How to deal with my noisy neighbour?
Posted by GretRatz@reddit | AskUK | View on Reddit | 177 comments
I have a neighbour who is a childminder, from 7am every morning there are people coming and going. Their house isn't directly next door or across from me, it's a couple of houses down and across the street.
My issue is, the childminder greets her clients so loudly each morning it wakes me up, she screeches Good Morning in a drawn out and high pitched voice so loudly. This isn't her normal voice and is put on for each child and parent when they arrive.
There are times she has conversations with the parents so loudly on the doorstep that I could easily join in. Some parents allow their children to run up the road to the childminder's house screaming ar the top of their lungs, as if their on the school playing field at lunch time.
She has run her business from her home since before we moved here. I don't ever remember it being noisy the first few years of us living here but the past 2 years has been horrific and I'm at the point where I want to stick my head out of the window some mornings and shout at them to shut up!
I have no issue with the normal sounds of people going about their day to day lives, I have no issues with the sounds that come from the garden when the children are playing during the day. It's just the hour each morning which turns into a circus.
I work late and don't tend to wake up until 7.30-8.30am and I have to have my window open when I sleep, which I feel I'm entitled to in my own home.
The childminder just seems oblivious to how noisy she is as she isn't just noisy when in work mode. There's times she's been in the street having a conversation on the phone at 6am and I can hear every word of the conversation, or she comes home late and is chatting away as if it's the middle of the day.
Am I being unreasonable having a friendly chat with her about the noise levels?
JackStrawWitchita@reddit
White/brown noise generators are extremely effective at training your mind to not pay attention to noises outside. They create an audio-landscape that not only minimises outside distractions, but creates an adjustable way for you to push loud outside noises out of your life.
BeatificBanana@reddit
I am so envious of people who can get to sleep with white/brown noise playing. My brain hyper focuses on it, it annoys me more than any outside noise could 😂 fortunately I was able to find earplugs that work for me. I know not everyone can sleep with earplugs in though. You'd be fucked if neither worked for you
JackStrawWitchita@reddit
It took me awhile for my brain to get used to the white noise effect. In fact, I had to try a few different noises and finally found a 'brown noise' that works great without annoyance. But it took nearly a week of forcing myself to adjust to it and experimenting with the volume and so on. But it paid off. I slept through an emergency helicopter landing nearby in the middle of the night!
I can't handle earplugs.
BeatificBanana@reddit
Likewise, it took me ages to find the right kind of earplugs that worked for me!
nonotthereta@reddit
It seems a bit daft to insist on having your window open. Can you not close it and use a fan instead? The white noise it produces will help too.
Usually noise restrictions are only till 7am.
BeatificBanana@reddit
Not OP but I absolutely can't sleep with a fan on. I don't know if it's something to do with being neurodivergent or just a weird "me" thing but fan noise drives me mental. If OP is like me that may be why they feel the need to have the window open if they're too warm.
noooneissafe@reddit
Yeah fans/noise keeps me up too.
dOEs tHAt mAKe mE NeUrOdIvErGeNt oMg IM sO wIErd AnD uNiQuE
BeatificBanana@reddit
Uh? I actually am neurodivergent, I wouldn't describe me as weird and definitely not unique, lots of people have what I have. And no, just not being able to sleep with a fan on doesn't make you neurodivergent. Having a diagnosis does, and it can sometimes be a reason why you experience certain symptoms, like over sensitivity to noise.
fre-ddo@reddit
Not sure there was a need for such snark
nonotthereta@reddit
I find the hum caused by pedestal fans maddening and hated sleeping with one on too, but have since switched to a quiet tower fan and it's excellent. No vibrations, just a lovely gentle whoooosh that gives my brain enough to override things like my neighbour's snoring.
No_Dot_7136@reddit
Who even sleeps with the window open at this time of year? It's almost winter FFS. Id hate to see their heating bill.
No_Whereas_5203@reddit
I sleep with mine open some nights due to damp. But I am fully aware that I get woken up in the morning when I do that also.
Opposite_Radio9388@reddit
It's still double figures in many parts of the UK. Maybe where you are is particularly cold at the moment?
No_Dot_7136@reddit
I live next door to the peak district in the midlands. It definitely feels wetter and windier than any other places I've lived.
BeatificBanana@reddit
You say double figures as if that means it's warm? I'm freezing if my house is below 18 degrees haha
nonotthereta@reddit
Upstairs at mine is still pretty warm and I'd happily sleep with the windows open were it not for noise. But even in midsummer it's not an option - the seagulls would have me up at 4am. The noisiest neighbours of all.
No_Dot_7136@reddit
It's at this point I realise the energy efficiency of my house must be almost zero as it's absolutely freezing upstairs already.
Infamous-Pomelo9674@reddit
Nothing you can do you sound unreasonable- she’s not even next door to you - give it a rest
fre-ddo@reddit
It makes it much worse that she's not next door.
Infamous-Pomelo9674@reddit
What did you think I meant ?
fre-ddo@reddit
I inserted an imaginary comma before 'you sound'
fre-ddo@reddit
She must sleep at some point so play her voice back to her on loud speakers outside her house lol
justhereforthecrac@reddit
Yell shut up from the window, unless they see you they won't know for sure it's you? I'd do that passively in the first instance and if it doesn't work you'll have to go tell her straight.
fre-ddo@reddit
Lmao I approve of this cowardice
CriticalCentimeter@reddit
You are 100% entitled to have your window open. She is 100% entitled to have her conversations.
Just get some earplugs or a snoozeband or something.
Milly_man@reddit
Simple solution here seems to be to shut the window. No need for it to be open at 7am if you're trying to sleep.
fre-ddo@reddit
I'm not sure why it doesn't get cool enough to shut it when it isn't summer. Keep the door open all day and the windows open up stairs. I like sleeping in a cool room, but with no heating on in the room and the window open most of the day keeps it to around 17-18 degrees throughout the night. I guess the bedroom could be above a hot spot in the house.
Chunk3yM0nkey@reddit
Crack a window on the opposite side of the house and get a fan.
Milly_man@reddit
I swear by sleeping with a fan. Beats earplugs for noise, helps when it's warm and I swear I get less condensation in the winter on the windows because of it.
watchingonsidelines@reddit
My childminder has explained to the children they can’t be loud when coming or going, parents can’t idol their car outside her house, things like that.
It’s common curtesy- however worth having a chat as childminders are heavily regulated so she needs to have happy neighbours
EuphoricFly1044@reddit
Your child minder has people worshiping and bowing down to their cars?
watchingonsidelines@reddit
Ha!
Makkel@reddit
Car culture in the UK is getting out of hands...
redbullcat@reddit
Well, she's telling them not to. So presumably they were doing that before and she had to tell them not to.
NekoFever@reddit
I wish the childminder next door to me would tell her clients not to idle their cars outside my bedroom window at 7 in the morning while they stand there having a chat.
BeanOnAJourney@reddit
I wish the primary school opposite me would tell all the parents the same. And to not stand in people's driveways and gateways and smoke. And before anybody asks, yes i've spoken to the parents and to the school. None of them will act upon my complaints.
feetflatontheground@reddit
Cars still idle?
Indigo-Waterfall@reddit
Have you tried speaking to her and letting her know?
velos85@reddit
Have a chat by all means...and buy some ear plugs.
LEVI_TROUTS@reddit
I'd back this.
I work nights and I've slept through my own kids being loud as hell for years.
I use them sometimes when I want to get to sleep on an afternoon, as the feeling of them and the isolation of most sound really makes me sleepy.
sc0ttydo0@reddit
Snap.
I finish at 7am and, unfortunately, there's no real reasonable expectation of quiet after this time. You could go and ask if she'd mind keeping the greetings to a more normal level, but I'd just invest in a fan.
BlitzballPlayer@reddit
As a night worker, ear plugs and a fan for white noise have solved my issues with noisy neighbours.
The ear plugs lessen all sounds and the white noise helps prevent me being woken by sudden very loud noises like shouting neighbours and barking dogs.
White noise on a speaker (e.g. through Spotify) can also work. There are also variations like brown noise (a bit softer than white noise, possibly less effective but more pleasant to some people) or rain sounds, etc.
Infamous-Pomelo9674@reddit
OP has no sense of reality
Billy_Daftcunt@reddit
Yeah, you're being unreasonable - what a ridiculous thing to say.
It's part of working lates, so suck it up, buttercup.
AstroBlush8715@reddit
No, they're not.
She is being unreasonable by being so loud in the morning and allowing parents to have their kids run up and down a residential street, screaming, while people are still in bed or getting up to face the day at work.
If you think that is reasonable behaviour then you are part of the problem.
There is zero respect anymore.
pullingteeths@reddit
Saying hello in the street outside of "quiet hours" isn't unreasonable. If you sleep in late you can expect to hear daytime noise
AstroBlush8715@reddit
Nobody is saying hello.
Talk about cherry picking information.
She's screeching hello, in an affected voice, at high volume, repeatedly, at half 7 in the morning. I don't care what the laws say, it's unreasonable, selfish neanderthal, mouth-breathing behaviour.
And if was happening next to you, it would annoy you too.
pullingteeths@reddit
I also sleep at usual times because of my work but I don't bitch about hearing noise and I especially don't leave my window open and then bitch lol. That is a normal time for people to be up and about and for noise to be heard. Politely let her know she talks very loudly and ask her to keep it down sure but it's not a noise complaint issue
AstroBlush8715@reddit
Again I think you're cherry picking information from the original post. It's not as if people are coming and going and being dropped off sensibly and quietly. I'd hate to be from where you are from if you think that 7:30 in the morning is normal for children to be screaming in the street. Absolutely ridiculous.
If I was running a childminder in a residential area I'd make sure I told my clients to drop their kids off quietly. Because I was raised to not be a complete arsehole.
pullingteeths@reddit
Quiet hours is before 7am. 7:30 is exactly the time you'd expect to hear noise in the street from children going to school/childcare and people going to work. Again yes it's reasonable to bring it up with her. But it isn't some offense being commited
AstroBlush8715@reddit
When you're having to quote laws to justify something rather than just follow common decency then you know the person's just being a twat.
It doesn't matter if quiet hours end at 07:00, if kids and cars are being dropped outside my house, being screamed at and then running around at 07:30 then I'm absolutely not having that. I'd kick right off. I'd say about half 8 I'd where it gets more socially reasonable, at least then it coincides with the schools so it's more expected.
pullingteeths@reddit
7:00 is the time it's defined as socially reasonable to make daytime noise lol. It's not a law but it's a guideline that helps determine if a noise complaint would be justified. Many children start school or childcare at 8 or earlier and many adults start work that early too
AstroBlush8715@reddit
I don't think you're understanding my point you keep quoting laws which I never questioned, it's more the attitude of people conducting themselves in the street, so I'll chalk it up to cultural differences and move on
pullingteeths@reddit
It's not a law it's a guideline that is based around the time most people are up and not sleeping
AstroBlush8715@reddit
I don't know where you're getting your information from. Most people are not up and about by half seven. My street is DEAD at that time, the majority of people only start venturing outside about eight or half eight, with some exceptions obviously.
pullingteeths@reddit
Most people start work at 9 at the latest and tons of children are taken to childcare or school breakfast clubs early to facilitate that. There's a reason why the designated "quiet hours" guideline ends at 7am, it's not just chosen randomly
BastardsCryinInnit@reddit
Your going to have to put ypur big girl pants on and go rojnd to have a polite friendly conversation.
It is still possible to talk to people in a nice way, despite what social media wants us to think.
Ragga_Muffinn@reddit
ppl these days are not considerate, if she was she wouldn’t do it in the first place , letting her know it annoys you is probably the worst thing you can do
PeachManzie@reddit
I mean, it’s the UK? We have legally required quiet hours. If she doesn’t quieten down, or worse like you say, gets even louder to spite OP.. then all OP has to do is gather some evidence and report her to their local council.
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
What are the legally required quiet hours?
hashbrowneggyolk0520@reddit
11pm to 7am
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
What law is that?
hashbrowneggyolk0520@reddit
It's covered under the Environmental Protection Act 1990, councils must look into noise complaints that could be a 'statutory nuisance'.
Maleficent_Public_11@reddit
And does that law say 11pm to 7am?
Oohnothatsnotafart@reddit
UK government
Maleficent_Public_11@reddit
So that link specifically says those aren’t statutory nuisances, so they aren’t defined in the legislation quoted. Which is what I asked…
Oohnothatsnotafart@reddit
Noise Act 1996 defines night hours as 11pm - 7am.
You can search the act yourself for the specifics….
Maleficent_Public_11@reddit
I’m glad it only took 3 tries to get the reference.
Oohnothatsnotafart@reddit
Bet you’re fun at parties
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
They are pissing in the wind.
Honestly, EPA 1990 must be one of the most misinterpreted acts around.
hashbrowneggyolk0520@reddit
Do you want me to just recite the entire gov.uk page???
Maleficent_Public_11@reddit
Well no, because the point is that the legislation doesn’t define 11pm - 7am.
hashbrowneggyolk0520@reddit
Gov.uk page for guidance on noise nuisance
Councils can investigate and issue warning notices in response to complaints about noise above permitted levels from 11pm to 7am.
PeachManzie@reddit
No offence but why don’t you look it up? Don’t take our word for it, do research
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
Do you have the section for the times?
I only ask, because I don't think such a thing is specified
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
That's answered a question I didn't ask.
Which law specifies times of noise?
hashbrowneggyolk0520@reddit
You asked what the law was, I told you the law it was covered under. You can maybe look for yourself on the government website instead of using reddit as a search engine if the responses you're being given aren't good enough for your liking.
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
To answer your response, no. Not passive aggressive. I was happy to learn, as I don't know everything.
I've learned much online about the various jobs I have had.
But, if there is no substance, then it is drivel.
hashbrowneggyolk0520@reddit
I was fully aware you were aiming for a gotcha moment.
Quite frankly, it's a little silly to attempt to make people look foolish for having a discussion about something. The information the majority of people go off for noise complaints is information presented to us from council's or government's official websites, so if you know differently, then maybe rather than trying to act like a smart arse then educate people. Or would that not make you feel as good about yourself?
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
Double down....you'll feel better.
It's not a gotcha. It's me educating myself.
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
I work on noise complaints in Environmental Health.
My point was to counter the drivel that gets posted.
PeachManzie@reddit
So say that. Anything before this comment was passive aggressive
Iasc123@reddit
No domestic violence after 11.30pm other than that, not much anybody can do in opposition to one living their life. OP, greet your neighbour, and tell them you work nights and don't appreciate the ruckus in the early AM.
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
Wtf?
Iasc123@reddit
I know, it's very specific about domestic abuse. But,if my TV is too loud, or I'm peacefully communicating on the phone a little too loud, the council will not step in for the life of you
Scarboroughwarning@reddit
Which law?
Freedom-For-Ever@reddit
I have never heard this. I know there are certain activities you can't perform at certain times in a built up area: e.g. - You cannot use a car horn in a built-up area between 11:30 pm and 7:00 am. Also some estates have covenants covering this. But I don't believe there are any laws that cover this across the UK.
I don't think any of these will prevent you answering your door...
I can't believe this will work, particularly if the neighbour says they are just answering the door.
PeachManzie@reddit
The issue isn’t answering the door, though. You can answer the door at a normal volume, or go the extra mile and be extra considerate, adjusting your volume for the early morning.
OP’s problem is that this woman would be considered loud at any time, but it is a problem because it’s happening every day early in the morning.
If you complain to your local council about excessive noise, especially through running a business from home, they will probably consider talking to the neighbour. Not sure if they’d take it as seriously as going down the antisocial behaviour route, I’m with you there. That would really require evidence that she’s shouting. And I also wouldn’t think they’d care about kids playing for a short time. Kids will be kids, and I’m sure that’s what the councils stance would be too. Not much to be done about that at all tbh, except maybe hope the neighbour does something about it if OP asks kindly
Ragga_Muffinn@reddit
Knowing is one thing but caring is another. That’s why letting her know and telling the council will only make things worse for the op especially when it will drag on for years and years . Talking from experience btw just ignore, it’s hard todo but a better option especially in the long run
PeachManzie@reddit
That’s false. I also have experience
Ragga_Muffinn@reddit
Not in my situation, going down the log every single noise you hear root is tragic
PeachManzie@reddit
Your situation is not the be all end all. Op should report it if their neighbour doesn’t comply with asking kindly first. Anything else you’re saying is nonsense
BastardsCryinInnit@reddit
Some people have a genuine ignorance too.
Dont apply a certainty to something we dont know.
It may well be the lady has no idea how her voice travels and will be mortified.
The only way to find out is to go around and be polite.
Freedom-For-Ever@reddit
Alternatively... Move...
Successful-Roof-7594@reddit
quite possibly the most stupid reply possible
Cautious_Fail_8640@reddit
Is she registered to have such kids in a residential property? Insurance, risk assessments?
himit@reddit
Has the seal on your window worn down?
Emergency_Mistake_44@reddit
A couple houses down AND across the street? Yeah I don't think you can do much other than reduce the noise for yourself. If you lived directly next door it would be easier to have a polite word.
To be fair to the neighbour, between 7-8am is a reasonable hour to be talking loudly to children you're running a business for. A lot of school breakfast clubs start within this time of the day after all. They don't owe anything to someone who lives down the road who, I assume, chooses to work lates.
Randomfinn@reddit
I think if you live in a commercial district there would be no cause for complaint, but a residential neighbourhood definitely needs people to be mindful of how they use shared spaces and extreme noise at unsocialable hours.
BeatificBanana@reddit
I feel like it's the other way round, surely? If she's being loud enough that she's stopping someone from sleeping who doesn't even live right next door, but several houses down and across the street, surely that's being way too loud for common courtesy.
I know she's not doing anything illegal as 7am is fair game but I don't blame OP for feeling frustrated about it.
batteryforlife@reddit
Yh its the old ”its not illegal, but its not on” territory. If OP can hear her ”goooOOOD MORNIING VIETNAAAAM!” greeting from down the street, its too loud.
NJ63YSV@reddit
FLAMMENWERFER
GreenComfortable927@reddit
I think all you can do is speak to her. Say you're asleep at this time as you work lates and you're woken up every morning.
What she does next will decide on next steps.
If she is unreasonable and sticks two fingers up, then, if you're on a new buikd estate, check for restrictive covernants for businesses from home - often, it isn't allowed for this reason as the houses are so tightly packed.
If not, then speak to the council and start monitoring the noise.
She could easily ask parents yo approach quietly and not screech greetings. So. Hopefully just explaning the situation helps.
Chunk3yM0nkey@reddit
"Dear councilor, I can hear i can hear my neighbour outside after 7am. PS my window is wide open".
GreenComfortable927@reddit
Or my neighbour is running a business from her property, ehich requires clients to visit the property in a residential street. The property isn't a commerical property and is a residence for the business owner...
It isn't the same as a residential complaint, because, there is a business element.
I also suggested the best way is to speak to her first.
I only wanted to point out, that the business from home element, may guve the OP some extra leeway if she decides to take offence and imcrease the noise and or is unreasonable.
No_Dot_7136@reddit
You'd ruin someone's livelihood because they wake you up 30 mins before you'd like to wake up? Are you serious?
GreenComfortable927@reddit
It depends on how they responded. They could easily make a couple of changes to avoid said career being ruined...
No_Dot_7136@reddit
Either way you can't really control the kids running up the street screaming. UK quiet hours are between 11pm and 7am so I can't imagine any complaints to anyone are going to get very far as no rules / laws are being broken. We constantly have tradespeople on our street starting work on one house or another with power tools from 7am onwards. I just think it would be extremely petty to try to get someone in trouble when they aren't even breaking any rules, especially in today's climate where running a small business / getting a job is harder than ever. There's so many things OP could do to mitigate the noise issue themselves. It seems unreasonable to expect to live on a housing estate and not have to put up with noise during working hours.
GreenComfortable927@reddit
No, but she could show willing and ask her clients to approach quietly with their children as their neighbour works nights. I think many parents would understand.
The point is, she is operating as a business and if she has more thab six children with associated pick ups and drop off (increasing the traffic on the road), she may actually need planning permission for change of use of the property.
My neighbour had severe restrictions put on her opration of her at home dog grooming business because of the noise and parking situation of the pick ups and drop offs.
This wasn't me, by the way, as it didn't affect me.
pullingteeths@reddit
There is absolutely no law against saying hello to people at 7:30am lmao. There is no noise disturbance to report. Asking her to keep her voice down politely is the only recourse here
GreenComfortable927@reddit
All I am saying is they should talk to her and then see what the reponse is. I can see a couppe of easy to impliment things she could do to minimise early noise, if she wanted to be reasonable.
Although she might have noise laws on her side, she may well not be operating within the rules of where she lives. That is why I said to check convenants and make moves to monitor noise if she is unreasonable.
If I wanted to run a business from home, then I would want to minimise noise for my neighbours.
pullingteeths@reddit
I agree she should talk to her. But it's not a noise complaint issue
FirefighterSoft4517@reddit
in the course of the neighbours business activities ...
Chunk3yM0nkey@reddit
Statutory nuisances are generally from 11pm-7am.
You'll be expected to take reasonable steps of your own, but you sleep with your window wide open. Is the next complaint going to be that your neighbour's car wakes you up when they leave at 7am for work?
Terrible-Group-9602@reddit
Has she got a license to run a business from the property? Does she pay business rates? Maybe have a quiet word with the council hehe.
Vegetable_Price_5946@reddit
Ugh, that's rough! Maybe earplugs or some chill tunes could help drown out the morning circus. Good luck.
itfcdeano@reddit
If it's causing you this much distress I can't really see why you haven't addressed it before? Might be a good first step, but ultimately you need to accept that some people don't lie in until 7.30am everyday and have to work.
Midnightraven3@reddit
Surely if you run your business from home in a residential area there must be some give and take? Screeching unnecessarily from a doorstep at 7.30am must be one, no?
Try_at-your-own_Risk@reddit
They can only hear it because they have their window open
Midnightraven3@reddit
I still think OP is entitled to peace pre 7.30am from something that is totally inconsiderate and unnecessary. I also think they are allowed fresh air.
Just wondering...are you screechy neighbour by any chance?
Try_at-your-own_Risk@reddit
Op said it’s from 7:30 onwards and nope we are not constantly making noise. I live in a terraced house and I consider noise from people living their lives normal. If it’s a weekday 7:30 it’s a pretty normal time for people to start getting their children ready for the school run or out the door to go to work and school. If this was going on a weekend when most people are having a lay in I could understand. If you choose to keep your windows open I think it’s normal to hear the hustle and bustle of the morning rush. Are you the perhaps the grumpy neighbour who complains about everything?
Midnightraven3@reddit
I must be REALLY lucky. I have never had to complain about a neighbour once in the 20+ years of living here, nor had a neighbour complain about me.
There is one man across the way, I hear him getting into his van at 5.30ish every weekday morning and I think "oooh glad I dont need to be out and about at this time" and turn over for another hour or so. Perhaps we are just more considerate here
Try_at-your-own_Risk@reddit
My neighbours don’t make excessive noise nor did I imply they were inconsiderate I referred it as normal noise levels for the time of day. I also don’t pay attention to it I’m too busy getting on with my life too.
itfcdeano@reddit
I am assuming the bins are emptied before 7.30am? Kids start walking to school before then around my way too. Unfortunately it's life.
not1or2@reddit
If she is running a business from her property and doesn’t calm things when you’ve spoken to her and asked her reasonably to shut the f&ck up at 7am then you need to start looking at whether she has the correct insurances, permissions etc. Look at the CQC, Local Authority, Education Authority etc
Interesting-Hawk-744@reddit
While everyone is saying it's reasonable etc., i feel you OP and i actually can imagine wanting to strangle this person.
But I've found these loud morning types are totally oblivious to how annoying they are and you're not gonna have any joy talking to her. Get a noise machine and earplugs and occasionally fire some dog shite onto her doorstep for some satisfying revenge
Commercial_Air1480@reddit
7:30am to 8am is a not an unreasonable hour...
Your best bet to to have a chat with the childminder, and if she does not change, not a huge amount you could do.
Maybe stick a sign outside your house, saying "warning aggervise dog" or somthing similar, which might make the parents not want to stand directly outside of your door, but the postman might also not want to deliver you mail.
Interesting-Hawk-744@reddit
The sign thing is incredibly odd and daft advice
Connect_Remote2890h@reddit
our lovely loud talking neighbour had gone on holiday a while ago - you heard her voice practically 24/7 - one week our street just experienced normal levels of street noise. there was no banshies having a street meet everyday for this one week. a few weeks go by, and one day i had no escape from crossing paths with our lovely neighbour this particular morning. she actually said she had gone on holiday and i said i know. she asked who had told me. i said they didnt, i only guessed as the street was quiet!! she wasnt happy and didnt speak to me again thankfully and yes, she is still loud!!! 😂😂
Electrical-Stage-297@reddit
Right? It's like some people think they’re auditioning for a reality show. A little volume control would go a long way.
lickmybrains@reddit
Report it as a statutory nuisance to your local councils noise abatement team
Big_Style_6660@reddit
I used to think these kinds of problems only happened in India, but I was wrong. Yesterday was the worst day of my life I’m dealing with two noisy and abusive neighbors. I tried talking to them in every possible way, and even my family got involved, but instead of resolving things, they ended up verbally abusing me. Now, I’ve decided to stay silent.
FirefighterSoft4517@reddit
speak to the neighbour. write after to record the discussion. record evidence, a journal of times arriving, descriptions. write again if no change with the morning disturbance. then its to the council you go, with your now already gathered evidence or they'll do jack shit about it
pullingteeths@reddit
Somebody saying hello at 7:30am isn't a reportable noise disturbance in any way shape or form. She should shut her window and invest in earplugs
FirefighterSoft4517@reddit
if its at 2PM in the way described its a disturbance.
pullingteeths@reddit
Talking loudly isn't a noise disturbance lmao. Nobody is entitled to silence sitting in their house with windows open in the daytime. People are allowed to make noise
FirefighterSoft4517@reddit
cool, i'll fuck off now then. done with this shite anyway.
No_Dot_7136@reddit
That's the middle of the day ...
FirefighterSoft4517@reddit
Well done. Have a sausage.
TheBikerMidwife@reddit
Way to wreck someone’s business when a discussion would help. This is the Reddit equivalent of “get a divorce!”. She’s a couple of houses down and across the street. If it was an issue for anyone else she’d already be in it. This sounds like an OP problem.
namtaruu@reddit
And if OP involved the council, we'll welcome OP back in a few years, when they try to sell their house, with the question "I spooked off a buyer because my solicitor told me I have to include I had a dispute with a neighbour!"
GuybrushFunkwood@reddit
Simply have your own child and when it comes to ‘minding’ age use an alternative childminder. If she brings it up it’ll be a perfect opportunity for you to say your child is noise sensitive and her loud demeanour would be off putting thus subtly pointing out her audio based indiscretions.
Famous-Touch-273@reddit
Or just talk to her rather than having a whole fuckin kid just to navigate a conversation that likely won't happen?
kezikarma@reddit
“Simply” 😂
samfitnessthrowaway@reddit
Noisy neighbours hate this one simple trick!
Hot-Crazy6894@reddit
😂😂😂😂😂
Hot-Crazy6894@reddit
Just have a whole ass baby so u can dig at the volume of your neighbour 😂
Imagine if said baby actually loved the childminder though, it could go both ways 😂😂😂😂
Justboy__@reddit
Damn I was going to say befriend her then entice her onto Reddit by showing her funny videos and hope she stumbles upon this thread but your idea is better.
Shifty377@reddit
You're entitled to have your window open but you're not entitled to everyone else accommodating that. Shut the window if it's that much of a problem.
Reasonable-Horse1552@reddit
I feel for her actual next door neighbours then.
But can't you just shut the window for an hour while she's noisy? Like passive aggressively shut it really loudly while she's being loud so she notices and maybe takes the hint
hauntedathiest@reddit
Imagine having building works going on for the last 6 years and summer parties that don't end until 4am.
It is slowly driving me insane.They built a massive type shed in the back garden and told me it was so she could work from home. No it's for their parties with Karaoke and loud music and people running round the garden pissed as farts. I swear it's a good job we don't have guns in this country I can understand why people suddenly snap.
stairway2000@reddit
Sorry to break it to you, but you're the problem here. She's just living her life, doing her job. You should do the same and be an adult about it. She's not doing anything wrong at all. Leave her be.
Educational_Skirt_81@reddit
Let’s just pick up on one thing here. You are entitled to have your window open overnight, but you need to accept any consequences that come with that. However loud she is, it’ll definitely be louder to you with a window open. So if you want to keep doing that maybe get some ear plugs to help out a bit.
minisrugbycoach@reddit
But she's entitled god damn it !!!!!!!
Mdl8922@reddit
What did she say when you spoke to her about it?
BeatificBanana@reddit
Given the purpose of this post is OP asking whether it would be appropriate to talk to her about this, obviously they have not yet?
Opposite_Radio9388@reddit
It's a passive aggressive way of saying that the OP should speak to the other party. It's very popular on Reddit and makes the person saying it come across as a dick.
TheLonelyWolfkin@reddit
If she has multiple kids and clients coming and going throughout the day then surely she would need planning permission to run a residential property as a business. May be worth speaking to your local councils planning department as this is one of the reasons you need permission, it's not a normal amount of noise for a single residential property.
Familiar-Woodpecker5@reddit
If you get on well with her and she is nice just have a friendly honest chat to her ❤️ if things don’t change buy some earplugs. There is nothing worse than falling out with your neighbours so just be mindful of that.
No_Dot_7136@reddit
7am is a pretty normal time for the world to start making noise. No one is going to tip toe around you just because you sleep in late. I hate noisy neighbours as much as anyone and I work through til the early hours of the morning too. I just find ways to not have it annoy me like a sleep mask with earphones built in. Expecting to sleep with the window open and not get waken up by noise until 8:30am is next level entitlement tbh.
Try_at-your-own_Risk@reddit
You are entitled to have your window open and your neighbour is entitled to get on with her life in the morning.
Independent-Bat-3552@reddit
No you aren't, we use to have a neighbour who lived opposite, I'm not a good sleeper at all but he use to park his car at 6am every morning in front of our house more often than not, not in front of his own & he'd rev the engine up for about 20 minutes once he'd parked. But I don't know why, it woke me every morning, then I could never drop back off. His wife was very ill with cancer so I just left it & he eventually did stop. But it was hard to bite my tongue
Snowey212@reddit
Next time she wakes you up stick your head out the window and shout that you never asked her to wake you up and you'd appreciate her moderating her volume in public and teaching the kids to do the same. Residential areas are for business with good reason, as business causes noise and disruption .
ForeignWeb8992@reddit
the true Brit way, when she shouts good morning you shout back from your window
Indigo-Waterfall@reddit
Have you tried having a polite conversation with her?
Gloomy_Custard_3914@reddit
Go and talk to her about it?
BG3restart@reddit
This sounds very normal to me if you live in an average street. I'm retired so go to bed very late, but then lie in. I get awoken around 5.30 every day as the noise of the street kicks off. People slamming doors, starting cars, yelling to each other. At one house there's a special needs child who is collected for school by a taxi company at 7.00am every day. The driver doesn't get out of the car, but sounds the horn three times, waits 30 seconds, then sounds the horn three more times. On Tuesday, the first of the bin lorries arrives in the street at 6.30 (we're the start of the round) with it's orange flashing lights invading the bedroom, it's constant beeping, the grinding of the machinery and the binmen who appear to be shouting to their colleagues as they discuss what they did last night. There are two young girls who walk their dogs every morning and I blush at their conversations as I can hear every word. I used to think I was super sensitive because I previously lived on a private drive that was always quiet. Unfortunately, I think it's just the way rows of houses are built that the sound seems to carry and if you were out of your house, on the street, you'd find that the sound levels are normal.
MeOldChina321@reddit
She will be oblivious to how loud she is probably because no-one has ever told her and she simply doesn`t realise.
Least-Entrepreneur23@reddit
Yeah, don't you just hate it when other people exist and try to get on with their lives
EmeraldRaccoon@reddit
What did they say when you talked to them about it?
WingiestOfMirrors@reddit
Wait outside then clap and squeal with joy at every over the top announcement. She'll stop in a week
J8MXY@reddit
Post her a polite letter stating the facts. If she has any respect for her neighbors she will keep it down in the future.
thickswimmer7@reddit
Fart really loud
Big_Engineering3842@reddit
The only option is to go entirely mad then they will start paying notice to your concerns. Good luck
HotelPuzzleheaded654@reddit
Not much you can do about it, you can try to talk to her but the chances are she isn’t doing it on purpose so will be unlikely she can sustainably lower her voice.
Ambitious_Zombie667@reddit
I don't know what you can do but I want to also say I have a neighbour who does this thing with their voice and it is so annoying.
Very loud public display of over exaggerated enthusiasm whenever talking to anyone in the street or even his own children.
I'm sorry and I feel your pain.
White noise? Podcasts?
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