drugging, and smoking in middle school have died (mostly OD'd in recent years but previously was alcohol poisoning or other stupid shit). The ones still alive and back in our hometown mostly haven't done shit with their lives, with a handful of exceptions. The few that got out usually had better outcomes if they made it out of college. Several are in jail.
Of the girls that partied this hard, almost all of them from my high school have had kids by now. Most of them have been married and divorced at least once with one classmate being on at least marriage number 3 now. I know 3-4 that have grandchildren already, some with a couple of grandkids by different children. And as you mentioned, most of these women are not in the best physical shape, not that I'm one to cast stones in glass houses, but I'm just a bit overweight, not obese and likely diabetic or prediabetic. I don't think any of the party girls have died yet, but one came really close in a horrific DUI accident where she was behind the wheel drunk off her ass. A number of them are on drugs though or at least have been at times in the past. Couple have been in trouble with the law but only one is incarcerated and she was arrested for having sex with an underaged boy. I have I believe 3 male classmates that have served time for similar offenses.
IAm5toned@reddit
Nice try, mom.
TotoRabane@reddit
Where exactly did these parties happen? In the suburbs? 🤔👀
No_Kaleidoscope9901@reddit
Yes! My middle school years in a middle-to-upper class suburb were wild. Where to begin?
Lots of drinking and smoking cigarettes. For whatever reason, drugs were not a thing. We even brought alcohol to school! I remember a “bad kid”’s brother cleaning his gun in front of me.
Several friends lost their virginity in middle school. One friend who lived in a big fancy house used to sneak the neighbor boy in through her window in the middle of the night to have sex. Another friend lost her virginity at a party (during the day?) and other kids sat around and listened to them have sex by calling the base of the cordless phone that was in the bedroom (remember how you could do that?).
We used to sneak out to TP houses. One friend would brazenly steal her parents convertible and drive it around town.
By high school, about half of us shaped up and got serious about school (but kept drinking and smoking). The other half kind of burned out. I got into a good college and moved across the country. I’m not really sure what happened to those that stayed behind.
I have a middle school age kid now, and I can’t believe I was his age and doing these things. He’ll still play with army men if given the chance.
LindenChariot@reddit
See, this is why when people say they want to move to the suburbs to give their kids a wholesome childhood I’m just like 👀👀👀
Easy_Independent_313@reddit
I'm great. I had my first son at 33, my second at 37. They are doing great. Marriage to their dad didn't work out but that's okay.
I have a nice career. Own a lovely home. Go on two decent vacations a year. Marrying a man who also had drinking, sex and drug parties in middle and high school. He has a great job with the state and is a department head.
Life is actually really nice. Guess everyone should have had drinking and sex parties in middle school.
Cute-Significance351@reddit
Doing great, thanks! Def was going to/throwing parties, running from the cops, shoplifting, skipping school, and more in middle school. Lost my v-card at 14, gave first bj at 12. I vividly remember the day my friend got fingered at the lunch table in 7th grade. I was so jealous lol.
All I can say is, THANK GOD everyone didn't have a literal camera/recording device in their pocket at all times! I would have been so screwed.
I see kids this age nowadays and they seem like toddlers.
Lazy-Associate-4508@reddit
Yeah had a hell of a time, but half of us are dead. The other half are sober or mostly sober.
Mysterious-Twist-693@reddit
Ha! I remember doing all of that shit in high school! Frankly I turned out just fine. Used condoms and never got into hard drugs. Happy married, boring mom these days. Boy the old times were fun!
FastWalkingShortGuy@reddit
We used to get our hands on Smirnoff Ice and various bottles from our friend's really lax dad's basement fridge, and set up some tents in the backyard with a bonfire, and then skinny dip and play strip poker and truth or dare.
I'm pretty sure his parents thought, "Ah, the last days of innocent youth, when they can still enjoy camping in the back yard."
Yeah, we were drunk and doing things with each other we shouldn't have been doing at that age.
Surprisingly, no teen pregnancies, and everyone from those parties grew up to be successful adults, except the one guy who died.
mdmommy99@reddit
Definitely wasn't allowed to have these kind of parties. In my middle school experience we were usually sneaking and doing these things but they were definitely happening and I was participating at times.
I turned out fine. Finished college and grad school, got married had kids, good job. All the regular stuff. All of the others that I was partying with turned out about the same.
NopeYupWhat@reddit
I was a skater kid in the 90s. Shit was wild. I was smart enough to not get into heavy drugs. Some of my friends didn’t make it who did. That movie kids was an accurate picture of the unsupervised lifestyle many of us were living. It was a phase and many of us grew up, went to college and got regular jobs. I’m a design manager at a major us corp. Also all the wild times in high school I didn’t party at all in college.
Capn26@reddit
Okay. This is my experience. I had glasses, wasn’t athletic. Was a nerd. My friends I and used to spend the night together and dream about these parties. While we did, we raided lower cabinets, parents smokes and I made out with my friends English sister. What were didn’t realize? We did WAY more than the cool kids. Ten people drinking one Boones darn and slow dancing was lame. It took years for us to realize. We had a ball. Made some AWFUL drinks. Like Mr mean green…….🤢
Blackbird136@reddit
I was also a goody goody in high school (that changed in college lol). Anyway, a friend invited me to a party in 10th grade. Our moms were tight so I was essentially forced to go even though it really wasn’t my scene. I feel like I knew I was going to be in above my head but my mom had no idea it would be that way. 😩
I get dropped off and my friend’s parents aren’t home. There’s alcohol and weed and coke and acid. All I’d been around prior to this was alcohol, and even that is strong wording…I’d had a few sips of things here and there. I’d never been drunk. I did not do anything at the party, I was SO uncomfortable.
The kids who were doing the acid went out on the deck and long story short, someone chipped a tooth and another broke an arm. The cops showed up and I was mortified because I never even wanted to be there in the first place.
Allureme@reddit
Turned out fine.
Aught_To@reddit
Fuckin killing it. Got a solid IT job, cool cars, dope house in woods. Still smoke weed every day and drink organic coffee Fuckin killing it
pragmaticweirdo@reddit
This app has a sense of humor
P-a-n-a-m-a-m-a@reddit
I had a friend from just outside of town who bussed into the city for school. Her mom was an alcoholic and her dad was either busy farming or drunk himself. As curious middle schoolers, we used this to our advantage and got ourselves into all kinds of things that were entirely inappropriate for our age (weed, sexual exploration etc - no drinking until high-school for me). My dad would be working and his wife was an idiot who thought we were out playing with farm animals when I was there.
Fortunately, I was raised well(ish) enough and although I did explore and experiment for another decade or so, I still went to college, graduated with honours and got a decent job.
I’m still alive, healthy, raising a family in a nice house that my husband and father of my children bought, in a beautiful neighbourhood, driving a luxury vehicle and working a job I love. I feel very fortunate in this chapter of life. I’ve worked hard for all I have and all I am. I continue to work hard.
My point is really that even us misguided youth can find and stay on a path to “success”. Albeit, I could live with half of what I have now. I prefer simple these days.
blove135@reddit
Went really hard and fast all through high school and didn't go to college but continued right on into my 20's. I got married and started having babies in my early 20s but by mid to late 20's I had enough. I could feel that lifestyle starting to really get a grip on me and take a toll on my mind and body. I had a wife and babies at home and I knew it wouldn't be good if I continued on. 1 DUI and several addictions later I felt I had experienced all that life had to offer at that point and the future wasn't bright. I put the brakes on hard by my late 20s and thank God I did. Every once in a great while my wife and I go out and have a few more drinks than we should but that's becoming more and more rare. I just can't handle the hangovers anymore.
DankRoughly@reddit
I didn't start partying until highschool. Throughout highschool and especially university I was pretty wild and had a ton of fairly extreme experiences.
The bright side was by the time I was ~23 I felt I got a lot of my partying out of the way and was ready to be serious.
3 kids and a grandchild later, all is good. Normal job, normal-ish life.
alphabetikalmarmoset@reddit
spit take
Sex parties!? Where did you grow up?
Vaguely_vacant@reddit
Geesh. I got head a few times in 8th grade but never heard of any sex parties. Damn.
anythingspossible45@reddit
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Wyldawen@reddit
Been there done that and feel good about it. I sowed my wild oats. There were a lot of bumps along the way, but I feel like I did a lot of real living instead of playing it safe, then having midlife crisis later where I freak out that I need to suddenly "start living free." My parents and siblings partied when they were young too. It's all good and yeah I got a lot of stories. Settled down now.
TMore108@reddit
The midlife crisis is fucking real. I also have a fuck ton of trauma during that time that I'm finally starting to realize how its affected me. But yeah I have a fuck ton of regret
Wyldawen@reddit
Yup, I avoided the midlife crisis by doing all the crazy youth stuff when I was a minor and nothing goes on the permanent record. It's out of my system.
6inchVert@reddit
Heh ya know I made it through college somehow without qualifying for this question.
bananaHammockMonkey@reddit
I didn't really have friends so I asked my dad to buy beer and I'd have some fun. Doing okay!
The entire neighborhood I lived in from 16-18 had a blast and most them out earn me for sure. I'm doing okay and am a loser in comparison.
Folks, teach your kids to drink before they learn on their own.